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Hi, and welcome to the In the Cortex podcast.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Paloma Garcia.

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And I am Dani Pericone.

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And we're the founders of In the Cortex, an online community with programs that show people

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the tools that they need to change their lives through brain reorganization.

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No medication, just movement.

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When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start

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to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex.

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Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life.

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And now on to today's episode.

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Hello and welcome back to our season two.

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This is episode five.

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It is the last day of January, 2024.

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And we are bringing in the concepts of alignment that we've been talking about all month here

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at In the Cortex and our favorite, well, one of my favorite books ever, which is The Awakened

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Brain by Dr. Lisa Miller.

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And so we're going to merge the concepts of alignment and the awakened brain and bringing

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it together in today's podcast.

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So let's dive into it.

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Let's dive in.

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I mean, we talked about alignment already on social media and on our first episode of the

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season of the year.

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But a lot of alignment has to do with really getting to know yourself and your own values.

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And so as we talked about in the last one, or in the first one, I should say, of this

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year, it's hard to know yourself very well and hard to really understand your values

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if you're in survival mode.

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And I think that that's a lot of the ego that comes in and a lot of the just disconnection

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that comes in when we don't really know who we are.

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We're not really connected with our bodies and our brains.

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And we think we want things or we think we align with certain things that we later turn

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out not to align with.

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So many people, like including you and me, but so many people that do the program are

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like so many things have changed about who I am, what I like, what I prioritize.

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And it's like they're not they are changing, but they're changing back into what they were

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all always meant to be.

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They were always supposed to be, so to speak.

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And I think that's a really big piece of like understanding that it's also okay to be out

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of alignment.

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But knowing the tools to get you into it is going to be a huge deal.

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And so kind of I think we wanted to talk about that today and a lot about the way that it

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overlaps with this book and with the concept of having a community because you and I were

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talking the other day and we're like, one of the biggest shifts that we made at ITC

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was to really create a community and to put ourselves back into the program, do the program.

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You've heard us talk about it a million times on the podcast, but really like creating a

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sense of like this is a space for you.

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Bring your questions, bring yourself, you know, share everything that's going on with

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you.

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And I think that's really a good start for anybody.

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It's just find somebody who can listen to you.

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I love that.

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And to go back to your point about finding who you really are, it's because so many things

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that we do as humans is we're all just trying to get needs met.

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And in that process where we have behaviors that, like Paloma said, aren't the real version

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of us.

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And as you organize your brain, you realize that those behaviors were rooted in your brain

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just getting a need met.

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And it wasn't an effective and efficient way to get that need met.

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And so the big part here when you start to organize your brain is you gain awareness

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and it's just it becomes natural to start having that self reflection, self discovery

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and really sometimes that existential question of like, what is your purpose?

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And so in this process of becoming more aligned with who we are, like I know I've been doing

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a lot of sifting and sorting in my life, especially having two small kids and wanting them to

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be connected to community.

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And then as I dive more into the brain work and then trying to find the community and

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then we read this book and we're like, oh, here's all the science behind it.

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Because we know we always have the people who need the science, right?

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Paloma and I are very like Paloma is probably more science rooted than me.

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I'm more of like, I feel it.

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I want to keep going there.

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two different forms of having awareness.

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Like there's and that's why we love this book because she takes these big giant concepts

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of just like oneness and brings in the science and says, here's the studies that show this,

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this and this.

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And we all know it's not that easy to get studies done.

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So Dr. Lisa, I know you're listening to this.

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We love all the work you've done.

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We appreciate you.

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So yeah, talking about the two different forms of awareness and they have in the book here

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the two modes of awareness available to us at all times are achieving awareness and awakened

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And I'm going to read to you what achieving awareness is.

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You have that sense of what it is.

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It is the perception that our purpose is to organize and control our lives.

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When we live through achieving awareness, our foundational concern is how can I get

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This mode of awareness is useful and often necessary.

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It gives us the focus, attention and commitment necessary to attain goals and enables us to

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get some place on time, practice a skill.

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our goals.

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It's highly necessary and help in a helpful form of perception.

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And then she says, but if it's overused or exclusively used, achieving awareness overrides

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and changes the structure of our brains, carving pathways of depression, anxiety, stress and

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craving.

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When out of balance, achieving awareness is narrowly focused, unguided by the bigger picture,

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obsessed with the same track or idea, never satisfied, often lonely and isolated.

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done but it's frantic, it's isolated.

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I mean, it's, and I think what she, I like that she's like, it is necessary sometimes

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because it is, you have to do things.

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You have to be like in that activation mode and act in alignment with your values and

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who you are.

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But so many people, and I think I used to be that way, like I think a lot of us get

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stuck in that so easily nowadays in like, you know, the way that the world works, you're

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just focused on a lot of like material things and a lot of the things that are like, kind

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of like you were saying, you don't follow like, or you don't listen to like science

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or seek out the science as much as I do.

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I was very much like that person is like, this is the thing that you have to do and

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this is the way it has to be done.

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It's been proven to be this way.

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So just do it, you know, before I was able to like listen to, okay, maybe some stuff

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isn't proven yet.

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You know what I mean, it can still be real.

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And I think that it's kind of like the way that capitalism works in a way, right?

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Like lots of different social structures that we have.

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It's like, well, yeah, go for what's been proven, what you're supposed to do, what's

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expected of you, what's expected.

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Society's expectation.

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That's the truth.

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Because that's, you know, it's, it's, it removes like, I guess it kind of like removes questioning

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from things, you know, like you're just doing the things.

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And if you're not in contact with your like more awakened self, where you're listening

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to your intuition, listening to different things, understanding concepts in a different

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way, then you kind of do get stuck in that like achieve, achieve, achieve, achieve, right?

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when you're in that state of achieving awareness all the time, it doesn't help you face undesirable

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outcomes. Because if you're always in that achieving awareness, then you're frustrated

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or you're distressed when things don't turn out as you hoped or plan for.

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Like I really, really need this.

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And I was actually just talking to my 17 year old stepdaughter who like really wants something

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new.

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She hasn't even sold her quad yet.

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Oh my gosh, all of them are sold.

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Now there's no more left.

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And this is when people say they want to manifest, right?

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Then they cannot tap in.

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And I'm going to read what awakened awareness is next into that state of allowing and trusting

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you're being guided by something.

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it's an innate in us of being guided and trusting a higher something within us is a part of

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We talked about that in our last episode about the spirituality stuff and we know that maybe

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never not everyone's there, but there is now science for anyone who maybe doesn't have

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that sense in them that proves that our humans, we, and even all of like the animal kingdom

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and just all of nature in general, it all is rooted in what is the alpha brain state.

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to have empathy and compassion.

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So it's very like you're in that state of achieving awareness.

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Yes, it's great.

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But if you're only there, that looks like survival mode, that looks like dysregulation.

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life too much.

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And then nothing's ever working out for you.

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So Dr. Lisa just brings a different lens to it of like, it's actually because your brain

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is just operating here and now you're stuck there.

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How do you move yourself into an awakened awareness, which is like meditation or prayer

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or breathing.

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for us that is from the bottom up, you don't have to think your way through it.

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And there's nothing wrong with all the other modalities.

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We actually enjoy them on top of the brain work.

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We always say the brain work has to come first because it's the automatic primal part of

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the brain getting what it needs.

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So awakened awareness.

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In her book, she writes, we make use of different parts of our brain and we literally see more

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integrating information for multiple sources of perception.

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Instead of seeing ourselves as independent makers on our path, we perceive ourselves

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as seekers on our path.

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We look across a vast landscape and ask, what is life showing me now?

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This awakened awareness allows us to perceive more choices and opportunities available to

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us feel more connected with others, understand the relationships between events in our lives,

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be more open to creative leaps and insights and feel more in tune with our life's purpose

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and meaning.

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the blinders.

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We surrender our tight grip on a goal.

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We understand that life is a dynamic force and we can attune to and interact with.

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It's no longer me against the world or me treading upon the world, but me hearing what

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life has to say.

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Aware that life is meeting me where I am.

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I still experience disappointment and hurt, but I lean into the flow of life, paying attention

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to where doors open and close.

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That's cortex mode.

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That's cool.

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That's cortex mode.

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That's cortex mode, especially when you align it with the achievement, achieving awareness

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in the way, like when they're both enmeshed, you know what I mean?

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Because we do need both all the time.

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And you can't, I also believe you can't only be in awakened awareness all the time because

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then you're going to lose your grasp on reality.

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And at the end of the day, there is a fourth dimensional world that we're living in today.

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You can't live inside of that.

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things about certain spiritual practices.

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We've all seen it.

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We've all heard of cults, right?

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Like, I think that's where it is, is that they're losing the tether to the truth, which

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is we do have this four dimensional world that we're in, you know what I mean?

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No matter what you believe in outside of that.

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Like this is where we are.

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We have this human experience and we do have to acknowledge it, right?

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And I think it's just easy.

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It's easy to get stuck in one or the other and it's hard to find the balance.

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And the balance is where the alignment comes in, right?

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Because that's where you truly understand where does this awakened peace in my, my achieving

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peace, where do they overlap and how do I make them overlap more?

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Like the questing brain is integrating achieving and awakened awareness together in harmony,

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And we were just talking about this before the podcast is when you're in a community,

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you often like kind of like throw out ideas and I, you know, Hey, this came through me.

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What do you think of this?

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And then your community can help guide, right?

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And kind of help you align with here's how we see it, right?

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So it's great to feel like you're safe to ask those questions and safe to explore.

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The problem is, are you receptive to the response and what comes back?

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And then how do you just, it's constantly just discerning information, looking at all

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the cues of what a human is doing and presenting to you, filtering out that's their stuff.

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That's not mine.

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But then picking up, Ooh, they just said that to me.

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And that hit a core wound in me of like, Ooh, why did that hurt so much?

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So it's so many layers and nuanced, but this is why finding a community that can support

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this is huge.

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And that's why we feel like our, in the cortex community really sees it as, Hey, we're all

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just working on this quest of like aligning to our most authentic version of ourselves.

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And the process in the beginning is really hard for a lot of people because it does,

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like you said in the beginning, isolating in the sense because you're realizing a lot

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of the things you were doing in the past weren't actually who you were.

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You were just going through some emotions and the programming that was handed down to

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And so this also carries over into our big thing of when parents begin to go on this

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quest of going between the awakened and achieving awareness brain, we call it like, you know,

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being in your cortex and regulated is when you're able to finally start parenting from

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a different lens.

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And this next month coming up is all about parenting.

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We're really hitting the parenting ground hard because it's very near and dear to my

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heart because I am a parent and we're connected to an amazing neuroscientist who's bringing

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in the science behind the nurturing of parenting.

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And so this is where, Oh man, community needs to also support the views on how you see parenting,

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which is also a fun one.

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That's a whole nother layer.

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That's a whole nother layer.

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And I feel like that's something that can be pretty divisive.

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Like I see it in my community of like my friends and just people that have been friends for

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so many years and align on so many things.

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And then they're like, yeah, that one thing, you know, the parenting, whatever, let's say

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like spanking or something like that.

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And they're just on totally opposite sides of the fence.

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And that's where the judgment starts to come in a little bit of like, Oh, I don't want

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to hang out with that person.

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And that's where, that's where like, if you feel like any sort of resistance in your community,

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that's when you know, you might not be aligning with them anymore.

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Right.

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And it's not about every single thing, 100% being always on the same page.

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But if you feel like you don't want to talk to them about certain subjects, if you don't

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want to, you know, be yourself around them and you feel like you're not being 100% honest,

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that's when you know that you're not fully aligning.

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And it's also part of like the journey.

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Like this is something else we want to talk about today is like, you can have one community

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for your whole life, but you can have different ones throughout your whole life.

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That's the whole point of being a human.

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Like half of the people that are going to be meaningful in our lives, we haven't even

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met yet.

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How crazy is that?

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It's a really trippy to think about that.

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And on that note too of like, but here's another thing.

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So like being able to understand that not everything is going to perfectly align and

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having grace and compassion.

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So for example, just because you brought up the topic of spanking, which we didn't even

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have on our notes today to talk about, but it's funny because this has really been coming

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up very, very prevalent.

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Lately in my world today.

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I thought of it.

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I do not, my personal belief is to not spank because I look at it as corporal punishment

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and I always am like, well, what are you teaching your child when you spank them?

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And I actually got into this debate with my fiance.

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It's actually really funny because we actually have this conversation with his daughters

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who are now teenagers and they can actually reflect on it.

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And he'd always be like, I never spanked with emotion attached.

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And I said that to them.

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I was like, your dad thinks that he never spanked you with emotion attached.

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And they both looked at him and laughed and was like, yeah, right, bro.

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Like you are emotional when you're spanking because your child is not obeying you and

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doing what you want them to do.

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And it's frustrating to you because that's what's really happening.

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Right.

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And so then you have to use some sort of force that's bigger than that child to say, this

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is what I mean.

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Right.

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And so anytime I'm not going to lie to you, when my kids get into that space and I'm like

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getting to that, my Pond is activated.

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I'm like, you just triggered every single button inside of me because you will not clean

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up what I've asked you to clean up.

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I'm dysregulated at that point.

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I already know it.

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I'm already like, and they can feel like the like the shift in energy and they like look

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at me with the wide eyes, like, oh, we push mom too far.

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And there is a feeling in you that's like, okay, this energy is building up.

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What do I do with it?

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And then I just like, you know, hit or do something that's primal.

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Right.

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But what are we teaching our kids?

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And then we tell them, no, now you can't go hit your friends.

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They're like, but I don't understand.

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They did something I didn't want them to do.

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So I hit them.

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Yeah, I was.

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I was in the same.

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I was in the same mindset that you were in when you spanked me.

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I was frustrated with this person.

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Why am I not allowed to thank them or them?

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You know?

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Yeah, totally.

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So I mean, we could go on and on about that.

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And here's the thing, we actually had this discussion after we shot our last podcast

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where we said no shame, no judgment.

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And when we say that, that also is very shamy and judgmental to say that.

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But we really mean like, if it's truly within you that spanking resonates with you, there

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is a lot of science out there that proves otherwise.

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And if you're open to wanting to hear why hitting your children is not a good idea,

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we will provide you with all of that because it's rooted in brain science.

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It's like your brain shuts down.

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It goes into survival mode.

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It's an attack.

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It's a threat.

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I don't feel safe around my parents.

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They're dysregulated and now I can feel that.

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And that is literally another part in the book about entrainment is when you synchronize

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to your parent, you synchronize.

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That's like the whole quantum physics.

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It's a real science that has been discovered of explaining energies and how certain things work.

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And that's why we are big believers in co-regulation, but from a state of a calm, regulated parent

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helping their child regulate calmly.

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Actually just did a post today on Instagram.

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And I couldn't get to that.

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I wanted to be the spanking parent before I had a regulated nervous system.

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And then I shifted into a regulated parent and I was like, oh wait, I don't need to

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be, I had never actually made my kids, but I had the feeling, the urge.

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I'm not going to deny that.

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And then once I was regulated, I was like, oh, I just need to get down to their level,

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help them borrow my nervous system that's calm.

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And then they calm.

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And it just like, it's diffused immediately.

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Co-regulation, baby.

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It's amazing.

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And so that's a big part of, we went on that tangent because there's going to be parts

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of your community that you don't always align with.

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And there's messages I hear.

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There's people who take our course and we might say something like self-love.

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You have to love yourself first before you can love everybody else.

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But if you're, let's say a Christian, for example, you don't have that same belief.

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And what we're asking you to do is not just to throw the baby out with the bathwater and

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say, okay, forget it.

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I'm not going to listen to anything else you guys say.

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I'm going to use my discernment and say, hey, that could be just one way of seeing the world.

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It doesn't mean it has to be.

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And that's what we're saying too.

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If you spank your children, that's one way that you see parenting.

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There are other options.

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Are you open to hearing about different ideas?

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And so that's what my take on community is.

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There's definitely things that I go, ooh, I don't resonate with that.

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Ooh, that's not aligned with me, but I'm going to oversee the big picture and say, but I

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like the majority of other things.

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And then I can choose within me, how do I navigate my own children at home?

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I'm not going to just turn to spanking them because my community thinks that that's okay.

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You know what I mean?

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Exactly.

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And it's also, that's the point of being a human is you get to choose what you align

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with and what you don't.

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And you get to go with what resonates with you and what doesn't.

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But once again, if you're not in connection with yourself, if you're still in survival

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mode, it's hard to know.

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It's hard to know what truly aligns with you.

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Oh my gosh.

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And that is basically, when you look at the community as a greater whole, we say this

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a lot too, is a lot of people are really lost right now.

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They don't have a sense of oneness.

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And we can all agree that COVID divided so many people because it made-

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And isolated.

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And isolated.

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Did everything that community needs, it tore it apart.

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And we know that then all of a sudden people just blindly following certain things without

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asking questions and discerning, does this align with me?

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Do I actually like this?

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And there was a lot of division and there's still division on both sides of the political

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sphere of how you see issues.

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And I'm like, and I'm all in, and that's every argument.

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You always look at every argument.

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Every argument has really three sides, right?

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Your side, the other side, and what really happened.

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Exactly.

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Every human interaction is like trying to discern and filter, but what are up with your

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filters?

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Are you coming from an awakened space where you're really able to take everything in,

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come from a space of being connected to somebody because there's that altruistic, I'm a part

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of a community.

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I want the whole wellbeing to really grow and come to the next level.

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Or is this my ego coming through and my pain and my wounding?

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And I think I do that now on such a sub.

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I don't know if you do that, Paloma, where you're constantly in environments and I'm

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always like, okay, I can see why you both are arguing here.

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And I also can't pick a side because that's what we naturally want to do, but I don't

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do that anymore because I'm just like, I can see your points and I can see your points.

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Let's figure it out and communicate through it.

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But when your brain's in an achieved awareness state, you're like, but I'm right and I must

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win this argument.

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And then that's where people dig their heels and then they can't shift.

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So.

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Yeah, that's I've seen.

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I mean, everybody has seen that happen a thousand times.

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And yeah, I think that the pandemic definitely exaggerated that in a big sense.

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And it created a way that I don't know that there's more kind of moralistic views of different

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things.

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And so that made it, and that's happening all over the place.

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That's like canceling people and all that stuff, cancel culture, all that kind of stuff.

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It's just another way of finding something that you're going to fight against.

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Because at the same time, if you think about it, they are finding community, though, the

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people that are fighting in those things, they're finding their community as being on

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one side or the other.

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So that just to show that we're constantly looking for it in whatever way.

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I mean, it's the most natural thing in the world for us because we are animals and we

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are social animals.

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So it is the most natural thing.

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And so I think that even with all this division, even with all this isolation, people are still

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trying.

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We're all still out there trying to find somebody that aligns with us in some way.

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Isn't that the first thing you do when you find a group of people, somebody's wearing

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a t-shirt that you like and the band that you like or somebody mentions a book that

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you read that you really like or a TV show and you immediately they're like, oh, I love

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that blah, blah, blah.

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And so you start to try to align to create that bond, to create that community.

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It's the most natural thing.

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It's just let's try to do it on positive notes rather than, you know, fighting.

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Right.

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Because we were talking about communities in the world.

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We're like, well, there are some communities that are definitely rooted in immoral beliefs.

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And we are not to say that, like, we're right and they're wrong.

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But there are there is a filter of like harming other people is not what we're talking about.

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It's never going to be OK.

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Yeah.

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It's never OK to harm people.

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And I think this is kind of cool where I think this is where I always say actually, this

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was at cost.

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I started with my daughter and she was like hanging on the court cart and she was like

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swinging her hat around, like dancing her own world.

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And this amazing woman just like stopped and she's like, aren't kids just so great?

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They can just teach us how to like just be right with no no feelings of like, oh, am

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I am I doing something wrong?

477
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And they're just like three.

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And we do want an element of like, oh, you know, harnessing it in and not having too

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much freedom with kids, like maybe wreaking havoc on things and like destroying property.

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But the ultimate the sense of a kid just being completely free is like so just liberating

481
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and so fun to watch.

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And as humans, we have packed on so much hurt into our lives that we can't even live in

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that state anymore.

484
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And you see it with animals, too.

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They just don't really care about things.

486
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And I've always had the we have a big white dog and his name is Hank.

487
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And I'm always like, I just live like Hank.

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Like, yeah, my bark at a few people when they walk by.

489
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But ultimately, he just like has love in his heart and eyes.

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And he just wants to love and be connected to literally everything.

491
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He's the sweetest boy ever.

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So I think this is where we do have a lot to connect with kids and animals.

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And the thing about this is they're very much living in a state, a brainwave, the alpha

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brainwave.

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And this is where there is.

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And this is why this book is so fascinating, because there's so many studies in here about

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just how alpha is connected to the earth and how it's literally the wavelength, the the

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hertz.

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It's between eight to 12 hertz that comes up from the earth's crust and about a mile

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up.

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And that is what like all animals operate on.

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You know how animals have just like this way of like connecting.

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And you know, and so and kids, too, they are very good at like, you know, if a person walks

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in a room and they're like wavelengths or vibe, people call it is off like a kitten,

505
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an animal can immediately sense it.

506
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Right.

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And so it's because they're so connected to something that us adults, we lose that over

508
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time.

509
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So finding the way to get connected to your alpha state is important for being able to

510
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live in that state of, you know, aware, awakened awareness.

511
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And this book will give you all the science in there, all the studies that have been done

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about all these amazing, like healing things that can happen when you live in this state.

513
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And basically, we're built to comfort and love and help each other heal.

514
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And so finding a community that can help you get there is so important for your human experience.

515
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And that's basically what we're here to share is that there's hope at every second of your

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life.

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Remember, now Paloma is 90.

518
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I know.

519
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And that is a sign that like the brain can change at any age.

520
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Yes, it's harder as you get older.

521
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But there's hope for you.

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If you're listening right now, if you're like, I have been a parent that I didn't want to

523
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be or I'm a friend, I didn't want to be or I am in relationships.

524
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I don't know why I keep having.

525
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This is your sign.

526
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Yes, there is so much science that proves that you have the ability to find the truest

527
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version of you to find that awakened awareness.

528
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:15,840
And our ITC community supports that.

529
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And we allow all walks of life into our world.

530
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And we just hold that loving, compassionate space.

531
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And we hope you want to join it.

532
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Yes, join us.

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It's awesome.

534
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It's so fun to like we really do.

535
00:29:27,540 --> 00:29:29,440
We get silly, you know, that's what we do.

536
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:31,640
We're a couple of silly things right here.

537
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:37,860
And yeah, ultimately, it's all about helping, you know, each other find the way to align

538
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and be ourselves.

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Thank you for being here.

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Remember to subscribe and to like and to rate and to share it with anybody that you think

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might like this podcast.

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Hopefully lots of lots and lots of people.

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00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,360
But our make sure to follow us on social media.

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Our Facebook is in the cortex US.

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Our YouTube is in the cortex US.

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Our website is www.inthecortex.com.

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And our email is hello at in the cortex dot com.

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If you ever have any questions, you're wondering if this for you, let us know to send us a

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little email.

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We're here.

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Yes.

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E in a spaniel.

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Oh, and in the cortex underscore ESP and Espanol.

556
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And we are we have two important announcements today.

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One is that we are participating in the nurture revolution retreat, which is not a physical

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retreat.

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It's a virtual retreat.

560
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It's happening from February 12th through 17th, 13th through 17th.

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Sorry.

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And we participated with a really fun video called Neuro Reset for Parents.

563
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So it's kind of for any parents that are watching this is this whole summit is amazing.

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It's done by organized by Greer, Kershia Baum and one of her colleagues, Rocio.

565
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:02,040
And they are both neuroscientists and they are studying everything to do with nurturing

566
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,920
and parenting and why we should people should pay.

567
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:09,240
Not we because I'm not a parent yet, but we as a society should parent in a different

568
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way than we have for the past many, many, many years.

569
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:17,800
And they have all all the scientific proof behind why we shouldn't focus on nurturing

570
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rather than punishing our children.

571
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:23,680
And yeah, that's one thing.

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Please find the link that the link to sign up we can put in the show notes and at the

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link in bio.

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And then of course, as usual, if you've heard this before, you've probably used the promo

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code already.

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But if today's the day that you're like, OK, now I'm going to sign up the promo code community.

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Yeah, I need the community.

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I want it.

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I'm seeking it.

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Then Brainiac.

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You know why?

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Because we're all Brainiacs and you're going to get $10 off the first payment of your program.

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And then it'll be super fun.

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You'll be on the WhatsApp group and we'll hang out on our cortex chats and it's going

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to be amazing.

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So use it there 100%.

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Thank you for being here and we look forward to more connections.

588
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Exactly.