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Hi, and welcome to the In the Cortex podcast.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Paloma Garcia.

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And I am Dani Perrecone.

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And we're the founders of In the Cortex, an online community with programs that show people

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the tools that they need to change their lives through brain reorganization.

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No medication, just movement.

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When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start

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to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex.

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Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life.

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And now on to today's episode.

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Happy New Year.

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It's 2024 and we are starting off our podcast season two, which is super exciting.

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And we're starting to go with some themes that are happening throughout our In the Cortex

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business.

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We're going to bring it into our podcast, just a little hint of it to help our members

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and also to bring in more of you to keep listening and getting more of the information here we

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shared in the cortex.

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So today we're talking about a really cool topic about living in alignment.

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And we talk about this because it's literally the foundation of what we do for In the Cortex.

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Pretty much.

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Yeah.

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And we did a reconnect before we got on our podcast.

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And the funny part was, is I didn't have that in my subconscious.

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But Paloma did.

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I did.

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So I was like, I'm living in alignment.

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I'm in alignment.

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I am aligned.

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I was like on it for all of it.

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So you had it.

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What can I say?

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Sometimes you just got it.

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Yeah.

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So this is exciting.

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I'm happy that we're back.

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We were just saying that we haven't recorded a podcast in like more than two, like almost

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no like a month and something.

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It's good to be back.

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Good to be back.

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Good to be back.

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So yeah, let's talk about alignment.

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I feel like there's so much that we're going to talk about here.

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So it's really just going to be kind of a flowy conversation.

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But I wanted to think about when we were at the post that we made yesterday on social

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media that was about that, right?

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Because that's our theme for January's alignment.

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And the reason we chose this theme for January is because that's what everybody's looking

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for, right?

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When you're starting your resolutions, you want to start your year on the right foot,

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whatever that means, right?

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And so you really want to get yourself set in like, who am I?

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What do I want to do with my year, with my life?

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Like it always feels like this blank slate.

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And it can be really exciting.

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It can be very overwhelming, but it can also be really exciting, right?

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If you look at it and kind of like more of a positive mindset with a positive mindset,

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you really do have a blank slate.

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You could do whatever you want.

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I mean, you started out the year journaling and meditating and doing all these amazing

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things, right?

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Like that's so cool.

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And it's just cool also to look at past years too and be like, how did I start that year?

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Like last year at this time, I had the worst back pain I've ever had in my life.

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You remember I was in excruciating pain.

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I couldn't move.

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I was like crying from the pain every day.

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And now I'm like chilling like Magellan, recording a podcast with my business partner.

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So you know, life, it changes, it flows.

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And this is definitely a more aligned year for me, that's for sure.

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Yeah, me too.

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I feel like, and that's what I was telling you today before we got on and started recording

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was the alignment came in naturally for me and I didn't have to effort enforce it.

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And that's because of all the building I've been doing over the years.

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And so now it's like, okay, now's my time.

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And this is, if you're a person who's like, I'm kind of over all this resolution talk,

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it's kind of frustrating hearing all these people talk about this stuff.

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I'm not there yet.

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There is a part of like setting a resolution and starting some new habits in winter.

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It kind of goes against nature in a sense.

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Like usually spring is usually a really good time for rebirth and the awakening and all

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that stuff.

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So this is kind of like, don't put any pressure on yourself.

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We're just dropping seeds.

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We're just giving you info of like, how can you dig deeper?

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How can you find more meaning and purpose in life and really finding your authentic

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self?

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So that post yesterday was talking about finding harmony within ourselves and the world around

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And I think that's what it means to live in alignment and really be embracing that not

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everything is beautiful sunshine and rainbows, but you can find the harmony and the beauty

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within every moment.

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And not everything is for you.

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Sometimes you're going to, you know, kind of what you're saying with the resolutions,

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like some people will be like, oh, I want to start running and I want to start reading

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17 books a month.

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And I want to do like, there's certain things that you think are going to be aligned with

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And then you're like, why am I trying so hard to do this thing that I shouldn't be doing?

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Or like people will start to eat a certain way.

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Like, I don't know, keto, whatever you want, you know, whatever it is, if that's not something

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that's aligned with your body and your brain, it's going to be really, really hard to keep

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So it's also about discernment, right?

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Really truly understanding.

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Well, we'll talk about the boundaries as well, but understand just being able to discern

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what does align with you, what is in harmony with who you are and what isn't.

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And in your world, right?

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Like you have certain things that you do in your life that you're practically on a farm,

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you know, and that I can't do because I'm in the middle of a massive city and the opposite

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is true as well.

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Like, oh my gosh, a hundred percent.

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We had a coyote running through our front yard.

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You know, like, where are we?

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Exactly.

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And that's I love because Paloma and I couldn't be more opposite in everything that we do.

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And but we work so well together because we are opposites and we are able to find that

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harmony within our relationship.

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And it's a beautiful balance between us of like, she sees things that I don't.

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I see things that she doesn't.

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It's great.

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So I love that living authentically in a space that just brings you to feeling good.

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That's what our main message is always that in the cortex is the whole point of what we

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ask people do about organizing their brain, reorganizing their brain is to just feel better,

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to be able to approach life with less anxiety, no anxiety, with the feeling of I am who I

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am or I'm on my way to becoming more of who I want to be and embracing the process of

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it, taking off the layers that aren't you.

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And then the whole time you're just like, I'm feeling good.

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And I get up from my brain sessions and I'm like brain sessions, I mean, creeping, crawling,

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doing the reflex integration.

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I just feel so good.

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I feel like I now can be the parent I always wanted to be.

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I think that's the biggest piece is I don't have to effort and try.

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And there's so many amazing people on social media today that are giving so many great

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tips.

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And if you're living in your ponds, which is your survival brain, you can literally

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listen to those tips in the cortex.

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Be like, that's great.

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I'm going to totally apply that.

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The minute you are hit.

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And I'm speaking to parents right now.

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The minute you were fatigued and tired and your kids having a meltdown, you don't have

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access to that information.

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It's all out the window.

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And then you're now screaming at them.

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So our program, because I live this, this is literally my piece of living in alignment

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is doing the work on me, doing my brain work every single day so I can live an aligned

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life and I can find the harmony of living with my children.

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And remembering I'm the adult, I'm the modeler.

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I'm the person who's showing them how to be regulated.

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And I can't ask that of them if I can't do it to myself.

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And I think that is I think that's the theme of 2024.

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When I look at all my mom friends posting on social media and even that post you reposted

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on our stories of like how they just handled a calm moment with their child without getting

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dysregulated.

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I think there's so many more amazing parents that are trying to realize like, oh my gosh,

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all of my dysregulation was from my childhood and that's all my wounding and my kids are

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bringing it out in me.

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Oh, I agree.

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I think it's also like a generational thing where our parents, like we're millennials

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and our parents and everybody before them were just pushing down all their feelings

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and all the things and trying to adapt themselves to, you know what I'm going to say, society's

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expectations.

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It's true, right?

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I was watching something.

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I was watching Downton Abbey.

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And they show these like scenes of like the kids in the schools and they're all like super

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well behaved and they get in line and they do this.

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And I was like, there's no way all those kids were able to do that naturally.

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Like I was thinking back to like actually 1914.

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There's no way.

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Like they were just trying to having to try so, so hard and everybody was like hiding

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all of their stuff because they didn't want it to come out into the open.

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And now it's the opposite where we're all like, this is me, right?

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What's that song?

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This is real.

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This is me.

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This is where I'm supposed to be now.

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Demi Lovato, baby girl, Camp Rock.

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But like, I never heard that.

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You're like what?

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She's the younger millennial.

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I'm a young millennial, an elder millennial.

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parents right now.

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And so it's just changing the way that everybody approaches everything.

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Like you look at it in parenting, but I look at it with my friends.

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Like you know this, we have a WhatsApp group with all my friends.

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We're all trying to like manifest new things and become the best version of ourselves.

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And we're talking about this stuff.

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And that's the cool piece because it's now okay with society to like find who you are

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authentically and find your values and truly pursue that.

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And now the only thing that's getting in the way is your survival brain, right?

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But before it was everything.

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Like it was pressure from your parents, from society, from having to do this, having to

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do that, whatever.

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And now the cool piece is that one layer is gone, or it's going and it's pretty much gone

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in my life and yours.

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And for a lot of people, they're still peeling it off, right?

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So the next piece is just getting to the brain work.

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And the important part about getting to the brain work is when you get your brain out

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of survival mode is when you're truly able to understand your values, right?

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Because before you might think, like I'm trying to think of an example of when you and I were

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still like pre-brain work.

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You're probably come up with one faster than I will.

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But like things that you thought were priorities to you and things that you thought you were

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aligned with.

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And now you're like, why did I think that way?

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Like you evolve, like everything has a time and place and there's a season for every time

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in your life.

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And you have to just embrace every moment of like, this could be a rock bottom moment

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for a lot of people where they're like, I can't see my way out.

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When you talk about alignment, that is so not something that my vocabulary, I don't

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even know what that means.

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And I don't even know what the first step is.

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And our first step is always just get on the floor and creep because that is the that is

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literally creeping your way to a better life is everything just gets easier.

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And when people and this is an important thing to say, because as we always say, when you're

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in your cortex, you're in alignment, you are able to respond to the situation for what

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You're not distorting it.

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You're not turning things into like, people said this and then you're interpreting it

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as like, oh, that means that there's something wrong with me and being a victim and all this

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stuff.

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When you start to creep and develop your brain, you are in alignment because now someone can

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say something to you and you can just say, nope, that's not mine.

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That's yours.

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And I don't have to take offense to it anymore.

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Yes.

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And when people question that we just had a member say this on our last office hours,

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but now we call them cortex chats, by the way, it's a new 2024 term.

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She said, when you guys kept saying like, things are going to change, you're going to

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change.

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I didn't know what that meant because I've never changed.

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I've only known myself for so long.

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And then I sort of do my brain work and I finally realized by change, you meant get

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rid of the stuff that's not serving me.

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And it just goes away naturally, because all the things that aren't serving you like anxiety.

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It's a way that your brain's compensating.

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It's trying to make things happen to help you think you're getting an alignment.

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Right.

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And then you realize like, but wait, me fearing every moment or overthinking every moment

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isn't actually helping me.

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It's actually hurting me because then it's stopping me dead in my tracks.

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And then we go, yeah, that's not the real version of who you really authentically want

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to be.

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And you're not living in harmony.

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And that's also that can create I mean, if you're living in your survival brain, you're

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living in fear all the time.

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And so fear can create so many distortions also in the way that you look at the world,

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right.

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And look at yourself and like what you value and what you prioritize and what you care

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about.

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And so that's where I think a lot of it starts to shift.

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It's also like, why do I care about certain things?

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Right.

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Like why?

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When why?

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Where does it kind of come into my life?

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Right.

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And how am I able to kind of make those things go together?

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And also, I think a really important thing is like being able to understand that it's

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never going to be linear and you're never always going to be on the same track.

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And I think that's what's like the toxic culture is right now about resolutions and all the

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toxic positivity and stuff.

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If you're somebody like you were saying, who's entering this year with fear being like, life

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is so hard.

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How am I supposed to do this?

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Then you're already like, oh, something wrong with me, right.

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I'm not going to be able to do it.

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That's a sabotage.

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And that's another part of a program we really address is that there's the subconscious is

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insanely powerful.

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It's 95 percent in charge of just your day to day living.

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Like you're doing things you're not even aware of.

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And we've all experienced those moments where we say something and you stop yourself.

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You're like, where did that just come from?

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Yeah, that's not me.

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Yes.

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And I and I'm really like we were just talking about this too right before we got on was

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my money thing.

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My money and my lack mindset of like money has been my like my nemesis.

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I have to crack it.

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You know, like it's something that I've spent so much time of just like peeling back the

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layers.

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But at the same time, I'm not beating myself up anymore.

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I just go, oh, my gosh, it's so interesting.

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Like, yes.

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Oh, here's another layer to go dive deeper on.

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Like why we were just talking about how I love a good deal.

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Like I love bargains.

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I love to find a good deal.

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Bargains are good.

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And then Paloma's like, let's give out coupon codes like she's Oprah.

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Like you get a coupon code.

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You get a coupon code.

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Everyone gets it.

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I was like, we got to value ourselves.

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Right.

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And so I'm like, you know, there's a part that we just made that connection of like,

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why can I go get discounts?

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But then I don't want other people to get discounts on our program.

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And I'm like, OK, there's a cool there's some there to dive into.

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And that's the whole thing is it's not linear.

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I can't just do what we call a reconnect.

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I can't just do one reconnective.

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I am abundant and I live an abundant life and then I'm done.

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I grew up with programming from my mom and dad that money is hard to come by and you

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have to budget.

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And I think a lot of us did, by the way, because they had parents that were in the Great Depression

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that, you know, it's all that generational stuff we passed down.

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And so I'm just becoming more aware of like, I need to release and allow them money to

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flow, but I have to be able to give in order to receive.

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It's this whole balance.

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Right.

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Exactly.

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I know it's not linear and that's where and that's where holding space comes.

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Right.

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Like being able to open up that space for yourself or for somebody else.

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Right.

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When you know that they're also on this path and being able to just be like, OK, this is

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not the moment for this one specific change or this one specific area of my life.

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I've taught we were just talking about that on office hours, too, where I had like a list

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of reconnects that I had to do about my body image for three years.

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And I was like, it's not ready.

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And then I did them and now I'm starting to work through them.

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And I'm like, this wasn't that scary.

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But part of me just was not ready for it before.

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And I know I would not have been able to work on that in 2020 when I was just had just moved

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to Barcelona.

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Like it just would not have happened.

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You know, there was just too much going on in my life and it was just too near.

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And it was I knew it was going to be too painful in that moment.

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Right.

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To look at that stuff and look at what we just did, though, like this was a big catalyst

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for us.

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We overhauled our program.

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We made it so much more amazing.

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And we then were like, we got to commit to doing it.

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Right.

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Exactly.

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We committed to doing our own program.

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That's funny.

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Because I mean, we've done brain work for years and then we took a break.

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We didn't commit to the daily 20 minutes for like the full 12 modules.

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And as soon as I committed to it, I was like, oh, my gosh, I love the person I am becoming.

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I need this because I am a regulated parent.

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And now that I can actually just like see my daughter and go, I'm going to give you

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a hug, even though you're telling me all these yucky things that for years old, I'm still

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going to just be like, I can show you regulation.

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And I couldn't do it before.

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I couldn't because it was triggering my brain to go, oh, my gosh, this is forever.

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Anyways, the point is, is we did our brain work.

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We started organizing our brains.

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We started coming out of survival mode.

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And then your brain was like, OK, wait, now I can ready to do this now because exactly

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scary.

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Yeah.

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I don't think we've ever actually said that out loud of like that.

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There were so many of those moments for both of us by doing the daily brain work that got

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us to now look at our subconscious, start holding boundaries.

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Everyone talks about boundaries, boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.

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And we're like, and I had the realization maybe a month ago, I was like, but I didn't

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grow up with healthy boundaries.

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So I don't even know how to do that.

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Right.

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And so now I'm learning how to have boundaries.

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And the biggest part for me, what I realized of why boundaries were so hard was because

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I just wanted like certain people to like me and I just wanted more like a people.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Access to me all the time.

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And I'm like, oh, the more that I'm like there and being the martyr and like doing all these

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things and then I'm like building all this resentment underneath, like appreciating me

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once I had that projector.

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That's a big one being appreciated and recognized.

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Hundred percent.

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And then I was like, wait, I'm actually good if you don't like me.

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And then as soon as I voice that and held boundaries, then the people who are benefiting

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from me not having boundaries just slowly started fading away.

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Yeah, that's a thing.

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Isn't that they say that all the time.

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It's very clear.

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I've seen I mean, I don't think I have a boundary challenges in that sense.

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My boundaries are more with like myself, like behavior, because I got everything I wanted.

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I was very spoiled.

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And so not having absolutely everything I want to be perfectly comfortable in every

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single way for me is like not easy.

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And so that's more my boundary of like, hey, like sometimes you have to limits for your

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own well-being.

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But I think like I've seen it with so many friends where the second they start to set

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boundaries, people are just like, like angry at them.

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Yeah.

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They're like, I don't know what I'm doing.

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I'm like, don't don't stop what you're doing.

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Keep going.

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You're setting a boundary.

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Get rid of this toxic person who is benefiting from them.

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And nobody's inherently toxic, that toxic person that's benefiting from your lack of

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boundaries also has challenges with that and grew up with the opposite, probably.

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So they need somebody who doesn't have any boundaries so they can like latch on to that.

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You know, I mean, it's always very, you know, it's not nobody's inherently bad.

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It's just like that.

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But these are definitely personalities that find each other.

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That would be a cool, a cool podcast to do.

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Yeah.

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Different personality types.

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What do they say?

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They end up finding each other.

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Well, and that's too true about like just like dating and being in relationships.

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Like, you know, intimate relationships, I guess, or even friendships to any relationship,

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quite honestly, is there's like something and more so you see it like because I can

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experience this in my own intimate, like, you know, romantic relationships of like,

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OK, that person really emulated these characteristics of this person when I was growing up.

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And then when I'm in this relationship, I think I can like fix it or do something different

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to heal the wounds from my childhood.

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And you know, it's so funny because the more that you learn boundaries and how to then

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find out about that, having the awareness when you have the awareness around that and

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then you can start to say, OK, wait, how is this serving me?

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Is this serving me?

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Is this alignment?

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Yes.

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Is this harmony?

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Is this authentically who I want to be?

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And then you start to say like, no.

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And the coolest thing, because of my brain work, I'll say it a million times, because

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of my brain work, I now can just get triggered.

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And you're going to always always be triggered for the rest of your life because you're a

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human and you have emotions.

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But the difference in how you handle the trigger is everything.

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Right.

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So I just go, oh, I didn't like how that felt.

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And I can feel myself like I was just telling you, I literally just walked away from a situation

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I didn't expect anyone.

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And that was something I heard someone say recently on Instagram, when you set a boundary,

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it's about you taking charge of a situation, not expecting someone else to change and do

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it.

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Right.

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And so and that's where like true peace comes in.

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And that's where you find that true alignment, authenticity, because I can go take care of

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me.

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I can go change me and control what I'm feeling and doing.

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I can't have any bearing on this person.

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But if they want a relationship with me, I'm going to share my feelings and tell them where

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I'm coming from and then leave it like unattached.

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You do what you want with that.

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Right.

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Like if you want to help support me and nurture and guide me, then this is going to keep going.

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If that is like I just hit a wound in you and now we're both sitting here wounded and

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we don't know how to move forward and we can't get through it, then that's also a moment

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where you just go, OK, well, do we want to work through this?

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Is that what I was going to say?

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Yes, exactly.

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Do you is it worth it?

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And also, like, is it the right time?

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You've got to go back to the right time, because sometimes we were talking about how people

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will say, I don't have time for this.

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I don't have time for that.

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And it's like, actually, we do have time for pretty much everything.

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Like if you look at time and like, first of all, time is an illusion, but we're not.

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But if you look at the hours that you have in the day and how you've spent them every

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single day, you can look back and be like, I could have done this one thing that I've

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been avoiding.

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Right.

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But you've got something not being important to you right now.

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So if you get to that point where you have that trigger and you have that situation with

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somebody and you're not going to work on it, then it's just not important to you right

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now.

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That's fine.

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Leave it for when it is or go your separate ways.

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Right.

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Or whatever it might be, whatever boundary you need to set with that person.

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I love that.

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And there's another line we recently just heard.

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There's two of them.

485
00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:39,660
So it's like bend so you don't break.

486
00:22:39,660 --> 00:22:46,720
And I love that you can prioritize and make it so like I'm going to make this a priority

487
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:52,260
in my life and I'm going to put the time in here and have the uncomfortable conversation

488
00:22:52,260 --> 00:22:54,720
to save us down the road.

489
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:55,720
Right.

490
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:59,840
Because if you don't have those uncomfortable conversations and prioritize that and bend

491
00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:01,400
a little bit like, oh, this is uncomfortable.

492
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,520
Sorry, I got to lean in right now.

493
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:06,320
If you don't do that, then you end up breaking.

494
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:11,000
You hold it all in and then break down or maybe break through.

495
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:12,000
I don't know.

496
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:13,360
It depends on how things turn out for you.

497
00:23:13,360 --> 00:23:21,000
But there's so much of life that if you can't bend and you can't be flexible and see that

498
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:24,920
in the moment, then getting into alignment is really hard.

499
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:25,920
Right.

500
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:29,120
Because no ability comes with an organized brain.

501
00:23:29,120 --> 00:23:30,120
100 percent.

502
00:23:30,120 --> 00:23:33,040
You have cognitive flexibility when you're in survival mode.

503
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:34,920
No, everything has to be black and white.

504
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:39,400
Everything you're controlling things, you think everything has to be a certain way.

505
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:43,720
And this is also going to like smaller things like, oh, my New Year's resolution is to work

506
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:44,720
out more.

507
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:48,920
And you get to January 3rd and you're like, oh, no, I didn't go to the gym yesterday.

508
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:51,160
I don't think I'm going to have time today.

509
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,640
Bend be like, OK, I'm not going these two days, but I will go tomorrow.

510
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:55,640
There you go.

511
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:59,760
You know, like Ben, keep going yourself to exactly because that's also that all or nothing

512
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,120
thinking is so common.

513
00:24:02,120 --> 00:24:06,320
That's why the fitness industry makes millions of dollars in the beginning of the year.

514
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:10,880
And then it dips in like February because everybody's like the break.

515
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:11,880
Right.

516
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:12,880
They're like, nope, I couldn't do it.

517
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:13,880
I couldn't be 100 percent perfect.

518
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:16,040
I'd going to the gym every single day for three hours.

519
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:17,640
So I'm just going to quit sabotage.

520
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:19,800
Yeah, it's the self sabotage itself.

521
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:23,120
It's also the self-sabotage coming from our primitive brain.

522
00:24:23,120 --> 00:24:27,120
It's coming from our want to survive, our need to survive.

523
00:24:27,120 --> 00:24:31,840
OK, so right now in our book club, we're reading this book called The Awakened Brain by Dr.

524
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,640
Lisa Miller, and I'm hashtag obsessed.

525
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:39,880
And I mean, I've only I've read it before, but I'm reading it again.

526
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:40,880
And it's amazing.

527
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,520
Obviously, any time you read anything and you're like, wow, look at all these new things

528
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:44,840
to clean.

529
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,840
And there was a guy I even highlighted his name.

530
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:52,280
I will drop it into the show notes and make sure that we bring that to you.

531
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:58,480
But he was like the first psychologist who was like the doctor of like positive thinking.

532
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:00,520
And where does that come from?

533
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:06,800
And being able to have that, like you just said, that ability to see the positive in

534
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:11,240
situations is something that is a learned response.

535
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:14,000
And you normally learn it from growing up in childhood.

536
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:18,120
Like did you grow up with people who are constantly seeing the negative?

537
00:25:18,120 --> 00:25:23,040
And we already know we've said this many, many times is when your brain's in survival,

538
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,840
it is supposed to find what's wrong.

539
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:27,600
That is a survival mechanism.

540
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:31,800
So if you walk into a restaurant and it's really busy, see, I knew it was going to be

541
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:37,360
so busy, like it's always so busy versus a positive brain who goes, oh, hey, I'm going

542
00:25:37,360 --> 00:25:38,440
to be patient.

543
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,880
And I know that the right table will show up when it's meant to be.

544
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:42,400
And it's busy because it's delicious.

545
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:43,400
I'm so excited to eat.

546
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:44,400
Whatever.

547
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:45,400
Yeah, exactly.

548
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:49,200
So the positive brain can see it in a completely, completely different light.

549
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:54,560
And so there's so much of our programming that we actually have to override and work

550
00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:55,560
towards.

551
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:56,560
Absolutely.

552
00:25:56,560 --> 00:26:00,080
And this is why we have our programs set up the way it is, is you cannot come out of you

553
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,760
can't go into that positive mindset because then you get into toxic positivity where you

554
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:08,720
pretend like everything's really good and you're like, I'm great.

555
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,800
How are you?

556
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:14,560
And you're like, I know that not everything is fine, you know?

557
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:16,020
And this isn't to shame anybody.

558
00:26:16,020 --> 00:26:21,360
This is just to highlight that, like, we can't override it.

559
00:26:21,360 --> 00:26:26,160
Like it has to be something that we do from the root and that and get to the where the

560
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:27,160
yeah.

561
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:28,160
And that's where holding space comes in.

562
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:32,120
If you know somebody who is in that mode and they can't get out of it, they're in that

563
00:26:32,120 --> 00:26:33,440
toxic positivity.

564
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:37,220
They're refusing to acknowledge that stuff is not OK.

565
00:26:37,220 --> 00:26:40,560
Like you just said, instead of judging them, just be like, dude, I'm going to hold space

566
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:41,880
for when they're ready.

567
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:45,340
I'm going to be able to I'm going to I'm going to help them work through this or I'm going

568
00:26:45,340 --> 00:26:48,640
to be there to support them, whatever your relationship is with that person.

569
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:49,640
Right.

570
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,760
Instead of being like, oh, this, you know, annoyed by this person who won't open their

571
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:57,800
eyes and look at, you know, things in a way that's going to help them grow being like,

572
00:26:57,800 --> 00:26:59,640
OK, well, they're just not ready for it right now.

573
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:03,000
But I'm going to hold that space for them and not judge them.

574
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:04,000
Exactly.

575
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:05,000
And their brains.

576
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:06,000
Yeah.

577
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:10,320
And holding space is really just this place of being able to kind of like send people

578
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:11,880
love and this way.

579
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:12,880
I'm not going to lie.

580
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:16,800
It took me a while to get to this because I think when I learned about brain reorganization

581
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:20,240
over 14 years ago, I was like, everyone just needs to creep and crawl and there'll be no

582
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:21,240
problems left in the world.

583
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:22,240
Like we would be fine.

584
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:23,240
We would have no egos.

585
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,240
Like running the show would be great.

586
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,960
And then I was like, OK, the harder I screamed it at people, the more that they like ran

587
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:29,960
away from it.

588
00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:31,960
They're like, let's try a new approach, Jenny.

589
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:32,960
OK, cool.

590
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:36,960
I'll just like do a podcast and people can just like turn it off, right?

591
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:43,120
If you're not into it, please leave us positive reviews if you do enjoy it.

592
00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:49,040
But so once you once you realize like I'm somewhere that I'm super authentically good

593
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:53,080
and I'm happy, you can be the light of that.

594
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:58,960
And you want people to come and join you versus telling them to and begging them to just see

595
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:05,600
you authentically, you send them love, whether it be pray, meditate energetically, like think

596
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:12,080
that loving thought for them and then just just surrender to there is going to be a light

597
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:13,080
at the end of this tunnel.

598
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:17,800
And it's your journey of getting to discover that light.

599
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:22,000
And I'm going to be here to hold that regulated space for you.

600
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:26,160
And sometimes, for example, for my four year old holding space literally is me picking

601
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,440
up and holding her and hugging.

602
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:33,440
And she then like needs to like kind of give me like a little sniff and is like, OK, I

603
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:34,440
got you.

604
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,920
That's like her way of like regulating and like me regulating immediately.

605
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,840
I will tell you, it's a little harder to hold space for adults because you're like you're

606
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:42,840
an adult.

607
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:44,840
Like, why are you just it's harder?

608
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,560
Yes, but you still need to do it.

609
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:47,920
But you still have to do it.

610
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:53,080
I want to think of an example of how you're able to kind of hold that space with adults,

611
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:56,360
because of course, that's more my life.

612
00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:00,920
I'm thinking of recently I had a thing with like a friend where we had a group chat and

613
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,400
we were all like trying to figure out what to do one day.

614
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:07,640
And one of them had like a very strong opinion what we wanted to do, what she wanted to do.

615
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,360
And none of us wanted to.

616
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:13,360
And so I was the one that spoke up and was like, hey, listen, I'm not into this.

617
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,320
I'm pretty sure everybody else is also not into this.

618
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,440
But let's do something different.

619
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:22,400
And she like, you know, separately got mad at me because I was the one that spoke up.

620
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:23,400
Right.

621
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:25,680
And I was like, I'm sorry.

622
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,120
I'm here for you.

623
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:28,280
I want to see you that day.

624
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:29,280
It's going to be so much fun.

625
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:31,680
But this is just not a thing that I'm going to do.

626
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:35,120
I'm not participating in it because I held my boundary very strongly.

627
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:39,200
And I mean, she was annoyed for like 20 minutes and then because I knew it was going to work

628
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:40,200
out.

629
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:41,200
It always works out.

630
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:42,840
And so 20 minutes later, we had a different plan.

631
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:43,840
We were all happy.

632
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:46,520
And then we were like, hey, you know, that was I'm not mad anymore.

633
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:47,520
Like, sorry.

634
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:48,520
And I was like, it's fine.

635
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:49,520
It's not a big deal.

636
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:52,600
But it's also kind of like because I was not emotional about it.

637
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:54,200
We were able to kind of keep that.

638
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:55,200
Yeah.

639
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,720
And I think being able to stay calm in those places.

640
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:00,600
So OK, that's perfect.

641
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:01,600
Exactly that.

642
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:02,600
So there's conflict.

643
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,480
Conflict is inevitable.

644
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,320
Every relationship is going to have conflict.

645
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:07,320
Right.

646
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:08,800
That's that's how we figure out who each other are.

647
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:11,760
That's how we get deeper into relationships.

648
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:13,920
And every relationship is the risk.

649
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:15,680
Like we never know how things are going to go.

650
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:16,680
Right.

651
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:20,000
And so every time you engage in something, you're like, oh, well, there's fear behind

652
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:21,000
it.

653
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:22,000
Right.

654
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,880
And so there's always that emotion of like, I don't know how things are going to land.

655
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:31,760
And so if you can enter anything with a calm demeanor and a knowing of it's going to be

656
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,440
OK, like, you know, it's going to be OK.

657
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:35,440
It always is.

658
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:36,440
Right.

659
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,840
Do you need to go through the whole cycle of all the drama every time?

660
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:40,840
Hopefully not.

661
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:42,520
It's very exhausting.

662
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:48,080
But sometimes relationships need like that little shake up of like, whoa, you just really

663
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:51,840
hit a core wound to me and that wound then hit your core wound.

664
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:53,760
And now we're both sitting here wounded.

665
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:59,040
But it's not it's the same experience, but we're in a different perception of it.

666
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:00,040
Right.

667
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:01,040
Exactly.

668
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:02,600
And so like I can voice to you why I'm feeling this.

669
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:06,600
And I have accountability for like, OK, now here's I'm going to go handle so I don't keep

670
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:10,280
showing up and feeling like my security is being rattled.

671
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:15,920
And I can tell that your validation is the reason that my security is being rattled.

672
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,960
And then it's like, OK, now how do we work through this?

673
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:22,440
And this is a skill that is not easy.

674
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,480
It's not learned in school.

675
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:25,480
It's not taught in school.

676
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:26,480
I should say.

677
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:27,480
Yeah.

678
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,880
It's not something that my parents ever did.

679
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:33,800
It was more so one parent got upset, the other parent shut down.

680
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:34,800
Yeah.

681
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:35,800
Right.

682
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:37,560
And then it eventually just like emotions finally calmed down.

683
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,640
But we never talked about it and got to the root of it.

684
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:41,640
Yes.

685
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:43,160
And we just and then it would keep circling.

686
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:44,160
Right.

687
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:49,480
And so I think that's my new boundary on relationships is like, I'm so down to get triggered with

688
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:50,480
you.

689
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:54,840
But can you work all the way through it and like resolve it so we don't keep having the

690
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:58,360
same trigger over and over again?

691
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:03,560
Most marriages and relationships always end because, oh, he was this and she was this

692
00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:04,560
the same thing.

693
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:05,560
Right.

694
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:06,560
Yeah.

695
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,560
Right.

696
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:11,760
So that's why we think that this work is just so important to help you get into alignment

697
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:18,400
and to really focus on how do you find the most authentic version of yourself?

698
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:20,360
And that's doing the brain work.

699
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:22,320
Doing the brain work, baby girl.

700
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:24,320
There's so many other things you can you can do.

701
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:25,400
And if you want to do them, do them.

702
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,700
But start with the brain always.

703
00:32:27,700 --> 00:32:31,440
And we will always shout that from the rooftops.

704
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,480
But yeah, that was our episode for today.

705
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:35,040
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