1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,300 Hi, and welcome to the In the Cortex podcast. 2 00:00:09,300 --> 00:00:10,300 We are your hosts. 3 00:00:10,300 --> 00:00:11,640 I'm Paloma Garcia. 4 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:13,680 And I am Dani Perrecone. 5 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:17,600 And we're the founders of In the Cortex, an online community with programs that show people 6 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:21,520 the tools that they need to change their lives through brain reorganization. 7 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:23,920 No medication, just movement. 8 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:28,120 When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start 9 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:32,160 to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex. 10 00:00:32,160 --> 00:00:36,560 Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life. 11 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,320 And now, on to today's episode. 12 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:41,240 All right. 13 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:46,480 Hello and welcome to a special edition podcast because, look, we're in the same room. 14 00:00:46,480 --> 00:00:48,720 And this is super exciting because it's the end of the year. 15 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,240 We're wrapping it up with a three-part series of our podcast. 16 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,840 It's all about the holidays, getting prepared for the holidays. 17 00:00:55,840 --> 00:01:00,960 What do we have to do from a brain perspective to be in that space, to take on all the things 18 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:01,960 that come from holidays? 19 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:05,960 It's going to be a really amazing time for a lot of people and then also really triggering 20 00:01:05,960 --> 00:01:09,480 and emotional time for a lot of people, too. 21 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:14,040 So we're going to try to wrap that up into a cute little package here with three different 22 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:18,840 parts to this and help share from our perspective how to prepare in your best possible way for 23 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:20,400 the holidays. 24 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:25,120 And quick little shout out, Monday, December 4th, is Paloma's birthday. 25 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:26,120 It's level up. 26 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:27,120 Am I right? 27 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,680 So make sure you give her a birthday shout out. 28 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:33,920 And we're going to start off, well, our whole series, this first one at least, is talking 29 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:35,920 about setting your intention. 30 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:36,920 Yes. 31 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:38,760 And we're going to talk about the science behind it. 32 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,720 But before we do, we like to do a fun little activity. 33 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:46,160 So if you're listening, and hopefully if you're driving a car, pull over or come back to this. 34 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:47,160 Or do it later. 35 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:48,160 Yeah, you do it later. 36 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,640 But don't do this while you're driving because that's obviously dangerous. 37 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:51,640 Okay. 38 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:53,320 So to try our fun activity. 39 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:55,840 We've done this with many of our members in the past. 40 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:58,580 And it's a fun thing just to kind of see where you're at. 41 00:01:58,580 --> 00:02:01,200 So go ahead and look around whatever space you're in now. 42 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:05,000 So if it's a room or your home or you're in your office, just look around the space and 43 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:08,640 look for everything that you see in this space that is the color blue. 44 00:02:08,640 --> 00:02:11,040 So notice all the things that are blue. 45 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:12,040 Anything there, note it. 46 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:14,300 Put it into your mental space. 47 00:02:14,300 --> 00:02:15,440 Take a couple more seconds. 48 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:18,240 Look at all the blue things that are happening around you. 49 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:19,240 Okay. 50 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:25,360 So now close your eyes and now tell us everything or tell somebody in the room that you saw 51 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:28,960 that was the color green. 52 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:29,960 And most people have that reaction. 53 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:30,960 Yeah. 54 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:34,240 Because most people are like, I was looking for blue and we can't see your face right 55 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:35,880 now and how you're responding to this. 56 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:40,040 But most people, and this is where we also get to see your brain profile, meaning are 57 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:44,040 you the overachiever who's like, oh, I still saw green because you've memorized your space 58 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:45,400 and you're like taking it all in. 59 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:50,000 But the point of the activity here is we're talking about a special system within your 60 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:51,000 brain. 61 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:52,000 Yes. 62 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:56,040 The reticular activating system, the RAS. 63 00:02:56,040 --> 00:03:01,400 The RAS is a really cool part of the brain because it basically connects the subconscious 64 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:02,680 with the conscious brain. 65 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:06,320 So it's kind of like a bundle of nerves that goes from the hind brain all the way to the 66 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:07,360 forebrain. 67 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:10,280 And so it's connecting your subconscious with your conscious. 68 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:17,560 And if you didn't know this already, 95% of what we do in our day to day lives is subconscious. 69 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:18,560 Let that sink in. 70 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:20,880 That's a huge percentage. 71 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:27,240 And by communicating an intention to your brain, to yourself, you're kind of helping 72 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:30,880 the RAS understand what to focus on and whatnot. 73 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:35,120 Because what the RAS does is it tells your brain what to focus on. 74 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:39,640 And it's always picking up those signals depending on what you're doing, what you're thinking, 75 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:43,560 what you're telling it, whether it's consciously or not. 76 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:47,640 And so right now, for example, in the activity, you told your brain to focus on all the blue 77 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:48,720 things. 78 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:53,480 And so when you tell it to tell you what was green, your brain's like, whoa, what? 79 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:57,240 Because it was so hyper focused on what you told it to focus on. 80 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:58,240 Exactly. 81 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:01,400 And that is very true in the way that we operate in general. 82 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:08,200 And so what we love about it is it also works in a bigger way in terms of setting your intention, 83 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:09,760 like you were saying earlier. 84 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:16,360 So in the morning, when you wake up, if you tell yourself, I intend to ABCD, or you can 85 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:18,720 be specific things you want to do, right? 86 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:24,200 I intend to do this, accomplish that, call this person, get done with this errand. 87 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:25,200 Great. 88 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:29,200 Or you can just say, I intend to have a day that's focused on the positive. 89 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:32,400 I intend to have an energetic, aligned day. 90 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:38,040 Whatever you want to do, that is already setting your brain up to focus on the moments that 91 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:41,600 are bringing you to that feeling or to accomplish what you're trying to do. 92 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:42,600 100%. 93 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:43,600 Yeah. 94 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:48,560 I love this because with my kids, I do this on the daily, if not like every transition 95 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:49,560 we hit. 96 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:50,560 Yes. 97 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:51,880 It's we're going into the grocery store. 98 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:53,280 Okay, let's set our intention. 99 00:04:53,280 --> 00:04:56,560 How are we going to handle when we want something, but then I say no. 100 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:59,840 And so I'm already priming their brains to say, okay, I can hear no and be cool with 101 00:04:59,840 --> 00:05:01,880 it and still roll, right? 102 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:05,160 Because we all know that no is such a triggering word for so many people. 103 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:09,200 And then it can turn on those lower survival centers to make them fall into fight, flight, 104 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:10,200 freeze. 105 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:11,200 Exactly. 106 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:13,040 And that's when we see meltdowns at Target and all the other stores. 107 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,600 So it's really an important practice. 108 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:19,520 It's something just like we say all parts of ITC is a practice. 109 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:23,960 You have to keep practicing flexing that muscle because neurons that fire together, wire together. 110 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:29,200 So the more you practice it, the more it becomes an everyday thing where you're like, okay, 111 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:30,200 before. 112 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:34,320 And this is great for me because my kids are little, they are still in their car seats. 113 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:38,800 And so when we get to a parking lot or I even can time it like we're okay, we're five minutes 114 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:40,760 away, we start the conversation. 115 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:42,280 How are things going to go? 116 00:05:42,280 --> 00:05:46,720 And then this also applies to when I'm with just like my fiance or even you and I when 117 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:50,840 we walked into the school today, we're like, let's just mentally take a moment to like 118 00:05:50,840 --> 00:05:53,600 set your intention for how this is going to go. 119 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:57,560 And I can tell you every time I set my intention, it is smooth. 120 00:05:57,560 --> 00:05:58,560 Absolutely. 121 00:05:58,560 --> 00:05:59,560 Or closer to smooth. 122 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:00,840 Closer to because you never know, right? 123 00:06:00,840 --> 00:06:02,480 You can't predict what's going to happen. 124 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:06,920 But a lot of the time your reactions when things aren't according to your plan are going 125 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:12,000 to be a lot more positive and a lot more cortex when you set your intention for it. 126 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,560 And when I don't, I feel like I'm on my heels. 127 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:20,360 And I feel like every time I walk out of a situation like, oh, I forgot to set my intention 128 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:21,360 for how I want it to go. 129 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:22,880 And there can be a simple thing. 130 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:26,680 I oftentimes do something as simple as if I don't know what the situation is going to 131 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:27,680 call for. 132 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:31,000 I just do something as simple like my highest self is going to connect with the highest 133 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:32,840 self of everybody else in the room. 134 00:06:32,840 --> 00:06:35,160 And that just means like our best selves are going to meet. 135 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:36,800 Our most authentic versions are going to meet. 136 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:38,880 We're going to have a great conversation, a great time. 137 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:43,000 We're going to go somewhere that's great, meaning in the conversation or whatever our 138 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:44,680 experience is. 139 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:50,240 But oftentimes if I'm not in that space and I'm kind of like, it's almost like I didn't 140 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:53,960 get my my RAS system primed into like even having a focus. 141 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:54,960 Right. 142 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:56,120 So it doesn't really know what to focus on. 143 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:58,040 So it's going off of what it perceives. 144 00:06:58,040 --> 00:06:59,040 Exactly. 145 00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:00,200 And then emotions get triggered. 146 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,840 And that's what I was thinking right now as you were saying that like you were saying 147 00:07:02,840 --> 00:07:03,840 neuroplasticity. 148 00:07:03,840 --> 00:07:08,200 Neuroplasticity can work in really positive ways when you're connecting your neurons, 149 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:10,640 you're creating new positive beliefs. 150 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:11,640 Right. 151 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:16,160 But it can also work in negative ways where you're creating not so positive beliefs. 152 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:17,160 Right. 153 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:20,000 Or creating not so positive patterns or habits. 154 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:24,080 And so a lot of the time what I think happens with you know the holidays like you said can 155 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:25,760 be very charged for a lot of people. 156 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:29,560 I think you know there's a lot of people coming together and you're there and it's family 157 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:34,440 and there's always emotional components and there's history and there's all this stuff. 158 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:41,960 And I think that a lot of the time because you've had let's say 33 to 32, 33 Christmases. 159 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:42,960 Right. 160 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:48,360 And if 30 of them were a certain way in a certain dynamic and there was tension and 161 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:53,000 this person fought with that person and that person didn't get along with whoever then 162 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:57,240 that's neuroplasticity telling your brain Christmas is hard. 163 00:07:57,240 --> 00:07:58,240 Right. 164 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:00,080 Christmas is gonna be really hard. 165 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:03,160 And so your RAS is prepped for that whether you know or not. 166 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:04,160 It's looking for it too. 167 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:05,160 Exactly. 168 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:07,000 Because you don't even know and you're like okay I really want to have a great Christmas, 169 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:11,440 I want to have a great Christmas or I want to have a great whatever you're celebrating. 170 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:15,800 It's Christmas in my case and you don't even know but your brain is already prepped to 171 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:17,120 see all the negative stuff. 172 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:18,120 Right. 173 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:22,440 And so that's where your intention comes in so, so, so intentionally. 174 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:23,440 Right. 175 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,080 Your intention comes in intentionally. 176 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:30,760 You can take the control back and decide I'm gonna have an amazing Christmas. 177 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:34,680 And the other component that you just said as well is like prepping for like the negative 178 00:08:34,680 --> 00:08:37,120 stuff if there's a certain conversation. 179 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:40,600 There's always you know that what's like the meme like the awkward uncle that I was talking 180 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:41,840 about like politics or whatever. 181 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:42,840 Yeah. 182 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:43,840 Yeah the drunk uncle. 183 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:44,840 Yeah. 184 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:50,000 There's always something a certain character in your family and you can think about what 185 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:52,800 how am I gonna respond if something happens. 186 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:53,800 Right. 187 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:57,160 I think Andrew Huberman just talked about that in one of his podcasts recently about 188 00:08:57,160 --> 00:09:01,480 cutie. 189 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:06,000 About how actually it has a lot of benefit for your brain to think about the negative 190 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:07,000 stuff. 191 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:08,000 Right. 192 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:09,000 Right. 193 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:12,160 Because we think oh no talk about stay positive only think about the positive stuff. 194 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:13,160 Positive stuff is great. 195 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:14,160 Right. 196 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:15,160 We love it. 197 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:16,160 Yeah. 198 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:20,440 But just giving your brain that flex that cognitive flexibility to go from okay this 199 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:25,120 is how I want things to go but if it's not going my way these are a few things that I 200 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:29,200 could possibly do if things are kind of going in that other direction. 201 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:30,200 Right. 202 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:31,200 100 percent. 203 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:32,200 And it's great for kids but it's also great for adults. 204 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:33,200 Oh my gosh. 205 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:34,800 It's an amazing tool for prepping for anything. 206 00:09:34,800 --> 00:09:41,120 Well when I the adult have that sense of I have a plan my kids feel she's got a plan. 207 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:42,120 We're good. 208 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:45,720 It's like if you got on an airplane and the pilot's like ooh I'm not sure what I'm doing 209 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:46,720 here. 210 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:47,720 You're like should we get off. 211 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:48,720 Right. 212 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:49,720 That's what kids are doing. 213 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:50,720 They don't know what their meltdown is. 214 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:52,160 They're like where's the boundary. 215 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:53,160 Right. 216 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:56,240 And if you just stay cool calm and collected and you're like I got this. 217 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:59,000 Everyone else is like cool she's got it or he's got it. 218 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:03,420 And this is something too that you touched on it a minute ago where you're talking about 219 00:10:03,420 --> 00:10:06,920 if you plan and prepare for that negative or if you're thinking the negative is going 220 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:12,120 to happen that also hits that subconscious of that self-fulfilling prophecy of I always 221 00:10:12,120 --> 00:10:14,840 sabotage this. 222 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:19,600 And so we oftentimes like we are already like going into it and going oh this is just going 223 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:20,600 to be horrible. 224 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:21,600 Right. 225 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:22,600 Yeah. 226 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:25,080 And then it's like oh see I knew that was going to happen. 227 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:28,880 And then so our whole thing here is number one get out of survival mode because when 228 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:32,080 you're out of survival mode you now have control in your emotion. 229 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:36,680 And then that means you're not going to get enrolled in any negative emotional whatever 230 00:10:36,680 --> 00:10:37,680 that's happening. 231 00:10:37,680 --> 00:10:42,720 You're not going to hand over the reins to your primitive reactive brain. 232 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:43,720 Exactly. 233 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,320 You're not going to be able to say oh here comes aunt blah blah blah. 234 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:48,880 She's going to try to enroll me in this conversation. 235 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:51,080 I already know in my head this is what I'm going to say. 236 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:52,080 This is my prep. 237 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:54,040 I don't have time for this or I got to go do this. 238 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:57,120 And it's coming from a space of I'm not shaming you. 239 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:58,600 I just don't want to engage. 240 00:10:58,600 --> 00:10:59,600 Right. 241 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:02,360 And so if you have some sort of like little pocket statements you're going to have and 242 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:03,360 ready and primed. 243 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:04,360 Yes. 244 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:07,840 And you kind of prepare for which conversations you're like okay I know this is going to happen. 245 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:09,080 Here's I want to handle it. 246 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:10,080 That's how you use setting your attention. 247 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:11,080 Absolutely. 248 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:13,080 And that's how you prepare yourself for what's coming. 249 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:17,160 And you can already instead of it turning into this giant big thing and then you're 250 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:21,160 talking to everybody about how horrible aunt blah blah blah is. 251 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:23,720 You just know inside of you okay wait I've healed this. 252 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:26,240 I know where she's coming from because now I understand the brain. 253 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:27,240 Exactly. 254 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,920 I've now gone through your basics of brain prioritization course. 255 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:34,120 And I get the pawns the midbrain the reflexes and what their jobs are meant to do. 256 00:11:34,120 --> 00:11:39,000 And so if we're in that space now of going oh wait I don't have to go there with her. 257 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:40,200 Then I have options. 258 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,080 And so that's really the key. 259 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:46,000 Get out of survival mode now you have options because when you're in survival all you see 260 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:47,000 is a negative. 261 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:48,000 Yep. 262 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:49,000 All you see is what's wrong. 263 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:50,600 And all you see is your fight or flight response. 264 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:51,600 Exactly. 265 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:52,600 It's not a fight or flight reaction. 266 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:53,600 Right. 267 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:54,600 And then you fight for it. 268 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:55,600 You're going to go straight into that. 269 00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:56,600 Exactly. 270 00:11:56,600 --> 00:12:01,160 And it's really cool to see the difference like you were saying between setting your 271 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:02,160 attention and not. 272 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:05,400 And I thought about this this weekend because I was talking to my friends about like I think 273 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:06,400 we were talking about airports. 274 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:08,080 I don't know why we were talking about airports. 275 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:09,880 And I was like oh I love the airport. 276 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:10,880 Because you travel all the time. 277 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:13,320 Because I travel a lot and I love getting there. 278 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,840 I'm like but since I was little I've always liked the airport. 279 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:17,840 And most people hate the airport. 280 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:19,280 And that's what they were saying. 281 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:21,080 They're like you're what's wrong with you. 282 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:22,080 Like why do you like the airport. 283 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:24,080 I'm like I get there four hours early baby girl. 284 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:25,080 I'm there. 285 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:26,440 I got my Starbucks on. 286 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:28,080 I get my reading on. 287 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:30,120 I get my workie the work on. 288 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:34,040 You know like I'm like Googling the types of restaurants that are in the airport and 289 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:36,200 this terminal so I know the best one is the Wi-Fi. 290 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:40,440 Like whatever it is because I see it as like a great I don't know it's like an extra time. 291 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:45,120 And I hate rushing for the plane because that used to be before brain work. 292 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:46,120 I don't know how many planes I lost. 293 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:47,120 I've missed lots of flights. 294 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:49,240 Yeah I've missed so many flights. 295 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:50,520 Because of like just being disorganized. 296 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:52,160 And I was always rushing. 297 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:56,600 Like ah how's that person being like I have a flight in 10 minutes let me through security. 298 00:12:56,600 --> 00:12:57,640 That kind of stuff. 299 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:02,280 And so now I just I just like dove deep into like the calmness of it. 300 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:05,280 But my friend that I was always saying they're like oh yeah last time I was at the airport 301 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:06,280 this happened. 302 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:07,280 And oh and this happened. 303 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:08,280 This happened. 304 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:13,040 Does everybody see the difference here because I'm walking in like this is my me time baby. 305 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:14,540 Like I love this place. 306 00:13:14,540 --> 00:13:18,120 And most of my and your experiences are much more positive. 307 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:21,080 And when there's something negative it doesn't rattle me. 308 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:23,400 It doesn't ruin my trip. 309 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:27,520 Because it's delayed if it's you know the crying baby we were talking about a few podcasts 310 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:28,520 ago. 311 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:29,520 But they were all in the opposite. 312 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:30,520 They're like I hate it. 313 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:31,520 I have to get through it. 314 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:32,520 And I just hate the airport. 315 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:33,520 And I was like well hey. 316 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:34,520 Well I don't hate it. 317 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:35,520 We can reframe it. 318 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:36,520 I just prefer to travel differently. 319 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:37,520 Yeah. 320 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:38,520 I prefer to travel with a whole house behind me. 321 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:39,520 Whatever. 322 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:40,520 I just don't like to pack life. 323 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:41,520 That's really like I like to travel with a trailer. 324 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:44,520 And I don't and I'm like more like a homebody more these days. 325 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:45,520 And I love camping. 326 00:13:45,520 --> 00:13:46,520 So and I have small kids. 327 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:53,040 So like traveling in an airport is just more than just by myself. 328 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:54,520 I could totally understand that. 329 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:55,520 But that's also life. 330 00:13:55,520 --> 00:13:56,520 Right. 331 00:13:56,520 --> 00:13:57,520 Exactly. 332 00:13:57,520 --> 00:14:03,080 We are going through life and you get to decide how you bring in information to you. 333 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:06,360 And that's how you can use the RAS system to work for you. 334 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:07,360 Absolutely. 335 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:12,320 And if you learn about this feature that is going to be developed and primed better to 336 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:20,240 do a better job filtering when you get your brain into the cortex out of survival mode. 337 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:23,240 Then you're going to be able to really use that to help you. 338 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:25,560 And then and I honestly experience this every day. 339 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:29,640 And you've all experienced this when you're oh I want to shop for a new car or I'm looking 340 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:31,920 and I really want this item. 341 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:35,520 And then when you go out into the world then you see it a million times over and over. 342 00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:36,520 Oh yeah totally. 343 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:40,200 And I'm like oh my gosh I just saw a million white suburbans and that's what I want to 344 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:41,200 call in. 345 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:42,200 Right which I wanted. 346 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:43,200 It is what I wanted. 347 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:44,840 And so this is where that's the RAS system. 348 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:47,240 That's how it's activated and that's what's working for you. 349 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:51,400 And it's not just about you know focusing on one thing. 350 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:53,400 It's also about your sleep cycles. 351 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:54,880 So it can be disruptive with light. 352 00:14:54,880 --> 00:14:58,080 It is coming in through your visual system. 353 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:02,880 So this is where there's so much of it that's happening on such an unconscious and subconscious 354 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:03,880 level. 355 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:04,880 And that's what we talk about all the time. 356 00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:05,880 You can't override it. 357 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:06,880 You can't. 358 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:09,880 And so this is when people we say you're working harder because you are. 359 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:14,240 So if you're noticing that it's hard for you to see the positive that's a sign you're 360 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:15,600 in survival. 361 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:18,760 Because your brain is like I'm sorry I can't focus on the good. 362 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:22,240 I have to see what's coming at me and keep me alive. 363 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:25,360 So then you're like gosh I'm just so tired every day. 364 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:27,680 How do people like how do people do it? 365 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:28,940 How are they positive? 366 00:15:28,940 --> 00:15:30,400 How do they get through the day? 367 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:32,080 And you know we all have our own challenges. 368 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:33,960 We all have our own stressors. 369 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,600 We all have different perceptions on the world. 370 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:41,320 But some people are coming into the room disheveled and sweating and like a mess. 371 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:45,040 And some people are just cruising in cool and calm like you at the airport. 372 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:47,320 So why? 373 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:48,320 What is the reason? 374 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:50,440 And the coolest part we just got back from a school. 375 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:53,320 We're doing a school program which is so much fun. 376 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:57,160 And we can walk into the room and we can look at the group of kids and we can see which 377 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:58,640 kiddos didn't crawl. 378 00:15:58,640 --> 00:15:59,640 Absolutely. 379 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:00,640 Immediately. 380 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:03,200 And that doesn't mean we're going through the world like psychoanalyzing everybody. 381 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:06,440 We can just tell by how your body is literally positioned. 382 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:07,840 Which kids can sit crisscross? 383 00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:09,840 Which kids can cross their midline? 384 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:13,660 It's all in these little tiny movements that make that impact on being able to see the 385 00:16:13,660 --> 00:16:16,600 world from a different perspective. 386 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:18,240 And making life just easier. 387 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:24,820 And a lot of the time what I think happens also is like when your intention and your 388 00:16:24,820 --> 00:16:29,520 motivation and even your conscious thoughts are towards something. 389 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:30,520 Right? 390 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:31,520 You want to operate in a certain way. 391 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:35,920 You want to do a certain thing or respond a certain way in a certain situation. 392 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:38,840 And your primitive brain is not ready for it. 393 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:43,200 That creates that cognitive dissonance where you're like part of you wants to do this thing 394 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,200 but then your brain is getting in your way. 395 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:50,280 And 90% of our members say that's what I feel. 396 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:51,280 Right? 397 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:53,800 I just feel like my brain is getting in my own way. 398 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:55,040 And I know I want to do these things. 399 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:58,080 And I'm trying to do all of the other modalities out there. 400 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:00,400 And it's just not working because I'm getting in my own way. 401 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:02,320 How do I stop getting in my own way? 402 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:04,320 And that's it. 403 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:06,000 Use the power of intention. 404 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:10,560 Use the power of brain reorganization to truly be able to do the things that you want to 405 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:11,560 do. 406 00:17:11,560 --> 00:17:12,560 And it's not like everything's perfect. 407 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:14,560 It's not like I've done everything I want to do in my life. 408 00:17:14,560 --> 00:17:15,840 It's not like you have either. 409 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:17,280 We're not checked off the box. 410 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:18,280 No. 411 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:19,280 Because that's just not the way it is. 412 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:20,280 No. 413 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:21,280 But it's just so much easier. 414 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:22,280 Oh my goodness. 415 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:23,280 Yes. 416 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:28,320 Like honestly I'm glad you just circled that all back to coming back to the intention and 417 00:17:28,320 --> 00:17:30,240 then also the cognitive dissonance. 418 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:37,040 And it's really crazy because people who have such a locked in perspective and close-minded 419 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:44,880 is what a lot of people call that, you can't have a conversation about something new because 420 00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:46,720 their brain is just not able to. 421 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:48,480 So it doesn't mean that they're trying to be rude. 422 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:51,120 And that's what we always want to help people understand is the compassion. 423 00:17:51,120 --> 00:17:53,120 And we're going to talk about that in the next episode. 424 00:17:53,120 --> 00:17:54,120 Yes we are. 425 00:17:54,120 --> 00:17:57,280 And I always look at that as like, okay, they're not ready. 426 00:17:57,280 --> 00:17:58,280 Yeah. 427 00:17:58,280 --> 00:17:59,640 And everyone has their own timeframe. 428 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:03,600 We struggle with this often because we literally say if everyone could just creep and crawl, 429 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:04,920 the world would be a different place. 430 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:05,920 That's true. 431 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:06,920 But guess what? 432 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:07,920 We're not there yet and that's okay. 433 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:08,920 Yes. 434 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:09,920 But that's why we do this podcast. 435 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:10,920 That's why we post on social media. 436 00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:13,160 That's why we keep screaming it from the rooftop. 437 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:15,220 The brain can change but it's when you're ready. 438 00:18:15,220 --> 00:18:16,880 You can't force somebody to do it. 439 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:17,880 Okay. 440 00:18:17,880 --> 00:18:20,760 But actually I want to touch back on what we just said about the way that you say it. 441 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:22,840 So language is really important. 442 00:18:22,840 --> 00:18:26,600 I'm glad you said that because the language that you use for yourself and for your brain 443 00:18:26,600 --> 00:18:27,600 is really important. 444 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:32,560 So for example, if you say, I'm going to try to eat healthy today. 445 00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:36,240 Try means that there's the opportunity to not do it, right? 446 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:39,640 I don't want to say fail but to not accomplish it. 447 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:40,640 Well to give yourself an out. 448 00:18:40,640 --> 00:18:41,640 It's an excuse. 449 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:42,640 To give yourself an excuse. 450 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:43,640 Exactly. 451 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:44,640 Exactly. 452 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:47,520 You can say, I'm trying to think of another example but instead of that you can say, I 453 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:51,280 intend to eat healthy and you're setting that intention, right? 454 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:54,600 Because that's truly kind of like a deeper, don't you even feel it? 455 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:57,320 Like I intend to do something rather than I'm going to try to do it. 456 00:18:57,320 --> 00:19:00,640 But try and see, can't you get like a visual? 457 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:03,600 When I say I try, I feel like I'm sitting on a couch like I'm trying. 458 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:04,840 Like I'm literally trying. 459 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:10,920 Or I see my daughter like trying to clean up and she's like, I can't do it. 460 00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:11,920 But I'm trying. 461 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:16,200 Or when you say like I intend, I just imagine like this march in like commanding to dinner. 462 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:18,280 Yeah, I literally feel it like lower in my body. 463 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:19,280 I'm like, hmm. 464 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:20,280 It's a vibe. 465 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:21,280 I intend to do it. 466 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:22,280 So I... 467 00:19:22,280 --> 00:19:23,280 It is. 468 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:24,880 And it's just the way that you talk to yourself about it too, right? 469 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:29,240 So instead of saying, I'm going to try to not eat this. 470 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:30,240 I don't know why I'm on food. 471 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:31,240 I think I'm kind of hungry right now. 472 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:36,200 But I'm going to try to not engage with ants, whatever. 473 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:39,640 You can say, I intend to have positive conversations with an ant, whatever. 474 00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:40,920 So think about that. 475 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:45,560 That's also a lot about what we talk about in level two of our program in the reconnect 476 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:51,920 section is wording things in a more positive way that makes it clear that your brain is 477 00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:56,720 interpreting it in the way that you want to because when the moment you put in a negative, 478 00:19:56,720 --> 00:19:58,400 your brain is going to kind of shift. 479 00:19:58,400 --> 00:19:59,800 It's not of course black and white. 480 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:02,680 Like there's a lot of nuance there, but that's often what happens. 481 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:06,440 So it's important to keep your messaging to yourself aligned, right? 482 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:07,440 With what you want. 483 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:08,440 Yeah. 484 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:09,440 Anyway, let's do this. 485 00:20:09,440 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