1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,280 Hi and welcome to the In The Cortex podcast. 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:10,280 We are your hosts. 3 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:11,600 I'm Paloma Garcia. 4 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:13,640 And I am Danny Parakoni. 5 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:17,240 And we're the founders of In The Cortex, an online community with programs that show 6 00:00:17,240 --> 00:00:21,480 people the tools that they need to change their lives, their brain reorganization, no 7 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,880 medication, just movement. 8 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:28,080 When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start 9 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:32,160 to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex. 10 00:00:32,160 --> 00:00:36,520 Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life. 11 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,400 And now, on to today's episode. 12 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:43,480 Let's start off with a quick cortex moment from one of our members. 13 00:00:43,480 --> 00:00:50,240 Hello, this is Sunny, a member of the In The Cortex course. 14 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,920 And I have a story to relate about sports. 15 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:59,560 And last week, I played golf for the first time in about 15 years, and I truly had not 16 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:03,080 even picked up a club in that time frame. 17 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:08,440 And the game last week, I have to say, was my best game I've ever played. 18 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:13,280 And I know 100% it's because of the brain training that I've been doing with the In 19 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,040 The Cortex course. 20 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:20,160 And I've only been doing this brain training, it was about four weeks. 21 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:26,440 But I could feel that my brain, I can clearly remember being at that first T, waiting for 22 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:27,920 my turn to T up. 23 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:31,880 And I felt that my brain was extremely organized. 24 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,840 It was as if it were humming, laser focused. 25 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,200 I knew what I was going to do. 26 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:43,320 And when I got up and took the swing, it was that rhythm that felt just so natural. 27 00:01:43,320 --> 00:01:49,960 But there was, again, that little bit of a hum to it where the swing was absolutely perfect. 28 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,880 So I know that it was the brain training. 29 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:59,000 And I also have another aspect of playing with someone new for the first time. 30 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:07,480 I would normally get a little bit of the jitters and be anxious, you know, performance anxiety. 31 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:08,760 But that did not happen. 32 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:13,440 I just, I felt confident, I felt sure and whatever it was going to be, it was fine. 33 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:17,240 So emotionally, I was there ready and relaxed to play. 34 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:25,360 So I am extremely pleased with my golf game, with my brain and with the in the cortex course. 35 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:28,960 Hello and welcome back to another episode of our podcast. 36 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:33,400 We are so excited to talk about this awesome theme that we have for today. 37 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:34,400 Oh, yeah. 38 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:37,480 And before we do, we want to give a quick disclaimer that we're going to be talking 39 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:41,440 about things that, you know, might kind of hit a trigger point and might make you feel 40 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,760 like we're talking directly to you. 41 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:48,720 And this is not to make you feel that this is to bring education into your mindset of 42 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:53,840 us to looking at what is going on in your life from a different perspective. 43 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:58,840 And we always are rooted in talking about it from how the brain is wired. 44 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:03,680 So with that said, we are talking about personality traits and the brain. 45 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,680 And is there a common connection there? 46 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:08,600 And this came from a question from one of our listeners. 47 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,160 So if you ever have questions about anything that we're talking about, please send them 48 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,240 to us at hello to in the cortex. 49 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:18,320 And we love to be able to break it down from the brain perspective every time. 50 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:19,320 Yes. 51 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:20,560 This is such a good question. 52 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:26,000 And it all goes back to a dysregulated nervous system can make you look and act like someone 53 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:27,040 that you're not. 54 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:30,920 And so that's a really huge piece that we're trying to communicate here. 55 00:03:30,920 --> 00:03:36,520 And like Danny, you and I talk about this all the time, how your brain being in survival 56 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:41,840 mode, being in that fight or flight dysregulation can make you act in ways that are absolutely 57 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:44,520 different from who you are as a person. 58 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:49,600 But somehow that always gets interpreted or that sometimes gets interpreted as who you 59 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:50,600 are. 60 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:51,600 Right. 61 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,680 So let's say, for example, we have a very common example of people having a tough time 62 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:59,520 dealing with something in public and people record them and put them on Tik Tok with them 63 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:04,320 on Instagram when they are pretty much at one of their worst points probably. 64 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:09,280 And that person is going to get labeled with that, you know, oh, that person is a total 65 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:12,320 whatever you insert word here. 66 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,280 And that's not always who they are. 67 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,240 They just might have been reacting in not the best way. 68 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:24,280 And so that's really the whole point of this podcast, I think, is to create more empathy 69 00:04:24,280 --> 00:04:29,400 for others and understand that it's not always as black and white as, oh, that person is 70 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:33,680 just a blank, you know, it's usually a lot deeper than that. 71 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:40,680 Something thinks that your personality is a fixed representation of who you will be for 72 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:41,920 the rest of your life. 73 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:47,400 And for us here in the cortex, that would have made us be like for me, I'll speak for 74 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:49,880 my own self, a hot mass express. 75 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:52,240 If you read the bio on the website, I was a hot mass. 76 00:04:52,240 --> 00:04:56,640 Like I just could not handle life like a regulated person could. 77 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:00,680 And so I was always seen as just being like so crazy. 78 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:05,200 And I definitely do still have, you know, I've got my quirks and I've got my fun personality 79 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:06,720 that I like to call it. 80 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:10,960 But I also just own it now and I'm like, okay, but I'm regulated within my silliness. 81 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:16,920 I am not the hot mass who's just totally lost all the time and showing up late and disheveled 82 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:23,640 and flying off the handle and just constantly in this state of just like, this crazy energy 83 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:24,800 coming into a room. 84 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:31,680 Our buddy Dr. Joe Dispenza says is your personality is your personal reality. 85 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:39,000 So if your personal reality is rooted in dysregulation, if you feel that everything coming at you 86 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:43,760 is a threat, that is going to represent how you respond to the world. 87 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:48,360 And then people will then begin to label you because you will start to have this automatic 88 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,880 neural connection as to up, there's a threat. 89 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:52,240 This is my go to response. 90 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:55,880 And it's rooted in fight, flight, freeze or fawn. 91 00:05:55,880 --> 00:06:00,600 Those are our four survival reflexes on how we handle threats coming at us. 92 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:06,240 And it's great if we're in survival mode, but we're not really in survival mode in our 93 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:07,240 world today. 94 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,360 Well, I can't say that as a blanket statement. 95 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:13,800 There are a lot of moments where people are into survival and we're just trying to share 96 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:18,440 that there's a time for survival, but the majority of your day should not be in that. 97 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:20,560 Excluding all the stuff that's happening right now. 98 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,680 That's why it's so hard. 99 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:23,680 Yeah. 100 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:24,680 Exactly. 101 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:30,680 I think that what Joe Dispenza, our biggest fan says, and we know he's not our biggest 102 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:33,000 fan right now, but hey, we're manifesting it. 103 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:35,360 We're creating our personal reality in that sense. 104 00:06:35,360 --> 00:06:38,320 Joe, call us. 105 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:43,160 And what I think that part that makes it so powerful, what he says is it's giving you 106 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:44,360 ownership of that stuff. 107 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:45,360 Right. 108 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,680 And so that's what we say all the time is we're giving ownership over what's going 109 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:49,680 on. 110 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:56,200 We all have our quirks and our little things here and there, but that's also being able 111 00:06:56,200 --> 00:07:02,080 to embrace the parts of you that are maybe not aligned 100% with who you want to be 112 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:03,800 is also a brain function. 113 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:04,800 Okay. 114 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:06,000 So now we're going to break down. 115 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:11,280 We took six different personality traits that are very common in today's world. 116 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:15,320 There's obviously a whole lot more, but we didn't want to make it too long. 117 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:19,200 And so we're going to break down different personality traits and how we see that connected 118 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:24,240 to the brain and how a brain, when it's insurviable or dysregulated is showing up. 119 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:30,120 So the first one, the perfectionist, the person who really seeks to find perfection 120 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:36,720 in themselves and in the world around them and goes to great lengths to make that their 121 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:38,400 perceived reality. 122 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:40,800 And we've all seen this happen before. 123 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:45,320 This is the person who they actually really own that perfectionist and they actually like 124 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:47,080 really are verbal about it. 125 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:48,400 They say, well, I'm just a perfectionist. 126 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:51,800 Or I have OCD. 127 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:55,360 And what they're saying is that they even if they don't have that diagnosis, which is 128 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:56,360 a big deal. 129 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:57,360 Yeah. 130 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,960 Because now everyone kind of knows OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder. 131 00:07:59,960 --> 00:08:03,920 I need things to be in a certain way in order for me to feel good about myself. 132 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,320 And I could relate to a little bit of this. 133 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:11,240 I didn't seek the perfection, but I needed my outside environment to be a specific way 134 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:18,200 before I could go do a task because our outside when that's in control and order, it helps 135 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:23,000 call my system to them, be able to focus a little bit better on whatever the task at 136 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:24,320 hand is. 137 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:30,200 So the perfectionist is really that controlling person that and this is what's cool. 138 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:34,680 We can actually see how you creep, how you do a movement called Exploding Rocks. 139 00:08:34,680 --> 00:08:36,760 That's working on the moral reflex. 140 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:43,240 And we could tell if that perfection quality or personality is in you by the way that you're 141 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:44,240 moving. 142 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:46,000 And that is where we go, okay. 143 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:51,320 So the way you just moved across the floor, it lets us know that your brain seeks control 144 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:55,320 in almost in a sense of bringing out the fight in you. 145 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:58,200 And it's definitely not going to show up in that fawn response. 146 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,520 The fawn response, remember, is the one who's just the people, please say, I go with the 147 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:02,880 flow, I do whatever. 148 00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:06,560 I abandoned myself to please the others around me. 149 00:09:06,560 --> 00:09:10,480 The perfectionist is going to stand their ground and they're going to like kind of laugh 150 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:12,360 their way through like, no, it's cool. 151 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:15,520 Like I just need the table to be set like this. 152 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:16,520 Like it's fine. 153 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:17,520 Like I got this. 154 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:18,520 Like, no, it's fine. 155 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:20,720 I got all the things. 156 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:24,400 And there are the person who's on Pinterest and this is not to shame anyone. 157 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:28,680 This is just to bring to light that these are the sorts of personality traits that we think 158 00:09:28,680 --> 00:09:34,280 we own, but really it's the brain and it's needing that perfection in our world because 159 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:38,880 that's how we perceive like that we are coming through even though it's not authentically 160 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:39,880 who we are. 161 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:40,880 Well, yeah. 162 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:45,480 And the perfectionism can also be, first of all, I want to make sure that it's not 163 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,560 it's clear that we're not saying that OCD is not real. 164 00:09:48,560 --> 00:09:52,440 We're just saying that a lot of people identify it with it, even though they haven't, they 165 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:53,480 don't have that diagnosis. 166 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:58,080 They just have this survival response in them that's looking for this perfection or for 167 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,080 controlling things. 168 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,400 But it might not be a compulsion for everybody. 169 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:07,800 And I think that for example, for me, even though my life was chaos, certain things had 170 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:09,640 to be so perfect. 171 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:11,760 And I still have some of that now, right? 172 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:14,240 I love when things are like perfectly written out. 173 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:17,040 I love when my environment is set up in a specific way. 174 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:21,880 I love to have every single tool that I need for every new project, right? 175 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:22,880 Like the right one. 176 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:23,880 I'm like a gear person. 177 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:28,000 If I'm going to do a new activity, I want to get all the gear that goes, you know, that 178 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:29,880 you're supposed to have for that one thing. 179 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:33,400 And so that's kind of like what you're saying where you're a lot of the time it doesn't necessarily 180 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:37,080 look like, Oh, what we might think like, Oh, their house is perfect. 181 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:38,520 The table is this way. 182 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:39,520 Their clothes are this way. 183 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:41,520 Their, their hair is this way. 184 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:44,400 It might not, you might not be able to see it from the outside, right? 185 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:49,880 And it might not be a part of every single part of their life, but they are still finding 186 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:55,400 ways to create that perfection, quote unquote, in different parts of their lives, right? 187 00:10:55,400 --> 00:11:01,280 And so for me, a lot of that was like trying to set up things with my life, my job, my 188 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:03,920 relationships, everything had to be in a certain way. 189 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:07,760 So if I, for example, if there was a change in plans and what we were going to do for 190 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:10,800 a weekend, I would just be like, Nope, I'm not going to go anymore. 191 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:13,520 Like I don't want to do it anymore because this is the way that I had envisioned it, 192 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:14,520 right? 193 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:18,440 And a lot of that is the envisioning is a big part of it are going to overlap, right? 194 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,040 It's not like one personality type. 195 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:23,640 We're not talking about like, you know, the enneagrams or something like that. 196 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:28,000 This is, lots of people have different parts of these qualities, right? 197 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:34,160 And so it's that controlling also helps you understand that you don't have to worry about 198 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:35,160 the future, right? 199 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:37,000 And so that's a big one, right? 200 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:42,040 So you think, Oh, like all these things could possibly happen, literally everything's unpredictable 201 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:44,080 in the entire world because that's life. 202 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:45,080 Hello. 203 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:48,840 And so by your, by you thinking that you have this mental structure for things that you're 204 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:53,520 going to do, for how things look, for who's going to say, you know, who's going to say 205 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:57,360 what, who's going to get along well, you know, I think about this a lot in like social situations 206 00:11:57,360 --> 00:12:00,880 for me, logically, you know, you can't actually control those things, right? 207 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:06,120 But just giving yourself that kind of break of like from worry is I think the biggest 208 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:07,480 piece of the perfectionism. 209 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:08,480 Yeah. 210 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:09,480 Anxiety. 211 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:12,000 It's rooted in anxiety because as you were talking about, I like my environment to be 212 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:13,000 a specific way. 213 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:14,720 I like this to have this. 214 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:18,040 It's the anxiety when you don't have it. 215 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:19,880 And we can all have preferences. 216 00:12:19,880 --> 00:12:20,880 This is really important. 217 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:22,280 We can all have preferences. 218 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:26,520 I prefer for my house to be clean and organized and that's okay. 219 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:31,560 But do I still have that feeling of getting anxious about it and now I can't do other things 220 00:12:31,560 --> 00:12:32,560 anymore? 221 00:12:32,560 --> 00:12:35,480 So before brain work, I couldn't function. 222 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:36,480 I couldn't move on. 223 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:37,880 I was so frustrated. 224 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:41,160 And now with brain work, I'm like, okay, I have two children. 225 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:45,000 So clearly my house is never going to reach organizations. 226 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:50,080 You know, no matter how many times we talk about it, they're just not there yet developmentally. 227 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:57,640 So we I oftentimes can just go, okay, well, in order for us to make this work, I can now 228 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:03,360 release the need to help me feel like everything needs to be in a perfect spot and can container 229 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:06,320 basically and I don't have anxiety that overrides me. 230 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:07,840 So that's a lot for a lot of people. 231 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:12,240 I will say also like eight more ADHD types, like people that are identifying more with 232 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:16,400 the challenges related to ADHD, perfectionism can come and go and waves. 233 00:13:16,400 --> 00:13:21,160 And so that's something that's big for me is like, and I've shown this before on our 234 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:28,760 our Tik Tok and Instagram, like I can tell when I need to crawl and when I'm overdoing 235 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:34,360 it or like feeling very dysregulated by looking at the state of like my room and my place, 236 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:35,360 right? 237 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:39,000 If I see that there's like clothes everywhere, everything's all over the place. 238 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,040 I'm like, oh, time to go crawl. 239 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:42,880 But then sometimes it goes to the opposite. 240 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:46,160 So when I become super, super like everything is perfect. 241 00:13:46,160 --> 00:13:49,040 Everything is exactly in the right place and nothing can move. 242 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:52,760 If I take a cup, I have to put it back exactly in the exact place where it was. 243 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,040 I'm going to wash it dry and put it back. 244 00:13:55,040 --> 00:13:57,280 That's when I'm like, okay, I also am dysregulated, right? 245 00:13:57,280 --> 00:13:59,240 So I can go to both extremes. 246 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:03,800 And I'm thinking of when I moved in here to LA, I'm only staying at this place for three 247 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:06,960 months, but I did a deep clean of everything. 248 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:08,360 I moved everything around. 249 00:14:08,360 --> 00:14:10,280 I structured it exactly in the perfect way. 250 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:14,400 I set up all the drawers in this way and I was like that for a few days and I was like, 251 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:19,960 dude, you got to get your brainwork in because I was just like hyper fixated on how everything 252 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:24,320 was not in the right place or like some things were dirty because like, you know, sometimes 253 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:25,320 things are dirty. 254 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:26,320 It's not the end of the world. 255 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:28,600 I was like cleaning every single day and doing this stuff. 256 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:33,240 And I was like, well, that maybe is a little bit of a reflection of how I'm feeling from 257 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:35,200 moving again and all this stuff, right? 258 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:38,840 And so that's also where I'm able to be like, that's okay. 259 00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:42,840 It's not a big deal, but I'm noticing it in myself whereas before I just would have gone 260 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:44,040 like that for months. 261 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:45,040 Right. 262 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:46,040 And that's so exhausting. 263 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:50,720 And two things you did that the first thing was relating back to transitions. 264 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:51,720 So transitioning. 265 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:54,480 So you transition from one place to another in the move. 266 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:58,680 And you also talked about transitioning in something else and that is a mid brain function 267 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:03,760 of being able to pick something up and go again at it whenever the time calls that you 268 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:04,760 can. 269 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:06,760 And it's being able to do it with grace and ease. 270 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:12,640 And so this is where we see a lot of people who become and we see this on, I see always 271 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:16,240 on social media where moms are like constantly feeling that they have to do so many things 272 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:19,760 at home and they start a project and then they go to that project and then that project 273 00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:20,760 requires another project. 274 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:24,440 And then all you've done is like bopped around the house into 30 different rooms and you're 275 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:26,560 just like, I've got an actually nothing completed. 276 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:27,560 Yeah. 277 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:29,280 I just have a really, really, really long to do list. 278 00:15:29,280 --> 00:15:30,280 Yeah. 279 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:31,280 That's crawling. 280 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:34,400 But another thing you mentioned too, because we've been talking about this because we've 281 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:36,120 been very heavy in our brain work. 282 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:40,480 We've been doing it every single day now for going on nine weeks, right? 283 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:41,480 Yeah. 284 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:47,680 And you talked about needing to have everything perfect, but you've released that in me writing 285 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:54,040 the emails and because I've also stuck to liking writing, which was new for me because 286 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:55,840 I did not like writing ever. 287 00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:59,280 I would sit there and just like writer's block words do not come out. 288 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:00,920 And now I'm like, oh, I actually enjoy this. 289 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:04,800 Like I actually, I'm like, okay, writing things and writing emails and doing all these things. 290 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:05,800 I'm like, fine. 291 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:09,520 And so now we've seen that in our partnership of I can pick up some stuff and you've released 292 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:10,520 it. 293 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:11,520 So it's beautiful. 294 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:14,120 This is why every partnership needs brain work. 295 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:15,120 Absolutely. 296 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:18,360 You talked a lot about too, as we were talking about the perfectionist and we started to 297 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:20,240 talk about the over thinker. 298 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:26,680 And that was the person who is overthinking, over analyzing who's going to sit where at 299 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:29,600 the table because of this and all these things. 300 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:34,600 So that's another big personality trait that's like, hold on, let me overthink this and let 301 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:40,960 me sit there because your executive function is not able just to see it clearly. 302 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:44,120 And then be okay with it once you finally make a decision. 303 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:48,400 I would seriously, and that's a reflex too, by the way, a primitive reflex that does not 304 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:53,320 let you make decisions when you sit at the store and stare for hours and like, how can 305 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:54,320 I do this? 306 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:56,280 I'm going to share with my fiance. 307 00:16:56,280 --> 00:16:58,520 He's a really good executive decision maker. 308 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:01,040 Like he can just see it, make it, do it. 309 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:04,560 And I'll stand there and I'm like, oh my gosh, what do you do? 310 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:05,560 And he's like, do that. 311 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:06,560 I'm like, oh, thank you. 312 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:09,960 So now that my brain works coming on, then I'm like, hold on, I don't need your executive 313 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:11,120 function skills anymore. 314 00:17:11,120 --> 00:17:12,320 I've got these now. 315 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:15,280 They're working on their own, but I was the classic over thinker. 316 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:20,080 I would overthink and then after the experience or situation, I would still go lay embedded 317 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:23,400 and ruminate on why that was not the best idea. 318 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:24,400 Oh yeah. 319 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:27,440 And that's, that's the people that get really upset when somebody won't respond to their 320 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:28,440 text message. 321 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:34,880 And so they start like going into this like spiral of, oh, maybe this thing that I said 322 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:35,880 to, they didn't like it. 323 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:38,600 And maybe it's because this person talks to them and they told them about this and then 324 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:40,320 they thought that I was mean because blah, blah. 325 00:17:40,320 --> 00:17:42,000 And maybe this is because, blah, blah, blah, blah. 326 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:45,760 And they'll get to you, you know, three hours later and they're like, oh, hey, I just, I 327 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:46,760 was at the gym. 328 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:47,760 I didn't have my phone. 329 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:53,480 And you're like, ah, then they're like, okay, just kidding. 330 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:58,120 And then that person feels bad after being like, why am I so, why do I do this? 331 00:17:58,120 --> 00:17:59,120 Why do I do it? 332 00:17:59,120 --> 00:18:01,720 Why do I catastrophize everything? 333 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:06,120 And this is what the news is so good at doing, right? 334 00:18:06,120 --> 00:18:08,720 Because when you watch the news, you live in fear. 335 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:10,800 You're like, oh, gosh. 336 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:14,760 The media just told me that the world is coming to an end and now I need to prep for that. 337 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:18,680 And that is truly a survival, a true survival situation. 338 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:22,360 And what do we know about being in survival mode is that you are a captive listening audience 339 00:18:22,360 --> 00:18:25,040 because you are literally sitting on the edge of your seat. 340 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:26,200 What am I going to do next? 341 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:30,440 So the overthinker, the perfectionist, those two people are glued to it. 342 00:18:30,440 --> 00:18:32,240 And that is the pawn. 343 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:36,200 So when you get on your belly and you try to move across the floor, you will be that 344 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:37,200 person. 345 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:38,200 You're like, oh my gosh, that sounds like meme. 346 00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:40,720 We already know what your creep is going to look like. 347 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:41,720 Send it in though. 348 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:42,720 Tag us in your videos. 349 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:46,000 Yes, because I'm going to give you personalized, like, yes, that is truly what it is. 350 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:49,560 And the best part is as you move on the floor, your brain figures out a more efficient way 351 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:50,560 to move. 352 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:55,360 And all of a sudden, the overthinking and the perfectionism just slowly starts to dim. 353 00:18:55,360 --> 00:18:59,120 And it just turns off a bit because it's like, oh, wait, I don't actually need to be in 354 00:18:59,120 --> 00:19:00,520 survival mode at this point. 355 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:05,960 And this is why I love talking about this because those people are like, wait, that wasn't 356 00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:07,640 actually who I was. 357 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:09,960 That wasn't actually my personality. 358 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:12,360 Yeah, I'm able to operate without doing that. 359 00:19:12,360 --> 00:19:13,880 And it doesn't mean it's going to go away forever. 360 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,200 Once you start to regulate, yeah. 361 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:17,200 Exactly. 362 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:20,760 Because once you regulate and your cortisol level starts to drop, then you know, and you 363 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:23,880 change your system to not crave that anymore. 364 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:24,880 Exactly. 365 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,600 Then you don't need to go get those hits of cortisol and adrenaline running through your 366 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:28,600 system. 367 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:30,360 And you understand what it creates in your body, right? 368 00:19:30,360 --> 00:19:34,360 Because before you're constantly on that hypervigilance level. 369 00:19:34,360 --> 00:19:37,440 And so more hypervigilance, you're like, okay, got it. 370 00:19:37,440 --> 00:19:40,640 But if you're able to regulate and you're going down to your baseline, your baseline 371 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:44,880 is much lower and much calmer when you do watch the news and you feel that spike, you're 372 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:45,880 like, oh, I don't like this. 373 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:47,120 I don't want to watch it anymore. 374 00:19:47,120 --> 00:19:48,120 Right. 375 00:19:48,120 --> 00:19:50,640 So that's also a huge thing brain wise. 376 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:55,880 But it's also like a lot of this stuff also can come from the subconscious beliefs, right? 377 00:19:55,880 --> 00:20:01,120 So for example, for the perfectionism, I know for me and for a lot of other people who have 378 00:20:01,120 --> 00:20:04,960 a similar background to me, I was always told that I was the smartest person that's ever 379 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:08,400 lived that everything was always going to be easy for me, that I would never have to 380 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:10,200 try hard for anything. 381 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:16,680 And so what that created in my mind was, okay, so I'm the genius of the world. 382 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:19,000 And so everything has to be easy for me. 383 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:20,520 And that was true for a while, right? 384 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:23,400 Because I was a kindergarten, like, you know, whatever. 385 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:24,400 That's not a hard demand. 386 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:26,440 I'm like, that was easy for the first month of life. 387 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:28,480 And I'm just kidding. 388 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:34,160 But after a while, like when I would see challenges, my brain is like, absolutely not. 389 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:37,120 Like if I'm not going to be perfect at that, I'm not going to do it. 390 00:20:37,120 --> 00:20:40,520 And so that's another thing that created this mechanism for me, right? 391 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:44,440 And that's why something that still comes up because it's part of the way that I operated 392 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:45,840 for so, so, so long. 393 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:47,760 And so same with the overthinking, right? 394 00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:53,120 If you're somebody who has that pattern in you from when you were younger, maybe walking 395 00:20:53,120 --> 00:20:59,200 into a house that you didn't know what people were going to react to, react to positively 396 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:01,680 and react to negatively, you didn't know what was going to happen. 397 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:05,960 So your brain starts to say, okay, before I go into any new scenario, before I wake 398 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:09,600 up in the morning, before I go to school, before I even talk to somebody, I'm going 399 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:13,040 to run through every single possible scenario just in case. 400 00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:17,080 Positive negative, usually negative, because that's what our brain is made to focus on. 401 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,840 And that's something that creates it. 402 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:24,200 So you have a belief in yourself that maybe it's not, I have to be perfect. 403 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,960 It's in this case, it is I, everything is unpredictable. 404 00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:32,640 I never know what's going to happen and I should be scared about, you know, I'm afraid 405 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,760 of the world, I'm afraid of people's reactions. 406 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:36,400 And so that's also going to play into it. 407 00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:40,800 So that's just to say, when you do your brain work, it's not like every single challenge 408 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:44,080 in your life disappears, it just becomes so much more manageable. 409 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:48,600 And so now I'm able to see, oh, I'm feeling a little bit, my perfectionist tendencies 410 00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:50,640 come up, what's going on in my life emotionally. 411 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:54,480 I'm able to sit down, maybe journal a little bit, be like, okay, this is what it is. 412 00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:57,960 I'm going to address it with a reconnect, getting straight into the subconscious, or 413 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:01,360 I'm going to creep it out on the floor or I'm going to do whatever it is. 414 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:03,080 And that toolbox is there now. 415 00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:06,640 Whereas before it would just be something that I'm like, why am I like this? 416 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:07,640 What is going on? 417 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:09,360 You know, what's wrong with me? 418 00:22:09,360 --> 00:22:10,360 Exactly. 419 00:22:10,360 --> 00:22:11,360 What's wrong with me? 420 00:22:11,360 --> 00:22:12,360 So many people do that. 421 00:22:12,360 --> 00:22:16,720 And after you just said that, I feel like I resonated so deeply with that because I 422 00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:22,400 had to do the overthinking because I was living in a space where so many people were dysregulated 423 00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:25,280 and it was so unpredictable. 424 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:30,640 And that is such a compensation is such a coping mechanism to get through life. 425 00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:34,960 And that I want to go into the hothead next because that's what I experienced a lot of 426 00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:37,880 like growing up with my dad, who is a very big hothead. 427 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:41,840 And we have now evidence of him just it's going away. 428 00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:42,840 It's great. 429 00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,640 Like we were recording the other day and we watched something happen. 430 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:49,880 I was in my room watching through the window, my dad doing something and I was like, oh, 431 00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:50,880 he's going to explode. 432 00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:57,440 And I was like, yeah, oh my gosh, this is huge because he used to think that my whole family, 433 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:01,320 they all think like, oh, it's the Italian gene that just came through. 434 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,480 Everyone's just a hothead screaming at everybody. 435 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:07,680 It's like, well, probably a lot of people who need to creep and then a lot of reflexes 436 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:09,240 that need to get integrated. 437 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:13,120 But then to that subconscious and that's an epigenetic thing that comes through where 438 00:23:13,120 --> 00:23:19,320 we're just passing down these beliefs from our ancestors on to the next generation. 439 00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:23,240 And that's why we love our work is because we are breaking generational cycles that are 440 00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:25,760 no longer working in today's world. 441 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:26,760 Exactly. 442 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:30,800 So to identify the hothead, it's the person and I was very much this person. 443 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:31,800 I was me too. 444 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:34,280 Like the literal dandamole in college. 445 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:38,400 Like I thought I would get onto the field hockey field and literally end people's lives 446 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:40,680 because I was like, that's what I'm being paid to do. 447 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,240 And I was like, or we're playing a game, y'all. 448 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,760 Like, so it was pretty insane. 449 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:50,800 But what was crazy about being the hothead is I had so much adrenaline constantly pushing 450 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:54,720 through my body and cortisol levels were so insane. 451 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,840 And anytime someone said something to me, it was just, oh yeah, you want to go, huh? 452 00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:58,840 Is that a fight? 453 00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:00,680 And it was always interpreted like that. 454 00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,000 And that's the person who has the road rage. 455 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:07,680 That's the person who's constantly thinking that they are being attacked and they have 456 00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,800 to fight the world in every regard. 457 00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:16,280 And so when you go into that space, it's so hard because your immune system is being bombarded 458 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:18,440 with cortisol, which is the stress hormone. 459 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:22,800 And that literally will kill off your immune system and makes it so hard for you to fight 460 00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:24,640 off anything that's coming your way. 461 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,520 I was sick so much. 462 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:30,640 Now that I look back at how sick I used to be about everything that went around, I was 463 00:24:30,640 --> 00:24:31,640 like, I was sick. 464 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,600 And now I don't get sick nearly as often. 465 00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:36,080 That's a good point, Danny. 466 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:37,760 I haven't gotten sick in so long. 467 00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:38,760 Isn't that crazy? 468 00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:39,760 And I used to be sick all the time. 469 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:40,760 I used to have like colds. 470 00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:43,760 Like think about the first couple of years we were working, I always had like a cold or 471 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:45,240 like more often. 472 00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:46,240 Whoa, okay. 473 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:47,240 Isn't that wild? 474 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:48,240 I know. 475 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:54,440 So thinking about and always the people who are in a really big fear space will get sick 476 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,360 more often, will have the experience of whatever is going on. 477 00:24:57,360 --> 00:24:58,880 And that's what we say, turn off the news. 478 00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:01,800 Because if you turn off the news, you don't know what's going on in the world. 479 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:06,320 And that's, I know that sounds a little ignorant, but it's really, I used to battle this all 480 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:07,600 the time in my own head. 481 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:14,040 Like, how do I get through today's issues and challenges if I'm ignorant to what's happening? 482 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:18,240 And obviously I'm still connected through social media, but the difference now is my 483 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:23,840 nervous system doesn't even correspond to what's happening on that negative level. 484 00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:29,080 And I can keep myself in a regulated space to keep on showing how do we keep the balance 485 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,080 world going? 486 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:32,080 Because we do have to move forward through it, right? 487 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:36,720 I mean, if we look at human history, war has been a conflict between humans since the 488 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:38,600 day we came onto this planet. 489 00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,320 Like it's embedded within us. 490 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:46,120 And if we all participate in it, it's just going to amplify all the challenges. 491 00:25:46,120 --> 00:25:51,840 But if us, and we can move ourselves through a balanced state, hear both sides of the argument, 492 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:55,520 come from it on a rational agreement, like that's what we always say, we could probably 493 00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:59,840 help the whole world if we all could just creep and be like, hey, we're all human at 494 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:01,400 the end of the day. 495 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:02,400 What can we do to help each other? 496 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,800 I know that sounds like such an idealistic view, but. 497 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,200 No, but it's good to have ideals. 498 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:11,040 And I think that it's also like we were saying at the beginning of the episode, this is a 499 00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:15,160 really important thing to keep in mind when we start to judge people for the way that 500 00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:19,680 they act and the way that they react, I should say, because a lot of the time it's really 501 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:22,800 just their brain, like those hotheaded people especially. 502 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:23,800 And those are the people. 503 00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:29,040 And if you're somebody who has lived this or who knows somebody like this, they usually 504 00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,120 feel really bad about it afterward. 505 00:26:31,120 --> 00:26:36,720 And they're just like, you know, and that regret is also where the overthinker goes, what's 506 00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:37,720 wrong with me? 507 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:38,720 Why was I overthinking that? 508 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,960 Why was I catastrophizing everything? 509 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:44,160 The hothead will go, what's wrong with me? 510 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,280 Why am I such a blank? 511 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:47,880 You know, why am I so mean? 512 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,160 Why am I so angry and aggressive toward people? 513 00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:51,960 Nobody's going to love me ever. 514 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,560 And so that's a lot of same mechanism that keeps them in that, right? 515 00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,560 Because a part of them is like, well, I don't really know who I am without my anger. 516 00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:00,680 I don't know who I am without my reactions. 517 00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,720 And that's something that was very clear to me as well. 518 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:06,760 I think when I started doing all the brain work and stuff and I started uncovering more 519 00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:14,920 of like my true personality, a lot of me was like thinking that I still had to keep up 520 00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:18,120 this kind of like Regina George mean girl routine. 521 00:27:18,120 --> 00:27:20,560 And then I was like, no, I'm Katie Herron. 522 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:21,800 I'm not Regina George. 523 00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:25,560 Like, I was like, I genuinely don't have to be that person. 524 00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,640 And like, it's okay to let go of that. 525 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:31,280 It was just a narrative that was very ingrained in me. 526 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:37,080 Like I have to be that like queen bee, that like main person who is judging everybody 527 00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:40,360 and saying little, you know, catty things about people. 528 00:27:40,360 --> 00:27:42,080 And it's just not the truth, right? 529 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:46,280 And I didn't have to do it, but it was hard for me to let go of that for a long time. 530 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:51,800 And also some part of like the little, you know, attitude is also just my personality. 531 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:56,280 Like I'm just somebody who is able to, who just looks at things in a certain way and 532 00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:59,960 will always say her opinion, but it doesn't always have to be like a mean thing that you're 533 00:27:59,960 --> 00:28:04,640 saying to somebody, putting them down and being rude to people that there's no reason 534 00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:05,640 to do it. 535 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:06,640 You know what I mean? 536 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:07,640 Right. 537 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,160 Cause when you're in survival mode, you only think about yourself and you only think about 538 00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:11,720 how am I going to get through this. 539 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:15,240 And when you come out of it, you can still have your quirky fun personality, but now 540 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:19,240 you can empathize, now you can have compassion when you have an opinion. 541 00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:22,680 You can go, okay, I have mine and you're entitled to yours. 542 00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,960 And we can still get along even though we have different ways of seeing a situation. 543 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,120 And that's a brain work we'll do for you. 544 00:28:29,120 --> 00:28:35,360 It will literally help you find your true authentic self and how you really see the world and 545 00:28:35,360 --> 00:28:40,560 it will make it so you can just accept and truly surrender. 546 00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:45,160 It's like that when you look at Maslow's hierarchy of all humans and basic needs, the 547 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:49,520 top is that transcendence where you can literally just gracefully move through life. 548 00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:50,640 We're all moving towards it. 549 00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,360 We all have different ways of trying to go about it. 550 00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:56,520 And for us, our biggest modality is the brain work. 551 00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,800 That'll take you to that point where you can let the little things go and you don't have 552 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:00,800 to be the hothead. 553 00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:01,800 I love not being a hothead. 554 00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:08,840 I love being a pacifist and I love being able to find both sides of the story. 555 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:13,880 I love being in the middle, navigating, mediating all these conversations and saying, I hear 556 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:18,400 you and I hear you and here's another way to see it too. 557 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:19,400 And I love that. 558 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:22,880 Before when I was the hothead, it was exhausting. 559 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:27,560 I did not like being waking up and going, okay, welcome to the battlefield today. 560 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:28,560 What am I going to tackle now? 561 00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:33,080 You know, that's not, it's not a fun situation for you or for anybody around you. 562 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:34,080 Right. 563 00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:35,640 And so I think the opposite of that is the avoider. 564 00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:38,200 So that's the person who's like, fawn. 565 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:39,840 So fight flight-free fawn. 566 00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:45,880 And like you said earlier, the fawn is abandoning yourself in order to keep the peace or to keep 567 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,480 a situation peaceful, right? 568 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:48,800 In general. 569 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:54,040 And that's a huge one and I think that a lot of people do this when they're people pleasers, 570 00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:58,800 when they're like overly agreeable, when there's kind of go with whatever the flow is, go with 571 00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,520 whatever's going on in order to not rock the boat, right? 572 00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:03,800 That's a big one. 573 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:08,240 And sometimes it gets to the point where they need to rock the boat for something that's 574 00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:09,680 going on in their life. 575 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,360 There's something, you know, these are the people that are going to end up being taken 576 00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:13,560 advantage of. 577 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,560 And these are the people that don't know where their boundaries are. 578 00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:19,720 And so at some point they need to put this boundary up. 579 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:24,920 They need to speak up for themselves, but they're physiologically not able to do so. 580 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:30,000 I honestly, I know someone very well that identifies with this. 581 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,720 And for me, I'm like, just have the conversation. 582 00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,720 And they're just like, I can't. 583 00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:39,000 I don't even know why, but my body is just not able to move through it. 584 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:43,840 And then what happens is then you start to get really sick because you're holding onto 585 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:47,040 this trapped energy that can't find its way out. 586 00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:49,320 And this is where we bring in the reconnects. 587 00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:52,360 That's the second part of our program that we dive into the subconscious. 588 00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:53,360 Why can't you? 589 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:54,360 Why can't you hold a boundary? 590 00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:55,360 Exactly. 591 00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:58,640 And I actually just had a conversation with this person and we're like, well, our parents 592 00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,040 never showed us what healthy boundaries look like. 593 00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:05,760 It was always like dancing around and then all of a sudden, what too far and then explosion 594 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:06,960 like that just crossed out. 595 00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:07,960 That's it. 596 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:08,960 Exactly. 597 00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:10,760 And you're like, and that's such a big thing. 598 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:14,320 Like so many people do that and they don't even notice and then they have these massive 599 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,880 explosions and that's also adrenaline. 600 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:21,200 And so they're used to operating that way and just like hold everything and hold it 601 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:25,640 in, hold it in, hold it in and then massive explosion and then hold it in, hold it in, 602 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:26,640 hold it in. 603 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:27,640 Right. 604 00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:28,640 So how many people do you know? 605 00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:32,280 I feel like people that are listening also, I know so many people that operate this way. 606 00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:36,120 So many families or relationships that operate this way. 607 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:37,120 And it's okay. 608 00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:41,960 Like, and this is where a lot of it is, we've talked about trauma before, we've talked about 609 00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,760 a lot of stuff is you are not what happened to you. 610 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,240 You are not the thoughts that are in your head. 611 00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:49,560 You are not the emotions you're feeling. 612 00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:54,320 Those are just things that are coming through you and we are big proponents of feel it, 613 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:58,960 let it come in you, feel the anger, feel the sadness, let it come in you and let it come 614 00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:04,600 out of you and doing it in a healthy, responsible way is the key part. 615 00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:08,520 And this is where brainwreck will help you get to that of being able to recognize, oh 616 00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:11,680 my gosh, I can't believe I've held that in for so long. 617 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:13,600 I'm ready to hold my boundary. 618 00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:19,680 And I know somebody who they held it in for 20 years and then they just got to that breaking 619 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:22,000 point and then it's extreme. 620 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:23,200 It's vengeance. 621 00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:28,480 It's doing behaviors that are like, whoa, that's very out of line with society and how 622 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,960 we see what you're doing. 623 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:32,800 And I've seen this happen. 624 00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:36,480 I'm watching someone go through this and it's just, it's really sad because you're like, 625 00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:42,000 I know that if you did your brain work, you would be able to say, hey, I didn't like how 626 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,000 that felt. 627 00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:44,240 Yes. 628 00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:47,400 And here's what I would like for you to say to me in the future. 629 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:51,200 But when you don't have those connections in your brain, I've experienced this 100 times 630 00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:52,200 when I'm like really sad. 631 00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,160 I'm like, I really want to hug, but I'm going to show up as a fight. 632 00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:59,400 Right now, I'm saying these things instead and be like, can you read my mind that I 633 00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:02,720 just need you to hold me like my four-year-old daughter does, right? 634 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:04,920 It's such a child thing I did. 635 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,440 And now when you're aware of it, you're like, oh, that's pretty fun. 636 00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:08,440 Yeah. 637 00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:12,520 And I think like, for example, a lot of people will do like, we have a friend who, I have 638 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:14,680 a friend who did the program. 639 00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:21,520 And one of her biggest changes was I'm able to actually say no and like, but it's boundry 640 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,480 that I remember when she said it, she was like, I don't know if this is like a good thing 641 00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:28,560 or if it's part of the program, but for me, it's a really good thing. 642 00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,600 And I was like, yes, this is great. 643 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:31,600 It's amazing. 644 00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:35,280 And you wouldn't think that it's like a positive thing to say no to people. 645 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:36,280 You know what I mean? 646 00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:40,680 But in the same, but it actually is because it's something that you've struggled with. 647 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:41,680 That's great. 648 00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,520 If it's the opposite where you're like, you always have boundaries and now you're saying, 649 00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:48,240 no, no, no, to more things and you're becoming more of like a hermit, which is something that 650 00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:53,240 I do often where I just like will shut down from the world. 651 00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:54,480 That's where I would become a problem. 652 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:55,480 Right. 653 00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:58,400 But if it's the opposite and this is something you've been wanting to be able to do, it's 654 00:33:58,400 --> 00:33:59,400 amazing. 655 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:03,640 And it's very common with these, um, fawn people. 656 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:07,320 And I think that sometimes goes hand in hand with the scatterbrain, which is another one 657 00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:12,240 of our, of our personality types because scatterbrains, I think a lot of the time because they're 658 00:34:12,240 --> 00:34:15,080 all over the place, they feel like they're not really tied down to things. 659 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:16,480 They'll also avoid things very often. 660 00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:20,000 No, it's kind of like that, the, that person who's kind of like flaky doesn't always want 661 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:21,440 to commit to things. 662 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:22,720 They're kind of all over the place. 663 00:34:22,720 --> 00:34:26,800 They're going to miss appointments, put everything, you know, to the last moment and procrastinate 664 00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,120 on everything possible. 665 00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:29,640 And that's also very similar. 666 00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:34,680 Well, I was going to say, actually, um, this kind of maybe open up a little debate here, 667 00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:38,760 but I was going to say that the, the voider is more like the victim because when they 668 00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:44,400 avoid the conversation and they're not willing to have the conversation, then the world is 669 00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:45,800 happening to them. 670 00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:50,680 And they just don't know why things keep happening to them because they were never able to stand 671 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:56,400 up for themselves and hold that line of this is okay for me. 672 00:34:56,400 --> 00:35:02,000 And I'm saying this because I know that person with the fawn personality traits very well. 673 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:06,200 And I, there were always a moment I was like, okay, this has to be like the rock bottom. 674 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:07,480 This has to be the it for you. 675 00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:11,560 This has to be the point where you're like, okay, now I'm done being a dormant, I am going 676 00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,360 to stand up for myself. 677 00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,400 And then something else would happen. 678 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:18,560 It's like, I don't know why it keeps happening to me. 679 00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:24,800 And that victim mindset is always the person who's seeing the glass half empty, seeing 680 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,640 what's wrong in the world. 681 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:33,160 They always have the doom and gloom personality because they haven't stood up to the world. 682 00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:35,960 They haven't said, Hey, this is who I am. 683 00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:37,640 I'm authentically myself. 684 00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:41,480 And I am going to say this is what I demand from the world around me. 685 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:46,440 And you don't do it like saying, everyone now needs to respond how I need them to respond. 686 00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:48,040 You're just doing it from the inside out. 687 00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:49,040 Right. 688 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:50,040 And we see that right now. 689 00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:55,720 We're just saying this is how I need you to address me so I feel good about myself. 690 00:35:55,720 --> 00:36:00,280 And again, that's that victim mindset where things are happening to me and you need to 691 00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:03,120 make your world uncomfortable to make me more comfortable. 692 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:04,520 Yeah, absolutely. 693 00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:08,800 And that's from a brain perspective, very much a survival response, right? 694 00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:09,800 It's a hundred percent. 695 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,240 I can only think about myself. 696 00:36:11,240 --> 00:36:17,200 And that's even when people get into labeling others as narcissists, for example, that person 697 00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,440 might not necessarily be an actual narcissist. 698 00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:23,240 I mean, there's a very small percentage of people that are truly diagnosed narcissists. 699 00:36:23,240 --> 00:36:28,640 They're acting in this way because their brain just does not allow them to see anything out 700 00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:29,640 of themselves. 701 00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:32,440 That is not to excuse people that are acting this way. 702 00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:36,480 It's to explain why for some people, this is just the way that they operate. 703 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:41,440 So everything seems like it's coming at you and it's directed at you and you are the victim 704 00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:44,480 of these things because that's just the way your brain is set up. 705 00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:50,840 So your primitive brain can only see things as a threat and an attack to you. 706 00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:55,120 When I was doing this work more and more, because I identified with at least every single 707 00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:58,720 one of these personality traits in my life. 708 00:36:58,720 --> 00:37:00,640 And I was like, oh, I was this, this and this. 709 00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:05,680 And now that I've come out of it, I'm not saying that I'm a perfect human, but now I 710 00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:10,040 can identify and I can explain, oh, no, I know why my response was that. 711 00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:13,120 And here's what I'm going to do about it to shift it for the future. 712 00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:19,040 And the part for me is now I can, it's hard sometimes to be in a group where you're like, 713 00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,320 okay, I can see the information happening. 714 00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:24,360 And again, we all have our own perception of what reality is, right? 715 00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:26,160 Who really knows what's actually happening? 716 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,360 It's just kind of trippy, like, do you see what I see kind of thing? 717 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,960 And like, I really go, do you see that trait? 718 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,640 Is it the same way that it looks to you? 719 00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:36,920 I don't know that I go into those weird spaces sometimes. 720 00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:41,720 But in reality is like, before I couldn't do that, like I couldn't think of the world 721 00:37:41,720 --> 00:37:42,720 that way. 722 00:37:42,720 --> 00:37:47,600 And now I can do this zoomed out version and go, okay, I see how everything's operating 723 00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:48,840 going down. 724 00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:53,720 I'm not going to take to heart when someone comes at me and attacks me because now I just 725 00:37:53,720 --> 00:37:54,920 go, oh, they're just projecting. 726 00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:57,040 I can see what's happening with them. 727 00:37:57,040 --> 00:38:00,600 And I'm going to hold space and send them love and compassion. 728 00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:03,600 And you know, if they get on board and all of a sudden want to take ownership for their 729 00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:04,600 behavior, awesome. 730 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,440 But if they don't, that's not my problem either. 731 00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,000 But I got to keep moving through it. 732 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,000 Yeah. 733 00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:12,440 And also it's okay to also feel annoyed by them in the moment and be like, ugh. 734 00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:13,440 You know what I mean? 735 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:18,000 Like I also feel like I don't want it to sound like we're saying we only have to hold grace 736 00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:19,880 and compassion for me all the time. 737 00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:20,880 Like feel your feelings. 738 00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:24,440 Like it's okay to be annoyed when you see people acting that way. 739 00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:25,680 I vent every time. 740 00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:26,680 Right? 741 00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:27,680 Yeah. 742 00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:28,680 Venting. 743 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,120 Righted down, you know, journaling, venting. 744 00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:32,760 You got to deal with it at one point. 745 00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:37,640 But then at this, but then when you get through that emotion of it, and then you can zoom 746 00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:42,400 out and then you could see it as like, okay, now I see why you're responding this way. 747 00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:45,640 Now you're able to hold more love and compassion. 748 00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:50,000 It's not easy, but that's going to get you closer to that top part of the pyramid of 749 00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:55,720 being able to transcend past all these things that are on the surface and really going, 750 00:38:55,720 --> 00:38:58,160 and Michael Singer did say this in his book on Tethered. 751 00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:03,560 He goes, we're all just like on this planet floating around for a short period of time. 752 00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:05,280 Like what are we going to spend our time doing? 753 00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:09,080 Is it to be a catty person and to talk about people behind their back? 754 00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:13,000 Or is it because you're here on this planet to like really make change and help humanity 755 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:17,440 and grow in some capacity and experience your life? 756 00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:18,440 Absolutely. 757 00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:19,440 Yeah. 758 00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:22,040 Versus experiencing other people's lives. 759 00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:27,000 And so this is where our main message here is that you are not the personality that you've 760 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:31,040 given yourself unless you are cool with it and you want to keep it, that's up to you. 761 00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:34,880 But if you're like, I've been the hothead, the overthinker, the perfectionist, the avoider, 762 00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:40,200 the scatterbrain, the victim, and none of it has ever given me that full feeling of authenticity 763 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:44,520 and this is my purpose, we're here to tell you that there is something you can do about 764 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:45,520 it. 765 00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:49,960 And all you have to do are some fun movements on the floor every day. 766 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,920 And then all of a sudden your brain's like, wow, life can be easier. 767 00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,640 And then we guide you through that in our program. 768 00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:56,880 It's 12 modules. 769 00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:58,120 You do them at your own pace. 770 00:39:58,120 --> 00:39:59,480 You have lifetime access. 771 00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:04,360 Our goal is for this to be a lifestyle where you wake up in the morning, you do your brainwork, 772 00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,520 you regulate your nervous system, you move on through your day. 773 00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:09,400 And it truly can be that simple. 774 00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:15,440 And I'm watching it with me, my kids, my parents, my fiance, his kids, everybody I know that 775 00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:20,000 in Paloma, right, because we talk about all the time, we are just moving through things 776 00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:23,080 just so much more gracefully and with ease. 777 00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:26,240 It doesn't mean we don't have challenges, but we have the tools now. 778 00:40:26,240 --> 00:40:28,920 We can now see a situation go, oh, I can work through this. 779 00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:30,360 I can handle this. 780 00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:33,320 Now I don't need my coping mechanisms like I used to. 781 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:37,040 But that is what we're trying to share is that you can shift your personal reality. 782 00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:41,320 You can, all the people who talk about manifesting, all the people who talk about regulating their 783 00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:44,200 nervous systems, we are a bottom up approach. 784 00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:48,320 We teach you these movements, your brain figures out how to do them more efficiently. 785 00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:51,040 And then all of a sudden life just gets easier. 786 00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:52,040 Yeah. 787 00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:53,920 You have that ability to zoom out like Danny was saying earlier. 788 00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:58,240 You have that moment where you can say, okay, let me look at it from the cortex. 789 00:40:58,240 --> 00:40:59,680 That's what we're called in the cortex. 790 00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:00,680 Am I right or am I right? 791 00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:01,680 Okay, great. 792 00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:05,360 Thank you so much for being with us in this episode. 793 00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:09,360 The social media rant that I'm going to go on, be ready for it. 794 00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:12,320 TikTok in underscore the underscore cortex. 795 00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:15,800 Instagram in the cortex underscore us. 796 00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:21,200 Facebook in the cortex us website in the cortex.com. 797 00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,960 Email hello at in the cortex.com. 798 00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:25,480 Email us with your amazing questions. 799 00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:26,960 Just like today's question. 800 00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:31,200 We really, 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