1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,280 Hi, and welcome to the In The Cortex podcast. 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:10,280 We are your hosts. 3 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:11,600 I'm Paloma Garcia. 4 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:13,640 And I am Danny Parakoni. 5 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:17,240 And we're the founders of In The Cortex, an online community with programs that show 6 00:00:17,240 --> 00:00:21,480 people the tools that they need to change their lives, their brain reorganization, no 7 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,880 medication, just movement. 8 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:28,080 When you get your brain out of survival mode and regulate your nervous system, you start 9 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:32,600 to live in the fun, logical part of the brain, the cortex. 10 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:36,520 Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life. 11 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:38,920 And now, on to today's episode. 12 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:44,160 Let's start out with a quick cortex moment from one of our members. 13 00:00:44,160 --> 00:00:45,160 My name is Lisa. 14 00:00:45,160 --> 00:00:47,600 I'm 65 years old. 15 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:52,880 Before brain work, one could describe me as a little too task-oriented, which led to anxiety 16 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:54,920 over getting things done. 17 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,880 This didn't allow for much spontaneity in my day. 18 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:04,480 This also led to a tendency toward being passive-aggressive versus communicating in a direct way. 19 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:09,840 I'd be secretly angry at my family members for not contributing to the tasks that were 20 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,080 important to me. 21 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,600 My cortex moments are as follows. 22 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,960 Recently I was invited to go to Colorado five days before the event. 23 00:01:17,960 --> 00:01:21,720 In the past, there was no way I could organize myself that quickly. 24 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:26,280 This time, I just had no angst about it and I just got into the car and drove. 25 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:31,560 We saw old friends along the way and it just all fell into place and it was a fantastic 26 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:32,560 trip. 27 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:34,880 I also noticed that I'm a calmer listener. 28 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:40,200 I'm more interested in what they are saying versus waiting to interrupt and share my experience. 29 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:45,080 I feel that I am more compassionate and in the moment during the conversation. 30 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:47,240 I'm getting better at letting things go. 31 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:49,560 I used to worry that things wouldn't get done. 32 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:55,320 Now I feel like they will when they are supposed to and I have released anxiety over it, which 33 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:58,880 has led to a lighter vibe around the house and it's a lot more fun. 34 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:04,120 I'm growing into being rather than doing, especially with my grandkids. 35 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:09,120 I can play without a time limit in my mind and really enjoy their natural curiosity and 36 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:10,120 creativity. 37 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:15,280 I also noticed that when playing pick-a-ball, my mind has slowed down and I have time to 38 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:20,720 think about my shots, where to place them, where to move my body in anticipation of receiving 39 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:22,880 their shot from my opponents. 40 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:24,880 It's pretty cool. 41 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:29,840 Today we're going to talk about crawling and the importance of crawling at any age. 42 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:35,360 But before we get started, we're going to go over some of our in the cortex terms. 43 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:40,480 When we talk about the pons, we're talking about that part of the brain that is wired 44 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,800 to go into fight or flight. 45 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:46,040 It's like that anxiety reactionary brain. 46 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:49,440 When we talk about the midbrain, which is actually what we're talking about today on 47 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:55,280 the PON Today's episode, we're talking about more of that organizational prioritization 48 00:02:55,280 --> 00:03:01,560 brain that maybe keeps us stuck in certain patterns of not being able to organize or 49 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:02,560 prioritize things. 50 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,760 When we talk about the primitive brain or the survival brain, we're talking about the 51 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:11,320 whole structure of the brainstem that is designed to react and keep us alive. 52 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:14,920 That goes hand in hand when we talk about survival mode, which is the mode that our 53 00:03:14,920 --> 00:03:19,720 brain goes into when it's in fight or flight and it's starting to react rather than respond 54 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:20,720 to the world. 55 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:21,720 It's trying to save us. 56 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:23,200 It's basically trying to keep us alive. 57 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:26,760 Our goal here is to create more compassion in the world and that we're all doing the 58 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:27,760 best we can. 59 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:30,960 When we explain all these terms, it's really just to help you understand the different 60 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:34,400 parts and components of what we talk about in the cortex. 61 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:39,360 We're going to break it down to help you make sense more of what these different parts mean. 62 00:03:39,360 --> 00:03:43,360 There's one more pillar that we talk about in the cortex and it's the subconscious beliefs. 63 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:44,760 It's the programming. 64 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:48,120 It's the way you see the world and why. 65 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:52,040 We really like to break that down and help you understand why is it that you always do 66 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:55,160 things that are showing that you don't love yourself. 67 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:57,600 We'll go deeper into that in other episodes. 68 00:03:57,600 --> 00:04:03,120 For today's episode, we are talking all about crawling in the midbrain. 69 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:04,520 This is a fun thing to say to people. 70 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:05,520 We do this all the time. 71 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:09,520 We always say, hey, I bet if you crawled on the floor on your hands and knees, we can 72 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:13,240 give you a really good glimpse into what your life looks like. 73 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:14,760 Most people are like, what? 74 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:15,760 Exactly. 75 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:18,920 They're very curious about it. 76 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:22,200 I think we talked about this in another episode too, where some people are like, cool, I'm 77 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:23,880 going to go do it right now. 78 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:25,520 Some people are like, what? 79 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,240 I don't want to talk to you anymore. 80 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:28,240 This is weird. 81 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:31,760 That also tells us a lot about your brain, by the way. 82 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:32,760 Oh, always. 83 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:33,760 Always. 84 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:40,200 Basically, getting on your hands and knees is the main position a baby would assume from 85 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,200 six to 12 months of life. 86 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:48,960 That is a very rough general estimate there on when you would be doing this sort of movement 87 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:51,680 that is constantly changing and evolving for each person. 88 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:54,440 But generally speaking, it's when a baby is crawling. 89 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:56,960 That's the first time they're defying gravity. 90 00:04:56,960 --> 00:05:02,440 It's really a significant time in putting a filter, basically, is the best way to say 91 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:04,960 it in the brain. 92 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:07,800 It's basically allowing for the brain to stay focused. 93 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:11,280 It's allowing for the brain to process information for what it is. 94 00:05:11,280 --> 00:05:16,560 It gives you that automatic function of being able to transition from one thing to the next, 95 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:22,960 blocking out unimportant sensory stimuli, helps to set the eyes up with the brain. 96 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:28,000 Literally, when we get you on your hands and knees and we watch you crawl, and we'll ask 97 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:33,320 you to do this in a minute, we'll ask you to look at what are your hands doing? 98 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:34,320 What are your feet doing? 99 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,120 How's your overall body movement going? 100 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,000 All of those pieces come together. 101 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:43,000 They give that expression of what's really happening in this part of the brain. 102 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:47,720 This is what's so cool is you could be any age from when you're starting to crawl as 103 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:49,600 a baby to 100 years old. 104 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:54,640 It doesn't matter because it just shows where did those automatic functions leave off and 105 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:58,880 maybe where do you not have enough of them totally hooked up and connected as they're 106 00:05:58,880 --> 00:05:59,880 intended to. 107 00:05:59,880 --> 00:06:03,360 That's the whole point is that they're supposed to be automatic, right? 108 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:07,240 When we're crawling, we're developing the midbrain. 109 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:11,200 If we don't crawl enough, then the midbrain doesn't fully develop. 110 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:13,960 These functions that we're going to talk about, we're going to give some more examples in 111 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:17,000 a little bit, are not automatic. 112 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:21,600 It's like all of the brain has to do this job that should be automatic. 113 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:27,080 You're just left with less bandwidth to really operate in your day-to-day life. 114 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:31,880 Today we're going to talk about what to look at when you're crawling. 115 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:34,480 That's the next piece of this. 116 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:35,960 Let's see what your crawl looks like. 117 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:39,560 Usually you're going to get down on your hands and knees, just have somebody watch you or 118 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:45,680 just become aware of how you're moving if you're alone and if somebody can make a video 119 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:48,480 of you even better. 120 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:52,440 You're going to look at your hands, you're going to look at your knees and your feet 121 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,880 or feel them as you're moving. 122 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:57,520 What are your hands doing? 123 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:02,480 If your hands, for example, are out to the side rather than your fingertips facing forward, 124 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:07,200 this means that your eyes do not team with each other. 125 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:11,920 Eye-teaming means that the eyes are looking at the same point at the same time. 126 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,960 If they're not teaming, then your eyes are looking at different points. 127 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:16,200 It might be very small. 128 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:19,920 You might not even be able to see this in the mirror when you look at your eyes, but 129 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:23,880 if they're not fully teaming, reading is going to be really hard. 130 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:25,840 Coordination is going to be really hard. 131 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:30,960 A lot of people that have challenges like dyslexia or other reading visual challenges 132 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:32,720 have eyes that are not teaming. 133 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:37,160 If your hands are out to the side, that means your eyes are not teaming. 134 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:40,520 Another thing to notice too is when they're not teaming and doing what they're supposed 135 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:42,960 to do, then that's when the brain comes online. 136 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:47,800 The cortex has to pick up the slack and then comes up with compensations. 137 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:49,760 Oftentimes we see people close one eye. 138 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,880 The eye that's not teaming will get closed. 139 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:57,560 Oftentimes we see kids that lay their head down on a desk and it looks like they're tired 140 00:07:57,560 --> 00:07:59,600 or sleeping, but they're not really tired or sleeping. 141 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:03,560 They're just trying to compensate by not having to have both of their eyes looking at the 142 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:08,680 paper because that is exhausting or you're someone who doesn't like to make eye contact 143 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:11,640 or it's really painful to make eye contact. 144 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:17,360 You look down at the ground and this is our big piece of helping parents and other people 145 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:20,880 understand when someone's looking away from you, they're actually paying better attention 146 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:23,920 than when they're trying to make eye contact. 147 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:28,440 Notice that never force the eye contact because then that's like, now I see two of you or 148 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:31,160 now it's really blurry and it's actually painful. 149 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:35,720 I totally used to feel that feeling of like, I have to stare at somebody really hard and 150 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:39,920 then all I'm thinking about is trying to see them and then I'm not listening to what they're 151 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:40,920 saying. 152 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:43,440 Yeah, you can't use your focusing so hard on making your eyes do something that's really 153 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:44,680 hard for them to do naturally. 154 00:08:44,680 --> 00:08:45,680 Exactly. 155 00:08:45,680 --> 00:08:46,680 Yeah. 156 00:08:46,680 --> 00:08:49,440 And then another one is when the hands are cupped when you're crawling. 157 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:51,760 I guess we say cupped or like tented. 158 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:56,000 So basically it's kind of like you're using your fingertip but your palm isn't really 159 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,240 touching the floor. 160 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:02,760 Basically what that means when you're crawling is that you might have sensory challenges. 161 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:07,760 So once again, if you notice that you're crawling that way, do you have challenges with like 162 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:14,320 tags in your shirt, maybe food textures, socks that are too tight, that kind of stuff. 163 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:17,840 That's usually something that goes hand in hand with this part of the brain because once 164 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:19,320 again, it's a filter, right? 165 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:24,840 So it should be able to help your brain not pay attention to that itchy tag or that tight 166 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:28,440 sock or that shoe that's maybe the opposite, right? 167 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:29,440 It's not tight enough. 168 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:33,480 And if this is what's going on with your crawl, then that means that the brain, the 169 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:37,680 midbrain is having to really, really work hard to do that, to filter that out and you're 170 00:09:37,680 --> 00:09:40,760 not able to and it really creates a challenge for you. 171 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:41,760 Exactly. 172 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:45,200 And remember, if you are listening right now and any of those things just hit home for 173 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:48,440 you, please know that there's no shame or judgment here. 174 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:53,400 We're just trying to educate that those are things that we get that people are experiencing 175 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:56,280 and they are normal in today's world. 176 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:58,320 It does not mean something is wrong with you. 177 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:02,000 And that's the biggest part is so many of us think that there's something wrong with 178 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:06,560 us because I can't wear those socks because the line drives me crazy all day. 179 00:10:06,560 --> 00:10:08,320 And that's all I can focus on. 180 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:12,640 So we're just here to help you understand that we get you and there's no judgment. 181 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:13,840 There's no shame here. 182 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:18,840 We can help support you through this because we were people who both were disturbed by 183 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:24,440 these things and now we can go on living our lives without them being showstoppers and now 184 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:27,960 we can move on and we're like, Hey, that doesn't bother me. 185 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:32,200 So the other part to look at when crawling are your feet. 186 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:37,840 The feet are really big indication as to what is going on with your focus. 187 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:43,520 Anytime we have any person get into the crawling position and their feet are up in the air, 188 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:46,720 we already know they have a really challenging time sitting still. 189 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:51,960 It usually tracks usually with the younger ones, but we always see even adults and it's 190 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:54,360 really uncomfortable to crawl on your kneecaps. 191 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:56,880 So it's not something that you're actually trying to do. 192 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:59,760 It's just where is your brain wired in that space? 193 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:05,000 And so what will happen over time as you crawl more, this is what's so cool about this work 194 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:09,920 is that as you crawl more, all of a sudden your brain finds a more efficient pattern 195 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:11,240 to move in. 196 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:15,040 And that's what that whole six to 12 months of life is designed to do is to create that 197 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:19,000 efficient power pattern to get from point A to point B in the room. 198 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:22,960 It's really when a baby is crawling towards something and when they first start out, it's 199 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:25,080 a really, you know, inefficient pattern. 200 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:30,000 And then as they get better at it, they get really fast and then they can just move through 201 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:34,200 and then that also lines up with all the functions that they're gathering at the same time. 202 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:40,800 So feet up in the air, feet can also be turned inward or the feet come outward. 203 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:44,640 And we're talking only about crawling right now, but there's something really important 204 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:50,440 to address that primitive reflexes are overlapping this movement at the same time. 205 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:54,760 So those are those automatic, constinctual movements Paloma mentioned earlier. 206 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:58,720 So oftentimes if you don't have a certain primitive reflex doing what it's supposed 207 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:03,360 to do or it went through the timeframe, it was supposed to go through, meaning you did 208 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:08,480 specific movements that activated the reflex, you did enough of it until your brain was 209 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:10,200 like, all right, cool, I'm done with that. 210 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:14,920 Now it can light dormant for when a real survival situation comes in play. 211 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:20,800 And if it doesn't do enough of that, then it's going to stay in a frozen pattern almost. 212 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:24,560 And it's almost like your body can't move through to the next developmental stage. 213 00:12:24,560 --> 00:12:27,720 We'll come back to this in a second when I share an example with my son. 214 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:29,160 But that's another big one to look at. 215 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:30,160 What are the feet doing? 216 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:36,040 Then you also want to look at how the hands and knees are being coordinated or not coordinated. 217 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:37,040 Right? 218 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:38,760 Are you moving the same side at the same time? 219 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:42,000 Or do you have a cross lateral pattern going? 220 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:45,560 That's going to tell us a lot about the left and right hemisphere connection that's going 221 00:12:45,560 --> 00:12:47,240 on in your brain. 222 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:53,280 And like we said before, the midbrain really does have a lot to do with helping create that 223 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:56,400 left and right connection in our brain because we need that, right? 224 00:12:56,400 --> 00:13:00,720 We need to be able to use both hemispheres at the same time very often. 225 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:02,960 And we really also just look at the overall body. 226 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:03,960 How is it moving? 227 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:04,960 Is it stiff? 228 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:06,960 Is the head looking forward? 229 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:09,720 Are you bringing your head kind of lower, right? 230 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:14,320 Are the shoulders like moving a lot and wiggling and the hips wiggling a lot? 231 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:17,920 Does it look like a uniform movement or is a little bit more scattered? 232 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:22,560 Overall, that's also going to tell us a lot about the percentage and how developed the 233 00:13:22,560 --> 00:13:24,480 midbrain is. 234 00:13:24,480 --> 00:13:30,360 So as we look at different parts of the crawl, we can really help you understand what is 235 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:32,720 getting in your way in your day to day life. 236 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:38,280 So to go back to the story I briefly mentioned about my son, when he was born, we had a lot 237 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:39,880 of other things that were going on. 238 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:42,520 So it wasn't just like it was one thing that happened. 239 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:47,880 There was a lot of me, the first time mom and the stressors of I really got caught up in 240 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:52,320 the comparison of comparing my child to everybody else's. 241 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:57,400 And I had this really big program in me that I had to have a super human child. 242 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:59,520 Because everyone's like, oh, Danny, you've been doing the brain work. 243 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:01,800 Your son's going to be incredible at everything that he does. 244 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:05,440 And I was like, OK, mission accepted. 245 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:08,640 But that was not natural nor normal. 246 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:10,080 And I googled everything. 247 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:12,360 And it always isn't normal when. 248 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:14,920 And so I had a ton of anxiety that came back on. 249 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:20,880 Because remember, your survival brain will come back on and come online when you are 250 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:27,600 in the perceived space of thinking something is a true survival situation. 251 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:31,240 So in order to get to that, well, lack of sleep is a huge one. 252 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:35,280 That will help turn that survival brain on in two seconds because your brain is now like, 253 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:38,320 oh, I don't have all my functions where they need to be. 254 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:39,320 I haven't rested. 255 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:40,720 I haven't gotten restorative sleep. 256 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:44,040 So now I perceive everything as an attack. 257 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:45,240 So I had that going on. 258 00:14:45,240 --> 00:14:46,840 And then I had challenges with breastfeeding. 259 00:14:46,840 --> 00:14:49,320 I mean, it was way harder than I ever imagined it being. 260 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:53,680 And I always saw every mom just like, whatever, put the baby to the boo, boom, done, no big 261 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:54,680 deal. 262 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:56,200 It's so much more than that. 263 00:14:56,200 --> 00:15:00,720 And there's so much more education out there that I did not seek because I didn't think it 264 00:15:00,720 --> 00:15:02,280 was going to be so hard. 265 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:04,040 So anyways, I had some challenges in that. 266 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:08,480 I was really hyper focused on doing everything super natural. 267 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:12,800 So I got really caught up in things and I had a lot of anxiety and I passed that down 268 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:14,560 to my son. 269 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:19,840 And we all have our moments where we think we're doing what we need to do to help support 270 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:20,840 the situation. 271 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:24,000 But my brain again was in survival mode. 272 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:31,600 So now we go to the time when my son was supposed to be crawling and he didn't get enough of 273 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:35,440 a specific movement because he had a lip and a tongue tie. 274 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:41,200 And that fascia in the mouth threw off all of his entire body because it connects from 275 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:43,160 the mouth all the way to the big toe. 276 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:47,200 So if it's tight in the mouth, it's going to create tension in the whole body. 277 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:53,120 So he wasn't fully able to extend and do certain reflex integration movements to help prepare 278 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:54,600 him for crawling. 279 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:58,440 So by the time he was ready to crawl, he had a leg out to the side. 280 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:01,560 He also had his anxious mom who was like, what's going on? 281 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:03,320 How can we not crawling with both your knees down? 282 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:04,320 This is so bad for business. 283 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:08,080 Oh my gosh, I was going to believe that I talk about crawling all day and every day because 284 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:10,520 my own son wasn't crawling the correct way. 285 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:15,040 And I have air quotes going on because, hey, we are all on a journey figuring this stuff 286 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:18,360 out and there's no perfect in any of this. 287 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:20,520 We are so perfectly flawed. 288 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:23,800 And it's about embracing this and then doing something about it. 289 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:30,600 So my son crawled with a kickstand crawl for his whole entire period of six or 12 months 290 00:16:30,600 --> 00:16:33,480 when he was supposed to be crawling with both knees down. 291 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:39,000 The symmetrical tonic neck reflex was the big reflex that was stopping that from happening 292 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:41,480 naturally, both knees being on the ground. 293 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:46,720 So anyways, I then took me on the journey of learning about the emotional stuff. 294 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:52,200 That's why we talk about the subconscious beliefs because that was what was driving my need to 295 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:54,200 have a perfect baby. 296 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:58,720 And that doesn't exist because why would I put that on a baby that's insane? 297 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:01,400 Anyways, in hindsight, it's all making sense. 298 00:17:01,400 --> 00:17:06,400 But right now I'm like, okay, so I needed to work on the emotional piece of releasing 299 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:08,440 my son to be his own human. 300 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:12,880 And as soon as I did that, I kid you not, both of his knees came down and he started crawling. 301 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:16,400 But by that time, he was about 11 months old, 11 and a half months old. 302 00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:18,480 So he was ready to start walking soon. 303 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:24,960 So now my son, who's seven years old, we have been going back and we bring the crawling 304 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:26,440 into our everyday life. 305 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:30,200 And it's amazing because now I use it as a baseline to see where his brain's at. 306 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:32,120 I also homeschool him. 307 00:17:32,120 --> 00:17:35,480 So I get to see, oh, his feet are up in the air right now. 308 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:36,760 Okay, that's interesting. 309 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:39,800 He must be feeling some stressors with certain things. 310 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:42,200 That's an indication his brain needs some more crawling. 311 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:48,040 And the cool thing about neuroplasticity is once you give the brain what it needs, all 312 00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:50,240 of a sudden everything comes online. 313 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:56,160 Whole point of neuroplasticity is giving your brain what it needs to process the world 314 00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:57,560 for what it is. 315 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:03,360 And we're in a world where we are living faster, bigger lives than we ever have before. 316 00:18:03,360 --> 00:18:06,680 So there's not as much of the rest and digest going on. 317 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:07,920 And there's so much go, go, go. 318 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:12,160 I mean, my son's got to get to soccer, got to go to school, got to go here, here, here. 319 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:16,080 So he's like, whoa, my system needs more downtime. 320 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:23,200 And so now that I recognize we know all these things, we give the brain what it needs. 321 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:24,800 We do our crawling, we do our brain work. 322 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:28,520 I watch us as feet come down as soon as his feet are dragging on the floor. 323 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:29,520 Okay, great. 324 00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:31,040 He's ready to go sit now. 325 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:32,520 And that's always a really important piece. 326 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:36,480 This is what we teach our educators who do our in-school program because now they can 327 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:43,960 understand, oh, that child is not ready to sit down or, for example, my son, we spent 328 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:50,040 the first two years, Kinder and first grade, just being able to sit at a desk and not melt 329 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:52,080 down when it was time to start reading and writing. 330 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:54,080 Because that was hard for him. 331 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:58,480 And now that he's seven years old, okay, now let's focus on the academic part. 332 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:03,720 So this is where we really want to help educate and break the model of like what is supposed 333 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:09,160 to be done at a certain timeframe because every system is so different, but the brain 334 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:15,240 in itself and where it's programmed and where it's connected is really going to help people 335 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:21,040 understand what each system is needing and that these movements, tangibly, you can see 336 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:22,640 them in front of your face. 337 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:25,480 If your hands are out to the side, reading is going to be hard. 338 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:28,480 If your feet are up in the air, don't expect that person to sit still because their brain's 339 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:29,480 like, how? 340 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:30,480 I don't know how. 341 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:31,600 It's not wired to do so. 342 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:36,840 Also, something that I wanted to mention is the fact that we think that everybody's brain 343 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:39,720 should be able to do everything in the same way. 344 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:45,840 Like no, some people are just more wired for movement, for example, right? 345 00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:47,920 They're always going to be so much better. 346 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:49,320 Like Axl, that's him. 347 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:50,320 Yeah. 348 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:51,320 So he's so coordinated. 349 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:56,480 So he's like the most coordinated child I've ever seen, the movements he does, the way 350 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:59,720 he jumps on things and he's like climbing a tree, but then he's running over there, 351 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:03,360 he's like doing like a backflip in the pool and like, what? 352 00:20:03,360 --> 00:20:08,760 But of course, his brain is more wired toward that and not as wired toward reading and writing. 353 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:13,800 So it's normal that it's going to be a little bit harder for him if that's not his predisposition, 354 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:14,800 so to speak, right? 355 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:19,760 Because we all have certain things that are just naturally, our brain is going to gravitate 356 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:21,240 more toward, right? 357 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:27,040 And so that's also a big thing when it comes to schools and organizations, et cetera, is 358 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:30,720 we have to understand that not everybody's going to process every single thing in the 359 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:33,680 same way and that's where learning styles really come in, right? 360 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:37,440 And that's something we talk about so much with our teachers and our homeschool parents 361 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:43,640 as well that our members is you have to find what that brain is going to need when learning 362 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:45,840 certain types of information, right? 363 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:50,240 In general, we want kids to be motivated by stuff that they're already interested in. 364 00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:52,840 That's just, you know, that just makes sense, right? 365 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:57,840 So let's talk now about some challenges that are associated with an underdeveloped midbrain 366 00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,800 and what you can do about it. 367 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:00,800 That's the number one thing. 368 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:06,720 I will start with saying the number one thing you can do about it is crawl. 369 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:10,840 That's always going to be our thing because brain reorganization is our passion. 370 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,000 We've seen it work time and time and time and time and time and time and time and time 371 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:15,000 and time again. 372 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,480 But let's talk about that now. 373 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:20,440 So for example, procrastination, that's a really common challenge for people with an 374 00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:26,680 underdeveloped midbrain like me, for example, because your brain just has so much stimuli 375 00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:30,040 coming in and doesn't know, doesn't have that filter, right? 376 00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:31,240 Calibrated. 377 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:38,280 So it does not know how to organize in order to get things done within the right time, 378 00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:39,280 right? 379 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:43,320 Within the timeline that you've set for yourself, whether it's a project or something you want 380 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,120 to do or whatever deadline is coming up. 381 00:21:46,120 --> 00:21:48,920 So your brain goes into that fight or flight mode. 382 00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:49,920 And guess what? 383 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,760 Calibration is flight to the max. 384 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:56,840 So it's like, I'm just not going to deal with it until I have no other choice. 385 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:04,480 I haven't spent so much time in college and even my grad program, just up until 5 a.m., 386 00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:09,280 writing that paper because you're like, 11.59 and you have to turn it in. 387 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:10,560 You're like, no. 388 00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:13,160 I mean, genuinely, it's happened so many times. 389 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:14,160 Yeah. 390 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:17,160 And there's something that goes in your brain where you're like, oh yeah, I'm just going 391 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:19,000 to start it at 11 p.m. 392 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:20,680 And I know it's going to be at 6 a.m. 393 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:22,520 But I know I'll have enough time to get it done. 394 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:23,520 And then you're doing it. 395 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:24,960 You're like, why did I do this to myself? 396 00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,280 Like, why am I stressing myself out? 397 00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:32,240 And it could have been so much better had I done it the week before and had time to reread 398 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:34,360 it and perfect every time. 399 00:22:34,360 --> 00:22:35,360 Yes. 400 00:22:35,360 --> 00:22:36,360 Yes. 401 00:22:36,360 --> 00:22:37,360 Yes. 402 00:22:37,360 --> 00:22:38,360 But that's that flight mode. 403 00:22:38,360 --> 00:22:41,160 And so a good thing to do, for example, if you're somebody who knows that you have a 404 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:45,280 tendency to procrastinate, is to find that motivation. 405 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:49,920 Find what's going to really, really, really get you going and attach it to that thing 406 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:50,920 that you've been avoiding. 407 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:51,920 Right? 408 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,840 And this is really much simpler to do with kids because you can just say, hey, when you 409 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:57,520 do this, you're going to get this. 410 00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:59,960 And that's great because they're usually super motivated by something. 411 00:22:59,960 --> 00:23:00,960 Right? 412 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,960 Kids usually have like one thing that they're really interested in, whether you have like 413 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:09,480 a point system going in your house or it's just a kid that really loves to do a certain 414 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,360 activity or whatever. 415 00:23:11,360 --> 00:23:15,600 And as an adult, you can also say, okay, I really love going to the movies and there's 416 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:17,840 this movie I really, really, really want to see. 417 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:21,280 I'm not going to watch it until I'm done with this one project. 418 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:26,360 And so that way you're motivating yourself because you're tying it to that reward. 419 00:23:26,360 --> 00:23:32,000 And that'll work as best as your brain is wired to do that because we will all find 420 00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:37,480 excuses to not get something done if we don't have that intrinsically within us. 421 00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:41,080 So that's why Paloma said the number one thing to do is your brain work because we're 422 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:42,080 obsessed. 423 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:43,080 We know it works. 424 00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:46,560 And, but if you're not ready to do that yet, you can try that tip, but you're only going 425 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:47,560 to get so far. 426 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:51,400 And we don't want to sound like we're negative in that space, but we both lived it. 427 00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:53,520 We both said, okay, this time I'm doing it differently. 428 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:58,520 How many times do people set up on yours resolution and it lasts literally a week? 429 00:23:58,520 --> 00:23:59,520 Right? 430 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:05,200 Or so many times that people say, oh, I'm going to do the brain work and then they get 431 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:06,200 through the first week. 432 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:07,880 They're like, oh, not enough has changed. 433 00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:14,120 It's because we are so connected to this instant gratifying world that we live in today. 434 00:24:14,120 --> 00:24:18,880 And it's a little terrifying to know that all of us humans at our fingertips could have 435 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:19,880 anything. 436 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:24,800 And really, if anything is really worth it, it takes time and energy to put into. 437 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:30,160 So that's why, and not to do too much about our program, but we have that plugged in. 438 00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:34,320 We know that you need that support to keep going and to motivate you. 439 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:38,240 So we have tons of support within the program of our accountability group. 440 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:39,240 We have a Facebook group. 441 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:41,920 We have all these different things that keep you going. 442 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,440 But ultimately it really comes down. 443 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:47,080 We're speaking to the people who really want change. 444 00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:48,880 And that's why the Maloma brought this up. 445 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:50,800 She was like, we tell people what we do. 446 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:52,560 We tell them by getting on the floor and crawling. 447 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,480 You can just see it in their face if they're like, okay, this is for me. 448 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:57,520 Or you're right, I'm out of here. 449 00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,600 We already know it's not for absolutely everybody. 450 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:04,160 But unfortunately, it comes to a point sometimes where people have tried to get 451 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:07,560 out of here, tried everything, and then they come to us after that. 452 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,960 We wish they would come before, but that's okay, because everybody's on their own 453 00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:12,560 journey and we respect that. 454 00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:13,560 And we are just so happy. 455 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:14,560 I mean, we love our members. 456 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:15,560 We're obsessed with them. 457 00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:22,880 Another thing that is huge with the midbrain, when the midbrain is underdeveloped, is impulse 458 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,400 control. 459 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:29,320 So being, for me, I mean, I'm giving you the adults kind of symptoms because I can't 460 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,160 really remember about this when I was a kid. 461 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:37,240 But I could not, and I talked about this last episode, I think too, walk into a store and 462 00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:40,080 not buy 40,000 things. 463 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:45,320 Like if it's a 7-Eleven, I'm buying snacks, I'm buying gum, I'm buying a water bottle, 464 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,440 I'm buying a soda for my friend. 465 00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:51,640 I'm buying like the most random things that are, I'm just going to end up never eating 466 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:52,640 them or never using them. 467 00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:57,800 If I walk into a Starbucks, I'm going to walk out with like a drink and a water bottle and 468 00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:03,160 a recyclable cup and a muffin and you know, I just can't, it was really hard for me. 469 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:07,760 That was one of the biggest things that was hard for me or just any sort of, if I wanted 470 00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:11,080 to, if somebody said something and I wanted to really respond immediately, I had to go 471 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:12,080 for it right immediately. 472 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:17,360 So I walked through things and then responding was really, really hard for me. 473 00:26:17,360 --> 00:26:20,680 And I'd gotten a little bit of some awkward situations sometimes, especially with the 474 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:24,320 social part of like, you know, just kind of going for it. 475 00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:29,320 And that's a huge one because again, your midbrain is that filter and it's giving you 476 00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:32,480 that pause to say, that's not important right now. 477 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,720 You don't have to answer that right now. 478 00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:37,160 You don't have to respond to that email immediately. 479 00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:41,120 You don't have to buy every single thing you've ever seen in your life, right? 480 00:26:41,120 --> 00:26:42,120 That's one thing. 481 00:26:42,120 --> 00:26:45,600 And that also kind of goes with that all or nothing thinking because that's another, 482 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:50,000 which is another challenge that is related to an underdeveloped midbrain is you're like, 483 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:53,640 I have to do everything all the time or I'm doing nothing, right? 484 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:58,000 And so that makes a lot of things really hard because you think everything that goes hand 485 00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:03,280 in hand with that perfectionism, you think everything has to be 100% perfect 100% of 486 00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,880 the time or it's just nothing, right? 487 00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:12,320 So for me, implementing new habits, changing anything about my routine, anything new was 488 00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:16,200 really, really, really hard to implement because it had to be perfect or I wasn't going to 489 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:17,200 do it. 490 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:21,680 And the second I didn't do one piece of my new routine of my new habit, my new whatever, 491 00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:26,040 I would just stop completely and then have to find the motive. 492 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:27,040 It all goes hand in hand, right? 493 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:30,680 Cause then you have to have motivation to start again, cause you procrastinate, procrastinate, 494 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:31,680 procrastinate. 495 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:37,520 Then that also goes into transitions being really hard because it takes being able to 496 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:42,680 transition from one activity to the next in order to start to implement new things into 497 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:43,680 your life, right? 498 00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:49,120 Cause you get stuck and that's the biggest thing is you get stuck in these patterns that 499 00:27:49,120 --> 00:27:55,000 you've been in for so long because the neurological connection is so, so, so strong and it's just 500 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,800 easier to just go with you, what you've always been doing. 501 00:27:57,800 --> 00:27:58,960 So much. 502 00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:03,520 And honestly, so the main thing here is that dopamine and serotonin production that comes 503 00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,680 from this part of the brain, if you're not getting enough of it, that's why you're seeking 504 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:09,240 out those extra things to go give you that boost. 505 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:13,680 Like all, all kids want that new toy just for like a hot second, right? 506 00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:18,040 Just to give them that boost of thinking they're going to feel better in having it and then 507 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:19,040 it wears off. 508 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:23,360 And now we have toys scattered throughout the house because nothing's ever enough to 509 00:28:23,360 --> 00:28:28,640 really fulfill that, you know, boost of what you need from the chemical standpoint. 510 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:32,120 And then that's also two tapping into your subconscious beliefs, right? 511 00:28:32,120 --> 00:28:36,720 So if you were the all or nothing thinker, maybe your parents told you one time when 512 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:40,640 you were six years old, like, Oh, is that the best you can do? 513 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:42,280 And then that stuck in your head. 514 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,280 And then all of a sudden you're like, Oh, well, then I'm not even going to try if I 515 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:46,680 can't even succeed. 516 00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:49,120 And that's what we see so many times, right? 517 00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,560 Kids just shut down because they're like, I'm just going to get criticized anyway. 518 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:54,320 So what's the point of trying? 519 00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:58,400 Or the opposite, which is what happened with me where it was like, you're so smart. 520 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:00,680 You're so great at everything. 521 00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:03,440 Every single thing you're ever going to do is going to be so easy for you because you 522 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:07,280 are just amazing in every single way. 523 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,760 And so whenever something was hard for me, I'd be like, but bye. 524 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:11,760 I can't fail. 525 00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,720 I'm not right in that. 526 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:20,040 And that's honestly too, there's that book called Nurture Shock and it talks about kids 527 00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:24,920 who are just given too much just positive reinforcement about just general things. 528 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,840 They have like being good. 529 00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:30,160 And then they never want to actually try and effort their way through things because they're 530 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:31,160 like, I'm just smart. 531 00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:32,200 I don't need to work that hard. 532 00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,560 If this is hard, then it's not for me. 533 00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:37,840 And so there's a lot of, there's so much overlap. 534 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:42,440 We talk about primitive reflexes, pawns, midbrain, that's the creeping, the crawling, and then 535 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:43,440 the subconscious belief. 536 00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:47,360 So what we do it in the cortex is help you break down where that's coming from. 537 00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,480 So then you know exactly how to work yourself through it. 538 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:55,200 But we always say you have to be out of that survival state before you can even look at 539 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,680 the emotional stuff driving you. 540 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:04,640 And this is where other things that come from the midbrain, the prioritization stuff, my 541 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:09,800 favorite one, before I go into prioritization, my favorite one that I think we can all relate 542 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:10,800 to. 543 00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:12,400 We've all done it at one point in our lives. 544 00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:15,680 Just think about it when you say, huh, or what? 545 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:19,760 After somebody just says something, you know exactly what that person just said. 546 00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:20,960 We've all done this. 547 00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:25,040 We're just buying ourselves a little bit more time to process the information. 548 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:26,600 Tune into the next time you hear that. 549 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,840 There's always that person who does it all the time. 550 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:34,840 And that's something that you just sit there and pause, don't actually answer or repeat 551 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:35,840 yourself. 552 00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:39,360 Just let them sit there and process it and then they'll come on like, oh yeah, that's 553 00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:40,840 what I thought it was or whatever. 554 00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,720 The difficulty prioritizing certain tasks. 555 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:50,120 And then this also carries over into so many times we have so many people who get so amped 556 00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,640 and ready like, I'm ready for change. 557 00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:55,400 And then they start three different things at once. 558 00:30:55,400 --> 00:31:01,320 And then they go, well, I don't know what actually helped me. 559 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,560 So I'm just going to give up on doing all three of them. 560 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:05,360 So we start so many projects. 561 00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,920 We never finish them, follow them through because we can't prioritize. 562 00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:10,520 We always over, I did this. 563 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:11,920 This was myself, Sabatash. 564 00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:13,480 I would put too much on my plate at once. 565 00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:14,480 I was like, humanly possible. 566 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:18,320 And I was like, I don't know why I'm so tired or why I can't get anything done. 567 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,320 Oh, I don't know. 568 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:22,400 It was maybe because I just adopted a horse and I didn't even have like the means or 569 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:23,920 ability to handle a horse. 570 00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,240 And we're sitting here going, why are you doing that? 571 00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:30,080 That was very recent where I was like, why don't we have a thoroughbred? 572 00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,280 This is actually really comical. 573 00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:33,280 It's actually not. 574 00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:35,000 She now has a really wonderful home. 575 00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:40,200 But it was that moment of like, why do I keep putting more things onto my plate? 576 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:44,080 The good news is that Paloma and I are in the trenches. 577 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,800 We are doing all the daily work with our members. 578 00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:56,440 We are committing our days and noticing, wow, we haven't intentionally done the brain work 579 00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:58,440 as much as we are right now. 580 00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:01,880 Now that we've been doing it more intentional for the past five weeks, we're like, oh my 581 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:05,080 gosh, all of these things just got easier for us. 582 00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,200 We're like, what about the systems for in the cortex? 583 00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,200 Like all the things, we're putting them in place. 584 00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:12,960 We're doing the things and we're seeing that life is now getting easier. 585 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,240 The weight is being lifted off of us. 586 00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:19,920 So we have more bandwidth and we have the ability to just get through our day without 587 00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,320 completely freaking out and just falling apart. 588 00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:24,040 And I was more of that. 589 00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:28,680 That's just to show that everybody needs to just keep doing this. 590 00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:35,200 It's not going to, your challenges don't define you, but they're also not always going to 591 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:36,200 go away 100%. 592 00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:37,200 Right? 593 00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:38,200 Like this is some stuff. 594 00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:41,400 Like in the beginning, some people are just wired in a certain way. 595 00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:45,800 And so you might be wired more toward anxiety, wired more toward procrastination, wired more 596 00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:47,200 toward whatever. 597 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:51,080 And sometimes it's just part of what your life is going to keep throwing at you. 598 00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:55,280 And you need to also have that moment of, and this goes into the all or nothing thinking 599 00:32:55,280 --> 00:33:00,000 a little bit, is like being okay with like sometimes off the wagon, so to speak. 600 00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:01,000 It's okay. 601 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,400 I'm not doing my brain work and it's fine. 602 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:03,960 It's not the end of the world. 603 00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:05,560 And we talk about this all the time. 604 00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:10,200 So just kind of to exemplify that we do this and like we live this life and we're also 605 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:13,040 still having a lot of stuff that happens in our lives. 606 00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:14,960 It's just not debilitating anymore. 607 00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:20,120 That's the biggest change that we've noticed is that even when we do have these challenges, 608 00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,840 it's not going to stop everything in our tracks, right? 609 00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:27,880 It's not going to put us back into that intense survival mode where we can't do anything else. 610 00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:28,880 Right. 611 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:32,440 And that's honestly the best way to look at life because life doesn't stop happening. 612 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,960 Life just gets like, and as we get older, we notice we have more demands being put on 613 00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:38,920 us, more things that we're expected to do. 614 00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:42,640 And this is where a lot of people, you know, might say, oh, I'm having a midlife crisis, 615 00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:43,640 right? 616 00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:45,960 But it's actually just like your, your compensations are running out. 617 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:49,840 Like you just cannot keep up with what's happening anymore. 618 00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:53,960 So you just kind of like fall off completely, go off the handle and everyone's like, whoa, 619 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:54,960 what happened to that? 620 00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:58,200 And we see it as like we are brain just couldn't keep up anymore. 621 00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:03,640 And we all have a point where we eventually break if we have a disorganized brain. 622 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:09,880 And so, and we have only met two people in our 13 years of doing this that have totally 623 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:11,760 developed while I've met two. 624 00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:17,160 I, I'm one, one was a little boy before we were together and he was like 13 and he got 625 00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,080 on the floor and crept like I've never seen a creeper go. 626 00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,920 And I was like, well, it does exist to totally develop brain. 627 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:24,320 So that's very good news. 628 00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,360 And then we met someone more recently in Australia. 629 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,720 We're like, yep, that's an organized brain. 630 00:34:28,720 --> 00:34:30,560 So there are organized brains out there. 631 00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:31,560 Yes. 632 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:35,480 We don't talk to them because they're not looking for help. 633 00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,960 We are talking to the people who are like, wow, life's harder than it needs to. 634 00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:42,320 And it turns out the majority of us are in that category. 635 00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:45,320 We all are working harder than we need to. 636 00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:46,600 And there is relief. 637 00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:48,600 There is something you can do about it. 638 00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:51,880 And my favorite part about it is that you can do it at home. 639 00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:54,520 You don't have to go to see anybody else. 640 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,040 It's a completely affordable option. 641 00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:57,920 We were just talking about this in office hours. 642 00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:02,760 Wouldn't it be great to go to chiropractors, acupuncturists, all, you know, all the amazing 643 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:06,280 things that are out there, but it costs thousands of dollars. 644 00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:09,520 And that's the part that stops a lot of people, right? 645 00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,800 They're like, well, I can't afford to constantly keep seeing somebody. 646 00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,800 And we're telling you, you know, you have all the tools that you need within you. 647 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:16,800 So if you're... 648 00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:17,800 We're just telling you how to use them. 649 00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:18,800 You have the tools. 650 00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:19,800 Exactly. 651 00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:21,720 And we're just sharing you the simple ways to do it. 652 00:35:21,720 --> 00:35:27,200 And guess what? you have to keep doing it to keep your system regulated, but it's manageable. 653 00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:28,400 And it's so easy. 654 00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,400 And even my four-year-old's like, oh, I'm going to go do my creeping. 655 00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:32,560 So it's possible. 656 00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:37,320 And if you are wanting to find out what's going on with your crawl, because you're like, 657 00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:38,400 okay, I took a video. 658 00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:41,640 This isn't really making sense because it does take some trained professional to look 659 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:44,400 at it and kind of give you a breakdown of what's happening. 660 00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:45,400 Tag us. 661 00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:49,840 To tag us in a video of you crawling on social media, we'd love to get these videos because 662 00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:53,720 then we can stitch your video and give you a little bit of a breakdown of what it means 663 00:35:53,720 --> 00:35:57,200 for your brain and what your percentage of development is. 664 00:35:57,200 --> 00:36:04,320 Instagram in the Cortex underscore us, tick tock in 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