WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.399 You ever feel like you can fix everyone's skin, 00:00:02.500 --> 00:00:05.179 but your own? Like you know what to do, but your 00:00:05.179 --> 00:00:07.700 face just isn't cooperating. And suddenly you're 00:00:07.700 --> 00:00:10.640 questioning if clients will even trust you. I've 00:00:10.640 --> 00:00:15.439 been there. Today we're talking about the pressure 00:00:15.439 --> 00:00:18.039 to have perfect skin as an esthetician and why 00:00:18.039 --> 00:00:21.140 that mindset needs to go. Let's get into it. 00:00:21.160 --> 00:00:23.420 If you're new here or you're coming back for 00:00:23.420 --> 00:00:26.079 more, welcome to Beauty Babble where we talk 00:00:26.079 --> 00:00:28.320 shop about the real stuff behind running a beauty 00:00:28.320 --> 00:00:31.059 business. I'm Doreen, a brand and content strategist 00:00:31.059 --> 00:00:34.200 and former esthetician. And I'm Suzanne, Sadesco 00:00:34.200 --> 00:00:37.060 certified esthetician with over 30 years, former 00:00:37.060 --> 00:00:39.719 spa owner, and now educator mentor to beauty 00:00:39.719 --> 00:00:43.119 pros. So today we're talking about that expectation. 00:00:43.479 --> 00:00:45.119 It's not written anywhere, but I think it's in 00:00:45.119 --> 00:00:47.780 all our heads that as an esthetician, you should 00:00:47.780 --> 00:00:50.880 have perfect skin. And if you don't, that you're 00:00:50.880 --> 00:00:54.700 not going to be trusted with clients. And you 00:00:54.700 --> 00:00:59.399 might in yourself feel uneasy and insecure about 00:00:59.399 --> 00:01:02.179 your own skin. Well, this is something I think 00:01:02.179 --> 00:01:05.040 we all have to realize. It happens. Breakouts 00:01:05.040 --> 00:01:08.680 do happen. And I understand that some people 00:01:08.680 --> 00:01:11.780 have a lot more difficulties having it more often 00:01:11.780 --> 00:01:15.189 than other people do. And I think it's a perfect 00:01:15.189 --> 00:01:20.090 time to be vulnerable and share that information 00:01:20.090 --> 00:01:23.129 directly to your clients, especially on social 00:01:23.129 --> 00:01:26.930 media. If you can do it, you're just gonna be, 00:01:27.569 --> 00:01:30.450 how do I say that? You're gonna resonate with 00:01:30.450 --> 00:01:33.189 somebody out there for sure, and more than what 00:01:33.189 --> 00:01:36.030 you realize. And I get that people will judge. 00:01:36.290 --> 00:01:39.129 You can't change that. People will always judge. 00:01:39.530 --> 00:01:41.590 It's been around forever and will continue in 00:01:41.590 --> 00:01:44.150 the future, I'm sure. But like I said, I think 00:01:44.150 --> 00:01:46.510 you're going to resonate to somebody out there 00:01:46.510 --> 00:01:49.530 or to many that that get it, right? They're doing 00:01:49.530 --> 00:01:53.310 everything they can. And it's still I still break 00:01:53.310 --> 00:01:55.409 out every month or I still have these breakouts 00:01:55.409 --> 00:01:57.590 that keep consistently happening. Why isn't this 00:01:57.590 --> 00:02:00.090 happening to other people? And if you relate 00:02:00.090 --> 00:02:03.290 to it and I think you could also, you know, look 00:02:03.290 --> 00:02:05.269 at it and dive a little deeper into yourself 00:02:05.269 --> 00:02:07.870 and say, well, OK, I'm going to look at this 00:02:07.870 --> 00:02:10.330 month is, you know, what's my stress level? Am 00:02:10.330 --> 00:02:13.979 I sleeping right? not right, but am I sleeping? 00:02:14.139 --> 00:02:15.960 I guess that's a better way. So you're resting 00:02:15.960 --> 00:02:20.099 properly. And you know, this happening with me 00:02:20.099 --> 00:02:23.099 hormonally, like I remember even clients, like 00:02:23.099 --> 00:02:26.120 you're probably out there helping many people 00:02:26.120 --> 00:02:29.860 with this same issue. So what are you telling 00:02:29.860 --> 00:02:33.520 them to do? And have you been able to do it yourself? 00:02:33.580 --> 00:02:36.400 I think that's something that we forget. We're 00:02:36.400 --> 00:02:38.960 so busy focused on everyone else, because that's 00:02:38.960 --> 00:02:41.509 what we do, we service, right? that we're not 00:02:41.509 --> 00:02:43.490 taking care of ourselves so I think if you step 00:02:43.490 --> 00:02:45.729 back and look at that first and then say you 00:02:45.729 --> 00:02:48.090 know what this month I'm gonna do this I gave 00:02:48.090 --> 00:02:51.669 advice to my client Betty and I'm gonna do it 00:02:51.669 --> 00:02:55.310 myself as well for this month and whatever that 00:02:55.310 --> 00:02:58.389 might be but I think you have to look at if you 00:02:58.389 --> 00:03:02.530 can figure out what it is that's causing it and 00:03:02.530 --> 00:03:05.449 then going from there take a step back and what 00:03:05.449 --> 00:03:08.810 would you do for your client yeah I think that 00:03:08.810 --> 00:03:11.990 it's a good point to Look at this as a learning 00:03:11.990 --> 00:03:15.340 and of course. doing what I do I'm like oh this 00:03:15.340 --> 00:03:19.400 is content you guys great document it and listen 00:03:19.400 --> 00:03:21.379 if you're feeling insecure about your skin you're 00:03:21.379 --> 00:03:23.520 not going to want to be on camera but you don't 00:03:23.520 --> 00:03:27.319 have to necessarily be on camera just write down 00:03:27.319 --> 00:03:30.439 your experience write down what you've done see 00:03:30.439 --> 00:03:33.280 what's working and what's not and then you can 00:03:33.280 --> 00:03:35.719 talk about it whether it's like on screen text 00:03:35.719 --> 00:03:38.180 while you have a visual of a facial on someone 00:03:38.180 --> 00:03:42.120 else or you can relate to a client verbally face 00:03:42.120 --> 00:03:45.180 to face about, you know, this is what I've experienced 00:03:45.180 --> 00:03:47.979 and this is what's worked for me. I think that 00:03:47.979 --> 00:03:52.319 you can become your own client and go through 00:03:52.319 --> 00:03:55.340 an intake form with yourself and go through all 00:03:55.340 --> 00:03:59.060 those steps. But really looking at it in terms 00:03:59.060 --> 00:04:02.560 of like, how can I help my clients by helping 00:04:02.560 --> 00:04:06.419 myself? Because that I think will lend itself 00:04:06.419 --> 00:04:10.439 to both. I think another thing that I would suggest 00:04:10.439 --> 00:04:14.560 too is to get yourself an esthetician. You know 00:04:14.560 --> 00:04:16.939 talk to somebody else about it because sometimes 00:04:16.939 --> 00:04:19.680 you're so close to the issue that you can't zoom 00:04:19.680 --> 00:04:22.860 out and take a look and two brains are better 00:04:22.860 --> 00:04:25.199 than one. So maybe it's somebody else's approach 00:04:25.199 --> 00:04:27.399 that you're like oh yeah and it worked for you 00:04:27.399 --> 00:04:29.540 and then you can adapt it as well. So I think 00:04:29.540 --> 00:04:32.620 that is or go see a dermatologist. Yeah and I 00:04:32.620 --> 00:04:35.629 think reaching out to somebody else Whether you're 00:04:35.629 --> 00:04:38.290 working with other people or is there someone 00:04:38.290 --> 00:04:41.769 else you follow, you know, it doesn't hurt to 00:04:41.769 --> 00:04:44.209 do that to see what that is because occasional 00:04:44.209 --> 00:04:47.069 breakouts do happen. If you are consistently 00:04:47.069 --> 00:04:49.850 breaking out, then there's something else going 00:04:49.850 --> 00:04:52.990 on for sure. And you're right, like go see a 00:04:52.990 --> 00:04:55.050 professional, go see a dermatologist, see what's 00:04:55.050 --> 00:04:58.810 going on. It could be hormonal. I remember having 00:04:58.810 --> 00:05:01.370 one staff member that was so upset because she's 00:05:01.370 --> 00:05:04.730 breaking out and go, you're pregnant. you just 00:05:04.730 --> 00:05:06.829 got to get through the next nine months and if 00:05:06.829 --> 00:05:08.990 you're going to nurse after you got to wait for 00:05:08.990 --> 00:05:11.529 that and then wait for all the hormones to settle 00:05:11.529 --> 00:05:14.490 but for in the meantime you want to prevent the 00:05:14.490 --> 00:05:17.110 scarring you want to help it heal like those 00:05:17.110 --> 00:05:21.029 are things you can do and you know those those 00:05:21.029 --> 00:05:23.910 flare -ups can happen but again like I said a 00:05:23.910 --> 00:05:26.949 lot of it is stress related especially in our 00:05:26.949 --> 00:05:29.509 society today we all seem a little bit stressed 00:05:29.509 --> 00:05:32.569 about something right but I think if you take 00:05:32.569 --> 00:05:35.399 a step back and just reanalyze, what would you 00:05:35.399 --> 00:05:37.660 say to a client? Like if you say out loud, yeah, 00:05:37.660 --> 00:05:39.720 but I'm doing that. Well, have you tried this? 00:05:39.759 --> 00:05:42.019 What would you keep doing with your client? Would 00:05:42.019 --> 00:05:44.899 you give up on your client? You know, so I think 00:05:44.899 --> 00:05:47.480 it's hard to step out of ourselves and do that. 00:05:48.120 --> 00:05:50.899 But yeah, I think looking at it from a different 00:05:50.899 --> 00:05:52.980 perspective, like if you're looking at it from 00:05:52.980 --> 00:05:55.279 the fact that I'm going to get judged and I'm 00:05:55.279 --> 00:05:57.060 not going to be trusted with my client's skin, 00:05:57.339 --> 00:06:01.060 or I'm going to be able to relate to my client's 00:06:01.060 --> 00:06:04.600 struggles. If, you know, if I'm a client that 00:06:04.600 --> 00:06:07.560 is struggling with my skin, maybe I would be 00:06:07.560 --> 00:06:10.019 more intimidated to go see somebody who's got 00:06:10.019 --> 00:06:12.600 perfect skin and they wouldn't know what I'm 00:06:12.600 --> 00:06:15.339 going through. Like it could be a point of connection 00:06:15.339 --> 00:06:19.459 because people do relate to real people and their 00:06:19.459 --> 00:06:22.220 struggles. They don't relate to perfect Instagram 00:06:22.220 --> 00:06:25.500 pictures. It's your story that's going to be 00:06:25.500 --> 00:06:29.410 more relatable. Which is so much more now. because 00:06:29.410 --> 00:06:32.189 everyone knows that a lot of Instagram is all 00:06:32.189 --> 00:06:36.329 filtered, right? It's not truly perfect. It's 00:06:36.329 --> 00:06:39.129 so perfect that it's not truly what they look 00:06:39.129 --> 00:06:41.730 like outside of them. And I guess you could say, 00:06:42.029 --> 00:06:44.509 but I think if you look at it and flip it, like 00:06:44.509 --> 00:06:47.230 you said, is one narrative to do. And the other 00:06:47.230 --> 00:06:50.410 is, here's a thought. Do you have a client that 00:06:50.410 --> 00:06:54.149 actually is maybe a health wellness person or 00:06:54.149 --> 00:06:58.199 you can speak with? a nurse or anybody that you 00:06:58.199 --> 00:07:00.740 have currently as clients or ask your clients 00:07:00.740 --> 00:07:02.759 do you know anybody because there could be something 00:07:02.759 --> 00:07:05.540 going on with your own gut health your own inside 00:07:05.540 --> 00:07:07.759 of your body because eventually these cycles 00:07:07.759 --> 00:07:09.980 they'll come out you're you know they always 00:07:09.980 --> 00:07:12.519 say what's inside is going to come out through 00:07:12.519 --> 00:07:15.180 our hair skin and nails it's the way it's going 00:07:15.180 --> 00:07:17.839 to show up i think that's something you could 00:07:17.839 --> 00:07:20.639 do too is talk to someone else about it and it 00:07:20.639 --> 00:07:23.290 could even be that I think when it's a point 00:07:23.290 --> 00:07:26.870 of like something that bothers you and it's a 00:07:26.870 --> 00:07:29.949 sensitive topic, you become more concerned and 00:07:29.949 --> 00:07:33.589 stressed about it. And it almost makes it bigger. 00:07:33.689 --> 00:07:35.970 So kind of just like being kind to yourself, 00:07:36.310 --> 00:07:38.470 being gentle with the way you talk about yourself 00:07:38.470 --> 00:07:40.970 and you talk about your skin. It's like how would 00:07:40.970 --> 00:07:43.689 you talk to a friend or a client? But what would 00:07:43.689 --> 00:07:45.850 you say to them if they were feeling what you 00:07:45.850 --> 00:07:48.759 were feeling about your skin? Having that kind 00:07:48.759 --> 00:07:51.019 self -talk because I do think that it it just 00:07:51.019 --> 00:07:54.579 helps shift your mindset as well Yeah, and like 00:07:54.579 --> 00:07:58.339 you said, I think it's you're gonna be more Relatable 00:07:58.339 --> 00:08:01.379 to a lot of people and I think that's a part 00:08:01.379 --> 00:08:02.959 of it Especially if you were one of the ones 00:08:02.959 --> 00:08:05.120 that have always had an issue with breakouts 00:08:05.120 --> 00:08:07.480 because it's out there, right? It just is what 00:08:07.480 --> 00:08:10.620 happens, but there are there is solutions to 00:08:10.620 --> 00:08:13.560 it It's a puzzle and you got to dive hard into 00:08:13.560 --> 00:08:15.879 it to figure it out and don't give up and be 00:08:16.360 --> 00:08:18.980 you know, compassion with yourself, being consistent 00:08:18.980 --> 00:08:22.680 with yourself, not to panic, all these things 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:26.060 that you'd probably say to your client. And let's 00:08:26.060 --> 00:08:28.800 try this and you know, it's gonna take time and 00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:30.920 you know, all these things like that. But I think 00:08:30.920 --> 00:08:34.440 that's a big part of it that you can help somebody 00:08:34.440 --> 00:08:37.710 else do that as well. Absolutely. And we want 00:08:37.710 --> 00:08:40.669 to hear from you. If you've gone through a similar 00:08:40.669 --> 00:08:43.110 experience, what's worked for you? What have 00:08:43.110 --> 00:08:45.629 you done to help yourself through it? Or what 00:08:45.629 --> 00:08:48.029 kind of advice would you give as statisticians 00:08:48.029 --> 00:08:50.830 in this situation? Let us know in the comments. 00:08:52.549 --> 00:08:54.210 Thanks for listening to Beauty Babble.