WEBVTT 00:00:03.950 --> 00:00:08.710 All right, welcome to episode number 99 of the 00:00:08.710 --> 00:00:13.369 Dan time podcast Dan McCardell here at Dan time 00:00:13.369 --> 00:00:17.149 pod Instagram Facebook YouTube a little bit of 00:00:17.149 --> 00:00:20.109 X occasionally Thank you for listening to the 00:00:20.109 --> 00:00:24.149 show all these many weeks and coming up on two 00:00:24.149 --> 00:00:28.629 years Some great things in store for you on the 00:00:28.629 --> 00:00:33.250 show breaking new ground after episode 100 some 00:00:33.250 --> 00:00:37.070 very special guests coming up. Today's episode, 00:00:37.310 --> 00:00:41.229 basically the equivalent of me reading the Yellow 00:00:41.229 --> 00:00:45.289 Pages to you. Now, on occasion, I've done this. 00:00:46.149 --> 00:00:49.649 There's a Dan versus appreciation episode where 00:00:49.649 --> 00:00:53.329 I get into the email box. This is your fair warning 00:00:53.329 --> 00:00:57.170 to go ahead and hit that back button. Go back 00:00:57.170 --> 00:00:59.030 to the other podcast that you listened to. The 00:00:59.030 --> 00:01:01.750 new episode that's just coming out from another 00:01:01.750 --> 00:01:05.280 show. and just shut it down for downtime. Because 00:01:05.280 --> 00:01:07.959 what's coming up, if you like to watch grass 00:01:07.959 --> 00:01:11.459 grow, if you like to watch paint dry, and if 00:01:11.459 --> 00:01:16.239 you like to watch or listen to me read straight 00:01:16.239 --> 00:01:20.500 from Reddit, your dreams are coming true today. 00:01:21.219 --> 00:01:26.040 The wait is over. This is only me today. It has 00:01:26.040 --> 00:01:30.439 been a busy several weeks, maybe a busy 2025. 00:01:31.180 --> 00:01:35.920 But the very last thing that I will do is cite 00:01:35.920 --> 00:01:40.519 a busy schedule as a reason not to give you an 00:01:40.519 --> 00:01:43.879 episode. You will get an episode every week, 00:01:44.400 --> 00:01:49.519 every Sunday from now until all the hairs on 00:01:49.519 --> 00:01:53.540 the top of my head are gray, which could be sooner 00:01:53.540 --> 00:01:57.620 rather than later. Or until I change my mind. 00:01:58.219 --> 00:02:02.099 I always leave myself that out. Without further 00:02:02.099 --> 00:02:05.700 ado, let's get to the it's not a conversation 00:02:05.700 --> 00:02:10.520 or Danversation today. It's only a one -way street 00:02:10.520 --> 00:02:18.680 folks Thanks for listening to the show From the 00:02:18.680 --> 00:02:23.800 subreddit name nerds question is naming a boy 00:02:23.800 --> 00:02:29.979 just Dan in quotes weird and Here's some responses 00:02:30.439 --> 00:02:33.240 Dan was one of the sons of Jacob, one of the 00:02:33.240 --> 00:02:36.460 12 tribes, and is a standalone name in Hebrew. 00:02:37.259 --> 00:02:39.939 I think it's perfectly fine to use as a name 00:02:39.939 --> 00:02:42.919 on its own. Honestly, I've never known a Daniel 00:02:42.919 --> 00:02:46.740 go by their full name anyways. Always Dan or 00:02:46.740 --> 00:02:51.300 Danny. My ex -husband is Danny, not Daniel. Given 00:02:51.300 --> 00:02:55.699 name Danny, D -A -N -N -Y. He's in his early 00:02:55.699 --> 00:02:58.819 40s now and no one ever says anything about it. 00:02:59.259 --> 00:03:02.400 In my opinion, Dan is an even more reasonable 00:03:02.400 --> 00:03:05.759 standalone name than Danny. I say go for it. 00:03:07.099 --> 00:03:09.879 I don't think it's weird. I know a guy named 00:03:09.879 --> 00:03:17.020 Dant. D -A -N -T. That's weird. Another commenter 00:03:17.020 --> 00:03:20.500 writes, it's not weird, but I would recommend 00:03:20.500 --> 00:03:23.639 against it. I was named a common nickname of 00:03:23.639 --> 00:03:26.599 a longer name and I'm changing my name to the 00:03:26.599 --> 00:03:29.659 longer one. I like it better. If you went with 00:03:29.659 --> 00:03:32.939 Daniel, you'd be giving him the option of Daniel, 00:03:33.300 --> 00:03:37.099 Dan, or Danny. With Dan, you're taking away those 00:03:37.099 --> 00:03:40.199 options. Or you can choose something else if 00:03:40.199 --> 00:03:44.180 you really dislike Daniel. Or you can stick him 00:03:44.180 --> 00:03:49.240 with Dan just one perspective. Another one. I'm 00:03:49.240 --> 00:03:51.659 with you. I like Dan more than Daniel. I think 00:03:51.659 --> 00:03:56.379 it's fine as a standalone name. Dan is a legitimate 00:03:56.379 --> 00:03:59.039 full name with different origins than Daniel 00:03:59.039 --> 00:04:04.840 go for it Just Dan has been used as full name 00:04:04.840 --> 00:04:09.280 for a long time in the 1880 Social Security data 00:04:09.280 --> 00:04:16.420 USA there were 643 Daniel and 140 Dan listed 00:04:16.420 --> 00:04:21.639 I Like it exclamation point. I had a friend whose 00:04:21.639 --> 00:04:27.019 full name was Kim not Kimberly I don't think 00:04:27.019 --> 00:04:30.699 it's weird. People name their kid just Finn, 00:04:30.699 --> 00:04:34.339 F -I -N -N, and Tom. I feel like Dan fits in 00:04:34.339 --> 00:04:39.300 with those. I have a friend who named her son 00:04:39.300 --> 00:04:44.879 Cal and my F -I -L's given name is Ricky. I personally 00:04:44.879 --> 00:04:47.399 like Daniel considering it's for my son due in 00:04:47.399 --> 00:04:50.259 January, but I think Dan is a reasonable name. 00:04:51.899 --> 00:04:57.420 Don't forget Dane as a name. And finally, I have 00:04:57.420 --> 00:05:00.579 a cousin named Danny, not Daniel. He had the 00:05:00.579 --> 00:05:02.819 odd comment growing up from people not believing 00:05:02.819 --> 00:05:11.560 him that Danny was his actual name. Another post 00:05:11.560 --> 00:05:15.560 under the subreddit Name Nerds. How's Dan for 00:05:15.560 --> 00:05:19.579 a girl's name? The author. I'm considering an 00:05:19.579 --> 00:05:22.060 English name for myself, an Asian immigrant. 00:05:22.779 --> 00:05:25.879 For various reasons, I don't like my full original 00:05:25.879 --> 00:05:28.730 first name. so I don't want to use it, and I 00:05:28.730 --> 00:05:31.329 really can't think of a more proper English name 00:05:31.329 --> 00:05:34.689 that I feel attached to. So I'm considering to 00:05:34.689 --> 00:05:37.389 go by Dan because it's part of my original name, 00:05:37.750 --> 00:05:40.790 easy for English speakers to pronounce, and sounds 00:05:40.790 --> 00:05:44.610 similar to my nickname in our language. But I'm 00:05:44.610 --> 00:05:46.949 hesitating because I know Dan is also a common 00:05:46.949 --> 00:05:52.149 boy name. I consider Danny D -A -N -I, but that 00:05:52.149 --> 00:05:55.250 just feels and sounds different for me. So I'm 00:05:55.250 --> 00:05:57.439 wondering what you would think When you meet 00:05:57.439 --> 00:06:00.459 a girl named Dan and you don't know the reason 00:06:00.459 --> 00:06:05.079 for that at first, thanks. Some responses here. 00:06:05.800 --> 00:06:09.000 You'll probably be asked what Dan is short for. 00:06:09.360 --> 00:06:12.040 It's not really a standalone name. For boys, 00:06:12.379 --> 00:06:15.839 Dan is short for Daniel. For girls, Dan slash 00:06:15.839 --> 00:06:19.420 Danny, D -A -N -I, would most likely be short 00:06:19.420 --> 00:06:23.519 for Danielle. You could also try Dana or Danica 00:06:23.519 --> 00:06:28.240 in the original. Author replying, thanks. How 00:06:28.240 --> 00:06:30.319 about having a full name Jordan and going by 00:06:30.319 --> 00:06:34.500 Dan? Would that be weird? It's unusual, but nothing 00:06:34.500 --> 00:06:37.480 wrong with it. Not the most common, but some 00:06:37.480 --> 00:06:41.540 Christophers go by Topher. I'm female and my 00:06:41.540 --> 00:06:44.300 name is Danny, D -A -N -I. I've been called Dan 00:06:44.300 --> 00:06:48.579 more often than not. I get a lot of comments 00:06:48.579 --> 00:06:51.120 slash questions regarding it from people that 00:06:51.120 --> 00:06:54.300 I just met or don't know me very well. However, 00:06:54.569 --> 00:06:58.850 Those closest to me typically call me D. The 00:06:58.850 --> 00:07:01.790 author replies, I think Dan slash Danny as a 00:07:01.790 --> 00:07:04.930 girl name is really cute. You have a good name. 00:07:06.449 --> 00:07:09.389 Never met a woman named Dan and every Danny was 00:07:09.389 --> 00:07:15.050 a Danielle. A reply, I'm a Danny. It actually 00:07:15.050 --> 00:07:17.430 drives me crazy when people call me Danielle. 00:07:19.170 --> 00:07:23.329 I'm a Danielle called Dan. Another commenter. 00:07:24.790 --> 00:07:28.949 Hi, I'm a woman and my name is Dan. That's my 00:07:28.949 --> 00:07:33.069 actual name I'm also a medical professional and 00:07:33.069 --> 00:07:35.350 my patients ask some questions when they read 00:07:35.350 --> 00:07:38.670 my name on my name tag They also ask questions 00:07:38.670 --> 00:07:41.189 when I tell them my name. It's okay. However, 00:07:41.629 --> 00:07:45.709 I'm asked what my name is short for Danny Danielle 00:07:45.709 --> 00:07:51.310 Danica, nope. I'm just Dan. I like my name. It 00:07:51.310 --> 00:07:53.649 makes me different. I can't imagine any other 00:07:53.649 --> 00:08:02.540 name I hope this helps some. Another post under 00:08:02.540 --> 00:08:06.300 Name Nerds. What do you think of Danny as a standalone 00:08:06.300 --> 00:08:11.300 name? We don't like Daniel or Dan. Here are the 00:08:11.300 --> 00:08:16.160 comments. Awesome for an Irish setter. Incomplete 00:08:16.160 --> 00:08:21.019 and juvenile for a human child slash adult. I 00:08:21.019 --> 00:08:23.910 think if you don't like Daniel or Dan, You need 00:08:23.910 --> 00:08:27.569 to set aside Danny and look for a name you like 00:08:27.569 --> 00:08:32.129 in all its variations. I agree and not because 00:08:32.129 --> 00:08:34.789 I dislike Danny as a standalone name like most 00:08:34.789 --> 00:08:37.169 others here but because you shouldn't choose 00:08:37.169 --> 00:08:40.429 a name where you would strongly dislike nicknames 00:08:40.429 --> 00:08:43.909 that are a high possibility. Another comment. 00:08:44.129 --> 00:08:47.090 I'm a big proponent of quote use the name you'll 00:08:47.090 --> 00:08:50.110 actually be calling them end quote so I have 00:08:50.110 --> 00:08:53.809 no objection but I do think it's weird to choose 00:08:53.809 --> 00:08:58.370 a name so close to ones you don't like because 00:08:58.370 --> 00:09:02.509 if you use Danny, you have like a good 90 % chance 00:09:02.509 --> 00:09:06.029 that someone in his life will nickname him Dan. 00:09:07.470 --> 00:09:10.850 Response there. This is exactly why I did not 00:09:10.850 --> 00:09:14.049 want to name my son Daniel. While I love that 00:09:14.049 --> 00:09:19.370 name, I loathe Danny and Dan. But my ex was stupid 00:09:19.370 --> 00:09:21.450 enough to think that telling people his name 00:09:21.450 --> 00:09:25.690 is Daniel, not Danny or Dan, would make it stick. 00:09:26.750 --> 00:09:30.289 Of course it did not. By middle school, everyone, 00:09:30.330 --> 00:09:34.750 including teachers, called him Dan. He also hates 00:09:34.750 --> 00:09:37.409 being called Danny and will correct anyone who 00:09:37.409 --> 00:09:40.889 tries. He's still Daniel in our immediate family, 00:09:40.909 --> 00:09:46.110 but that's it. Another response. I don't think 00:09:46.110 --> 00:09:50.090 it ages well. Every Daniel slash Danielle I have 00:09:50.090 --> 00:09:54.110 known transitioned from Danny with a Y slash 00:09:54.110 --> 00:09:57.429 Danny with an I To their full name as an adult. 00:09:58.610 --> 00:10:01.470 I Know a couple of adult Dan's who definitely 00:10:01.470 --> 00:10:04.950 didn't think Danny was mature enough Another 00:10:04.950 --> 00:10:08.049 response to that the adult Daniel's I know tend 00:10:08.049 --> 00:10:11.690 to go with Daniel professionally Dan Interpersonally 00:10:11.690 --> 00:10:16.759 and hate Danny My personal commentary here Me 00:10:16.759 --> 00:10:20.639 speaking. Complete reverse of that first statement. 00:10:21.559 --> 00:10:26.100 And have never hated Danny. Yes, the middle -aged 00:10:26.100 --> 00:10:30.799 Daniels I know go by just Dan. Never to rarely 00:10:30.799 --> 00:10:34.440 Danny. And the Daniels in their 20s and 30s all 00:10:34.440 --> 00:10:38.519 just go by Daniel. I've got an Uncle Dan. Late 00:10:38.519 --> 00:10:40.940 40s. Have never heard him go by Daniel. It's 00:10:40.940 --> 00:10:44.700 either Danny or Dan. It suits him well. But he's 00:10:44.700 --> 00:10:48.500 a very laid -back guy. Bit of a goof. I can see 00:10:48.500 --> 00:10:51.159 the nicknames not working for someone more straight 00:10:51.159 --> 00:10:55.220 -laced. By middle school, the Daniels at my school 00:10:55.220 --> 00:10:59.720 had already switched to Dan or Daniel. Daniel 00:10:59.720 --> 00:11:02.480 is completely fine as a standalone name, but 00:11:02.480 --> 00:11:04.720 you may need to consider that people may shorten 00:11:04.720 --> 00:11:07.559 it to Dan or that he might even prefer going 00:11:07.559 --> 00:11:13.019 by Dan at some point. It sounds a bit too nicknamey 00:11:13.019 --> 00:11:15.120 to me and I definitely think people will call 00:11:15.120 --> 00:11:21.500 him Dan. Another commenter Dane way cooler. I 00:11:21.500 --> 00:11:24.320 Have a cousin named Danny not Dan or Daniel and 00:11:24.320 --> 00:11:26.500 no one really thinks anything about it He just 00:11:26.500 --> 00:11:29.980 introduces himself as Danny if someone asks what 00:11:29.980 --> 00:11:34.320 it's short for he says nothing As someone who 00:11:34.320 --> 00:11:37.379 knew a bin that wasn't short for anything ie 00:11:37.379 --> 00:11:41.100 Benjamin Just know that for the rest of Danny's 00:11:41.100 --> 00:11:43.360 life people will ask him what it's short for 00:11:43.690 --> 00:11:46.450 or just straight up assume it's Daniel and call 00:11:46.450 --> 00:11:51.450 him that. So do with that what you will. How 00:11:51.450 --> 00:11:55.210 about Dorian or Dawson with Danny as a nickname? 00:11:56.610 --> 00:12:00.389 Another commenter, don't do it. My 80 year old 00:12:00.389 --> 00:12:04.210 dad is Bobby, not Robert, and he's hated it for 00:12:04.210 --> 00:12:09.090 about 70 years. It will likely be shortened to 00:12:09.090 --> 00:12:12.289 Dan at some point. So if you don't like that, 00:12:12.509 --> 00:12:16.840 I wouldn't use it. My dad's name is Daniel and 00:12:16.840 --> 00:12:19.620 now that he's an adult the only people who call 00:12:19.620 --> 00:12:22.299 him Danny are his longtime Childhood friends 00:12:22.299 --> 00:12:25.200 and family he stopped going by Danny after high 00:12:25.200 --> 00:12:28.259 school and hates it as a nickname in his adult 00:12:28.259 --> 00:12:32.279 life Response to that my brother was a William. 00:12:32.679 --> 00:12:36.240 He was Billy all his life until adulthood then 00:12:36.240 --> 00:12:40.419 he became will Billy was a childhood name Danny 00:12:40.419 --> 00:12:45.500 is the same My brother -in -law is a Danny. He's 00:12:45.500 --> 00:12:48.559 in his 50s now, and honestly, it just suits him. 00:12:50.639 --> 00:12:53.059 I just feel like it needs a proper full name 00:12:53.059 --> 00:12:58.059 like Daniel and nickname would be Danny. It will 00:12:58.059 --> 00:13:01.059 work well for 21 years, then your kid may be 00:13:01.059 --> 00:13:02.980 trying to be taken seriously in a professional 00:13:02.980 --> 00:13:07.419 environment. I think it's fine, but he'll probably 00:13:07.419 --> 00:13:10.039 choose to shorten it to Dan at some point. Would 00:13:10.039 --> 00:13:12.730 you be fine with that? The principal of the school 00:13:12.730 --> 00:13:16.929 where I work is a man named Danny with one N, 00:13:17.850 --> 00:13:22.230 just D -A -N -Y. When I first met him, it was 00:13:22.230 --> 00:13:26.669 kind of jarring, but I got used to it. I know 00:13:26.669 --> 00:13:29.629 an adult Danny. He has a very good upper corporate 00:13:29.629 --> 00:13:32.649 job and his name has never been a problem. If 00:13:32.649 --> 00:13:36.649 you like it, use it. Another commenter says, 00:13:37.590 --> 00:13:43.580 it's not a name. He will 100 % be called Dan 00:13:43.580 --> 00:13:45.740 at some point in his life. If you don't want 00:13:45.740 --> 00:13:51.080 that, don't use Danny. My nephew is Ted. That's 00:13:51.080 --> 00:13:54.460 it. Not short for anything, but all his life 00:13:54.460 --> 00:13:57.519 he's been challenged by nosy people. Are you 00:13:57.519 --> 00:14:03.080 sure? It's not Theodore? No, it's Ted. So weigh 00:14:03.080 --> 00:14:05.879 the hassle of every nosy Nellie in your kid's 00:14:05.879 --> 00:14:11.460 future. I had a Daniel many years ago. Fought 00:14:11.460 --> 00:14:14.679 everyone to insist on calling him Daniel. He's 00:14:14.679 --> 00:14:18.620 now an adult and professionally uses Dan I'm 00:14:18.620 --> 00:14:22.220 so annoyed by that. I worked so hard to keep 00:14:22.220 --> 00:14:26.559 it as Daniel as an adult He is the one who foiled 00:14:26.559 --> 00:14:31.399 my plan People will use Dan or Daniel no matter 00:14:31.399 --> 00:14:35.860 what you say. So pick another I Have a cousin 00:14:35.860 --> 00:14:38.539 who is a teddy it's on his birth certificate 00:14:38.539 --> 00:14:41.889 that way He always believed it hindered his career 00:14:41.889 --> 00:14:46.309 because it was for a kid, not a full grown adult. 00:14:46.950 --> 00:14:49.909 People underestimated him. Don't name your child 00:14:49.909 --> 00:14:54.830 a nickname. George Harrison's kid is named Danny, 00:14:55.110 --> 00:15:00.450 D -H -A -N -I, pronounced Danny. You could go 00:15:00.450 --> 00:15:03.090 with something like that. I always assumed it 00:15:03.090 --> 00:15:05.590 was pronounced Donnie, but then I heard Paul 00:15:05.590 --> 00:15:08.980 McCartney say it and he said Danny. My cousin 00:15:08.980 --> 00:15:12.080 is Daniel. He was Danny literally his whole life 00:15:12.080 --> 00:15:15.700 until his mid 30s at some point He realized it 00:15:15.700 --> 00:15:18.379 sounded very juvenile to have colleagues call 00:15:18.379 --> 00:15:22.460 him Danny and he switched to Daniel and Asked 00:15:22.460 --> 00:15:25.539 close friends slash family to call him Dan instead 00:15:25.539 --> 00:15:30.779 How about this one I Have a nickname name and 00:15:30.779 --> 00:15:33.799 it's literally never been an issue. I say go 00:15:33.799 --> 00:15:37.610 with Danny if it's your favorite I've always 00:15:37.610 --> 00:15:42.250 liked Danny. It's so pleasant Maybe Dominic or 00:15:42.250 --> 00:15:47.750 Dom or Nick or Nikki Love it. If my husband's 00:15:47.750 --> 00:15:50.830 name wasn't a Daniel. This would have been our 00:15:50.830 --> 00:15:55.190 bubs name He'll definitely go by Dan someday 00:15:55.190 --> 00:15:58.750 and you'll have to be okay with that Chiming 00:15:58.750 --> 00:16:01.029 in for just a second here. My commentary can't 00:16:01.029 --> 00:16:04.809 believe how much people have to say about this 00:16:04.809 --> 00:16:08.740 Alright, let's cover a few more Could Danny be 00:16:08.740 --> 00:16:11.940 a bit young sounding for an adult? It doesn't 00:16:11.940 --> 00:16:14.919 sound super professional. I personally think 00:16:14.919 --> 00:16:18.039 it is important to have a more formal slash professional 00:16:18.039 --> 00:16:21.519 name in case it suits their adult life more at 00:16:21.519 --> 00:16:25.159 some point. I work with a Joey who is now transitioning 00:16:25.159 --> 00:16:28.240 to using Joseph now that he has a career and 00:16:28.240 --> 00:16:30.460 he found people weren't taking him seriously 00:16:30.460 --> 00:16:34.860 by email. I would just use a nickname when they 00:16:34.860 --> 00:16:40.169 are young if it suits them better then. Too nicknamey. 00:16:40.350 --> 00:16:44.769 It doesn't slash won't age well at all Do you 00:16:44.769 --> 00:16:47.830 like Jordan? It can be shortened to Danny as 00:16:47.830 --> 00:16:54.649 well. I Love this one. I have a son named Danilo 00:16:54.649 --> 00:16:57.269 His whole life people have tried to call him 00:16:57.269 --> 00:17:02.470 Danny. He refuses My husband is a Daniel when 00:17:02.470 --> 00:17:06.089 he was a child. He was called Danny now. He is 00:17:06.089 --> 00:17:08.700 a Dan and the only people who call him Danny 00:17:08.700 --> 00:17:13.140 are his three big brothers. We went to his 50th 00:17:13.140 --> 00:17:15.819 high school reunion and it was weird to hear 00:17:15.819 --> 00:17:20.119 people call him Danny. Dan is just a more mature 00:17:20.119 --> 00:17:23.500 name. Danny is great for a little boy or a little 00:17:23.500 --> 00:17:27.819 girl but always try the name with quote president 00:17:27.819 --> 00:17:31.460 or doctor in front of it because you never know. 00:17:32.599 --> 00:17:36.690 Your child will not appreciate it. Name him Daniel 00:17:36.690 --> 00:17:40.190 and call him Danny. By the time he gets a job, 00:17:40.470 --> 00:17:43.130 especially if he gets a white -collar job, he 00:17:43.130 --> 00:17:46.150 won't like being called Danny, even if it's his 00:17:46.150 --> 00:17:51.269 real name. It's too cutesy. Naming them Daniel 00:17:51.269 --> 00:17:54.269 and then calling them Danny gives them more options 00:17:54.269 --> 00:17:58.349 later in life. Just naming them Danny leaves 00:17:58.349 --> 00:18:01.869 them with less options. You shouldn't think about 00:18:01.869 --> 00:18:04.740 how much you like the name. Think more about 00:18:04.740 --> 00:18:07.740 whether they'll like living with the name They're 00:18:07.740 --> 00:18:14.960 the ones who have to live with it Good stuff 00:18:14.960 --> 00:18:18.559 there a lot of people in agreement a lot of consensus 00:18:18.559 --> 00:18:22.880 about Danny being kind of a cutesy little boy's 00:18:22.880 --> 00:18:26.759 name As you know, I don't often insert my own 00:18:26.759 --> 00:18:30.180 commentary or opinion in these episodes unless 00:18:30.539 --> 00:18:33.599 It's mid conversation and the topic just calls 00:18:33.599 --> 00:18:37.859 for it But I think here it's appropriate my take 00:18:37.859 --> 00:18:41.440 on Danny and I read this stuff and Sometimes 00:18:41.440 --> 00:18:43.660 you just you see the majority going a certain 00:18:43.660 --> 00:18:46.339 way and it's just kind of those comments seem 00:18:46.339 --> 00:18:49.500 like at least two -thirds were not real high 00:18:49.500 --> 00:18:54.599 on Danny and Putting a lot of emphasis on the 00:18:54.599 --> 00:18:58.519 professional world and the adult life and I don't 00:18:58.519 --> 00:19:01.420 know about you guys but I think we overthink 00:19:01.420 --> 00:19:05.259 this stuff. I feel like the people commenting 00:19:05.259 --> 00:19:11.839 there maybe have an exaggerated sense of not 00:19:11.839 --> 00:19:15.960 just their own importance, but individual people 00:19:15.960 --> 00:19:18.740 in general. We all think that everyone's paying 00:19:18.740 --> 00:19:24.380 attention and scrutinizing us and noticing that 00:19:24.380 --> 00:19:26.700 we said this, we didn't say that, our hair looks 00:19:26.700 --> 00:19:29.680 this way, it should look this way. Why are we 00:19:29.680 --> 00:19:31.400 wearing that shirt when we should be wearing 00:19:31.400 --> 00:19:34.119 what that guy's wearing? What is going on here? 00:19:34.319 --> 00:19:38.079 Let me tell you something people Nobody, I mean 00:19:38.079 --> 00:19:43.119 nobody cares about the car you're driving except 00:19:43.119 --> 00:19:45.720 for when you're at the traffic light and even 00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:50.059 then if they look if they look over They might 00:19:50.059 --> 00:19:52.359 be impressed for a minute or they might look 00:19:52.359 --> 00:19:55.519 over and say what the heck is that guy? Riding 00:19:55.519 --> 00:19:58.039 and what is I didn't even know that there were 00:19:58.039 --> 00:20:01.329 still those that make and model on the road. 00:20:02.210 --> 00:20:05.329 I meet a lot of people in my line of work. I 00:20:05.329 --> 00:20:08.190 got a lot of business cards. I send a lot of 00:20:08.190 --> 00:20:13.849 emails. I've got stuff coming in and you know, 00:20:13.869 --> 00:20:15.950 if you're walking through life and your name 00:20:15.950 --> 00:20:20.490 is Danny, this is not a big deal. I just picked 00:20:20.490 --> 00:20:24.990 a business card out of a stack here. The guy's 00:20:24.990 --> 00:20:29.289 name is Freddie. I think anybody that's assuming 00:20:29.289 --> 00:20:33.130 that if your name on your business card is Jimmy 00:20:33.130 --> 00:20:38.829 or Teddy or Danny or Frankie That this is gonna 00:20:38.829 --> 00:20:42.890 limit you in life Get that out of your head as 00:20:42.890 --> 00:20:45.809 far as I'm concerned. It's all it's about who 00:20:45.809 --> 00:20:48.349 you are and the impression that you make around 00:20:48.349 --> 00:20:51.309 people You know people are certainly entitled 00:20:51.309 --> 00:20:54.109 to their opinion what they kind of like to hear 00:20:54.109 --> 00:20:56.799 what they don't like to hear I've never had a 00:20:56.799 --> 00:20:59.380 problem. I would say Danny if people want to 00:20:59.380 --> 00:21:02.319 throw that out there with me, which they just 00:21:02.319 --> 00:21:05.440 never, they just never did. I would not have 00:21:05.440 --> 00:21:08.059 taken a lot of offense to it. You know, but I 00:21:08.059 --> 00:21:11.440 also went through a period of growing up where 00:21:11.440 --> 00:21:14.519 if somebody called out my name, that was a big 00:21:14.519 --> 00:21:18.220 deal. I walked around in the shadows, not the 00:21:18.220 --> 00:21:21.519 entire childhood or the entire school experience, 00:21:21.680 --> 00:21:24.259 but some of the time, which I think a lot of 00:21:24.259 --> 00:21:27.589 us do, And so if you if you hear your name called. 00:21:28.650 --> 00:21:30.529 You know that signals some kind of inclusion. 00:21:30.569 --> 00:21:32.809 Maybe that's a maybe it's a bad thing. You're 00:21:32.809 --> 00:21:37.549 getting called. But I do agree that if the original 00:21:37.549 --> 00:21:40.910 poster, the original author already says we don't 00:21:40.910 --> 00:21:43.690 like Daniel or Dan. But what do you think of 00:21:43.690 --> 00:21:46.829 Danny is a standalone name? I do agree with a 00:21:46.829 --> 00:21:50.130 lot of the responses saying hey. Think ahead 00:21:50.130 --> 00:21:52.849 a little bit. Let's let's think a couple shots 00:21:52.849 --> 00:21:57.420 ahead here. If you don't like Dan Your little 00:21:57.420 --> 00:22:01.059 Danny might start going by Dan one day And I 00:22:01.059 --> 00:22:04.079 probably should have asked my mom directly when 00:22:04.079 --> 00:22:08.240 I had her on the podcast Mom, what do you really 00:22:08.240 --> 00:22:12.579 think of me going by Dan for these past 30 years? 00:22:13.400 --> 00:22:16.279 I Don't feel like she likes it a whole lot But 00:22:16.279 --> 00:22:19.980 she loves me. So At some point you just let your 00:22:19.980 --> 00:22:23.839 children Brand themselves or call themselves 00:22:23.839 --> 00:22:27.480 or or go with the nickname that that they choose 00:22:27.480 --> 00:22:29.819 or that's bestowed upon them and it just that's 00:22:29.819 --> 00:22:34.660 how it happens You know if my kids Take on nicknames 00:22:34.660 --> 00:22:38.200 in life and their original names just kind of 00:22:38.200 --> 00:22:41.900 get Put put into storage It's just something 00:22:41.900 --> 00:22:44.200 on their driver's license I won't be heartbroken 00:22:44.200 --> 00:22:47.960 because I know that I can still speak to them 00:22:47.960 --> 00:22:50.799 and call them by the names that I gave them So 00:22:50.799 --> 00:22:53.859 if my son, you know Warren starts going by skip 00:22:53.859 --> 00:22:56.920 or something That's fine for the rest of the 00:22:56.920 --> 00:22:59.240 world. I'll still call him Warren and he'll still 00:22:59.240 --> 00:23:04.220 I'm sure respond to His given name around me. 00:23:04.220 --> 00:23:07.420 I heard it with my dad Last week if you heard 00:23:07.420 --> 00:23:12.819 us talking about his mother my grandmother Calling 00:23:12.819 --> 00:23:15.700 him Robert or Robert. I always thought that was 00:23:15.700 --> 00:23:18.559 kind of cool. I was young when she died. I was 00:23:18.559 --> 00:23:23.329 eight not quite nine, but I do remember visiting 00:23:23.329 --> 00:23:27.569 my grandparents. And it was the only time that 00:23:27.569 --> 00:23:30.230 I heard my dad refer to as Robert in conversation. 00:23:31.490 --> 00:23:33.450 His sisters don't call him Robert, they call 00:23:33.450 --> 00:23:38.970 him Bob. So yeah, I just think it's cool if you 00:23:38.970 --> 00:23:41.970 have a name that carries you the whole way. If 00:23:41.970 --> 00:23:44.670 it changes, you know, you're different things 00:23:44.670 --> 00:23:48.250 to different people. I think we put a little 00:23:48.250 --> 00:23:51.509 too much emphasis on, you know, by God, my name 00:23:51.509 --> 00:23:56.130 is Scott. I'm not Scotty. I don't know what other 00:23:56.130 --> 00:23:58.170 names there are for Scott, but just, you know, 00:23:58.190 --> 00:24:02.490 just being so steadfast that this is my, my perfect 00:24:02.490 --> 00:24:07.970 professional presentation here. Don't call me 00:24:07.970 --> 00:24:12.569 something else. I've worked too hard to construct 00:24:12.569 --> 00:24:17.539 this image here. Don't tarnish it. We just we 00:24:17.539 --> 00:24:23.079 need to stop taking ourselves so seriously You 00:24:23.079 --> 00:24:27.200 have to take a lot of things in life very seriously. 00:24:27.420 --> 00:24:31.079 You got to keep your eye on the ball But you 00:24:31.079 --> 00:24:34.440 have to I mean you have got to save anywhere 00:24:34.440 --> 00:24:39.539 from I Could be off here, but seven percent eight 00:24:39.539 --> 00:24:42.220 nine maybe up to ten eleven percent of the time 00:24:42.220 --> 00:24:45.990 of your day of your week, your month for silly 00:24:45.990 --> 00:24:50.869 season, for just not placing so much emphasis 00:24:50.869 --> 00:24:55.150 on how you look, how you're perceived, what you're 00:24:55.150 --> 00:24:58.109 driving, what your house looks like. Work on 00:24:58.109 --> 00:25:01.470 the things that matter. Spend some eyeball time 00:25:01.470 --> 00:25:05.450 with your kids. And some of this other stuff 00:25:05.450 --> 00:25:08.930 will just be less and less important. And you 00:25:08.930 --> 00:25:13.059 can't always tell these posts if they are Super 00:25:13.059 --> 00:25:16.759 upset or if there's a tinge of humor here, but 00:25:16.759 --> 00:25:20.619 the I had a Daniel many years ago. I had a Daniel 00:25:20.619 --> 00:25:26.160 She doesn't say I had a son Daniel Fought everyone 00:25:26.160 --> 00:25:30.839 to insist on calling him Daniel. She fought everyone 00:25:30.839 --> 00:25:34.200 He's now an adult and professionally uses Dan. 00:25:34.200 --> 00:25:38.900 I'm so annoyed by that so annoyed. Well It's 00:25:38.900 --> 00:25:46.960 his life. I worked I Worked so hard to keep it 00:25:46.960 --> 00:25:52.799 as Daniel me. I worked so hard as an adult He 00:25:52.799 --> 00:25:57.740 and this is in all caps HE is the one who foiled 00:25:57.740 --> 00:26:02.420 my plan. I Hope she's laughing or he's I think 00:26:02.420 --> 00:26:07.380 it's his mom probably but Hilarious stuff there 00:26:07.380 --> 00:26:11.670 Maybe your parents generation Just made everything 00:26:11.670 --> 00:26:18.450 seem so earth -shattering It's just not I Mean, 00:26:18.490 --> 00:26:20.250 let me put it. Let me put it into a little bit 00:26:20.250 --> 00:26:23.430 more perspective here If you're of a certain 00:26:23.430 --> 00:26:28.690 age and you're not You know widely known or renowned 00:26:28.690 --> 00:26:32.430 You're not a public figure and you're up into 00:26:32.430 --> 00:26:36.230 your 30s your 40s your 50s When you get outside 00:26:36.230 --> 00:26:39.380 of your workday How many incoming phone calls 00:26:39.380 --> 00:26:43.559 do you really have from friends and family? How 00:26:43.559 --> 00:26:46.859 many incoming text messages that are not attached 00:26:46.859 --> 00:26:51.180 to a group text do you have coming in? How much 00:26:51.180 --> 00:26:54.180 of that is going on? Now, if it is going on at 00:26:54.180 --> 00:26:58.279 a high volume and that means you've been nurturing 00:26:58.279 --> 00:27:01.779 these relationships, that is no accident. And 00:27:01.779 --> 00:27:06.059 that's great. But a lot of people... You know, 00:27:06.200 --> 00:27:09.339 they were clutching these computers in our in 00:27:09.339 --> 00:27:13.920 our hands and ruining our necks and backs and 00:27:13.920 --> 00:27:19.839 shoulders by just tapping and scrolling and rifling 00:27:19.839 --> 00:27:25.740 through these devices and It's almost like we're 00:27:25.740 --> 00:27:29.099 waiting for someone to say hi waiting for someone 00:27:29.099 --> 00:27:34.279 to acknowledge us to like something to love something 00:27:34.279 --> 00:27:39.140 to respond to something to check on us, waiting 00:27:39.140 --> 00:27:42.579 for someone to check on us. So at the end of 00:27:42.579 --> 00:27:47.380 the day, whether your name is Peggy or it's Mohammed 00:27:47.380 --> 00:27:54.859 or Francisco or Johnny or Elijah or Timmy, any 00:27:54.859 --> 00:27:58.400 of these things, my opinion, take it for what 00:27:58.400 --> 00:28:02.240 it is, but de -emphasize what people want to 00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:06.769 call you. If they want to call you anything and 00:28:06.769 --> 00:28:10.170 they want to pick up the phone and call you and 00:28:10.170 --> 00:28:13.690 send you a message and Hope that you're gonna 00:28:13.690 --> 00:28:17.009 hang out with them or make plans with them in 00:28:17.009 --> 00:28:21.130 another couple weeks Be happy about that regardless 00:28:21.130 --> 00:28:24.630 of what of what they're calling you and don't 00:28:24.630 --> 00:28:27.490 listen to the old -timers What's on your business 00:28:27.490 --> 00:28:32.170 card? What's on your email address? how much 00:28:32.349 --> 00:28:35.569 Do you give a passing thought to someone that 00:28:35.569 --> 00:28:39.009 you're doing business with when that email comes 00:28:39.009 --> 00:28:42.890 to and the name is something like Sandy or Sonny 00:28:42.890 --> 00:28:48.829 or Jimmy or Johnny? The sad reality is. The person 00:28:48.829 --> 00:28:52.869 that's sending you that email. They are a usually 00:28:52.869 --> 00:28:56.549 a means to an end. And you don't spend a whole 00:28:56.549 --> 00:28:59.029 lot of time thinking about them personally or 00:28:59.029 --> 00:29:02.869 thinking, oh man, what a shame. What a shame 00:29:02.869 --> 00:29:06.049 this guy stuck with just branded with Johnny 00:29:06.049 --> 00:29:09.589 when he really should be going by John that would 00:29:09.589 --> 00:29:12.509 look a little sharper They're not thinking about 00:29:12.509 --> 00:29:14.769 that. They don't care. They don't care about 00:29:14.769 --> 00:29:19.230 you. I Mean, they hope you don't die, but People 00:29:19.230 --> 00:29:23.710 don't spend a whole lot of time Marinating on 00:29:23.710 --> 00:29:27.809 your name and why? the nickname that you had 00:29:27.809 --> 00:29:35.430 at seven is Still on you at 37 Okay, folks Hope 00:29:35.430 --> 00:29:40.430 you enjoyed a very rare episode. I Don't aim 00:29:40.430 --> 00:29:44.710 to continue this format But it's been a very 00:29:44.710 --> 00:29:49.690 busy stretch of Dan time. I have not had a lot 00:29:49.690 --> 00:29:55.910 of excess Dan time to dedicate to pursuits beyond 00:29:55.910 --> 00:30:02.150 my professional family obligations so get out 00:30:02.150 --> 00:30:05.269 there and do something daring this week you don't 00:30:05.269 --> 00:30:10.369 have to tightrope it or climb a rock or or jump 00:30:10.369 --> 00:30:14.029 out of an airplane but do something that pushes 00:30:14.029 --> 00:30:18.569 you one step ahead one step get off that sofa 00:30:18.569 --> 00:30:23.690 get out of your your horizontal lounging for 00:30:23.690 --> 00:30:28.519 hours position get up get out Make something 00:30:28.519 --> 00:30:31.940 happen. Be a man of action. Be a woman of action. 00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:34.859 And have a great rest of the week. We'll see 00:30:34.859 --> 00:30:38.339 you next Sunday for episode number 100 of the 00:30:38.339 --> 00:30:50.440 Dan Time Podcast. Thanks for listening. 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