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Today I learned a very valuable lesson. So to start things off, I want to let you know that

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pretty much for the past two, three years, I've been really focusing on improving my habits,

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improving my lifestyle, and just improving myself in general. I started working out, eating healthy,

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increasing my discipline, all these things, and I don't really like to tell people about

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that part of my life. I don't really like to talk about it in public. Excuse me.

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And it makes sense because I am, by the way, this video, I'm going to be practicing making eye contact

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with the camera, and so I might lose focus a little bit. And so with this, with this mindset of not

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telling people what my plans are, it really helped me because I realized that I didn't want to tell

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people what I'm doing at the moment because then I might lose motivation to do it because then I'd

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be relying on their positive feedback to do it. And once that feedback ends, I won't do it anymore.

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Or even worse, if I tell them about a plan, like a goal that I plan on achieving before I've even

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worked towards it, then I tell them and then I receive positive feedback. Well, then I've already

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received the positive feedback from that goal, so then there's no point in actually achieving it.

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So that's why I don't like to tell people what I'm doing. And today, I actually failed at that.

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I was just sitting in my sports lit class and I was sitting in the back and I was just somehow

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the topic of me not having my phone with me came up, which I've talked about that before in the

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class just because people are like, oh, can you check something on your phone or something? I'm

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like, oh, I don't have it. So my friend knew that I didn't bring my phone with me to school.

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Those things I'm okay telling because those little habits have already become habits. So

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it's not going to mess me up if I don't, if I tell people that. But I still avoid telling people

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unless they like directly ask because people get really confused and they get shocked and

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really surprised. And it's just, it starts a whole conversation and then they start interrogating you.

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And it's just not something that I really want to deal with on a day-to-day basis. So I just

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keep my mouth shut. But today was different. I, in my sports lit class, I've kind of hinted at

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certain things that I do that are out of the ordinary. For example, I have told people straight

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up that I'm taking a gap year. Now, again, I don't tell people directly. I only tell people if they

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ask. So people say, I'm like, what college are you going to? And then I say, I'm taking a gap year.

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And that's actually a lie. I'm not taking a gap year, but I tell them that because I don't want to

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have to deal with the not criticism, but shock that comes with you telling people that you're

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not going to college. Because in my town, going to college is the normal thing to do. And it is

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extremely out of the ordinary if you don't go to college. And so that's why I like to just say,

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I'm taking a gap year because it has a grain of truth. I like, I could be taking a gap year. Like,

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I could decide in one year from now that I want to go to college and then I could go and then I'd

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be telling the truth. And I'd still be telling the truth if I didn't go to college because

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a gap year is where you decide if you want to go or not. But I am not going. Like right now,

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I have the decision that I'm not going. Could change, but I honestly can't, I don't see it changing.

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So that's one thing that I've said in the past. And then this one guy that I'm somewhat acquainted

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with, I don't even know what that word means, but I just said it. I've seen around, I've seen this guy

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around and we're familiar with each other. I could tell that over the months of us being in this

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class together, he's taken up an interest in kind of what I'm doing and what my future plans are

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and all this stuff because every single time the college situations gets brought up, he's always

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just watching me and just looking at me, which it's fine. Like I do that too when I just watch

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and pay attention to other people. But he, and then he's like, so what are you going to do?

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Like he always like asks me, which is fine. Like that's curiosity. I'm curious also. And I find

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myself asking people that as well. But this guy in particular, he keeps on like asking me. So

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that is, I always kind of try to divert. Like I always try and divert the situation. Like I try to

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talk about, like I just say, I'm working on entrepreneurship, which in the beginning of

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this semester, I did not even speak on entrepreneurship, but now I'm starting to say

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entrepreneurship. And then what I'm really doing is working on a YouTube channel. But instead,

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I say I'm working on entrepreneurship. And then they're like, well, what kind of business are

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you going to make? Like what are you going to do? And they like interrogate you on all that stuff.

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And I always just say, well, that's why I'm taking the gap year. Like I kind of have made an art out

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of this. Like I've made an art out of avoiding these interrogations because I've had so much

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practice at it. I've had so much practice at people interrogating me. And I've had a lot of

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practice like deferring the situation. If I don't even know what that word means, but I used it

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again. And so today in particular, we're talking about how I wasn't using the phone.

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And then people like heard that and they looked back. And at this point, I had caught like

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three or four people, people's attention. Like originally it was just a conversation between

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me and my friend. And then we caught like three or four different people's attention. And then

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that is where the interrogation begins. That's where they say, oh, what do you do all day then?

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Or like you just don't use your phone at all. Do you listen to music? Like the interrogation begins.

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And usually I'm very kind of good at like getting rid of this conversation. But for some reason today,

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I think that I was asleep. I was definitely asleep. Not like I was consciously asleep and I wasn't

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really thinking properly. And so today I ended up just answering all the questions. And then they're

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like, you know what? Like someone just said, here walk us through a day in your life. And so ever

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and then everyone loved that question. So everyone's like, yeah, tell us, tell us a day in your life.

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And so at that point, I was already in too deep. So I had to start talking. And at that point,

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I kind of had the understanding that I didn't really want to like reveal too much. Or I didn't

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really, the one thing that I really cared not to reveal was the fact that I'm a YouTuber. And the

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thing is that I think it was yesterday or two days ago, I recorded an episode saying that I was

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ashamed of being a YouTuber. And that moving forward, I should talk about how I am a YouTuber.

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Which I still feel like I, it's a really tricky situation because on the one hand, I do think

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that I have not fully accepted it into my identity, obviously, because I'm too ashamed or embarrassed

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to talk about it to other people. But on the other hand, I know that I know the exact outcome that

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will happen if I say, oh, I'm a YouTuber or oh, I work on recording videos after school.

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If I say that, then the exact thing that will happen is they will go right away during the

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class right in front of me, they would search up my YouTube channel, and then they would start

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watching the videos. And it doesn't matter if it's positive feedback or negative feedback,

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more than likely it'll be positive feedback because I surround myself with friends that are

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not negative. The friends around me are not completely toxic. So they would probably support

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the channel. But it's just the fact of all the attention. Maybe it's just,

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like, my, maybe it's just the fact that right now I'm dealing with social anxiety and introvertedness.

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Maybe it's that and I don't like being the center of attention or I don't know. It's a pretty

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complicated area of, like, it's just a complicated topic. And so I basically walk through my entire

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daily routine. And so I actually decided to be extremely, extremely exact and extremely detailed

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with my daily routine because I don't know if I was just in a mood to entertain or if I just wanted

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to stall and waste time so that I didn't have to get into the fact that towards the end of my day,

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I record and I practice being a YouTuber. I don't know if it was either or. I know for sure that I

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didn't consciously choose or consciously think of either or. But I was definitely explaining in

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great detail and it was very entertaining to them. For example, I literally just started with saying,

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like, extreme detail. Like, I said that, well, my day starts at 3.55 on most days because I have a

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sunlight alarm. And when I wake up at three or my alarm starts at 3.30 and then it starts at a

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dim red tone and then it gets brighter and brighter and changes colors to yellow towards

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the end of the alarm cycle at four o'clock. And on most days, I wake up at 3.55 because I

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naturally wake up to that specific light brightness of the alarm. But on other days that I go to bed

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a couple minutes late, I wake up to the alarm at four o'clock. Like, that's the amount of detail I

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went into and people were very entertained by it. And they were like, they very much liked it. And

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then right after I explained that, I say, well, the first thing I do is I put my blankets in the

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closet because and then they were very confused by that. And it's because they did not know that I

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sleep on the floor. They didn't know I slept on the floor. And so, but I didn't tell them that I slept

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on the floor. They were just very confused at the fact that I put my blankets in the closet. And so,

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again, the interrogation began and they're like, wait, why do you do that? And then I had to come

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up with some explanation that would satisfy their curiosity. And so I basically just said, well,

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you make your bed every morning, right? And then they're like, yeah. And I'm like, well, that's what

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I do. I make my bed and it's just easier just to throw my blankets in the closet, which is the

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truth. But it's just, I think it's funny. And then that's like they, they really, and then after I

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told them that I basically said, and then after I put my blankets in the closet, I do a handstand,

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which is true, but it's just some random, it's just some random thing that they did not expect.

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And they all just started laughing. And then because they knew it was four in the morning,

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I'm in my room doing a handstand. And so that is like, that's one lesson I learned that's very

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important. When you're in the middle of an interrogation like I was, I realized, and I didn't

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realize this until literally like one minute before I started recording this video, because I was

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trying to come up with an idea to record. Usually I, I just a pick an idea that I brainstormed

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in the morning to record of today's like the daily video on, but all those ideas are written down

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on my notebook and that notebook is upstairs in my room. And so I was thinking like, I don't,

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I didn't really want to run upstairs just to see it find an idea to talk about and then come back

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down. I just wanted to come up with an idea on the spot. And I came up with a great idea. And

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it was the two lessons that I learned or no. Okay, so it was the one, it was the lesson that I

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learned from today's encounter or today's interrogation. And it's the fact that instead of

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completely diverting and not satisfying their curiosity, like all, like I said, all my life,

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or at least for the past two years, ever since I started improving myself massively,

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and I get interrogated, I always just try and divert the situation. And it works in the short term.

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People just realize that I don't want to talk about it. But eventually it comes back up and it

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comes back up and it comes back up. Like it comes back up every other day or every other week. It

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doesn't matter when, but it will come back up if you divert in that method. Like usually I would

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just say, I don't know what I'm going to do. But people know that that's a lie for some reason.

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And they're not satisfied with that. And so they ask again the next time the topic gets brought up.

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And what I realized today, after telling the stories in great detail and telling entertaining

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stories, figure the lesson to learn is when you're getting interrogated, figure out the best way to

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satisfy their curiosity and entertain them with very good stories without exposing too much of

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the truth. You just have to satisfy them without giving them too much. Because when you satisfy

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them, they won't ask again, because they'll be satisfied with the answer. So they'll realize,

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oh, that's what he does. So now I know. And you don't give them too much to where you reveal your

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real intentions or habits or plans or goals. So that is the lesson that I learned today. And

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when I was writing down, that idea popped up into my head and I right away wrote it down. I wrote

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down, don't tell people your habits, plans or goals, instead tell them entertaining connected

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stories to divert. So for example, what I should have done today is instead of going into, okay,

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let me rewind. So going back to the story I told how I wake up at 3.55 and then I go throw my

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blankets in the closet and then I do a handstand. That should have been, that stuff is good to say.

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The handstand part, the throw on the blankets in the closet, those are random, that's true stuff.

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But it's like the unimportant things. So doing the handstand is unimportant,

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but it's a random thing to throw in there that gets people entertained. They're not looking,

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like people don't actually care about what you're doing. They don't actually care about that stuff.

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But what they want from you is to be entertained. Like they just want to, they notice that you're

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out of the ordinary. So you might hold some crazy stories that will entertain them. That's all they

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want. They want a story. So give them what they want. And I'm really glad I came to this epiphany

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because this is going to help me a lot in the future. And the thing is that it's not only going to

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help me get out of interrogations, it's also going to help me practice my storytelling skills.

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And that is a massive skill to have. That is an amazing skill to have. And so that will greatly

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affect, positively affect my future. So I just wanted to tell you guys about that lesson that I

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learned today.