So the big question is this, how do young men like us, who didn't listen to society, who are on our own, how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow?
That is the question and this show will give you the answers. My name is James Radzinski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show.
Welcome back everyone. As you guys can hear, I got my microphone. It's all set up and the audio quality is definitely a step up. 100%.
Now, I'm just getting used to this new microphone and it's like an actual microphone so I have to speak really close to it for you guys to be able to hear.
Excuse me. And so there may be some times where I'm quiet, some times where I'm really loud, I'm still gauging how far I should speak away from it.
So today was my second day of school and it was pretty good. So I did my normal stuff and I actually got a new record for walking distance on my balancing ball.
Now I can walk halfway across my hallway so I can probably go maybe six, seven feet. I could walk six or seven feet maybe.
So I got to school and my first period teacher, she was telling us things and we're going to get a lot of independent reading time in that class so I'm really excited for that.
And my second period class, I'm in adventure ed now so I got in that this morning and it's going to be awesome. We're going to swim in the pool and kayak.
We're literally kayaking in the school pool for like three or four weeks. I don't know how long we're going to do it for.
But I was in that class last year for the whole year and it was awesome. Man I had something in my throat.
So there's only one downside to joining adventure ed and it's that I have to go in the pool which has chlorine and that's not really the best for you but I'll push through.
I think that it's fine for now because I just joined that gym class because it's fun and I don't want to sit in a boring gym class if I have to go to gym.
And today let me tell you what happened during gym. So during the first like week of gym we always everyone in the every single person who's got gym that period sits in the bleachers in the fieldhouse and
then the teachers after like 10 20 minutes they call everyone down by the period or not the period the class.
So I went to my adventure ed teacher and yeah and then we just had to go back up to the bleachers and just chill there for the rest of the period.
So I was just sitting up on the bleachers literally just meditating. I had my eyes open but I was being extremely mindful of my breath and just being extremely present.
I was just practicing staying awake and there was this girl that was sitting like maybe five feet to the left of me who I wasn't really paying much attention to.
And then she was like I don't even know what she's doing but I was just meditating.
And then when I was walking down we were when the bell rang everyone was walking down and I walked down and we like locked eyes for a second.
That was like that happens sometimes you guys know. And then we just went on our way. And then so I was like ahead of her and then she started a conversation.
And from there I was just like oh yeah. And then I didn't really let it go too far because I'm staying focused.
But in hindsight I should have actually had a conversation with her because that would have been good practice and also it would not have been rude because I feel like I was a little bit rude.
I was like quickly trying to end the conversation. So that was probably bad but it's whatever.
And then I went to my next period and yeah.
So my third period class business incubator my friend joined it and we're going to be the best.
We're going to win. It's like a competition amongst teams to build the best business and me and my friend are going to win.
And I don't even think we're going to be able to actually compete because they don't build the businesses until second semester and we're going to graduate early.
So we'll let our team know what to do.
But I'm really excited for that class because I feel like I'll learn a lot from it.
And I'll be able to apply some of my skills. So that's good.
So I went home after my fourth period sports lit and then eight then went to the gym.
Gym was good and tomorrow is actually rest day.
So I'll have a lot more time after school and it's so nice.
I love my schedule.
Because I went to school came home cooked them cooked my entire lunch and went to the gym and it's still school is still going on right now.
Like I did all of that and I'm really sure I'm recording my podcast right now and school is going on right now.
It's eighth period the last period of the day.
So I'm extremely grateful that I'm a part time student.
It was it's just I made a lot of growth last year during I started reading around like September or October maybe last year.
So like 11 months ago I started reading and I started reading and I started reading and I started reading and I started reading.
And I started reading last year.
So like 11 months ago I started reading.
And when I I would read like after school and sometimes before school on Wednesdays when we would get to school late.
And I made so much growth I grew so much junior year even in one semester I grew so much and I had to go like all day.
I was there the whole day and then summer came and I grew an insane amount.
That was the most I've ever grown during summer this last summer.
And then after that which is now this is the second day of school.
I'm really looking forward to this because I feel like I'm going to grow even more during school than during summer because there's a lot of things that I'm really weak at.
For example staying awake staying present at school and my posture.
Speaking of posture I got to fix it right now.
Let me adjust my microphone to get closer to the mic with my better posture.
OK so now I have to say good posture for the rest of the podcast because my mic is adjusted to it.
And there's another thing which I may know I'm not even going to censor myself.
It is tough to stay focused on the present when there's a hot girl right next to you or when there's a hot girl in the vicinity.
And especially if they start a conversation with you like today.
She started a conversation and I kept on thinking about it and I kept on trying to bring my thoughts back to the present.
And now I'm that's one thing I got to get better at staying mindful and staying present around hot women pretty much.
And that will actually benefit me a lot in the future because it's not I don't think that women appreciate like high quality women.
I don't think they would appreciate being thought about like all the time and just the way that us guys think about them.
I don't think they would appreciate that. So maybe they'll maybe the lower quality ones but the higher quality ones.
I know. So that's one thing. And also there's this thought that why am I wasting all my energy thinking about this girl when one I'm never going to have a future with her.
And two she is literally I don't even know her. So that's like another reason. So I'm trying to I don't really want to try to resist or like censor my feelings because I think that the feelings are normal and natural and it would be unnatural to censor them.
So I'm trying to redirect those feelings that that energy that I'm like sending to her. I'm trying to redirect it to my goals.
So that's one thing that I've been trying to be mindful of. Every time I catch myself just like looking at a girl and thinking that she's hot I redirect that energy and activate my fountains which I'll explain in a minute what that is.
And then I send that energy towards my goals and I just think about my goals. And then that brings me back to the real lines my thoughts refocuses me because it's really important to stay focused and especially at school when it's it's really easy to fall asleep.
And once I tell you about the fountains I have a story to tell you about first period. So let me tell you what fountains are. This is what I learned in Transurfing towards the end of the book.
There are meridians everyone has meridians it's like tubes. I might may or may not be explaining this right because I have a low understanding I just have a basic conceptual idea of what it is.
And in ancient Chinese like medicine and Chinese like culture the meridians are basically the energy is the tubes that the energy flows through and it's like chi.
So your energy flows through your body and there are two core like main meridians that go up and down your spine pretty much.
And so when I say activate your fountains it you basically envision yourself.
You basically imagine your.
A stream of energy going up your spine all the way through your head and then it goes up and it creates like a fountain. So if you know what a fountain looks like it's water shoots straight up and then it just disperses in a circle and falls down.
It's like a sphere. So imagine that and then you imagine the same thing but it goes downwards. So you have a stream going upwards and a stream going downwards and then they connect around the center of your body.
And so you're basically inside of a sphere. That's what I mean by activate your fountains and it is just like a way to have your energy flow through you. And that's that's what I need to get into practice of doing when I see a hot girl or literally any girl that turn like gets my thoughts racing.
I use all that energy and flow it through my self and then put it into my goals.
Because there's not a single girl at my school that I will be having a future with and not even a single girl at my school where I will date. So I'm just focused entirely on myself and my goals.
And I really believe that this is the right thing the right path because all of the girls in my school are low quality like they're all on.
I'm not trying to say this to be mean or anything I'm just stating facts. They do not meet my standards and everyone can have standards. So that's fair to say they.
There's not a single girl that I've seen that is not on their phone a lot and I don't even bring my phone to school and that's like one of the big things.
And plus all the girls dress up like extremely seducive you could say they dress up in ways because we don't have a dress code. So they dress up literally wearing like bras and they dress up like they're wearing like a bra.
Literally wearing like bras and they show like their entire stomachs and all that. So that's like an extremely challenging situation for a man like me.
But I'm taking on the challenge head first and transferring all of that energy straight to my goals not even focusing on the girls.
And this is also good because I kind of have this thing where I feel like it's a waste every single ounce of energy I waste on a low quality girl is one ounce of energy that I'm not giving towards my wife my future wife.
And I want my future wife to have the best of me. I don't want to meet my future wife and me have had like lust over many other girls before. So that's what I'm saying about that.
Now I had another story. Oh yeah first period.
So the story I was going to tell you about what happened in first period is let me give you some context first in Transurfing.
He says that most people are asleep and most people are not present and aware of like pendulums and all this stuff and they're just letting life live them like they're just they're not really living their life.
Purposely and they're also being the victims of circumstance.
And I really saw that today because me and my friend Franklin we are both trans surfers and we're both we're practicing prep being mindful and present and.
What I have to say about that is we had we have like really good posture and all that right now because we're trying to train ourselves to be better you know.
And we have first period together.
And.
My teacher was talking like the whole class period and she was just explaining what to expect in the year.
And me and my friend were literally the only ones making eye contact with her out of like all 25 people everyone was slouching and.
Was basically asleep like they were physically awake but they were just like daydreaming.
And me and my friend were the only ones like paying attention to her and that making eye contact and acknowledging her existence and it was also it was a pretty awesome experience because.
We were just sitting there like listening to her attentively and she.
Switched her like mood or not mood but she switched her like posture one could say to trying to speak to the entire class and then when she realized that no one was listening to her.
Except for me and my friend she would like literally just only made eye contact with me and him so it's like she was explaining everything to us.
But also to the class and no one else was really listening so that's also a huge advantage of being awake and being present and mindful because.
We are like the only ones being present in the entire class and so we're we kind of like we're sitting not next to each other but a decent amount of way and we every once in a while look towards each other.
And it just feels like we're the only ones in the room at times so it's pretty cool.
And the thing is yesterday we were asleep for most of the day today I feel like I haven't heard his thought on this but for me personally I was definitely awake like over half of the day I was I did a lot better than yesterday.
And there is only one thing that or there is one thing that I was doing bad at and it's sending my energy towards all the girls.
And well I was doing good about it like there was multiple instances where there was a hot girl in front of me and then I was just putting it off and it was like that's the only thing that.
my energy towards all the girls. And well, I was doing good about it. Like there was
multiple instances where there was a hot girl in front of me and then I would just think
about my goals. But there is one, just the one time where I kept on sending energy towards
one girl and it's the girl that started a conversation with me. And I kept thinking
about that. Even I didn't think about it while I was at school. I quickly like forgot about
it. But then once I got home and my mind was like free to relax, then every time I was
not vigilant, my mind would just go straight to that scene. And that is unacceptable, to
be honest. So I have to do better tomorrow, do better. And eventually I will have full
control over my mind to where once I choose, once I decide not to think about something,
I just won't. Because I'm thinking like, she's definitely not thinking about me. And if she
does, whatever, it doesn't matter. But why would I think about her when we don't even
know each other? We simply just had a conversation. Why would I think about her literally for
the rest of the day? That's like an unfair trade of energy, especially since she's probably
not even thinking about me. She's got other things. Doesn't matter. So that energy trade
is not fair. And from an entirely selfish point of view, it is extremely harmful towards
me if I think about another girl for the rest of the day, because I'll just be sending them
all my energy. And it's just a waste of mental capacity. I have better things to think about.
My mind can't be cluttered with these kinds of things. I really, I only have one purpose
in life and it's to succeed in entrepreneurship right now. And it's just a waste of mental
energy and power and energy, all this stuff. It's just a waste if I think about anything
other than other than the required stuff, like my business. But also I said required
because school, I'm going to finish school off right now because if I drop out, I'll
be creating an even stronger pendulum, more destructive towards me and it'll be worse
off. My life will probably be worse off. And I may have spoken on this topic yesterday's
episode, but I don't know. I remember. But that is why I'm, that's why I made myself
a deal to focus 100% only on school. Don't think about my business while I'm at school.
And then, well actually I could think about my business while I'm at school if it's downtime.
But when there's like work to be done, I only focus on the work, only focus on school related
stuff while I'm at school. And then the second I leave school, I stop thinking about anything
related to school. And I broke that promise to myself when I, the second I got on my bike,
I started thinking about that girl and that's unacceptable. So I'm, the first step to change
is being mindful and like actually knowing that you have a issue. So over the next couple
weeks I'll be cracking down on that because that is one of the biggest thieves of my energy,
lust. And especially at the gym, there's a lot of girls wearing like crop tops and all
the, like the classic gym clothes. And that's really hot, but it's just distracting me from
my lift and it's just a waste of my energy and time to look towards that. And that's
why I'm just really getting better and better over the weeks at just focusing 100% on myself.
And that's the thing, this stuff sounds weird to an outside listener. Someone who is not
my target audience listening to this episode may be weirded out, but this is just the reality
of the situation. And this is how most guys think, but I am actually making changes to
fix it because it's just distracting. And I'm being entirely selfish in this because
I only care about one thing and it's fulfilling my goals. And the way I do that is to stop
thinking about girls. So it's just destroying myself if I think about girls and it's me
being selfish, stopping that train of thought. So if you guys, yeah, and it's also embarrassing
because I'm too weak to control my thoughts and my glances and my eyeballs to where, and
my brain, like the second I see a hot girl, my brain literally just shuts off. And then
a couple seconds later I realize, nope, go back to focus. So that's really embarrassing.
And if you're not embarrassed, you should be if you have a similar issue, because this
is 100% not good for our goals and good for us as men. And I'm not saying restrict yourself.
I'm not saying like, this is, I'm pretty sure a lot of this stuff is talked about in the
way of the superior man. And this is another reason why I want to reread it because I forgot
about a lot of the concepts in that. And I'm sure that he talked about this stuff. And
I don't, I just from my vague understanding, my vague remembering of it, I'm pretty sure
that you're not supposed to censor yourself or you're not supposed to hold yourself back.
I'm pretty sure you're just supposed to let your libido free. Like, don't try and like
stop yourself. And you're supposed to refocus, realign your thoughts to something more important
to you. Yeah, so this, this whole thing is just a bear embarrassing and I'm ashamed of
it. And that's why I need to, well, I'm not ashamed of it. But I'm embarrassed because
I'm embarrassed that I can't control myself. I can't control my thoughts to focus on what
I need to focus on. And the second that I started conversation with a girl, I can't
stop thinking about it. And it's not even that it's I I've had conversations with girls,
like first period, I sit right next to a girl and I talked to her like a lot, like the first
two days, but I don't think about her outside of class. And it's just, I don't know, it's
probably because I'm not gonna get into that. So I got to get better at holding, like actually
being in control of my brain, because if you can't control your brain, like most people,
that's just embarrassing. I can't control my brain. And that's why I'm working towards
being able to control your my brain. Because the brain your brain is literally your control
center like everything that happens in your life goes on in your brain. So if you can't
control it, how can you expect to do good in your life. And I hope I haven't offended
anyone by talking about this stuff in this episode. But I feel like this is some important
information to cover. Because I'm definitely not the only one who has these same experiences
and feelings and thoughts. Especially with the rise of internet, the internet and misuse
of it. I never really misused it. The worst that I used on the internet was TikTok. And
that was very bad. That literally destroyed my brain. I never went on. I'm not gonna say
the word because I think that it's explicit content. But it's it's the POR, you know,
I never went on that. But it's embarrassing because we have to us as men, we have to hold
ourselves to higher standards and be able to actually control our minds. Because if
you like seriously, it's I'm so ashamed that I went 17 years of my life without even giving
thought to controlling my mind. I didn't actually begin to to work towards being able to control
my mind until like a couple months ago. Maybe even one month ago. So that's literally the
foundation of all of our life. Literally our life foundational. Yeah, so I want to talk
about staying indifferent. So pendulums are if you can be free from pendulums, you're
free to get whatever you want, you're free to choose however you want in life, you're
free to choose your lot in life. But pendulums hold us and grip on to us and prevent us from
basically being free. And school, and also the idea of girls, like the lust, that piece
that I've been talking about, they're they're pendulums, and they're preventing us from
being successful. And they're preventing us for from achieving our goals. And the literally
the only way, the only thing that you need to do to achieve your goals is drop importance.
And us, we feel that girls are so important. And we put them on pedestals. No, they're
equal. We're all equal on an energetic level. Me and another girl are literally the same
on an energetic level. And so us putting them on a pedestal, we're creating such an imbalance
that it creates excess potential, which is what is produced after you create imbalance.
And then those excess potential generate balancing forces, which strive to bring back the balance.
And the way they do that is by reducing your influence on the world. So they literally
make it so you don't have as much of an impact on the world. Now, that may not sound bad
on the surface. But you need to have influence on the world to be able to achieve your goals.
If you have no influence on the world, you're going to be stuck where you are for the rest
of your life, never having improved, never having achieved your goals. And so for me
right now, one of the biggest, strongest, most destructive pendulums is lust towards
girls. And that is what I have to be extremely mindful of over the coming months when I'm
in school. Because once I master this and become indifferent, and just see girls as
another person, then I'm free to achieve whatever I want. And this is an amazing opportunity
for me and for you guys, if you guys are in school, it's an amazing opportunity to practice
mindfulness and become indifferent to the destructive pendulums that are trying to prevent
you from meeting goals, from achieving your goals.
Man, that was a very deep episode. And we're only halfway through. Now I want to tell you
guys, I'm completely switching the topic now because I want to explain that I don't plan
these episodes out ahead of time. I literally just hit record and then start talking. I'd
literally just say my intro, and then hopefully something pops up into my, that's why I always
start with explaining my day, what happened in my day today, because that usually starts
the conversation and it gets me into the zone. And the reason why I'm telling you this is
because I'm just trying to give you guys the most like, genuine, I'm just trying to have
a conversation with you guys and not really structure anything. I'm simply just trying
to document the process so you guys can absolutely replicate this. And I want you guys to see
once I'm successful that you guys can do it too. You simply just have to follow the principles
that I'm explaining in all my episodes. Now, trans surfing is not the only thing that you
need to do. Trans surfing is absolutely vital. I mean, a lot of people succeed without trans
surfing, but if you want to succeed quick and efficiently, the most, the best, and you
want to live your best life possible, trans surfing is vital. But if you're just starting
out, I would not recommend trans surfing because if I told myself to read trans surfing two
years ago when I was like, literally just watching TikTok all day, I would never have
read it and I never would have gotten through like page two. I would have just given up
on page one. And so that's why I'm telling you guys, you guys have to work up to trans
surfing. And I'm saying work up to reading it. You guys should, you guys can and absolutely
should implement all of these principles or try to implement some of them because in all
honestly, in truth, I don't implement them all. I'm just working towards being to that,
getting to that point. There's only honestly, I'm like just beginning and I'm like extremely,
I'm a really bad transfer for right now. And that me sharing with you guys is helping me.
That's like an entirely selfish thing. I'm doing this to help me because no one's listening
to me right now. I have like six subscribers. So no one, no one's listening. I'm doing this
to help me. And then eventually you guys will be able to see because I can't conceptualize
the idea of future people listening. I can like understand that people will listen to
my podcast, but I can't like see your guys' faces. Like I don't know who you are. And
that's what I'm trying to say. Right now I'm doing it for myself, but I'm keeping it up
for you guys because I just want you guys to be able to see that there is no excuses
and you're choosing to be where you are right now. And if you want more in life, do better
and choose. You simply just have to choose. Now, if you think you can't choose to go move
on your own to Hawaii, if you think that you're not able to, well, that's not your thoughts.
Because you're being trapped by a pendulum and your wavelength is adhering to its wavelength.
And that pendulum is just trying to keep you in, try and keep you in the system. And once
you choose to break free and improve yourself and then eventually break free, you will be
able to choose whatever you want in life. Now, this is a lot for me to say because to
be honest, my life is almost identical to on the surface. It's basically identical to
what it was two years ago, except yeah, like I'm literally living in the same home. I have
I'm probably poorer. I have less money than I had like two years ago. I'm still living
at my parents' house. I mean, I am 17. So that is kind of there is no excuse. I chose
this. But me saying all this stuff, I just want you guys to see that my identity shifted.
I was like you at once. I was like, oh, I'm gonna have to go to college. I'm gonna have
to work a nine to five for the rest of my life. And and then I over a long period of
time, I slowly changed my identity. And now I'm on the edge. I'm absolutely on the edge
to where my identity is almost fully shifted. And then once my identity is fully shifted,
I will be my life will start to transform. And it already has started to transform. And
for example, I'm a part time student. That's awesome. Another example, I'm on Episode 28
of my podcast. If I would have tried to do this two years ago, I wouldn't have had a
vision for the future, a good enough vision for the future, or even any vision for the
future to where I would have gotten past Episode two, maybe maybe even one. I probably wouldn't
have even posted or made my I probably wouldn't have gotten past the create a channel create
a podcast page on rss.com. So the fact that I'm on Episode 28, and I'll be on like Episode
60 by the time I get to Funnel Hacking Live, that shows I have a vision for the future.
Now, I want you guys know, I don't know what's coming up. And that is a thing that you guys
should not try and decide what's coming up either you guys should just have a vision
for the goal that you're moving towards. Just have a path forward. Now don't create the
path because just walk the path because if you try to create the path, that's your mind
trying to form exactly what you're going to do. And inevitably, when things don't go the
way you choose, that is simply just the world trying to get you there quicker. But we interpret
it as bad. And so we get latched on to by pendulums. And so then we never make it. So
don't have expectations. Just go with the flow and accept what's the word, there's a
word. It's it's like differences, oh, variations, accept variations of your into your script.
And what I mean by that is, when you expect for something to happen, for example, on on
Monday, two days ago, I expected for me to just walk into the building, go up to my counselor's
office and get what I wanted. But a variation happened. And the world didn't want me to
do that on that moment. And so I simply was not even allowed in the building at all. And
so I just accepted the fact that that just happened. And when I'm with my day and created
a backup plan. And that was the variation in the script, I still got what I wanted.
I just didn't get it at that moment. Now, it's okay. And that is just the world trying
to move things around for me. And the world is taking care of us. And when I say the world,
you can interpret that however you like. It could be God, it could be the world, it could
be whatever you want. It doesn't matter. It could be your guardian angel. I don't know.
But I call it the world because that's what he calls it in trans surfing. And I kind of
feel weird saying God, like God is looking out for me. Even though I believe in God,
I just grew up in a Christian household. And it wasn't like anything that I was taught.
It was just for some reason, I just feel weird around, I just feel really weird and sensitive
around the topic. It's just some like internal turmoil that I don't know, it's weird. So
I prefer world. I'm just more comfortable saying that. And it doesn't really matter
what how you interpret it or what you what form you feel it takes place. It's all the
same thing. Like there, you could call it love. Like every like love governs the world.
And that's just simply like a fact. I actually don't know if it's a fact. But I feel like
that is true. And all of these things are just different manifestations of the higher
power like higher forces, whatever, God, it doesn't doesn't matter what you call it. It's
all the same thing. And what was I talking about? I was talking about the variations
in the script. And so you're supposed to go with the alternatives flow. And the world
is the world. So nature never wastes energy. That's why we walk on our feet and not our
ears. It's just the most energy efficient. And so we the way you go with the flow is
by choosing the most energy efficient and most optimal path forward. Nature never screws
you over that would waste a lot of energy and has no purpose. So nature always gives
you what you want. But it's us that prevents us from getting what we want. Because nature
sets path sets course the thing. And then when our mind begins to think and creates
importance and doesn't and by the way, when we feel as though we didn't get the way we
wanted, like we the it didn't play out the way we wanted. That is just inner importance
because that's basically us saying our brain saying that I, I crafted the path forward
and I am right. I know what's right for me. I'm extremely in knowledgeable like that's
just inflating our brains importance level. And so the world sets forth the and the actually
the world sets forth the worst way if you think that the war if you say that the world
does not take care of you, then the world will give you what you want. Because you get
whatever you choose the world is a mirror. So if you think that the world takes care
of you, then the world will set path, the best forward like the it will set forward
the best path. But if you think the world does not take care of you, well, then it won't
take care of you. It'll set for the it'll set down the worst path for you. So just know
that the world takes care of you. And then it will create the it will give you the best
path forward. And you simply just have to go on the path. And the way you do that is
by whenever you come up with a decision, you imagine yourself making one decision. And
then clear your mind and contemplate the emptiness and just trying trying to figure out what
your inner state is. So do you feel tense? Or do you feel at peace? If you feel tense,
that's the heart saying no, and you should not take that decision. If you feel at peace,
then take that decision because that's the heart saying yes. And literally, the only
thing that's preventing us from moving towards our goals is importance. Because all the obstacles
that we experience in life, we created them, the world did not create them. And if you
look at animals, since they don't have like consciousness like we do, they never experience
obstacles or problems in their life. Their life is just straightforward, because it's
a waste of energy to have obstacles like it nature way is nature is not going to waste
energy on giving you obstacles. But you create the obstacles yourself. I'm gonna get some
water. Now I'm not gonna lie, the only thing that I've been doing for the past couple days
honestly, the past like week relating to my business is just recording the podcast episodes.
And I've kind of hit a wall where I don't really know where to go next. And every time
I sit down to try and build a funnel for a local business, my I don't know if it's the
right path. I don't know if I'm just being lazy. Or if it's my heart genuinely saying
no, because I just feel inner tension whenever I don't even know if it's tension, I just
every time I sit down to do something, I get like a lump in my throat for some reason.
But not this like I don't get a lump in my throat when I'm doing the podcast. Like this
is the only thing that I do relating to business that does not give me a lump in my throat.
So that just shows me that this is the right path forward, at least for now. And eventually,
I'll maybe I'll be able to monetize this and this will be the path forward. I don't know.
Who knows maybe I'm just at in the beginning, I did this to have an audience so I could
advertise my products and eventually make you guys products. And I actually have one
information product. But I haven't worked on my personal business other than this. So
I don't know. We'll see what happens. I that's like one thing that I don't have a vision
for the future. I don't know where to go next. That's one thing that I did. I started on
June 26. I believe it was around that day. I started journaling every day. Now I did
journals in the past, but I was never consistent for more than like two months. I did dreaming
journals like where I tracked wrote down my dreams so I could start to lucid dream. I
did that for like two or three months. And then I kind of stopped because I didn't want
to spend all that time in the morning working on it, even though it was literally only like
five minutes. And then I did gratitude journaling for like a week and I realized that that was
stupid and it was just a waste of time. And then I did. And then all randomly I started
taking notes on my YouTube videos every once in a while that I would watch. And then just
randomly out of the blue, I just decided to start journaling. And so ever since that day,
like two months ago, I've been journaling every single day. And that's one of the things
that has helped me make a lot of progress. Excuse me, I have hiccups, but that's one
of the things that have helped me make a lot of progress. And it's journaling because it's
helped me stay reflective and reflect on my day and see where I'm going bad, see where
I'm going good. And that's another reason why I like podcasting because once I get in
the zone, I basically start exposing myself. Like right now when I expose myself that I
was, or in the beginning of the episode I exposed myself that how I was, my thoughts
towards girls. And I just expose myself on a lot of different things and it allows me
to be extremely open and critical about my actions and actually decide whether or not
it's helping me. And it's definitely not helping me. Being reflective is helping me 100%. But
all the things that I'm saying, like me thinking about girls is not helping me. So then once
I expose myself, I start the first step in the sequence to change, which is realizing
what you're doing and actually seeing that it's bad. And there's some marketing principles
is to tell your dream customer what they're doing and make them realize how harmful it
is for them. So there's a term called the pain web. I learned it from Garrett J. White.
And it's basically where you have to get them to feel the pain of the habit that they're
doing and how it's reflecting four parts of their life. And I don't remember exactly what
the four parts were, but actually no, I could pull it up right now, but I have it as a bookmark.
But I'm not going to because I promised you guys the other day that I will not be on my
computer because that gets me out of the zone. But the pain web, there's four topics. And
I'm just going to explain the topics that I'm pretty sure are the right things. So there's
your health, your family, your wealth, which is like your business. And I forgot what the
other one was, but pretty much you have to explain. So let's use the example. Let's just
use the example of the way you think about girls. So you have to explain to them how
that harmful habit is damaging and detrimental to your health, their family, their wealth
and the other thing. So if I were advertising to you guys, which I'm also advertising to
you guys and myself, because I'm trying to do that pain web for myself and for you guys
so we can start to make change. So I'm just coming up with this on the blue. So thinking
about girls that way and wasting all of your energy and sending all of your energy towards
them. First of all, you don't even know them. They don't even know you. Even if you think
you know them, you don't. Even if you spent a whole year talking to them, you don't. You
know yourself and that's all. You barely even know yourself because you have no control
over your head. You can't even stop thinking about girls. And this is affecting four key
areas of your life. So you thinking about girls is distracting you from your health
and this is causing your weight, your physique, your mental, emotional happiness, all of your
health habits. You are just getting way worse unhealthy because you're wasting all of your
energy towards her. You don't even know her. Now this is making you less rich because you're
investing all of your energy, your focus, your drive, not towards your goals, not towards
making a million dollars. You're focusing it towards this girl you saw walking on the
street. Such a waste. Now all of that focus and energy could be harnessed and turned into
a million dollar business. But no, you chose to send it towards some stranger. Now let
me explain to you this. You have a future and in the future you're going to have a wife
and kids. And that wife and kid are all going to be lower quality because you can't control
yourself and can't stop thinking about a girl. That wife is going to know that you can't
control yourself and you can't control your brain to only focus on her. She's going to
feel subconsciously, she's going to know something is up and every time you guys walk by a hot
girl on the street, she's going to feel all of your energy leaving your body going towards
her. That random stranger and not towards your own wife. Your wife is going to be worse,
she's going to be sad, she's going to start to die and wither away because you're not
giving her your energy. You're giving your energy to some random stranger. Now let's
talk about your kid. Your kid is going to pick up on your habits and he is going to
feel that you are not in control of your own emotion. So he's going to pick up on that
and not trust you as a man. He's not going to trust you as a father and you know what?
He's going to pick up on the habits and think just the same about other girls and he's going
to waste all of his energy and the loop is going to repeat. Now let's say you have a
daughter. She's going to pick up on it as well and she's just going to feel that all
men are like that and she's not going to feel safe around you, her own father because you
can't control your mind to where you... you can't even control your mind to stop lusting
over some random girl on the street. So how do you think that will make your daughter
feel? Because she can sense the energy. Children are more attuned to energy than adults. She
can sense all of the energy that is leaving your body and she can sense where it's going
on a subconscious level. Maybe it's not conscious but subconsciously she will know that something
is up and you are not... you're not strong. Yeah and I forgot... oh spiritually. I think
spirituality is the fourth part of the pain web so I'm going to get into that. If you
are thinking about a girl all day, you're not having focus, you're not having clarity,
you're not one with God. You're just wasting all of your energy towards that girl and not
towards your God or your world. And the world will know and you won't be able to give as
much energy to your world so the world won't give you that much energy back. I don't even
know what I'm saying about that but that's pretty much it. And that past couple minutes
when I was giving you guys the pain web marketing, that goes towards myself as well. I needed
to hear all of that stuff as well. And that stuff didn't come out of my mind. It just
came out of my heart, straight from my heart. All this stuff, I needed to hear just as much
as you guys needed to hear. I am on the road to improvement just the same as you guys.
I am no better than you guys. I am no better than all the girls. They, just because I said
they're low quality at my school, that doesn't make me better than them. I am low quality
as well. Now I'm striving to be high quality and I feel as though I am high quality. But
I'm not comparing myself to them because that creates a dependent relationship and also
creates excess potential which strive to reduce your influence on the world. So do not compare
yourself to girls and don't feel that you're superior to them either because we're all
equal. And if you feel that you're superior to them, well you're screwing yourself over
because you, that's another issue. You can't control your thoughts to where you are not
lessing over a girl. Well you can't control your thoughts to where you're not feeling
superior to another person. And this counts towards girls and guys. It doesn't matter.
Do not ever feel superior or inferior to anyone. Don't feel inferior to me. Don't feel inferior
to the president. Don't feel inferior to the famous soccer player. Doesn't matter who.
Do not feel inferior or superior to anyone. That's just from an extremely selfish point
of view or from an entirely selfish point of view. Do not feel inferior or superior
because then you will not achieve your goals as easily. Let me get some more water. I'm
really excited to post this episode because this is my first episode with a good quality
microphone and I'm really excited to see my future growth because this is a milestone
in my channel. Episode 21 was a huge milestone for me and episode 10 simply because episode
10 I hit double digits so that was a milestone. Episode 21 was a huge milestone as well because
then I entered the 1% club of top 1% podcasts in the world. And this episode is a milestone
for me as well because it's the first time I have a better, a real good microphone. So
I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. And this stuff do not take lighthearted. Take,
put it into your body. Take it to heart because this stuff is an extremely important topic.
Don't place excess meaning on it either because that's important. Have fun in your journeys
and I'm on a journey as well. To wrap things up, don't forget to download your favorite
episodes and subscribe to the Ascend Momentum Show. But before you guys leave, make sure
to remember the Eagles.