So the big question is this, how do young men like us, who didn't listen to society,
who are on our own, how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow?
That is a question and this show will give you the answers.
My name is James Radzinski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show.
Welcome back everyone.
So yesterday was an amazing day and I'm going to be honest, today was not that great of
a day.
So what happened, I did my normal stuff but today I'm enrolled in this class in school
for my senior year which starts next week in one, in literally six days, next Tuesday
and Tuesday is Wednesday.
And I'm enrolled in this class which is basically the leadership class where the seniors are
leaders.
There's like, it's really only for seniors and the leaders like select few seniors become
leaders.
So our grade probably has like 800 or 900 kids in it and maybe like 200 or 300 people are
leaders and I was chosen to be a leader and so I accepted.
That was last winter and it's August right now so that was like December.
And when I originally got the email to be invited, I initially rejected, like not, I
didn't send them a message saying I'd say no, I just said, I told my parents and I said
I'm not doing this.
And then they told me to, they told me don't reject it right away.
And so I was like okay and then I let it sit and then I realized that the reason why I'm
rejecting this was because I was uncomfortable and I was scared.
And so I ended up accepting it and so that was January and I was into it.
And then I started getting really deep into self-improvement and started getting really
into business.
And over like the beginning of September this thought went, like started in my mind, a seed
was planted in my mind saying that, or not September, the beginning of the summer, that's
what I'm going to say.
A seed was planted in my mind saying that I need to get out of school as soon as possible.
So throughout summer that seed grew and grew and grew until eventually I, it was that thought
in my mind was so strong I took action on it and over the past couple days I've been,
well on Monday I went in and deleted all my stuff from my schedule but my schedule was
not good enough.
I still had leadership and calculus which were not required classes.
So I was going to get out maybe like two or three hours later than I should have, or than
the minimum.
So today I was, today was a thing that we had to go to as leaders where we had to give
tours to the freshmen, the incoming freshmen, give them tours of their new classes when
they pick up their schedules.
So we basically just had to go for like two hours and give them tours.
So I did that.
It was alright and I was not uncomfortable at all.
I was completely calm.
It was just not a waste of time but I could have used the time on business and I didn't
really grow that much from the experience.
I mean I grew and it was a good experience and I'm grateful but the reality is I would
have had much more benefit going to the park shirtless and barefoot instead with my friend.
But other than that my plan was to go to that thing and then talk to my leadership teacher
about dropping out of the class.
And then after that I was going to talk to my counselor about dropping, actually taking
the step to dropping me out of, unenrolling me out of that class and also the, and then
I was going to have my counselor take all of the, sorry guys I'm not in, this episode
is not going really good.
I gotta focus.
Okay so I had my counselor, I was planning on going to the counselor to drop all of my
classes except for my required classes but neither of those things happened.
The leadership teacher was in a meeting so I couldn't talk and she wanted to reschedule
to this Sunday night for the training session for Husky Kickoff Day which is just the first
day of school for freshmen and no other grade levels go to school that day.
Like freshmen get a first day of school and then everyone else starts the next day.
It's just for the freshmen to get their classes and all that.
But I, she wanted to do it then and as you guys know I go to bed at 6.30pm and I don't
like staying up late for bad reasons.
And so with a combination of me wanting to drop out of that class and the training session
was at like 7pm at night, I was not about to, I do not want to go to it.
So I was like bummed after I received that text because I was at the school already waiting
to receive that text from her and so she said she was in a meeting.
So then I was like okay I'll figure this out and then I instantly felt like demotivated,
felt really sad, felt like my heart and mind were disconnected again.
And then so I decided to just try and go to my counselor's office to set up my schedule
to where all they had to do was to, I was going to actually get rid of my calculus class
which is not required and then organize my schedule so that all I would have to do is
drop out of leadership and then the schedule would be perfect.
But then none of my counselors, none of the counselors were there so I couldn't do that
either.
So I just had to go home, eat, and then I attempted to distract myself by going on Click
Funnels and starting to build the flower funnel for the flower shop, the business that, my
first client.
So I was like okay I might as well do something productive today.
So I started to build that but I was just not getting in the zone.
My heart and mind were disconnected and I wasn't doing very well.
So I went upstairs and ate food, or like I ate a pineapple.
To try and distract myself I practiced balancing on this medicine ball that I bought.
All attempts of distraction were unsuccessful.
So then I just said, told my mom I can't wait until Sunday or something, I told my mom something
and I just, I was like should I just email?
And then she was like sure.
So I emailed and I wrote out a very, my mom said it was a very well written email.
So I just sent that maybe 10 minutes before I got on this podcast.
So I am not planning on checking the reply until tomorrow because I don't want to get
distracted and I want to study because I haven't studied in a long time.
I haven't studied since like yesterday morning and I've been skipping expert secrets for
the past three days which is not good.
And I want to study at least Transurfing today so that happened.
And I'm not going to lie, right now I still kind of feel, I feel like my heart and mind
were disconnected but then the second I sent the email and took action I was back to neutral
and it was just up to my interpretation.
To it was just up to my interpretation to decide how I'm feeling and honestly my subconscious
interpretation was, and probably conscious as well, was to stay feeling like this when
I could have chosen to be happy and get on a positive lifeline.
So I'm going to change that.
Right now.
Okay.
Let's go.
Alright.
I, future's looking good.
I have a client.
Right now I'm still like on the gray.
My mood is gray.
Yesterday I was bright yellow.
I was super happy.
And now it's gray.
But I'm going to do a little exercise live right now that I just, just like just thought
of doing.
Let's go dude.
Future's looking great.
I have a, my first client so that means that I get to build her a funnel and make it successful
and make her a lot of money and then I'll be able to charge a lot of money in the future
for my expertise.
This is huge.
This is just, I'm already on the first step.
I am, my life, my life is great.
My future's looking bright.
I'm already on the first step to becoming, to making my first thousand dollars.
Like I just, my goal is five thousand dollars by September 25th.
And right now I'm at zero and it's August 9th.
But I just have to build that funnel and I feel as though I can do it and get it up live
on her computer before school even starts.
So that's looking good.
And then I'll have so much time during school as well because I'm, my, once I get the scheduling
thing fixed and once I get all the things worked around, worked through, I am going
to have only three periods of the day instead of eight.
So I will have a first period which will be English, a second period which will be the
other English class, and a third period which will be gym.
And then fourth period will be lunch and then the rest is dismissal so I'll just leave after
gym.
And this will be huge because I'll be able to get out at maybe ten o'clock after third
period and honestly I can, since it's gym class, gym would be one third of my day.
So the day would not even be that bad.
I just have to do two English classes and then gym.
And those English classes are not going to be that hard because I'm going to go to, I'm
going to tell my counselor to give me the easiest English classes possible.
So I won't have homework and if I do I'll just do it in English class, the next English
class or I'll do it in that current one.
And yeah, so, future is actually looking really good.
Things are just looking good.
I just was nervous this morning because change was happening and I misinterpreted it even
though it was positive, it was actually being beneficial towards me.
The world is making changes to push me towards my lifeline and I didn't, I interpreted the
change as bad when in reality it was actually good and I just didn't see how it was good,
what it was.
And I just got to get better at interpreting things as positive because really the world
is taking care of me and everything that happens is to my benefit.
So I felt a lot better and I'm not going to lie, I've been going to bed late, like an
hour late past two days and it's unacceptable, I need to be on top of my health.
Over the past two days I've been saying like, oh this is for a good reason.
Yeah, it was for a good reason but I could have done a better job planning and keeping
my health as priority.
So today I'm not going to be doing that, I'm going to be going to bed at my normal time.
I actually reworked my night time routine and my morning routine, so I have the same
morning routine but for context I bought a medicine ball, it's just like this small soccer
ball size ball which is 10 pounds.
Medicine ball you might have seen at the gym, people like to throw it on the ground.
I've seen big ones, small ones but the one I got is about the same size as a size 5,
soccer ball, maybe slightly bigger.
So if you know how big a soccer ball is, like a normal professional sized soccer ball, then
it's just slightly bigger and I bought it, it's 10 pounds, soccer ball is not 10 pounds,
so you can't really kick it like a soccer ball, it's like a weight essentially, but
it's a ball.
And I bought that because one of the things that I'm going to be doing soon actually is
going to Hawaii and surfing and becoming a surfer.
My plan is to make some money, make $5,000 before September 25th and then go to Funnel
Hacking Live which is on September 27th with my friend Franklin and then stay there for
like 3 or 4 days however long the event is and decide if we want to stay at Florida or
go back home or we'll decide, whatever.
And Funnel Hacking Live will be huge because I'll be able to learn a lot about entrepreneurship,
marketing, pretty much has the possibility to change my life.
So I'll do that and then I'll come home probably and finish out the school year and make enough
money, like make a bunch of money, like just focus 100% on business and go to Hawaii or
some place that's warm and has good surfing waves, surfing waves, waves for surfing.
And this will be around December, like right after I finish my first semester, it'll be
then and it will allow me to, well once I do that I'm just going to move out on my own
to Hawaii or wherever else and live there for however long I choose, still work on business
but really just focus on surfing.
And my plan is to, once I, second I land, I'm going to go bald, I'm going to shave off
all my hair because right now I have the surfer, let me look up surfer dude hair.
Uh, yeah right now I basically have the surfer dude hair but it's not really that long, it's
just like decently long.
It's not like past, past my collarbone, it's not past my chin either, it's like, I don't
know it doesn't matter but I have like surfer dude hair kind of and right now I don't know
how to surf and my balance is terrible.
And so that's why I bought the medicine ball because I'm practicing balancing on it, like
standing on it and doing squats on it, doing many different exercises to practice my balance.
I'm doing that 10 minutes every day right after my meditation in the morning.
I just add it right after my meditation, my breath work, 10 minutes every day and that
will build up my balance by the time it's, by the time I'm ready to start learning how
to surf I'll be at an advantage than I would have been otherwise.
But also, but then once I get to, once I get to Hawaii or wherever I go, once I get there
for the first time I will be terrible at surfing because I've never done it before.
That's just how everyone is with every skill.
And so I will shave my head bald and that is because I want to, I want the hair growth
to be incongruent with my surfing growth.
So I want my hair to grow as I become a better surfer.
And then by the time I'm a very good surfer my hair will be long again and it will be
the surfer dude hair again.
And so that's, that's my plan.
Go to Hawaii, go bald, learn how to surf.
Yeah and so I'm really excited for the future.
And I know that the world is going to take care of it for me.
I just have to keep moving forward and just things like this, I just gotta, things like
what happened today, how I interpreted change as bad and instantly felt sad or like disconnected,
felt down.
I gotta interpret change as good because that's the world pushing me forward, the world helping
me along my way.
Yeah so I gotta, I really gotta get in on reading Transurfing Everyday because I have
been reading it pretty much everyday but yesterday I only read it for like 10 minutes and today
I haven't even read it yet.
So I'm gonna read it right before bed, hopefully get a 30 minutes at least in.
And I gotta keep reading Transurfing because I'm on the foundation part so I'm trying to
really get it in, really trying to get all that stuff in.
And I'm really excited to get to Intention which we'll talk about, Inner Intention and
Outer Intention.
And I understand, I like know of the concepts but I don't really have a deep understanding
of it.
I don't really have a deep understanding of any of this stuff in Transurfing but studying
it is definitely helping me.
And the only way to do it is by doing it everyday.
And right now I'm kinda falling off so I gotta catch myself back.
I really gotta set my routine because a lot of things are popping up that I'm not preparing
for, not planning well for.
For example, yesterday we spent the whole day at the mall talking to girls and I didn't
prepare for that to take that long but I should have done everything beforehand so I didn't
have to do anything after.
Stuff like that.
Okay so as I'm writing, or as I'm talking on these podcasts I want you guys to take
note of my tone.
So today my tone is a lot less excited, a lot less joyful as yesterday.
And yesterday was probably a lot more than the day before.
And that's just, I'm not sure if that is what it's supposed to be.
I'm not sure if I should be happy all the time or if it's normal in Transurfing terms
to have high days and low days.
I'm not sure.
I'm not sure what it is but for now I'm just interpreting it as normal.
I just want you guys to know that my path is really a roller coaster and your journey
is going to be a roller coaster as well.
I've noticed that over this past summer I started on the lowest part of the track and
let me get some water, I have to pick up this.
I notice, okay so I'm going to write down life as a roller coaster.
So in the beginning of summer I started at the bottom of the track on the roller coaster
just at the ground level and I had a little ups and then I went back down.
Every once in a while I'd go up a little bit and then go right back down.
Just slight bumps and those bumps represent joy, like high points, good moments.
So the more bumps the better obviously and you would actually want your baseline to be
higher.
So in the beginning of this summer and even like before but I'm going to use the beginning
of this summer as a time frame and this year is 2023 and the beginning of this summer is
my baseline was zero.
We're just going to reset the baseline to zero even though I was like better than four
months before, let's just start with zero at the beginning of summer for simplistic
sake.
So I would ride on the track flat just like it was a train and then every once in a while
there would be a bump of happiness or good moment and then it would go down back to my
baseline and the baseline of zero doesn't necessarily mean bad, like I'm not happy,
it just means neutral.
That's where I'm neutral, I'm not happy or sad.
I was just pushing along.
And then over the couple weeks as I was getting to know my friend Franklin who I had just,
I met him a long time ago like maybe in middle school and but we never really talked and
we just played like video games every once in a while together a long time ago.
We weren't like really friends and then once I saw him at the gym this one time and we
both like started talking and then we both realized that each of us were on self-improvement
which was an awesome experience to have because just over the past couple weeks or months
we were both thinking like there's no one else at this school that is like me and then
turns out that there was and we just hadn't like met each other yet, like officially knew
that each other were on this path.
And so I, so as I was, that was when I like met my friend, that was in the beginning of
summer so my baseline was zero and then slowly as more bumps, I would hit a bump and then
I would go back down but this time I wouldn't go all the way back down to the baseline.
My new baseline would be a little bit higher.
And then I would just keep going up, like I would just stay at the baseline and then
another bump and then over time these bumps would get closer and closer to where they
were happy and maybe once every couple weeks to once a week to once every couple days.
And if you guys like listen back on the podcast you could probably tell that yesterday was
my bump and I went back down to the baseline but just a little bit above the baseline right
now and so my baseline now is higher than it was last week and I'm just now realizing
that I do have, I am on a roller coaster or I am on a train, a train ride.
I'm gonna say life is a, life is a, or life is an unusual train ride.
Because that's more indicative of life than a roller coaster because a roller coaster
goes all the way up, all the way down, flips like all that stuff.
Yeah life is like that but actually not life.
I'm gonna say self-improvement is an unusual roller coaster.
So as long as you keep walking forward, keep going at it, keep pushing your baseline will
just get higher and higher every day.
And today I was like, I'm not gonna lie, I was just on my phone looking for something
to distract myself with.
I was on the podcast like reading episode descriptions on a podcast to try and distract
myself and then I saw this one guy who's like reverse aging so I, that caught my eye so
I just started looking at his stuff and then I caught myself maybe, I knew that I was not
doing, I knew that I shouldn't be doing that like the whole time but then eventually I
was like dude what am I doing after like 10 minutes or 20 minutes of doing that and then
I went back upstairs and then that's where the beginning of the episode I told you, I
told my mom I can't wait any longer.
So then I made an email, sent it to my teachers and counselors and then now I'm good.
Okay so this, so right now I'm just on the decline of the bump.
So you go up, yesterday was my up and then this morning was my down and now I'm at my
new baseline after sending the email and so now soon my next up will happen.
Maybe when I, maybe the park tomorrow my friend and I are going to the park tomorrow because
we skipped today because I had to go to do tours, give tours to the freshmen.
Not a valid reason to skip but it's okay.
Maybe it's because I didn't go to the park today, maybe the park is just so important
now that if I don't go then I'm just not as good or as happy or whatever during the day
maybe it's also because for the past two days I've been going to bed at like 730 instead
of 630 staying up late but I don't know it'll all work out.
I'm going to bed at 630 today and also I'm going to the park tomorrow so I'm back on
routine tomorrow.
I was going to go on this live training that Russell Brunson that I signed up for from
Russell Brunson like a funnel builder training but I'm not going to do that because I think
I'd have more value studying his book Expert Secrets than going on his training simply
because when you see something you forget it but when you hear something you forget
it which is like watching the training video like listening to him talk and then when you
see something you remember it which is like reading and when you do something you understand
it which is like building a funnel for a client, my first client.
But tomorrow I'll be studying Expert Secrets and building that funnel.
Man I'm back on routine tomorrow.
Tomorrow's Thursday and then Friday we're going back to the mall I think to yeah we're
going back to the mall to ask for some more girls numbers.
Expand our comfort zone one more time because we already did the hard part so.
On not tomorrow on Friday I meant Friday we're going to do that and so we're just going to
do that and then we already did the hard part the first day was like 100% fear and then
on Friday when we go it'll be like maybe 50 to 30%.
I don't really know because my framework of 100% fear the first time and then 50% fear
the second time was based off of going to one customer or like one business every day
which was like one minute every day but yesterday we went to maybe 10 girls in like three hours.
So that is like we talked to 10 girls in like three hours so I don't know how that will
work because we did a lot more but it was a lot more dense so who knows maybe we'll
be at 0% discomfort on Friday or we'll be at 50% who knows we'll see.
Right now I feel like I could do it so I feel like I'm at less than 50% comfort for that
particular task like of asking for girls numbers.
So yeah that is something.
Let me look up how to expand my comfort zone because asking for girls numbers is going
to get really easy really quick just like going to local businesses is and by the way
I said I was going to go to one local business every single day for the rest of like summer.
Yeah I stopped.
Today was the last, yesterday was the last day because I now have to focus 100% of my
time on building that funnel for that one business that I actually my first acceptance
my first client.
So I don't want to go to new businesses one because it's not uncomfortable anymore I can
do it easily so it's not worth my time just for the discomfort but two I don't want to
put on more work and divide my attention over multiple businesses.
I want to focus 100% on one business and get it extremely successful.
Alright so I'm going to look up how to expand my comfort zone.
Oh and that's one thing.
Do not you guys need to alright so I made a commitment to you guys like five days ago
to go to one business every single day and I broke it today.
Well technically I haven't broken it yet because I could still go after this episode but I'm
not going to go and so that's one thing.
You guys should know that it's okay to break your commitment as long as something comes
up like for example the thing that came up for me was that it's not worth it to do it
anymore I get way more benefit not doing it so that's the only reason why it's you guys
could go against your commitment because if you would have more benefit not doing it for
me it would just be adding on more unnecessary work because I know that I could get more
people to accept me and I don't want to work on multiple businesses at once I want to just
focus on one and it's not uncomfortable anymore so I'm not getting benefit on that aspect.
But when it's not okay to go against your commitment is when you're just being a wuss
and you think that you could you don't want to do it that day and trust me every single
day I didn't want to do it and I had moments where I didn't want to do it whether I told
you guys or not I think there were days where I did tell you and I always just passed through
it like that's the difference between successful people and not successful people is the successful
people just do it they just walk pass through that mental emotion and figure out how to
make it work and not successful people just succumb to the thought.
Alright so I'm looking at this I just looked up how to expand your comfort zone.
This is an interesting picture that I just saw.
So it's a circle with a circle around it but it's slightly to the side so it's kind of
like so the alright so it's like a circle and a circle and a circle but they're all
not in the center this circle originates on the left side and then it just expands to
the right words.
You can probably see that picture too same picture that I'm seeing if you look up on
Google how to expand my comfort zone and this picture is the first circle is comfort zone
feel safe and in control and then the second zone is fear zone affected by others opinion
find excuses and lack self confidence and then the third zone is the learning zone deal
with challenges and problems acquire new skills extend the comfort zone so the learn it looks
like the learning zone is where you actually start to extend the comfort zone and the fourth
circle the fourth zone is called the growth zone and it's find purpose live dreams set
new goals realize aspirations.
Now if I were to just look at that picture two days ago maybe even before I went to the
mall yesterday I would not have understand this picture at all but since I took action
and if you guys haven't listened to episode 20 last episode definitely listen to it that
is the best episode I've ever made and the second best is episode 14 but this picture
is so important because the growth zone you have to go through the fear zone and the learning
zone in order to make it to the growth zone so the fear zone let's I'm going to talk about
this in the context of approaching a girl cold approaching a girl and asking for a number
so the comfort zone is before you come up with the idea to cold approach and then the
second the idea comes up to your head to cold approach you enter the fear zone where you're
affected by the others opinions you've tried to find excuses like a lot of the excuses
that popped up yesterday at the mall was she's with her mom she's got friends around her
there's like a lot of different excuses and sometimes the excuses just didn't even make
sense like I am not going to look not going to do this one even though it was just us
being a wuss and so that's finding excuses and then lack self-confidence I'm not sure
if I necessarily lack the self-confidence actually no I definitely did because I would
like walked up to the first girl trembling in my like shaking in my voice so I definitely
lacked self-confidence and then once you enter the learning zone that is when you actually
start speaking with the girl literally the second you start speaking with the girls when
you enter the learning zone or maybe even after I don't know how this really relates
to this particular example where you deal with challenges and problems acquire new skills
yes so the acquire new skills you would actually yeah that's when you talk to the girl you
actually take action you acquire new skills and then also extend the comfort zone that
is where yeah talking to the girls that and then because I'm not sure if I'm really interpreting
this picture 100% accurately I didn't read the article that goes along with it I just
looked it up just now but the learning zone also has extend the comfort zone so that extends
and what I was talking about yesterday about once you take action you release your access
potential and it turns into pure intention and pure intention is all you need to achieve
your goals and so the growth zone is find purpose live dreams the way you do that you
find a purpose and then you set new goals and yeah set new goals realize aspirations
are the other two things so you find your purpose and then you set the goals and then
you realize your aspirations and then you live the dreams so that is literally the growth
zone and you have to go through the fear zone the learning zone until you get to the growth
zone and honestly the fear zone is the hardest part it's directly outside of your comfort
zone and so the second you it's the hardest part to walk up to a girl it's easy to walk
up to a girl but it's the hardest part to actually begin the conversation but the second
you start talking to her you're already in so you might as well keep talking and then
you the second even the second you start talking to her if you just walk away literally you
say one word and then walk away that's still expanding your comfort zone then the next
time if you like saying two words and then walk away like that is another expanding your
comfort zone and then eventually you'll be able to start a whole conversation and that's
like this literally walking up to a girl and what's it called walking up to a girl and
actually starting a conversation is probably the hardest thing to do if you have built
up a lot of access potential and if you're like most people you have built up a lot of
access potential and that's that excess potential gets built up through many ways like putting
girls on pedestals like making them giving them more value than they actually are just
all that stuff and that when it's just think about it like this when you're walking up
to a girl and you're like brain is exploding you're start dying like you're literally you
feel like you're about like you know that feeling if you start walking up to a girl
and then you just start going like your brain starts just goes numb or something like that
I don't know how to describe it but that is because all that excess potential is affecting
you and then the second you take action and start a conversation you just dissipate all
of the excess potential and by the way excess potential decreases your influence on the
world so if you have a lot of excess potential you're not going to have that much influence
on the world which means you're not going to be able to achieve your goals and when
you take action and start a conversation you one dissipate the excess potential which allows
you to have more influence in the world like you actually should so you can achieve your
goals but two it actually converts the excess potential into pure intention and pure intention
is happens when excess potential gets converted through action so when you take action excess
potential converts into pure intention and pure intention is the only thing that is needed
to achieve your goals literally just pure intention and then you can live in Hawaii
and surf all day so that's huge taking action it's so it's like a double double effect
oh wow okay this is the the next picture that i just looked at expanding your comfort zone
the comfort zone you are experiencing right now is familiar and safe however everything
you have ever wanted lies outside its boundaries to get to your goal you will need to overcome
problems and uncertainty it's those who are willing to risk it all that end up victorious
man that is i i actually understand that sentence if you were to read that sentence to me yesterday
before i went to the mall or a month ago i would not have understood as well as i do
now i would have like said oh yeah you have to go through your comfort zone to like achieve
your goals but i wouldn't have actually interpreted it how i did right now and this interpretation
is actually very interesting and i have two different reasonings behind this so in the
first sentence the comfort zone you are experiencing right now is familiar and safe yeah let's
okay let's just move on to the second sentence however everything you have ever wanted lies
outside its boundaries yeah so there's a reason why you don't have you're not living in hawaii
right now because it's outside of your comfort zone there's a reason why and you're actually
holding yourself back because you're too you're you want you choose comfort the knowledge
of being in your current area right now current part of your life over the discomfort of hawaii
which you know hawaii is comfortable but you're just discomfort uncomfortable about moving
towards that which doesn't make any sense but that's how everyone is and the difference
and then the last sentence i'm going to skip the third sentence for now and that's the
last sentence it's it's those who are willing to risk it all that end up victorious and
that's really it's those who are willing to risk literally nothing like right now i have
no risk but it seems like a lot of risk like if you were to ask me one year ago to start
like to go to hawaii or do all this stuff like start a business do all this stuff that
i'm doing right now i've been like i would have said no and i would come up with an excuse
but in reality the reason why i did it was because i was too scared to risk my current
position but my current position was literally a high school student living in my my
home which is my parents house they own it so i literally have nothing to lose i have
no risk but my brain tells me i have so much risk so that is and it's me i'm willing to
risk it all that ends up victorious i'm willing to risk it all which is nothing because even
if i fail my parents are still gonna take care of me but i won't fail because i am gonna
live on my own soon and i'm gonna go to hawaii and i'm not gonna be taking i'm not gonna
be dependent on my parents for long so that's the whole thing and i'm very by the way i'm
very grateful for my parents taking care of me and i'm in a very good situation and i'm
but i'm saying that everyone will if everyone was in the same situation it would still have
a similar success and not success rate because i'm only becoming successful because i'm only
to risk it all which in reality it is nothing that i'm risking but in my mind it is everything
that i'm risking because my mind plays and this is just everyone the human mind plays
so many tricks on you and lies tells yourself so many lies that try and keep you in your
comfort zone now in the third sentence to get to your goal you will need to overcome
problems and uncertainty i mean yeah that's just you're a discomfort zone and then when
you take action that one increases your comfort zone but also dissipates excess potential
yeah there's a whole thing i'm not really good at explaining this right now which means
that i i don't understand it that well so i have to go back and study more but i kind
of understand it in my mind i'm just not doing a good job telling you and that just shows
that i also don't understand it as good as i should uh let me read this yeah this is
actual steps uh it's the same picture and it says set your goal and make a public commitment
reframe your problem in a positive and a helpful way give yourself an inspiring motivational
talk ask solution focus questions move yourself with urgency take small gradual steps okay
so i just read a bunch of actual ideas say you're going to make a public commitment is
the first one i agree i didn't actually do that until i started making a podcast and
it actually helps a lot i made a public commitment suppose every single day for a year and i'm
already on episode 21 and the public commitment has definitely helped me get certain days
where i didn't think that or i didn't want to upload like today was one of the days where
i didn't want to upload i was actually like two hours ago i was actually thinking like
i'm not uploading today i'm too i'm too sad like like my tension my inner tension is i'm
feeling a lot of tension in my heart but i just pushed through it and did it anyways
and now it's worth it and i did it because i made a public commitment also because i
discipline it's one to make a public commitment but you also have to make a discipline public
commitment is not a guarantee but it is definitely helpful because that's the extra extra external
motivation external um like keeping you on track i don't know
or uh reframe your problem in a positive and a healthy helpful way i don't really understand
what that means uh so i can't really speak on that uh the next one is give yourself an
inspiring motivational pep talk yeah those you can do that but i find that that doesn't
really work you just have to do it uh it's just a waste of time and i actually realized
that yesterday with uh my friend he was i mean i was doing it too but he was there's
a lot of moments where he was not taking action when he should have and i was just giving
him a lot of inspirational pep talks but he he still wasn't taking action and the only
reason why he did end up taking action was because he just did it um yeah so once you
realize that motivation does not really matter and the only way to actually get something
done is by doing it that's when you start to become successful all right so ask the
next one is ask solution focus questions yeah i actually think i know what that means and
i learned that the other day literally the maybe two weeks ago and it's the difference
between a rich person and a not rich person is the poor person says i can't afford this
and then the rich person says how can i afford this that's a solution focused question and
the poor person has the limited belief that they can't afford it and so they just tell
themself they can't afford it and and the world gives them what they want but the rich
person knows that they can't afford it but they're just trying to figure out how and
so the world gives them what they want and they figure out how uh and then move yourself
with urgency yeah i agree i have some urgency uh because my friend bought two tickets to
funnel hacking live like a couple days ago so and we don't have any money for plane tickets
so we have to have some urgency to buy the plane tickets or else my friend will be out
two thousand dollars but we'll be we'll get there we'll do it uh and then the last one
is take small gradual steps yeah i agree but don't limit yourself if you couldn't take
longer bigger steps maybe yeah i don't know there's a whole thing with that of being blown
out or burned out i don't know i haven't gotten burned out yet so i don't know
all right so
so yeah i'm i'm actually gonna look into oh this is dale carnegie he wrote how to win
friends and yeah okay i'm gonna look into expanding my comfort zone because i know how
much this is helping me in life and in business going to the mall and getting a girl's number
expanded my comfort zone so much that literally like an hour later i was able to go to
get my first client because i was so confident and my comfort zone was expanded to actually accept
i have a theory before i got the girl's number getting my first client was outside of my comfort
zone and then once i got the girl's number and took action to that was needed to get it
um that instantly moved towards my inside of my comfort zone plus other things moved inside my
comfort zone like okay i just came up with a whole theory so i'm kind of putting it together i'm
pretty sure other people are already talking about this but i'm putting together what we just read
so everything you have is in the first circle that's your comfort zone
uh i'm gonna actually write down uh in today's lessons comfort okay comfort zone framework
okay so now i've okay that's a comfort zone framework i just thought of it so everything
you have is in your comfort zone and then literally everything you don't have or are trying to get
but you have not had success is outside your comfort zone so let's say you're trying to get
a new phone that is and you don't have it yet that's outside of your comfort zone until you get the
new phone and so for me what i just realized is that over the past couple over past week my first
client having my first client was outside of my comfort zone and so the way that i actually get it
is by expanding my comfort zone to be able to get my first client i'm gonna write down first client
but then outside of my first client is girls uh and so i had to stop the podcast but what i was
trying to do was expand my comfort zone is
okay so no no comfort zone my comfort zone framework so getting my first client was outside my comfort zone
and
the way i needed to get my first client was to expand my comfort zone and the means to do that
but then those got dull and it wasn't expanding my comfort zone so then i went in person that
expand my comfort zone so it kept on pushing my comfort zone out and out and out and i was just
nearly there and then getting a girl's number was even further out of my comfort zone than getting
my first client so then once i got my first girl's number or my first number from a girl
uh so i expand my comfort zone to where my comfort zone now engulfed my first client so then i was
actually capable of getting my first client and then it is now
now a girl's number is just outside of my comfort zone so then the next time i get another girl's
number it will get even closer into my comfort zone until after maybe two or three or four or five
i don't know how many girls how many numbers i have to get until getting a number will be in my
comfort zone and then that means we can expand that even further to where the next thing just
outside my comfort zone is making my first sale so actually making money so that's outside my
comfort zone right now because i haven't actually achieved it yet or else i would have gotten it or
it would have been if i would have if it was in my comfort zone i would have achieved it already
so then the way to get it is by doing something that's even further out of my comfort zone from
the first sale which could be that's why i was looking up how to how to expand your comfort zone
um they didn't give me any i haven't looked into like practices yet like one practice would be
going to talk to girls but i was thinking about going to the beach with my friend shirtless
and barefoot on at the beach of the lake right at lake michigan and talking to hot girls and
keenies that would be the next step probably because that would be even more nerve-wracking
i don't know what what i'll figure it out
uh yeah so actually just kind of over the past couple days i've become
accept obsessed with the comfort zone expanding my comfort zone because that new framework theory
that i just discovered and actually put into words which i'm sure other people have talked about but
i'm going to talk about it because i think i just discovered it but i'm sure other people
have already talked about it and i'm this is this is how you become a millionaire also by
expanding your comfort zone
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