1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,560 The big question is this, how do young men like us, who didn't listen to society, who 2 00:00:05,560 --> 00:00:13,240 are on our own, how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow? 3 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:16,520 That is the question and this show will give you the answers. 4 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:24,520 My name is James Radzynski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show. 5 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:29,480 Oh my gosh guys, today was absolutely the best day. 6 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:37,080 I think today was probably the number one turning point in my entire life. 7 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:43,680 Today was the best, the most progress I've ever made in growth and self-improvement was 8 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:44,680 today. 9 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:49,440 I made more progress today than I have in the past entire summer. 10 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:56,000 That includes what I was talking about yesterday about how I was going to local businesses 11 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:04,880 to expand my comfort zone but the real reason was to try and sell my skills. 12 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:10,240 Man, I will tell you what I did today. 13 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:18,020 So I did my normal stuff, went to the gym, park, study, whatever. 14 00:01:18,020 --> 00:01:19,480 Normal routine. 15 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:30,440 Me and my friend Franklin went to Oakbrook, which is a mall. 16 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:36,680 We went to a mall which was like maybe 20 minutes away and the reason why we went there 17 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:40,320 was to ask for girls' numbers. 18 00:01:40,320 --> 00:01:45,800 Literally our only purpose there was to expand our comfort zone and the reason why we went 19 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:53,280 there was because we didn't want to deal with the awkwardness of one, rejecting and two, 20 00:01:53,280 --> 00:02:00,040 accept, like actual acceptance if we actually lived near the girl because if they went to 21 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,640 our school and we saw them around that would just be awkward and we don't want that on 22 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:09,400 our minds for the rest of the school year or at least this first semester because I'm 23 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:11,000 graduating early. 24 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:21,960 Alright, so we went there and let me tell you a quick story to pre-frame you. 25 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:28,440 A couple days ago, maybe a week ago, me and my friend decided to climb trees every day 26 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:32,600 and then every single day we climbed a harder and harder tree until one day we climbed a 27 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:36,480 tree where we actually couldn't reach the branch so we had to like climb. 28 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:42,560 It was weird, we had to like shimmy our way up and we both climbed that one and then there 29 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:49,440 was a tree right next to it that was even higher, the branch was even higher and the 30 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:58,280 bark was even tougher and mind you, we are only wearing underwear and shorts while we're 31 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:05,280 doing this, no shoes or a shirt so our skin gets really cut up. 32 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:17,240 So come the next day, that was the day that we agreed on climbing that tree and we, I 33 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:20,040 went first and I climbed it first try. 34 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:25,140 I just went straight up, it hurt really bad, I'm pretty sure I injured my arms because 35 00:03:25,140 --> 00:03:28,520 my left arm still hurts from it. 36 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:34,620 I'm still lifting though, it's a weird injury where it gets flamed and then it recovers 37 00:03:34,620 --> 00:03:36,920 when it's resting, I don't know. 38 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:44,680 But I did that and then I sat up there for maybe 30 minutes as he attempted, attempted, 39 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:47,480 attempted and attempted and he failed every single time. 40 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:52,360 He was in his own head, he 100% could have done it physically, he could have done it 41 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:59,240 but he was just in his own head where he was doubting himself and that was his downfall. 42 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:04,000 So then I get down and we agree that he's going to do it the next day. 43 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:08,640 So the next day comes by, he goes up, he's halfway through on his first try and then 44 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:14,400 he looks down and the doubt rolls in and he remembers yesterday. 45 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:19,640 And then before you know it he's like struggling and I'm like dude you have a choice and then 46 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:26,840 he wasn't listening because he was struggling with his mental battle and then he just fell 47 00:04:26,840 --> 00:04:31,280 down and then he kept trying and trying but by that point he was already lost the mental 48 00:04:31,280 --> 00:04:34,880 battle so that day he failed again. 49 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:40,120 And I don't think he tried again the third day because it was raining or something, 50 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,500 I think we both forgot about the tree. 51 00:04:42,500 --> 00:04:47,680 So at this point we both forgot about the tree situation. 52 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:51,920 And then we go on with our lives. 53 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:57,800 We both forget about the tree, I forget about the tree, I'm pretty sure he does too because 54 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:02,520 he would have brought it up if he remembered it because it was raining for like three days 55 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:08,220 after that and neither of us were really doing that. 56 00:05:08,220 --> 00:05:10,120 So we both forget about the tree. 57 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:21,040 And then after me seeing all of the growth from going, from emailing five people, cold 58 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:31,680 calling five people, going to five businesses in person and then I wanted the next step 59 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:34,080 of growth. 60 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:39,980 So we decided, I remember that I had read in a book called Four Hour Workweek, he always 61 00:05:39,980 --> 00:05:45,980 gives comfort zone challenges at the end of like chapters and one of the comfort zone 62 00:05:45,980 --> 00:05:52,400 challenges that like probably the one that I didn't want to do the entire book was to 63 00:05:52,400 --> 00:06:00,160 ask for girls numbers, like cold approach them and just walk up to them and say, like 64 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:03,280 talk to them and ask for their number. 65 00:06:03,280 --> 00:06:07,080 And so I never wanted to do that. 66 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:13,520 And then once I was thinking and I was looking for the next step of growth, I realized that 67 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:14,520 it was that. 68 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:16,120 I needed to do that. 69 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:18,320 So then I brought it to my friend's attention. 70 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:20,000 And so we agreed to do it on Friday. 71 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:26,160 Now Friday is in, today is what is today? 72 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:27,160 Tuesday? 73 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:28,160 Yeah, today's Tuesday. 74 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,480 So we agreed on, I told him this yesterday. 75 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,320 I believe it was yesterday. 76 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:37,600 So we agreed on Friday because that was when we were both free. 77 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:44,360 But then I realized like, no, let's do it today. 78 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:47,880 So I brought it, I was thinking about it all morning this morning. 79 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:52,880 And then by the time I saw him at the park, I brought it to his attention and we were 80 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:53,880 both free. 81 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:57,800 Neither of us wanted to do it, but we knew we had to. 82 00:06:57,800 --> 00:06:59,320 So we did it. 83 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:05,800 We drove to the mall and I'll tell you, we were super nervous on the way to the mall. 84 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:10,040 We were, I mean, we were both talking about how this is going to change our lives. 85 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:13,080 We were both talking all this, like we're going to be so good. 86 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:15,760 Like, you know how it is. 87 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:20,520 And but we both knew and we actually both said it, that we're both nervous. 88 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:24,200 And then we didn't bring our phones, by the way. 89 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:26,660 So all we had was just our clothes. 90 00:07:26,660 --> 00:07:33,440 And then I brought a small little notebook that I write for business and a pen. 91 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:40,600 And that that's literally all we brought and water, but we kept that in the car. 92 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:44,720 And we walked and we only had one notebook, one pen. 93 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:48,880 So we ended up making a structure to it. 94 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:55,880 We would one person would go try and then they would pass the notebook to the next person. 95 00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:58,720 Then we just rotate it every time we would go. 96 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:05,520 And but we didn't come up with that until maybe 45 minutes into the day, maybe an hour. 97 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:06,520 I don't know. 98 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:07,520 We didn't have our time. 99 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,960 We had our phones, so we didn't know the time. 100 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:20,560 And so when we got there, I on the way there, we were both saying, like, I want to go first. 101 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:24,720 I want to go first, because we both just wanted to get it over with, because we both were 102 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:30,360 aware of the framework where your first time doing something is always the hardest. 103 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:36,560 And then the next time it cut like the difficulty cuts in half over in half. 104 00:08:36,560 --> 00:08:44,800 And so I we both wanted to go first, but then I let up first. 105 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,240 I was like, OK, you should actually go first. 106 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:48,240 And then he was like, why? 107 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:49,520 Why are you giving it up? 108 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:51,560 Are you being are you being scared? 109 00:08:51,560 --> 00:08:55,360 We were we were using more profane words. 110 00:08:55,360 --> 00:09:03,160 We were using the P word for the female, but we were using that word. 111 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:08,640 But I'm not going to say it because I don't like having the profanity check on the podcast. 112 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:10,840 So he was like, are you being that? 113 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:11,840 Are you being scared? 114 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:15,960 So I'm just going to for now on, every time I say scared, just know that I'm saying that 115 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:18,080 other word instead. 116 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,400 So he was like, are you being scared? 117 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:23,720 But he was I was actually like, are you being scared like that? 118 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:26,120 OK, anyway, he's like, are you being scared? 119 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:31,540 I was like, no, because I just realized history doesn't. 120 00:09:31,540 --> 00:09:35,240 History doesn't or history doesn't repeat, but it rhymes. 121 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:36,240 But it doesn't have to. 122 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:38,080 We get to choose our own destiny. 123 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:45,640 And what I'm saying is that I just remembered the tree and how you failed and you never 124 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:46,640 succeeded. 125 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:49,180 Now, history doesn't repeat. 126 00:09:49,180 --> 00:09:52,240 It rhymes, but it does not have to rhyme. 127 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:53,880 You get to choose your own fate. 128 00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:56,280 You get to choose your own life. 129 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:57,580 There is no fate. 130 00:09:57,580 --> 00:09:59,080 And so I said that to him. 131 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:04,200 And then we both realized that he had to go first. 132 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,640 So he had the notebook. 133 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:08,160 I gave it to him. 134 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:12,240 The first opportunity was literally the second we got out of the car. 135 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:14,160 There was a girl failed. 136 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:16,800 He failed. 137 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:20,040 But to be honest, the girl was already going into her car. 138 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:21,960 So that fail doesn't really count. 139 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:24,320 Let's not talk about that. 140 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:28,040 Then on the way into the mall, we passed by another girl. 141 00:10:28,040 --> 00:10:31,920 And then into the mall, we're in the mall. 142 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:33,480 We passed by hundreds of girls. 143 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:34,660 Like they're swarming. 144 00:10:34,660 --> 00:10:38,920 And that's why we went there actually, because we went to the mall because it's a hotspot 145 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:40,680 for girls shopping. 146 00:10:40,680 --> 00:10:42,960 And they're swarming. 147 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:43,960 All fails. 148 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:44,960 We literally failed. 149 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:48,960 So I have to go to the bathroom pee and poop. 150 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:55,560 And so we go in the bathroom and then I go to the bathroom and he decides that he needs 151 00:10:55,560 --> 00:10:57,600 to meditate. 152 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,840 And so he's meditating in the bathroom. 153 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,880 And then we both realize that we can't. 154 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:09,080 I brought up to his attention that that is just so embarrassing that we had to hide in 155 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:10,720 the bathroom. 156 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:11,720 And we're men. 157 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:13,340 We're supposed to be able to do this. 158 00:11:13,340 --> 00:11:16,120 And we had to hide in the bathroom. 159 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:21,840 We literally hid in the bathroom because we were so scared to, even though I had to use 160 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:25,440 the bathroom, we just used that as an excuse to hide. 161 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:30,760 And so we went out and failed, failed, failed. 162 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:32,040 So many girls walking by. 163 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:33,040 All failed. 164 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:36,160 We didn't even, we didn't even build up the balls. 165 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:41,400 Now at this time we, it was his turn to go first. 166 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:46,000 So we both agreed that he was going to go first, but I was thinking like, man, if he 167 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:47,900 keeps this up, I'm going to go. 168 00:11:47,900 --> 00:11:49,920 And at that point I was like, all right, I'm going to go. 169 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:56,360 And so at that point I was actually thinking to myself, I got to do this. 170 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:58,240 So I had two tensions. 171 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,320 One the tension of being scared to do it. 172 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:05,360 And then also the tension of betraying my friend for actually going first. 173 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:09,160 But we both know that it's not a betrayal. 174 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:10,160 I don't know. 175 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:12,400 So I was failing also. 176 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:16,540 Every single time he fails, I fails as well. 177 00:12:16,540 --> 00:12:19,800 And then eventually I realized that this is just going on forever. 178 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:25,520 We literally walk all the way across the mall for probably an hour. 179 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:36,280 And then we end up coming back and we decide we go in this one shop, this one store, and 180 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:42,800 we sit down and we're talking about trans-surfing principles and how we just built up so much 181 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:48,360 excess potential, like so much pressure just from all of this thought energy that we're 182 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:52,440 having, all these thinking that we're about to do it but we don't actually do it, the 183 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:53,440 desire. 184 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:57,200 We build up so much desire to do it, but there's no action following it. 185 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:03,040 So right now we have a pressure tank full of energy that is just destroying our lives 186 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,880 at this point because we're not acting. 187 00:13:06,880 --> 00:13:07,880 We're not taking actions. 188 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:09,440 We're just thinking. 189 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:13,020 We're just being, we're asleep basically. 190 00:13:13,020 --> 00:13:17,640 Even though we're reminding each other to stay awake, we're both being wusses. 191 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:21,640 And then I came to the conclusion that we just, because at this point we were trying 192 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:26,120 to get people's numbers, like the entire number, and that was our goal. 193 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:30,300 But then I realized that we just built up so much pressure without any action. 194 00:13:30,300 --> 00:13:34,160 We're just going to keep doing this unless we lower the difficulty. 195 00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:41,920 So I was like, okay, all we have to do is literally just talk to someone and that is 196 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:46,880 taking action and it will instantly dissipate and it will instantly get that much easier, 197 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:50,040 but it will still be extremely hard because we haven't actually done it yet. 198 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:55,600 So he goes and talks to someone, literally a mom, and he was like, oh, excuse me, what's 199 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:56,600 your name? 200 00:13:56,600 --> 00:14:00,720 And she's like, she like scoffed and then said, you don't need to know that. 201 00:14:00,720 --> 00:14:02,940 And then they both went on their day. 202 00:14:02,940 --> 00:14:06,640 So that was the first rejection on his part. 203 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:13,520 He came back to me and then reported the news and we both realized, oh, he just got rejected 204 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:16,160 and that was the worst case scenario. 205 00:14:16,160 --> 00:14:24,080 And then it was my turn, so we would rotate. 206 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:30,720 So then I went and I did the same thing and I actually stopped by a girl my age and she 207 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:33,840 was really shy and I could tell and I was really nervous too. 208 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:36,520 So I actually got a name and a day. 209 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:39,720 I was like, have a good day. 210 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:45,960 Because I wasn't going for the number, I probably could have gotten the number, but I didn't. 211 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:47,240 It doesn't matter. 212 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:50,760 So I got the name, good day, and then said goodbye. 213 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:55,480 I was just like, oh, I just wanted to say, hi, and then have a good day. 214 00:14:55,480 --> 00:14:56,480 And then we both went on our way. 215 00:14:56,480 --> 00:15:00,000 And I reported the news and we both, okay, so we both took action. 216 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:01,660 That was literally the first step. 217 00:15:01,660 --> 00:15:04,600 We didn't take complete action, but that was the first step. 218 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:07,320 We took action. 219 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:11,440 Then it was his turn again and I'm pretty sure he was literally failing, failing, failing 220 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:12,440 so much. 221 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:14,680 It was really embarrassing. 222 00:15:14,680 --> 00:15:18,440 And I can't say that it was embarrassing because I was failing too. 223 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:22,000 Well, I can't say it was embarrassing, but I'm not putting him down. 224 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:27,040 I'm putting both of us down because it was really embarrassing how bad we were doing. 225 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:34,480 We were just walking around and then we were like, and then we just go, yeah, it was bad. 226 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:38,160 And so we just kept at it and we were like, dude, we have to get it. 227 00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:43,080 And then I realized that we need another man in here. 228 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:49,600 And so I literally saw a dude that looked our age, just a little bigger than us in front 229 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:50,600 of us. 230 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:51,600 And I like called him. 231 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:53,920 I was like, yo, yo, dude, yes, you. 232 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:56,520 And then he came, his name's Chris. 233 00:15:56,520 --> 00:16:06,560 And we, Chris actually turned out to be, he had the quality that we are trying to achieve. 234 00:16:06,560 --> 00:16:07,920 He had the confidence. 235 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:08,920 He had the comfort zone. 236 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:11,400 He was a, he was basically a womanizer. 237 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:13,720 He like, she had a high body count. 238 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:19,760 He was, he was, he had all the confidence that we were striving to earn. 239 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:26,000 So I, out of a whim, I literally just said, yo, me and my friend had one mission here 240 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:27,000 and we're both failing. 241 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,480 We're being, we're being scared. 242 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:34,600 The other word for it, as I remind you from earlier, we're, we're being scared. 243 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:37,560 And, and then he was like, well, what's the mission? 244 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:39,180 You're trying to get laid. 245 00:16:39,180 --> 00:16:43,760 And then we were like, pretty much, but we're just trying to get numbers, just to expand 246 00:16:43,760 --> 00:16:44,920 our comfort zone. 247 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:51,140 And then he was like, oh, and then he didn't really know what to say because who says that? 248 00:16:51,140 --> 00:16:55,560 And then he was just like, ah, I mean, there's lots of people down there. 249 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,400 There's just swarming. 250 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:02,480 And, and then we were, I realized that he wasn't going to give us any better advice. 251 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:06,360 So then I was like, all right, what's your name? 252 00:17:06,360 --> 00:17:10,160 And then we introduced each other and then I was like, I will have a good day. 253 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:11,160 We're going to do that. 254 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:12,160 Um, no advice. 255 00:17:12,160 --> 00:17:17,080 Like it was just a waste of time, except it wasn't. 256 00:17:17,080 --> 00:17:19,840 And I'll tell you why soon. 257 00:17:19,840 --> 00:17:24,840 So then we go and then I don't really remember when the first time we attempted, my friend 258 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:26,400 was just failing, failing, failing. 259 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:30,000 And I was like, dude, if you're just going to keep doing this, I'll, I'm going to take 260 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:32,800 the mantle and go for it. 261 00:17:32,800 --> 00:17:37,440 And then I went and I kept on getting rejected. 262 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:40,880 Like at this point we were both doing it. 263 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:47,560 So at this point we were basically going back and forth and we both asked for maybe five 264 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:49,800 girls numbers at this point. 265 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:50,800 Each of us. 266 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:53,560 Um, I don't really remember exactly. 267 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:58,840 Maybe, no, I think it was like two or three actually. 268 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:06,680 And then there was just like lots of different moments, dumb moments and lots of very dumb 269 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:07,960 things that we did. 270 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:16,680 Like I literally didn't know how to speak and my, the, okay, actually let me go back. 271 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:24,120 Then once we just, we are not having any success, but we are actually expanding our comfort 272 00:18:24,120 --> 00:18:25,120 zone this time. 273 00:18:25,120 --> 00:18:26,120 We're actually doing it. 274 00:18:26,120 --> 00:18:28,400 We're actually asking girls. 275 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:35,720 And then, so then we realized, or then we just keep walking forward and it was my friend's 276 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:36,720 turn. 277 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:41,360 So he was walking ahead and he ran into Chris again. 278 00:18:41,360 --> 00:18:43,840 So this is like maybe an hour later. 279 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:45,520 I don't know, maybe 30 minutes. 280 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:46,960 It doesn't matter. 281 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:50,640 We ran into Chris again and then he decided to tag along for the rest of the day, which 282 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:52,440 is awesome. 283 00:18:52,440 --> 00:19:00,720 And he was just like another man, masculine energy to feed off of and push each other. 284 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:05,560 And then we go back and forth. 285 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:13,680 I literally, so I ended up asking for one right in front of them and they overheard 286 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:16,400 the entire thing because they were next to it. 287 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:18,960 And then he realized that I had no raise. 288 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:20,920 Like I had no flirting abilities. 289 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:23,120 I was literally just saying, Hey, what's your name? 290 00:19:23,120 --> 00:19:24,660 How's your day going? 291 00:19:24,660 --> 00:19:26,520 And then I asked for the number. 292 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:31,160 So he was like, you got to ask some questions, start a conversation. 293 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:38,040 And then the next time I did it, I was like, it was really bad. 294 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:42,940 But the funny thing is after I got rejected the first time in the beginning of the day, 295 00:19:42,940 --> 00:19:45,580 I instantly like the rejection did not care. 296 00:19:45,580 --> 00:19:46,580 It did not matter. 297 00:19:46,580 --> 00:19:50,480 I was not into the rejection because I wasn't even gonna, I went in with the mindset that 298 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:53,880 I was not even gonna use the numbers. 299 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:59,960 So then I, I, there was this one moment where there was this group of three girls and I 300 00:19:59,960 --> 00:20:03,720 decided to say hi to the first one. 301 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:06,560 And I was like, Hey, what's your name? 302 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:07,560 My name is James. 303 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:09,000 Um, nice to meet you. 304 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:10,960 And then what's your favorite animal? 305 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:12,600 Or no, I was like, how's your day going? 306 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,400 And I was like, what's your favorite animal? 307 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:17,280 And then she was like, elephant. 308 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:20,060 And then I was like, I did not know what to say. 309 00:20:20,060 --> 00:20:21,480 My brain just turned off. 310 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:27,920 So the first thing that came to my mind was, uh, what about a mouse? 311 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:31,040 Because for some reason I was thinking of like an elephant and a mouse. 312 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,140 I have no idea, bro. 313 00:20:33,140 --> 00:20:36,440 And I was just trying to come up with the first connection from an elephant. 314 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:38,600 And then I was like, well, what about a mouse? 315 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:40,340 And she was like, ah, it's okay. 316 00:20:40,340 --> 00:20:44,060 And then at that point I was, I was bad. 317 00:20:44,060 --> 00:20:48,240 So I had to bail and I was like, uh, can I have your number? 318 00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:51,560 And then just to shoot my shot. 319 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:54,120 And then she was like, I actually don't give out my number. 320 00:20:54,120 --> 00:20:56,540 And I was like, all right, have a good day. 321 00:20:56,540 --> 00:20:59,000 And then I walked away. 322 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:00,360 All our friends were laughing at me. 323 00:21:00,360 --> 00:21:04,120 We ended up going down the escalator and they were literally right next to me and they were 324 00:21:04,120 --> 00:21:07,480 all laughing, but they didn't know I was there. 325 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,640 They were just laughing about what just happened. 326 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:10,640 Doesn't matter. 327 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:14,000 I was like, okay, that's just improvement. 328 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,240 I'm going. 329 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:20,740 And then, so after that we keep on going back and forth. 330 00:21:20,740 --> 00:21:24,360 And then eventually I'm getting tired. 331 00:21:24,360 --> 00:21:29,160 We had a lot of success and we actually went in with the goal of getting five numbers. 332 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:34,360 We had zero numbers at this point, but we definitely asked for like maybe 15 girls total, 333 00:21:34,360 --> 00:21:35,360 maybe 20. 334 00:21:35,360 --> 00:21:36,680 I don't know. 335 00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:38,480 We definitely asked a lot. 336 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:42,840 Like we were out there all day and a lot of the day we weren't taking action. 337 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:45,600 So we were out there a lot. 338 00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:51,560 Then I was like, all right, we'll do one each and then call it a day. 339 00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:55,480 And then my friend was like, no, I have to do two because you're one ahead of me. 340 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,440 And so I was like, all right, so then he did two in a row and then I had to do one and 341 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:06,280 then we walked home and he did his two, both rejections. 342 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,320 Doesn't matter though, because we were in it for the growth. 343 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:13,360 And then I did my last one, literally the worst thing possible. 344 00:22:13,360 --> 00:22:20,880 So she was walking out the door of the shop and then I was like, hey, excuse me. 345 00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:21,880 Hey. 346 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:22,880 And then she like stopped. 347 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:24,400 We were literally in the middle of the door. 348 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,520 She had the door open still. 349 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:27,840 Like she was holding the door open. 350 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:28,840 I was like, what's your name? 351 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:34,760 And she was like, she told me her name and then, and then I was like, how's your day 352 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:35,760 going? 353 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:36,760 And then she's like, it's good. 354 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:39,840 And she still had the door to the shop open at that time. 355 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:43,760 And so there was like an alarm connected to the door. 356 00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:44,920 It must've been. 357 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:48,960 And so the alarm went off in the store and it was really loud. 358 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:56,200 And then everyone looked at us and then I was like, oh, that was crazy. 359 00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:58,280 And she was like, she like looked at me. 360 00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:01,240 I don't even know what she did, but I was like, oh, that's crazy. 361 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:04,440 Can I have your number? 362 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:08,200 Literally the dumbest thing ever. 363 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:12,240 And then she actually gave it to me. 364 00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:15,080 Like and then she was like, oh, sure. 365 00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,160 And then I was like, funny thing. 366 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:20,280 I don't have my phone, but I have this notebook. 367 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:25,120 Can you write it down in the notebook? 368 00:23:25,120 --> 00:23:28,360 And then she was like very confused because everyone has their phone. 369 00:23:28,360 --> 00:23:30,360 And so I was like, yeah. 370 00:23:30,360 --> 00:23:35,040 And she wanted to give me her snap too, but it was, I don't have Snapchat. 371 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:36,680 So I was like, I actually don't have snap. 372 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:44,760 So she didn't give me her snap, but I got her number and that was awesome. 373 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:47,600 Now let me tell you this. 374 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:51,920 This is when it gets like crazy. 375 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:53,360 So that was it for the day. 376 00:23:53,360 --> 00:23:58,600 We were walking back to the car with Chris and then we split off with Chris because he 377 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:00,440 had to go to his car. 378 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:05,080 I got his number because we had never knew him and we wanted to talk to him. 379 00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:11,720 So I got his number and then me and my friend go back to the car and we were talking about 380 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:13,920 how that was literally awesome. 381 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:18,560 Like our comfort zone expanded so much, all that. 382 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:27,460 And then it wasn't until we got in the car where, let me tell you this. 383 00:24:27,460 --> 00:24:30,560 I did not care about the number. 384 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,000 I was like, oh, that's awesome. 385 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:35,760 I got, I expanded my comfort zone and I actually got a number, so that's cool. 386 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:37,560 Nice trophy to have. 387 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:43,620 And I had no intention on texting or calling that number afterwards, any number. 388 00:24:43,620 --> 00:24:50,800 And then when we got in the car, we were talking and I read the way of the superior man. 389 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:53,280 So did he, my friend. 390 00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:59,200 And he probably knew it because he had a girlfriend, but I never like really experienced any of 391 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,080 the stuff that he talks about. 392 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:08,160 And then, so literally once we got in the car, I started getting so horny, like the 393 00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:10,640 most horny I've ever been in my life. 394 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:11,640 I got a boner. 395 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,920 Like it was actually crazy. 396 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,160 It was like the most crazy experience ever. 397 00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:23,160 I wanted to, okay, there's, I'm not going to say all this stuff on this podcast, but 398 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,360 there was things running through my mind. 399 00:25:25,360 --> 00:25:27,720 Well, let's just end with that. 400 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:32,680 Okay, so then I had so much energy after that. 401 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:38,320 And I remembered my friend reminded me to wake up, run my fountains, which is like my 402 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:48,320 energy source, and then project all of that energy from that girl into my goals. 403 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:53,720 So I projected all that energy literally into surfing. 404 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,640 And I literally felt enlightened after that. 405 00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:01,100 I was so, like that was dope. 406 00:26:01,100 --> 00:26:05,280 That car ride home was the craziest experience ever. 407 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:12,800 And I like started to feel attraction towards that girl a lot. 408 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:17,940 Like I was at first, like when I first saw her, I was like, oh, she's cute, whatever. 409 00:26:17,940 --> 00:26:22,300 Just because she was wearing like the crop top clothes, like those clothes. 410 00:26:22,300 --> 00:26:27,320 And I find any girl that wears that, who's like skinny, cute. 411 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:32,000 And then so I was like, okay, I didn't really have any attraction towards her. 412 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:36,520 And then once I got in the car, I started getting so horny, so attracted to her. 413 00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:44,960 And then I projected all of that energy through me into my goals and felt enlightened after 414 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:45,960 that. 415 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:50,560 So then we're like, okay, we came to the conclusion. 416 00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:52,600 There are so many epiphanies that came to us. 417 00:26:52,600 --> 00:27:00,800 But let me tell you this, there was, okay, I'm going to tell you guys about balance forces. 418 00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:04,460 But first, let me write down literally everything I just told you guys. 419 00:27:04,460 --> 00:27:08,040 So I can write it in the lesson notes. 420 00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:33,280 Okay, excess potential, that's what I'm about to talk about right now. 421 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:39,280 So in Reality Transurfing, there's a term called excess potential. 422 00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,960 And pretty much everyone creates excess potential. 423 00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:52,200 And it happens when you compare yourself to people when you think bad of others. 424 00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:58,600 Just a lot of times when you build value that is not actually there, or take away value 425 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:06,880 when it actually has more like, pretty much if you think that a girl is really hot, and 426 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:13,440 you put her on a pedestal, that is creating excess potential because in reality, her energy, 427 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:20,600 all energy, all girl, all men and women, all humans are equal on an energetic level. 428 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,160 We are all the same. 429 00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:31,320 It's us that places excess meaning and value onto certain people. 430 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:36,380 So if you put a girl on a pedestal, that will create a lot of excess potential for you. 431 00:28:36,380 --> 00:28:38,400 And there are many things that will happen. 432 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,400 So first of all, the excess potential will create balance forces, it will generate balance 433 00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:53,600 forces, which work to balance forces aim to reduce the person's influence on the world. 434 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:58,720 So if I were to create excess potential, the balancing forces that were generated from 435 00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:04,960 that excess potential, there the balancing forces aim is to reduce my influence on the 436 00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:06,640 world. 437 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:14,920 That's how they restore the balance because when you create excess potential, you destroy 438 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:23,040 the balance and the world is always trying to maintain balance, like keep the equilibrium. 439 00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:29,320 And when you create excess potential, the balancing forces, the easiest way, like nature 440 00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:36,000 always takes the path of least resistance and the easiest way is just to reduce that 441 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,640 person's influence on the world. 442 00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:41,620 So think about this. 443 00:29:41,620 --> 00:29:47,760 If you create a lot of excess potential and as a result, the balancing forces cause you 444 00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:49,160 to have less influence on the world. 445 00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:53,040 So you have a lot of excess potential, so you have very little influence in the world. 446 00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:54,920 Do you think you're going to achieve your goals? 447 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:55,920 I don't think so. 448 00:29:55,920 --> 00:30:00,440 It's just going to be you're going to stay in the same place all the time. 449 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:06,360 And we came to the conclusion that everyone in the world, like all normal people are like 450 00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:07,360 that. 451 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:12,800 That's just normal society, or at least everyone in America because that's the only country 452 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:16,440 that I can speak for because I live here. 453 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:22,120 So all normal people create excess potential and this is about to get crazy. 454 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:25,840 And so everyone is stuck in the same spot and that's why everyone's working nine to 455 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,360 five, no one is rich. 456 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:31,200 No one achieves their goal. 457 00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:36,040 Now how does everyone create those excess potential? 458 00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:42,920 I already explained many different ways, but one of the ways that we came to the conclusion 459 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:49,840 is TikTok and social media and all of these apps. 460 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:57,640 We grew up essentially lusting, like looking at girls on Instagram and TikTok and all of 461 00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:04,760 that and literally like placing so much value on them. 462 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:12,360 So all of our lives we have been building excess potential, building, building, building 463 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:13,880 so much excess potential. 464 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:19,400 So the more and more we watch TikTok, the more and more we like build the girls values 465 00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:27,620 on there, the more the less and less our influence is on the world. 466 00:31:27,620 --> 00:31:31,620 So for 17 years, it took me 17 years to get on self-improvement. 467 00:31:31,620 --> 00:31:36,080 For 17 years I had been reducing my influence on the world. 468 00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:41,840 Now once I got on self-improvement and I'm trying to become a millionaire, I realized 469 00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:45,280 that I have all of this excess potential. 470 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,520 Now I didn't realize all this until today. 471 00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:52,720 So let me explain, like don't expect to come to all these epiphanies. 472 00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:56,600 These epiphanies that I'm sharing to you guys literally happened that day and it's the most 473 00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,240 amazing thing ever. 474 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:04,760 So we realized that for 17 years we have created so much excess potential, the balancing forces 475 00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:07,940 have destroyed our influence on the world. 476 00:32:07,940 --> 00:32:12,480 So we have no influence and we have achieved a lot of things. 477 00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:17,800 We're jacked, we're healthy now. 478 00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:22,600 We've made a lot of progress with no influence on the world. 479 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:29,000 Now we have to figure out how to reduce our influence, or not influence, reduce our excess 480 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:34,520 potential so that we can get our influence back. 481 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:40,040 And then I remembered reading a piece of text in Reality Transurfing like literally two days 482 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:45,720 ago or yesterday where there's three types of desire. 483 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:53,440 One is desire that gets turned into pure intention through action, and then the second is like 484 00:32:53,440 --> 00:33:01,680 desire where the object, you just want the object so bad but you never get it, like you 485 00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:03,560 never act towards it or something like that. 486 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:07,560 I don't remember the second one, but the third one was like the most, the worst. 487 00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,400 You become dependent on that object. 488 00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:16,240 So like if I can get this my life will be amazing, but you never end up getting it. 489 00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:18,960 That's a dependency. 490 00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:30,480 So we realized that, oh and then also I read before, the only way to, so okay, that, okay 491 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:37,960 the first desire that I explained, a strong desire turns into pure intention through action, 492 00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:42,280 that is the only desire that actually gets achieved. 493 00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:46,000 Like that's the only time where you actually get what you desire. 494 00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:51,640 That's where the desire actually gets, like you receive that desire in real life. 495 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,840 That's when you manifest it essentially. 496 00:33:54,840 --> 00:34:04,560 And in that it said, when you create desire that's just pure excess potential, but the 497 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:10,680 second you take action, all of that excess potential is dissipated and turned into pure 498 00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:16,720 intention, which pure intention is the only thing required to move towards your goals. 499 00:34:16,720 --> 00:34:19,300 So let me connect all the dots. 500 00:34:19,300 --> 00:34:24,640 If all of our lives, 17 years, we've been watching TikTok building up our excess potential, 501 00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,600 now we have excess potential and no influence in the world. 502 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:33,440 Now all we need to do is get rid of the excess potential, plus while we're getting rid of 503 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:37,880 the excess potential, it will be transformed into pure intention, which is the only thing 504 00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:42,280 required to move us towards our goals. 505 00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:46,000 So let me connect it. 506 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:54,020 All of our lives we have been on TikTok building excess potential. 507 00:34:54,020 --> 00:35:01,800 Now we have a massive amount of excess potential, so our influence in the world is nothing or 508 00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:03,240 very little. 509 00:35:03,240 --> 00:35:07,440 So the way to dissipate it is through action, right? 510 00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:14,920 So we took action and the way we built our excess potential was by putting girls on pedestals. 511 00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:19,520 So we took action by talking to those girls, not the same girls because they weren't on 512 00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:21,920 TikTok, but it doesn't matter. 513 00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:28,680 We took action by talking to the girls and that turned that part, that piece of excess 514 00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:35,120 potential that we were holding onto, it transformed it to pure intention, which is the only thing 515 00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:37,520 that we need to achieve our goals. 516 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:42,200 So that alone turns into pure intention, which moves us towards our goals. 517 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:47,040 Also we get the benefit of not having excess potential or at least not having as much as 518 00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:48,040 we did. 519 00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:54,700 So then that means that our influence on the world goes up so then we can have more influence 520 00:35:54,700 --> 00:35:58,520 in the world so we can actually achieve our goals easier. 521 00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:03,640 So that's like a double-sided benefit. 522 00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:11,120 So the moral of the story is since we've been building excess potential all our lives through 523 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:17,840 putting girls on pedestals, the only way to dissipate that excess potential is by taking 524 00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,920 action and talking to girls. 525 00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:25,640 Now literally we had 10 second conversations on average, maybe less. 526 00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:33,120 At one point I literally talked to a 12 year old with her mom and I asked her for her age 527 00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:37,880 and then I was like, oh my bad, I'm just trying to expand my comfort zone. 528 00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:42,960 And then the mom was like, oh okay that's fine, whatever, good for you. 529 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,880 So that, good thing I caught that. 530 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:51,200 And then also I asked a little 27 year old and I asked for her age and I was like, oh 531 00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:52,200 whatever. 532 00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,560 Could have been something. 533 00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:57,280 Just as a joke. 534 00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:01,040 Literally I asked, it does not have to be the person of your age. 535 00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:04,800 No one cares about anything. 536 00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:10,360 Especially, no one can stop you from your goals except for yourself. 537 00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:12,800 And we were talking about the Me Too movement. 538 00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:16,680 My friend was like, it's hard because of the Me Too people. 539 00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:22,920 It's hard because it's not normal anymore to cold approach girls. 540 00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:25,360 And then I was like, well that's just a pendulum. 541 00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,800 That is, a pendulum cannot affect your goals. 542 00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:32,800 You can choose to let the pendulum affect you and not take action or you can just take 543 00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:33,800 action. 544 00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,800 Disregard the pendulum. 545 00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:39,680 Man, that was a huge episode. 546 00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:42,360 I cannot believe that was. 547 00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:46,160 Let me just write down all of this stuff. 548 00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:53,440 High excess potential turn low. 549 00:37:53,440 --> 00:38:00,360 Oh yeah, also last episode I told you guys that I was going to add bookmarks, like time 550 00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:01,360 stamps. 551 00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:05,960 And to be honest, I finished recording that episode really close to bedtime. 552 00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,040 I was cutting it really short. 553 00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:14,240 And when I went to add the benchmark or bookmark, I couldn't understand it at the first glance. 554 00:38:14,240 --> 00:38:15,240 So I just gave up. 555 00:38:15,240 --> 00:38:18,360 I literally looked at it for two seconds and then gave up. 556 00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:19,560 So sorry about that. 557 00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:20,560 I'll figure it out. 558 00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:24,200 I'll figure it out another day because today is another day where I'm cutting it short 559 00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:27,120 because we were there so long. 560 00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:28,800 Oh my gosh. 561 00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:32,960 I almost forgot another story to tell you. 562 00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:33,960 Sorry. 563 00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:39,360 I thought someone opened my door. 564 00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:43,240 I still don't like talking around my family on the podcast. 565 00:38:43,240 --> 00:38:46,600 But let me tell you this. 566 00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,200 Alright, high excess potential turn low. 567 00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:54,360 I'm trying to write down all the lessons. 568 00:38:54,360 --> 00:39:00,960 And then gain influence back. 569 00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:04,080 Okay. 570 00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:08,080 Alright, now I'm going to tell you this. 571 00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:10,320 First client. 572 00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:16,760 So four days or I don't know how much days go but I before today I went to four different 573 00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:24,760 shops in person to try and get my first client to help them out for free. 574 00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:28,360 And I was really shy, nervous every single time. 575 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:30,080 The first time was 100% fear. 576 00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:31,080 The second time was 50. 577 00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,560 Third time was like 30. 578 00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:35,920 And then the fourth time was like 20. 579 00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:39,800 Now so it was getting easier and easier. 580 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:45,080 But I realized that like I said earlier today my comfort zone was holding me back. 581 00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:48,960 So then we went to the mall, asked for a bunch of girls' numbers. 582 00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:50,640 All rejected except for one. 583 00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:53,080 Sadly my friends didn't get any numbers. 584 00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:58,480 But that doesn't really matter because we both expanded our comfort zone crazy amounts. 585 00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:04,320 Especially since he told me a story of last summer he did the same thing that we just 586 00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:07,520 did today at Six Flags with his other friends. 587 00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:09,600 And he was like 0 and 70. 588 00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:16,200 He literally walked by 70 girls and did not even approach any of them. 589 00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:17,500 Not a single one. 590 00:40:17,500 --> 00:40:26,200 So the fact that we both and him especially approached and talked to like more than 10 591 00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,840 each, 10 girls each, is huge. 592 00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:31,000 In one day. 593 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:35,880 Literally huge. 594 00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:41,080 But that said, after we both did that, we were both on highs. 595 00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:44,760 Like super, we were both high on dopamine. 596 00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:47,160 We just did a crazy difficult thing. 597 00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,180 Mentally difficult not physically. 598 00:40:50,180 --> 00:40:52,120 So he dropped me off at my home. 599 00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:53,720 He went back home. 600 00:40:53,720 --> 00:40:59,980 And I was like okay I still have to do my daily task for business that I promised everyone 601 00:40:59,980 --> 00:41:02,120 I would do. 602 00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:04,040 And it was like 4 o'clock at this point. 603 00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:07,880 And I'm done with the podcast at 4 o'clock. 604 00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:08,880 Or it was like 3 at 3.30. 605 00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:09,880 I don't even know what time. 606 00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:12,240 It was really late. 607 00:41:12,240 --> 00:41:13,640 Because I go to bed at 6.30. 608 00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:15,600 So it's late for me. 609 00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:17,000 And right now it's 4.30. 610 00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:18,960 So I gotta get done soon. 611 00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:22,480 But besides that point. 612 00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:27,920 Literally I was like I don't want to do this because I want to get to bed soon. 613 00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:29,860 But then I was like dude come on bro. 614 00:41:29,860 --> 00:41:31,880 I'll stay up late one day. 615 00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:34,680 And I'm not even going to have to stay up late. 616 00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:38,000 I'm telling you right now I'm not going to have to stay up late. 617 00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:41,200 And I went to the first shop that I went to. 618 00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:42,200 Number one. 619 00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,360 When I went 100% fear. 620 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,680 And I went back for the fifth time. 621 00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:48,940 And if you listen to my framework. 622 00:41:48,940 --> 00:41:52,360 The fifth time is when it's easy. 623 00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:57,960 Now maybe the fifth time is easy. 624 00:41:57,960 --> 00:42:01,640 But not like a breeze. 625 00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:06,360 So it's easy to where you don't have to really think that much about it. 626 00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,920 Now since that was the fifth time. 627 00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:12,980 Plus I had just gotten a girl's number. 628 00:42:12,980 --> 00:42:16,840 So my comfort zone was expanded so much already. 629 00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:19,600 So I had that advantage as well. 630 00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:21,640 I went back to the first shop. 631 00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:24,880 The flower shop that I went to. 632 00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:26,280 And I didn't get rejected. 633 00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:27,360 She wrote down my number. 634 00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:30,720 But she never texted me. 635 00:42:30,720 --> 00:42:32,040 So I count that as a rejection. 636 00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:33,720 But I went back and I was like alright. 637 00:42:33,720 --> 00:42:36,160 I realized that I had to. 638 00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:37,600 I did a bad job explaining. 639 00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:45,080 So I literally sat there for maybe 20 minutes explaining to her exactly what I was going 640 00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:46,080 to do. 641 00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,560 And mapped out the plan. 642 00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:53,360 And she was in on it. 643 00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:55,000 And I was actually comfortable. 644 00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:58,040 I was in the zone when I was with her. 645 00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:02,360 And like five days ago when I did it the first time. 646 00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:03,520 It was like the death of me. 647 00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:04,520 I was so scared. 648 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:06,160 I wanted to get out of there as soon as possible. 649 00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:09,240 I was only there for like a minute. 650 00:43:09,240 --> 00:43:11,280 So then I went back. 651 00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:12,280 Tried again. 652 00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:15,660 And this time she gave me her personal phone number. 653 00:43:15,660 --> 00:43:17,760 So she's seriously in on it. 654 00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:23,240 And she told me like all the products that we like mapped out the products for the funnel 655 00:43:23,240 --> 00:43:25,560 and everything. 656 00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:28,080 So it's huge. 657 00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:29,680 It is looking good. 658 00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:32,480 It is a turning point right now. 659 00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:34,280 And today's Tuesday. 660 00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:36,240 School starts in seven days. 661 00:43:36,240 --> 00:43:39,800 Next Tuesday is my first day of school. 662 00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:44,200 And I'm looking like I'm getting there. 663 00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:45,840 I'm like in a start. 664 00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:55,440 I'm going to work really hard on her funnel so I can get it like working like really well. 665 00:43:55,440 --> 00:44:00,840 And then we're gonna. 666 00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:01,840 That's like it. 667 00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:02,840 Honestly. 668 00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:03,840 Man. 669 00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:08,040 The future is looking awesome. 670 00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:10,080 And then alright so let me tell you that. 671 00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:13,120 Let me write that down first though. 672 00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:14,320 Okay. 673 00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:20,960 When I left that place I was so happy. 674 00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:23,600 I was the happiest I've ever been. 675 00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,560 I was just smiling the whole way home. 676 00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:31,800 And usually I don't sometimes I like nod to people to say hello. 677 00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:37,040 But today I literally said good afternoon to every single person that I passed by. 678 00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:38,040 I was just so happy. 679 00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:41,480 I'm smiling nothing like this is awesome. 680 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:44,240 I'm on the right track and. 681 00:44:44,240 --> 00:44:45,680 Man. 682 00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:47,980 I'm gonna be there. 683 00:44:47,980 --> 00:44:51,280 I really know that I can. 684 00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:53,520 I know that I can get to Florida. 685 00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:57,240 Next month on the twenty seventh of September. 686 00:44:57,240 --> 00:45:00,440 Today is the eighth of August. 687 00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:08,320 And I know that soon I'll be able to get to Hawaii and surf or wherever I choose to live 688 00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:12,360 to practice surfing. 689 00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:18,760 So I told him and then when I got home I told my dad that was awesome. 690 00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:23,080 And I'm gonna tell my mom after this podcast she's just on a call right now for work. 691 00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:26,800 Life is looking great. 692 00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,840 I'm actually so happy. 693 00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:34,640 And it's awesome because literally like two years ago I was miserable. 694 00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:38,600 Maybe not even two years ago maybe less. 695 00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,560 I'm so happy bro. 696 00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:46,520 Like expanding your comfort zone is the hardest thing to do in the moment. 697 00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:48,160 But it is the best thing. 698 00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,120 Like I actually feel like I'm starting to become a man. 699 00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:57,440 Like all throughout summer literally a week ago I felt I thought I was a man. 700 00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,760 I thought I was getting to become a man. 701 00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:01,400 But I was definitely a boy. 702 00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:02,760 I was like not even a boy. 703 00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:04,800 I was like de masculine. 704 00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:10,560 It was not even though I was jacked and I had like all the manly features. 705 00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:14,480 My confidence and social was really low. 706 00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:17,560 Literally seven days ago. 707 00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:26,680 And now I feel like I can like even during school last year I got so much anxiety around 708 00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:27,680 people. 709 00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:33,440 I would only get used to it after a couple days and then it would start to lower down. 710 00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:35,680 But this year is gonna be different. 711 00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:41,200 I already know that I'm so much more comfortable around people. 712 00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:43,760 Man. 713 00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:46,080 This is awesome. 714 00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:48,920 And today is Tuesday. 715 00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:49,920 We did that. 716 00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:53,240 I'm gonna keep working on business for the rest of the week. 717 00:46:53,240 --> 00:46:55,440 And on Friday we're gonna go back. 718 00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:59,140 We're gonna go back to the mall on Friday and ask for more girls numbers and try and 719 00:46:59,140 --> 00:47:00,640 get more. 720 00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:03,240 Man this is awesome. 721 00:47:03,240 --> 00:47:06,440 This is awesome. 722 00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:19,520 Alright so here's my my five step framework to five. 723 00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:22,800 Alright I'm gonna write it down. 724 00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:27,400 Five step framework. 725 00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:30,120 I've been developing this framework. 726 00:47:30,120 --> 00:47:33,360 I didn't realize that I was developing this framework for the past week. 727 00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:39,200 But today when I was talking to my dad before this episode I realized that I just developed 728 00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:40,200 a framework. 729 00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:58,400 A five step framework to increase your influence on the world. 730 00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:04,880 To achieve your goals. 731 00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:10,360 I'm not sure if I'll actually call it that if I ever sell it. 732 00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:18,520 Because it will take a lot to pre-frame a cold or warm audience to teach all of the 733 00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:20,320 concepts of trans surfing. 734 00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:36,480 So I might just say five step or five day framework to transform your life or to get 735 00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:40,480 past a plateau or I don't know. 736 00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:46,060 But essentially the five step framework is day one. 737 00:48:46,060 --> 00:48:47,980 It depends on your comfort level. 738 00:48:47,980 --> 00:48:54,120 If you were where I was seven days ago day one would just be emailing people. 739 00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:56,520 Email five people. 740 00:48:56,520 --> 00:49:01,520 And then you can do one email a day depending on how comfortable you are. 741 00:49:01,520 --> 00:49:08,480 But once it gets too easy the next day cold call those same people or different people. 742 00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:10,440 You can cold call businesses. 743 00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:14,120 It does not you don't have to do it for business. 744 00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:18,080 You can literally just do it for your personal growth. 745 00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:20,280 Like expand your comfort zone. 746 00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:22,880 And just be like hey I have a business opportunity. 747 00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:27,480 Or try and figure out some script to say to them. 748 00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:37,040 And then you figure out some script and then if they actually accept it and you can't provide 749 00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:43,360 just say hey I'm so sorry but this call was actually meant to expand my comfort zone. 750 00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:44,680 So I actually can't provide. 751 00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,300 And then just end the call. 752 00:49:47,300 --> 00:49:53,640 So then do calls every day until those are too easy too comfortable. 753 00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:57,280 And then go in person. 754 00:49:57,280 --> 00:50:01,680 And also during the calls and in person don't use scripts. 755 00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:02,720 Just cold call them. 756 00:50:02,720 --> 00:50:04,040 Like going cold. 757 00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:05,040 Don't use a script. 758 00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,760 Don't have a plan. 759 00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:09,960 Because you'll get the most growth if you don't have a plan. 760 00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:12,320 That's what I did. 761 00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:20,320 And so then when you go in person you'll want to this will probably be the most difficult. 762 00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:22,160 So you'll do it once a day. 763 00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:24,360 Go to a brand new shop once a day. 764 00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:25,680 And then if they accept. 765 00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:30,280 They probably won't but if they accept just say hey sorry this was just meant to expand 766 00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:31,280 my comfort zone. 767 00:50:31,280 --> 00:50:34,440 I cannot provide. 768 00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:37,080 And then just go on with your life. 769 00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:45,480 But do that once a day and literally today was my fifth day and this is how much success 770 00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,240 I've gotten. 771 00:50:47,240 --> 00:50:49,920 I didn't do once a day for cold calling. 772 00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:54,880 I probably cold called like two over two days at like five or six people. 773 00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:56,280 That got really easy really quick. 774 00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:59,120 But in the beginning it was really hard. 775 00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:00,120 But my framework. 776 00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:03,420 Here's my actual five step framework. 777 00:51:03,420 --> 00:51:08,880 When you're doing something uncomfortable mentally uncomfortable. 778 00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:13,320 The first time you do it. 779 00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:16,080 It will be at a hundred percent difficulty. 780 00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:21,480 You will be a hundred percent fear a hundred percent anxiety everything a hundred percent. 781 00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:24,000 Like you will not want to do it at all. 782 00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:25,920 But then once you do it. 783 00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:29,500 All of that excess potential will dissipate. 784 00:51:29,500 --> 00:51:35,040 So then it will be 50 percent fear anxiety which kind of relates to 50 percent excess 785 00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:36,040 potential. 786 00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:37,680 I kind of just made that connection. 787 00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:41,360 So in the beginning you have a hundred percent access potential fear anxiety all the above. 788 00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:45,360 And the second time you go in 50 percent. 789 00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:50,420 So it's nearly not nearly as hard. 790 00:51:50,420 --> 00:51:54,280 And then the third time you go in 25 percent. 791 00:51:54,280 --> 00:52:01,920 And then the fourth time 20 percent or 15 percent or 10 percent doesn't matter. 792 00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:02,920 It's just estimates. 793 00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:05,720 I'm just trying to give you a general idea. 794 00:52:05,720 --> 00:52:08,920 And then the last time five times is all it takes. 795 00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:13,240 And you basically dissipate all of the excess potential. 796 00:52:13,240 --> 00:52:16,500 Maybe there's like five percent left but that's not noticeable. 797 00:52:16,500 --> 00:52:21,440 And then it'll be easier to do so then you can do it without building up all this willpower 798 00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:22,440 next time. 799 00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:29,040 And then over time as you just keep doing it and it just becomes natural. 800 00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:32,920 It's in your comfort zone and then it becomes zero percent access potential. 801 00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:37,080 And that's one area of your life where excess potential is dissipated. 802 00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:40,320 And that's one area of your life where you have influence back. 803 00:52:40,320 --> 00:52:42,440 I just made that connection again. 804 00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:44,480 A new connection. 805 00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:49,320 All of the areas in life that we're uncomfortable about changing is just because we have a hundred 806 00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:54,520 percent fear, a hundred percent anxiety, a hundred percent excess potential. 807 00:52:54,520 --> 00:53:02,040 But the second we make one change and honestly I was going into the first businesses maybe 808 00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:03,120 ten seconds. 809 00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:07,280 I literally said hey I have business opportunity can I help you? 810 00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:10,360 And then literally most of the time it's just an employee and they're just like okay email 811 00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:13,560 the email my boss. 812 00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:14,560 And then I left. 813 00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:17,080 Like literally ten seconds of discomfort. 814 00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:18,500 Really simple. 815 00:53:18,500 --> 00:53:24,640 And then today when I was asking for her numbers, literally less than a minute. 816 00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:28,120 Usually like ten seconds. 817 00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:33,920 And yeah I think the longest one was a minute and that's because I actually got her number. 818 00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:36,200 Most of them were like less than ten seconds. 819 00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:37,200 Maybe ten, maybe thirty. 820 00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:38,200 I don't know. 821 00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:40,040 It felt like forever. 822 00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:41,040 Don't get me wrong. 823 00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:44,200 But in reality it was probably like ten seconds. 824 00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,160 Yeah that is crazy. 825 00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:53,680 So yeah every area that we're uncomfortable about it's just because there's a lot of excess 826 00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:56,720 potential and we have an opportunity because we're trapped. 827 00:53:56,720 --> 00:54:00,680 All we have to do is go the first time and then half of it is taken down. 828 00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:03,920 And then we get fifty percent of our influence back. 829 00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:09,120 And then it just gets easier and easier and easier to take the rest off. 830 00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:13,400 So the first one is the hardest but you get the most reward off the first one. 831 00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:17,800 But man this episode is definitely my best episode. 832 00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:21,440 Episode fourteen and this episode are amazing. 833 00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:24,360 So twenty I think this is. 834 00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:25,640 I'm getting there. 835 00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:34,600 So in the beginning I actually recorded fourteen episodes before I started posting online. 836 00:54:34,600 --> 00:54:45,240 So actually this is like my thirty fourth episode that I've ever recorded over thirty 837 00:54:45,240 --> 00:54:46,240 four days. 838 00:54:46,240 --> 00:54:54,220 But I didn't actually start posting until twenty days ago and I just made new episodes. 839 00:54:54,220 --> 00:55:01,200 So literally it's only been thirty four days and I think that I found my voice. 840 00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:02,200 Maybe maybe not. 841 00:55:02,200 --> 00:55:03,520 I don't know. 842 00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:06,120 Russell Brunson said that in his book. 843 00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:11,120 It's around like forty I think. 844 00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:12,640 Maybe fifty maybe thirty. 845 00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:13,640 I don't know. 846 00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:18,840 I think I'm around that point where I found my voice and I've given you guys so much value. 847 00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:27,640 Like this podcast I actually wish that I had this podcast when I was first starting off. 848 00:55:27,640 --> 00:55:30,800 A lot of these concepts are really complicated and I get that. 849 00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:31,800 Like excess potential. 850 00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:33,800 I just heard that in the podcast. 851 00:55:33,800 --> 00:55:34,800 I would have no idea. 852 00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:41,640 The only reason why I can explain it so well and is because one I read it to I studied 853 00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:43,680 it reality transfer. 854 00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:51,360 I'm talking about I read that book one time through and then I after like two months maybe 855 00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:56,760 of not reading it I went back and started rereading again and I studied it and I'm only 856 00:55:56,760 --> 00:56:00,680 on page one hundred out of seven hundred and fifty on the second read through. 857 00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:01,680 But I've been studying it. 858 00:56:01,680 --> 00:56:08,680 I've been reading like the last couple of days I read maybe for thirty minutes total 859 00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:12,800 like thirty minutes each day and each day I got through like three pages. 860 00:56:12,800 --> 00:56:15,560 So like I'm really studying it and writing out a lot of notes. 861 00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:21,520 I actually bought a separate journal for notes and I'm rereading those notes every day as 862 00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:22,720 well. 863 00:56:22,720 --> 00:56:30,560 So it's studying is really helping me mold my brain and also while I'm studying it it's 864 00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:33,720 molding my brain and I'm also seeing it in real life. 865 00:56:33,720 --> 00:56:37,520 So I'm getting those connections in real life plus I'm applying it. 866 00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:42,060 We started climbing trees which we talked about trans surfing and connected that to 867 00:56:42,060 --> 00:56:48,240 trans surfing and then we I started expanding my comfort zone and then it wasn't until I 868 00:56:48,240 --> 00:56:53,520 started going in person to businesses to where I realized that this is trans surfing as well. 869 00:56:53,520 --> 00:56:57,640 Well actually it wasn't until today when I realized that it was actually trans surfing 870 00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:05,720 today when we were walking to the car after I got my number that number I was like this 871 00:57:05,720 --> 00:57:08,120 is this is trans surfing. 872 00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:12,120 That's when I made the connection that taking action will actually increase our influence 873 00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:14,440 on the world and destroy our excess potential. 874 00:57:14,440 --> 00:57:24,440 Let me get some water. 875 00:57:24,440 --> 00:57:41,720 Okay so now okay that was huge. 876 00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:53,080 Now I'm going to write down reduce excess potential and then I'm also going to write 877 00:57:53,080 --> 00:58:04,200 down pine pollen testosterone. 878 00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:09,200 So I started taking pine pollen yesterday. 879 00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:14,160 I'm not sure if I've experienced effects but this morning my morning wood was a little 880 00:58:14,160 --> 00:58:17,560 bit stronger so that's good and that was only the first day. 881 00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:21,960 I've been mega dosing so yesterday I took two mega doses one right when it came and 882 00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:24,120 then one right before bed. 883 00:58:24,120 --> 00:58:27,040 Today I took one mega dose in the morning I'm going to take a mega dose right after 884 00:58:27,040 --> 00:58:31,920 this podcast right before bed. 885 00:58:31,920 --> 00:58:36,560 And over the next couple of days or weeks I'll let you guys know about any progress. 886 00:58:36,560 --> 00:58:48,040 My birthday when I turn 18 is in one month and 11 days September 17th. 887 00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:52,040 And this is awesome. 888 00:58:52,040 --> 00:59:01,760 We go to Florida September 27th and I'm really looking forward to the future. 889 00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:07,840 You guys if you guys are at the stage where I was where I was like do I really want to 890 00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:12,360 get on self improvement or when I was like struggling with self improvement just pick 891 00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:24,360 one person to listen to and only listen to that podcast and do everything they say. 892 00:59:24,360 --> 00:59:31,360 So if I were you and you're just starting to listen to my previous podcast and you will 893 00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:42,280 hear like the six steps and then also just keep moving forward because I had a feeling 894 00:59:42,280 --> 00:59:48,280 that my friend who was kind of on self improvement who was in a similar situation where I was 895 00:59:48,280 --> 00:59:54,440 we went to the gym both of us consistently and we both started like getting into self 896 00:59:54,440 --> 00:59:58,760 improvement habits like meditation. 897 00:59:58,760 --> 01:00:04,220 But the difference between me and him I kept moving forward through all the struggles through 898 01:00:04,220 --> 01:00:12,240 all the failures and he stopped and one year later I mean I don't want to compare but I 899 01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:14,640 am definitely way better off. 900 01:00:14,640 --> 01:00:20,000 So you guys do not make the same mistake my friend did. 901 01:00:20,000 --> 01:00:22,360 Just keep pushing forward. 902 01:00:22,360 --> 01:00:29,080 If it doesn't feel like it's going to be worth it now it will be worth it in one month 10 903 01:00:29,080 --> 01:00:37,920 days it will be worth it in like all it will be worth it trust me even in one year. 904 01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:43,760 The time is already going to go on so you might as well go on with it and improve yourself 905 01:00:43,760 --> 01:00:48,880 and not let time go on against you. 906 01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:56,880 And with that to wrap things up don't forget to download your favorite episodes and subscribe 907 01:00:56,880 --> 01:00:59,580 to the ascend momentum show. 908 01:00:59,580 --> 01:01:17,000 But before you guys leave make sure 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