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Amen. As we continue in our current series healed, how many of you have been

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blessed by this series so far? Amen. How many of you have been blessed by this

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series so far? Amen. I want to continue to share and to talk about a few things.

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Amen. Some things that are hard to talk about sometimes. Some things that are

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hard to confront and deal with at times. I want to talk about some things

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concerning love, broken hearts, and relationships. Amen. How many of you have

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experienced disappointment? You don't have to raise your hand. I'm sure everybody

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has. How many of you have experienced a broken heart? Amen. We've all encountered

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or experienced this type of pain due to relationships, fallouts, miscommunications.

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Amen. But sometimes we make the mistake of holding on to the pain.

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Sometimes we tend to live with the pain and we just accept it. And because we go

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about our daily lives and we don't see that the pain is causing any more

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convenience than what it already is, we just learn to live with it. I don't want

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to live with pain. I don't want to live with a broken heart. And I got good news

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for everyone that can hear my voice today. You don't have to. Amen. You don't

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have to. Because God can heal a broken heart. And God is the only one that can

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mend a broken heart and restore a relationship. Amen. So as we get into

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this, if you have your Bibles, amen, if you could turn to John chapter 11 verse

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one through five, amen. And this is where we are going to take our thought from

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today. Amen. Now a certain man was sick named Lazarus. Lazarus, excuse me, a

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Bethany, the town of Mary and her sister. Amen. And it was Mary which anointed the

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Lord with ointment and wipe his feet with her hair whose brother Lazarus was

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sick. Therefore his sister sent unto him saying, Lord, behold, he whom thou's

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lovest is sick. When Jesus heard that he said, this sickness is not unto death,

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but for the glory of God that the Son of God might be glorified thereby. Now Jesus

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loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. Amen. Heavenly Father, we come before you

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today. We give you honor. We give you glory Lord. Lord, we ask you Lord to open

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up our hearts, open up our minds Lord. Lord, that you would speak to the broken

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hearted today God. That you would speak to those God who've experienced it or

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still experiencing disappointment and grief. God, Lord, that you would begin the

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healing process in someone's life. God, in someone's mind. Lord, Lord, in someone's

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relationship Jesus hallelujah Lord. Lord, because you are great. Lord, and you are

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good Father Lord. Lord, and you are faithful Lord. Lord, we ask you Lord all of

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this in the name of Jesus we pray. Amen. You may be seated. Amen. As I just

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mentioned, amen. Not, there isn't any single person. Amen. There's not one

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person in this room that hasn't experienced some type of heartache, broken

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heart as a result of a relationship. And I am sure that someone has experienced

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one of these things or possibly all of these things. Giving ourselves to

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relationship is not an easy thing to do. It takes trust, commitment, honesty, and

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time. But what happens when the relationship ends badly? What happens when

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the trust is broken? And what happens when the commitment fails? When you were

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lied to, when you were mistreated, amen, and time was wasted. All you are left

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with are bad memories and a broken heart. There is no remedy for a broken heart,

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no prescription, no amount of medication can heal or mend a broken heart. The

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majority of society would suggest to find someone new. Involve yourself in a

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brand new relationship. You don't need time to get over it. Just jump right back

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into it. And maybe that new relationship will help you to forget the old one.

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But the problem with that is when you have two people who are broken that come

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together, eventually someone is going to get cut. Because hurt people hurt people.

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The pain of a broken heart is real. And if not resolved, it can leave a damaging

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impression and an outlook on what love truly is. Now I'm not speaking from a

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mountain that I haven't climbed. I'm not speaking from a valley that I haven't

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cried in. I know what I'm talking about when I'm telling you that a broken heart

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is painful. When someone tells you that they are suffering from a broken heart

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believe them. It don't matter how crazy the story is. It don't matter how wild

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the relationship sounded like. What matters is that they're standing in front of

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you hurting, broken. The pain of a broken heart is real. And if we don't confront

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this and if we don't deal with this, it distorts what love truly is. Amen. Because

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Jesus Himself, He views relationships. He views them in a very, very important

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point of view or very important way. Because if He did not, He would not have

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commanded it so. In Matthew 22, 37, to 39, He says, Jesus replied, love the Lord

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your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This

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is the first and greatest commandment and the second is like it. Love your

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neighbor as yourself. How do you love someone? How do you eventually love

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someone? By getting to know them through relationship. It is impossible to connect

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with someone or to have some type of connected connection to someone

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without relationship. Relationship is so important to God that He commanded it.

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Amen. The same love that He describes that we should have for our neighbor is a

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same love that nailed Him to the tree. The same love that He expressed. Amen. When

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He was hanging on that cross and He said that He had you and I on His mind, is a

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same type of love that we should carry, show, and express when it comes to our

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neighbor. Someone say, amen. We tend to mask this love and eventually we become

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more concerned with the quality of our relationships and the appearance of our

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relationships when we should be more concerned with the quality of our heart.

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But the Lord said to Samuel, do not look at his appearance or at his physical

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stature because I have refused him for the Lord does not see a man as a man

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sees for the man looks at the outward appearance but the Lord looks at the heart.

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We must understand that the quality of our heart will reflect the quality of our

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lives. Proverbs 423 states above all else guard your heart for everything you do

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flows from it. We all know someone who's always upset or who has a negative

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output or might have a negative opinion on everything. Hey, I got a promotion

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today. Oh man, I'm so happy for you but man you've got to work long hours.

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Isn't your boss and people don't really like him? Do you really think it's

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worth it? And you're standing there thinking like geez you could have at least

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said congrats and walked away. Right? These people are not bad people. They're

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grieving in their heart. Something's wrong. There's pain inside that they're not

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willing to or haven't dealt with. The quality of your life will reflect the

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quality of your heart. Masking and hiding might make it easier to deal with but

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eventually you have to confront it. Falsifying your heartbreak can cause you

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to seek false remedies. This is why people go from broken relationship to

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broken relationship. They seek alternative ways to cope with the pain, to

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cope with the disappointment, to cope with the heartbreak. They start to believe

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the pain that their heart is speaking. Jeremiah 17 9 10 the heart is deceitful

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above all things and desperately wicked. Who can know it? I the Lord search the

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heart. I test the mind even to give every man according to his way, according to

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the fruit of his doings. Only God can search the heart and see the past deceit

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and pain. Only God can search the deepest parts of your heart and listen to your

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secrets. Only God can search through hallelujah the pain that is hidden inside

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of your heart. Only God can mend and heal a broken heart. Today I want to touch

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and speak on the subject very quickly heart to heart. As we take a look at

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Mary and Martha and John 11 in the scripture we just read we find that

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they experience pain in separation of the brother Lazarus because he's sick and

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they are fearful or fear of him dying. The heartbreak is a result of a death of

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a relationship. The feeling of rejection when they approach Jesus. The feeling of

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being alone and disappointed. The overwhelming feeling of exhaustion due

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to the tragedy of losing their brother. The key to healing from it all and

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having a heart to heart with God. How do we deal or excuse me how do we heal from

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a broken heart? A broken relationship. Well let's find out. Our first point is we

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need to understand that we must go to God. Someone say go to God. Therefore his

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sister sent unto him saying Lord behold he whom thou lovest is sick. Now Mary and

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Martha made a conscious decision. They went they had to go to tell Jesus about

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their brother Lazarus being sick. Now in the midst of their pain their fear of

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their brother dying their fear or the agony of watching their brother lie

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their sick. Amen with no answers no remedy no medication to give them. In the

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midst of their sadness they had to make a decision. They had to go and tell Jesus.

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They had to get up from where they were and go to tell Jesus. To tell him that

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their brother was sick. Now we found ourselves in situations such as these

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or such as this when we are hurting a man and we're home and we know what the

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answer is and we know what we have to do and yet we sit there because we're in

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pain. We're hurting. We're suffering. The sun is shining outside but we got a

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rain cloud over our head. Things are not okay and things are not well and so we

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want someone to remedy this so we reach out to folks. We post stories on

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Instagram. We tell people that we are hurting. We're doing what we can to let

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people know so then we get the text messages the phone calls are you okay

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the DMs hey I just saw hey I just saw and we we we tend to use that as a remedy

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for our pain. And although God is waiting for us God will not move unless we

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move. Now consider the relationship Mary Martha Lazarus the Bible says that

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they were his friend so they could have waited for him to come around the way.

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They could have said well hold on he'll eventually show up. We might run into him

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at the market. We might run into you know what let's tell so-and-so and so-and-so

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can tell him because I don't feel like getting up. I'm in too much pain. We have

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to make a decision to come to God. The word decide amen is comprised of two

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words the prefix D which means to remove. This is where we get the words

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like dehumidify decompress decline. The word side means to kill off which is how

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we have words like pesticide homicide genocide so when you decide to come to

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God you have decided to remove what is hurting you and kill off all other

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options. Matthew 11 says come to me or you who are weary and burden come to me

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come to me and I will give you rest take my yoke upon you and learn from me for I

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am gentle and humble in heart and I will find rest in you will find rest in your

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souls. The word come amen and the word in in James draw on I to God he will draw

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on I unto you the word come the word draw it's an invitation God is not just

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saying that you've got to come to me he's inviting you to come to him. Hallelujah

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I am here to let you know and this is something that we don't want to hear when

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we are hurting this is something that we don't want to hear when we're in pain

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but you have to participate in your healing you have to participate in your

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healing you have to make a decision to come to God why because faith without

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words is dead. We won't go to God so easily now as a result of these things

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that we've experienced it's now much harder to go to church on Sunday it's

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now much harder to log on to zoom on Wednesday it's now much harder to receive

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Godly counsel it's now much harder to reach out to your pastor to your minister

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friend to the people at church who love you who pray for you who look out for

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you it's so much hard to go to them because we already know what we're

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going to hear. When they say that it's time to turn the page it's time for you

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to step into a new chapter to write out a new chapter a lot of times we won't do

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that the reason being is because we know that once we turn the page we know

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who won't be there. You see because if you're still holding on to what was you

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will never receive to what God has. You cannot accept new love when you're still

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harboring the pain from the old love this is why you can't pour new wine into

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old wineskins. A lot of times we tend to think upon these things and we say things

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like I wish I wish I wish and God is saying stop wishing and come come come

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on to me. I want you to know that in the midst of your disparity and in the midst

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of those times and those moments where you feel that you are alone you need to

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know and understand because pain is a dark place pain is a dark place the

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lights can be on the sun is shining but you feel so empty and cold there is

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nothing that can put a smile on your face no comment no compliment not even

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your favorite prayer song or your favorite church song or your favorite

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worship song sometimes can do anything for you because you're so alone the pain

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is so bad that it overshadows everything that's good in your life but the

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Lord says this he not only says that he will never leave us nor forsake us but

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he also says that he is close to the brokenhearted and he saves those who are

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crushed in spirit and we wonder why the enemy does all that he can to keep us

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from God we wonder why amen he puts these things into our hearts and into our

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minds and he tells us that we're not good enough he tells us that we're not

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worthy enough he tells us that God can't do it we must become decided men and

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women we must hallelujah decide to stop hurting and stop allowing the hurt to

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hindrance our lives we've got to quit focusing on that relationship and we

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have to look forward we have to start to focus on the relationship that's going

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to come someone say amen now when you come to God you've got to tell God your

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pain you've got to tell God your pain so many people come to the altar and they

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stand and they weep and they cry and they're crying out to God and they're

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asking God to take away their pain and they're standing there and they're

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waiting and they're waiting and they're waiting and they're waiting and then they

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walk back to their seats and they sit down the pain is still there they still

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feel broken and they're sitting there thinking why do I still feel this way if

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how many of you have been in the house of God how many of you have been in a

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powerful service and experience a powerful move of God and you go back to

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your seat and you ask yourself why do I feel the same how come I don't feel like

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that did anything for me it wasn't God it wasn't God I want to remind you of the

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two blind men that were sitting on the roadside and they heard that Jesus was

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coming by these blind men from where they were at in the midst of their

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blindness in the midst of their darkness the Bible says that they shouted Lord

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son of David have mercy on us the crowd rebuked them and they told them to be

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quiet but they shouted all the louder the Lord son of David have mercy on us

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and Jesus stopped and he called them and he said what would you have for me to

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do for you Lord they answered we want our sight Jesus had compassion on them

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the Bible says he touched their eyes immediately they received their sight

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and followed him you know that sometimes your cry has to be louder than your

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pain you have to stop worrying about what people are going to think and say

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about you you've got to be able to stand in the presence of God and say Lord I

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need you right now God the pain is so intense I can't stand it anymore

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your cry has to be louder than your pain we have to understand that if we

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don't confess with our mouths and believe in our hearts God says that if you

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believe in your heart amen if you believe in your heart he will do it that

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if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and you believe in your

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heart he will do it confess and believe and you have to wonder why the enemy

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tries to shut you up with your pain he tries to lie to you and tell you to

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keep your mouth shut just like the crowd did to the two blind men because he

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knows amen he knows that death and life are in the power of your tongue that if

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you keep your mouth shut nothing will happen that if you don't call out the

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name of Jesus in the time of your disparity in the time of your need

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nothing will happen

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oftentimes we are counseled amen because of what we carry amen and what we go

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through and ultimately the answer is prayer right but that's not what we want

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to hear sometime but Lord I am praying what are you confessing but Lord I am

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asking what are you desperate

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it's two different types of prayer

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confessing and believing if we don't do these two things we will remain crushed

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and broken

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our second point is that pain that you're experiencing that pain that you're

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experiencing is going to give God glory now now I know we talked about the pain

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I know we talked about the experience of pain and what we have to do to relieve

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that pain but do you know do you know that what you are going through that

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what you are experiencing God has a purpose for that do you know that every

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failed relationship is not a failed relationship do you know that every

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broken relationship is not a broken relationship that sometimes God will put

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people in your life for a moment that sometimes God will allow things in your

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life to happen so you can learn that we don't want to hear that fruits of the

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spirit love joy peace what about temperance long suffering how do we learn

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if we don't experience pain when Jesus heard that he said when Jesus heard that

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he said this sickness when he heard that Lazarus was sick he said this sickness

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is not unto death but for the glory of God that the Son of God might be glorified

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thereby it is hard to imagine that the pain that you carry in your experience

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can somehow have a purpose and it is intentional and that one day that this

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purpose will give God glory see we have to understand that he already knew

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Lazarus was going to be sick he already knew that Lazarus was going to die

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Jesus already knew that he was going to raise Lazarus from the dead we serve a

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God that knows our start and our finish and everything in between he knew that

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the situation that you were in wasn't going to work out he knew that the

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relationship was going to end in heartbreak he knew we weren't going to

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listen so he let us do it anyway that love that we talked about at the beginning

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of this sermon that love that unconditional love do you know that

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God loves you so much that if he sees you heading for heartbreak he'll step out

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of the way because God has given us free will and we are free to make our own

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decisions and sometimes the Lord is saying you're asking you're asking you're

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asking fine there you go because that is the only way sometimes that we were

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learned and because we are we are because are you excuse me because we are

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habit in nature right we are habit in nature sometimes we continue to make

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the same mistakes over and over and over again and the whole time God is

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standing there and he's waiting and he's waiting and he's waiting and there we are

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carrying our heartbreak there we are trying to make the relationship work if

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we understand that he is the author and the finisher of our faith and that he has

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plans God has plans you know he has plans for you he has plans amen he

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declares it in Jeremiah he said that he has plans to prosper you and not to

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harm you but plans of hope and of a future so what happens amen when we

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allow ourselves to go through the process eventually he will bring you that

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person eventually he will bring that someone that's going to amen your soul

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may he's gonna bring the one your rib he's gonna bring your Adam he's gonna

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bring your Eve and when he does he's gonna bring it together and it's gonna

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be so beautiful because what God brings two people together at the right time

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it's a good thing and there's a plan of prosperity and hope for each and every

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one of us he says that it is good it is not good for man to be alone and I will

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make a helper suitable for him he knows that while you're sitting there in your

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pain wishing and wondering he knows it's not good for you to be alone but we

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keep making the same mistakes we keep going to the same person because it's

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convenient it's almost like going to the stove and your mom telling you when you

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were small don't touch the fire you're gonna get burned don't touch the fire I

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remember one time my mom kept telling me my mom kept telling me and my stubbornness

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and my hard-headedness I'm still the Lord's working on me on those things but

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I went and I grabbed a little stool and I stepped up and I grabbed the pot and I

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picked it up the steam hit my face I dropped the lid of the pan my arm just

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bubbled up I mean you know how like when when you get a tortilla and you flip it

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you know the bubbles that pop up right when you know that it's almost time to

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slap some some butter on it and go to right so that's how my arm look my skin

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just started to bubble and my mom says I told you David I told you David God is

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saying the same thing sometime I told you son I told you daughter

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because God is saying and God has said that it's not good for man to be alone

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from this we can see clearly that God created man and woman to be together for

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companionship for love for friendship and relationship God has a good plan for

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us all everything that is good comes from God James 1 17 reads whatever is good

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and perfect comes from God but we mess it up we don't want to learn we think

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that we know more than God because we're in love love can get you to do some

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really dumb things I'm speaking from it can get you to do some really

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dumb things but you're in love everything's great everything's awesome

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you're floating on cloud nine you don't need it you don't even need to drink

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coffee in the morning you're fired up on love man nothing can get you down

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nothing can mess up your day and then she stops calling you and then she

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decides to put you in the friend zone and then your text messages go on red

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come on you'll know what I'm talking about huh but there's hope for every one

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of us because God can take a bad relationship and create a greater

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relationship and this will bring him glory for we know that all things were

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together for good to them that love God to them who are called according to his

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purpose he will use your pain and the bad relationship he will use them for

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two reasons two quick reasons number one to refine you Isaiah 48 10 see I have

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refined you though not as silver I have tested you in the furnace of affliction

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in the furnace of pain a test is a situation that God sends or allows in

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our lives with the intention of revealing our loyalties our motivations

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character commitment to him helping to purify strengthen and mature us when

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successfully pass this refining this test will glorify God someone say amen

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number two to keep you he views chapter 12 verse 6 for the Lord disciplines

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those he loves and he punishes each one he accepts as his child punishment God's

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way is building us up and training us to keep us in his will help us to learn

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from our mistakes this is not necessarily a sign of his displeasure but

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of his discipline punishment is not the same punishment as we believe that it

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is punishment is correction that will not crush you why won't it crush us

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because he loves you through this pain and suffering God will be glorified by

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your healing because you're made whole again he will be glorified through your

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repentance because you have been made well again he will be glorified through

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your resurgence because you have been made strong again and he will be

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glorified through your deliverance because you have been made free again

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all of these things will bring him glory at the right time and the right place

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but who here truly believes that it's easy to trust God's timing show of hands

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no takers it is the hardest thing for us to trust God's time especially when

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you're in pain especially when you're longing for relationship when you're

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longing for friendship we all keep praying it'll happen me ha keep going to

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church keep wearing your velo at the top of your head so the brother could see

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it and he knows it you pray keep going it'll be okay it'll be keep going we

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don't want to hear that we don't want to hear those things now when Jesus Jesus

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the Bible says that Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus so when he

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heard that Lazarus was sick he stayed where he was two more days two more

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days in ecclesiastics the Bible says that there's a time for everything amen

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there's a time to heal a time to cry a time to die not in that order but a time

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to laugh but there's a time for everything but it doesn't tell us when who or why or

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even how it just says that there's a time this is where we find our struggle

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Jesus love Mary and Martha Lazarus so much that when he heard that he was sick

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he stayed where he was in today for two days now that might sound like a

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contradiction contrary to his love for them why would he stay why wouldn't God

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rush to their aid why wouldn't God drop everything as soon as he found out that

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his friend was sick why didn't he rush to him well so I thought about it and I

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figured well he already knew this was gonna happen so why go but then God

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already knew that Lazarus was sick and God already knew that Lazarus was going

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to die so on God's time there was no need to rush but because Mary and Martha

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were in pain their time was we need God now we need him we need him to come

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right now now how do we think Martha and Mary fell God didn't move he didn't

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punch they were upset they might have been mad they might have been walking

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away talking to each other see we wasted our time why did we even bother

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coming to tell our friend he's not worried about us he's not concerned

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about Lazarus he's not really our friend they don't really love you you don't

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need to go to church on Sunday don't need to read your word you don't need to

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pray it's not going to work and Jesus when he arrived when he finally decided

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to when he showed up he arrived he found that Lazarus was already dead in the

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two for four days logistically it makes sense he knew he was gonna die he

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waited then I remembered in Matthew 1425 when the disciples were on the boat and

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they were being tossed by the waves and the wind was contrary and the Bible

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said that on the fourth watch shortly before dawn when the storm was at its

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worst Jesus showed up on the fourth day Jesus showed up in Jewish culture they

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believe that after the third day when somebody has died it is impossible for

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them to be brought back it is impossible for someone to die and three days be

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dead and on the fourth day rise again it is impossible by the fourth day the body

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is already decomposed medically it says that the inside of the body is already

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starting to deteriorate and eat the bacteria is already starting to eat

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itself from the outside from the inside out by the fourth day there is no way

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possible that a man or a woman can be resurrected but I thank God that I serve

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a God that can do the impossible I thank God that I serve a God that can do the

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impossible the reason why he showed up on the fourth day was so that he would

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not only receive the glory but that the testimony and the words that will come

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out of Lazarus mouth as we heard later was that it is undeniably God that we

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cannot credit or contribute our own actions or our own words or what we read

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or what we heard to the healing of our heartbreak God shows up when we feel

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like we are out of time but God shows up on time our trust must be firmly on the

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word of God and we must stand on his promises because God is faithful to his

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word now that God has showed up the Bible says that Rick you come up the Bible

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says that God had a heart-to-heart with Martha through the pain through the

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agony the Bible says that when he showed up that Martha ran to him and she

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said God if you were only here if you would have just showed up a day before

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if you would have just showed up an hour before if you would have just showed up

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last week when I was in church and I was crying my eyes out and everybody was

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looking at me and and my eyes were swollen from crying and I was giving

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you all that I had that's right that's what it sounds like if you would have

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just been here God my brother he probably still would have been alive and

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the Lord said that when he saw her he saw her distress he saw her pain the

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Bible said that he wept

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he cried you know that sometimes or I shouldn't say sometimes because God is

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close to the broken hearted do you know that your pain will cause God to weep

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because it's not his will for us to hurt

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he made heaven for you we understand that he said I go to prepare a place for

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you

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God hears when you cry your pain can cause God to weep and he says where's

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Mary because when he showed up she didn't get up

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mama says she stayed in the house you know sometimes God is calling and

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talking at your heart but you won't move because you're mad why is he gonna show

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up now my brother died already why is he gonna show up now the relationship is

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over that person left I'm already hurt the Bible says that when she heard her

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name she ran but when she got to God she fell to his feet she was exhausted she

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was tired and the Lord turns to Mary excuse me Martha hey you know I don't

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know about you but when I read this portion of scripture it reminded me of

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the countless times where I had these hard to heart conversations with God

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being in the car brother Mario by myself driving to work driving home I

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don't know what to do with this pain I'm gonna wait for you but I don't know how

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much longer I can wait it turns to Martha he tells Martha Martha do you

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believe specifically he tells Martha I am the resurrection and the life the one

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who believes in me will live even though they die

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do you feel that the ones that believe in me will live and whoever lives by

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believing in me will never die do you believe this Martha Martha says yes

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Lord I believe that you are the Messiah you can stand Martha says I believe you

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are the Son of God who is to come into the world after we come to God we confess

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to God and we understand that one day our pain will be used to glorify God the

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last question that God has for us is do you believe do you believe that I'll

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heal do you believe that I'll answer you know sometimes going up I would often

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wonder why things in my life were so extreme how when things would happen to

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other people it just happened but when it happened to me it was like everything

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happened it just wasn't one thing it was one thing and then something else and

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then something else and then something else and you know sometimes I thought

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that maybe there was something wrong with me maybe I'm not doing this right and

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as I matured in the Lord and as I learned to understand these things that

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things will work out for the good for those who love him that even the bad

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things that happen eventually God is gonna use him for our good as I

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understood this and I and as I begin to grow into a young man and then now tell

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finally a man I now understand because you know gentlemen we pray for someone

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that God will bring us someone to help us in ministry but where do you think

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you're gonna find her in ministry she's gonna be busy working gentlemen women

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you say the same thing you want a strong man of God a man who prays a man who

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loves you a man who throw out the trash without you asking him a hundred times

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to do it what do you think he's going to be in ministry so I say all of that to

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say this because of those extremities because of that pain and because of that

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heartbreak I now understand that because of those experience God has given me the

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insight the understanding of how to reach the person who's addicted because my

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father was addicted and God healed him I can speak to the homeless because for a

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long period of time I didn't have a home to call my own I can speak to the

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person who has nothing in the bank account because most of my life that's

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just how life was and I can also speak to the person who has plenty because now

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my cup runneth over I can speak to the person who's been praying for a blessing

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because now my life is blessed I can pray for the person that needs to hear a

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word from God because now his word is hidden in my heart so as you stand there

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and close your eyes with me if there is pain in your heart if there is broken

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relationships in your past and maybe these things you haven't confronted maybe

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these things you haven't dealt with maybe it's just easier to ignore these

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things God is making an invitation to you today come on to me I'll heal your

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broken heart I'll remove the pain I'll remove amen the suffering of those past

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relationships and I will prepare your heart for a new one I will prepare your

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mind to receive what now you will no one understand it's true love I will give

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you the wisdom to deal with difficult people and at the same time love them