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What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit

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of Calling, the podcast that provides you with

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the strategies and tools needed to successfully

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discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's

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through inspiring stories, thought -provoking

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interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on

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personal growth and development, we've got you

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covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy

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the episode. I live with chronic pain every single

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day of my life. I used to think it as a curse,

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and now I know it's a blessing. Back in 2019,

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I went to my first doctor's appointment for pain,

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excruciating pain in my hand. To the point where

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I couldn't work. I couldn't use my hand to type

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on my keyboard. And as a developer, I kind of

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need that function of my hand. As time went on,

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I started to believe. That my pain was on purpose

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as my pain increased and my condition progressed.

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I fell into a rut of not even trying to try because

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I didn't see the point. I was having thoughts

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like, I'm in pain all the time. I don't know

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why. My job sucks because no one there cares.

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And I was at the point in my life where I was

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thinking. I was just, my God, my God, why have

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you forsaken me? I didn't, I didn't, I was like,

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did I do something wrong? What did I do? Is my

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faith not strong enough in order to be healed?

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But God, through his infinite wisdom, through

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these trials, these mental and physical trials,

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he's grown me more than I could have ever thought

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or imagined. And even though I have a lot more

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room to grow, I think that's the best part. And

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as I've, as through the last like five, six years

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of having chronic pain and learning about my

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condition, I've also been growing personally.

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I've been really into personal development, personal

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growth. And that even started before. my condition

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really started taking its toll. I believe God

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was setting me up because he knew what was coming.

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And as I've been going on this path of personal

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growth and development, I knew, I learned that

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I wanted to be an entrepreneur. And where I landed

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after multiple different attempts of trying to

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do different things, I landed on becoming a life

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coach. And a life coach, you know, that phrase,

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that career path is, it's seen amazing by some

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and by others, it's snake oil. And maybe you're

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one of those people that see it that way. And

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I think that's understandable because I think,

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I know that there's a lot of people out there

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that self label themselves as a life coach. without

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certifications, without really knowing what it

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means. And they dulled down what it means to

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water down what being a life coach actually is.

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So the goal of this episode is to identify, is

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sorry, to demystify my coaching, why I do it

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and for who. So whenever I decided to be a coach,

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I decided to be a coach because I know that God

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has blessed me with a unique experience that

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I believe is extremely valuable to people. He's

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also blessed me with a drive for personal growth.

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For instance, if I were coaching you, it would

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be a one -on -one conversation, a conversation

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all about you, about your goals, about what you

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want out of your life and why. What vision do

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you believe God is giving you for your life?

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What is your calling? That's what we get to talk

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about during these amazing, thought -provoking

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conversations. And the result of coaching is

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that you get from where you are to where you

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want to be faster. It's like trading your punch

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bug for a Lamborghini. It's like if we wanted

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to get from here in Pittsburgh to California.

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on an airplane versus a car you're going to get

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there faster now i'm going to say this nobody

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actually needs a coach might be a weird thing

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to say but when you hire a coach it's not because

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you need one it's because you want one because

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you want to get from where you are to where you

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want to be faster than you would alone nothing

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great has ever been done by one person There's

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always a team. There's always people supporting

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you. There's always people holding somebody accountable.

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For instance, I had a client who wanted to write

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a children's book. And it's funny because I knew

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her for years before that. I had no idea. She

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put it on her intake form and signed up for three

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months of coaching. By the end of those three

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months, she had a full finished draft and a partner

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that she met at work. a partner to work on this

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book with. And I couldn't have been more happy

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because every week she came to the sessions thinking,

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saying that she didn't think we had much to talk

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about. She didn't think she didn't say, I didn't

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do that much. And I was like, Courtney, I got

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permission to tell her story. I would say, we're

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going to, we're going to fill this session. Now

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we always do. You say that every week. We always,

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you always, I either give you, you're always

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leaving with homework. You're always, you're

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always coming to me with something you did or

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maybe something you didn't do. And that's a great

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part of coaching. Because even whenever you don't

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do something you say you're going to do, the

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coach holds you accountable. And then we figure

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out why. Why did you not follow through? Maybe

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the goal wasn't realistic that we set the week

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before. I just want to give you a little taste

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of what can happen in three months. A full finished

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draft of a book is amazing. And I've coached

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other people with different goals and they're

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always exceeding their own expectations because

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nobody understands, nobody knows what they're

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capable of until they're truly held accountable

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by the way they're held accountable through coaching.

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Now, who do I coach? I coach other people, others

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whose life has also presented them with circumstances

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that are outside of their control. Kind of like

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chronic pain or muscular dystonia. But they know

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God has a calling on their lives, and they are

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wondering aimlessly through life, trying to live

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that calling out. Is that you? You have big goals,

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but you believe because of your life circumstances

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that maybe that goal that you had set, that vision

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you have for your life, maybe that's for somebody

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else. Maybe that's a pipe dream that's not possible.

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Maybe that's not for you anymore. Right now,

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what that is, is that you're letting your circumstances

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define your calling instead of letting God do

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that. God defines your calling, not your circumstances.

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Place God on the throne of your life. Now, I'm

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not saying this to condemn anyone. I'm saying

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this because this is what I did. I did this to

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myself. And I believe if I would have had a coach

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sooner, I would have... not only found my calling

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I not only understood that maybe what I was aiming

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for wasn't maybe what I was aiming for was too

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small but I also realized how much I was actually

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capable of and I still don't believe I know and

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that's exciting again just like there's no ceiling

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to how much you can grow I don't think there's

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any ceiling to how much we can achieve we can

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just keep going So think about that. That's pretty

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much this episode. I wanted to tell you who I

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coach, why I coach. I coach people whose life

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circumstances are starting to define your calling.

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You let them define your life, but you know there's

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more, and you're striving to live out the calling

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that God has for you. Maybe that's entrepreneurial.

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Maybe it's career. Maybe it's finding out what

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that calling is at all and then pursuing that

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with the excellence that God calls us to. And

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if that's something that sounds interesting to

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you, if you want to get from where you are to

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where you want to be faster, I have something

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for you, a free one -on -one discovery coaching

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call. I get to know you, you get to know me,

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and we are going to dive right in to your goals.

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We dive right into where you want to be so I

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can leave you with an actionable plan to start

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pursuing your calling well. All right, if you've

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listened to this full episode, I want to thank

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you and I want to ask you again to click the

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link down in the description that would take

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you to my calendar to sign up for the one -on

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-one coaching call. And if you're on, if you

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I'll see you next time. Don't keep pursuing your

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calling. Do it well. I'll see you next time.