What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit
of Calling, the podcast that provides you with
the strategies and tools needed to successfully
discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's
through inspiring stories, thought -provoking
interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on
personal growth and development, we've got you
covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy
the episode. What's going on? So when I first
had the idea to be a coach, I wasn't in chronic
pain yet. And I had the same full -time job I
have now. And I knew I wanted to be a coach.
I didn't know what it meant. I didn't know what
it actually meant to be a coach. I just, for
some reason, knew that that's what I wanted to
do. But without that, clarity, how was I supposed
to know where to go next? Again, I'd say I didn't
really know what it meant to be a coach, but
I learned through other podcasts and hearing
what coaches do for other people. And I got the
idea like, man, that'd be great. I would love
to be the coach in that situation. So what did
I need to do? Like I said, I needed. Clarity.
Clarity is kindness. And that is what we're talking
about in this episode today. Now, we know we're
not talking about clarity in the sense of being
clear for other people. We're talking about being
kind to ourselves and getting clarity on the
calling that we are pursuing. We're going to
be answering the questions in this episode. What
are you good at? What do you love doing? And
what would you do? Absolutely, with unlimited
time for free. If money wasn't an issue, what
would you do? So before you're pursuing your
calling, you have to know what you're actually
pursuing. Because without knowing what you're
actually pursuing, you're just kind of throwing
anything at the wall and hoping something sticks.
It's kind of like how you test noodles out whenever
you're boiling them. That's an old trick if you
didn't know. You boil the noodles, and it works
really well with spaghetti noodles, actually.
You take the spaghetti noodles, you whip them
at the wall, and you see if they stick to the
wall, hey, they're ready to eat. Don't eat the
one you hit on the wall, though, unless your
wall is super clean, though. But anyway, personally.
One of my strengths, one thing that I'm good
at is one -on -one conversations. I love one
-on -one conversations. And I'm super curious
about everything. I love knowing things. And
to a fault, my whole life, I've hated not knowing
things. I hated not understanding. Turns out
these are, turns out parts of those, parts of
that, we'll say, not the bad part, but it turns
out those two qualities. are two qualities that
I need in order to be an effective coach. What
about you? What do you love doing? Where do you
thrive? What could you do all the time for free?
If money wasn't an issue, what would you be doing?
But here's the important question to that last
one, to the last question of, What would you
do for free? The important follow -up question
to that is why. Why would you do it for free?
And this is what I actually want you to write
down. Yes, the other ones are important, like
what are your strengths, what comes to you naturally,
but what would you do for free for the rest of
your life if money wasn't an issue? Write that
down. And then answer the question, why? The
why is important. The why is going to help you,
like I've done with my calling, define what your
calling is. Because whenever you get to the root
of that why, we get to your values. We get to
maybe you, for me, I would love to coach. I would
love to have one -on -one conversations for the
rest of my life. Yes, I love being in groups,
but I'm also an introvert. I love having these
one -on -one coaching. coaching conversations
and I would do for free if forever, if money
was on an issue, it's because I, I love connecting
with people. It's because I just like what I
learned. It's like in the Maxwell method of coaching,
you're taught, you're not just taught, you're
told kind of, I shouldn't say told, but a value
that I hold that aligns with Maxwell leadership
and also aligns with my faith is that I'm a person
of value who values. others. I want to see other
people succeed. And I get a lot of fulfillment
whenever somebody takes, maybe outside of coaching,
takes my advice and goes with it and it works.
Or whenever I'm coaching somebody and I see the
progress that they're making. And a lot of the
times it's not because of me, but it's just because
I was able to facilitate the thoughts that they
were having. Now that's a lot about me. But that
was just an example as to why I would coach for
the rest of my life for free. Well, I want you
to answer that question. What would you do for
the rest of your life? I'm repeating myself a
lot. That's because this episode is short and
it's super important if you're still at the beginning
of pursuing your calling. And actually, even
if you feel like you're halfway down the road,
It's good to reassess this every now and then
because our values change. Maybe what you would
do for free a year ago isn't the same thing that
you would do now. Maybe you thought that you
loved to do that one thing. I used to think I
wanted to be a teacher. Found out super quick
that's not what I wanted. That was in college.
Why? Because I love one -on -one conversations.
Talking to a group freaks me out. That's something
I still want to grow, but it doesn't come to
me naturally. So maybe you're overwhelmed. Maybe
you're wondering, Thomas, I don't know how to
answer those questions. These are hard questions.
How do I answer these? I'm going to soften this
a little bit for you, make it a little bit easier,
okay? Ask the people closest to you. Ask the
people closest to you for help. If you don't
know the answer to these questions, I want you
to ask these questions to them. I want you to
ask them, what am I good at? What are the things
that you see in me that I ignore? In other words,
what comes to me naturally? I have a friend,
I mentioned him before in an episode, his name
is Shane. He loves asking questions, but That's
not exactly the thing that he's good at. He's
good at writing these questions down and then
going forward and asking five, six different
people the same question so he can get a well
-rounded answer. And that's a skill. That is
something not everybody does. And I tell him
that and he kind of brushes it off. And don't
worry, I've talked to him about this a bunch
of times. This is not to knock him down. This
is because I know I see something great in him
and he's going to do so many great things. It's
going to be so cool. But that's something that
comes to him naturally. What that means for his
future, I don't know, but it means something
good. And I can see it. So these are the questions
to ask others. And even if you know how to answer
the questions before, ask other people these
questions too, because we all have our blind
spots. Ask your closest friend, your family members
that you're close to. What am I good at? What's
something that you see in me that maybe I'm ignoring?
And what comes to me naturally? And if you actually
want to have a thought -provoking conversation,
a conversation where we will dive into your values
and create an actionable plan to pursue your
calling, I want you to sign up. Well, I say I
want you to, but only if you see value in it.
Sign up for a free discovery call. Like I said,
it's free. Just click the link in the description
of this episode. It'll take you to my calendar.
All you gotta do there is sign up, guys. All
you gotta do is sign up, pick a time, and we're
off to the races. Once you... Get into this conversation.
Once we can dive into your calling and have a
thought -provoking conversation with somebody
who was trained, not trying to talk myself up,
but somebody who was trained to do so, then you
can get from where you are to where you want
to be in a shorter amount of time than you would
have otherwise done. Coaching is awesome that
way. Whenever I have a coach, that's exactly
what happens. Whenever I get coached, that is
what happens. It takes me from where I am to
where I want to be faster. That length of time
just shrinks. Guys, thank you for listening to
this episode or watching this episode on YouTube,
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because like Dave Ramsey says, if you have nothing
nice to say, don't say anything at all. And guys,
keep your spirit calling. Do it well. And guys,
I'll see you next time. I said guys a lot that
time. Bye.