WEBVTT 00:00:08.619 --> 00:00:11.519 What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit 00:00:11.519 --> 00:00:14.720 of Calling, the podcast that provides you with 00:00:14.720 --> 00:00:17.660 the strategies and tools needed to successfully 00:00:17.660 --> 00:00:21.160 discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's 00:00:21.160 --> 00:00:23.620 through inspiring stories, thought -provoking 00:00:23.620 --> 00:00:26.539 interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on 00:00:26.539 --> 00:00:28.960 personal growth and development, we've got you 00:00:28.960 --> 00:00:32.740 covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy 00:00:32.740 --> 00:00:42.079 the episode. What's going on? So when I first 00:00:42.079 --> 00:00:45.460 had the idea to be a coach, I wasn't in chronic 00:00:45.460 --> 00:00:49.640 pain yet. And I had the same full -time job I 00:00:49.640 --> 00:00:53.060 have now. And I knew I wanted to be a coach. 00:00:53.420 --> 00:00:57.240 I didn't know what it meant. I didn't know what 00:00:57.240 --> 00:00:59.880 it actually meant to be a coach. I just, for 00:00:59.880 --> 00:01:01.880 some reason, knew that that's what I wanted to 00:01:01.880 --> 00:01:11.909 do. But without that, clarity, how was I supposed 00:01:11.909 --> 00:01:16.530 to know where to go next? Again, I'd say I didn't 00:01:16.530 --> 00:01:18.230 really know what it meant to be a coach, but 00:01:18.230 --> 00:01:23.709 I learned through other podcasts and hearing 00:01:23.709 --> 00:01:27.189 what coaches do for other people. And I got the 00:01:27.189 --> 00:01:30.269 idea like, man, that'd be great. I would love 00:01:30.269 --> 00:01:34.569 to be the coach in that situation. So what did 00:01:34.569 --> 00:01:38.180 I need to do? Like I said, I needed. Clarity. 00:01:39.859 --> 00:01:42.140 Clarity is kindness. And that is what we're talking 00:01:42.140 --> 00:01:45.200 about in this episode today. Now, we know we're 00:01:45.200 --> 00:01:47.799 not talking about clarity in the sense of being 00:01:47.799 --> 00:01:50.719 clear for other people. We're talking about being 00:01:50.719 --> 00:01:55.400 kind to ourselves and getting clarity on the 00:01:55.400 --> 00:01:59.200 calling that we are pursuing. We're going to 00:01:59.200 --> 00:02:01.599 be answering the questions in this episode. What 00:02:01.599 --> 00:02:04.739 are you good at? What do you love doing? And 00:02:04.739 --> 00:02:08.030 what would you do? Absolutely, with unlimited 00:02:08.030 --> 00:02:11.509 time for free. If money wasn't an issue, what 00:02:11.509 --> 00:02:15.949 would you do? So before you're pursuing your 00:02:15.949 --> 00:02:18.449 calling, you have to know what you're actually 00:02:18.449 --> 00:02:21.810 pursuing. Because without knowing what you're 00:02:21.810 --> 00:02:23.909 actually pursuing, you're just kind of throwing 00:02:23.909 --> 00:02:28.530 anything at the wall and hoping something sticks. 00:02:29.699 --> 00:02:32.060 It's kind of like how you test noodles out whenever 00:02:32.060 --> 00:02:35.599 you're boiling them. That's an old trick if you 00:02:35.599 --> 00:02:38.960 didn't know. You boil the noodles, and it works 00:02:38.960 --> 00:02:40.300 really well with spaghetti noodles, actually. 00:02:40.460 --> 00:02:43.539 You take the spaghetti noodles, you whip them 00:02:43.539 --> 00:02:46.159 at the wall, and you see if they stick to the 00:02:46.159 --> 00:02:48.699 wall, hey, they're ready to eat. Don't eat the 00:02:48.699 --> 00:02:50.080 one you hit on the wall, though, unless your 00:02:50.080 --> 00:02:52.840 wall is super clean, though. But anyway, personally. 00:02:54.699 --> 00:02:56.740 One of my strengths, one thing that I'm good 00:02:56.740 --> 00:02:59.159 at is one -on -one conversations. I love one 00:02:59.159 --> 00:03:02.060 -on -one conversations. And I'm super curious 00:03:02.060 --> 00:03:05.379 about everything. I love knowing things. And 00:03:05.379 --> 00:03:10.400 to a fault, my whole life, I've hated not knowing 00:03:10.400 --> 00:03:15.039 things. I hated not understanding. Turns out 00:03:15.039 --> 00:03:18.520 these are, turns out parts of those, parts of 00:03:18.520 --> 00:03:20.840 that, we'll say, not the bad part, but it turns 00:03:20.840 --> 00:03:25.210 out those two qualities. are two qualities that 00:03:25.210 --> 00:03:31.210 I need in order to be an effective coach. What 00:03:31.210 --> 00:03:37.729 about you? What do you love doing? Where do you 00:03:37.729 --> 00:03:42.330 thrive? What could you do all the time for free? 00:03:44.009 --> 00:03:47.110 If money wasn't an issue, what would you be doing? 00:03:48.210 --> 00:03:50.629 But here's the important question to that last 00:03:50.629 --> 00:03:53.159 one, to the last question of, What would you 00:03:53.159 --> 00:03:55.819 do for free? The important follow -up question 00:03:55.819 --> 00:04:00.939 to that is why. Why would you do it for free? 00:04:01.580 --> 00:04:03.379 And this is what I actually want you to write 00:04:03.379 --> 00:04:05.139 down. Yes, the other ones are important, like 00:04:05.139 --> 00:04:07.500 what are your strengths, what comes to you naturally, 00:04:07.680 --> 00:04:10.819 but what would you do for free for the rest of 00:04:10.819 --> 00:04:13.919 your life if money wasn't an issue? Write that 00:04:13.919 --> 00:04:21.000 down. And then answer the question, why? The 00:04:21.000 --> 00:04:24.779 why is important. The why is going to help you, 00:04:24.819 --> 00:04:29.199 like I've done with my calling, define what your 00:04:29.199 --> 00:04:31.439 calling is. Because whenever you get to the root 00:04:31.439 --> 00:04:35.720 of that why, we get to your values. We get to 00:04:35.720 --> 00:04:39.459 maybe you, for me, I would love to coach. I would 00:04:39.459 --> 00:04:41.819 love to have one -on -one conversations for the 00:04:41.819 --> 00:04:43.939 rest of my life. Yes, I love being in groups, 00:04:44.040 --> 00:04:47.000 but I'm also an introvert. I love having these 00:04:47.000 --> 00:04:49.680 one -on -one coaching. coaching conversations 00:04:49.680 --> 00:04:52.259 and I would do for free if forever, if money 00:04:52.259 --> 00:04:55.660 was on an issue, it's because I, I love connecting 00:04:55.660 --> 00:04:58.939 with people. It's because I just like what I 00:04:58.939 --> 00:05:01.959 learned. It's like in the Maxwell method of coaching, 00:05:02.139 --> 00:05:04.800 you're taught, you're not just taught, you're 00:05:04.800 --> 00:05:11.040 told kind of, I shouldn't say told, but a value 00:05:11.040 --> 00:05:13.620 that I hold that aligns with Maxwell leadership 00:05:13.620 --> 00:05:15.980 and also aligns with my faith is that I'm a person 00:05:15.980 --> 00:05:20.000 of value who values. others. I want to see other 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:23.120 people succeed. And I get a lot of fulfillment 00:05:23.120 --> 00:05:27.920 whenever somebody takes, maybe outside of coaching, 00:05:28.000 --> 00:05:31.199 takes my advice and goes with it and it works. 00:05:32.379 --> 00:05:38.279 Or whenever I'm coaching somebody and I see the 00:05:38.279 --> 00:05:39.980 progress that they're making. And a lot of the 00:05:39.980 --> 00:05:42.079 times it's not because of me, but it's just because 00:05:42.079 --> 00:05:43.839 I was able to facilitate the thoughts that they 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:46.720 were having. Now that's a lot about me. But that 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:51.660 was just an example as to why I would coach for 00:05:51.660 --> 00:05:55.439 the rest of my life for free. Well, I want you 00:05:55.439 --> 00:05:58.000 to answer that question. What would you do for 00:05:58.000 --> 00:05:59.740 the rest of your life? I'm repeating myself a 00:05:59.740 --> 00:06:04.579 lot. That's because this episode is short and 00:06:04.579 --> 00:06:08.000 it's super important if you're still at the beginning 00:06:08.000 --> 00:06:12.579 of pursuing your calling. And actually, even 00:06:12.579 --> 00:06:14.000 if you feel like you're halfway down the road, 00:06:14.480 --> 00:06:16.319 It's good to reassess this every now and then 00:06:16.319 --> 00:06:19.040 because our values change. Maybe what you would 00:06:19.040 --> 00:06:23.100 do for free a year ago isn't the same thing that 00:06:23.100 --> 00:06:28.139 you would do now. Maybe you thought that you 00:06:28.139 --> 00:06:31.680 loved to do that one thing. I used to think I 00:06:31.680 --> 00:06:34.600 wanted to be a teacher. Found out super quick 00:06:34.600 --> 00:06:36.819 that's not what I wanted. That was in college. 00:06:38.459 --> 00:06:42.300 Why? Because I love one -on -one conversations. 00:06:43.050 --> 00:06:45.850 Talking to a group freaks me out. That's something 00:06:45.850 --> 00:06:48.350 I still want to grow, but it doesn't come to 00:06:48.350 --> 00:06:56.189 me naturally. So maybe you're overwhelmed. Maybe 00:06:56.189 --> 00:06:58.490 you're wondering, Thomas, I don't know how to 00:06:58.490 --> 00:07:01.290 answer those questions. These are hard questions. 00:07:01.370 --> 00:07:04.370 How do I answer these? I'm going to soften this 00:07:04.370 --> 00:07:05.790 a little bit for you, make it a little bit easier, 00:07:05.949 --> 00:07:12.829 okay? Ask the people closest to you. Ask the 00:07:12.829 --> 00:07:16.069 people closest to you for help. If you don't 00:07:16.069 --> 00:07:17.769 know the answer to these questions, I want you 00:07:17.769 --> 00:07:19.449 to ask these questions to them. I want you to 00:07:19.449 --> 00:07:24.009 ask them, what am I good at? What are the things 00:07:24.009 --> 00:07:28.949 that you see in me that I ignore? In other words, 00:07:29.069 --> 00:07:35.589 what comes to me naturally? I have a friend, 00:07:35.750 --> 00:07:37.829 I mentioned him before in an episode, his name 00:07:37.829 --> 00:07:42.370 is Shane. He loves asking questions, but That's 00:07:42.370 --> 00:07:45.230 not exactly the thing that he's good at. He's 00:07:45.230 --> 00:07:47.910 good at writing these questions down and then 00:07:47.910 --> 00:07:50.430 going forward and asking five, six different 00:07:50.430 --> 00:07:52.810 people the same question so he can get a well 00:07:52.810 --> 00:07:55.509 -rounded answer. And that's a skill. That is 00:07:55.509 --> 00:07:58.170 something not everybody does. And I tell him 00:07:58.170 --> 00:08:00.889 that and he kind of brushes it off. And don't 00:08:00.889 --> 00:08:03.050 worry, I've talked to him about this a bunch 00:08:03.050 --> 00:08:06.139 of times. This is not to knock him down. This 00:08:06.139 --> 00:08:08.939 is because I know I see something great in him 00:08:08.939 --> 00:08:11.079 and he's going to do so many great things. It's 00:08:11.079 --> 00:08:15.899 going to be so cool. But that's something that 00:08:15.899 --> 00:08:18.019 comes to him naturally. What that means for his 00:08:18.019 --> 00:08:19.860 future, I don't know, but it means something 00:08:19.860 --> 00:08:24.740 good. And I can see it. So these are the questions 00:08:24.740 --> 00:08:26.980 to ask others. And even if you know how to answer 00:08:26.980 --> 00:08:28.839 the questions before, ask other people these 00:08:28.839 --> 00:08:30.560 questions too, because we all have our blind 00:08:30.560 --> 00:08:34.259 spots. Ask your closest friend, your family members 00:08:34.259 --> 00:08:37.250 that you're close to. What am I good at? What's 00:08:37.250 --> 00:08:39.509 something that you see in me that maybe I'm ignoring? 00:08:39.750 --> 00:08:46.509 And what comes to me naturally? And if you actually 00:08:46.509 --> 00:08:50.429 want to have a thought -provoking conversation, 00:08:50.789 --> 00:08:57.409 a conversation where we will dive into your values 00:08:57.409 --> 00:09:00.529 and create an actionable plan to pursue your 00:09:00.529 --> 00:09:03.009 calling, I want you to sign up. Well, I say I 00:09:03.009 --> 00:09:06.529 want you to, but only if you see value in it. 00:09:09.210 --> 00:09:13.610 Sign up for a free discovery call. Like I said, 00:09:13.769 --> 00:09:16.210 it's free. Just click the link in the description 00:09:16.210 --> 00:09:19.169 of this episode. It'll take you to my calendar. 00:09:20.070 --> 00:09:22.610 All you gotta do there is sign up, guys. All 00:09:22.610 --> 00:09:25.690 you gotta do is sign up, pick a time, and we're 00:09:25.690 --> 00:09:34.000 off to the races. Once you... Get into this conversation. 00:09:34.379 --> 00:09:36.779 Once we can dive into your calling and have a 00:09:36.779 --> 00:09:39.080 thought -provoking conversation with somebody 00:09:39.080 --> 00:09:40.860 who was trained, not trying to talk myself up, 00:09:40.940 --> 00:09:45.779 but somebody who was trained to do so, then you 00:09:45.779 --> 00:09:47.600 can get from where you are to where you want 00:09:47.600 --> 00:09:51.019 to be in a shorter amount of time than you would 00:09:51.019 --> 00:09:55.179 have otherwise done. Coaching is awesome that 00:09:55.179 --> 00:09:58.350 way. Whenever I have a coach, that's exactly 00:09:58.350 --> 00:10:00.909 what happens. Whenever I get coached, that is 00:10:00.909 --> 00:10:05.049 what happens. It takes me from where I am to 00:10:05.049 --> 00:10:08.990 where I want to be faster. That length of time 00:10:08.990 --> 00:10:15.669 just shrinks. Guys, thank you for listening to 00:10:15.669 --> 00:10:18.269 this episode or watching this episode on YouTube, 00:10:18.470 --> 00:10:22.009 on the Pursuit of Calling podcast. If you liked 00:10:22.009 --> 00:10:23.529 this episode, go ahead and give it a like on 00:10:23.529 --> 00:10:26.299 YouTube. Five stars on Spotify and Apple Podcasts 00:10:26.299 --> 00:10:27.860 because like Dave Ramsey says, if you have nothing 00:10:27.860 --> 00:10:30.120 nice to say, don't say anything at all. And guys, 00:10:30.340 --> 00:10:33.379 keep your spirit calling. Do it well. And guys, 00:10:33.440 --> 00:10:36.220 I'll see you next time. I said guys a lot that 00:10:36.220 --> 00:10:36.879 time. Bye.