WEBVTT 00:00:08.619 --> 00:00:11.539 What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit 00:00:11.539 --> 00:00:14.740 of Calling, the podcast that provides you with 00:00:14.740 --> 00:00:17.660 the strategies and tools needed to successfully 00:00:17.660 --> 00:00:21.219 discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's 00:00:21.219 --> 00:00:23.620 through inspiring stories, thought -provoking 00:00:23.620 --> 00:00:26.539 interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on 00:00:26.539 --> 00:00:28.960 personal growth and development, we've got you 00:00:28.960 --> 00:00:32.740 covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy 00:00:32.740 --> 00:00:41.159 the episode. What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome 00:00:41.159 --> 00:00:43.460 to the Pursuit of Calling podcast. And Ryan, 00:00:43.619 --> 00:00:47.119 thank you for joining me. Hey, thank you for 00:00:47.119 --> 00:00:52.619 having me. Yeah, for sure. And guys, I'm excited. 00:00:53.039 --> 00:00:57.359 Ryan is working on becoming a keynote speaker, 00:00:57.500 --> 00:01:01.380 but he's also currently coaching kids how to 00:01:01.380 --> 00:01:06.540 gain confidence and gain college scholarships. 00:01:07.510 --> 00:01:09.030 That's a couple things that came up during our 00:01:09.030 --> 00:01:11.370 pre -interview that we had almost a month ago 00:01:11.370 --> 00:01:15.609 now, it feels like. Yeah, guys, I'm excited for 00:01:15.609 --> 00:01:18.489 this conversation. Ryan, for the pursuers who 00:01:18.489 --> 00:01:20.890 don't know you, because we're going to assume 00:01:20.890 --> 00:01:25.209 most of them don't, who are you? What do you 00:01:25.209 --> 00:01:27.810 want them to know about you? Man, that's a pretty 00:01:27.810 --> 00:01:31.430 loaded question, isn't it? Probably the number 00:01:31.430 --> 00:01:34.609 one thing I'd... What people know is I'm a child 00:01:34.609 --> 00:01:37.189 of God. First and foremost, my identity is in 00:01:37.189 --> 00:01:41.010 God. Everything I am and have is rooted in him. 00:01:42.290 --> 00:01:45.810 Which wasn't always the case, but now I realize 00:01:45.810 --> 00:01:49.230 that that's where my, where everything about 00:01:49.230 --> 00:01:54.090 me comes from. But for everybody else, you know, 00:01:54.109 --> 00:01:57.689 the non -godly folks out there, you know, would 00:01:57.689 --> 00:02:01.829 say I am pretty much a mindset coach. Trying 00:02:01.829 --> 00:02:08.389 to become a motivational speaker. And that's 00:02:08.389 --> 00:02:13.050 pretty much it. No, that's fantastic. No, you 00:02:13.050 --> 00:02:14.789 told me before we started recording, short and 00:02:14.789 --> 00:02:21.770 sweet. That's great. So a part of your story 00:02:21.770 --> 00:02:25.830 that I found really intriguing, and I'm happy 00:02:25.830 --> 00:02:27.590 when during the preview I dove into it further, 00:02:27.689 --> 00:02:31.949 but you mentioned going from jail. being incarcerated 00:02:31.949 --> 00:02:36.189 to running a wrestling academy. And so, like, 00:02:36.189 --> 00:02:37.990 before we talk about you actually getting to 00:02:37.990 --> 00:02:39.969 where you are now, I want to talk about where 00:02:39.969 --> 00:02:43.009 you were. So can you give us a little bit of 00:02:43.009 --> 00:02:49.509 insight into that? Well, I mean, I grew up like 00:02:49.509 --> 00:02:53.349 any normal kid, was very athletic, good in school, 00:02:53.509 --> 00:02:59.129 and somewhere along that path, I lost myself. 00:03:00.120 --> 00:03:02.919 And became addicted to drugs and alcohol. And 00:03:02.919 --> 00:03:06.500 I just kept going down that path. Every time 00:03:06.500 --> 00:03:10.080 I tried to get away from it, I would kind of 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:13.439 get sucked back in. Because I had my own personal 00:03:13.439 --> 00:03:17.060 hurts and hang -ups, everything. Well, eventually 00:03:17.060 --> 00:03:21.879 I realized that all that was going to happen 00:03:21.879 --> 00:03:24.280 to me was I was going to end up dead. I was going 00:03:24.280 --> 00:03:26.699 to end up in prison. And that's where I could 00:03:26.699 --> 00:03:30.750 get clean and sober. And this happened. I ended 00:03:30.750 --> 00:03:34.530 up in jail for a little time, like 20 some days 00:03:34.530 --> 00:03:38.870 and had some time to kind of reflect and that 00:03:38.870 --> 00:03:47.689 was the life I wanted. And it wasn't. Yeah. And 00:03:47.689 --> 00:03:51.509 sometimes that's what you need, that kick sometimes, 00:03:51.949 --> 00:03:55.930 right? You need that realization. whenever you're 00:03:55.930 --> 00:03:59.389 brought down low and like, um, I'm diving a lot 00:03:59.389 --> 00:04:02.629 into Psalm 23 right now. And, um, whenever in 00:04:02.629 --> 00:04:06.590 that valley, a shadow of death and you're starting 00:04:06.590 --> 00:04:08.650 that, like you're realizing whenever you become 00:04:08.650 --> 00:04:10.789 a child of God, become a child of God, you're 00:04:10.789 --> 00:04:12.789 like, man, I can fear no evil because God is 00:04:12.789 --> 00:04:16.569 with me. Yeah. And that's what I take from like, 00:04:16.629 --> 00:04:20.670 uh, my, that time there was God was giving me 00:04:20.670 --> 00:04:24.149 a time out and bringing me closer to him. Because 00:04:24.149 --> 00:04:27.290 in my time there, I started going to recovery 00:04:27.290 --> 00:04:33.110 meetings. Was going back to doing Bible studies, 00:04:33.209 --> 00:04:35.509 going to like church sessions, which I hadn't 00:04:35.509 --> 00:04:38.850 been to church in like almost 20 years at that 00:04:38.850 --> 00:04:44.230 point. And as soon as I got out, the people that 00:04:44.230 --> 00:04:47.490 were coming in doing recovery meetings, I started 00:04:47.490 --> 00:04:51.300 meeting up with them. So everything was for a 00:04:51.300 --> 00:04:55.839 reason that I was sent there to go to that next 00:04:55.839 --> 00:05:03.759 level and follow that next path. Yeah. And what 00:05:03.759 --> 00:05:08.180 is that next path? What was that? At first, I 00:05:08.180 --> 00:05:12.279 didn't know. First, it was get clean and sober. 00:05:12.360 --> 00:05:16.819 That was my main objective was trying to get 00:05:16.819 --> 00:05:20.000 away from. Drugs and alcohol. Like there was 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:22.819 no other path but that. That was my main focus 00:05:22.819 --> 00:05:27.540 was that. And then I realized, hey, that my main 00:05:27.540 --> 00:05:30.959 focus need to be on God, not just the getting 00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:38.519 clean and sober part. Yeah. And then that led 00:05:38.519 --> 00:05:43.839 you from what I remember to a conversation that 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:47.959 you had with your friend about. what you should 00:05:47.959 --> 00:05:50.879 be doing with your life. Yeah. I mean, that was 00:05:50.879 --> 00:05:55.860 an interesting thing. I mean, so I was doing 00:05:55.860 --> 00:06:00.439 construction at the time and I just felt it in 00:06:00.439 --> 00:06:02.100 my heart that I wasn't supposed to be there anymore. 00:06:02.480 --> 00:06:04.759 I was having trouble getting clearance over. 00:06:05.060 --> 00:06:09.100 I mean, I was struggling. Some days I'd be good. 00:06:09.100 --> 00:06:12.040 Other days bad, but we were working outside middle 00:06:12.040 --> 00:06:14.759 and I'm living in Ohio. So in middle of winter 00:06:14.759 --> 00:06:17.500 working outside. Kind of miserable in the middle 00:06:17.500 --> 00:06:20.120 of, what, December, January. You know, it's kind 00:06:20.120 --> 00:06:23.639 of miserable outside, cold. And I couldn't be 00:06:23.639 --> 00:06:26.240 happy. I mean, I was not happy at all where I 00:06:26.240 --> 00:06:30.079 was in life. And the people I was around, there 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:32.439 was a lot of negativity. I'm like, I can't do 00:06:32.439 --> 00:06:35.740 it here. I can't do what I need to do in this 00:06:35.740 --> 00:06:38.399 environment. I need to get away. So I took a 00:06:38.399 --> 00:06:41.240 layoff from work and was kind of debating on 00:06:41.240 --> 00:06:44.879 what I wanted to do again. And I was like. you 00:06:44.879 --> 00:06:46.819 know what i'm gonna start my own business let's 00:06:46.819 --> 00:06:50.399 let's maybe start a painting business or something 00:06:50.399 --> 00:06:53.459 that i know i could do i know some other people 00:06:53.459 --> 00:06:55.439 some construction people that could help me get 00:06:55.439 --> 00:06:56.920 me in the foot in the door and i could go do 00:06:56.920 --> 00:07:00.639 this well i went and talked to a friend really 00:07:00.639 --> 00:07:03.879 good friend and we started talking i wanted to 00:07:03.879 --> 00:07:06.139 get some advice on how to get this business up 00:07:06.139 --> 00:07:10.360 and running business plan everything and i used 00:07:10.360 --> 00:07:15.759 to coach his sons in wrestling And he came in. 00:07:15.779 --> 00:07:17.439 I went to him. We just started talking, small 00:07:17.439 --> 00:07:20.639 talk, you know, talk about how his kids were 00:07:20.639 --> 00:07:23.680 doing, how the team was doing. And we just started 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:27.220 talking about wrestling. And he seen my face 00:07:27.220 --> 00:07:30.379 light up as we were talking about wrestling and 00:07:30.379 --> 00:07:33.860 about helping kids and about having a plan of 00:07:33.860 --> 00:07:35.660 how to get them to be successful, how to change 00:07:35.660 --> 00:07:37.579 things around. He's like, he just looked at me, 00:07:37.600 --> 00:07:39.079 right? He goes, you don't even know, do you? 00:07:39.100 --> 00:07:42.000 I go, no, no way. He goes. This is what you need 00:07:42.000 --> 00:07:44.259 to be doing. Not the other stuff, not running 00:07:44.259 --> 00:07:46.839 a painting business or anything like that. You 00:07:46.839 --> 00:07:49.000 need to go coach wrestling and help these kids. 00:07:49.819 --> 00:07:51.720 He goes, that's what you need to do. He goes, 00:07:51.819 --> 00:07:56.439 you have a plan. Anybody who knows anything can 00:07:56.439 --> 00:07:58.660 kind of see how your face lights up when you 00:07:58.660 --> 00:08:03.600 talk about it. He goes, that's where you need 00:08:03.600 --> 00:08:07.740 to go. So that's what I started pursuing. Well, 00:08:07.860 --> 00:08:10.600 there's a lot of doubt first. First and foremost 00:08:10.600 --> 00:08:13.139 in my head, am I good enough to do that? Look 00:08:13.139 --> 00:08:16.639 where I was just at. I was in jail probably less 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:21.339 than four months ago. You know, is anybody going 00:08:21.339 --> 00:08:23.540 to let me around their kids? I mean, I'm not, 00:08:23.620 --> 00:08:26.920 wasn't the best role model at the time, you know? 00:08:27.560 --> 00:08:34.039 So I had a lot of doubt, but I ended up finding 00:08:34.039 --> 00:08:37.200 something in my coat pocket. And I pulled out 00:08:37.200 --> 00:08:39.820 this, I kept asking God, God, if this is what 00:08:39.820 --> 00:08:44.080 you want me to do, tell me. Well, one day I reached 00:08:44.080 --> 00:08:46.980 in my coat pocket and pulled out this poem and 00:08:46.980 --> 00:08:53.000 it was like a wrestling poem. And I'm like, I 00:08:53.000 --> 00:08:54.940 didn't know. I thought somebody put it in my 00:08:54.940 --> 00:08:56.860 pocket. That's where I was at at the time, you 00:08:56.860 --> 00:09:00.179 know, because I was recently came back to God, 00:09:00.220 --> 00:09:03.539 you know, not realizing this, how it all works. 00:09:03.539 --> 00:09:06.669 I'm like, who's playing with me, you know? And 00:09:06.669 --> 00:09:08.769 pulled this thing out. I'm like, oh, my God. 00:09:09.509 --> 00:09:14.110 This is what I'm supposed to do. So I went and 00:09:14.110 --> 00:09:24.730 pursued that track. Yeah. And. Previously, you 00:09:24.730 --> 00:09:29.009 talked about on a pre -interview. You talked 00:09:29.009 --> 00:09:31.009 about building confidence in these kids because 00:09:31.009 --> 00:09:34.330 that's where they needed to start because they 00:09:34.330 --> 00:09:36.009 didn't have confidence in themselves to be able 00:09:36.009 --> 00:09:37.370 to achieve the things that you knew that they 00:09:37.370 --> 00:09:44.049 could. Right? Yeah. That's why I start with everybody. 00:09:45.450 --> 00:09:51.289 For sure. It's confidence. For the listeners 00:09:51.289 --> 00:09:54.149 of this podcast, you know, I recently, I've decided 00:09:54.149 --> 00:10:00.169 to... shift my focus and my niche towards young 00:10:00.169 --> 00:10:01.870 Christian men who are dealing with these chronic 00:10:01.870 --> 00:10:08.169 conditions and similar to mine and the same thing 00:10:08.169 --> 00:10:11.509 the same thing happens because you start to believe 00:10:11.509 --> 00:10:14.529 that because of your circumstances that you're 00:10:14.529 --> 00:10:17.029 not capable of doing this that you're not capable 00:10:17.029 --> 00:10:21.299 of doing this achieving big goals, not capable 00:10:21.299 --> 00:10:24.379 of doing things that other people say that you 00:10:24.379 --> 00:10:28.240 are not able to do. So what would you be able 00:10:28.240 --> 00:10:30.580 to say based on your experience with kids that 00:10:30.580 --> 00:10:32.139 are in certain circumstances or even believe 00:10:32.139 --> 00:10:33.960 things about themselves? How does that translate? 00:10:35.799 --> 00:10:40.399 Well, confidence is everything. That Henry Ford 00:10:40.399 --> 00:10:43.559 quote always sticks to me when I start thinking 00:10:43.559 --> 00:10:46.379 about this. It's, those who believe they can, 00:10:46.500 --> 00:10:49.649 can. Or whether you believe you can, Or you believe 00:10:49.649 --> 00:10:52.129 you can't, you're both right. I mean, that goes 00:10:52.129 --> 00:10:56.129 with me every time because I'm like, that is 00:10:56.129 --> 00:10:59.509 so true. And that was part of my problem. I think 00:10:59.509 --> 00:11:01.990 why I kind of strayed towards drugs and alcohol 00:11:01.990 --> 00:11:05.350 was because like those limiting beliefs I had 00:11:05.350 --> 00:11:08.710 about myself. That I wasn't good in certain areas. 00:11:10.470 --> 00:11:16.779 And so when I kind of got clean and sober. This 00:11:16.779 --> 00:11:18.480 was the one thing I had to learn how to do was 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:22.700 quiet my mind. And I mean, I did everything like 00:11:22.700 --> 00:11:28.379 spiritual warfare, listen to podcasts on, on 00:11:28.379 --> 00:11:30.879 like personal development, start reading a lot 00:11:30.879 --> 00:11:34.100 of books and just started learning how to control 00:11:34.100 --> 00:11:37.659 my mind. And everything came back to when I'm 00:11:37.659 --> 00:11:39.840 trying to get better and become a better person 00:11:39.840 --> 00:11:41.779 came back to the mindset. You got to learn how 00:11:41.779 --> 00:11:43.830 to upgrade your mind. You're trying to upgrade 00:11:43.830 --> 00:11:45.549 everything else about your body and everything 00:11:45.549 --> 00:11:48.970 else, but your mind still is horrible. You got 00:11:48.970 --> 00:11:52.649 to learn how to upgrade that. So, I mean, I deep 00:11:52.649 --> 00:11:55.929 dove into a lot of that on how to start controlling 00:11:55.929 --> 00:12:00.330 that. And I was kind of led to start working 00:12:00.330 --> 00:12:05.190 with kids and wrestling with mindset. And when 00:12:05.190 --> 00:12:09.129 I did this program, I signed up to do this program 00:12:09.129 --> 00:12:12.620 on mindset coaching. I'm like, we started talking 00:12:12.620 --> 00:12:14.360 about, they gave me the worksheets and everything 00:12:14.360 --> 00:12:17.240 that we were doing. And I looked, I'm like, man, 00:12:17.279 --> 00:12:19.779 this is a lot of the stuff that I did for myself, 00:12:19.879 --> 00:12:23.659 you know, to upgrade my own mind. I'm like, I 00:12:23.659 --> 00:12:26.519 bet this stuff works. I kind of started working 00:12:26.519 --> 00:12:30.440 with a kid here and it didn't really take with 00:12:30.440 --> 00:12:34.720 him because some of the work and then he didn't, 00:12:34.720 --> 00:12:37.039 but I kind of learned a little bit, you know, 00:12:37.039 --> 00:12:40.299 I kind of rushed the process with him. His process 00:12:40.299 --> 00:12:42.659 needs to go slower. So I need to go slower with 00:12:42.659 --> 00:12:45.139 a lot of people. You know, you can't rush the 00:12:45.139 --> 00:12:47.840 process of them upgrading their mind. It's an 00:12:47.840 --> 00:12:51.299 everyday occurrence and you just, the process 00:12:51.299 --> 00:12:53.559 of the process, you know, you can't rush it. 00:12:54.259 --> 00:12:59.419 So I took on another kid and wow, it took off. 00:12:59.980 --> 00:13:04.340 Like this kid went from like mid -level, which 00:13:04.340 --> 00:13:07.460 he always had the talent, but his mindset wasn't 00:13:07.460 --> 00:13:11.049 very the best. But he went from mid -level to 00:13:11.049 --> 00:13:17.370 top -notch, like very, very good. And people 00:13:17.370 --> 00:13:19.730 started noticing it, you know, within a year. 00:13:19.870 --> 00:13:22.730 They'd seen like the transformation this kid 00:13:22.730 --> 00:13:27.350 had within a year of working with me. And then 00:13:27.350 --> 00:13:32.789 the next year, I mean, was even better. So eventually 00:13:32.789 --> 00:13:35.509 I started picking up clients all through word 00:13:35.509 --> 00:13:43.350 of mouth. Yeah. So realistically, what I say 00:13:43.350 --> 00:13:45.409 is I build confidence in them. I get these kids 00:13:45.409 --> 00:13:49.850 to believe that what they want and desire in 00:13:49.850 --> 00:13:53.029 their heart is not impossible. I kind of give 00:13:53.029 --> 00:13:56.610 them permission to go get it and build them out 00:13:56.610 --> 00:13:58.429 plans. But first, like I said, I start everybody 00:13:58.429 --> 00:14:00.870 out in confidence because I know how hard it 00:14:00.870 --> 00:14:05.610 is to go try to achieve something bigger than 00:14:05.610 --> 00:14:08.100 yourself that you don't think you can do. Like 00:14:08.100 --> 00:14:09.820 there's going to be a lot of struggles, lots 00:14:09.820 --> 00:14:12.720 of ups, lots of downs. So getting them to learn 00:14:12.720 --> 00:14:17.580 how to calm that mind and start eliminating those, 00:14:17.659 --> 00:14:21.779 those voices in their head, those limiting beliefs 00:14:21.779 --> 00:14:24.379 they have about themselves. I mean, that is the 00:14:24.379 --> 00:14:26.460 main thing. Like it start, why I start out with 00:14:26.460 --> 00:14:29.519 confidence is I get to help. I get to start recognizing 00:14:29.519 --> 00:14:32.440 their patterns of their thoughts they have. And 00:14:32.440 --> 00:14:36.549 then I also get to, you know, Kind of get them 00:14:36.549 --> 00:14:39.169 to start rewiring it by what they're telling 00:14:39.169 --> 00:14:42.850 themselves and how they talk to themselves. So 00:14:42.850 --> 00:14:46.750 in particular, what is the practical way that 00:14:46.750 --> 00:14:49.610 you do that? How do you rewire somebody's brain? 00:14:50.110 --> 00:14:55.529 A lot with daily affirmations. I'd say the two 00:14:55.529 --> 00:14:58.850 biggest things in confidence that I do is daily 00:14:58.850 --> 00:15:03.120 affirmations and visualization. The Daily Affirmations, 00:15:03.200 --> 00:15:05.179 I mean, it's not where we're just sitting in 00:15:05.179 --> 00:15:08.120 a mirror saying, I am this, I am that. No, they're 00:15:08.120 --> 00:15:11.000 more like what Tony Robbins would call incantations 00:15:11.000 --> 00:15:14.419 because you're creating movement with it, like 00:15:14.419 --> 00:15:16.720 body movement, and you're actually speaking it 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:20.000 from the heart. And there's feeling and emotion 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:24.639 in it, not just, I am this, I can do this, you 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:28.409 know. Just that it's creating movement where 00:15:28.409 --> 00:15:31.049 you're actually believing that. Then you add, 00:15:31.149 --> 00:15:35.730 you add the visualization to it later on and 00:15:35.730 --> 00:15:38.909 you're starting manifesting things and starting 00:15:38.909 --> 00:15:41.710 to actually see yourself doing this stuff. And 00:15:41.710 --> 00:15:44.909 it's like, man, I can do this. And then you start, 00:15:45.049 --> 00:15:48.990 eventually when you build the daily. action plans 00:15:48.990 --> 00:15:51.490 and the habits to go with it, you know, putting 00:15:51.490 --> 00:15:54.009 the work into it, everything starts, you know, 00:15:54.029 --> 00:15:55.669 you start gaining a lot of momentum where you 00:15:55.669 --> 00:16:02.129 start believing you can do it. What's an example 00:16:02.129 --> 00:16:05.149 you can give us? Like, I would love for the listeners 00:16:05.149 --> 00:16:07.549 who have, who are still listening to the episode, 00:16:07.649 --> 00:16:09.230 who were like, who were like, okay, I want to 00:16:09.230 --> 00:16:14.009 hear more of what Ryan has to say. What, like, 00:16:14.070 --> 00:16:16.289 let's, let's do something. Let's actually give, 00:16:16.309 --> 00:16:19.679 let's give them something practical to do. So 00:16:19.679 --> 00:16:22.980 first off, I can give you like two quick steps. 00:16:23.740 --> 00:16:27.580 Okay. So first step, I would say, if you're lacking 00:16:27.580 --> 00:16:31.159 confidence, what I would do, write down 10 things 00:16:31.159 --> 00:16:36.519 that you've accomplished in life. 10 things that 00:16:36.519 --> 00:16:38.320 you've accomplished. It can be work -related, 00:16:38.440 --> 00:16:41.740 school -related, family -related, spiritual -related, 00:16:41.879 --> 00:16:45.000 anything. 10 things that you've done and accomplished 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:46.740 that you're like, man, I didn't think I could 00:16:46.740 --> 00:16:49.519 do this, but I did. That's where confidence lies 00:16:49.519 --> 00:16:52.159 is the things looking at your past successes, 00:16:52.240 --> 00:16:54.679 because we've all done things that other people 00:16:54.679 --> 00:16:58.360 couldn't do. You know, everybody's done something 00:16:58.360 --> 00:17:00.539 that not everybody could do. And you've been 00:17:00.539 --> 00:17:02.500 successful. You're just not looking at it hard 00:17:02.500 --> 00:17:05.579 enough. And then just start looking at some of 00:17:05.579 --> 00:17:08.000 your skills. I'd put down like, Hey, 10 skills 00:17:08.000 --> 00:17:11.009 that I'm good at 10 things. I'm like. They'd 00:17:11.009 --> 00:17:14.049 be subjects in school. Like, Hey, I'm good at 00:17:14.049 --> 00:17:16.170 this video game. Things like that. I mean, you 00:17:16.170 --> 00:17:18.450 all have skills that you're better at than the 00:17:18.450 --> 00:17:20.309 other people. So when you start looking at all 00:17:20.309 --> 00:17:22.690 the positive things, that's where I would start. 00:17:23.509 --> 00:17:27.410 And then what I would do, I would create an anchor 00:17:27.410 --> 00:17:31.910 or gesture, which could be, it's just a physical, 00:17:32.049 --> 00:17:34.190 it's a, just like a physical gesture. It'd be 00:17:34.190 --> 00:17:36.910 a stop of the finger, a clap, smack on the head, 00:17:36.950 --> 00:17:40.519 pat on your chest. anything little leg slap anything 00:17:40.519 --> 00:17:43.420 little like that and you just go down that list 00:17:43.420 --> 00:17:47.420 one by one and pair that with that gesture do 00:17:47.420 --> 00:17:51.019 that for a couple weeks every day maybe once 00:17:51.019 --> 00:17:53.579 or twice a day for a couple weeks and that just 00:17:53.579 --> 00:17:56.720 starts reprogramming your mind to show you hey 00:17:56.720 --> 00:17:59.079 you actually have been successful and you've 00:17:59.079 --> 00:18:01.880 actually been good yeah that's something that's 00:18:01.880 --> 00:18:04.440 where you start because hey i can walk you through 00:18:04.440 --> 00:18:07.069 the other stuff but Getting you to actually see 00:18:07.069 --> 00:18:09.750 that you've actually done something that other 00:18:09.750 --> 00:18:12.910 people couldn't do and you're not what you think 00:18:12.910 --> 00:18:15.549 you are. It just helps rewire that brain a little 00:18:15.549 --> 00:18:19.349 bit. Then I would go straight to like building 00:18:19.349 --> 00:18:22.369 affirmations, incantation, whatever you want 00:18:22.369 --> 00:18:24.450 to call them. And those are just I am statements. 00:18:24.789 --> 00:18:27.809 And those could be, I'd say create five of them, 00:18:27.849 --> 00:18:31.049 five or more. Let's be like, I'm unstoppable. 00:18:32.309 --> 00:18:37.990 You know, I can do this. I'm the best. Like kind 00:18:37.990 --> 00:18:41.410 of pair, make it with what you want to do. So 00:18:41.410 --> 00:18:45.990 like with the athletes I work with, I'm unstoppable. 00:18:46.910 --> 00:18:50.049 I am the strongest, you know, things like that, 00:18:50.130 --> 00:18:57.450 you know, they create them statements and then 00:18:57.450 --> 00:18:59.930 kind of pair them up. So with the affirmations 00:18:59.930 --> 00:19:01.990 and everything, we'd say them five times a day. 00:19:03.019 --> 00:19:05.319 And then after each physical, after each time 00:19:05.319 --> 00:19:07.339 they say the I am statement, they do their gesture. 00:19:09.099 --> 00:19:12.000 And we do that once I serve them out five times 00:19:12.000 --> 00:19:15.220 a day. Cause it takes like 15 seconds. It takes 00:19:15.220 --> 00:19:17.200 like 15 seconds. You can't remember them. Take 00:19:17.200 --> 00:19:20.240 a picture on your phone of them and go through 00:19:20.240 --> 00:19:24.359 the day like that. Yeah. And it's just crazy. 00:19:24.599 --> 00:19:30.700 Yeah. And I think it's crazy. Cause like what 00:19:30.700 --> 00:19:33.369 you're saying is. I don't know if you heard this 00:19:33.369 --> 00:19:37.849 before, maybe the listeners have. Whenever I 00:19:37.849 --> 00:19:41.589 was in school, I would hear people say, whenever 00:19:41.589 --> 00:19:48.210 you're studying for a test, chew a stick of gum. 00:19:49.009 --> 00:19:50.769 And it's like, maybe it's flavorful, maybe it 00:19:50.769 --> 00:19:54.170 has mint in it. And only chew that when you're 00:19:54.170 --> 00:19:57.190 studying for that test. And then whenever you 00:19:57.190 --> 00:20:01.960 go to take the test, chew that same gum. Because 00:20:01.960 --> 00:20:03.539 what that's going to do is going to trigger your 00:20:03.539 --> 00:20:08.359 brain to take that trigger and pull that information 00:20:08.359 --> 00:20:10.960 out into the surface. And that's what you're 00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:15.380 doing with the, what would you call it, the gestures. 00:20:16.319 --> 00:20:18.750 You're like, okay, I'm going to... Imagine an 00:20:18.750 --> 00:20:21.670 IM statement or something I'm good at with a 00:20:21.670 --> 00:20:24.069 snap or a slap on the leg because it pulls it 00:20:24.069 --> 00:20:27.789 to the front. I think when you leave it on the 00:20:27.789 --> 00:20:30.250 surface sometimes and you're not in this world 00:20:30.250 --> 00:20:32.849 as much as we are, you see that on the surface 00:20:32.849 --> 00:20:36.650 and you're like, man, that can't work. That sounds 00:20:36.650 --> 00:20:45.519 too easy. Because I was definitely a person like 00:20:45.519 --> 00:20:46.720 that. I would hear that and I'm like, yeah, that's 00:20:46.720 --> 00:20:49.420 wishy -washy. That makes no sense. That's pipe 00:20:49.420 --> 00:20:53.160 dream stuff. But I've done it. I think I told 00:20:53.160 --> 00:20:55.680 you in our pre -interview, I did a, for a month, 00:20:55.759 --> 00:20:58.220 I did what Tony Robbins calls priming, where 00:20:58.220 --> 00:21:01.019 you visualize the future that you want, you visualize 00:21:01.019 --> 00:21:02.920 the goals that you're aiming to achieve as if 00:21:02.920 --> 00:21:04.700 you've already achieved them, and then you're 00:21:04.700 --> 00:21:06.880 going back through the whole process of who you 00:21:06.880 --> 00:21:10.640 became in order to achieve that goal. And that... 00:21:10.960 --> 00:21:14.000 month i was on fire i was i was on fire i started 00:21:14.000 --> 00:21:15.980 my start it would be at the start of my day every 00:21:15.980 --> 00:21:20.099 morning for like a month and i like everything 00:21:20.099 --> 00:21:22.539 i did started becoming for that going towards 00:21:22.539 --> 00:21:28.240 that goal i wrote down um a a while ago i wrote 00:21:28.240 --> 00:21:30.619 down i don't know if you've read think and grow 00:21:30.619 --> 00:21:35.500 rich but that's a great book yeah and i he has 00:21:35.500 --> 00:21:38.140 he's all about visualization He's like, write 00:21:38.140 --> 00:21:40.720 down in as much detail how much money you want 00:21:40.720 --> 00:21:42.160 to make, how you're going to make that money, 00:21:42.279 --> 00:21:44.240 what you're going to do. And I did that. I wrote 00:21:44.240 --> 00:21:46.420 it all down. Napoleon Hill, people don't know 00:21:46.420 --> 00:21:49.599 who I'm talking about. And I did that. I wrote 00:21:49.599 --> 00:21:52.039 it all down and then forgot about it. I read 00:21:52.039 --> 00:21:54.200 it every day, like you said in the book, read 00:21:54.200 --> 00:21:56.440 it every day for however long I did it. I read 00:21:56.440 --> 00:22:01.640 it to a point where I memorized it. then one 00:22:01.640 --> 00:22:03.900 day i picked it up i found it i found my paper 00:22:03.900 --> 00:22:06.279 i kept it in a folder it's off to my left over 00:22:06.279 --> 00:22:09.779 there and i read it i was like oh it's gonna 00:22:09.779 --> 00:22:12.259 be coaching and merch store and all this stuff 00:22:12.259 --> 00:22:16.220 and i was like at the time i was like i'm literally 00:22:16.220 --> 00:22:18.960 doing everything that i wrote down i forgot i 00:22:18.960 --> 00:22:23.119 even wrote it yeah i programmed my brain and 00:22:23.119 --> 00:22:26.420 that's what it is guys visualization gives your 00:22:27.690 --> 00:22:32.650 you're giving your subconscious mind that belief 00:22:32.650 --> 00:22:36.609 so it gives your conscious mind permission to 00:22:36.609 --> 00:22:39.210 go get it it programs your subconscious which 00:22:39.210 --> 00:22:42.490 programs your conscious mind to go attract those 00:22:42.490 --> 00:22:45.369 things because everything needs to be done on 00:22:45.369 --> 00:22:47.910 the subconscious level like us as human beings 00:22:47.910 --> 00:22:49.829 are probably only operating at probably maybe 00:22:49.829 --> 00:22:52.549 like what they said maybe 10 15 percent of our 00:22:52.549 --> 00:22:57.039 mental capability like with visualization and 00:22:57.039 --> 00:22:58.940 all that stuff, all the things we don't utilize, 00:22:59.140 --> 00:23:02.920 like with our brain capacity. I mean, it's crazy 00:23:02.920 --> 00:23:04.779 when you kind of look at everything. I mean, 00:23:04.799 --> 00:23:08.759 we've been bombarded with so many messages throughout 00:23:08.759 --> 00:23:11.319 with no quiet time or anything that we're just 00:23:11.319 --> 00:23:13.000 being bombarded with all those messages from 00:23:13.000 --> 00:23:16.900 social media and everything, all television ads 00:23:16.900 --> 00:23:19.160 and everything else. We don't know what's going 00:23:19.160 --> 00:23:24.730 on half the time. So that's why that quiet time 00:23:24.730 --> 00:23:28.190 away from yourself and the visualization definitely 00:23:28.190 --> 00:23:30.970 works. I love visualization. You've talked about 00:23:30.970 --> 00:23:40.710 how it works for you. Yeah. It's fantastic. And 00:23:40.710 --> 00:23:42.869 now we're talking about, man, I don't do it enough. 00:23:43.130 --> 00:23:45.970 But that's also why whenever we were talking, 00:23:46.210 --> 00:23:50.329 come and tell us a story. and the person and 00:23:50.329 --> 00:23:52.029 the people are listening are starting to form 00:23:52.029 --> 00:23:54.410 a story of their version of it in their heads 00:23:54.410 --> 00:23:58.049 and they're like if you're talking about driving 00:23:58.049 --> 00:23:59.869 your car they're thinking about driving in their 00:23:59.869 --> 00:24:04.690 car and like the so like why can't we do that 00:24:04.690 --> 00:24:06.630 for ourselves why can't i be like okay i'm gonna 00:24:06.630 --> 00:24:08.450 i'm gonna intentionally do that instead of letting 00:24:08.450 --> 00:24:11.230 my subconscious um i'm gonna start programming 00:24:11.230 --> 00:24:12.829 our subconscious can whenever we start programming 00:24:12.829 --> 00:24:17.480 that that part of our minds then eventually we 00:24:17.480 --> 00:24:18.900 don't even have to think about it. Eventually 00:24:18.900 --> 00:24:22.539 our subconscious works independently of us, which 00:24:22.539 --> 00:24:25.220 is awesome. But we have to intentionally take 00:24:25.220 --> 00:24:28.180 a hold of it instead of letting the world dictate 00:24:28.180 --> 00:24:33.240 what it's going to think. That's why fight or 00:24:33.240 --> 00:24:35.500 flight is a thing. That's why we start to get 00:24:35.500 --> 00:24:37.099 programmed by different things and different 00:24:37.099 --> 00:24:40.299 triggers. But whenever we start intentionally 00:24:40.299 --> 00:24:42.700 acknowledging what those triggers are and then 00:24:42.700 --> 00:24:44.319 making our own triggers like you were saying, 00:24:45.189 --> 00:24:49.009 Then we can start to actually pull things out 00:24:49.009 --> 00:24:52.109 of our subconscious into our consciousness and 00:24:52.109 --> 00:24:54.710 actively utilize it in our day -to -day lives. 00:24:56.109 --> 00:24:59.529 So guys, for the listeners of this podcast, for 00:24:59.529 --> 00:25:02.410 the pursuers that are listening, I actually want 00:25:02.410 --> 00:25:04.049 you to do that. Think about how you're starting 00:25:04.049 --> 00:25:06.869 your day every day. How are you starting it? 00:25:06.970 --> 00:25:10.369 Are you in the word? Are you starting it with 00:25:10.369 --> 00:25:13.440 the word? Are you visualizing? Have you ever 00:25:13.440 --> 00:25:17.359 done visualization before? If you haven't, either 00:25:17.359 --> 00:25:19.380 try it after this episode or try it in the morning 00:25:19.380 --> 00:25:22.519 and actually visualize a goal that you want to 00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:24.660 achieve. I know now that I'm saying a goal that 00:25:24.660 --> 00:25:25.680 you want to achieve, you're thinking about the 00:25:25.680 --> 00:25:28.099 goals that you want to achieve. I already know 00:25:28.099 --> 00:25:29.119 that you're doing that. I don't even have to 00:25:29.119 --> 00:25:35.759 know who you are. And so start doing that visualization. 00:25:35.779 --> 00:25:39.180 We talked about how good it is. So he gave you 00:25:39.180 --> 00:25:42.349 those practical steps. He gave you like... He 00:25:42.349 --> 00:25:44.710 said five IEM statements, doing the visualization, 00:25:45.049 --> 00:25:46.650 write down ten things that you've accomplished 00:25:46.650 --> 00:25:49.289 in your life, and ten things that you're good 00:25:49.289 --> 00:25:53.609 at. Like, just doing one of those is enough. 00:25:54.190 --> 00:25:57.069 Just doing one of those is a great start. I almost 00:25:57.069 --> 00:25:58.150 said it was enough, and that wasn't going to 00:25:58.150 --> 00:26:06.430 be true. But, Ryan, before we wrap up, do you 00:26:06.430 --> 00:26:09.910 have anything else that you want to... Leave 00:26:09.910 --> 00:26:11.829 it to the listeners before we go to our final 00:26:11.829 --> 00:26:14.490 questions. Yeah, I would just tell them if you 00:26:14.490 --> 00:26:19.410 do visualization, use all your senses. Use all 00:26:19.410 --> 00:26:22.190 your senses, too, with that. Because it makes 00:26:22.190 --> 00:26:24.789 it more personable. Makes it more emotional. 00:26:24.950 --> 00:26:29.250 When you can, like, even smell, like, where you're 00:26:29.250 --> 00:26:33.430 at. Like, hear it and feel, like, actually feel 00:26:33.430 --> 00:26:37.079 it. It creates more of that. that definitive, 00:26:37.460 --> 00:26:39.599 hey, this is going to happen. It makes it more 00:26:39.599 --> 00:26:44.279 real. Yeah. So that would be the one you're doing 00:26:44.279 --> 00:26:48.619 when you're doing that visualization. Yeah. Yeah, 00:26:48.660 --> 00:26:56.099 just add your senses to it. Right. Alright, so 00:26:56.099 --> 00:27:00.880 going to the end, I always ask people the same 00:27:00.880 --> 00:27:02.759 two questions. I'll start with the first one 00:27:02.759 --> 00:27:05.400 and we'll move to the second one. So what is 00:27:05.400 --> 00:27:09.500 the top resource, the top tool that you recommend 00:27:09.500 --> 00:27:14.880 to people? So like this talk about book. Yep. 00:27:15.240 --> 00:27:19.400 Okay. So probably one of my favorite books, and 00:27:19.400 --> 00:27:22.559 it's a quick read. I can't remember who wrote 00:27:22.559 --> 00:27:24.460 it, though. It's called Chop Wood, Carry Water. 00:27:25.619 --> 00:27:29.579 It's probably only 110 pages long, but it talks 00:27:29.579 --> 00:27:33.670 about the process. It is a very good book and 00:27:33.670 --> 00:27:36.490 everything it talks about. It showed me so much 00:27:36.490 --> 00:27:38.990 that, Hey, it's always about the process about 00:27:38.990 --> 00:27:41.369 who you become in the process and not about, 00:27:41.369 --> 00:27:45.309 about reaching your destination. The process 00:27:45.309 --> 00:27:47.509 is going to be hard. You just got to go through 00:27:47.509 --> 00:27:54.230 it. Fall in love with the process. That's one 00:27:54.230 --> 00:27:57.809 of my favorite books of all time. Cause you know, 00:27:57.809 --> 00:28:03.980 no matter what it's. That's my favorite book. 00:28:04.220 --> 00:28:07.799 Awesome. Yeah. Thank you. That's going to be 00:28:07.799 --> 00:28:09.420 linked in the show notes. I'd probably give the 00:28:09.420 --> 00:28:11.700 Amazon link unless you have a better one out 00:28:11.700 --> 00:28:15.859 there. And then who do you know that I should 00:28:15.859 --> 00:28:18.259 know, Ryan? Who would be a great, who would be 00:28:18.259 --> 00:28:20.759 a good part of my net addition to my network? 00:28:20.900 --> 00:28:23.559 Who would be great to have as a podcast guest 00:28:23.559 --> 00:28:26.359 for the pursuers of the Pursuit of Calling podcast 00:28:26.359 --> 00:28:31.160 to listen to? So one guest that is a very good 00:28:31.160 --> 00:28:33.769 personal friend of mine. named Rory Paquette, 00:28:33.890 --> 00:28:37.890 who is actually my podcast coach. And I actually 00:28:37.890 --> 00:28:40.750 did a podcast. My first podcast I ever went on 00:28:40.750 --> 00:28:43.369 was his. And then he ended up becoming my podcast 00:28:43.369 --> 00:28:47.309 coach and kind of helped me start a podcast for 00:28:47.309 --> 00:28:55.150 myself. He would probably be the best person 00:28:55.150 --> 00:29:02.059 for you to know. Awesome. All right. Well, I'm 00:29:02.059 --> 00:29:05.619 going to talk to you a little bit after the recording. 00:29:05.720 --> 00:29:08.180 We'll get, uh, talk a little bit more about, 00:29:08.180 --> 00:29:13.880 um, your podcast coach and we will, uh, but guys, 00:29:14.000 --> 00:29:16.740 thank you for listening to the pursuit of calling 00:29:16.740 --> 00:29:19.240 podcast. If you liked this episode, go ahead 00:29:19.240 --> 00:29:21.160 and give it a like, give it, give a five -star 00:29:21.160 --> 00:29:23.400 review on Spotify and Apple podcasts, wherever 00:29:23.400 --> 00:29:25.579 you listen to your podcast. Yeah. Make sure you 00:29:25.579 --> 00:29:27.019 do. Make sure you do that. Cause it really does 00:29:27.019 --> 00:29:29.789 help out the algorithm. And if you really liked 00:29:29.789 --> 00:29:32.250 it, share it directly with your friends and not 00:29:32.250 --> 00:29:35.529 on social media because, again, that helps us 00:29:35.529 --> 00:29:39.730 spread the message, help people know that they 00:29:39.730 --> 00:29:41.390 were made for more, that they have a calling 00:29:41.390 --> 00:29:43.930 on their lives despite their circumstances. Whether 00:29:43.930 --> 00:29:47.309 you're in chronic pain or you're dealing with 00:29:47.309 --> 00:29:49.390 some other chronic illness, you were made for 00:29:49.390 --> 00:29:51.269 more and you have a higher calling on your life. 00:29:51.650 --> 00:29:54.730 So, Ryan, thank you for joining me. And, guys, 00:29:54.869 --> 00:29:56.970 we'll see you next time. Hey, thanks for having 00:29:56.970 --> 00:30:02.180 me. Thank you.