WEBVTT 00:00:08.330 --> 00:00:11.150 What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit 00:00:11.150 --> 00:00:14.330 of Calling, the podcast that provides you with 00:00:14.330 --> 00:00:17.250 the strategies and tools needed to successfully 00:00:17.250 --> 00:00:20.829 discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's 00:00:20.829 --> 00:00:23.230 through inspiring stories, thought -provoking 00:00:23.230 --> 00:00:26.149 interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on 00:00:26.149 --> 00:00:28.570 personal growth and development, we've got you 00:00:28.570 --> 00:00:32.350 covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy 00:00:32.350 --> 00:00:40.750 the episode. All right, how's it going, Pursuers? 00:00:41.210 --> 00:00:43.890 So if you've been following me on Instagram or 00:00:43.890 --> 00:00:47.229 Facebook recently, you'll notice that I've, or 00:00:47.229 --> 00:00:49.850 even in the past, you'll notice that I've been 00:00:49.850 --> 00:00:51.689 changing what I've been posting on social media 00:00:51.689 --> 00:00:55.149 a little bit. And mainly the change has been 00:00:55.149 --> 00:00:59.570 that I've been posting at all. And I've been 00:00:59.570 --> 00:01:04.189 posting, I'm trying to post every day. Just consistently 00:01:04.189 --> 00:01:06.790 about the merch. Maybe you can see it in the 00:01:06.790 --> 00:01:08.590 back if you're watching the video. It says you 00:01:08.590 --> 00:01:10.370 were made for more in the back. It has some cool 00:01:10.370 --> 00:01:12.769 hands reaching around it. I think it looks really 00:01:12.769 --> 00:01:15.170 nice. You might want to try looking at it at 00:01:15.170 --> 00:01:18.549 shop .pursuitofcalling .com. But anyway, I'm 00:01:18.549 --> 00:01:24.170 working on creating the habit of posting every 00:01:24.170 --> 00:01:28.549 single day. It's not... And we're going to get 00:01:28.549 --> 00:01:31.650 into more of why that is as we get into the episode. 00:01:32.310 --> 00:01:38.069 But I felt convicted that every time recently 00:01:38.069 --> 00:01:40.909 I've been feeling convicted that every time I 00:01:40.909 --> 00:01:46.370 seem to start something, a new venture, or try 00:01:46.370 --> 00:01:49.969 to achieve a new goal, at certain times it seems 00:01:49.969 --> 00:01:53.510 to fizzle out in some way, shape, or form. And 00:01:53.510 --> 00:01:56.489 I'll get some momentum, then I'll get excited. 00:01:56.969 --> 00:01:59.469 Now I'll lose momentum and then I'll get discouraged 00:01:59.469 --> 00:02:02.290 and then I'll stop. You can't achieve anything 00:02:02.290 --> 00:02:05.090 following that failure of a framework. And I 00:02:05.090 --> 00:02:08.849 acknowledge that. And I think it's also, but 00:02:08.849 --> 00:02:10.969 I may also say that it's a really normal thing. 00:02:11.849 --> 00:02:16.370 And my goal is to not be normal. My goal is to 00:02:16.370 --> 00:02:20.949 find the things that I meant to strive for and 00:02:20.949 --> 00:02:23.289 then strive for those things so that I can do 00:02:23.289 --> 00:02:26.569 those well. The whole point of me starting this 00:02:26.569 --> 00:02:30.610 podcast, the coaching, and releasing merch is 00:02:30.610 --> 00:02:32.409 because I believe that everybody has a calling 00:02:32.409 --> 00:02:36.189 worthy of pursuing. And who am I to say any of 00:02:36.189 --> 00:02:39.189 that? Who am I to say I've been called to serve 00:02:39.189 --> 00:02:42.969 a particular set of people in this way and then 00:02:42.969 --> 00:02:47.370 not follow through on it? So that's why I'm attempting 00:02:47.370 --> 00:02:49.669 to do this now. I say attempting intentionally 00:02:49.669 --> 00:02:58.750 because I... Maybe it's a caveat, but I'm saying 00:02:58.750 --> 00:03:07.590 attempting because... I'm saying it because nobody's 00:03:07.590 --> 00:03:12.629 perfect, and I have all intentions of pursuing 00:03:12.629 --> 00:03:15.370 this well. Not worrying about perfection, but 00:03:15.370 --> 00:03:21.379 about consistency in action. And then I believe 00:03:21.379 --> 00:03:24.219 through that, growth will come. One thing, I 00:03:24.219 --> 00:03:27.080 do this all the time, it's not in my notes, but 00:03:27.080 --> 00:03:30.919 John Maxwell has a, I think a philosophy, I guess 00:03:30.919 --> 00:03:32.840 you'd call it, that he said he could never do 00:03:32.840 --> 00:03:37.280 a talk on goal setting and goal achievement because 00:03:37.280 --> 00:03:41.900 he couldn't do it with integrity because he cares 00:03:41.900 --> 00:03:45.259 more about growth than he does about goals. He 00:03:45.259 --> 00:03:49.580 said, if you're consistently working on growing, 00:03:50.090 --> 00:03:53.509 then the goals that you want to achieve will 00:03:53.509 --> 00:03:57.930 be, you'll achieve those goals if you focus on 00:03:57.930 --> 00:04:00.110 the growth it takes to get to the goals you want 00:04:00.110 --> 00:04:02.389 to achieve versus actually achieving the goal. 00:04:04.030 --> 00:04:06.729 So I'm trying to shift my mindset in that way 00:04:06.729 --> 00:04:10.189 and trying to create new habits that will help 00:04:10.189 --> 00:04:11.889 me grow and kind of get me out of my comfort 00:04:11.889 --> 00:04:13.430 zone, things that make me uncomfortable like 00:04:13.430 --> 00:04:16.389 posting on social media. And it took me one hour 00:04:16.389 --> 00:04:18.910 to make it real the other day because I felt 00:04:18.910 --> 00:04:21.610 like I kept messing up what I wanted to say. 00:04:22.209 --> 00:04:25.470 And that annoyed me a lot, but I still posted 00:04:25.470 --> 00:04:27.649 it. And that's what I'm going to keep doing every 00:04:27.649 --> 00:04:37.829 single day. And I think it's been about a week 00:04:37.829 --> 00:04:39.430 that I've been posting every day. And I don't 00:04:39.430 --> 00:04:42.129 plan on stopping. I'm probably going to annoy 00:04:42.129 --> 00:04:46.310 people. I don't know who. But I just have that 00:04:46.310 --> 00:04:48.290 general assumption for some reason that some 00:04:48.290 --> 00:04:50.149 people might be annoyed and other people are 00:04:50.149 --> 00:04:52.649 going to cheer me on. I think that's normal. 00:04:53.470 --> 00:04:57.910 And I'm also not just going to post about the 00:04:57.910 --> 00:05:00.029 merch, like I said, which is what I've been talking 00:05:00.029 --> 00:05:01.550 about. I've been talking about how everyone has 00:05:01.550 --> 00:05:03.490 been made for more, how you listening right now 00:05:03.490 --> 00:05:06.269 were made for more. You were created by the God 00:05:06.269 --> 00:05:07.990 of the universe and he loves you so much that 00:05:07.990 --> 00:05:13.120 he created a unique calling just for you. That's 00:05:13.120 --> 00:05:17.019 designed to fit you perfectly. So even if you 00:05:17.019 --> 00:05:18.339 don't know what your purpose is, you don't know 00:05:18.339 --> 00:05:21.259 what your calling is, I think the first step 00:05:21.259 --> 00:05:23.259 you take, honestly, is a relationship with Christ. 00:05:23.779 --> 00:05:27.540 And then as you work into that, you figure out 00:05:27.540 --> 00:05:29.699 what you've been called to do. There's a whole 00:05:29.699 --> 00:05:32.660 other podcast where I talk about that piece. 00:05:33.139 --> 00:05:36.779 But this is also for those who know what their 00:05:36.779 --> 00:05:41.279 calling is already. want to continuously pursue 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:44.360 their calling well nobody does it perfectly but 00:05:44.360 --> 00:05:47.220 you can do everything you can to do it consistently 00:05:47.220 --> 00:05:56.699 if that makes sense and why am i doing this at 00:05:56.699 --> 00:05:58.800 all why am i post why am i posting it's not just 00:05:58.800 --> 00:06:01.399 for i think i've talked a lot about it but like 00:06:01.399 --> 00:06:04.480 it's not just for consistency It's not just for 00:06:04.480 --> 00:06:07.220 growth, but it's because I haven't been, I want 00:06:07.220 --> 00:06:08.740 it because I haven't been. And I believe that 00:06:08.740 --> 00:06:11.779 I, if I have my voice that I've been given and 00:06:11.779 --> 00:06:13.579 the knowledge and the wisdom that I believe God 00:06:13.579 --> 00:06:17.899 has given me over time, that I need to do it, 00:06:17.920 --> 00:06:23.660 even if I do it wrong. I've been, I have a big 00:06:23.660 --> 00:06:27.420 reason why I haven't posted. It's because I've 00:06:27.420 --> 00:06:29.759 been worried about doing it wrong. I say a lot 00:06:29.759 --> 00:06:32.620 of the time that I hate social media. And I hate 00:06:32.620 --> 00:06:35.500 posting on it. And I know a big part of the reason 00:06:35.500 --> 00:06:38.300 is because I'm afraid of doing it wrong. Or at 00:06:38.300 --> 00:06:41.259 least, at the very least, I'm afraid that I don't 00:06:41.259 --> 00:06:43.879 know how to do it well. And that's actually a 00:06:43.879 --> 00:06:47.139 fact. I don't know how to do it well. So I decided 00:06:47.139 --> 00:06:49.060 that I needed to stop stopping. And that's the 00:06:49.060 --> 00:06:50.759 name of the episode. You've probably saw it already. 00:06:50.920 --> 00:06:54.399 But the big part of this, the title is Stop Stopping. 00:06:55.680 --> 00:06:58.620 And I need to actually intentionally continue 00:06:58.620 --> 00:07:02.680 to pursue my calling. So what does social media 00:07:02.680 --> 00:07:05.420 have to do with that? It's because I know there's 00:07:05.420 --> 00:07:07.279 people out there that social media can reach 00:07:07.279 --> 00:07:10.459 that I can't reach within the limited circle 00:07:10.459 --> 00:07:13.360 that I have around me. I can reach these people 00:07:13.360 --> 00:07:17.199 that aren't going to be reached by my podcast, 00:07:17.360 --> 00:07:18.759 a lot of people that aren't going to be maybe 00:07:18.759 --> 00:07:21.899 reached by my coaching and my merch. However, 00:07:22.019 --> 00:07:24.459 there's tons of people that can be reached by 00:07:24.459 --> 00:07:28.060 social media. It's an avenue that reaches a lot 00:07:28.060 --> 00:07:30.180 of people. So that's a skill I would like to 00:07:30.180 --> 00:07:32.339 develop. I would like to learn how to post on 00:07:32.339 --> 00:07:37.279 social media well in a way that would influence 00:07:37.279 --> 00:07:40.360 others to live the life that they've been called 00:07:40.360 --> 00:07:41.939 to live and serve those they've been called to 00:07:41.939 --> 00:07:49.660 serve. I was using ChatDBT to help me with my 00:07:49.660 --> 00:07:53.100 notes for this episode. And it presented me with... 00:07:53.360 --> 00:07:55.360 the parable of the talents that's in Matthew 00:07:55.360 --> 00:08:00.019 25, verses 14 to 30. And if you're not familiar 00:08:00.019 --> 00:08:02.959 with that, please don't tune out. It's okay if 00:08:02.959 --> 00:08:05.560 you don't know what the book of Matthew even 00:08:05.560 --> 00:08:08.319 is, what the parable of the talents is. Essentially, 00:08:08.360 --> 00:08:12.720 Jesus is talking about how people are given gifts, 00:08:13.019 --> 00:08:16.959 like maybe the things that you're inherently 00:08:16.959 --> 00:08:21.180 good at. But out of fear, some don't go out and 00:08:21.180 --> 00:08:23.839 multiply their gifts and use them to the benefit 00:08:23.839 --> 00:08:32.820 of the kingdom of heaven. The person in the parable 00:08:32.820 --> 00:08:35.980 took the talents, which talents in that time 00:08:35.980 --> 00:08:38.759 isn't actually a talent. That's not how we think 00:08:38.759 --> 00:08:42.569 about it today. It's a form of currency. And 00:08:42.569 --> 00:08:45.129 a talent was a measurement of that currency. 00:08:45.429 --> 00:08:47.730 And what he did, he was given this talent by 00:08:47.730 --> 00:08:50.710 his superior, and he buried it because he was 00:08:50.710 --> 00:08:53.009 afraid of losing it because the point was to 00:08:53.009 --> 00:08:55.990 give it back later. And he was just keeping an 00:08:55.990 --> 00:08:59.769 eye on it. So the idea around that is that God 00:08:59.769 --> 00:09:02.789 has given us gifts, and it's our job to go out 00:09:02.789 --> 00:09:04.370 and multiply the gifts that he's been giving 00:09:04.370 --> 00:09:09.259 us and grow in them and grow them. learn how 00:09:09.259 --> 00:09:12.259 to use them to the highest of our abilities so 00:09:12.259 --> 00:09:15.220 that we can serve for the benefit of the kingdom 00:09:15.220 --> 00:09:19.899 of heaven. And I think partially that's what 00:09:19.899 --> 00:09:22.159 I've been doing. I've been hiding, by not using 00:09:22.159 --> 00:09:25.519 social media, in a way I've been hiding my calling. 00:09:25.580 --> 00:09:28.059 I've been hiding my skills. I've been hiding 00:09:28.059 --> 00:09:30.779 the message that I believe God has put on my 00:09:30.779 --> 00:09:35.960 heart by not allowing myself to become uncomfortable 00:09:35.960 --> 00:09:40.309 with posting on social media. So consistency 00:09:40.309 --> 00:09:43.450 is a great way to steward your calling well. 00:09:45.309 --> 00:09:48.330 So for this week, I actually want to give you 00:09:48.330 --> 00:09:51.129 a challenge for the next seven days. Identify 00:09:51.129 --> 00:09:53.370 one area in your life where you need to stop 00:09:53.370 --> 00:09:56.009 stopping and commit to showing up consistently 00:09:56.009 --> 00:10:01.429 for the next seven days. Maybe this is kind of 00:10:01.429 --> 00:10:02.769 like mine. Maybe you're trying to start a business. 00:10:02.850 --> 00:10:06.759 Maybe you're starting a business and... Maybe 00:10:06.759 --> 00:10:08.340 you're like me, you started multiple different 00:10:08.340 --> 00:10:11.120 businesses and they haven't gone as far as you 00:10:11.120 --> 00:10:16.539 wish they would have. Figure out an area of that 00:10:16.539 --> 00:10:18.700 where you need to stop stopping and pursue that 00:10:18.700 --> 00:10:22.879 piece of it. Just before the next seven days 00:10:22.879 --> 00:10:25.159 and see if you can do it. Then even within the 00:10:25.159 --> 00:10:27.220 next seven days, it takes 14 days to make a habit. 00:10:27.419 --> 00:10:32.559 It takes about two weeks to really change our 00:10:32.559 --> 00:10:37.620 brain chemistry. create a habit in our habit 00:10:37.620 --> 00:10:42.480 our brains are used to doing consistently as 00:10:42.480 --> 00:10:45.879 a bonus uh share it on instagram tag me and use 00:10:45.879 --> 00:10:48.940 the hashtag stop stopping so we can cheer each 00:10:48.940 --> 00:10:51.220 other on i want to cheer you on like let me know 00:10:51.220 --> 00:10:54.000 what your stop stop what you're not what your 00:10:54.000 --> 00:11:02.039 stop stopping to stop and uh whatever it is maybe 00:11:02.039 --> 00:11:05.830 you used to love to read And you stopped reading. 00:11:06.669 --> 00:11:09.730 And reading, whether that be reading books for 00:11:09.730 --> 00:11:11.730 pleasure, maybe that reading books for growth. 00:11:11.850 --> 00:11:15.629 I hope you're reading books for growth. But there's 00:11:15.629 --> 00:11:16.809 nothing wrong with reading books for pleasure. 00:11:16.909 --> 00:11:22.570 But what are you not doing that you wish you 00:11:22.570 --> 00:11:25.509 were? Maybe especially something that you were 00:11:25.509 --> 00:11:27.990 doing before that you've stopped doing out of 00:11:27.990 --> 00:11:34.649 the lack of discipline that you've had. So if 00:11:34.649 --> 00:11:36.970 you need encouragement and tools to pursue your 00:11:36.970 --> 00:11:39.509 calling, you already said I've got merch designed 00:11:39.509 --> 00:11:41.909 to inspire you and the people around you and 00:11:41.909 --> 00:11:44.250 coaching sessions to guide you. I'm going to 00:11:44.250 --> 00:11:46.370 have links for both of those in the show notes. 00:11:46.590 --> 00:11:49.450 The coaching can sign up for a free intro session. 00:11:49.830 --> 00:11:53.110 I'm doing three free Discover Your Calling sessions. 00:11:54.190 --> 00:11:56.690 And it's completely free. There's no obligation 00:11:56.690 --> 00:11:59.190 to even sign up and pay afterwards. I just want 00:11:59.190 --> 00:12:03.309 to serve. So if you or somebody you know would 00:12:03.309 --> 00:12:05.350 be interested, go ahead and sign up for your 00:12:05.350 --> 00:12:09.450 first free session now. All it asks is for your 00:12:09.450 --> 00:12:13.149 email, your phone number. And then if you need 00:12:13.149 --> 00:12:15.309 any. Oh, sorry. I was going to say the same thing 00:12:15.309 --> 00:12:20.480 again in my notes. But as just. as the outro, 00:12:20.620 --> 00:12:24.139 I guess, your calling is worth pursuing. Don't 00:12:24.139 --> 00:12:27.179 let fear, discomfort, or perfectionism hold you 00:12:27.179 --> 00:12:30.580 back. Stop stopping and keep going. Keep pursuing 00:12:30.580 --> 00:12:32.399 your calling well, pursuers, and I'll see you 00:12:32.399 --> 00:12:32.820 next time.