WEBVTT 00:00:08.359 --> 00:00:11.140 What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit 00:00:11.140 --> 00:00:14.339 of Calling, the podcast that provides you with 00:00:14.339 --> 00:00:17.260 the strategies and tools needed to successfully 00:00:17.260 --> 00:00:20.820 discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's 00:00:20.820 --> 00:00:23.239 through inspiring stories, thought -provoking 00:00:23.239 --> 00:00:26.160 interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on 00:00:26.160 --> 00:00:28.559 personal growth and development, we've got you 00:00:28.559 --> 00:00:32.359 covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy 00:00:32.359 --> 00:00:40.729 the episode. What's going on, guys? Welcome to 00:00:40.729 --> 00:00:42.369 this episode of the Pursuit of Calling podcast. 00:00:42.929 --> 00:00:47.030 Welcome, pursuers. So you already know from looking 00:00:47.030 --> 00:00:51.869 at the title of this episode that this is a revisit 00:00:51.869 --> 00:00:55.590 of living with pain and accomplishing goals. 00:00:56.270 --> 00:00:59.729 That was recorded last March, which is crazy 00:00:59.729 --> 00:01:03.429 to think. March of 2024, which is over a year 00:01:03.429 --> 00:01:06.909 ago. And I had to re -listen to that episode. 00:01:09.250 --> 00:01:11.030 Because recently, because I decided I wanted 00:01:11.030 --> 00:01:15.150 to go back over what I talked about. And man, 00:01:15.349 --> 00:01:22.829 the fire that was in my voice, that fire that 00:01:22.829 --> 00:01:25.390 was there, to want to share the things that I've 00:01:25.390 --> 00:01:27.609 learned on this journey of pain and suffering. 00:01:28.269 --> 00:01:30.629 I think back to that, and part of me is like, 00:01:30.650 --> 00:01:34.150 man, where'd that go? I'm thinking about the 00:01:34.150 --> 00:01:39.599 last couple episodes I put out. I'm wondering 00:01:39.599 --> 00:01:44.879 if maybe I lost focus in some sort of way of 00:01:44.879 --> 00:01:48.379 why I'm doing this podcast. So I wanted to revisit 00:01:48.379 --> 00:01:54.180 an episode where I was the happiest. I remember 00:01:54.180 --> 00:01:56.200 being the happiest. I could hear it in my voice. 00:01:56.219 --> 00:01:57.599 I'm sure you could too if you went back and listened 00:01:57.599 --> 00:02:00.319 to the episode, which I highly encourage you 00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:05.760 to do. You hear it in my voice. How happy and 00:02:05.760 --> 00:02:10.939 how... excited and comfortable I was to share 00:02:10.939 --> 00:02:15.280 my journey of pain and growth. So I'm going to 00:02:15.280 --> 00:02:17.699 go back over these lessons today because they're 00:02:17.699 --> 00:02:22.120 still true today. The lessons are understanding 00:02:22.120 --> 00:02:25.199 your own limits, your physical and mental health 00:02:25.199 --> 00:02:28.419 are strongly linked. Impatience isn't only a 00:02:28.419 --> 00:02:33.060 virtue, it's a necessity. That one's huge. I 00:02:33.060 --> 00:02:35.939 remember in the last episode, the last time I 00:02:35.939 --> 00:02:40.210 recorded this, When I was writing the notes, 00:02:40.229 --> 00:02:42.830 how excited and how it just clicked. That was 00:02:42.830 --> 00:02:46.310 one of the biggest lessons. And even as I was 00:02:46.310 --> 00:02:47.710 listening to this and reading the notes from 00:02:47.710 --> 00:02:54.789 this episode, I was teaching myself again. March 00:02:54.789 --> 00:03:01.349 of 2024, Thomas was teaching this Thomas, this 00:03:01.349 --> 00:03:03.909 current President Thomas, about being present. 00:03:05.469 --> 00:03:07.009 That patience is the only virtue, that it's a 00:03:07.009 --> 00:03:09.430 necessity. So I can't wait to go over that with 00:03:09.430 --> 00:03:12.330 you guys as well. So let's dive into the first 00:03:12.330 --> 00:03:16.669 lesson, the first thing I learned. Understanding 00:03:16.669 --> 00:03:20.490 your own limits. And I don't know if I said it 00:03:20.490 --> 00:03:21.949 already, so I'm going to say it now. There's 00:03:21.949 --> 00:03:24.969 no shame in asking for help. The most worthwhile 00:03:24.969 --> 00:03:29.759 things are done with others. You might be wondering, 00:03:29.900 --> 00:03:31.539 maybe you're wondering how this has to do with 00:03:31.539 --> 00:03:34.860 calling. I think maybe it's obvious, but your 00:03:34.860 --> 00:03:36.819 calling is, I've said it before, your calling 00:03:36.819 --> 00:03:38.919 isn't just for you, it's for everybody around 00:03:38.919 --> 00:03:43.300 you. And also, that whenever you're pursuing 00:03:43.300 --> 00:03:45.400 something, your calling, your calling isn't small. 00:03:47.740 --> 00:03:52.000 And in order to accomplish something large, in 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:54.560 order to accomplish something big, you can't 00:03:54.560 --> 00:03:58.909 do it by yourself. The most worthwhile things 00:03:58.909 --> 00:04:05.069 are done with others. So there's multiple areas 00:04:05.069 --> 00:04:08.129 in life where your limits might be. It could 00:04:08.129 --> 00:04:11.150 be your time. You have knowledge and wisdom gaps. 00:04:11.469 --> 00:04:14.430 It could be physical and maybe even financial. 00:04:15.409 --> 00:04:19.350 Say with your time, we all have the same 24 hours 00:04:19.350 --> 00:04:22.790 in a day. But somehow there are people out there 00:04:22.790 --> 00:04:28.049 that seem to get so much more done than us. And 00:04:28.049 --> 00:04:33.509 some of that can be tied into really good time 00:04:33.509 --> 00:04:38.329 management skills. And they're able to do that 00:04:38.329 --> 00:04:42.430 and somehow not get overwhelmed. Somehow not 00:04:42.430 --> 00:04:45.370 get overwhelmed. And they're also able to then, 00:04:45.529 --> 00:04:48.790 like I said earlier, they also have other people 00:04:48.790 --> 00:04:52.899 in their corner. But you'll see that these people, 00:04:52.980 --> 00:04:55.579 they understand that they themselves have the 00:04:55.579 --> 00:04:59.379 limb of 24 hours, but then they can also bring 00:04:59.379 --> 00:05:01.259 other people in, whether they hire these people 00:05:01.259 --> 00:05:04.420 or they have volunteers with them that are helping 00:05:04.420 --> 00:05:08.600 them out, like how I have Ian. Hi, Ian. Helping 00:05:08.600 --> 00:05:12.420 me edit these podcasts. I'm not just utilizing 00:05:12.420 --> 00:05:16.199 my 24 hours. I'm also able to ask for the help 00:05:16.199 --> 00:05:18.699 of others who can then utilize their time to 00:05:18.699 --> 00:05:21.720 help me get other things done. I have limits. 00:05:21.800 --> 00:05:25.120 Everybody has limits. And everybody has the same 00:05:25.120 --> 00:05:29.600 24 hours. So then maybe you have knowledge and 00:05:29.600 --> 00:05:33.759 wisdom gaps. You don't know what you don't know, 00:05:33.819 --> 00:05:38.339 but a lot of the time you know who does. You 00:05:38.339 --> 00:05:40.139 probably have mentors in your life, some men 00:05:40.139 --> 00:05:43.300 or women, friends who you look up to, people 00:05:43.300 --> 00:05:46.519 that you've learned some things from before. 00:05:48.430 --> 00:05:51.170 I know I've learned a lot by just seeking out 00:05:51.170 --> 00:05:53.889 mentors and asking them questions. There's been 00:05:53.889 --> 00:05:55.810 many times when during our conversations, they 00:05:55.810 --> 00:06:00.359 teach me something that I wasn't expecting. One 00:06:00.359 --> 00:06:04.759 thing, I don't know if you remember, last time 00:06:04.759 --> 00:06:10.040 I recorded this, I listed off all my mentors 00:06:10.040 --> 00:06:12.819 that I had at the time. Mike Wallace, Ed Newell, 00:06:13.019 --> 00:06:15.600 Patrick Williams, Jesse Leachy, Jim Fink, Terry 00:06:15.600 --> 00:06:18.420 Bochner, and there are others. However, I remember 00:06:18.420 --> 00:06:21.480 this one time with Ed Newell, when he was on 00:06:21.480 --> 00:06:24.600 the episode of The Pursuit of Calling, and we 00:06:24.600 --> 00:06:29.310 were talking about finances. We got into the 00:06:29.310 --> 00:06:35.689 topic of what can you do right now to maybe increase 00:06:35.689 --> 00:06:39.389 your income. And one of the easiest things he 00:06:39.389 --> 00:06:43.310 told me was, and this is a great example of something 00:06:43.310 --> 00:06:46.129 that I highly encourage you to do. One of the 00:06:46.129 --> 00:06:49.230 things that he told me and told you guys, the 00:06:49.230 --> 00:06:52.470 audience, was get a high -yield savings account. 00:06:52.970 --> 00:06:55.360 Simple. High yield savings account. It was at 00:06:55.360 --> 00:06:58.360 5 % at the time with Wealthfront. And I honestly 00:06:58.360 --> 00:07:00.600 did it either the next day or that week. And 00:07:00.600 --> 00:07:03.319 I've had it since. And I've made almost $800 00:07:03.319 --> 00:07:09.720 just by letting my money sit. And that was something 00:07:09.720 --> 00:07:12.980 I wasn't expecting to learn from that. Honestly, 00:07:13.100 --> 00:07:17.319 I wasn't expecting to learn that. But that's 00:07:17.319 --> 00:07:19.579 why I love having these people that are also 00:07:19.579 --> 00:07:23.709 in my life that are filled with growth. that 00:07:23.709 --> 00:07:28.290 are looking to improve, have these hobbies that, 00:07:28.290 --> 00:07:36.009 like Ed with financial hobbies, like being able 00:07:36.009 --> 00:07:38.389 to then learn new things and give that knowledge 00:07:38.389 --> 00:07:40.769 to others and have that heart to be able to do 00:07:40.769 --> 00:07:44.310 that. Like, that was great. I want you to find 00:07:44.310 --> 00:07:46.589 people like that. Each person has taught me something 00:07:46.589 --> 00:07:50.100 different. Like I said, whether that be faith 00:07:50.100 --> 00:07:53.519 or financial. It could be financial discipline, 00:07:53.860 --> 00:07:57.199 maybe some mental fortitude. Like I talked to 00:07:57.199 --> 00:08:02.199 you about when I almost lost $4 ,000. I needed 00:08:02.199 --> 00:08:04.180 some mental fortitude. And at the time, Patrick 00:08:04.180 --> 00:08:06.459 Williams helped me figure that out. Or anything 00:08:06.459 --> 00:08:11.680 else in between. Maybe, let's keep moving. Maybe 00:08:11.680 --> 00:08:14.120 there's some physical limits. Now this is where 00:08:14.120 --> 00:08:21.920 I shine. I have some physical limits. You know, 00:08:22.839 --> 00:08:25.600 I have a condition called muscular dystonia. 00:08:25.639 --> 00:08:28.779 You know, I have that it limits and gives me 00:08:28.779 --> 00:08:32.009 pain every single day. If you're new here. Well, 00:08:32.049 --> 00:08:33.990 there you go. I have a condition called muscular 00:08:33.990 --> 00:08:37.710 dystonia. It's a neurological condition. My muscles 00:08:37.710 --> 00:08:41.669 kind of contract. I get pain in my arms, which 00:08:41.669 --> 00:08:43.149 is why I have these gloves on, if you're watching 00:08:43.149 --> 00:08:45.889 the video, and pain in my arms, up into my neck, 00:08:46.049 --> 00:08:50.970 and sometimes my jaw, my face. And that sucks. 00:08:52.669 --> 00:08:57.149 I think if I didn't have the faith that I have, 00:08:57.269 --> 00:09:00.149 and the people that God has surrounded me with, 00:09:00.649 --> 00:09:03.309 I would be like, man, I've been dealt a crap 00:09:03.309 --> 00:09:08.190 hand. But really, what this has allowed me to 00:09:08.190 --> 00:09:14.509 do through my own physical limits, it's caused 00:09:14.509 --> 00:09:19.370 me to rely on others and realize how much I can 00:09:19.370 --> 00:09:22.850 rely on others and trust others in my life more 00:09:22.850 --> 00:09:27.519 than I ever had to do before. One great example 00:09:27.519 --> 00:09:29.460 of that, I've said it before, I'm going to bring 00:09:29.460 --> 00:09:34.519 it up again because I love David. And I asked 00:09:34.519 --> 00:09:37.580 David, for those who don't know, I have a friend 00:09:37.580 --> 00:09:42.080 named David, and there was a time when I asked 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:45.720 him whether, I talked to him about production 00:09:45.720 --> 00:09:48.360 before. I talked to him about production, I talked 00:09:48.360 --> 00:09:53.779 to him about how I, I talked to him about joining 00:09:53.779 --> 00:09:56.720 the team at our church. And I know I'm talking 00:09:56.720 --> 00:09:59.019 fast. I'm going to slow down a little bit. And 00:09:59.019 --> 00:10:05.639 he showed some interest, right? So there was 00:10:05.639 --> 00:10:08.200 a day when my pain was getting high, and I didn't 00:10:08.200 --> 00:10:10.620 know what my limits were, if I should be doing 00:10:10.620 --> 00:10:11.940 computer work, if I shouldn't be doing it on 00:10:11.940 --> 00:10:15.259 the weekend. So I reached out to him, like, Saturday. 00:10:16.299 --> 00:10:21.039 And church was on Sunday morning, as it be. And 00:10:21.039 --> 00:10:25.480 I asked him, hey, man, I got this. I have this 00:10:25.480 --> 00:10:27.500 condition. This is what's going on. Can you help 00:10:27.500 --> 00:10:29.220 me out tomorrow? He said yes, because he has 00:10:29.220 --> 00:10:31.879 a determined heart, and he's been serving on 00:10:31.879 --> 00:10:35.019 production ever since. And we're good friends. 00:10:35.720 --> 00:10:41.759 So it's like, as a result, God used what the 00:10:41.759 --> 00:10:43.519 enemy meant for evil and turned it for good. 00:10:44.600 --> 00:10:47.379 Man, I say so many times that this isn't a Christian 00:10:47.379 --> 00:10:52.639 podcast, but I can't help it sometimes. i've 00:10:52.639 --> 00:10:54.460 also been thinking about this random tangent 00:10:54.460 --> 00:10:56.059 but thinking about putting god back into the 00:10:56.059 --> 00:10:59.200 title back into the uh intro because that's kind 00:10:59.200 --> 00:11:01.799 of you know the he's kind of the foundation of 00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:06.580 my life but anyway um but also though like at 00:11:06.580 --> 00:11:09.159 physical the physical limits limit my driving 00:11:11.019 --> 00:11:12.919 Almost right after I'm done recording this, I'm 00:11:12.919 --> 00:11:16.500 going to a cookout that I can't get to by myself. 00:11:16.620 --> 00:11:18.360 But I have a great friend named Zach Thomas, 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:21.759 who wasn't around whenever I recorded this last 00:11:21.759 --> 00:11:24.360 time. So I give a shout out to Zach. And I hope 00:11:24.360 --> 00:11:27.779 you're listening to the episode, Zach. But he's 00:11:27.779 --> 00:11:30.559 giving me a ride. I think within the last couple 00:11:30.559 --> 00:11:31.899 of weeks, he's given me at least three rides 00:11:31.899 --> 00:11:36.740 at three different places. And I couldn't ask 00:11:36.740 --> 00:11:42.600 for better friends. guys like i wouldn't be if 00:11:42.600 --> 00:11:45.340 i didn't have me i'm getting emotional if i didn't 00:11:45.340 --> 00:11:50.100 have the thought if i thought i had to do everything 00:11:50.100 --> 00:11:54.879 myself still in the condition that i have i'd 00:11:54.879 --> 00:11:58.779 be miserable i'd never see anybody i just have 00:11:58.779 --> 00:12:01.960 to invite people here and to my home and i would 00:12:01.960 --> 00:12:06.029 have to like um I will only be able to go grocery 00:12:06.029 --> 00:12:10.250 shopping and I will never push my limits. Like 00:12:10.250 --> 00:12:15.090 I don't – God, you need people. And even if you 00:12:15.090 --> 00:12:17.429 don't have a physical condition like I do, right? 00:12:18.850 --> 00:12:22.289 Like there are going to be times when your limits 00:12:22.289 --> 00:12:25.029 – when you hit your ceiling, you hit your limit 00:12:25.029 --> 00:12:30.370 and you can either lie down and take it or you 00:12:30.370 --> 00:12:35.700 can – Or you can stand up and reach out, pick 00:12:35.700 --> 00:12:38.399 up the phone, and reach out to those who are 00:12:38.399 --> 00:12:41.940 already in your corner. Man, think about that. 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:44.159 Who's already in your corner? Who's already fighting 00:12:44.159 --> 00:12:47.139 for you? I'm going off. And this is what I was 00:12:47.139 --> 00:12:49.299 hoping was going to happen this episode. I didn't 00:12:49.299 --> 00:12:52.200 want to just do word for word from the last recording. 00:12:52.460 --> 00:12:56.120 But guys, who's already in your corner? Who can 00:12:56.120 --> 00:12:58.960 help you, especially with everything I've mentioned 00:12:58.960 --> 00:13:00.899 so far, and especially when you're pursuing your 00:13:00.899 --> 00:13:04.750 calling? Who are your advocates? Who are the 00:13:04.750 --> 00:13:07.350 people that are going to tell you when you're 00:13:07.350 --> 00:13:11.110 messing up, but also push you and help you network 00:13:11.110 --> 00:13:13.789 and point you in the direction of people that 00:13:13.789 --> 00:13:20.950 you can know on this pursuit of calling? Who 00:13:20.950 --> 00:13:25.490 do you know? Okay, but I'm getting ahead of myself. 00:13:25.809 --> 00:13:29.250 Let's move into the next section of financial 00:13:29.250 --> 00:13:33.820 limits. So asking for help financially is probably 00:13:33.820 --> 00:13:36.659 the hardest one. I don't know. It is for me anyway. 00:13:36.940 --> 00:13:42.279 Now this can be to ask for work to help others 00:13:42.279 --> 00:13:46.159 to get pay in return. Okay, sorry. I messed that 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:47.820 up. You might have to cut that a little bit. 00:13:48.200 --> 00:13:52.279 But yeah. Okay, maybe you have financial limits, 00:13:52.419 --> 00:13:56.960 right? Maybe you have financial limits. And most 00:13:56.960 --> 00:13:59.500 of us do. Most people have financial limits. 00:14:01.519 --> 00:14:03.639 Maybe you're like me, I'm going on a missions 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:05.320 trip in January, and I'm going to ask for donations 00:14:05.320 --> 00:14:07.480 because I have some financial limits because 00:14:07.480 --> 00:14:11.159 I have financial goals. I want to buy a house 00:14:11.159 --> 00:14:13.460 in a year, and so I'm going to figure out how 00:14:13.460 --> 00:14:15.960 I can raise the money to be able to go to Uganda 00:14:15.960 --> 00:14:22.299 for free. Minus the down payment, but it's fine. 00:14:23.539 --> 00:14:34.509 But the thing... I want to say about that is 00:14:34.509 --> 00:14:39.990 since I've been doing FPU recently, a lot of 00:14:39.990 --> 00:14:42.309 people have financial limits. And I know that. 00:14:42.669 --> 00:14:45.289 And FPU, Financial Peace University, have been 00:14:45.289 --> 00:14:48.610 co -coordinating one of those courses with Amplified 00:14:48.610 --> 00:14:54.210 Church. And the one thing I've noticed is sometimes 00:14:54.210 --> 00:14:56.750 people have limits and they don't even realize 00:14:56.750 --> 00:15:05.789 they do. I think that's a great thing to call 00:15:05.789 --> 00:15:09.529 out in people. For me, as a coordinator of these 00:15:09.529 --> 00:15:14.929 courses, and as somebody who has studied this 00:15:14.929 --> 00:15:17.090 side of finances and how to manage them, how 00:15:17.090 --> 00:15:19.350 to pay them off, how to pay off debt, how to 00:15:19.350 --> 00:15:27.710 build wealth at a maintainable rate of return, 00:15:27.929 --> 00:15:33.049 there's... You have limits. I'm going to say 00:15:33.049 --> 00:15:35.529 that directly to you. You have limits that are 00:15:35.529 --> 00:15:41.129 financial, whether you know it or not. If you're 00:15:41.129 --> 00:15:44.649 in credit card debt, if you're in any sort of 00:15:44.649 --> 00:15:49.750 debt really, that strongly limits your financial 00:15:49.750 --> 00:15:55.950 potential. So just think about that. And also, 00:15:56.090 --> 00:16:00.429 if there's somewhere that you... Also though, 00:16:00.450 --> 00:16:02.850 how can you raise that limit? Think about your 00:16:02.850 --> 00:16:06.950 financial limitations. That's also one of the 00:16:06.950 --> 00:16:11.750 other ones that you have power to change. Maybe 00:16:11.750 --> 00:16:15.070 you can get more work and get paid for that. 00:16:15.190 --> 00:16:20.309 Maybe you ask for a promotion or you continuously 00:16:20.309 --> 00:16:22.590 do better at your job so that you get a promotion. 00:16:23.290 --> 00:16:24.929 Maybe you've got to get a new job that will pay 00:16:24.929 --> 00:16:30.370 you more. That limit, that ceiling can get higher. 00:16:31.450 --> 00:16:33.809 But it can also get lower. But you've got to 00:16:33.809 --> 00:16:36.509 do what you've got to do whenever you're in certain 00:16:36.509 --> 00:16:42.070 stages of life. Okay. That was one lesson. So 00:16:42.070 --> 00:16:44.730 I need to move on. I'm going to say your physical 00:16:44.730 --> 00:16:48.549 and mental health are strongly linked is the 00:16:48.549 --> 00:16:53.620 next lesson. You know, and I wrote in my notes, 00:16:53.759 --> 00:16:57.639 there's a lot of people out there that, you know, 00:16:57.639 --> 00:17:00.039 they say, like, especially at the gym, there's 00:17:00.039 --> 00:17:01.659 guys that are like, my body is a temple. And 00:17:01.659 --> 00:17:04.259 like, you get those guys kind of, you know, annoy 00:17:04.259 --> 00:17:07.619 some people. But the funny thing is that it's 00:17:07.619 --> 00:17:10.519 true. As a Christian, I believe that my body 00:17:10.519 --> 00:17:12.519 and I believe that every Christian's body is 00:17:12.519 --> 00:17:15.980 a temple for the Holy Spirit. So I want to treat 00:17:15.980 --> 00:17:19.920 it the best way that I can. I am constantly learning 00:17:19.920 --> 00:17:23.700 about what my body does and doesn't like. And 00:17:23.700 --> 00:17:27.700 like recently I've been using, I have it on right 00:17:27.700 --> 00:17:31.700 now. It's called a whoop armband and it's a health 00:17:31.700 --> 00:17:36.059 tracker. It shows me when, like how much strain, 00:17:36.119 --> 00:17:38.559 like how much activity I've had in the day. And 00:17:38.559 --> 00:17:40.819 it tells me how much strain I should have in 00:17:40.819 --> 00:17:42.839 the day based on where, like based on the metrics 00:17:42.839 --> 00:17:45.880 that it. tells me and then like you can keep 00:17:45.880 --> 00:17:49.039 a journal and keep a journal of of every pretty 00:17:49.039 --> 00:17:50.579 much all these different things that you do in 00:17:50.579 --> 00:17:52.920 your day like have you like what activities you've 00:17:52.920 --> 00:17:55.279 done when you woke up when you went to bed when 00:17:55.279 --> 00:17:57.400 did you do did you intermittent do intermittent 00:17:57.400 --> 00:17:59.960 fasting do you go to like when did you eat did 00:17:59.960 --> 00:18:02.359 you snack and all the all these different things 00:18:02.359 --> 00:18:04.660 and it tells you like and eventually it gives 00:18:04.660 --> 00:18:06.519 you these metrics it tells you whether you're 00:18:06.519 --> 00:18:09.339 doing like what is good for your recovery and 00:18:09.339 --> 00:18:11.180 what isn't what's good for your health and what's 00:18:11.180 --> 00:18:18.339 not And that's really kind of helped me understand 00:18:18.339 --> 00:18:19.980 that a little bit better. And the reason I'm 00:18:19.980 --> 00:18:22.900 bringing this up is because I noticed that whenever 00:18:22.900 --> 00:18:26.880 my recovery, that's what they call it in Woop, 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:33.299 when my recovery is low, my mental fortitude 00:18:33.299 --> 00:18:39.930 is lacking. As a developer, I'm... My job is 00:18:39.930 --> 00:18:42.869 to use my brain and to problem solve. And I've 00:18:42.869 --> 00:18:47.329 noticed for a while that whenever I'm tired, 00:18:47.609 --> 00:18:49.769 whenever I haven't treated my body well the day 00:18:49.769 --> 00:18:52.970 before, it's a lot harder for me to problem solve. 00:18:53.130 --> 00:18:55.269 Whenever my body doesn't feel well, my brain 00:18:55.269 --> 00:18:59.609 doesn't work as well. Does that make sense? You'll 00:18:59.609 --> 00:19:03.369 be able to function better mentally and physically 00:19:03.369 --> 00:19:06.910 if you eat the right foods, if you work out. 00:19:07.259 --> 00:19:10.920 If you work out in the right ways, that's right 00:19:10.920 --> 00:19:13.980 for you. If you just treat this gift that you've 00:19:13.980 --> 00:19:17.779 been given of this body well. I think I made 00:19:17.779 --> 00:19:22.440 the example last time with food about putting... 00:19:22.440 --> 00:19:25.000 You want to eat the right foods. You want your 00:19:25.000 --> 00:19:30.440 fuel that you put in your body to be good. You're 00:19:30.440 --> 00:19:36.539 not going to eat... If you're truly... If you 00:19:36.539 --> 00:19:38.200 truly care about your own health, you don't go 00:19:38.200 --> 00:19:40.839 out and eat fast food, right? If you truly care 00:19:40.839 --> 00:19:44.599 about your health, you don't go out to eat all 00:19:44.599 --> 00:19:46.059 the time because that's also financial health, 00:19:46.119 --> 00:19:48.039 but physical health because there aren't great 00:19:48.039 --> 00:19:49.700 ingredients all the time in food that you eat 00:19:49.700 --> 00:19:53.680 out whenever you eat out. And I think I made 00:19:53.680 --> 00:19:55.480 the example of you want to put chocolate syrup 00:19:55.480 --> 00:19:57.680 in your gas tank because your car won't run. 00:19:59.680 --> 00:20:03.279 You want the right fuel that will fuel your body 00:20:03.279 --> 00:20:08.539 to run at its optimal capacity. Because then 00:20:08.539 --> 00:20:11.140 your mind will work well as well. Your brain 00:20:11.140 --> 00:20:15.920 uses that same fuel. All right. Last lesson. 00:20:16.759 --> 00:20:20.019 Patience isn't only a virtue, it's a necessity. 00:20:21.539 --> 00:20:27.220 So waiting is a huge part of life. I've had doctor's 00:20:27.220 --> 00:20:31.930 appointments months in between. where and actually 00:20:31.930 --> 00:20:33.849 have a couple coming up after like six months 00:20:33.849 --> 00:20:38.789 because that's just what they do now um and it 00:20:38.789 --> 00:20:43.589 sucks like like it sucks like like it doesn't 00:20:43.589 --> 00:20:45.869 really feel like those give me anything anymore 00:20:45.869 --> 00:20:48.650 but i still go to them because maybe they will 00:20:48.650 --> 00:20:51.670 because like every now and then they give me 00:20:51.670 --> 00:20:53.589 something but most of the time like i say that 00:20:53.589 --> 00:20:57.849 it's like 50 50 and These doctor's appointments 00:20:57.849 --> 00:21:03.690 are months and months and months apart. And it's 00:21:03.690 --> 00:21:13.690 hard. But also realizing that it's not just patients 00:21:13.690 --> 00:21:16.369 in the doctor's appointments. It's also patients 00:21:16.369 --> 00:21:22.630 in things for you, like diet. You went on a diet 00:21:22.630 --> 00:21:24.269 for a week and you're wondering why you haven't 00:21:24.269 --> 00:21:25.970 lost as much weight as you wanted yet. It's going 00:21:25.970 --> 00:21:29.529 to take time. Working out, same thing. It's going 00:21:29.529 --> 00:21:31.250 to take you multiple times to go to the gym to 00:21:31.250 --> 00:21:33.670 build the muscle that you want to build. Learning 00:21:33.670 --> 00:21:35.710 something new, you're not going to understand 00:21:35.710 --> 00:21:39.430 it the first time. You might not even understand 00:21:39.430 --> 00:21:41.950 it the second time. Maybe you've got to read 00:21:41.950 --> 00:21:43.809 that book three times to really understand what 00:21:43.809 --> 00:21:48.329 the author is saying. And you've got to take 00:21:48.329 --> 00:21:50.349 notes. It's going to take time for you to understand 00:21:50.349 --> 00:21:54.460 something new. And now finally, pursuing your 00:21:54.460 --> 00:21:58.339 calling takes time and it's a continuous season 00:21:58.339 --> 00:22:01.900 of your life. Pursuing your calling, it takes 00:22:01.900 --> 00:22:05.880 time, it takes effort, it takes patience. And 00:22:05.880 --> 00:22:07.799 now this is the biggest thing that I remember 00:22:07.799 --> 00:22:09.359 I said in the beginning of this recording that 00:22:09.359 --> 00:22:11.579 I was going to need to talk about more because 00:22:11.579 --> 00:22:14.220 it's something I need to hear. It's something 00:22:14.220 --> 00:22:17.200 I need to say because I feel like I've forgotten 00:22:17.200 --> 00:22:22.329 that patience. That patience is not a virtue, 00:22:22.410 --> 00:22:25.829 but it's a necessity. That life is a waiting 00:22:25.829 --> 00:22:29.589 game. You're always waiting for something. And 00:22:29.589 --> 00:22:34.609 right now I'm waiting to learn and waiting for 00:22:34.609 --> 00:22:39.509 clients to come in for my coaching business. 00:22:40.529 --> 00:22:43.569 I'm waiting to find the people that I'm meant 00:22:43.569 --> 00:22:50.619 to serve, that I'm called to serve. So maybe 00:22:50.619 --> 00:22:54.279 if you're in the same boat as me, maybe that 00:22:54.279 --> 00:22:56.759 you're waiting for people to serve. You don't 00:22:56.759 --> 00:22:58.119 know who to serve and you don't know what you're 00:22:58.119 --> 00:23:03.680 doing in your life. It takes time. If you don't 00:23:03.680 --> 00:23:10.980 know what your calling is, pray. Ask God. Take 00:23:10.980 --> 00:23:14.460 time with him. If you're not a Christian, I would 00:23:14.460 --> 00:23:17.079 still encourage you to do that. I would still 00:23:17.079 --> 00:23:20.269 encourage you to do that. also for both Christians 00:23:20.269 --> 00:23:24.910 and non -Christians, go ahead and I have a Discover 00:23:24.910 --> 00:23:26.849 Your Kong Planning Guide. It just asks some simple 00:23:26.849 --> 00:23:31.910 questions about, like, what do you enjoy doing? 00:23:32.470 --> 00:23:43.809 What are the things that you do that seem to 00:23:43.809 --> 00:23:50.319 make time fly? Like things that you love so much 00:23:50.319 --> 00:23:53.619 that you don't even notice that you've done it 00:23:53.619 --> 00:24:00.839 for two, three hours. The last thing I have here 00:24:00.839 --> 00:24:05.200 is when things are at their hardest is when you 00:24:05.200 --> 00:24:08.160 need to buckle down, grit your teeth, and hold 00:24:08.160 --> 00:24:11.819 on, even if there's nothing to do but wait. And 00:24:11.819 --> 00:24:15.240 this waiting is when you can and should be readying 00:24:15.240 --> 00:24:18.359 yourself for what comes next. Waiting doesn't 00:24:18.359 --> 00:24:21.339 mean you're doing nothing. It means you're preparing. 00:24:21.539 --> 00:24:23.920 And that's what I needed to hear. These are notes 00:24:23.920 --> 00:24:29.039 from the last time I recorded this episode. Waiting 00:24:29.039 --> 00:24:31.460 doesn't mean you're doing nothing. It means you're 00:24:31.460 --> 00:24:36.680 preparing. You're preparing for whatever God 00:24:36.680 --> 00:24:39.480 has for you next. You're preparing for that doctor's 00:24:39.480 --> 00:24:42.220 appointment. You're preparing for that next big 00:24:42.220 --> 00:24:44.539 break, for that raise, for that promotion. You're 00:24:44.539 --> 00:24:48.720 preparing maybe for your future wife or your 00:24:48.720 --> 00:24:53.380 future husband. You're preparing everything. 00:24:53.519 --> 00:24:55.799 And that's why it takes time. Preparation doesn't 00:24:55.799 --> 00:24:57.559 happen in an instant. There is no such thing 00:24:57.559 --> 00:25:01.359 as overnight success. It's all about what we're 00:25:01.359 --> 00:25:05.960 doing. behind closed doors by ourselves how are 00:25:05.960 --> 00:25:09.160 we how are we buckling down gritting your teeth 00:25:09.160 --> 00:25:13.160 and pushing forward and now i know that i just 00:25:13.160 --> 00:25:14.619 said do it by yourself but you're like thomas 00:25:14.619 --> 00:25:17.160 you just say there's yeah we like you just talked 00:25:17.160 --> 00:25:19.480 about in the beginning like how like you need 00:25:19.480 --> 00:25:21.660 people and all of you need people and all these 00:25:21.660 --> 00:25:23.160 things you just talked about that so much why 00:25:23.160 --> 00:25:25.960 did you say do things by yourself because like 00:25:25.960 --> 00:25:33.710 why why would i say that Why would I say you're 00:25:33.710 --> 00:25:36.410 doing, why would I say that? Why would I say, 00:25:36.410 --> 00:25:38.809 do things by yourself? Sorry, I know I'm repeating 00:25:38.809 --> 00:25:49.210 myself. Because what you do behind closed doors 00:25:49.210 --> 00:25:51.309 reproduce the fruit of what happens outside of 00:25:51.309 --> 00:25:55.769 them. Let me say that again. What you're doing 00:25:55.769 --> 00:25:58.730 behind closed doors produces the fruit of what 00:25:58.730 --> 00:26:03.259 happens outside of those doors. So what you do 00:26:03.259 --> 00:26:06.220 when you're not around people is going to help 00:26:06.220 --> 00:26:08.539 you produce even better fruit with the people 00:26:08.539 --> 00:26:11.099 that you're living life with and pursuing your 00:26:11.099 --> 00:26:14.660 calling alongside of. That's what I'm going to 00:26:14.660 --> 00:26:17.880 leave you with today. I know this was a lot. 00:26:17.920 --> 00:26:19.900 This was a longer episode. And maybe I'll do 00:26:19.900 --> 00:26:22.279 a few more episodes to break each piece of this 00:26:22.279 --> 00:26:25.579 down a little bit more and go into some different 00:26:25.579 --> 00:26:27.880 detail. Let me know if that would be worth it. 00:26:29.979 --> 00:26:32.059 And let me know if that would be worth it. Let 00:26:32.059 --> 00:26:34.019 me know what you'd be interested in hearing on 00:26:34.019 --> 00:26:35.599 an episode of the Pursuit of Calling podcast. 00:26:36.140 --> 00:26:38.740 Maybe you want me to dive into something. Maybe 00:26:38.740 --> 00:26:40.380 you want me to dive into something I talked about 00:26:40.380 --> 00:26:43.720 in a little bit more detail specifically. That'd 00:26:43.720 --> 00:26:46.440 be great to know because it helps me figure out 00:26:46.440 --> 00:26:51.119 what my listeners want to hear. And I would love 00:26:51.119 --> 00:26:54.240 to be able to serve you in that way. So go ahead 00:26:54.240 --> 00:26:57.759 and post that in the comments on YouTube, on 00:26:57.759 --> 00:27:01.880 Spotify, Apple Podcasts. We review a five -star 00:27:01.880 --> 00:27:05.859 on Spotify, Apple Podcasts. Maybe a thumbs up 00:27:05.859 --> 00:27:08.660 on YouTube. Smash that like button. Oh, that 00:27:08.660 --> 00:27:14.259 was cringy. And guys, don't forget to share on 00:27:14.259 --> 00:27:16.960 social media. And go on. Keep pursuing your calling. 00:27:17.200 --> 00:27:18.140 I'll see you next time.