WEBVTT 00:00:08.330 --> 00:00:11.269 What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit 00:00:11.269 --> 00:00:14.470 of Calling, the podcast that provides you with 00:00:14.470 --> 00:00:17.390 the strategies and tools needed to successfully 00:00:17.390 --> 00:00:20.890 discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's 00:00:20.890 --> 00:00:23.350 through inspiring stories, thought -provoking 00:00:23.350 --> 00:00:26.269 interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on 00:00:26.269 --> 00:00:28.670 personal growth and development, we've got you 00:00:28.670 --> 00:00:32.469 covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy 00:00:32.469 --> 00:00:41.549 the episode. Craig Rochelle said, you might be 00:00:41.549 --> 00:00:45.350 one community away from changing the course of 00:00:45.350 --> 00:00:49.429 your destiny. So the other day I attended a men's 00:00:49.429 --> 00:00:54.390 breakfast at Amplify Church, and we had an amazing 00:00:54.390 --> 00:00:56.969 turnout, we had a strong sense of community, 00:00:57.229 --> 00:00:59.909 and my friend Pastor Ed delivered a powerful 00:00:59.909 --> 00:01:10.579 message. One of the key messages From that, Pastor 00:01:10.579 --> 00:01:14.420 Ed, was don't walk through life alone. Because 00:01:14.420 --> 00:01:16.459 men really like to do things on their own. And 00:01:16.459 --> 00:01:21.359 never pursue your calling in isolation. Surround 00:01:21.359 --> 00:01:24.939 yourself with good men who will keep you accountable. 00:01:25.900 --> 00:01:28.939 So this was, this came in at kind of a perfect 00:01:28.939 --> 00:01:33.329 timing. Because I was searching. for this week's 00:01:33.329 --> 00:01:35.030 topic. I wasn't really sure what I was going 00:01:35.030 --> 00:01:37.189 to talk about. And then I went to men's breakfast. 00:01:37.290 --> 00:01:39.890 I went to the men's breakfast. And Ed talked 00:01:39.890 --> 00:01:42.769 about that. He talked about having other people 00:01:42.769 --> 00:01:45.709 in your corner, making sure that you're surrounding 00:01:45.709 --> 00:01:49.170 yourself with good men. And now this, I'm going 00:01:49.170 --> 00:01:54.250 to caveat real quick, this episode is going to 00:01:54.250 --> 00:01:56.629 be directed more towards men, but everything 00:01:56.629 --> 00:02:01.180 will still work for women as well. But for men, 00:02:01.260 --> 00:02:05.200 surround yourself with good men who, I'm going 00:02:05.200 --> 00:02:06.439 to give this later in my notes, but who will 00:02:06.439 --> 00:02:09.960 lift you up, who will push you to be better than 00:02:09.960 --> 00:02:12.080 who you are right now and help you course correct 00:02:12.080 --> 00:02:14.439 whenever you're starting to miss the mark. So 00:02:14.439 --> 00:02:17.560 the message aligns perfectly with this podcast 00:02:17.560 --> 00:02:22.000 mission of you, the listener, pursuing your calling. 00:02:22.759 --> 00:02:25.419 I want to be a little bit vulnerable for a moment. 00:02:27.340 --> 00:02:30.000 I've lost count of how many times I've tried 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:33.120 to do this journey alone. There were times I 00:02:33.120 --> 00:02:38.060 pushed away support thinking asking for help 00:02:38.060 --> 00:02:41.159 meant that I was weak. Or I never really thought 00:02:41.159 --> 00:02:45.979 about how asking for help would actually be beneficial 00:02:45.979 --> 00:02:50.340 instead of trying to do everything myself. But 00:02:50.340 --> 00:02:52.580 let me tell you something important. It isn't 00:02:52.580 --> 00:02:56.860 how life was meant to be. Today, we're going 00:02:56.860 --> 00:02:59.599 to explore some practical ways to pursue your 00:02:59.599 --> 00:03:03.460 calling alongside others who can support and 00:03:03.460 --> 00:03:07.560 encourage you. John Maxwell says, if you want 00:03:07.560 --> 00:03:10.900 to go fast, go alone, but if you want to go far, 00:03:11.199 --> 00:03:15.120 go together. So one of the first points I want 00:03:15.120 --> 00:03:18.199 to make is look at who is already in your corner. 00:03:19.240 --> 00:03:23.099 Who do you already trust? Who do you look up 00:03:23.099 --> 00:03:27.569 to? Who are the people that whenever I say, who 00:03:27.569 --> 00:03:29.969 do you trust, who do you think about? And whenever 00:03:29.969 --> 00:03:31.969 I say, who do you look up to, who are the mentors 00:03:31.969 --> 00:03:36.810 in your life? Or maybe, and this might not be 00:03:36.810 --> 00:03:39.349 a person that you know personally. Hopefully 00:03:39.349 --> 00:03:41.789 you do have some people in your life personally 00:03:41.789 --> 00:03:45.129 for both of these. But there might be certain 00:03:45.129 --> 00:03:47.210 authors of books. Maybe there's like some of 00:03:47.210 --> 00:03:49.770 the people I'm quoting today. I think it was 00:03:49.770 --> 00:03:55.870 Craig O'Shell and John Maxwell. I look up to 00:03:55.870 --> 00:03:59.669 those men. I don't know them personally. I consider 00:03:59.669 --> 00:04:03.129 them mentors in my life. Then recognize your 00:04:03.129 --> 00:04:05.449 blind spots. Now this one we're going to need 00:04:05.449 --> 00:04:08.849 some people physically around us. We all have 00:04:08.849 --> 00:04:11.689 areas we can't see clearly. We have weaknesses, 00:04:11.909 --> 00:04:15.509 patterns we don't really know about, gaps in 00:04:15.509 --> 00:04:22.060 wisdom. We don't know what we don't know. To 00:04:22.060 --> 00:04:23.779 be honest, I used AI to help me with my notes 00:04:23.779 --> 00:04:26.779 a little bit, and it gave me this quote, completely 00:04:26.779 --> 00:04:33.040 original. Actually, I made sure it was. But essentially, 00:04:33.339 --> 00:04:35.399 having these people in your corner, it's like 00:04:35.399 --> 00:04:41.860 having somebody hold up a mirror to your face. 00:04:42.000 --> 00:04:46.420 Now, what do I mean? The quote that AI made was, 00:04:46.519 --> 00:04:49.750 you can't correct what you can't see. And sometimes 00:04:49.750 --> 00:04:52.350 it takes a brother to hold up a mirror. Whenever 00:04:52.350 --> 00:04:55.649 I'm looking in the camera right now, or maybe 00:04:55.649 --> 00:04:57.790 if I'm just looking at a wall or I'm just living 00:04:57.790 --> 00:05:03.949 my life, I can't see myself. I don't know if 00:05:03.949 --> 00:05:05.810 this is what it's saying, but part of what I'm 00:05:05.810 --> 00:05:07.470 thinking about, sometimes the problem is us, 00:05:07.509 --> 00:05:11.009 right? Sometimes we're the problem and we have 00:05:11.009 --> 00:05:12.550 to have a brother hold up a mirror and be like, 00:05:12.629 --> 00:05:17.399 this, do you see this feature? This weakness, 00:05:17.939 --> 00:05:21.339 do you see this piece in you? And they point 00:05:21.339 --> 00:05:26.339 it out in a loving, brotherly way or in a mentoring 00:05:26.339 --> 00:05:30.220 way. And now that you know about it, you can 00:05:30.220 --> 00:05:32.800 work on improving that area of your life and 00:05:32.800 --> 00:05:36.079 continue to pursue your calling at a higher capacity 00:05:36.079 --> 00:05:40.019 than how you were before. One thing, another 00:05:40.019 --> 00:05:45.379 thing. I want to ask you, who were you thinking 00:05:45.379 --> 00:05:48.939 of during that first question? Who do you trust? 00:05:48.980 --> 00:05:52.160 Who are your mentors? That type of thing. If 00:05:52.160 --> 00:05:53.620 you've ever written them down, I'm going to task 00:05:53.620 --> 00:05:56.699 you with writing those people down. Who are those 00:05:56.699 --> 00:06:01.600 men? Then share what you believe you're called 00:06:01.600 --> 00:06:03.399 towards. Share what you believe your calling 00:06:03.399 --> 00:06:09.019 is with these men. Ask if they feel like you're 00:06:09.019 --> 00:06:12.980 on the right track. Ask them if they know you 00:06:12.980 --> 00:06:16.339 well enough. Ask them if they feel like you're 00:06:16.339 --> 00:06:19.379 on the right track. Does this sound like something 00:06:19.379 --> 00:06:25.220 that is at my core? Because that's what your 00:06:25.220 --> 00:06:27.500 calling is. Your calling is your why through 00:06:27.500 --> 00:06:30.459 life. Maybe they feel like you're missing the 00:06:30.459 --> 00:06:33.560 mark somewhere or they notice where you can improve 00:06:33.560 --> 00:06:35.620 in pursuing this calling that is on your life. 00:06:35.699 --> 00:06:39.319 Maybe they're like, yeah, that is exactly who 00:06:39.319 --> 00:06:42.939 you are. That is exactly what I see in you. And 00:06:42.939 --> 00:06:45.660 then you can ask, how can I improve? How can 00:06:45.660 --> 00:06:49.860 I do this better? How can I pursue this part 00:06:49.860 --> 00:06:54.279 of my life better? Where are my weaknesses? A 00:06:54.279 --> 00:06:56.420 better way to ask that is, like we said before, 00:06:56.639 --> 00:07:00.139 where are my weaknesses? Where are my blind spots? 00:07:01.160 --> 00:07:04.339 What am I not strong at? So that will help you 00:07:04.339 --> 00:07:07.500 pursue that calling better. There's a quote from 00:07:07.500 --> 00:07:10.379 Tony Robbins I have. He says, the quality of 00:07:10.379 --> 00:07:13.620 your life is a direct reflection of the quality 00:07:13.620 --> 00:07:17.579 of your relationships. So do the relationships 00:07:17.579 --> 00:07:23.029 in your life that you currently hold. hurt or 00:07:23.029 --> 00:07:25.790 help your calling are they helping you or the 00:07:25.790 --> 00:07:29.110 helping you pursue your calling better or are 00:07:29.110 --> 00:07:31.670 they hurting you and pulling you back or even 00:07:31.670 --> 00:07:36.410 even i don't know if this is could be worse that 00:07:36.410 --> 00:07:38.730 is holding not just holding and maybe it's not 00:07:38.730 --> 00:07:41.170 holding you uh pushing you backwards but it's 00:07:41.170 --> 00:07:43.230 holding you where you're at so you're not just 00:07:43.230 --> 00:07:45.389 not you're not you're not regressing but you're 00:07:45.389 --> 00:07:47.509 also not progressing you're just maintaining 00:07:47.509 --> 00:07:50.860 do you get encouragement Or belittlement. Do 00:07:50.860 --> 00:07:56.420 these people help you to keep going? Or do they 00:07:56.420 --> 00:08:01.600 tell you to quit whenever life gets hard? Whenever 00:08:01.600 --> 00:08:04.339 you fail one time, they're like, yeah, man, that's... 00:08:04.339 --> 00:08:07.139 You can't... They're like, yeah, man, that's... 00:08:07.139 --> 00:08:12.779 Clearly, that's too much for you. Or maybe... 00:08:12.779 --> 00:08:16.509 Maybe... Don't do that right now. Maybe they'll 00:08:16.509 --> 00:08:18.769 have some good advice. Maybe they won't say quit. 00:08:18.889 --> 00:08:21.750 Maybe they'll just say take a break, which isn't 00:08:21.750 --> 00:08:24.370 bad advice. But if they're telling you to quit, 00:08:24.490 --> 00:08:27.490 I would say that relationship probably isn't 00:08:27.490 --> 00:08:31.490 as good as maybe you previously thought. I have 00:08:31.490 --> 00:08:33.710 another quote. I'm a little quote heavy today. 00:08:34.549 --> 00:08:38.429 The only way to grow fast is to do it together. 00:08:42.309 --> 00:08:44.269 That's a quote by Russell Brunson. So reach out 00:08:44.269 --> 00:08:46.570 to a friend or a mentor this week. Tell them 00:08:46.570 --> 00:08:48.029 what you're seeking to pursue, like I already 00:08:48.029 --> 00:08:52.649 said. What's a question that you would love the 00:08:52.649 --> 00:08:56.929 answer to when it comes to pursuing your calling? 00:08:59.039 --> 00:09:03.080 is a question that you would love the answer 00:09:03.080 --> 00:09:08.279 to. Maybe it's, like I've coached people with 00:09:08.279 --> 00:09:12.200 finances, I've coached people with one person 00:09:12.200 --> 00:09:13.940 I've mentioned before about writing their own 00:09:13.940 --> 00:09:17.759 children's book, and their calling is within 00:09:17.759 --> 00:09:20.539 that. Why they want to do that is within that. 00:09:20.860 --> 00:09:24.879 So maybe the answer that you need is what your 00:09:24.879 --> 00:09:28.159 calling even is. And I have episodes in the past 00:09:28.159 --> 00:09:32.379 about discovering your calling that you can go 00:09:32.379 --> 00:09:34.480 back to and listen to. And I definitely recommend 00:09:34.480 --> 00:09:38.000 it if you do not know what your calling is or 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:41.000 what your purpose is in life, what you were created 00:09:41.000 --> 00:09:45.360 for. However, if you have a different question, 00:09:45.539 --> 00:09:49.850 you have a question. Well, you already know what 00:09:49.850 --> 00:09:52.529 you're pursuing, but you're not sure what the 00:09:52.529 --> 00:09:55.870 next step might be. Who do you know that can 00:09:55.870 --> 00:09:57.909 help you get that answer? Who can help you get 00:09:57.909 --> 00:10:00.730 the answer that you're seeking? Who is doing 00:10:00.730 --> 00:10:03.090 those things that you want to be doing? Who's 00:10:03.090 --> 00:10:05.669 really good at what you want to be really good 00:10:05.669 --> 00:10:07.990 at? Who do you see as a mentor in that space? 00:10:08.230 --> 00:10:11.769 I'll task you with that today, and we're going 00:10:11.769 --> 00:10:14.330 to wrap it up there. So guys, if you enjoyed 00:10:14.330 --> 00:10:16.009 this episode of the Pursuit of Calling podcast, 00:10:17.179 --> 00:10:20.919 Please share it out. Share it out on social medias. 00:10:21.840 --> 00:10:24.500 And, man, I sound so old when I say social medias. 00:10:24.879 --> 00:10:26.779 Guys, make sure to give it a five -star review. 00:10:27.620 --> 00:10:30.679 And, guys, keep pursuing your calling. I'll see 00:10:30.679 --> 00:10:31.100 you next time.