WEBVTT 00:00:08.330 --> 00:00:11.250 What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit 00:00:11.250 --> 00:00:14.449 of Calling, the podcast that provides you with 00:00:14.449 --> 00:00:17.390 the strategies and tools needed to successfully 00:00:17.390 --> 00:00:20.949 discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's 00:00:20.949 --> 00:00:23.350 through inspiring stories, thought -provoking 00:00:23.350 --> 00:00:26.269 interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on 00:00:26.269 --> 00:00:28.670 personal growth and development, we've got you 00:00:28.670 --> 00:00:32.469 covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy 00:00:32.469 --> 00:00:43.350 the episode. All right, so I was on a walk the 00:00:43.350 --> 00:00:46.409 other day, and I was thinking about what I was 00:00:46.409 --> 00:00:49.890 thinking about, essentially. I was thinking about 00:00:49.890 --> 00:00:53.570 what I was going to record for the episode this 00:00:53.570 --> 00:00:58.130 week, and a thought popped into my head. I was 00:00:58.130 --> 00:01:01.270 like, how do I want to add value to my listeners 00:01:01.270 --> 00:01:06.209 today? How do I want to add value to my listeners? 00:01:08.989 --> 00:01:14.170 I was like, that's a great topic. I, being part 00:01:14.170 --> 00:01:16.930 of the Maxwell, being part of Maxwell leadership, 00:01:17.310 --> 00:01:21.310 I get to hear a lot about the Maxwell values. 00:01:22.430 --> 00:01:26.730 And one of them is being a person of value who 00:01:26.730 --> 00:01:29.569 adds value to people. It might sound arrogant 00:01:29.569 --> 00:01:33.049 to say I'm a person of value, but believing that 00:01:33.049 --> 00:01:35.890 in myself, believing that in myself or believing 00:01:35.890 --> 00:01:38.569 that if you believe that in yourself. that you're 00:01:38.569 --> 00:01:42.870 a person of value, then in turn that means you 00:01:42.870 --> 00:01:45.709 add value to people. That's what people of value 00:01:45.709 --> 00:01:54.129 do. So I thought of this in terms of what's the 00:01:54.129 --> 00:01:56.030 difference between a person who gives value and 00:01:56.030 --> 00:01:58.790 a person that takes it away. So in my head I 00:01:58.790 --> 00:02:01.209 was like, okay, we have givers and we have takers. 00:02:02.769 --> 00:02:06.939 A giver is intentional with people. whether that 00:02:06.939 --> 00:02:09.520 be how they spend their time, money, or attention 00:02:09.520 --> 00:02:12.120 when they're with these people, when they're 00:02:12.120 --> 00:02:15.159 with others. A taker spends time with people 00:02:15.159 --> 00:02:18.000 in order to get something from them, whether 00:02:18.000 --> 00:02:22.759 that be their time, money, or attention. A giver 00:02:22.759 --> 00:02:26.620 looks for ways to serve others, and a taker looks 00:02:26.620 --> 00:02:31.599 for ways to be served by others. A giver wonders 00:02:31.599 --> 00:02:36.930 how they can add value to others, And a taker 00:02:36.930 --> 00:02:40.949 wonders how they can gain value from others. 00:02:42.550 --> 00:02:51.990 So, when I was on my walk, let me think. Let 00:02:51.990 --> 00:02:54.229 me ask you, what does that make you think of? 00:02:55.169 --> 00:02:58.590 Are any of those areas, like, are you more of 00:02:58.590 --> 00:03:01.469 a giver or are you more of a taker? And I think 00:03:01.469 --> 00:03:03.090 most of us would say, oh, I'm more of a giver. 00:03:04.360 --> 00:03:09.740 A lot of us don't want to think that we're takers. 00:03:09.840 --> 00:03:12.139 We don't want to think that we're taking value 00:03:12.139 --> 00:03:15.500 away from anybody. And maybe that's not true 00:03:15.500 --> 00:03:19.080 in every area of your life, but maybe it is true 00:03:19.080 --> 00:03:22.240 in a few. Maybe it is true with certain people. 00:03:24.020 --> 00:03:26.719 So think about that. Think about maybe there's 00:03:26.719 --> 00:03:31.360 people that you don't like even, and maybe there's 00:03:31.360 --> 00:03:34.129 people that you don't like. That you actually, 00:03:34.289 --> 00:03:37.389 and they take value away from you, so in turn, 00:03:37.569 --> 00:03:43.990 you're taking value away from them. How could 00:03:43.990 --> 00:03:45.590 you add value to those people? How could you 00:03:45.590 --> 00:03:50.750 stop being a taker in that situation? Now, John 00:03:50.750 --> 00:03:53.990 Maxwell, he says he does five things every single 00:03:53.990 --> 00:03:58.449 day. He said he adds value to people. He said 00:03:58.449 --> 00:04:03.840 he values people. He thinks of ways to add value 00:04:03.840 --> 00:04:06.360 to people. He looks for ways to add value to 00:04:06.360 --> 00:04:10.020 people. Then he does things to add value to people. 00:04:10.280 --> 00:04:13.939 And five, I think I messed up the one, but five, 00:04:14.039 --> 00:04:18.319 he encourages others to add value to people. 00:04:20.500 --> 00:04:23.560 That's what the point of this episode is. The 00:04:23.560 --> 00:04:27.759 point of this episode is to encourage you to 00:04:27.759 --> 00:04:35.759 add value to others. And to encourage you to 00:04:35.759 --> 00:04:40.160 add value to others through your calling. How 00:04:40.160 --> 00:04:52.600 are you specifically equipped by God to add value 00:04:52.600 --> 00:04:55.579 to other people? What's your calling? What's 00:04:55.579 --> 00:04:58.839 your purpose? How do you want people's lives? 00:04:59.850 --> 00:05:01.750 How do you want people's lives to improve when 00:05:01.750 --> 00:05:05.990 they cross your path? One way I like to do that, 00:05:05.990 --> 00:05:09.370 as you know, is through my coaching. And I get 00:05:09.370 --> 00:05:14.069 to experience a client's aha moments when they 00:05:14.069 --> 00:05:18.290 realize their calling and their potential in 00:05:18.290 --> 00:05:25.910 that calling. There's people that I'm coaching. 00:05:27.149 --> 00:05:31.509 It's crazy whenever you realize how much more, 00:05:31.550 --> 00:05:33.410 like whenever people realize how much more potential 00:05:33.410 --> 00:05:37.170 that they have than they previously thought. 00:05:39.629 --> 00:05:43.129 I guarantee you, I know it's in myself too, I 00:05:43.129 --> 00:05:45.269 guarantee you that there's more potential in 00:05:45.269 --> 00:05:49.189 you than what you're thinking there is right 00:05:49.189 --> 00:05:54.170 now. You know, I was even planning on talking 00:05:54.170 --> 00:05:56.589 about this, and I'm actually going to make an 00:05:56.589 --> 00:05:59.790 episode on this, which I haven't prepared for 00:05:59.790 --> 00:06:04.649 yet, but I want to, because it felt right. By 00:06:04.649 --> 00:06:06.990 the time this episode comes out, I'm going to 00:06:06.990 --> 00:06:10.870 be 30. I'm recording this on April 26th, and 00:06:10.870 --> 00:06:17.649 I turn 30 tomorrow, April 27th. And I was just 00:06:17.649 --> 00:06:21.439 thinking about these last 10 years. And you might 00:06:21.439 --> 00:06:23.079 be thinking, where the heck am I going with this? 00:06:25.620 --> 00:06:30.540 But thinking over the last 10 years and how I've 00:06:30.540 --> 00:06:40.519 grown, how the potential I had, I didn't know 00:06:40.519 --> 00:06:43.000 about. I didn't know the potential that I had. 00:06:43.100 --> 00:06:44.959 I didn't know there was any potential to have. 00:06:45.660 --> 00:06:48.680 When I was 20, I didn't know what kind of potential 00:06:48.680 --> 00:06:54.620 I would have when I was 30. When I was 20, I 00:06:54.620 --> 00:06:55.920 didn't know what kind of potential I would have 00:06:55.920 --> 00:07:01.300 when I was 25. I didn't know the type of people 00:07:01.300 --> 00:07:03.980 that were going to be adding value to my life 00:07:03.980 --> 00:07:08.939 in these last 10 years, in this last decade. 00:07:09.040 --> 00:07:11.100 I didn't know the type of people that would be 00:07:11.100 --> 00:07:14.860 put in my path that were specifically adding 00:07:14.860 --> 00:07:19.800 value to me. To then influence me. without even 00:07:19.800 --> 00:07:22.040 them even knowing it, to add value to others. 00:07:24.300 --> 00:07:27.319 That's the calling in everybody's life. Now, 00:07:27.319 --> 00:07:30.519 I say everybody has a specific calling. Sorry, 00:07:30.639 --> 00:07:32.639 I've got to get my words out. And it's true. 00:07:33.759 --> 00:07:38.180 However, the purpose of that calling, and I've 00:07:38.180 --> 00:07:40.300 said it before, your calling is not for you. 00:07:40.819 --> 00:07:44.860 Your calling is to add value to other people 00:07:44.860 --> 00:07:49.790 around you. Your calling goes with you wherever 00:07:49.790 --> 00:07:52.910 you go. Your calling is a positive thing. It's 00:07:52.910 --> 00:07:57.790 an active thing to pursue your calling. So how 00:07:57.790 --> 00:08:01.189 can you use this calling, use this purpose as 00:08:01.189 --> 00:08:06.930 a value add to other people's lives? Oh, guys, 00:08:07.069 --> 00:08:11.209 you really got to think about that one. If you 00:08:11.209 --> 00:08:12.990 haven't answered the question yet, I asked before 00:08:12.990 --> 00:08:15.209 and I've asked it on previous episodes, but how 00:08:15.209 --> 00:08:17.250 do you want people's lives to improve having 00:08:17.250 --> 00:08:20.350 crossed your path? Dude, you got to answer that 00:08:20.350 --> 00:08:24.069 question. You got to answer that question. How 00:08:24.069 --> 00:08:26.029 do you want people's lives to improve when they 00:08:26.029 --> 00:08:28.649 cross your path? After they leave your presence, 00:08:29.089 --> 00:08:35.190 how should their life be better? What value are 00:08:35.190 --> 00:08:41.720 you adding to them? You're thinking the context, 00:08:42.100 --> 00:08:44.580 that you can't wrap your mind around that context. 00:08:44.679 --> 00:08:49.539 Maybe you're thinking, let me give you a quick 00:08:49.539 --> 00:08:53.139 example, actually. So the way I answer that question 00:08:53.139 --> 00:08:58.960 is that I want people's lives to improve with 00:08:58.960 --> 00:09:04.480 being given a tool to pursue their calling well. 00:09:08.629 --> 00:09:11.350 pursue or discover their calling well. And that's 00:09:11.350 --> 00:09:15.190 not always by me, like, directly saying, like, 00:09:15.230 --> 00:09:17.570 here's a book. Sometimes it is. But we're like, 00:09:17.710 --> 00:09:19.330 here's a different resource. Here's a YouTube 00:09:19.330 --> 00:09:22.210 video. It's not always like that. Sometimes it's 00:09:22.210 --> 00:09:26.289 just being an example. How do I want somebody's 00:09:26.289 --> 00:09:28.409 life to improve having crossed my path? It's 00:09:28.409 --> 00:09:33.490 by being, by living in my purpose. It's by choosing 00:09:33.490 --> 00:09:40.720 my calling. Choosing to live in my calling. That 00:09:40.720 --> 00:09:43.320 example, that is seen by those other people and 00:09:43.320 --> 00:09:47.960 it influences them. I know that because people 00:09:47.960 --> 00:09:53.340 tell me. I know that because it's happening. 00:09:55.299 --> 00:09:57.600 It has happened, it's happening, it's going to 00:09:57.600 --> 00:09:59.679 continue to happen and it happens with you too. 00:09:59.940 --> 00:10:02.639 Whatever you're living in is what people are 00:10:02.639 --> 00:10:07.039 being influenced by. Oh, come on. Whatever you're 00:10:07.039 --> 00:10:09.000 living in, that's what people are being influenced 00:10:09.000 --> 00:10:11.419 by. If you're living in doubt, if you're living 00:10:11.419 --> 00:10:14.440 in shame, now, if you're living in doubt, if 00:10:14.440 --> 00:10:17.379 you're living in shame, if you're living in uncertainty 00:10:17.379 --> 00:10:21.440 of what's next, people might not be like, oh 00:10:21.440 --> 00:10:23.320 man, that person's not sure of themselves. Sometimes 00:10:23.320 --> 00:10:25.120 they would be, but maybe they're not always like 00:10:25.120 --> 00:10:27.919 that, but maybe they're just being influenced 00:10:27.919 --> 00:10:35.000 in a way our value is being added to them in 00:10:35.000 --> 00:10:39.000 a way that isn't to the extent that could be 00:10:39.000 --> 00:10:43.480 if you're truly living in your calling. That 00:10:43.480 --> 00:10:46.299 make sense? I might have jumbled that up a little 00:10:46.299 --> 00:10:51.039 bit. This was off the cuff, off the dome, because 00:10:51.039 --> 00:10:53.620 frankly, I didn't have enough notes. I got to 00:10:53.620 --> 00:10:59.039 the bottom. I was like, I got more to say. But 00:10:59.039 --> 00:11:03.360 guys, what is your calling? What is your purpose? 00:11:04.110 --> 00:11:08.289 How do you live in that well? And how do you 00:11:08.289 --> 00:11:12.610 add value to people? I'm going to say the five 00:11:12.610 --> 00:11:14.429 things that John Maxwell says he does every single 00:11:14.429 --> 00:11:19.570 day. He says he values people, one. Two, he says 00:11:19.570 --> 00:11:22.970 he thinks of ways to add value to people, three. 00:11:23.230 --> 00:11:28.889 He looks for ways to add value to people, that's 00:11:28.889 --> 00:11:31.580 three. Can I repeat myself? I might have. Four, 00:11:31.799 --> 00:11:35.679 he does things that add value to people. And 00:11:35.679 --> 00:11:37.759 five, he encourages others to add value to people. 00:11:38.559 --> 00:11:41.759 So what I said was people are influenced and 00:11:41.759 --> 00:11:46.139 people get value through you just living your 00:11:46.139 --> 00:11:49.519 life in your calling. But then there's also the 00:11:49.519 --> 00:11:53.120 intentional piece. Like John is saying, he's 00:11:53.120 --> 00:11:56.519 intentionally adding value to people. He's intentionally 00:11:56.519 --> 00:12:01.179 saying, He does things that add value to people, 00:12:01.279 --> 00:12:02.820 and these are things that he's thought about. 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:06.919 These are things that he's looking for. How can 00:12:06.919 --> 00:12:09.679 you serve others? Instead of being seeked to 00:12:09.679 --> 00:12:16.440 be served, how can you serve? Another great way 00:12:16.440 --> 00:12:18.440 I'm doing that, and you already know this, however, 00:12:18.700 --> 00:12:22.179 final plug, and then we're going to wrap up the 00:12:22.179 --> 00:12:27.240 episode. One new way I'm doing this is I'm opening 00:12:27.240 --> 00:12:31.299 up. a four -week mastermind. Now, if you're familiar 00:12:31.299 --> 00:12:33.639 with a church small group, it's kind of like 00:12:33.639 --> 00:12:37.759 that, actually, except it's 100 % focused on 00:12:37.759 --> 00:12:40.139 personal growth. Now, this is on the first four 00:12:40.139 --> 00:12:42.679 chapters of the 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth 00:12:42.679 --> 00:12:50.320 by John Maxwell, if you didn't know. And what 00:12:50.320 --> 00:12:54.159 these four weeks do, essentially, it's a conversation 00:12:54.159 --> 00:12:57.779 amongst a group of people. Maximum about 10. 00:12:59.039 --> 00:13:03.840 That is where each person gets to share how they're 00:13:03.840 --> 00:13:07.120 growing in that area of that chapter of that 00:13:07.120 --> 00:13:10.159 law of growth. And then we get to discuss how 00:13:10.159 --> 00:13:12.120 we're going to add it to our own lives. And then 00:13:12.120 --> 00:13:13.539 we get to have a conversation. We get to get 00:13:13.539 --> 00:13:15.320 feedback from other people and get to encourage 00:13:15.320 --> 00:13:19.860 each other. So if you want to sign up for that, 00:13:19.960 --> 00:13:23.340 I'm going to post a Google sheet, Google form 00:13:23.340 --> 00:13:27.750 in the show notes. So go ahead and check that 00:13:27.750 --> 00:13:30.769 out. And then, guys, I'm going to leave you with 00:13:30.769 --> 00:13:34.750 this. Imagine a world where everyone intentionally 00:13:34.750 --> 00:13:38.169 added value to those around them. Think about 00:13:38.169 --> 00:13:40.889 what we went over today. Are you intentionally 00:13:40.889 --> 00:13:43.889 looking for ways to add value to the people in 00:13:43.889 --> 00:13:48.210 your life? Are you a giver or are you a taker? 00:13:49.169 --> 00:13:52.059 All right, guys. I'm going to leave you with 00:13:52.059 --> 00:13:54.080 that. Thank you for listening to this episode 00:13:54.080 --> 00:13:57.139 of the Pursuit of Calling podcast. If you enjoyed 00:13:57.139 --> 00:14:00.100 this, you know, share it. Share it with your 00:14:00.100 --> 00:14:03.279 friends. Share the link. Give this podcast a 00:14:03.279 --> 00:14:07.240 five -star review. Guys, you know it. Keep pursuing 00:14:07.240 --> 00:14:07.879 your calling well.