WEBVTT 00:00:08.330 --> 00:00:11.269 What's going on, Pursuers? Welcome to The Pursuit 00:00:11.269 --> 00:00:14.449 of Calling, the podcast that provides you with 00:00:14.449 --> 00:00:17.390 the strategies and tools needed to successfully 00:00:17.390 --> 00:00:20.910 discover and pursue your calling. Whether it's 00:00:20.910 --> 00:00:23.350 through inspiring stories, thought -provoking 00:00:23.350 --> 00:00:26.269 interviews, or quick, insightful episodes on 00:00:26.269 --> 00:00:28.690 personal growth and development, we've got you 00:00:28.690 --> 00:00:32.469 covered. I'm your host, Thomas Carney. Enjoy 00:00:32.469 --> 00:00:41.490 the episode. Alright, so in this episode, Pursuers, 00:00:41.530 --> 00:00:43.829 I'm going to be diving into some health updates, 00:00:44.109 --> 00:00:48.850 a little bit of updates for my coaching, and 00:00:48.850 --> 00:00:50.810 then some good lessons I've been learning recently. 00:00:52.710 --> 00:00:56.229 So let me start with a bit of a personal update. 00:00:56.869 --> 00:00:59.590 Some things I've been walking through recently, 00:00:59.770 --> 00:01:03.899 especially around my health. So I found out, 00:01:03.899 --> 00:01:06.760 you might know, that I've been struggling with 00:01:06.760 --> 00:01:10.299 a condition called muscular dystonia and struggling 00:01:10.299 --> 00:01:13.719 less and less every day. Doesn't mean the pain 00:01:13.719 --> 00:01:16.319 goes down, but it means my mental fortitude is 00:01:16.319 --> 00:01:22.920 getting better. And I found out recently that 00:01:22.920 --> 00:01:28.849 the pain in my legs wasn't actually... And muscular 00:01:28.849 --> 00:01:31.209 dystonia, the issues I've been having with the 00:01:31.209 --> 00:01:33.969 muscles in my legs, has it been because of muscular 00:01:33.969 --> 00:01:36.670 dystonia, which is what I have in my upper body, 00:01:36.750 --> 00:01:39.329 mainly in my right arm and on the right side, 00:01:39.430 --> 00:01:43.689 which causes like muscular contractions. And 00:01:43.689 --> 00:01:45.890 for me, for some reason, a bunch of pain, even 00:01:45.890 --> 00:01:48.849 though my neurologist says dystonia isn't necessarily 00:01:48.849 --> 00:01:51.109 a painful condition, which I'm not really sure 00:01:51.109 --> 00:01:55.489 what that means yet. Really, though, in my legs. 00:01:56.280 --> 00:01:59.379 What it is, is it's stressed out muscles, essentially. 00:01:59.599 --> 00:02:03.400 I have shin splints, and my calves and my quads 00:02:03.400 --> 00:02:05.760 are all stressed out too, and they've been like 00:02:05.760 --> 00:02:10.479 that for almost a year. And thinking it was dystonia, 00:02:10.479 --> 00:02:12.979 I wasn't really trying to do anything that was 00:02:12.979 --> 00:02:16.599 going to heal it, because dystonia in and of 00:02:16.599 --> 00:02:20.599 itself isn't something that can be healed, by 00:02:20.599 --> 00:02:26.500 conventional means at least. I, you know, I was 00:02:26.500 --> 00:02:29.979 skeptical at first whenever I first heard this 00:02:29.979 --> 00:02:32.400 because, again, like I said, I believed it was 00:02:32.400 --> 00:02:35.039 dystonia for over a year. I believed it was permanent. 00:02:36.539 --> 00:02:40.979 And so my neurologist asked me to go to a musculoskeletal 00:02:40.979 --> 00:02:45.919 doctor. And when they confirmed it, when Jessica, 00:02:47.219 --> 00:02:52.669 my musculoskeletal doctor, confirmed... The diagnosis 00:02:52.669 --> 00:02:55.370 of it not being dystonia and then telling me 00:02:55.370 --> 00:03:00.430 what it was, I was so relieved. You might think 00:03:00.430 --> 00:03:07.150 it's weird to be relieved from that you have 00:03:07.150 --> 00:03:09.050 a weird condition, but I already knew I had a 00:03:09.050 --> 00:03:10.810 weird condition. I already knew my legs were 00:03:10.810 --> 00:03:13.610 in pain. It had been like that for a year. And 00:03:13.610 --> 00:03:16.530 the reason I felt relieved is because it can 00:03:16.530 --> 00:03:20.639 be fixed. And I start physical therapy on April 00:03:20.639 --> 00:03:23.879 29th. And that's a win. That's a blessing in 00:03:23.879 --> 00:03:28.319 my book. So I'm hopeful because I want to run 00:03:28.319 --> 00:03:32.219 again. I want to hit the bike trails again. And 00:03:32.219 --> 00:03:38.020 I want my legs to be out of pain, man. I've already 00:03:38.020 --> 00:03:40.000 started doing research and doing stretches and 00:03:40.000 --> 00:03:42.800 figuring out what I can be doing to help myself, 00:03:43.020 --> 00:03:51.800 help my body out of this. circumstance. But, 00:03:51.819 --> 00:03:54.280 you know, the biggest takeaway I've gotten out 00:03:54.280 --> 00:03:59.060 of this realization, I guess, or whatever you 00:03:59.060 --> 00:04:01.419 would call it, I've come into recently, is that 00:04:01.419 --> 00:04:03.740 my calling, this is Pursuit of Calling podcast, 00:04:04.039 --> 00:04:07.639 so if you didn't know, my calling is not tied 00:04:07.639 --> 00:04:11.099 to my circumstances. A calling is permanent. 00:04:12.099 --> 00:04:16.639 Circumstances are not. So I want to ask you, 00:04:17.920 --> 00:04:20.600 Have you ever believed something about your life 00:04:20.600 --> 00:04:25.240 or your situation was permanent? Only to find 00:04:25.240 --> 00:04:30.079 out there was something better in store. For 00:04:30.079 --> 00:04:33.519 me, like I said, I believe my legs were in a 00:04:33.519 --> 00:04:36.680 permanent condition. I believe my legs were going 00:04:36.680 --> 00:04:41.939 to be in pain for the rest of my life. And I 00:04:41.939 --> 00:04:44.319 came to terms with that. I was like, that's fine. 00:04:44.459 --> 00:04:50.699 I will deal. I will manage. and finding out that 00:04:50.699 --> 00:04:53.339 there is something better in store, that I actually 00:04:53.339 --> 00:04:57.000 have splints and other muscular issues, instead 00:04:57.000 --> 00:04:59.000 of being neurological with muscular, that's way 00:04:59.000 --> 00:05:03.180 better and is a blessing. So has something like 00:05:03.180 --> 00:05:05.540 that ever happened to you where you thought there 00:05:05.540 --> 00:05:07.519 was something permanent in your life, but it 00:05:07.519 --> 00:05:09.079 turns out there was something better in store? 00:05:11.680 --> 00:05:15.110 So on the other side of that, One thing that's 00:05:15.110 --> 00:05:19.189 been really keeping me encouraged lately is my 00:05:19.189 --> 00:05:22.670 coaching, is the coaching and the coaching process. 00:05:24.509 --> 00:05:30.810 So I keep getting reaffirmed in my calling as 00:05:30.810 --> 00:05:34.629 a coach. So I say that my calling and the purpose 00:05:34.629 --> 00:05:38.610 of this podcast is to provide the listeners, 00:05:38.649 --> 00:05:43.240 you and everyone in my life. with the tools needed 00:05:43.240 --> 00:05:47.100 to successfully discover and pursue their calling. 00:05:48.220 --> 00:05:53.500 And I say everyone, but it's really not everyone, 00:05:53.600 --> 00:05:55.620 I guess, is it? It's only those who have been 00:05:55.620 --> 00:05:59.920 called to serve. I can't provide everybody with 00:05:59.920 --> 00:06:02.860 the tools, because one, not everybody is going 00:06:02.860 --> 00:06:05.759 to accept the tools, or some people will put 00:06:05.759 --> 00:06:09.000 them down. But it's up to me to find out what 00:06:09.000 --> 00:06:11.720 the tools are. and then find the people who I 00:06:11.720 --> 00:06:20.240 can then provide those tools to. Recently, I 00:06:20.240 --> 00:06:23.019 started... One of the ways this has been reaffirmed 00:06:23.019 --> 00:06:27.920 is recently I've started coaching my friend Paul, 00:06:28.220 --> 00:06:30.379 who I met at the International Maxwell Conference. 00:06:31.060 --> 00:06:36.310 So we've started... We started kind of swapping 00:06:36.310 --> 00:06:39.629 services, I guess you could say. So one week 00:06:39.629 --> 00:06:41.509 I'll coach him, the next week he'll coach me. 00:06:42.230 --> 00:06:46.230 And the first time I coached him, he got some 00:06:46.230 --> 00:06:48.490 good stuff out of it. And the way I know that 00:06:48.490 --> 00:06:51.189 is one, he told me. And two, at the start of 00:06:51.189 --> 00:06:57.009 the next session, he wants to write a book. And 00:06:57.009 --> 00:07:00.110 at the start of the next session, he told me 00:07:00.110 --> 00:07:06.040 that The next day after our first session, after 00:07:06.040 --> 00:07:09.079 I told him to write down his action steps, he 00:07:09.079 --> 00:07:12.040 ended up writing for three hours the next morning. 00:07:13.339 --> 00:07:18.160 He ended up being promoted into action, pushed 00:07:18.160 --> 00:07:26.360 into action as a result of the coaching that 00:07:26.360 --> 00:07:33.069 I was able to provide him. It reminded me that 00:07:33.069 --> 00:07:42.430 good questions can unlock progress. So what's 00:07:42.430 --> 00:07:45.250 something you're doing right now that affirms 00:07:45.250 --> 00:07:48.449 your purpose? Are you doing something right now 00:07:48.449 --> 00:07:51.509 that affirms your purpose? Maybe you can even 00:07:51.509 --> 00:07:56.930 think about something. What's something you're 00:07:56.930 --> 00:07:58.670 doing right now, I'm going to say it again, that 00:07:58.670 --> 00:08:02.509 affirms your purpose? You might think nothing 00:08:02.509 --> 00:08:05.569 right now. Maybe, again, maybe you're in a position 00:08:05.569 --> 00:08:07.410 that you don't know what your purpose or your 00:08:07.410 --> 00:08:14.769 calling is. So let me ask the question, you can 00:08:14.769 --> 00:08:16.870 ask the purpose question of how you want people's 00:08:16.870 --> 00:08:19.490 lives to improve having crossed paths with you. 00:08:20.370 --> 00:08:22.670 And then come back to that question, what's something 00:08:22.670 --> 00:08:24.629 you're doing right now that affirms that purpose, 00:08:24.870 --> 00:08:32.379 that affirms that calling? And like, but coaching 00:08:32.379 --> 00:08:35.460 doesn't always happen like that. Coaching isn't 00:08:35.460 --> 00:08:37.179 always easy. It's something I'm learning after 00:08:37.179 --> 00:08:40.279 now having done it for about, I think I've done 00:08:40.279 --> 00:08:43.120 eight hours worth of coaching so far, which doesn't 00:08:43.120 --> 00:08:46.080 sound like a lot, but it's been over a span of 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:48.820 multiple weeks. And for 30 minutes of session, 00:08:49.080 --> 00:08:54.080 it's like, I've been learning a lot. So my, but 00:08:54.080 --> 00:09:00.340 my coach, I said, it's always easy. And I also 00:09:00.340 --> 00:09:01.960 have been learning that it's a stretching process. 00:09:02.059 --> 00:09:04.799 There's a lot of growth that is happening, not 00:09:04.799 --> 00:09:08.820 just for the clients, but also for myself. Coaching 00:09:08.820 --> 00:09:12.679 is fun and meaningful, like I said, but it's 00:09:12.679 --> 00:09:15.600 also challenging. The hardest part, you know, 00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:18.320 I said earlier that I'm learning that asking 00:09:18.320 --> 00:09:20.539 questions can promote action, but the hardest 00:09:20.539 --> 00:09:24.419 part of coaching is actually asking the right 00:09:24.419 --> 00:09:27.940 questions. You know, I'm learning to be okay 00:09:27.940 --> 00:09:32.220 with pausing to think. I think sometimes, I know 00:09:32.220 --> 00:09:34.620 sometimes during sessions, I think one thing 00:09:34.620 --> 00:09:38.840 I'm struggling with right now is that one thing 00:09:38.840 --> 00:09:42.840 I'm struggling with right now is learning to 00:09:42.840 --> 00:09:48.159 pause and reflect on what the client had just 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:53.259 said so that I can kind of formulate, I guess 00:09:53.259 --> 00:09:56.279 you'd say. A genuine question that's going to 00:09:56.279 --> 00:10:00.379 promote them into action. Eventually. Or a question 00:10:00.379 --> 00:10:03.860 that's going to promote growth. A question that's 00:10:03.860 --> 00:10:07.000 meaningful. When I say, quote unquote, the right 00:10:07.000 --> 00:10:10.480 question, I want to be asking questions that 00:10:10.480 --> 00:10:12.779 are meaningful to them. Like I said, that are 00:10:12.779 --> 00:10:15.559 going to promote growth or are going to promote 00:10:15.559 --> 00:10:23.539 action. One of the best questions I've asked 00:10:23.539 --> 00:10:27.200 recently is what could you be doing in the meantime 00:10:27.200 --> 00:10:34.279 to set yourself up for success? Hmm. What is 00:10:34.279 --> 00:10:38.120 something, what could you be doing in the meantime 00:10:38.120 --> 00:10:41.759 to set yourself up for success? Now there's some 00:10:41.759 --> 00:10:43.480 context that you're missing there. So let me 00:10:43.480 --> 00:10:50.320 fill you in. So over this, Over this time of 00:10:50.320 --> 00:10:53.059 having muscular dystonia, I've been giving advice 00:10:53.059 --> 00:10:54.980 on how to prepare for doctor's appointments. 00:10:57.039 --> 00:11:02.080 And I've gone into some doctor's appointments 00:11:02.080 --> 00:11:08.360 just unprepared, just going in and them asking 00:11:08.360 --> 00:11:10.919 me if I have any questions. I say no, because 00:11:10.919 --> 00:11:15.200 I don't. And they ask me what's been going on. 00:11:15.299 --> 00:11:21.399 I explain it to them the best I can. And I leave. 00:11:21.620 --> 00:11:25.440 And sometimes I would get good information, sometimes 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:28.080 I wouldn't. And some advice I was given was to 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:30.620 go in prepared. Go in with a list of questions 00:11:30.620 --> 00:11:32.519 that you're not leaving without getting answered. 00:11:34.139 --> 00:11:37.360 And I have also added and tacked on to that, 00:11:37.440 --> 00:11:39.399 I prepare those questions, but then I also prepare 00:11:39.399 --> 00:11:41.399 my explanations of what's been happening with 00:11:41.399 --> 00:11:44.200 my condition. Then I can already think about 00:11:44.200 --> 00:11:47.259 how I'm going to explain it to them whenever... 00:11:47.840 --> 00:11:51.259 They ask me because I know they will. So that 00:11:51.259 --> 00:11:55.120 is how I'm trying to maximize my time with these 00:11:55.120 --> 00:11:57.940 doctors because, honestly, you don't get a lot 00:11:57.940 --> 00:12:02.500 of time with them a lot of the time. And I want 00:12:02.500 --> 00:12:07.480 to ask you then, what's something you can do 00:12:07.480 --> 00:12:10.039 this week to better prepare for your next big 00:12:10.039 --> 00:12:15.990 moment? What's some questions you could be asking 00:12:15.990 --> 00:12:19.850 your boss, your mentors, or even God? What are 00:12:19.850 --> 00:12:22.509 some questions that you could be asking before 00:12:22.509 --> 00:12:25.990 the next time you go to your boss, the next time 00:12:25.990 --> 00:12:30.169 you sit down with your mentor? How can you be 00:12:30.169 --> 00:12:32.350 preparing and setting yourself up for success 00:12:32.350 --> 00:12:38.210 in these moments? You know, many of us wait until 00:12:38.210 --> 00:12:41.980 the event starts. But preparation is powerful. 00:12:43.379 --> 00:12:46.200 Preparation is powerful. Is that what you would 00:12:46.200 --> 00:12:52.080 call an alliteration? Oh, sorry. I left my heater 00:12:52.080 --> 00:12:57.059 on in the background. That's all right. So. As 00:12:57.059 --> 00:12:59.000 I wrap up this episode, I just want to leave 00:12:59.000 --> 00:13:03.080 you with, I just want to recap these main ideas. 00:13:03.379 --> 00:13:06.559 That your circumstances change, but your calling 00:13:06.559 --> 00:13:09.879 will not. Your calling is consistent, circumstances 00:13:09.879 --> 00:13:14.860 change. And then coaching, my coaching, and I 00:13:14.860 --> 00:13:16.879 want to say my coaching continues to affirm my 00:13:16.879 --> 00:13:21.080 purpose. And that it's not just there to affirm 00:13:21.080 --> 00:13:23.279 my purpose, it's there to affirm my client's 00:13:23.279 --> 00:13:27.960 purposes as well. And then I want you to think 00:13:27.960 --> 00:13:30.799 about those questions that I was asking. I want 00:13:30.799 --> 00:13:33.039 you to go back and listen and write down those 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:35.860 questions and write down the questions I asked 00:13:35.860 --> 00:13:39.759 and your answers to those questions. The final 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:44.299 one being, what questions should you be asking 00:13:44.299 --> 00:13:47.820 your boss, your mentor, or God? Another one that 00:13:47.820 --> 00:13:49.340 I really think that you should be asking yourself, 00:13:49.559 --> 00:13:51.899 what's something you're doing right now that 00:13:51.899 --> 00:13:55.950 affirms your purpose? And then what's one way 00:13:55.950 --> 00:13:58.529 you can prepare for something coming up in your 00:13:58.529 --> 00:14:02.190 life this week? What's one way you can prepare 00:14:02.190 --> 00:14:04.470 for something coming up in your life this week? 00:14:04.710 --> 00:14:08.409 I want you to answer that question. It's Tuesday 00:14:08.409 --> 00:14:14.190 today, leading into the rest of the week. What 00:14:14.190 --> 00:14:16.769 can you be doing? to prepare yourself for success. 00:14:17.049 --> 00:14:19.049 I just repeated myself like 10 times, but it's 00:14:19.049 --> 00:14:22.250 important. All right. Thank you for listening 00:14:22.250 --> 00:14:26.090 to this episode of The Pursuit of Calling. Guys, 00:14:26.230 --> 00:14:30.230 I hope you share this out with everyone. Share 00:14:30.230 --> 00:14:33.250 this out on every social media platform. Share 00:14:33.250 --> 00:14:35.070 this, actually share this episode, share the 00:14:35.070 --> 00:14:37.269 link. Don't forget to share the link with somebody 00:14:37.269 --> 00:14:41.509 that is in their transition period in their lives, 00:14:41.629 --> 00:14:44.230 that is pursuing their purpose, pursuing their 00:14:44.230 --> 00:14:46.789 calling. and that you believe that this episode 00:14:46.789 --> 00:14:50.570 would truly benefit. All right, guys, see you 00:14:50.570 --> 00:14:54.049 in the next episode. Continue to pursue your 00:14:54.049 --> 00:14:54.990 calling well.