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What's going on, pursuers? Welcome to the Proceed of Calling podcast, where my goal

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and calling is to provide you with the tools and strategies needed to successfully discover

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and pursue your God-given calling. I'm your host, Thomas Carney, and today we're talking

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about something pretty cool. It's how you can get free coaching sessions for free.

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First off, what the heck is a coaching session? Okay, well, let me explain. First, well, it's

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a 30-minute conversation pretty much all about you. That's pretty cool. The goal of the first

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session, which is considered the intro session, is to introduce us to each other and to start

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the process of, well, you pursuing your calling or just continuing it on if you're already

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on that path.

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You know, I've asked some questions before, and I like to ask them in coaching, so I want

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to give you a little bit of a taste of the types of questions I ask during those sessions

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so you can get kind of a feel for it. One of the questions I actually have asked multiple

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times in past episodes, these questions I get from Valerie Burton, who is the main trainer

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for the coaching certification I'm getting with the Maxwell team. So I use it during

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these questions during my sessions and at the end of some episodes, like I said. One

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of the questions that I love to ask is, how is someone's life better when they cross paths

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with you, when they cross your path? How does somebody's life improve? I ask that question

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whenever I sense that somebody, one, isn't sure about what their purpose is. That is

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a purpose question. I ask that question, maybe first I'll ask, if I would ask you what your

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purpose is, what would you say? If you're not sure, then the next question I ask is

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this one, how is your life better when they cross paths with you? That causes a person

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to be introspective on their own life and how they interact with others and why they

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interact with others the way that they interact with them. And that is a hint that is not

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just a hint, that is like a very clear indication of what your purpose is. And I think if we

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said it before, your purpose, your calling goes with you wherever you go. It's not just

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one particular thing. Another question that I haven't asked on a podcast before, but I

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like to ask, I like is, what are you afraid will happen if you do what you really want

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to do? Maybe you're afraid that when you pursue this part of your life, maybe when you say

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you pursue your calling, you're afraid you're going to fail. Maybe you're like me and you're

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a perfectionist and you can't, you're so afraid to start because you're going to, because

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you're so worried about messing up. Maybe you're afraid that you'll succeed if you pursue this

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goal, pursue your calling and you'll leave other people, maybe you're afraid that you'll

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succeed and leave other people behind. And that's something we walk through during the,

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a coaching session to figure out why you aren't doing this, why you aren't pursuing your calling

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with the excellence that you could be pursuing it with. And then a question that's really

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good is what will you gain by reaching this goal? There are things called performance

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goals and there are growth goals. And both of these, you can ask this question, what

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you gain by reaching this goal? So, or like what is the positive outcome from achieving

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this goal? So those are some things to really think about. Me with my coaching, I want to

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pursue, I'll give you an example. I want to pursue the, I want to pursue my business,

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my coaching business. I want it to be my full time, I would love for it to be my full time

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career one day. And for me, that would mean I could just serve people at a higher capacity

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within my own calling. That means there's no cap on my financial income. That income

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is definitely a part of it, but it's not the sole reason I want to coach. If it's financial

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reason, I could have chose anything else, but I chose coaching for a very particular

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reason because my calling is to revive people with tools they need to successfully pursue

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their God given calling. And I discovered that on this journey of personal development

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and growth. So these questions, these are the questions I get to ask you one on one

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whenever you have a coaching session. I honestly, I get to kind of prod a little bit and prod

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and I get to dig, which I really enjoy. And not dig into your life, but dig into you and

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who you are. And then, cause then whenever we, cause we're not, I love this phrase before

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I'm going to see if I get it right. Cause it's not my notes, but when we're, when we're

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coaching, there's a phrase called we are, we are mining for gold, not digging for dirt.

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Right? So, Oh, I love this. This was even in my, Oh my gosh. Thank you. Thank you, Lord.

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So there's, so what that means, if you don't understand, if, if, if it's not clear dirt

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is what's on the surface. You might know, or now you might get where I'm going. Dirt

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is what's on the surface whenever you're, and we're not digging for dirt. We're not

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just, we're not going to surface level. We're going deep in these sessions. We're looking

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for the gold that's in your life. I remember a previous episode way back whenever Sean

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was still here, the podcast was still technically short and Brandon, Brandon Major talked about

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speaking the gold out on other people. And that's honestly another great thing to think

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about. It's like, cause whenever you speak the gold out and somebody else, that means

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there are things that people see in you, the other people that you don't see. And that

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like, so, so whenever, if you're going to speak the gold out and other people, ask other

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people to speak the gold out in you. And that's what the purpose of the coaching session is.

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I get to see the gold and show it to you. Like take that gold from you and put it in

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front of your face. Be like this, this is, this is you. You've said all of these things

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and this, this, you said all of these things about this situation and that situation. And

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from the external perspective, I can see that this, this is the gold. This is the theme.

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This is your, this is the theme of why you do what you do that. That's, and that you

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can tell me if I'm wrong about that. That's why I love, I don't assume I'm right. I,

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coaches, we don't, we don't, good coaches don't assume that they're right. We, we,

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we look and ask and I, Hey, does this make sense? Does this make sense? Like, do you

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want to add or take anything away from what I just said about you? So that's why I, I

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want to say like coaching, like it's not, yeah, I want, like, I think that makes sense.

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I keep trying to go off, off my notes. I'm going to keep, I'm going to keep moving on

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because I don't want to, I want to make sure this is clear. So I want to say coaching,

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like I say, those are the one on one, one on one questions I get asked. And now I want

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to say coaching is a catalyst for your exponential growth, exponential personal growth, helping

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you reach your goals. A coach is there to provide accountability, ensuring you follow

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through on your commitments in order to achieve your goals and bring your vision to life.

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Now, recently I decided that I really needed to kick my coaching business off with something

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a little crazy. And I told you this already. So I decided that I'm going to give away three

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free coaching sessions to whoever signs up within the next 30 days. Because I, I want

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to, I want to serve really. That's it. I want to serve and my name isn't out there. People

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aren't just lining up at my door yet. So like, I, I want to say, I want to just give you

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three coaching sessions. And I'm going to be honest, I'm going to get into this later,

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but there's no real reason why you shouldn't sign up. If you believe there's more for your

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life because, because like all I'm asking is 30 minutes of your time. I said, it's a

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30 minute conversation. If you hate the first session, don't sign up, don't sign up for

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a second one. Like you're not going to hurt my feelings. I'll probably, I'll probably

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learn something if the, if you hate the first one, because that means maybe I did something

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wrong. However, I haven't had that happen yet. So I'm pretty sure I have, I just, to

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be honest, I've already started giving some of these sessions away. And like I said, I

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haven't had anybody say, no, I don't want to sign up for a second one. So maybe if you

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know somebody that possibly is being coached right now, ask them what it's about. Ask them.

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Maybe you know one of my clients and they've told you that they're, they're being coached.

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Ask them what it's like. And if maybe you should, and maybe you should sign up for three

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days for, for three coaching sessions. Now I've been pushing myself a lot recently to

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be the best I can be in these, in some very specific areas of my life, in my face, in

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my relationships, in my personal growth, in my health, and in my business, my, I'm doing

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this so I can push myself to hold myself to a higher standard so that I want to be an

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example, but also so I can serve it at my highest ability. And I'm not perfect at this.

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I obviously, I'm not, I'm not, I'm human and I know I have my mistakes. Health is an

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area I'm struggling with right now. That's because I don't want to say just because I

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know there's multiple reasons. Health is like, I'm not in poor health, but I'm not where

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I want to be. And there's people I know that can help me out with that. So that's like

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something I'm being vulnerable with you with. That's something I'm not strict, not strict

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with myself, don't have enough accountability on it. That's something I need to work on.

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I know that. So that's something I need to pursue better. So, you know, all, all that

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to say, I've already started, I say I already started getting the free sections away. I

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jumped ahead of my notes. So the people I coach are those who have big dreams and a

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vision for their lives. You know, not everyone knows that the calling, what the calling is

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that God has for them. Some people don't even know that there is a calling on their life.

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So if you didn't, if you didn't know that there's a calling on your life already, well,

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I'm going to be, let me be the first to tell you, God has a calling for your life. Big

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old G, big G God, capital G God has a calling for your life. And that, you know, and maybe

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you're not a Christian, maybe you don't believe in God and that's okay. Like that doesn't

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count you out from there being a purpose on your life, regardless of what you believe

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in God. Now I say at the beginning, I say at the beginning of every episode that my

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goal and calling, I changed it from purpose to calling because even though they're interchangeable,

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I like the word calling. My goal and calling is to provide people with the tools they need

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to successfully discover and pursue their God given calling. That's the purpose of my

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life and of my coaching. So if you want to join me in a conversation about how you can

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live life in and for your calling, I want you to click the link in the show notes of

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this episode. It will say, click here to sign up for your free intro session. Click here

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to start the free or click here to start the your first, your one of three coaching sessions.

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Something like that will be in the show notes. You know, I can't wait. This is going to sound

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corny. I can't wait to have this conversation, but I want to say like your calling is calling

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you. God is calling. Your calling is calling. Keep pursuing. No one is going to do it for

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you. Nobody's going to pursue your calling for you. I need, I don't need you to click

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the link. That's not my prerogative. I almost said that. That's not right. That's not true.

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But no one is going to pursue your calling for you. So click the link. The only, like

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I said, the only thing you have to lose is 30 minutes. Only thing you have to lose is

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30 minutes of your time. Can you spare 30 minutes to see, spare 30 minutes for your

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own personal growth? Does that sound worth it to you? I want to tell you though, I want

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to tell you like, if you're still curious whether you should sign up or not, I'm going

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to tell you about the people who should sign up. These people are teachable. These people

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are, they are people who want to grow. They're people who know that God has more for them

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in this life. They're people who are asking, and this was me, people who are asking, is

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this it? Is this all that life has? Am I, is where I'm at in my life where I'm going

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to be for the rest of my life. If you're asking that question, then sign up for a coaching

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session. Like do it, do it. Like just stop, don't even listen to the rest of the episode.

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Click the link and go sign up for a podcast. Sign up. Because this episode is almost over

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anyway. Just sign up for the coaching session. And if you want to know who shouldn't sign

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up, if you want to know if you shouldn't sign up for this session, I'm going to be honest

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and blunt with you. Just flip all of those on their head. If you're not teachable, which

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means you believe that you're always right. You believe that you can do no wrong, then

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don't sign up for a coaching session. If you're arrogant, don't sign up for this coaching

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session. If you, and it kind of falls in line with if you want to grow, if you don't want

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to grow, which essentially means that you don't think there is any growth to be had.

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If you don't believe there's a, there easy, if you don't believe there is a purpose on

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your life, honestly, honestly, I think you should sign up to be honest. If you don't

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believe I want to show you that there is to show you that you're wrong. If you don't believe

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that there's a purpose on your life, honestly, sign up. I'd love to have a conversation with

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you. But really I'm looking, really, I'm looking to have conversation with people who want

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to grow. If you feel like there's something more for you in this life, sign up, sign up,

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click the link. All right. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Proceed of Calling

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Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, go ahead and share it out on Facebook, Instagram, X,

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podcast would benefit, if you believe that this episode is using their people that should

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you can send them to this episode. Please. I would actually really appreciate that. And

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podcast, definitely give it a five star review on Spotify, Apple Podcast, wherever you listen

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to your podcasts. And guys, again, thank you. Thank you, pursuers. Keep pursuing. I'll see

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you next time.