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Welcome to the Pursuit of Calling podcast, Pursuers, where my goal and purpose is to

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provide you with the tools needed to successfully discover and pursue your God-given calling.

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I'm your host, Thomas Carney, and today we're answering the question, what is coaching?

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All right, so let's dive in.

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First, I want to say happy late New Year.

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I said it in the last episode, it was on 31st, it was New Year's Eve, now it's the New Year,

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so I have Happy New Year.

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Now we're in 2025.

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Let's dive in.

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So let's start off with saying what coaching is.

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Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to

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maximize their personal and professional potential.

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So I'm going to say coaching is not therapy.

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In other words, it's not focused on past issues that need to be resolved.

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Coaching is focused on present and future goals.

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So I know I just said a lot of stuff and I just kind of dove in and threw you guys into

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it.

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So first, I just want to kind of say all this stuff I'm learning right now.

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This is all stuff I'm honestly learning currently.

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It's like stuff I've known, but it's refreshing.

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I've been getting refreshers recently after joining the Maxwell leadership team.

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And all that means is that I'm an uncertified member and I'm working on getting my coaching

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certification through them, getting some new skills, so maybe some new vocabulary.

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But the skills of what we're focused on and a new understanding and a more refined understanding

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of what coaching is and really why I want to be a coach at all.

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So I want to give you a little bit of tidbits on what coaching really can do.

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So it can cause you to think thoughts you have never thought before.

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It will cause you to step out of your comfort zone.

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And for both you and me, the coach, it will unlock our imaginations, productivity and

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leadership potential.

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So I get it.

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That sounds pretty frilly.

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So let's break it down a little bit more.

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Everything I just stated, like they're really like the goals of coaching.

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And I was going to play I was gonna play on saying this later.

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But the biggest the whole point of coaching is getting from getting you getting you or

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whoever signs up to be coached.

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It's to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

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Okay, that's the whole premise.

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The whole premise.

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So really, like, as a coach, it's my position.

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It's my it's my position to just shut up and listen to ask questions that like I was said

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before provoked thoughts in the in my clients heads that may that maybe they wouldn't have

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had or maybe they just wouldn't have had it so soon.

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You know, the idea isn't that you need a coach to be successful is that when you have a coach

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that that you know, a coach that knows what they're doing, the rate at which you'll reach

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your goals grows at an exponential rate.

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I get it.

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That's more fairly words.

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Let me let me give you a little bit more.

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So your coach or if you hire a coach or if you hire me as your coach, I would ask you

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some questions.

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You would answer those questions in the best way that you know how.

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And then based off your response, I'm paying attention.

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I'm listening to what you're saying.

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I'm paying attention to how you're saying it.

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If there's a video and paying attention to body language to voice inflection, to pauses

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and then I'm going to ask you a question based on your response.

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It's really just to continuous question.

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I ask a question.

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You give you give your response.

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I ask another question.

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The goal is not for me to mentor you.

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The goal is not for me to tell you what to do is to pull the things out of your head.

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They're already there and to help you facilitate them in a way that will like I said before,

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it will help you understand how you can get from where you are to where you want to be.

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Really it's like you have to understand that you already have that potential inside of

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you and all the coach does is coaches as a thought facilitator.

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Like you can think about it like that.

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A coach is at least this kind of coach is a thought facilitator.

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It's taking these skills, maybe even helping you facilitate some new skills of how to reevaluate

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the thoughts that you're having and using them in a way to construct goals to create

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potential action items for you to be able to get from where you are to where you want

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to be.

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So to really give you a gist of what this is, I'm going to walk you through a little

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bit of an exercise.

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First is that's all right with you.

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And I'm going to first pick an area of your life.

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I want you to pick an area of your life that you'd like to focus on.

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This could be personal, professional, whatever you want it to be.

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What would you so now that you picked it, what would you say your ultimate goal is in

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that area?

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If you're not sure that's okay, just pick something that you would be incredibly satisfied

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if you achieved it.

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Next, think about what it would look like to finally and actually accomplish this goal.

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Envision that in your mind.

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How would it feel to actually accomplish this goal?

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Now answer this, when now that you've envisioned what it would be like to actually accomplish

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that goal, what did you have to do to get yourself to this point where your goal was

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finally achieved?

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Like, what did you have to learn?

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How did you have to grow?

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Those are actual questions I'm asking you and those questions I want you to think about.

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I'm asking them fast, but this is something you can think of, you can pause, write something

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down or just think about it after the episode.

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So finally, what is the one thing now you've kind of you've thought through your you figure

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out what your goal is, you figure out what your goal is, you figure out what you're going

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to need to learn and how you're going to need to grow?

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What is one thing you can practically do today to get you closer to that point of achievement

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to get you from where you are to where you want to be?

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So you know, if again, if I were coaching you one on one, I would probably follow this

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up by asking you what day you're going to do that practical action step on, you know,

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wink, wink, hint, hint, the write down the date, write down the time that you said you're

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actually that you're going to you're going to do this action action step.

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And maybe it's maybe it's maybe it's a I'm actually want to do a actually want to make

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maybe I want to reach out to 10 people.

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And it's like, okay, you can either you can do that today, you can make you can spread

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it out if you want to make it as realistic as possible to you.

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Maybe you're maybe your day is jam packed, you can reach out to 10 people in one day,

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where you can spread that out.

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Like the point of doing all of this and point of doing this whole exercise is to show you

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that like once you've finally kind of walked through this yourself, you can understand

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that like, this is like just the tip of the iceberg of what coaching is.

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Right?

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It's like I asked, I'm asking you questions through a camera right now through a microphone

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into your ears right now.

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And the but you're already thinking about things that you haven't thought of before.

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And if you already have thought of them thought of these before, congratulations, you're already

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ahead of the game.

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So like, they really I just want to use this episode uses time to give you an idea of what

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coaching is because I, I do have a I do have openings for whoever wants to have whoever

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would love to have a free coaching session with me to be able to accomplish something

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that they haven't been that they've been putting aside.

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Maybe they want to maybe you want to accomplish it faster than maybe that you think you could

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do it on your own.

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That's another great thing about coaching.

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Like I said before, you might not need a coach to accomplish what you want to accomplish,

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but having a coach will help you get there faster.

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And that's like regardless of whether you need a coach to get there or not.

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Some people need some people need it more than others.

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Some people need the accountability.

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That's a great thing that comes from coaching.

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And so I'm going to leave a link down down in the show notes where you can click you

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can click the schedule link, sign up for a free coaching session 100% free.

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While you don't ask for a credit card or anything, you just click on the link and you set the

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click on a link pick a time and we get to talk for about 30 to 45 minutes about your

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goals.

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We I get to tell you I'll tell you if you don't know me, I'm going to tell you a little

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bit more about me and why I even want to be a coach.

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That's something I believe I've talked about in other episodes, but I'll probably talk

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about it again at some point.

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But yeah, I want you to think about those questions though.

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If you already if you if you weren't sure if you want to be listening to those questions,

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you know, this is recording you can go back.

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The whole point like I said the whole point of coaching I said this before I'm gonna say

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it again the whole point of coaching is to get you from where you are to where you want

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to be.

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And that's really what I want to help you do.

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I want to get you from where you are right now to where you want to be in your future.

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This can be like this can be career wise.

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This can be career wise.

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It's gonna be relationally with friends.

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This can be maybe you want to start your maybe you want to start your own business.

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Coaches don't have to be an expert in the field that you're looking to achieve.

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All right, guys, thank you for listening to this whole episode of the pursuit of calling

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pursuers, I'll see you next time.

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Keep on pursuing.