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Hey, Pursuers. Welcome to the Pursuit of Calling podcast, where my goal and purpose is to provide

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the strategies and tools to successfully discover and pursue your God-given calling. I'm your

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host, Thomas Carney, and today I'm being a little bit more vulnerable with you guys.

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And real quick, before we dive into the episode, I want to say last week I talked about the

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Discover Your Calling planning guide, and I've gotten some pretty good feedback on it.

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If you'd like to get your own copy, head over to thepursuitofcalling.com and get it now.

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All right, welcome to the episode, guys. So this week, I'm going to be honest with you.

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I did not prepare as much as I usually do, which kind of led me to kind of sit down this

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morning and think about what I was I going to record about today. And I decided that

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it was maybe time to be a little bit more vulnerable with you guys. I woke up this morning

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feeling extremely overwhelmed. I went to sleep feeling extremely overwhelmed and woke up

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feeling just as overwhelmed, if I'm being honest. And the reason that is, partially,

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is because I have so many things that I want to do. So many things, so many goals, like

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a big giant goal that I've talked about here on the podcast before, about being a life

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coach and having a successful business where I can have that be my main income. And then

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the overwhelming part of that is, well, the goal is exciting. The overwhelming part is

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everything that goes into that. And that includes this podcast and recording episodes preparing

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for the episodes during the week and making sure I'm reaching out to guests and just line

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them up for the podcast. And things like going and not just focusing on the podcast, but

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also on creating things like the discover your calling planning guide, which I love

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that I did and is a testament to a lot of things that I've learned. Like the last episode

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I was actually really proud of. If you haven't listened to it, I really would love if you

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would go back and do that. Because there's also things, I'm sending that episode out

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to people directly because I know it's something that can help people. Another thing, it got

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really discouraging whenever I saw my analytics, which means like my viewership or listenership

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of the podcast for some reason from one week to the next, it got chopped in half and I

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don't know why. And some algorithmic change or something like that, I'm not sure. And

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that was discouraging, but as I was preparing for this episode, I wasn't even planning on

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talking about this, but as I was planning on planning on what I was going to talk about

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for this episode and I realized what was one thing that's holding me back. And this is

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in my notes, but it's that I tend to want to do everything myself one, and I tend to

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want to do everything myself right now. I'm probably not the only person listening to

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this that can relate. There's, I like to do everything myself because I wanted to make

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sure it's going to be done well, but then I also want to do everything myself because

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I feel like sometimes I just suck at delegating if I'm being completely honest with you. And

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so that's something that as I was writing this out, I was like, why am I so overwhelmed?

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It's because I feel like there's all these things that I need to do and there's, there

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is, these are just things that need done and it doesn't mean that necessarily that I have

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to do them. And I'm realizing that as I was writing, as I was writing this out, things

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that I maybe I've known this for a while, but as I was writing this out of having honestly

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days of feeling this overwhelming overwhelming this in my body, I realized I was like, well,

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I know people that may be able to help. So I started reaching out to people right while

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I was writing my notes out for this episode, sort of reach out to people and ask, ask for

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help. I'm going to get to the, what I'm asking for in a second, but I went also, I just wanted

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to be like, say like, that's not the only thing in my life that I've been overwhelmed

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by because clearly I have, you know, that I have this medical condition called muscular

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dystonia and I like to do research on that, which I haven't been doing a lot of recently.

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And I also like to say, I'm trying to set up doctor's appointments and make sure I'm

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staying on top of that. And it's sitting on top of my vocational rehab social worker guy,

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who frankly isn't that great at his job. And so I have to keep tracking him down to make

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sure things get done on that route. And then I, there's just things that, that feel like

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they just keep, keep getting added to my plate because then there's my full-time job with

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all of that. And like, and then it's just a lot. And I'm not, I don't want to sound

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like I'm, I don't, I don't want it to sound like I'm complaining to you guys. I just wanted

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to be vulnerable and be like, guys, I need help. Like, um, I've been talking with my

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therapist and we try and figure, we're trying to figure out like, maybe it's like, what

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something I'm eating is causing me all this stress. And maybe that's potentially part

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of it, but I'm thinking I'm coming down to this realization that every, I, I, every time

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I get to this point in my life where I'm, I am running towards this goal of becoming

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a life coach. This isn't the first time I've tried this. I hit, I hit a roadblock out.

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Should not have punched my own hand. I have a condition, but the, uh, the, the thing is

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like, I always hit this particular roadblock where I tried to do all these things all at

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once and it baffles me. Now that I think about that, I do the same thing over and over again,

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the definition of insanity and I expect a different result. I expect maybe it will go

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better this next time. Whenever I try to do everything myself, now I'm not saying that

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I'm doing everything myself right now. And you know, I have amazing people helping me

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out like Ian Goss, who is listening to this right now before you get to listen to it and

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editing it. And I get to tell him that he's awesome without, and he has to accept it because

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he has to edit the audio and that without him or him or somebody editing the audio for

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me, I wouldn't, I don't know how far this podcast would go because I know I wanted to,

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I know what the podcast to be edited. I want it to sound good. And guys, you don't even

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know the kind of stuff that he does. Like sometimes he just makes me make sense. He's

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cutting words and moving them around. Like he's, I don't know how many times he's done

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that, but I know he has, he's told me, um, cutting words and moving them around. So I'm

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make more sense whenever I start to ramble in a random direction. So like he's helping

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you guys out too, and saving you from my random rambles. But then there's Nathan Maverich

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and he created the website that you guys can go to pursuit of calling.com and get your

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free discovery, your calling planning guy, then you can go sign up and get that right

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now. And he was the one who offered to create that website for me. And I'm so thankful for

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that. And now I'm, and then there's Alex Misner who has helped me out with some social media

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things that I'm sorry, man, I have not sent you, sent you much recently and I'm going

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to probably send you this episode, but, but, um, at least to listen to, I haven't sent

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you much recently, man. I'm sorry about that, but there's, um, you got some things in the

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works and hoping to get some more people on the pursuit of calling team. So with all that

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said, I just want to say if you're interested in things like content creation, whether that

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be social media, email marketing or copywriting, I need your help like immensely. And like

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that's, and that also, if you're more, maybe you're more managerial and you like to, maybe

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you like to communicate with people and reach out to maybe would like to help me reaching

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out to guests and, um, scheduling things with them on whenever, um, whenever, uh, me, the

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guest and I can record, that would be a huge help. And like, I can't promise payment. I'm

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going to be honest upfront with you right now, but I would just really appreciate the

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help if you can offer it. There is a calling on my life and I feel like there's, I know

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there's people out there that can help that can help. And I know there's people out there

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are willing to help. I just have to find them. Thank God. And I have to ask, right? Who the

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how am I supposed to get help if I don't ask for it? Right. That goes for everybody. How

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are you supposed to get help if you don't ask for it? Like, man, I mean, that's all

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I really did have prepared for you, but there's, I just wanted to be like, I just wanted to

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be vulnerable with you today. Life sometimes can fake some curve balls. I'm holding back

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some tears just so I can make sure I get my words out properly. Um, but yeah, if you can

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help reach out to me directly, maybe I'll have a form out on pursuit of calling.com

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that you can fill out and, or you can actually, yeah, just go to the contact form, go to the

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contact form on the pursuit of calling.com, fill that out. And if you, if you want to

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be able to help and, or if you have my number, you can text me directly. So, all right guys,

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that's the episode this week. If you liked this episode, definitely share it out on all

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your social media platforms, especially this one, because if you know somebody that can

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help me out, that'd be fantastic. Don't forget to leave a comment on Spotify. If you, Spotify,

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Apple podcasts or YouTube, if you can review, give this podcast a five star review. And

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guys, I appreciate you. I see you next time. Pursuers peace.