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What's going on guys? Welcome to this episode. This is the first episode that I've recorded

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100% on my own and it was kind of weird, but also really fun. So in this episode, I talk

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about the top three lessons I've learned by going through the trial that I'm currently

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in, which is my trial of physical pain. So if that interests you and I'm going to be

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honest with you, it's a lot, but it's also a lot of fun. If you implement some of the

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things that we talk about, you'll benefit. I'm positive. So if that interests you, go

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ahead and get out your notebook. I'll see you in there. What's going on guys? Welcome

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to this episode of technically short. And this is a weird one because this is the first

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time I've recorded an episode by myself and well, I'll say it's the first time that something's

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been published that I recorded by myself because I've done other things by myself, but I never

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published them. So this is the first time anyway. Um, but if you haven't yet, go ahead,

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like subscribe, follow on Spotify and Apple podcasts. And if you're on use Apple or Spotify,

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um, give a five star review if you can. And also give a, give a, if you're on Apple podcasts,

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give like an actual word review and let us, let me, let me know and let everyone else

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know how this podcast is going and how it's impacted you. But okay, I want to dive into

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this topic because it's something that I've been really, really wanting to talk about

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just in general with, with people in it for a really long time. And we're just going to

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dive into it because I'm excited. So this top, the top I picked, you're already know,

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cause you read the title of the episode, but it's called living through pain and accomplishing

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goals. If you know me and you know my story, I'm already kind of tearing up because of

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this, cause I'm so happy, but like it's exciting. It's exciting. But like I current, I currently

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have been or very closely, very close to being diagnosed with what is called muscular dystonia.

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There's millions of people all over the world with this, but there's very little known about

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the actual condition itself. There. It's essentially essentially like over, overstimulated muscles.

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And it's like, you know, it's being like, it, it sucks, but it's my life, right? It's what I, it's

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weird saying those are the sort of cards I've been dealt, but it's true. And it's not something

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I can control. And it's something I have to live through. It's something I have and I get

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to live and grow through. It's, it's me. I'm, I can't stop. Okay. I'm an emotional person.

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So you're going to, if you're going to, you're going to see, hear, see some emotions here,

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but there's, but my condition, it's, it started off as me wondering why me, it's thoughts

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still kind of travel in sometimes, but it's getting easier and easier day by day to not

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wonder why me. And this isn't in my notes at all, but like, it's not me wondering why

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me. It's more one, it's more me thinking God, cause I'm, I'm a Christian if you didn't know

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that, but, um, me thinking God, because I get to do this. I didn't have any fun playing

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on words there. Maybe it sounded like I was going to, but I didn't. Um, and I have learned

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so much and grown so much because of this condition. I, I'm in pain every day, but I

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also get to grow every day, just like everybody else. But I know I've grown in ways that would

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not have been possible for me before. And if they were, it would have taken me a lot

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longer to learn them. Cause I'm going to be laying out some lessons I've learned throughout

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this experience and it would have taken me a lot longer. I could, I know me, I know me,

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I know me pretty well. Uh, it would have taken me a lot longer to learn some of these lessons.

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So if you're somebody that maybe you're going through something in life, maybe it's not

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physical, maybe it's mental and you're, well, you have all these, you have these things

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that you want to accomplish, right? But you're, you feel like you're stuck. You feel like

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you can't accomplish, you will never accomplish your goals because there's too many things

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in your way, too many walls. And I'm here to tell you that's not true. These aren't

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walls. It's, it's not a wall. It's a ladder. And let's get out of the metaphors for a second.

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Let me dive into what I mean. So we're going to go through the top three lessons that I've

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learned through this experience. And this is in no particular order and I'm going to

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name them and then we're going to step through them. Sound good? Cool. So the first one is

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there's no shame in asking for help and that the most worthwhile things are not done on

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by yourself. They can't be done by yourself. They're done with others. And then the next

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one was, um, next one is your physical and mental health are strongly linked. And then

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the last one that we're going to go through is probably my favorite one. It's that again,

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it was no particular order, but this is just my third part of my favorite one is that your

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patient patience isn't only a virtue, but it's a necessity. So we're going to, we're

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going to dive into this a bit. We're only, oh man, we're only like five minutes in six

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minutes in and like, you're like Thomas, you're like, what the heck? Like, I don't know. I'm

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not to pat myself on the back. I am not really not trying to do that, but the there's, but

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I was writing out these notes earlier today and I was like, man, like that last one hit

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me hard. Like it just popped in my head. I was like, wow, that's like so true. And I

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don't know why I haven't really thought about it until just this moment. Like so, but let's

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dive into the first one. There's no shame in asking for help. The most world worthwhile

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things are done with others. So what I have here is understanding your, it's really understanding

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your own limits. So I have limits in time limits in knowledge and wisdom limits in your

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physical or mate and then it's physically and maybe it's financially too, but particularly

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with your time is that we all have those same 24 hours, but somehow there are people that

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seem to be so much done, right? This can be contributed to maybe partially to a fantastic

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time management system, but you'll also find that these people that seem to be getting

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a lot done also have people that are working alongside them. The people that they've asked

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for help, people that maybe they've hired because they've realized there's things that

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they can't do it. All the things that need to get done for them to accomplish their goals

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can't be done in just a single person's 24 hours for them to maintain their health, maintain

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their sleep and take care of themselves. Like it's just not possible. So asking for help,

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like people like we have this community around us, like to be able, one of the reasons is

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to help is to utilize another person's, it sounds weird, but utilize another person's

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time that you can help them move forward and then that they can help you move forward also.

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And then knowledge and wisdom, we're all limited in our knowledge. We're all limited in our

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wisdom and we don't know what we don't know. So, but then we also know who does know those

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things. A lot of the time we know somebody that knows more than we do in a particular

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topic. For instance, let me give for instance for you. I have a lot of mentors. Whenever

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I'm struggling with something spiritually, I have friends like Mike Wallace, Pastor Ed

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Newell. When I'm wanting to figure out something about business, I've gone to Pat Williams

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of Project One Nutrition. And, but then there's other times when I'm trying to figure out

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things, just about life in general. And I go to people that are much older than me,

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like Jesse Lege, who was on the previous episode of this podcast, Jim Fink, they've given

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me so many, so much fantastic advice whenever I'm just like explaining my day and like,

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man, I'm like, they asked me how my day was and I'm just like, man, it was rough. And

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they're just like, well, Thomas, and they talk me through. If I'm, man, I want to stop

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real quick and just say, if I'm ever going too fast and during my episodes, I realize

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I talk fast sometimes. Leave me a comment, shoot me a message on Instagram and let me

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know, Hey, hey Thomas, I want you, can you dive further into this, this particular topic?

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Cause I feel like you maybe miss something or it'd be really cool for you to do like

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a full episode on maybe gaining knowledge and wisdom from others, for instance. And

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I've learned a lot by just seeking out mentors. Like, and if you don't have a mentor, like

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that's when you, if you, if you don't know who your mentors are, that's when you need

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to start seeking them out. Because whenever you're stuck in your own little bubble, you

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don't know like what else is out there. If you want to, if you have these great things

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you want to accomplish, you can't do it. Like I said, on your own. And that's when you,

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that's when you go to others for advice. That's when you read books by others who know more

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by authors who know more by people who've done it, who've been through life, who've

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done the things, have done the things are at the places where you want to be. It has

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now provided the content like books or podcasts or whatever to then walk down the, go back

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down the mountain and help you back. It helped have now walked back down that mountain to

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walk up with you because these people know where the pitfalls are. These people know

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like, like where not to go. So like they, they, and they've wanted now they're contributing

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their success to other people. And then you can learn from their mentors. I mean, it's,

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it's just like a ladder of mentors. Everybody has mentors all the way up. It never stops.

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Um, but yeah, each man, each person though, like I've mentioned, I've taught me in so

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many ways and you just can't do things on your own. I've said that so many times, but

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let's move to the next thing. So physically let's get into that. So knowing your limits

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physically, what does that look like? So for me, this is a pretty like niche example, but

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for me it's, it's my arms, initially with my hands and I get pain in my hands first

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sometimes. And I, the first time I had actually had to ask for help was my friend David. We

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were, I had, I was going to be serving at my church for on production and I realized

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it was computer work. And I was like, well, I kind of want to ask, kind of need to put

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myself on the pause right now for that. So I asked David, like, Hey man, I know you haven't

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done this before, but I also know that you've, um, showed interest in wanting to help his

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production. So would you be able to help me out tomorrow? He said, sure. Cause he has

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a great heart. And then that's how he joined in the production team is helping, helping

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out with production ever since. Um, that's one fantastic example because I asked, I just

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also knew who to ask. That actually is a whole other topic is knowing who to ask for help.

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Maybe we'll talk about that in a second. Um, no notes on that. So bear with me. Um, and

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then the other piece is asking for rides to places for me. It's because I can't drive

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long distances. Like for me, a long distance, it's not even long distances. It's like 10

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minutes. Sometimes it's too much. And I don't have to worry about that because I have people

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I can go for, I can go to for help. I have people that I can go to and ask for assistance

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to drive me where almost anywhere I need to go. I drive to go grocery shopping. That's

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pretty much it. And which sucks. Just to be honest, I would love to be able to drive anywhere

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I want. I love driving for the most part. Um, I miss it, but that's not my life. Not

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right now. And I know that I have the people in my corner that were already surrounding

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me before this and how rallied around me because I already set myself in a, set myself up in

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a position to be able to, um, utilize these resources. And because these resources are

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my friends, my mentors, my family, but then let's maybe talk about you specifically. Like

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you can't be in more than one place at once. Right. And then we kind of already touched

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on this, but you, you can, but you can have multiple people helping you accomplish your

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goals at the same time. That is a physical limitation of being human is that you can

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only be in one spot. God is everywhere all the time, but we can only be in one spot.

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And it's kind of a shameless plug right now, but I want to accomplish a goal of growing

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this podcast, um, to honestly, I didn't, haven't really put a number on it, but I want to grow

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it to a thousand, honestly, a thousand steady listeners would be amazing. And I can't do

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that on my own. So if you're interested, I need help with social media. I would love

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for somebody that knows how to nose in loves to make social media posts to help me to help

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out with that. Cause it's honestly my least favorite thing to do. And that's another piece

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of knowing your limits is also knowing what, like I don't enjoy doing social media. So

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it's a limit. So I have limits as to how well I'm going to actually do that piece of this,

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um, achievement process. So I'm looking for somebody to help out with that. I'm also looking

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for people to help out with SEO and managing the RSS feed. So if you know somebody or you

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are that somebody like hit me up a message, a message, me, Thomas Carney, or technically

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short at technically short, uh, on Instagram or Facebook or text me to have my number,

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or if you just know somebody and want to rec want to recommend them to me, let me know.

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It'd be cool. That'd be awesome. Anyway, let's move on to what we mentioned. I mean,

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take a note real quick. We mentioned about wanting to talk about how to know who to ask.

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We'll come back to that. You might heard me typing. That's okay. So let's move to patients.

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Is it only a virtue? Uh, no, no. Next is your physical and mental health are strongly linked.

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Hey, and I know this is a weird, different, very different episode. Let me know what you're

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thinking. We're about half. We're probably about halfway through. I'm guessing you already

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know, but I don't know yet. How long does this episode is yet? You already know, but

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let me know how, how's this going? Let me know what you think about this format. That

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would be great. So the next lesson I've learned is that your physical and your mental health

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are strongly linked. And this one is so I'm actually really passionate about this one

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because my physical health is like as far as my arms go, it's atrocious, but like, uh,

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but I can't control. Like I only think I can control about my arms is setting my own limits

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because of my physical limits. If I push myself too hard, I ended up in a lot of pain and

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I can do like, then I can't do, I have to do less things through their self-discipline

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and that as well. But let's focus on this piece. Um, you ever heard the term you're,

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uh, you ever hear a guy at the gym say, my body is a temple. And like, uh, it makes me

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think like guys like pounding his chest and stuff, but like it's true as a Christian,

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I, I, I believe that the body is a temple for the Holy spirit. So whenever, uh, you

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accept to use this into your life, you're, um, you're actually also accepting the Holy

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spirit into your heart. And it sounds corny and cheesy, but it's true. And it's my, in

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my mind, I should be, if that's true, which I believe it is that I'm going to be treating

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my body in my mind, the best possible way that I can. Otherwise I'm not treating this

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gift that God gave me of my body. Well, I'm not treating it well and therefore I'm going

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to feel like not. And if I don't treat my body well, then I feel like crap. So why don't

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want, why would I want to feel like crap? Come on. Like anyway, um, then it's like,

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I'm constantly learning like what my body doesn't like. I'm like, I'm eating, like

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I went on an elimination diet that Dr. Will Cole set up in his book, uh, inflammation

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spectrum. And I was eating all these different, uh, I was, I was not eating all these different

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foods and then started eating all the, uh, started, then started eating all these foods

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I never ate before. And I felt so much better. And what I mean by that, that was, that was

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very vague, but I was pretty much eliminating like seven different types of foods, like

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legumes, nightshades, like tomatoes and stuff. Um, P uh, then things like peanuts and other

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peanuts, nuts, seeds, oats, grains, whatever. Um, that like dairy, tons of stuff, eggs anyway.

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things back in, I know I've pretty much decided within the last couple of days that I need

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a fully cut out dairy because my body just hates it now. And I hated it before, but now

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that like I went through that diet, my body's so much more susceptible to that. Now, then

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whenever I have things that are dairy, my digestion is all messed up or my, if I eat

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things with like vegetable oil in it, my throat gets all weird, like immediately. And I feel

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like crap and almost immediately. And some of that's probably placebo. Um, cause I read

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the labels, but it's also like very, it makes me very self aware of what these foods do

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to my body. And I also believe that whenever you're physically feeling bad, that you're

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also going to mental or your mental health, your mental and your mental stability is going

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to take a hit. Cause I know that whenever I don't get enough sleep or whenever I, um,

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don't get my eight hours or get, don't eat well, then my, for my job, which is I'm a

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developer and which is all problem solving, my problem solving ability takes a hit and

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that's no fun. Um, and yeah, so like, but then I noticed whenever I'm eating well and

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I'm sleeping on, I'm constantly, I had, I'm getting into a consistent habit of sleeping,

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um, getting eight hours in work and doing what I can to work out. Um, I realized that

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my, I just start getting in a better mood throughout my days and I'm just more, I just

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happier with life in general. Nothing I've ever like not been happy with life, but like

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at the same time, like you can tell when you're happier with life than when you're not happier

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with, you can tell when you're happier with life because you can look back and be like,

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man, I'm way more happier now than I was. I don't know. Kind of rambling. Anyway, moving

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on there's, um, I feel like there's a lot more I could talk about here, but I feel like

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that could be a whole separate episode and this is all time. And believe me, this all

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does like, what does that have to do with your goals? Well, whenever you're working

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towards your goals and if it's something that you really want to accomplish, it's something

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you really want to do and you really like, you really want to achieve something that's

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way up here, way like high, high up. You want to be in tip top shape. You want to be focused

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on your mental and physical health because you want to be, you want, you want to be,

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you want to be as efficient. You want to be as optimized like as you can be so that you

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can reach your goals. And that is there, there's tons of, there is tons of discipline in that

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and it is hard, but things that are worthwhile are hard guys. If it's easy, it's not worth,

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it's not worthwhile. I mean, so many things are, well, that's not true either. I mean,

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I'm going to correct myself there. So there are some really easy things like prayer is easy.

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They just pray, talk to God. Like it doesn't take any effort to pray, but it's just huge

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benefit from it. But there's so many things that are easy, like going to eating fast food,

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going there and getting eating fast food, it just isn't worth it. Cause your body doesn't

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like it. It hates it. And then you end up in a worse position than you were in before.

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So like eating healthier whole foods that is, they're harder to obtain. Maybe they,

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they're cost a little bit more, but the benefit from that is, but in my, in my opinion, anyway,

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way outweighs any other discrepancy you might have. Like you treat your body right by feeding

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it the right, feeding it the right things, by giving it the right fuel. You don't, you

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don't want to put, you don't want to put chocolate syrup in your gas tank, right? You wouldn't

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do that. You want to be able to put the best gas in the gas, get best gas in the tank that

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you can so that your car, see your car like will move. So the car will like be, it will

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run efficiently. You want to put the oil in so it doesn't burn oil in the engine. So it

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doesn't burn up like, um, so putting the right foods in your body is important. It might

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be harder to find, but that's getting easier and easier every single day might be more

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expensive, but then you're probably saving yourself money in the long run from going

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to the doctor, having to go to the doctors because all the bad food you ate. So whatever.

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So you know, keep going. Let's get into the last one though. I'm going to, I'm going to

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jump forward a little bit. Let's jump into the last lesson I've learned. No, it's not

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the last one. These are just the top three, but, um, that patience isn't a virtue. It's

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a necessity. Waiting is a huge part of life. I, I mean, I would, um, I wouldn't, I wouldn't

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really hesitate to say that waiting is almost the majority of life to be honest. Um, but

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like for me, like waiting is like waiting for doctor's appointments. Like there's like,

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they can be like three to six months or sometimes sometimes three to six months in between.

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Um, and like that just boggled my mind when I found out how long I had to wait for a doctor's

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appointment, but just because I'm waiting for a doctor's appointment, just because I'm

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into the waiting period doesn't mean that I sit and do nothing and Twitter my thumbs.

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Right? I'm jumping ahead of my notes here, but waiting doesn't mean you're doing nothing.

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It means you're preparing. Waiting isn't just for sitting and doing nothing. It's not for

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waiting to see what other people do is preparing for what is to come. The waiting season is

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a growing season and I believe that we are always waiting for something. So that means

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you should always be growing. So another part of the reason you wait is because results

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aren't immediate, are not immediate. Like in a diet, like you, you, you go on a diet

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for one day, you're not going to see the results. You're not going to lose weight right away.

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You're not going to feel great right away. Like you have to wait to feel the results

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working out. Same, same idea. You can't go to gym once a day, one day and then be buff

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or be fit. Like learning something new, but when you're learning something new, you repeatedly

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go back. There's consistency in this guys. Like in the waiting, you're consistent. You're

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consistently preparing for what is to come. And that's like, you, you, you, you start,

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you start, I can't, uh, with this audio is hard. I'm going to explain this a little bit

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more when you're saying you're on the bottom rung of the ladder and what is to come is

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at the top. So every, every day you're working on climbing the next rung of that ladder.

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You're you're, you want to say every, every, every workout is like another rung of the

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ladder to get from, to maybe you want to gain muscle and you're looking to get, um, certain

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certain, uh, certain muscle, you get a certain amount of muscle mass, certain BMI, and you

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want to, you want to, you want to climb your every day is climbing the muscle to a particular

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goal, climbing, climbing the muscle, climbing the ladder to a particular goal. And the whole

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time you're, you're waiting for these results. The whole time you're waiting for something

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to happen. And in the waiting, you're preparing. And like, what's my move? It's me from this

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my waiting for a doctor's appointment. Cause that's a slightly different example. And I

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do get that. Let me, so let me touch on that. So when I'm waiting for a doctor's appointment,

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I'm not just waiting for the doctor's appointment. I'm doing research. I'm seeing what else I

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can do in the meantime while I'm waiting for the results of that doctor's appointment.

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Um, one thing I learned from my friend, Ed, pastor Ed Newell from Amplified Church. Um,

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he told me for his daughter, um, they bring a list of questions to ask the doctor because

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they know they've been waiting for this appointment for months and they're not leaving without

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having all their questions answered. And they need to know what their questions are before

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they go in. So they prepare the list of questions to ask the doctor. So I think I thought like

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that balance, like that was really cool. Like why are waiting? You can be preparing for

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that immediate, for that out, for, for that appointment so that the result is better at

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the end. Boom. Mind blown. Anyway, um, like when you're waiting for the next big break

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or a pain or like next raise or next payment to come in, um, you're improving yourself

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daily in a consistent fashion so that you're ready for it when it comes. It also might

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never, and if you don't prepare, it also, it's also possible that the result never comes.

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So if you're waiting for something to happen, but you're not doing anything to make it happen

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in that waiting period, it might never happen anyway. I had a pause there for a second because

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like I wouldn't let that sink in. If you're not preparing during this waiting season,

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what you're waiting for might never come to pass. Isn't that kind of crazy? Like I feel

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like a lot of people just expect things to be like put in, like be set on, like given

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to them. So many people were just like, Hey, give me the handout, give me the handout.

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Give me, um, give me, Oh, it's government. Okay. We're going to get, okay. Let me not

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get into that too far because that's not the point of this episode, but, um, give me the

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handout, give me, like, give me, um, give me unemployment and I'm going to do the bare

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minimum to look, to make it look like I'm, to make it look like I'm getting, getting

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a job. But then I am complaining every day about why I complaining every day about not

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having any money. I think I, yeah, I said that right. Sorry. Slight rant. I'm done with

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that. But, but yeah, guys, patience isn't a very, virtue is a necessity because it was

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outpatients in this waiting. And I know it's, I talked more about waiting than patients,

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but if you, when, during this time period of waiting, if you're constantly stressed

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out of why, what you want isn't here yet and like get it, I get it because I'm not a patient

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person. Um, I want the results now, but I also understand that that's not possible a

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lot of the, a lot of the time. So that's why I'm saying patience isn't a virtue is a necessity

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because you're constantly have to be waiting. Sorry if you heard my burp there. I apologize.

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Just drank some coffee. Um, but like you, oh man, I got patience. It's so hard. It's

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so hard. Trust me. I know it's hard to wake up every morning. And this is my own story.

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It's, it's hard to wake up every morning in pain and be patient with God and just be like,

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God, I know you got this. I know you're the healer. It's hard to wake up every morning

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and expect expecting a raise and it never coming. It feels like it's never coming. Even

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though you feel like you, even though you feel like you deserve it because you, because

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you've been in this company for years or it's important to be patient whenever you're waiting

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for a job, whenever you're unemployed and you feel like that job is never, is never

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going to come. And whenever you get into those modes where you feel like, where your patience

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is waning and that the job or the job, the race, the result that you're looking for,

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it's never going to happen. When you're starting to feel like that, remember, just remember

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that so many people and this, I want this to be an encouragement. So many people have

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gone through what you're going through and this has not to mean for diminish what you're

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going through. It's not, but so many people have, it's very likely that so many people

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have gone through what you're going through and they've made it through. Maybe they weren't

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patient. Maybe they got upset and that's okay. That's normal. But at the same time, do not

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stay there. Remember that you remember that if you're a Christian, remember that you have

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a father that loves you and that has a plan set out for you. If you're not a Christian,

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you still have the same father. He still has a plan for your life and you can be patient

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with him. You just have to, you just have to let him act on your life. Let, let him

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work it out instead of trying to do everything yourself. That's the biggest part. That's

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the biggest, that is the biggest enemy of patients is utter self-reliance, utter self-reliance.

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So if you're constantly worrying about like not being able to do something yourself and

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you're, I, I, I, I'm kind of going off on the little tangent here, but you're constantly

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trying to do things yourself. Know that you don't have to know that you can ask for help.

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Let's wrap it up. Know that you can ask for help or know that, um, that the result will

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come if you keep at it and you're consistent in the preparing and know that that result

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will come easier if you maintain your physical and mental health. You're calling, your calling

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is important. Your calling is why you're, you are on this earth. Do not take it for

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granted guys. And I do want to talk about how to, I wanted to talk about how to know

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who to ask, um, how to know, how to know who to ask for help. I do want to talk about that.

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So let's, let's try that for a second, about 35 minutes in, and then I'm going to wrap

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it up. Um, how do you know who to ask for help? In my mind, it's, I kind of touched

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on it before. It's, you know, who to ask for help because you know, you, you do some re

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if you don't know anybody immediately who knows what you want to know, then you do some

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research. You look into like some books and maybe don't pick the first book off the shelf

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that you see, but you do some research and see what other people are saying about the

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author and about, um, like I have books on leadership. I learned from John Maxwell. I

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don't know John Maxwell personally, but I know that he's a great leader. So I read his books

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because I want to be the best leader I can be. I want to learn how to maintain my time,

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how to manage my time better. So I read this book, redeem your time, by Jordan Rainer.

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And I looked it up. I believe he, um, it's a great book. He's, he seems to be a great

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guy. His podcast, great podcast. So I bought the book. I wanted to learn more about my

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health, my, my physical health. I wanted to try and I wanted to try something new for

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in the meantime for my arm. So I was waiting for a doctor's appointment. So I went on the

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elimination diet or the, uh, on an elimination diet that Dr. Will Cole, who is, who's like

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the one of the biggest, or it's not the biggest functional medicine doctor out there. And

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if you know this, but then at the same time, there's people immediately to you that maybe

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you just want to know, like how to work out better. You just look for the fit, just look

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for the fit guy. If we look for the guy who's nice and is fit and go ask him for help, you

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know, it sounds almost too simple, but it really is that simple. It really is. It's

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like, I know I get it. Like if you're more introverted like me, like it's hard to talk

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to new people, but at the same time, like it's easy to at least point these people out

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and be like, Oh, that person knows what they're doing. Maybe I should talk to them. So I want

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to wrap it up there guys, but thank you for watching this episode. Thank you for watching

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or listening. I don't record a video, but I don't know if that's actually going to be

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posted. We'll see. But, um, thank you for listening and getting through the whole, uh,

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bit, the whole episode. I really appreciate it. Let me, like I said before, let me know

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what I'm doing. If you liked this episode, I give, if you liked this episode and you

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you guys and yeah, you like it, follow it. Give five star review, give a comment, share

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