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Alright, welcome to the Technically Short Podcast where two best friends with different personalities

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talk about any topic under the sun.

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I'm Thomas Carney.

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I'm Sean Short.

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And the goal of this podcast is to give you our different but equal perspectives in order

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to help you on your personal growth journey with some inevitable comic relief.

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Okay, let's get into today's topic.

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So today, we're talking about analysis paralysis.

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Oh, that sounds like a huge word.

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I'm about to know what that means.

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Alright, cool.

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So just for the premise, analysis paralysis, if you analyze a situation or anything so

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much that you know make a move.

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That's so good.

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And so this is based off the conversation I had today.

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Today is July 22nd.

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So yeah, it was yesterday.

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On the 21st, I met up with Pat Williams, co-owner of Project One Nutrition.

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We love Project One.

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Shout out, Pat.

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We love you.

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And yeah, we met up for lunch yesterday and he talked to me a little bit about how he

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used to be extremely susceptible to analysis paralysis when he was around our age.

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He brought this up because of a lot of things that I'm personally trying to accomplish.

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He didn't even notice it.

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He just said, you are probably doing this and he's right.

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He was a lot of the times with me, I'm just going to read some of the notes I wrote down

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here.

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I was thinking that I had to wait for others to take action before I did.

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My goal was to respect authority, but Pat said that that's fine, but to be proactive

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in the things that I'm really passionate about.

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That is so good.

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The idea, and then really he brought that up, is because there are some things, some

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people I want to disciple, some areas I want to grow, but yeah, I was waiting on someone

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else to make a move first so that I felt comfortable to make my move.

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You can talk about that in any particular area.

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I'm personally talking about life goals and things I want to do in my life that I believe

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I'm being called to by God to do.

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I personally believe I was like, I would analyze it to the point of, man, where was I going?

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You were talking about how you were about to analyze the goals?

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I would essentially get to a point, and this is something Pat brought up too, and he said

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he used to do this, you analyze something so much that you're essentially trying to

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tuck yourself out of it.

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For me, me wanting to start a business, wanting to do things in my leadership with production

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at the church, I can be very susceptible to thinking about all the cons without thinking

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about the pros, or thinking about the pros but leaning on the cons, and being like, well,

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all these, this could go wrong, and this could go wrong, and this person might not like what

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I did, and on and on and on, and essentially being like, okay, well, let's avoid that discomfort,

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let's avoid the possible failure, and not do anything.

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This is so good.

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And Pat flat out, he's like, yeah, if you're passionate about something, you take action.

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And I think there's some areas where I have done this, and some areas where I still need

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to focus on that more, and I think there's like, and Shaw, you can chime in at any time,

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there's times where I feel like there, especially with the instance of wanting to respect authority,

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even if the authority wasn't like, it's not like solid, 100% solid, and there's, but I

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still wanted to make sure that there, I know there's kind of a hierarchy thing happening,

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so I'm like, I want to make sure that I don't step on toes, and Pat said that before I even

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said anything.

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And he's like, why, if it's something that you can do, like for this instance, I want

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to disciple somebody that is under somebody else, and Pat was like, well, if you feel

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like you can, why not just ask them, or ask me up with them in a different group, not

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to go against the other person, but to actually push yourself forward in what you're aiming

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to do, so you can actually grow and take that step and see what God has for you in that

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area.

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So to me, this is so deep, because this is my entire life.

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I think the only time I don't do this is honestly when I'm talking to somebody to invite them

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to Christ, because in general, I do this a lot.

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So many girls I don't talk to because I overanalyze it.

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I'm like, okay, if I like her photo too much, she might think I'm a creep, or if I go try

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to say something, maybe...

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Yeah, I know, that's definitely stupid.

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But it's stuff like that, like I overanalyze everything.

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So like this is a constant issue, and before coming back to Christ, I had bad anxiety,

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but now I have no anxiety at least, but I still overanalyze everything.

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So job situation, overanalyze it, I always do.

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What I know I can do, only because it's like I don't want to ever step over authority,

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and it's the same thing with even a ministry.

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God's called me to be a pastor, and God's called me to preach and stuff, but it's like

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I'm under ministers and stuff already, so it's like I don't want to overstep, and I

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want to preach because I know this is my calling, this is my purpose.

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There's so many times I overanalyze, so I never send somebody like, hey, can I preach

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this, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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I never do any of that because of the fact of so much overanalyzing.

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Even the girls I want to date or want to talk to, I overanalyze it.

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I'm like, okay, maybe this is not the right time.

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I don't want to talk to her in front of her friends because what if it backfires?

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In my mind it's always a backfire.

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If you say this and she takes it the wrong way, and now it's like, oh, you were at the

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wrong setting to say it, or blah, blah, blah.

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You asked her out and it was like an icy event, or stuff like that.

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It's just like, oh, I overanalyze all the time.

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Can we talk about something that we were talking about the other day about social media?

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Yeah, absolutely.

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You're fine with that?

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To me, this is exactly what we were talking about the other day.

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Bro, this is deep.

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It's good.

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Where you were like, this girl blocked me on social media.

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I liked her, but then she must have blocked me because I liked too many of her pictures.

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Yes, absolutely.

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I was like, dude, for the record it was four guys.

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If people are wondering how many photos you have, it was four photos.

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I figured I was not going to go past three, but then all my thing, I didn't update my

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Instagram at that time.

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I didn't update it.

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I liked three, and then all my watchers said she liked my photo or something.

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I was like, oh, okay.

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Let me like one more to let me know that I'm liking her back.

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I was blocked at the four photo.

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Then the craziest thing, the next day she must have unblocked me or something because

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we were following each other again.

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I had to clap because there's no video, I have to say it.

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The whole thing with that is just like I think social media really... It's one of the reasons

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why social media is a great tool, but it shouldn't be used as a lifestyle because that's what

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a lot of people use it as.

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It's attributed as part of the lifestyle.

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I think to me social media, it's almost impossible to get away from the toxicity that even if

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there isn't toxic people on your social media, you still would deal with that toxic stuff

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of being like wondering... Because you get the dopamine hits whenever you see that we

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get likes on our social media and the exact opposite happens whenever things like that

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happen.

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This person... I don't know what the opposite of dopamine is, or it's like there is a thing

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that does that, but I know that you feel like this gut... Sometimes you feel like, oh,

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what the heck?

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Why did this person do this?

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Why did they comment this on my Facebook post or whatever?

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I started to stop putting my certain stronger opinions out on Facebook and stuff a while

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ago because I could not deal with people that disagree with me and I get mad and angry and

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that would destroy me.

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Maybe one day in the future I'll be out with my faith.

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I am putting things out in my faith.

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It used to be the same way, so I don't understand what you're saying.

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Such a dangerous road to go down.

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Going back to... Let's bring it back.

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Bring it back, yeah.

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But after talking with Pat, one of the biggest reasons... The two people I consider mentors

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in my life, there's other people, but two people I like to go to a lot for council is

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Pat Williams and Pastor Ed Newell.

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As far as people that are older than me goes, I have a friend who's younger than me that

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I go to for council as well.

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It brings me back... It brings me to Proverbs 19 verses 20 and 21.

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It says, listen to advice and accept instruction that you may gain wisdom in the future.

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Many are the plans of the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.

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It's saying accept instruction that you may gain wisdom in the future.

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You gain instruction, you get it from the Lord, but there's other verses about you

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specifically that say seek good counsel.

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I was trying to find that one, but I guess I didn't.

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My dad used to tell me that from a young age.

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I had no clue why he was saying it.

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He just said, Thomas, seek good counsel.

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Seek good counsel.

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Who are you talking to?

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Seek good counsel on this.

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Put it on the altar.

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Seek good counsel.

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It wasn't until I actually lived on my own and started going and being surrounded by

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people that are actually good counsel when I started realizing what he meant when I was

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a kid.

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Seeking good counsel.

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Whenever I want to know more about personal growth or I want to grow an area, I need something

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to kick me in the butt.

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They tell me that I'm being stupid.

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I go to people.

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I don't know if this is the right thing for me to be doing.

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What do you think?

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Because I trust your opinion.

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Because I know that they're solid in Christ and that they're going to tell me things.

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They're going to tell me outright and not sugarcoat.

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That's what I appreciate.

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Because Pat, he flat out called me out on that being like, yeah, you probably are analyzing

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things too much.

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I know because I used to do that.

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Now if I set my sight on something, I do it.

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I'm like, man, I can't wait to do that.

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I can't wait to like, in some instances you can't be like, well, why wait?

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In this instance, why wait?

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Of course, there's still always going to be that inkling inside being like holding you

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back until you start chipping away at it again and again and again.

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One that springs to mind, something I read in one of John Maxwell's books and also heard

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on his podcasts, he heard a speaker at one point say like, every night before you go

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to bed, he'd say, do it now 50 times.

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Do it now, do it now, do it now, do it now, do it now.

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Then again, he said he would do it when he woke up 50 times.

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That trains the mind to whenever you're thinking about a situation that you could put off,

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immediately do it now, it would pop in your head if you do that for like a week.

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He said he did that and he started being more proactive.

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With me, that's the kind of the philosophy I take with a lot of things that won't take

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that much time.

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I should text this person because I'm thinking about them or I should text them back because

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they just texted me and I know I easily forget when people text me, so I'm just going to

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do it now.

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See, that's so good.

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But from my mindset, the only reason why I fight this so hard is because I think of all

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the repercussions of what happens when I do that.

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Well, that's the point.

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That's the point.

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It's the girl that you want to do it with.

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You know that there's a still possibility, but you do it anyway because you ever heard

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the term do it scared?

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There's a lot of things that people want to accomplish in their lives, but they don't

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do it because they're scared.

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That's why so many people just stay where they're at and they never reach their full

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potential because they're stuck and they don't pull themselves out because no one else can

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pull you out of that situation except for yourself.

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Other people can tell you-

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That's the craziest part.

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Other people can tell you, hey, you need to get moving.

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You need to do this.

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Do it now or be like Pat and be like, hey, you're analyzing too much.

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Just do it.

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When I got home yesterday, I immediately set up a group text and started texting the guy

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I wanted to disciple and a couple other people that he knows that he was more comfortable

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with it.

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Now we have a conversation going.

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It was funny, on the drive back from where we went to eat, on the way back, I was talking

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about that situation with him.

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The one group pod that we were part of with IC, me, this kid, the guy, are also a part

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of, I was like, oh, not even out of the park.

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I felt like I was just pulling out of the parking lot and the pod started texting me,

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hey, when are we meeting up?

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What are we doing?

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I was like, okay, good God.

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I was like, that was uncanny.

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Not a coincidence there.

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So I just like, when Pat tells me, Pat is not just such a successful person, but he's

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also so down to earth and so firm in his faith that if he tells me to do something, I do

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And if there's like a doubt in my mind, maybe that's not the best thing for me.

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Maybe that's up to me to think about and pray about and maybe talk, bring to somebody else

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like Ed or like Pastor Ed.

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Yeah, that's, I think that's 100% reasonable.

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I think that's right.

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Pat is a straight shooter.

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But yeah, like for me, man, it's always over analyzing, even about job decisions, career

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decisions, all the stuff that I know I could do, still over analyzing.

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And the hardest part is like trying to not lean on myself, but also try to shoot when

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I need to shoot and not shoot when I don't need to shoot.

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Like, you know what I mean?

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So going after the right position, it's like, okay, what position God do you want me to

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be in?

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Because it's a hard thing to do to just like, all right, I could do so much more, but should

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I right now or is it or is it the same thing for the girl you like?

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It's like, should I shoot my shot?

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Could you shoot the shot at the wrong time?

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It's a miss.

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And sometimes that happens and it's like, oh, so I'm always over analyzing.

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So like, what I get from today's episode for sure is shoot sometimes cancel and shoot.

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Say that again.

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Take good counsel and shoot.

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Yeah, I would say seek good counsel.

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You seek it out because if you don't have a mentor, then you seek a mentor out.

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You just wait for the one to come to you.

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And I got good mentors.

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Everybody knows you're a mentor.

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But Pastor Brandon has a shot at this episode.

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I hope he didn't catch that.

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But it's not shoot sometimes.

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It's shoot whenever you feel like taking that shot is aligned with Christ.

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And like, if it's not aligned with Christ, that's the only reason at the time you don't

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do it.

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And that could mean if it's not aligned with Christ because of the action or because of

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how like you're or how what your intention behind it is.

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But like, if you're if you feel in your gut that that's something you should be doing

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and you're aligned with Christ is something that Pastor Ed told me a while ago about a

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completely different situation.

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But it pulled but it tracks it tracks what we're talking about.

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He's like, he told me he's like, whenever I don't know what to do in a situation, I

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mean, God and I don't I'm not sure what God's saying.

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Then I just listen to my I listen to my gut.

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I listen to my gut feeling because if I'm truly aligned with God, then my gut is too.

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And I should listen to my gut.

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And I think that's where that's the way that's how you stop second guessing yourself.

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That's good.

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That's how you stop worrying about the what ifs and what if this goes so bad?

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What if I fail?

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You're like you're you acknowledge it.

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That's always a possibility failures.

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Failure is always an option.

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And I feel like people say failure is not an option that I used to believe that and

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that was toxic for my life.

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But the like failure is an option is always an option not like that you choose failure,

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but it always has a possibility of happening.

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And if it does, then that's when you learn the most.

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You learn the most through failure.

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So like that's like what something I'm working on myself is acknowledging that if I fail,

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that's actually a good thing because A means I wasn't ready yet for the thing I was going

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for and B, God still has more to teach me.

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And the only way to grow, grow to the point if you have big goals, the only way to grow

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to the point where you're ready to accomplish that goal is like going and failing and going

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and failing and looking back on that failure and then learning to grow from it.

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What do you like looking back like what did what was God teaching me through this failure?

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Because I still feel called to do this thing, but I failed.

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What did I learn?

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Like that's like every like going back to our last episode, every relationship you've

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ever been in has taught you something.

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Yes.

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And like, it's it compounds to the next one.

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And then compounds to the next one.

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And some people need more lessons than others.

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And something like or people need the same amount.

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There's you know, same lesson, whatever.

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Everybody I can't really go too far into that because everybody is on their own path, on

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their own walk.

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But like the I don't know.

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What do you think?

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I honestly think like for me analyzing its biggest issue was always rejection and failure.

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Yeah.

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And but there's a time and in some of it's not even just like failure or it would be

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like stepping outside of authority that like you shouldn't.

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For instance, like the preaching thing.

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Right.

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So like I have to be like since I'm under somebody, I have to respect the authority

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they have, but also know that they're aligned with God.

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So then it's like when do I just like, hey, I know this is filling.

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I'm alive of Christ.

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You're in line with Christ.

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Is this an opportunity for me?

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Or is it like, hey, you can't do this because you know, I mean, so there's a lot of things

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that I always wonder about.

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So I like my one of my pastor friends, he was like, why don't you just go ask the preach,

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you know him too.

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His name Sam back in the day.

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And I was like, I was like, I couldn't, I just wait for God to call on them and let

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them know that there's me right or whatever, didn't do something like that.

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And he said, isn't that being prideful though?

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I was like, but in my eyes, I see the opposite.

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And his eyes, it was like, it's prideful because you're kind of like saying you can't do it

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unless like God calls them to hear me do it.

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You know what I mean?

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Like to put me out there.

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And I was like, to me, I didn't feel it's prideful.

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I just felt it because of authority.

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So analyzing to me has always been like, where is the right line to step to do something?

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You know what I mean?

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Because that's always what my biggest issue is because it's like, when do I ask?

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What should I ask?

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Don't ask, do you ask?

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Questions is always like analyzing everything.

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Do you learn from asking questions or not?

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You do learn for asking questions.

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Don't ask questions ever.

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Because it's almost like you're right.

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You're right.

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You should ask questions.

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It feels like when it comes to authority, it almost feels like disrespectful to put

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yourself in a role that I feel like it wasn't given to you.

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That's why I just wait on it.

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No, I get that.

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I get what you're saying because I felt that too.

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And that's the response that you talk to God, you pray to God and maybe it could be that

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you're in a season that just isn't for you right now.

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Or maybe he's like, and if you go ahead and you do ask and they say this isn't for you

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right now and you respect their opinion, then okay.

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Maybe even ask what can I be doing in the meantime?

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How can I be growing?

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So if that does come one day, then I can be more prepared than I am right now.

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Yeah, that's good.

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I think there's never a bad time to ask a question.

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And if you've asked a question once before and you already got an answer for it, maybe

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ask a different question.

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I think there's never a bad time to ask a question.

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Some people think it bit me in the butt one time when I forgot Emily's name and I asked

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her flat to her face.

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And I was like, me?

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I don't care.

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I want to know, I'm going to ask.

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That's just me.

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I feel like some people might think that's disrespectful.

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And I'm like, oh, that's not my problem.

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It sounds so arrogant, but it's true.

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I know how it sounds.

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But like some people might, but like.

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Because I just feel like analyzing is good and bad at the same time.

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Analyzing is a good thing, but you can overanalyze.

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That's the whole point of this episode.

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Yeah, and I feel like I overanalyze too much.

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I do.

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So I'm going to try to underanalyze some of the points and just try to go for some of

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the things.

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But yeah, it's just rough when it comes to like authority, because then it's like you

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have respect and you have to ask like, what are the motives?

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Then you have to ask like, is this in line with Christ?

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What does God want?

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I think now you're going through like, okay, now you have to ask all these questions, wait

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for answers and then take action.

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Yeah.

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And I feel like it's funny because this kind of turned into a coaching call.

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But no, I feel like you should just like, I don't know if you have a question on your

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heart and you feel like you want to ask, you want to answer to it, ask the question.

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Like there's no, like there's no only reason, only thing that's holding you back is you

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right now.

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That's true.

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And like there's like you ask it and if you don't get the answer that you would prefer,

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well at least, well then you ask the question and now you know.

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And it's like the, like, and again, that goes into like, people don't do things because

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of fear.

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And like, because like, even if it's like, I feel like there's, there's analysis paralysis,

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but then the analysis turns into fear and then you talk yourself out of doing the thing.

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And that's, and like, then like it kind of leads into, and then maybe not in your case,

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but kind of leads into things like imposter syndrome, which I love hearing Tony Robbins

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talk on imposter syndrome when I saw him speak a couple of years ago.

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Because he was like, it's a load of BS.

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You know, imposter syndrome doesn't exist.

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You know, imposter syndrome, it's not imposter syndrome, it's just a fancy word for fear.

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Yeah.

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It's a fancy phrase for fear.

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It's a label for fear.

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Just call it fear and then you can actually get rid of it.

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Imposter syndrome, like how do you get rid of that?

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Right.

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How do you get rid of it?

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Unless you actually just acknowledge that it's fear and just leave it, leave it at that.

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Like whenever people, like people are afraid that they aren't enough.

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That's what that's the quote unquote imposter syndrome.

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And like, I love, and that's like, yeah, I don't know.

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A lot of people don't, I, I, everyone's susceptible to it.

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People don't do things out of fear.

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And then one day you do think, and then one day you learn, one day, hopefully people,

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you learn, you learn to do things even though you're afraid.

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Yeah.

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To me, it's just a hard line.

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I got to learn when can I do something?

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You know what I mean?

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How do you learn that?

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I guess you just got to go out there in the deep waters.

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You do it.

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Yeah.

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So maybe I'll ask that girl out tomorrow.

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Maybe I'll ask her and maybe I'll.

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I don't know, man.

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It's, it's rough.

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So like, that's the thing.

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Like what is boundaries?

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Like what is this?

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What is a good time?

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Is it bad time?

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Overanalyzing it.

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Will it be bad?

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Just do it, man.

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Hey, if you, if you think Sean should add, if Sean hasn't done it by the time this episode's

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out and you think Sean asked that girl out, you should add him on social media.

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Yeah.

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Like it's crazy.

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So there's that and then for the preaching thing, it's a little easier because it's like,

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it's God's timing.

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I can just ask and see whenever that is, but at the same time, I kind of don't want to

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because I feel like that's going to put me back.

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Like cause what if God knows I'm already going to have me like preaching like a month or

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two that asks this question to like, my name gets erased off the list to two months now

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cause it's like prideful guy.

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Overanalyzing.

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I know.

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And obviously I can't just be like, stop it.

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It's so good.

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But how about just not do it?

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No, that's terrible advice, but like just don't.

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Yeah, man.

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Just stop being sad.

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I know.

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Just there you're fixed.

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Happiness abounds.

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So good.

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That's cool.

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I love it.

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But all right.

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I think.

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Do you have any other you want to bring up?

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Yeah, that was good.

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Really good.

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No, all right.

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I think like we jumped around a lot, but like, I feel like talking about the, I kind of stayed

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on the premise of analysis paralysis.

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And so like, if you guys deal with that a lot, let us know at Adam's social media.

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If we have a social media page specifically for the podcast, you know, ask, send us a

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message by the time this podcast is out, if we have a thing made already, but it's not

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just mess.

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You can message on our eye or you can share, share this podcast on social media if you

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liked it.

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Give it a like.

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You can do that.

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You can do that.

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You can do that.

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You can leave a comment on Apple podcast.

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You can't do that on other platforms, but yeah, give us some comments on Apple podcast.

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Leave us a good review.

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Leave us a nice five star review.

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Please do.

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And I like what Dave Ramsey says.

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You've got nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.

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So with that, we will talk to you guys next time.

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Love you guys.

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All right.

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Bye.