Alright, welcome to the Technically Short Podcast where two best friends with different personalities
talk about any topic under the sun.
I'm Thomas Carney.
I'm Sean Short.
And the goal of this podcast is to give you our different but equal perspectives in order
to help you on your personal growth journey with some inevitable comic relief.
Okay, let's get into today's topic.
So today, we're talking about analysis paralysis.
Oh, that sounds like a huge word.
I'm about to know what that means.
Alright, cool.
So just for the premise, analysis paralysis, if you analyze a situation or anything so
much that you know make a move.
That's so good.
And so this is based off the conversation I had today.
Today is July 22nd.
So yeah, it was yesterday.
On the 21st, I met up with Pat Williams, co-owner of Project One Nutrition.
We love Project One.
Shout out, Pat.
We love you.
And yeah, we met up for lunch yesterday and he talked to me a little bit about how he
used to be extremely susceptible to analysis paralysis when he was around our age.
He brought this up because of a lot of things that I'm personally trying to accomplish.
He didn't even notice it.
He just said, you are probably doing this and he's right.
He was a lot of the times with me, I'm just going to read some of the notes I wrote down
here.
I was thinking that I had to wait for others to take action before I did.
My goal was to respect authority, but Pat said that that's fine, but to be proactive
in the things that I'm really passionate about.
That is so good.
The idea, and then really he brought that up, is because there are some things, some
people I want to disciple, some areas I want to grow, but yeah, I was waiting on someone
else to make a move first so that I felt comfortable to make my move.
You can talk about that in any particular area.
I'm personally talking about life goals and things I want to do in my life that I believe
I'm being called to by God to do.
I personally believe I was like, I would analyze it to the point of, man, where was I going?
You were talking about how you were about to analyze the goals?
I would essentially get to a point, and this is something Pat brought up too, and he said
he used to do this, you analyze something so much that you're essentially trying to
tuck yourself out of it.
For me, me wanting to start a business, wanting to do things in my leadership with production
at the church, I can be very susceptible to thinking about all the cons without thinking
about the pros, or thinking about the pros but leaning on the cons, and being like, well,
all these, this could go wrong, and this could go wrong, and this person might not like what
I did, and on and on and on, and essentially being like, okay, well, let's avoid that discomfort,
let's avoid the possible failure, and not do anything.
This is so good.
And Pat flat out, he's like, yeah, if you're passionate about something, you take action.
And I think there's some areas where I have done this, and some areas where I still need
to focus on that more, and I think there's like, and Shaw, you can chime in at any time,
there's times where I feel like there, especially with the instance of wanting to respect authority,
even if the authority wasn't like, it's not like solid, 100% solid, and there's, but I
still wanted to make sure that there, I know there's kind of a hierarchy thing happening,
so I'm like, I want to make sure that I don't step on toes, and Pat said that before I even
said anything.
And he's like, why, if it's something that you can do, like for this instance, I want
to disciple somebody that is under somebody else, and Pat was like, well, if you feel
like you can, why not just ask them, or ask me up with them in a different group, not
to go against the other person, but to actually push yourself forward in what you're aiming
to do, so you can actually grow and take that step and see what God has for you in that
area.
So to me, this is so deep, because this is my entire life.
I think the only time I don't do this is honestly when I'm talking to somebody to invite them
to Christ, because in general, I do this a lot.
So many girls I don't talk to because I overanalyze it.
I'm like, okay, if I like her photo too much, she might think I'm a creep, or if I go try
to say something, maybe...
Yeah, I know, that's definitely stupid.
But it's stuff like that, like I overanalyze everything.
So like this is a constant issue, and before coming back to Christ, I had bad anxiety,
but now I have no anxiety at least, but I still overanalyze everything.
So job situation, overanalyze it, I always do.
What I know I can do, only because it's like I don't want to ever step over authority,
and it's the same thing with even a ministry.
God's called me to be a pastor, and God's called me to preach and stuff, but it's like
I'm under ministers and stuff already, so it's like I don't want to overstep, and I
want to preach because I know this is my calling, this is my purpose.
There's so many times I overanalyze, so I never send somebody like, hey, can I preach
this, blah, blah, blah, blah.
I never do any of that because of the fact of so much overanalyzing.
Even the girls I want to date or want to talk to, I overanalyze it.
I'm like, okay, maybe this is not the right time.
I don't want to talk to her in front of her friends because what if it backfires?
In my mind it's always a backfire.
If you say this and she takes it the wrong way, and now it's like, oh, you were at the
wrong setting to say it, or blah, blah, blah.
You asked her out and it was like an icy event, or stuff like that.
It's just like, oh, I overanalyze all the time.
Can we talk about something that we were talking about the other day about social media?
Yeah, absolutely.
You're fine with that?
Yeah.
Okay.
To me, this is exactly what we were talking about the other day.
Bro, this is deep.
It's good.
Where you were like, this girl blocked me on social media.
I liked her, but then she must have blocked me because I liked too many of her pictures.
Yes, absolutely.
I was like, dude, for the record it was four guys.
If people are wondering how many photos you have, it was four photos.
I figured I was not going to go past three, but then all my thing, I didn't update my
Instagram at that time.
I didn't update it.
I liked three, and then all my watchers said she liked my photo or something.
I was like, oh, okay.
Let me like one more to let me know that I'm liking her back.
I was blocked at the four photo.
Then the craziest thing, the next day she must have unblocked me or something because
we were following each other again.
I had to clap because there's no video, I have to say it.
The whole thing with that is just like I think social media really... It's one of the reasons
why social media is a great tool, but it shouldn't be used as a lifestyle because that's what
a lot of people use it as.
It's attributed as part of the lifestyle.
I think to me social media, it's almost impossible to get away from the toxicity that even if
there isn't toxic people on your social media, you still would deal with that toxic stuff
of being like wondering... Because you get the dopamine hits whenever you see that we
get likes on our social media and the exact opposite happens whenever things like that
happen.
This person... I don't know what the opposite of dopamine is, or it's like there is a thing
that does that, but I know that you feel like this gut... Sometimes you feel like, oh,
what the heck?
Why did this person do this?
Why did they comment this on my Facebook post or whatever?
I started to stop putting my certain stronger opinions out on Facebook and stuff a while
ago because I could not deal with people that disagree with me and I get mad and angry and
that would destroy me.
Maybe one day in the future I'll be out with my faith.
I am putting things out in my faith.
It used to be the same way, so I don't understand what you're saying.
Such a dangerous road to go down.
Going back to... Let's bring it back.
Bring it back, yeah.
But after talking with Pat, one of the biggest reasons... The two people I consider mentors
in my life, there's other people, but two people I like to go to a lot for council is
Pat Williams and Pastor Ed Newell.
As far as people that are older than me goes, I have a friend who's younger than me that
I go to for council as well.
It brings me back... It brings me to Proverbs 19 verses 20 and 21.
It says, listen to advice and accept instruction that you may gain wisdom in the future.
Many are the plans of the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.
It's saying accept instruction that you may gain wisdom in the future.
You gain instruction, you get it from the Lord, but there's other verses about you
specifically that say seek good counsel.
I was trying to find that one, but I guess I didn't.
My dad used to tell me that from a young age.
I had no clue why he was saying it.
He just said, Thomas, seek good counsel.
Seek good counsel.
Who are you talking to?
Seek good counsel on this.
Put it on the altar.
Seek good counsel.
It wasn't until I actually lived on my own and started going and being surrounded by
people that are actually good counsel when I started realizing what he meant when I was
a kid.
Seeking good counsel.
Whenever I want to know more about personal growth or I want to grow an area, I need something
to kick me in the butt.
They tell me that I'm being stupid.
I go to people.
I don't know if this is the right thing for me to be doing.
What do you think?
Because I trust your opinion.
Because I know that they're solid in Christ and that they're going to tell me things.
They're going to tell me outright and not sugarcoat.
That's what I appreciate.
Because Pat, he flat out called me out on that being like, yeah, you probably are analyzing
things too much.
I know because I used to do that.
Now if I set my sight on something, I do it.
I'm like, man, I can't wait to do that.
I can't wait to like, in some instances you can't be like, well, why wait?
In this instance, why wait?
Of course, there's still always going to be that inkling inside being like holding you
back until you start chipping away at it again and again and again.
One that springs to mind, something I read in one of John Maxwell's books and also heard
on his podcasts, he heard a speaker at one point say like, every night before you go
to bed, he'd say, do it now 50 times.
Do it now, do it now, do it now, do it now, do it now.
Then again, he said he would do it when he woke up 50 times.
That trains the mind to whenever you're thinking about a situation that you could put off,
immediately do it now, it would pop in your head if you do that for like a week.
He said he did that and he started being more proactive.
With me, that's the kind of the philosophy I take with a lot of things that won't take
that much time.
I should text this person because I'm thinking about them or I should text them back because
they just texted me and I know I easily forget when people text me, so I'm just going to
do it now.
See, that's so good.
But from my mindset, the only reason why I fight this so hard is because I think of all
the repercussions of what happens when I do that.
Well, that's the point.
Yeah.
That's the point.
It's the girl that you want to do it with.
You know that there's a still possibility, but you do it anyway because you ever heard
the term do it scared?
There's a lot of things that people want to accomplish in their lives, but they don't
do it because they're scared.
That's why so many people just stay where they're at and they never reach their full
potential because they're stuck and they don't pull themselves out because no one else can
pull you out of that situation except for yourself.
Other people can tell you-
That's the craziest part.
Other people can tell you, hey, you need to get moving.
You need to do this.
Do it now or be like Pat and be like, hey, you're analyzing too much.
Just do it.
When I got home yesterday, I immediately set up a group text and started texting the guy
I wanted to disciple and a couple other people that he knows that he was more comfortable
with it.
Now we have a conversation going.
It was funny, on the drive back from where we went to eat, on the way back, I was talking
about that situation with him.
The one group pod that we were part of with IC, me, this kid, the guy, are also a part
of, I was like, oh, not even out of the park.
I felt like I was just pulling out of the parking lot and the pod started texting me,
hey, when are we meeting up?
What are we doing?
I was like, okay, good God.
I was like, that was uncanny.
Not a coincidence there.
So I just like, when Pat tells me, Pat is not just such a successful person, but he's
also so down to earth and so firm in his faith that if he tells me to do something, I do
it.
Right.
And if there's like a doubt in my mind, maybe that's not the best thing for me.
Maybe that's up to me to think about and pray about and maybe talk, bring to somebody else
like Ed or like Pastor Ed.
Yeah, that's, I think that's 100% reasonable.
I think that's right.
Pat is a straight shooter.
But yeah, like for me, man, it's always over analyzing, even about job decisions, career
decisions, all the stuff that I know I could do, still over analyzing.
And the hardest part is like trying to not lean on myself, but also try to shoot when
I need to shoot and not shoot when I don't need to shoot.
Like, you know what I mean?
So going after the right position, it's like, okay, what position God do you want me to
be in?
Because it's a hard thing to do to just like, all right, I could do so much more, but should
I right now or is it or is it the same thing for the girl you like?
It's like, should I shoot my shot?
Could you shoot the shot at the wrong time?
It's a miss.
And sometimes that happens and it's like, oh, so I'm always over analyzing.
So like, what I get from today's episode for sure is shoot sometimes cancel and shoot.
Say that again.
Take good counsel and shoot.
Yeah, I would say seek good counsel.
You seek it out because if you don't have a mentor, then you seek a mentor out.
You just wait for the one to come to you.
And I got good mentors.
Everybody knows you're a mentor.
But Pastor Brandon has a shot at this episode.
I hope he didn't catch that.
But it's not shoot sometimes.
It's shoot whenever you feel like taking that shot is aligned with Christ.
And like, if it's not aligned with Christ, that's the only reason at the time you don't
do it.
And that could mean if it's not aligned with Christ because of the action or because of
how like you're or how what your intention behind it is.
But like, if you're if you feel in your gut that that's something you should be doing
and you're aligned with Christ is something that Pastor Ed told me a while ago about a
completely different situation.
But it pulled but it tracks it tracks what we're talking about.
He's like, he told me he's like, whenever I don't know what to do in a situation, I
mean, God and I don't I'm not sure what God's saying.
Then I just listen to my I listen to my gut.
I listen to my gut feeling because if I'm truly aligned with God, then my gut is too.
And I should listen to my gut.
And I think that's where that's the way that's how you stop second guessing yourself.
That's good.
That's how you stop worrying about the what ifs and what if this goes so bad?
What if I fail?
You're like you're you acknowledge it.
That's always a possibility failures.
Failure is always an option.
And I feel like people say failure is not an option that I used to believe that and
that was toxic for my life.
But the like failure is an option is always an option not like that you choose failure,
but it always has a possibility of happening.
And if it does, then that's when you learn the most.
You learn the most through failure.
So like that's like what something I'm working on myself is acknowledging that if I fail,
that's actually a good thing because A means I wasn't ready yet for the thing I was going
for and B, God still has more to teach me.
And the only way to grow, grow to the point if you have big goals, the only way to grow
to the point where you're ready to accomplish that goal is like going and failing and going
and failing and looking back on that failure and then learning to grow from it.
What do you like looking back like what did what was God teaching me through this failure?
Because I still feel called to do this thing, but I failed.
What did I learn?
Like that's like every like going back to our last episode, every relationship you've
ever been in has taught you something.
Yes.
And like, it's it compounds to the next one.
And then compounds to the next one.
And some people need more lessons than others.
And something like or people need the same amount.
There's you know, same lesson, whatever.
Everybody I can't really go too far into that because everybody is on their own path, on
their own walk.
But like the I don't know.
What do you think?
I honestly think like for me analyzing its biggest issue was always rejection and failure.
Yeah.
And but there's a time and in some of it's not even just like failure or it would be
like stepping outside of authority that like you shouldn't.
For instance, like the preaching thing.
Right.
So like I have to be like since I'm under somebody, I have to respect the authority
they have, but also know that they're aligned with God.
So then it's like when do I just like, hey, I know this is filling.
I'm alive of Christ.
You're in line with Christ.
Is this an opportunity for me?
Or is it like, hey, you can't do this because you know, I mean, so there's a lot of things
that I always wonder about.
So I like my one of my pastor friends, he was like, why don't you just go ask the preach,
you know him too.
His name Sam back in the day.
And I was like, I was like, I couldn't, I just wait for God to call on them and let
them know that there's me right or whatever, didn't do something like that.
And he said, isn't that being prideful though?
I was like, but in my eyes, I see the opposite.
And his eyes, it was like, it's prideful because you're kind of like saying you can't do it
unless like God calls them to hear me do it.
You know what I mean?
Like to put me out there.
And I was like, to me, I didn't feel it's prideful.
I just felt it because of authority.
So analyzing to me has always been like, where is the right line to step to do something?
You know what I mean?
Because that's always what my biggest issue is because it's like, when do I ask?
What should I ask?
Don't ask, do you ask?
Questions is always like analyzing everything.
Do you learn from asking questions or not?
You do learn for asking questions.
Don't ask questions ever.
Because it's almost like you're right.
You're right.
You should ask questions.
It feels like when it comes to authority, it almost feels like disrespectful to put
yourself in a role that I feel like it wasn't given to you.
That's why I just wait on it.
No, I get that.
I get what you're saying because I felt that too.
And that's the response that you talk to God, you pray to God and maybe it could be that
you're in a season that just isn't for you right now.
Or maybe he's like, and if you go ahead and you do ask and they say this isn't for you
right now and you respect their opinion, then okay.
Maybe even ask what can I be doing in the meantime?
How can I be growing?
So if that does come one day, then I can be more prepared than I am right now.
Yeah, that's good.
I think there's never a bad time to ask a question.
And if you've asked a question once before and you already got an answer for it, maybe
ask a different question.
I think there's never a bad time to ask a question.
Some people think it bit me in the butt one time when I forgot Emily's name and I asked
her flat to her face.
And I was like, me?
I don't care.
I want to know, I'm going to ask.
That's just me.
I feel like some people might think that's disrespectful.
And I'm like, oh, that's not my problem.
It sounds so arrogant, but it's true.
I know how it sounds.
But like some people might, but like.
Because I just feel like analyzing is good and bad at the same time.
Analyzing is a good thing, but you can overanalyze.
That's the whole point of this episode.
Yeah, and I feel like I overanalyze too much.
I do.
So I'm going to try to underanalyze some of the points and just try to go for some of
the things.
But yeah, it's just rough when it comes to like authority, because then it's like you
have respect and you have to ask like, what are the motives?
Then you have to ask like, is this in line with Christ?
What does God want?
I think now you're going through like, okay, now you have to ask all these questions, wait
for answers and then take action.
Yeah.
And I feel like it's funny because this kind of turned into a coaching call.
But no, I feel like you should just like, I don't know if you have a question on your
heart and you feel like you want to ask, you want to answer to it, ask the question.
Like there's no, like there's no only reason, only thing that's holding you back is you
right now.
That's true.
And like there's like you ask it and if you don't get the answer that you would prefer,
well at least, well then you ask the question and now you know.
And it's like the, like, and again, that goes into like, people don't do things because
of fear.
And like, because like, even if it's like, I feel like there's, there's analysis paralysis,
but then the analysis turns into fear and then you talk yourself out of doing the thing.
And that's, and like, then like it kind of leads into, and then maybe not in your case,
but kind of leads into things like imposter syndrome, which I love hearing Tony Robbins
talk on imposter syndrome when I saw him speak a couple of years ago.
Because he was like, it's a load of BS.
You know, imposter syndrome doesn't exist.
You know, imposter syndrome, it's not imposter syndrome, it's just a fancy word for fear.
Yeah.
It's a fancy phrase for fear.
It's a label for fear.
Just call it fear and then you can actually get rid of it.
Imposter syndrome, like how do you get rid of that?
Right.
How do you get rid of it?
Unless you actually just acknowledge that it's fear and just leave it, leave it at that.
Like whenever people, like people are afraid that they aren't enough.
That's what that's the quote unquote imposter syndrome.
And like, I love, and that's like, yeah, I don't know.
A lot of people don't, I, I, everyone's susceptible to it.
People don't do things out of fear.
And then one day you do think, and then one day you learn, one day, hopefully people,
you learn, you learn to do things even though you're afraid.
Yeah.
To me, it's just a hard line.
I got to learn when can I do something?
You know what I mean?
How do you learn that?
I guess you just got to go out there in the deep waters.
You do it.
Yeah.
So maybe I'll ask that girl out tomorrow.
Maybe I'll ask her and maybe I'll.
I don't know, man.
It's, it's rough.
So like, that's the thing.
Like what is boundaries?
Like what is this?
What is a good time?
Is it bad time?
Overanalyzing it.
Will it be bad?
Just do it, man.
Hey, if you, if you think Sean should add, if Sean hasn't done it by the time this episode's
out and you think Sean asked that girl out, you should add him on social media.
Yeah.
Like it's crazy.
So there's that and then for the preaching thing, it's a little easier because it's like,
it's God's timing.
I can just ask and see whenever that is, but at the same time, I kind of don't want to
because I feel like that's going to put me back.
Like cause what if God knows I'm already going to have me like preaching like a month or
two that asks this question to like, my name gets erased off the list to two months now
cause it's like prideful guy.
Overanalyzing.
I know.
And obviously I can't just be like, stop it.
It's so good.
But how about just not do it?
No, that's terrible advice, but like just don't.
Yeah, man.
Just stop being sad.
I know.
Just there you're fixed.
Happiness abounds.
So good.
That's cool.
I love it.
But all right.
I think.
Do you have any other you want to bring up?
Yeah, that was good.
Really good.
No, all right.
I think like we jumped around a lot, but like, I feel like talking about the, I kind of stayed
on the premise of analysis paralysis.
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