Hey guys, welcome back to the Homework Assignment podcast.
Wanted to, I had something transpired this week and I wanted to get on here and basically
just kind of dump my mind on some of the things that have been going through it and kind of
give my take on some of my feelings currently.
Obviously, you guys know that this is a podcast for business and entrepreneurship and with
that being said, business and entrepreneurship would not be business and entrepreneurship
without the struggles of real life just like anybody else's career or job.
And it's a lot of times really hard to control, balance, organize those two, those two key
components and that's what this podcast is all about.
And so I recently got some news yesterday that somebody I care for very closely has
stage four cancer and I had taken three, four hours probably just staring at a wall and
kind of contemplating, you know, I was told on the next steps and all this kind of stuff.
But one of the things that stuck with me was he let me know that no matter what happened,
he had felt that his work was, he felt like he may have completed his work in this life
so far and he's a good age and he's very healthy.
And obviously, so this was, you know, an unexpected like for most people, it's unexpected.
And him telling me that got me thinking about all the things that we worry about.
Obviously, I mean, you guys can imagine any kind of news like this, whether you're getting
yourself or someone you love gets it, it kind of puts everything into perspective.
And the perspective I had was when I was talking to him and he's telling me this and then he
told me that, you know, it was something I really didn't know.
I wanted to hear.
But it definitely brought me some comfort because, you know, he he began to talk.
He's I would say we're very much alike.
He's a hustler.
He's a business owner.
He's very driven.
And we've always had that in common.
And he had brought that up.
And, you know, it got me thinking about this victim culture and this victim society that
we currently are living in.
I know there's a ton of things going on where there's, you know, a lot of people talk about
this, a lot of people are fighting against it and just, you know, raising that warning
voice of like, hey, we cannot be like this.
And that's just kind of what was going through my head last night.
You know, I do believe that I try my hardest when I come into work.
I, you know, if I don't show up, things don't happen.
People don't get paid.
It like if there's major consequences when I show up to a day of work and I am not putting
in 120% and something I know about this man is he was always given 120%.
And I believe the efforts that he put in his life, the efforts he put in his personal life
and his business life have led him to have that feeling that, hey, maybe I'm complete.
Maybe everything I've done here is, is enough.
Maybe my work is over.
Maybe it's time for me to move on.
And how many of us can actually say that?
How many of us today, no matter the age, can sit back and actually put that scenario into
place of receiving a news that, hey, your life may be coming to a complete stop.
How many of us would actually feel like, you know what?
I'm okay with that.
I'm okay with it because I did everything I wanted to.
I completed and reached all my goals.
I don't think many of us can say that.
And I don't think that was his initial viewpoint because I know he has goals.
I know he was always growing his business.
He was always growing his family and, you know, he had plenty of stuff he wanted to go
do.
But when he got the news, that was something that crossed his mind.
How many of us are actually living every day to our fullest?
Now that doesn't mean you need to go and you need to just, you know, oh, I'm going to liquidate
my company, liquidate my mortgage and just go live my, you know, live a life so I can
have no regrets.
That's not what this is about.
As human beings, we need accomplishments.
If you guys have ever read that book or heard of that book, it's called Something About
Making Your Bed.
It's written by a man in the military.
I can't think of the exact title, but I think you guys know what I'm talking about.
And you know, he said his report or his book is about that first thing that he did when
he woke up was make his bed and how that began a day of winnings.
That began his day off successful, right?
And so that was a part of him living that day to the absolute fullest.
And how many of us are actually doing that?
Are you doing that?
Am I doing that?
Are we coming to work and putting, leaving everything on the field?
Are we going home and spending time with our families and leaving everything on the field?
I use that term because I was in football.
My coach, our coaches would always say, which I'm sure many of you have heard is, hey, leave
everything on the field.
So when the game ends, you walk off and you are drained emotionally, mentally and physically.
And I know there's days that I don't do that.
And I know there's days that I do.
And just getting this news and, you know, processing it, it makes me feel like there's
so much more that can be done.
And I'm not talking about paperwork, I'm not talking about, you know, anything super specific
in that sense.
I'm talking about that everything you do, you're giving 110%, right?
We talk about in business, you know, when you are doing something intentionally, are
you giving 100%, right?
If you are currently, you have big dreams and you're working at McDonald's and you're
at the drive through, even though it's not a job you want, are you giving it?
Absolutely everything.
Are you trying to reach your full potential, whether that potential is built for the pressure
of entrepreneurship, whether that potential is built for the pressure of entrepreneurship
or whether that potential is built for being a general manager of McDonald's?
Because there's nothing wrong with that.
Everybody's different.
But the important thing is being able to give your all no matter what the circumstances,
the situations and truly having a sense of a care of wanting to become better, of self-development,
right?
I see the world, I see society, I see Instagram and, you know, Facebook and all these things
of all these people, you know, those memes like, here's how to maximize your days off,
here's how to, you know, get a few extra bucks, you know, whatever the case is.
And everybody's looking for that easy win, the getting something in return for absolutely
nothing, right?
And so when something happens, it's poor me, you know what, I should, you know, I should
be getting this, I should be treated like this because of this situation.
You know, and all of that leads to laziness leads to entitlement that people don't deserve.
It leads to all these negative things that have a huge impact on people's lives.
And I bring up the difference between entrepreneurship or like working at McDonald's is because like
I said, everybody's different, whether you are me and can handle the high intense pressure
that entrepreneurship has and constantly want to hit our hit my goals, or you're someone
who just wants a comfortable life, meaning, hey, you're not going to be a billionaire,
but you just want to be comfortable, which is totally fine.
The important fact here is that no matter who you are, where you are, what you do, the
integrity that you should have with yourself is that you are going to give 110% and give
all of yourself into what you are doing.
Whether you want to be there, whether it's what you want to do, it doesn't matter.
That is what being true to yourself is all about.
That is what's going to make this world a better place.
And that's all I could think about last night.
That's all I could think about was the potential, the lack of effort, the victim mindset of,
you know, I was sitting there and I've never lost anybody that I have loved like family
wise.
I've lost some friends, but nobody that I would consider like my father or my mother
or a brother or sister, I've been very lucky in that sense.
And so, of course, when I got this news, I'm thinking of like, well, how much time, what's
this going to mean, what's going to happen when he is gone, you know, and I sat there
for four hours staring at a wall.
And I realized that this is one of those situations that I talk about, that I teach
about all the time and harnessing the emotion of a negative event and turning it into something
good.
Because I know for a fact, when he was delivering me that news, he knew how I was going to fill,
he knew how much I loved him, but I guarantee he does not want me moping around and feeling
sorry for myself because that has nothing to do with me.
And most of the time, I think when people pass away, people that we love, they want
the best for us.
They want us to move forward.
They want us to, you know, be able to make something of ourselves to progress.
And I had that decision last night to be torn up about this for weeks, months, whatever,
whatever I felt like I needed to feel that pain, or I could take it in, understand the
situation, process the emotional pain I was feeling, the mental, get some mental clarity,
and then understand, okay, take this energy, harness it, use it to my advantage, be there
for him, enjoy the time with him, love him, spend more time with him, and keep on moving
forward.
And when the time comes where he does have to leave me, I'm going to do that system all
over again.
Now faith plays a big part into this certain situation.
So no matter what faith you have, everybody, whether you believe in an afterlife or not,
obviously that has a big part to do with a lot of timeframe on your emotional pain or
how you do feel things.
But for me, it was a great moment to practice what I believe to be true.
And that is, you know, harnessing that emotional, that emotional power that comes with any emotion,
whether it's a negative emotion or a positive emotion, using it to my advantage and not
being a victim and saying, you know what, poor me.
So and so, this is happening.
And I'm going to sit here, I'm going to be sad.
And I'm going to just, if anybody gets upset because I'm lacking in production, I'm lacking
in effort, I have this excuse.
And I've had plenty of excuses my whole life with two drug addicts of parents, not having
a family, you know, being homeless.
I mean, I've been through quite a bit of things that, you know, I did watch Effect Me for
a long time and it shouldn't have.
And so that's just what I wanted to share.
Just kind of, you know, a little bit of a brain dump on this whole victim mindset and
a winning mindset and being able to harness emotional or negative situations and use them
to your advantage.
I will tell you that being able to do this has progressed me forward in every aspect of
my life, whether it's business or personal, in my faith, my mental, everything.
Being able to not let things take more time and energy than is needed.
And that can be placed in this situation, that can be placed with someone who's treating
you poorly or doing something to hurt you, whether it's directly or indirectly.
I mean, this goes into every situation.
Imagine how much time is lost to feeling that victim mindset and allowing yourself to
mope, to cry, to, you know, just let it affect you for more time than you should.
I'm not saying you shouldn't feel emotion.
I felt emotion and I'm sure I'm going to feel emotion every day.
And when something happens and he does move on, I'm going to feel even more emotion, right?
But it's taking it one day at a time and then not allowing that to consume me for long periods
of time.
It's okay to feel it every day.
It's okay to work on overcoming it, but learn how to harness it, learn how to make it, use
it to your advantage, right?
So that's today's thought, guys.
One of the other things I want to talk to you guys about real quick is I have the amazing
opportunity to be a coach for a program called Club Faction.
It was previously known as the Faction Foundation.
If you go back to episode 20, yeah, something like that, we interviewed Dr. Derek Price.
Derek Price was a former NFL player, a football player for the Detroit Lions, I believe.
And he is the CEO of a couple of different eight-figure hospitals, addiction rehab facilities,
as well as having his own line of chiropractic offices and apart from many other things.
And so he has created this amazing program and recruited some amazing coaches, not talking
about myself, but the other people I get to associate myself with.
And there are four main topics in this program.
That is faith, family, fitness, and finance.
It's the four Fs of life, okay?
Many coaching programs, I've been a part of many.
And it wasn't my intention to start a coaching program, but being able to be a part of this
opportunity, I'm going to tell you why I took it.
And that is because I've been a part of so many different programs.
And in these programs, I feel like it's, you know, the world of business is full of so
many different elements.
And those elements are finances, family, your personal life, fitness, your physical and
mental health, and your faith, whatever that may be.
Those are truly the four pillars.
And many programs pick a pillar or a pillar or two, and they expound on that and they
teach that.
And it's awesome, right?
I've been a part of a program that's all about marketing and branding, which is all
the business side, right?
I've been a part of programs that's all about finances and numbers and data and reporting
for your business.
And then I've been a part of programs that's all about you and self development.
If you work on yourself, everything else just works out.
But I've never had a founder program, which is why I've been a part of so many because
I've been searching that touches on everything that has to do with who you are, who you're
going to become and what you are building.
And this is that program.
And I've been a part of it.
I joined it, got to learn about it, got to learn so many things, and then was presented
with the opportunity to be able to be a coach.
So I coach the small business entrepreneurship class and I'm going to have the link in our
YouTube video on our podcast.
If you guys want to check it out, there's several different programs.
It is non-expensive program.
The money isn't what matters to us.
What matters to us is changing lives and helping people where they don't know they need help
or where they've been searching for and just can't find it.
And so I invite you guys to go check that out.
It's absolutely amazing and I am proud to be a part of it because I believe in everything
that it stands for.
And all these podcasts we've done, everything we've talked about, everything we've taught
is already part of that program, which is why it just fits so well.
So check it out.
That is clubfaction.
You can hit clubfaction.com.
And again, we will drop the link on this podcast.
And in the meantime, guys, or until next time, don't be a victim.
Harness your emotional energy, use it to your advantage, and know that whatever happens in
life you are in full control.