Hey guys, welcome back to the Homework Assignment podcast.
I'm your host, RJ Patino, and we're really excited for the new year coming up.
I'm sure everybody is.
And today, as you can guess, we're going to talk about New Year's resolutions.
We've been asked a little bit about what is Elder doing to set goals for the New Years
and what are they going to do to maintain it.
And so, kind of thinking about it, I wanted to go over about three different things that
we're doing to make sure that not only do we have goals, but that we are actually hitting
our goals by the end of the year.
If you guys are like me, we have had those years, plenty of them, depending on your age.
I feel like I've had a ton where I've set New Year's resolutions, and then I don't think
about them ever again until the following New Years.
And then I'm like, crap, I did not do anything I set my mind to.
I did literally nothing of the sort.
So with that being said, number one, and the most important step to achieving your goals
is keeping them top of mind.
Grant Cardone has said that if you are not writing your goals down twice a day, you are
not succeeding.
And that is what we actually do.
So our entire team, we write our goals down twice a day, and that is one time in the morning
and one time at night.
Now in doing this, a few things happen.
Number one is that you are conscious of your goals throughout the rest of your day.
Imagine if you had a goal to, let's say, make a million dollars.
Throughout your day, if you remember that goal, what decisions would you make differently
if you were consistently focused on achieving that specific goal?
Would you go do A or would you go do B?
Normally, you're probably going to do A, but if you have your goal on top of your mind,
you're going to go do B. Here's an example.
A few years back, my aunt did a remodel on her house.
For those of you that don't know that are doing this podcast, I own a residential commercial
remodeling company.
We do a bunch of other stuff and we've expanded to some other areas, but that is our main
bread and butter.
So my aunt did a remodel and come that end of the year, again, a few years back, I went
to her house for a party.
I think it was Thanksgiving or Christmas.
And at that party, I see this beautiful home.
And the first thing that happened is she comes up to me and says, oh, Mijo, I didn't even
think about it.
And when she saw me, she thought about it.
So what happened?
Did she not want to hire me?
Did she not want to work with family?
Or did she not think about me?
Did she think I was too pricey?
A bunch of questions.
So number one, when I first started, when I first came back from South America and I had
started a landscaping business, she was actually my first client.
And she's always been very supportive of me.
So I know for a fact she would have given me the opportunity to at least come take a look
at her project.
And it would have worked out because she's my aunt and I'm going to take care of my aunt.
And I would have done a way better job than what's there.
Not that it looks bad.
Auntie, if you're watching this actually, house looks beautiful.
But I also know our quality and how we exceed all levels.
But what happened was, is that she didn't think about me, until she saw me and was like,
oh, Mijo, I didn't even think about you.
I wish I were remembered.
Well, whose fault is that?
That is my fault.
And I have to assume responsibility for not staying top of mind of her.
And the same thing goes with all the people, all my clients, right?
If I am not top of mind, when the service is needed, they are not going to think of me.
It doesn't matter even if I'm family.
This is my own aunt.
Even if I'm family, if I do not stay top of mind, they're not going to think of you.
So the same thing happens with your goals.
If your goals are not on top of your mind 24 seven, how do you expect to achieve them?
And I just talked about the decision making.
You guys are going to make completely different decisions if you are focused 24 seven on your
goals.
Writing them in the morning keeps you focused all day.
Writing them at night keeps you focused at night while you sleep and you wake up and
you're motivated towards your goals.
If you guys are trying to do something, remembering what you're trying to do is the only way you're
going to get there.
You can't do it any other way.
So that is number one.
Number two is being able to maintain a plan.
Build a plan and maintain a plan for your goals.
A lot of us say, oh, you know what?
I want to lose 250 pounds or I want to become jacked or I want to make an extra $50,000
this year.
All great goals.
All great goals for the person losing 250 pounds.
Amazing goal.
Absolutely amazing goal.
But if you don't have a plan, how the heck are you going to execute it?
You think you're just going to magically just roll into success?
You think you're going to wake up one morning and have ripped muscles drop the weight or
just have an extra 50K wired into your account?
If you're me on that last one, probably, but I do a lot to do it.
I do a lot to get there and that is because I have a plan of action.
So number one is, or I'm sorry, number two is a plan of action.
The second part, I guess subcategory to that is to understand that you have to adapt your
plan.
This is a little bit of a tangent and that is understanding that you're going to fail.
If you guys set goals without thinking that, oh, my plan is perfect and I'm going to succeed
instantly, you're an absolute clown.
No offense.
You're just a clown.
Failure is part of success.
If you cannot prepare yourself for failure, you are going to quit.
This is what happens in the gym with all these people that come to the gym, they flood
in the gym, they start working out hard.
Some of them, you're like, oh, that guy's going to do great.
And then all of a sudden, two, three weeks, maybe a month, maybe two months, maybe they
did all right.
They're done and they're gone.
They never come back.
That is because they quit.
They gave up on themselves.
And it's mostly because, in my opinion, they probably failed a long way a few times and
they got discouraged.
There's going to be days, and I'm going to put the gym back in perspective, there's going
to be days you're not going to wake up to your alarm.
Matter of fact, I actually had one of those days this morning.
I woke up a half hour late.
I still went to the gym, but you're going to have those days where you woke up too late,
all of a sudden you can't go.
You might miss a day or maybe you guys take a miss two days or maybe you just got lazy
and you gave up for three days.
That doesn't mean you have to give up on the goal.
Get back up and go do it again.
So I feel like a lot of people, they fell a couple of times and they're like, oh, oh,
well, and then they just stop.
For those of you guys that know what 75 Heart is, and I'm going to just put all my cards
on the table, 75 Heart has been absolutely hard for me.
There are multiple people in this company that have done it that I'm surrounded by and
they've completed it.
Matter of fact, as our COO of the company, I think he's completed it three or no.
This January 20th, I believe, is his third time completing it in a row.
And for me, I just keep failing at it.
Whether it's me getting too sick and I just can't push through it because I'm mentally
weak or whatever the case is, I mean, the whole point of the program is to become mentally
strong.
But for me, I just have a weakness.
We all have our strength.
This program is really hard for me.
Now I have failed more than the amount of fingers I have, actually.
I don't even know how many times right now.
But the reason I failed that many times is because I continue to keep on retrying and
I'm actually going back on it January 1st.
It started the new year.
I'm going to try again and I'm changing my method.
Changing my method to my plan of attack.
A hard part for me is I have...
It's hard for me to remember stuff, like taking a picture and small things, stuff that I guess
maybe isn't that important to me and it's really hard.
So I tend to fail a lot of times.
I'll do great for a couple of weeks and all of a sudden I forgot to take a picture at
night time because I stayed up later than usual.
I got off my routine or I went out of town and I just completely forgot.
But I did everything else.
You know, even read the book.
And so for me, I have to change that plan of action.
So I have a weakness.
I'm not giving up on it.
I'm going to keep going but I'm also, every time I fail, I change my plan of action.
And this time I believe the plan of action is pretty bulletproof but we're about to find
out.
Okay?
But I can tell you, if I fail that again, I'm going to keep going.
It's 75 days.
I one time got to, I believe it was 48 days and I got a stomach bug and I just literally
was done and I couldn't even move and couldn't get my workouts done or even drink water for
that matter.
So I failed but as the scourging, as that was, the point is that you get back up.
What is, it's actually, I love the saying, the quote, but what is a Sylvester Stallone
say, Rocky?
It's not about how hard you get hit.
It's about how hard you can get.
Yeah.
It's not about as hard as you get hit.
How hard you get hit.
It's about how hard you can get hit and get back up again.
It's something like, something of that matter.
Like that is the truest thing.
The people that succeed, whether it's in business or small goals or big goals, the people that
succeed are the ones that can get back up and it doesn't matter how far they got, how
hard the failure was.
They keep up and they keep on going.
You're going to find this throughout the entire world from 2000 years ago up until now.
Any story of 6,000 people who are here, they're going to have failure involved and the point
was that they didn't give up.
Let me talk about Thomas Edison.
He was like 800 times or 8,000 times or whatever.
It took him or he failed that many times before he actually created the light bulb.
If he would have given up, what would have happened?
I wouldn't have these two lights in front of my face right now lighting me up making
me look all beautiful.
That would really suck because I also wouldn't be recording right now.
The definition, I believe it's a definition, but the definition of insanity, I believe,
again, I heard this, I should probably fact check it, but is one of the definitions I've
heard is insanity is defined by someone doing something over and over and over again and
expecting the same outcome.
If you guys do not adapt your plan, when you fail, if you just go back at it the same way,
over and over and over again, you're not going to succeed.
You're literally insane.
Expecting to succeed by doing the same thing over and over again is absolutely ridiculous.
You guys need to adapt your plan.
If your goal is to get fit, you need to adapt your plan if you have a hard time waking up
every morning.
If your plan is to wake up in the morning, go to the gym and you just can't physically
wake up, well then you need to adapt your plan and try again by going in the afternoon
or at a different time or having someone hold you accountable.
Whatever you got to do, you just need to keep changing your plan and not keep trying to attack
it the same way over and over again because you're going to fail over and over again.
You're not going to make any progress.
Failure with progress is success in my opinion.
If you fail but you made more progress that time that you did the first failure, then
you are 100% exceeding.
Don't let anybody else tell you otherwise.
That is number two.
Number three is, and I'm going to sum up that, number three is creating your goals, maintaining
a plan and not giving up on your goals.
And then number three is to surround yourself, had to recap there for a second, surround
yourself with people that are on the same path as you.
If you guys have a goal to make $100,000 a year and you are surrounding yourself by people
that are comfortably being mediocre, doing five figure jobs and that's who you surround
yourself by, you're never really going to reach six figures or $100,000.
You need to surround yourself by people who are doing what you're doing or doing more
than what you are doing because you are who you surround yourself by.
I've mentioned this before.
We've all heard it from our parents.
They say, you are who you surround yourself by and that is literally true.
If you're trying to become a millionaire, you need to surround yourself by millionaires.
One of the biggest, I think, experiences that I've had, that I've seen prove that concept
is when me and my wife first got married, we lived in a casita out in one of the more
affluent neighborhoods or areas in Gilbert where our town is.
And when I lived in there and I was starting my business, everything was great.
And then we moved to an apartment complex just a mile down the road.
So I was still in this area and still was building my company.
Obviously, I was progressing all this fun stuff.
And then we moved to a neighborhood in a different area that was not surrounded by all this affluent
people and this money and just a higher lifestyle.
And I totally could tell the difference in performance, the difference in mindset, the
difference in just my attitude on the daily by being in an area where I was surrounded
by people that weren't aligned with my goals.
And there's nothing wrong with these people, guys.
They're going to be your friends.
They're going to be your family.
They're going to love them to death, but that doesn't mean you need to spend all your time
with them.
And that's what I'm talking about.
You need to spend your time with people that are on the same page, that are trying to be
better people and better to themselves and that have goals that they're trying to accomplish.
You need to surround because when you surround yourself by that, all of a sudden, the way
the universe works, the way the law of attraction works is now you're going to start seeing certain
things transpire.
You're going to start seeing certain decisions and opportunities that you're being presented
with bring you closer to where you're trying to go.
So one of the other things with that is you also got to be prepared for the haters.
And Kyle over here, he loves the haters.
He loves them because the haters, they spring out of the woods immediately, the minute you
try to do something better, whether you're trying to better yourself, build the business
or succeed in your career, whatever the case is, the minute you try to do something great
in your life, all of a sudden the talk begins.
And the talk comes from people you may know, may not know, but it also comes from the people
you love.
And if you guys can't think of an example, I'll give you one.
It could be as simple as, hey, man, I see that you're trying to build a business.
That's fantastic.
But you know what?
I don't know if now is the right time.
I don't think you have enough experience in that area.
And I really think that you need to take some time.
You need to learn and you need to just wait.
Now this could come from a family member and they may love you and they may care about
you and they may truly, truly mean to be helpful.
But in reality, what they're doing is they're actually making you doubt yourself and they're
actually holding you back.
And so you need to be able to identify those people that are going to be in your life when
you set these goals and you're trying to achieve great things.
You need to be able to identify them and be able to separate yourself from them.
Eliminate the negativity from your life.
If people aren't going to support you in what you're doing, then you don't need to make
time for them.
You can love them.
You can support them.
You can see them on Christmas.
You can pick up the phone every now and then, call them, tell them that you love them, whatever
the case is, but you do not need to spend your time with them as you go on this journey.
And unfortunately that may, like I said, be your family.
For me, that was both my parents and my relationship as I've grown up, gotten married.
Not only did they have issues and were they really toxic, but they were holding me back
100%.
And sometimes you have to make hard decisions and make sure that you can help yourself before
you help other people.
So when you guys start getting that negativity and those so-called haters, you guys need
to be able to push through that.
You need to be able to maintain a line, your mind with your goals.
And what's going to do that?
Writing down your goals consistently.
Understanding what your mission is and realizing when the things that are coming and that are
trying to intercept or prevent you from reaching those goals, you're going to be able to better
identify them because your goals are on top of mind.
So I guess another example.
I'm trying to give as many examples as possible, but if you're trying again to become a lawyer,
well, if you're trying to become a lawyer, you probably don't want to be hanging around
and card dealership people, right, because that's not going to put you where you want
to be.
Make sure you guys are surrounded by the right people.
Make sure you're learning from the right people.
Okay.
If someone's trying to teach you about something and they're in a whole different field, do
not listen to them.
Okay.
I actually just experienced this with some people recently were there telling me, yeah,
so-and-so he does this and he's told me to do this, this and this.
And I'm sitting here and I'm like, well, that makes sense for this situation over here,
but what you're trying to do, it makes zero sense.
But that is because this person is doing this and living this type of life and you're trying
to live this life, but you're following what he's doing.
Guess what's going to happen?
You're going to end up in that life.
It's just how it works.
Okay.
Make sure you're listening to the right people.
Let's recap three things that older contracting that we are doing right now to reach our goals.
Number one, we're setting goals.
Okay.
And actually, I didn't mention this, but one of the things we're doing and you may have
heard of this term before is PPFs.
And it's really big in our company.
We've been taught to do it and we've been taught by a company called Cardone Ventures
and our business coach, Jason Payne, taught us this earlier this year as well, but it's
called PPFs and that is personal, professional, financial goals.
There's three different categories.
Okay.
And they come into a line into one.
Okay.
So, one is purpose in life every single year or every single quarter or every single month
and that is to try and become a better person, try to become richer financially and try to
excel or progress your professional career, whatever it is you do.
And that may be stay a home mom, be a better mom, or that may be building a multi-million
dollar company, or that may be being the best chef cook that's ever existed for a restaurant.
It doesn't matter.
Those are the three categories.
Okay.
So, when we said those, we're able to keep them on top of mind.
Number one, create a plan, expect failure and adapt our plan when we do fail and number
three, surround ourselves by the people that are on the same mission as us.
Not necessarily the same goals, but that they're focused on developing and becoming a better
person, better human being, which we need a lot of this year with, you know, the way
the world is and with the election coming up.
There's going to be a lot of stuff going on and they're the only way we're going to be
able to succeed is by staying focused and eliminate distractions, eliminate negativity.
That is the only way.
Okay.
And just kind of a testimony for like the goal setting PPFs.
When we started doing this, some of our team members within a month were reaching goals
that they have had for the longest time.
But just because they said it, they were writing them down every day and everybody around them,
all their circle, their friends or family were aware of their goals.
They reached them in a matter of weeks, things they've been trying to do for months and months
and months and all of a sudden you put the right system in place and they were able to
execute.
We had one person that they've been trying to get a new car for a while.
And finally it was, it was made a goal and everybody around them knew it was their goal.
It was talked about.
It was written down every single day.
Plans were made and a few weeks within after doing that, he was able to purchase a new
vehicle.
Think about all the things that are holding you guys back and having been executed simply
because you just haven't done anything about it.
Okay.
Like this guy in his car, he's wanted a car forever, but not once did he go to the dealership.
Not once did he ask any questions.
Not once did he figure out what needed to get done to be able to do it.
And many said it a goal, made it a goal and got everybody aligned on it and he made a
plan.
It was executed and it was so quick.
It probably made him feel stupid.
Why didn't I do this sooner?
That is what is going to happen.
To a lot of us this year when we set these new goals is like, well, that was kind of
easy.
And there's also long-term goals that take a little bit of time, but failure is progress.
If you guys are failing and you're progressing a little, every time you fail, that is called
success because even those who have achieved success, they still fail every single day.
Apple still fails every single day.
I fail every single day.
But every day I get better, therefore I am succeeding.
So guys, really excited for 2024 New Year's.
I know this year went by in a blink of an eye.
Good song by Kenny Chesney, if you haven't heard it.
Felt that song big time this year, but 2024 is going to be the same.
It's going to fly by.
And if you guys don't maintain focus, you're going to miss out on great success and being
able to progress your lives and become better people and build a better life for yourself.
So guys, we're really excited for 2024.
Excuse me.
This beginning of the year, we have a couple of guests coming on our podcast that we're
really stoked about.
Brad Levitt with the Fine Art Touch Construction, AFT.
He's been a good mentor for us.
He is going to be on our podcast.
Really excited for him.
If you guys have listened to his podcast, it's absolutely phenomenal.
He has touched a lot of people's lives, changed a lot of people's lives.
He owns a construction company, obviously, and he has done remarkable things.
I would even put it as legendary things.
He's done stuff that you just don't see happen and he's built a very big company and a very
big reputation for himself.
And we're really excited to have him on.
And then we're also going to be following that up in February strategically, because we're
going to be talking about New Year's with Blake Clark.
You guys might remember him from one of our first few podcasts.
Blake Clark owns a Limitless Realty and he has changed the real estate game and he is
ahead of every single competitor in this state, if not the entire nation, on the way he's
building his company and the way his culture is.
And it's just been absolutely insane and he has succeeded beyond many other real estate
agencies.
So we're really excited to have him back on here.
We're going to be talking about goals.
We're doing that in February because come February, a lot of people, that's the time
where you won't see him in the gym anymore.
You won't, you know, people are going to be putting their goals behind them.
They're not going to be thinking about them until New Year's 2025.
And we're going to talk about what we're doing and what he's doing and his company's
doing to maintain those goals and that consistency and being able to succeed.
So guys, we really appreciate you guys listening to our podcast and supporting us.
Please share this podcast, okay, with everybody you know that is trying to better themselves.
We want to create a society where everybody that we're surrounding ourselves by listening
to and interacting with is all on the same page to go forward and become better people
and build better lifestyles for themselves.
So please share this episode and also like comment, drop questions.
We do our Q&A's guys.
If you guys have a question, I don't care what it is, whether it's, Hey, how do I start
a business or how do I better my sex life with my wife, whatever the case is?
Okay, it doesn't matter.
Let's talk about it.
Okay, because I guarantee the question you have or what you're trying to do.
There's a billion other people trying to do the same exact thing and wondering the same
exact thing.
Okay.
So let's discuss it.
Drop your comments, drop your questions.
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We got big events coming up, amazing things where you guys are going to be able to come
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the life that we have here on earth.
So again, thank you for supporting us and happy new year.