Hey guys, welcome back to the Homework Assigned Podcast.
I'm your host, RJ Patino, and today we have a great show for you.
So one of the things that I've been kind of experiencing, I just kind of wanted to share
a little bit and that is kind of, it is personal, which is fine obviously, but there's a lot
of moments in entrepreneurship or in just kind of pushing yourself to a limit, getting
to greatness where you have those self doubts.
I know we've talked about this a little bit, you know, those feelings of anxiety, of inadequacy,
and we may have touched base a little bit on it almost in each podcast.
And I think that's important to recognize because this is a, it is a problem.
It's a good problem to have and it's, but it still is a problem, right?
And I think it's always important to kind of recognize that and be able to do, come
up with, you know, talk about new solutions, kind of things that are going on.
And again, me just wanting to share my experience of that feeling of self doubt.
Like, what do we do when we have those feelings?
How do we operate?
How do we act?
And what is the best way to overcome it?
And we talked to, we actually had a lesson in our, in our company just a few days ago,
kind of about this, about persistency, being persistent, being consistent in everything
that we do and being able to break that breaking or have that breaking point and break through
that threshold.
So self doubt comes in many forms.
I think for me personally, it comes in forms of, you know, imposter syndrome, really wondering
and asking myself, do I even know what I'm doing?
Am I just faking it?
Am I making it, am I showing this big picture of, hey, you know, look at me, I'm this guy
who has a podcast and I'm trying to help people and give advice on experience.
But in the background, I'm stressed out all the time and I have all this anxiety and wondering,
hey, am I really going to make it?
Are we really going to get to that next level?
And even with, you know, looking back and being like, hey, look how far we've come.
Like we've done great things.
Of course I can do it again.
Sometimes that doesn't even help.
Sometimes it gets really hard.
And I think it especially gets hard when things that are unplanned for come to pass.
Or you make a mistake that's big and you're, you know, it may be the biggest mistake you've
ever made.
And you're like, holy cow, like, do I know what I'm doing?
Am I actually like doing this right?
And then, you know, as an entrepreneur or a father or a mother, you know, when you make
big mistakes, you begin to wonder if you're, you know, if you made the right decision to
be able to take on such a big responsibility.
I know I felt that with my daughters when, you know, when I had children and I feel that
with every child.
Feel that now with my, you know, my wife's pregnant.
So I have those feelings from day to day like, okay, another mouth to feed another person,
you know, I have to haul on trips, going to need a bigger car, going to need this.
I'm going to have to give more time and attention to her, split it up between three daughters
now instead of two.
It's like, can I do that?
Do I, am I, you know, built for that?
Can I make the time for that?
And as an entrepreneur, it's like, hey, you got all these people that depend on you to
cut their checks every week.
They depend on you to run your company right.
Because if you don't run your company right, it's going to affect them negatively, not
only you.
And so all of that can be a ton.
And, you know, we've talked in the past about taking that time for yourself, you know, really
focusing on your self development and being able to realize you are the one you can do
it.
All that kind of stuff, you know, positive affirmations.
And so I want to kind of share like some other tips that have worked for me because I've
had a especially last couple of weeks, like it's been so many new systems and stuff growing
and there's been mistakes in my end.
There's been some negative, you know, issues that have been going on with some of our jobs
with like our commercial clients due to new stuff coming up and also mistakes on other
people's part of stuff that's not in our control, but still, you know, affects us negatively.
And sometimes people don't see that.
Sometimes they don't see the back end.
They just expect you to do your job and they don't realize that what they're doing is actually
causing, you know, delays or problems in your company.
But they just, you know, people are so quick to, you know, point the finger.
So one of the things that, you know, we've learned and that I've been able to put into
play is really being persistent.
It's being able to push through by doing the little things.
So there is a podcast I just listened to, which may have triggered this whole thing
as well because I was like really feeling some self doubt stuff and I was able to listen
to this podcast by Andy Frisella and he talked about some of the self doubt stuff and he
says, you know, Hey, your, your emotions are irrelevant.
They do not matter.
If you wake up every day and you win the day, it doesn't matter if during that day that
you were winning, you felt inadequate, you felt dumb, you felt like an imposter because
when you go to sleep that night, you did all the things that you needed to do to win your
day.
Therefore you won.
You do that every single day.
It doesn't matter how you feel.
You're going to succeed.
And I think that's really important because there's all these small things that we do
on a daily basis that we don't really think is very important that isn't going to move
the mountain so to speak.
But when you add up those little small things at the end of that week, they move the mountain
a foot or two.
And sometimes it's so simple and so small and miniscule on the huge chart of things
to do responsibilities that we, we overlook it.
We realize, you know, what does that matter?
Right?
Like, what does it matter if I wake up and go to the gym every morning?
That's not going to help my cash flow problem.
But in reality, waking up and going to the gym every morning gives my mind a head start.
Right?
Helps me think, helps me feel better, helps me operate better.
And by the end of the week, I found the solution to the cash flow problem.
Didn't solve it, but it prepared me to be able to solve it.
Right?
And so, you know, every, every business is different.
Every household is different, but by simple and small things are great things brought
to pass.
I'm quoting that from a scripture that's an actual scripture.
And I 100% believe it.
We were able to talk about that a little bit this week that, hey, by small and simple things
are great things brought to pass.
And it's 100% true.
You know, you hear like in relationships, hey, it's the small things that matter or
just in life in general, it's the small things that matter.
If you're able to do this thing repetitively, be consistent and persistent and doing this
every single day, nonstop and knowing that little thing progresses you inch by inch.
It may not be a foot, but it's inch by inch.
Well, 12 days, those inches add up and guess what?
You finally progress a foot.
And so I have come to realize that when things get rough, when I feel that self doubt, when
life is getting hard, when business is getting hard, being able to push harder and by pushing
harder, I mean figuring out what those small things are that help me win my day and just
focusing in and tuning in on those things and getting them done no matter how I feel,
whether I feel inadequate, whether I feel like I'm failing or whether I feel that they're
not going to work just sucking up and just doing them, like even having a checklist and
checking them off after a little bit of time, it works.
Okay.
It may not get me to Z, but it got me to G and that's all that I needed because now that
I'm on G, I'm able to look back and be like, okay, it sucked.
The entire process sucked, but I went step by step and I was able to progress myself
step by step and now I'm 50% of the way there.
Now I'm that much closer to succeeding.
And so it actually reminds me and I showed this story in our meeting just the other day,
it really shines light on a story out of the Bible.
It's the story of Moses where Moses led his people out of Egypt and it came upon a bunch
of poisonous serpents and everybody got bit and everybody was dying.
Well, Moses was trying to figure out the best way out of that.
He was inspired by God to lift up, God told him, hey, raise up your pole and everybody
who looks at it will be saved and those who don't perish.
And so Moses was like, hey, everybody look at my staff and everybody's like, why would
I look at your staff?
How is that going to save me?
I am literally dying.
I've been bitten.
I am dying.
I am dying. I was looking at a piece of wood going to save my life.
Well, guess what?
The ones that did were saved according to God's word and the ones that didn't perished.
And that lesson goes into what we're talking about.
By simple things are great things brought to pass.
It was that simple to believe enough to look at that piece of wood and you would be saved.
And so, you know, going into again, those small things, having not just doing it, but
really trying to push yourself to believe that those small things, those small tasks,
those small ideas are going to bring about great things.
You just have to do them, have faith in them, because if you know that they've worked in
the past, they'll work again.
If you know they're positive and they're not going to impact you negatively, there's nothing
wrong with doing it.
Right?
Like, how is, you know, like I said, going to the gym going to help in cash flow.
I was going to the gym going to help me land a job.
They don't really correlate very well, but they this affects this, which then affects
that.
Right.
And it may be five different things I need to get affected before it affects the thing
that you're shooting for.
But it doesn't matter.
It's something that can affect it, even if it's not affecting it directly.
Really important to understand.
So it's tied all up self doubt, I think 100 percent.
It's natural.
I think it's debilitating at times.
I think it's overwhelming.
And I think everybody deals with it.
And even if you're not an entrepreneur or you're in your home life, it is a natural thing to
that comes to pass.
I mean, I can't imagine or I can.
But thinking back when I graduated high school, your senior year, everybody towards the end
of the year, hey, what are you going to do with your life?
What are you going to do with life?
Those are pivotal moments for teenagers where it's just like some people are unsure.
Some people have a plan.
But whether you're unsure, have a plan, that anxiety is there both ways.
The anxiety of not having a plan and the anxiety of having to complete a plan and accomplish
a plan.
And it's just like those are those self doubt moments.
But that's how people are made.
That's how things come to pass.
People learn how to push through it and not let that self doubt consume them.
Because if you let the self doubt consume, you're never going to know.
Right.
Hey, what if I fell?
OK, well, what if you don't?
Right.
Are you willing to take this?
I think that right there is one thing that literally destroys dreams.
I think that's another thing I knew for a while.
I was like, that phrase, what if destroys people's dreams?
How many people do you know that have reached a high age in life and they're not doing what
they had always wanted to do?
How would you feel if you didn't do what you've always wanted to do?
Right.
And maybe you guys don't know what you want to do.
But when you figure it out, what if you don't accomplish it?
What if you never get there?
That sucks.
But what if you take the risk?
You take the leap?
What if you deal with the anxiety, the self doubt?
What if you accomplish those little things every day that you need to accomplish that
will help you win the day and then you do succeed?
How great would it be?
I mean, it's phenomenal.
And unfortunately, a lot of self doubt comes from people that you love and people that
you know, people that want to be realist, realistic.
Hey, you know, that's a tough thing you're doing.
Like, hey, I want you to succeed.
But have you really thought this through?
And they instill that self doubt in you.
So a lot of times it may not be yourself in that self doubt.
It may be self doubt from the people that you've trusted the most in your life that
are looking out for you for the better good, right?
Because they love you.
But they still that doubt or they don't want to see you succeed because then they realize,
oh, my gosh, I could have done what I wanted to do.
I just didn't try.
And so it's really trying to find that that grit that you need.
That's what it is.
It's grit, grit to push through grit, to continue trying grit, to not give up grit, to accept
the losses and learn from them and not accept the loss and quit.
OK.
So the self doubt is it's overwhelming.
I'm pretty sure I'm going to talk about it 80 more times in the life of this podcast.
But guys, if you're feeling self doubt, if you feel like you are inadequate, that you
cannot do it, I promise you you can.
All you got to do is focus on the small and little things and do one at a time, one at
a time, and they will add up to be the grand scheme of everything that you're looking
to accomplish.
They're going to add up.
They're going to propel you.
They're going to help you get there.
So the lesson for today is self doubt and really trying to fight that voice in your
head, trying to fight the lack of willpower to keep going or to just give up and say,
hey, there's not a solution here and I just need to restart.
That's something that I faced once is like, hey, you know, I'm not necessarily giving
up.
I want to try again.
I want to restart instead of face my problem head on because of that self doubt, wondering
if I was going to fail.
Well, guess what?
I face it head on and it sucked.
It was the worst thing ever.
But by little simple steps and little simple tasks, I was able to push through and I accomplished
what I was looking to accomplish.
So all in all, guys, life can be rough whether you're at home or whether you're running
a business or trying to excel in a career.
It's rough, it gets tough and it's hard and you need to prepare yourself right now.
Even if you haven't faced those moments or not facing them, you need to prepare yourself
right now and make the decision now that you are going to push through it and do the small
things that matter.
And hey, if you're not doing small things that matter right now and you're not even
going through anything, do them right now.
So that's already a habit.
And number one, if you do them right now, it's going to help you succeed even further
anyways.
So by small and simple things, great things come to pass.
By small and simple things, is self-doubt completely eliminated and destroyed?
And by small and simple things, are you able to succeed?
So that all in all is basically what I want to talk about today.
It's been on my mind a little bit and I think mostly because I've been killing that and
I think it comes from me in phases and waves.
And what's important to recognize is if you're feeling self-doubt, that is a good thing.
That's a good thing.
That means you're doing stuff you've never done.
That means you're doing things that are pushing you out of your comfort zone.
So that should be a good sign that you're actually moving up and forward.
If you're not feeling that, if you're comfortable, you're probably not doing enough.
You're really not doing enough.
Because success, getting to the next level, consistently going to the next and that's
the next level, you should always be out of your comfort zone.
You should always be having to push yourself, having those emotions and actually having
to do those small and simple things in order to succeed.
So if you're not feeling that right now, self-evaluate.
Probably you're going to realize you're not doing enough.
You're not moving forward.
And reevaluate and get yourself back on track.
If you're feeling those feelings, evaluate and then focus, hey, what are these five power
tasks or, again, I'm going off of what Andy has taught before.
Whether you have five, 10, 15, 20, one, two or three, it doesn't really matter.
Figure out what your tasks are and then push forward and get them done.
Because I personally have done it.
I know it works and I'm going to continue to do it and I'm going to continue feeling
self-doubt.
I'm going to continue feeling when I get to that next breaking point, man, I've got to
go.
I'm going even bigger now.
Can I do that?
Am I able to do that?
Hey, this was easy because these were people I was in with.
Now I got to deal with these type of people.
We talk about elder contracting, the transition it's making.
Is nerve wracking going from crushing the remodel industry and building industry on
a decent level to now going to homes and dealing with clients that are on a whole different
level financially, that are on a whole different level with their mindset.
They're living a whole different lifestyle and being able to accomplish what now they
want versus what the clients we deal with now want.
I'm not sure if I'm explaining that well, but it really is a huge difference.
It's a huge difference from doing a cookie cut home to building a custom home with a
35 car underground garage.
That's the type of difference that it is in this clientele.
The question is, man, 28 years old, are they going to listen to me?
I thought it was crazy trying to get someone when I first started back, whatever years
old early on, like, hey, how do I get someone to trust me, a 20 year old kid with quarter
million dollars?
That's insanity.
They're never going to pay me.
Well, by small things and doing certain things, they were able to see, OK, a kid knows what
he's doing and they were able to pay me that quarter million.
Now I got to go and see, hey, how is this person going to trust a 28 year old with six
million dollars for a brand new custom bill?
That's insane to me.
But again, if I follow those simple and small things, I'm able to overcome that self doubt
because I know these things work because they've worked in the past.
They'll work for this client.
I may need to tweak them a little bit, but they're going to work.
So this is a homework assignment podcast.
It's continuous talking about topics that we face every day that affect our home life
or work life and just not only trying to find the balance, but trying to find solutions.
So guys, please comment if you guys have any solutions or let us know what's worked for
you.
OK, put your input in there.
And we're all here to share.
We're all here to learn from each other.
And that's what this is all about.
We want to be a team.
We want to be able to lean on each other and really figure out how we can dominate our
sector and be in while doing that, becoming the best person that we can be.
So I've used this phrase before.
Before you become a seven figure or have a seven figure business, you need to become
a seven figure person.
If you skip that step, you're going to fail really quick if you even get there to those
seven figures.
So really personal development.
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