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What's up guys?

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Welcome back to the Homework Assignment Podcast where it is our assignment to find the balance

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between work life and home life.

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I'm your host, Arjun Patino and I'm really excited to share the topic that we're going

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to talk about today because I feel like it's really hard to do this and I feel like there's

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a lot of people out there that hold themselves back time and time again and it's even something

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that new or successful entrepreneurs deal with time and time again.

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It's not something that just happens once, it's something that happens multiple times

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over an entrepreneur's life and especially when you're building a home life and a family

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as well.

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This goes through so many of the young parents or young couples minds and that is to start

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something new.

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To start a business or maybe to have kids or maybe to buy your first home, maybe to

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move in together with somebody or whatever the case is, something new.

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There's a lot of fear and doubt that comes with that.

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For me, again, I started a business and the start of that, there were so many doubts,

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fears, insecurities about myself.

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If I could be up to the task in order to build a business, how was I going to build the business?

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Was I going to be able to support my family or myself financially while I was trying to

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gain the experience and build what I was trying to build?

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There's so many reasons and so many different thoughts, different mindsets that you can

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have that are going to turn you away from actually beginning.

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I want to talk about that a little bit today because I know there are many, many people

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that you guys may know, that I know or people you see in society that you don't know who

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have once had a dream or a goal or wanted to do something with their life and that's

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all it ended up being was a dream.

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They never did anything to actually put a foot forward and take that first step to the

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other side, the side of actually doing it, the side where you actually get to see and

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test yourself and find out if what you're doing is going to work.

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Now there's a few things that goes into starting something.

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Again, whether you're starting a family, starting a business, starting a new job, a new responsibility

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and it may sound easy just to say, hey, just do it, but there is that saying, if you don't

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do it, you're never going to find out.

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Oh, got an itch.

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So I love that saying.

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So if you never do it or if you never try, you're never going to find out.

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For me, curiosity kicks in and I just, well, I kind of want to find out what's going to

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happen and I'm a curious guy and that may not work for other people.

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And I'm not saying to use that as your only motivation, but that saying, which I'm sure

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all of us have heard before, definitely drives a little bit of curiosity.

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What's going to happen?

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I wonder what will happen.

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I wonder if it's going to work.

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So in my opinion, there's a few different things that it really comes down to that's

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actually going to get you through that door.

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That's actually going to push you over that hill to begin and start something new.

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In my experience, I started a family and a business at the same exact time.

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So when we talk about that homework and I'm sorry, home life and work life, you know,

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I had the best of both worlds kind of going on and I was trying to figure out both, you

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know, me and my wife are trying to figure out how to get married or be married.

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And we were also preparing for our first kid because we had found out we were pregnant.

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Right.

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So now we've got to figure out how to become a parent and be a parent, what kind of parents

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we wanted to be.

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And then on top of that, I started a business.

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So I had to figure out who I was in my business, what kind of owner leader I was going to be.

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I had to figure out how to make people follow me, how to bring in more business, how to

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deal with money, how to deal with clients.

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And it's you know, I had a lot of doubts.

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I had a lot of insecurities in myself.

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I don't think there's anybody out there that starts something new that doesn't feel or

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doesn't feel like they're capable to do it right off the bat.

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I think there's a lot of the similar doubts and fears and insecurities that goes through

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everybody's head.

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I think it's kind of more of a universal cycle.

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And I feel like it's a lot of the same stuff.

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And for me, I sometimes have a hard time explaining because I feel like for me, it really was

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just doing something about it, not thinking and doing.

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Other people can't do that.

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Some people need to have a plan, need a little bit more security before they go in.

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And I think that's okay.

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But I know some people get stuck there.

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If not a majority of people get stuck in that planning phase.

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They get stuck in the brainstorming and let's do this, let's plan this, hey, this, this

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and this.

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And then they never plan on actually doing something about it.

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They might have a great idea, a great plan, a great concept or software that they want

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to build.

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But if you don't do anything about it, you're never going to be able to introduce that.

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And another thing to think about is, you know, not doing something, you have a for sure knowledge

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what's going to happen.

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It's not going to work, right?

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So you have two options, not doing it, which you know the outcome already, and then doing

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it, which you don't know the outcome.

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So for me, it's like, okay, I already know what's going to happen here.

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Let's give this a try.

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And let's see what happens because worst case scenario, what's going to happen?

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It's not going to work.

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I'm going to end up back here.

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Okay, well, you already were here before.

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You're already there right now.

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Right?

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So if you don't take that action, you're not going to find out.

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And I know 100% that every single success success story that you hear about from different

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entrepreneurs or other, you know, people that are motivational speakers, speakers, everything

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that's happened in their life, everything that they tried, there was failure.

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Okay, I talked about this in our last podcast failure.

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Don't let it scare you away.

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You're going to fail.

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I failed time and time again.

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I continue to fail every day.

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I'm not a perfect leader, not a perfect business owner.

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Okay, I don't always have perfect projects.

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Even when I run them myself, you know, I have problems.

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I have miscommunications as well.

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And so you just can't you can't let that stop you.

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Okay, you need to actually put a foot forward, take all the planning if you do have some

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planning and actually just do something about it.

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Now for me going back to the not thinking and just doing what's worked for me and I

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don't recommend this because I don't think it's for everybody.

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But for me, I do something and I figure it out along the way.

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Okay, so I become I get to a point where I really want to do something.

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And the minute that my brain starts getting flooded with these insecurities and fears

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and doubts and what ifs, you know, that's when I stop and I actually just do something

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about it.

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And I can tell you that 99.9% of the time, I end up being successful in what I do.

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And I truly believe it's because I put my mind to it.

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Okay, I'm dedicated to I'm motivated, which brings me to the point of if you're going

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to do something, you also have to be 100% into it.

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Okay, if you put 50% into it, you're probably not going to be successful in whatever you're

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trying to start.

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You need to it needs to be like this is the only option.

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Okay, if you're over there saying, you know what, I want to start this business.

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But just in case this doesn't work, I have a backup plan.

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You're already on the road to failure.

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Period.

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If you have a plan B, you're already expecting to fail.

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How can you expect to win?

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How can you expect to succeed when you are planning for your failure?

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Okay, we talked about the law of attraction a lot.

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Okay, the law of attraction is you're attracting what you're you're you're you're trying to

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bring to you.

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Okay, well, the mindset of failure, hey, here's my plan B, C, D and E is obviously going to

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attract failure.

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And what's going to happen is when you're actually putting motion into what you're trying

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to start in the back of your mind in your subconscious, you're going to be like, okay,

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well, you know what, no worries.

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I have this plan.

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You know, I have this to fall back on to.

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I have this to lean on to.

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And so you're going to be maybe a little bit more comfortable.

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And that's going to cause you to not grind in the moments that you have to grind as if

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it was the only option.

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Make it your only option to succeed in whatever you're trying to build.

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Okay, I heard a story about the brand Tommy John.

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And and I don't know if I got that name right.

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I hope I did, but it's a brand of shirts and underwear and clothes or undergarments, I

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believe.

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And and Ed Mylet had a chance to interview him.

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And what he talked about was that, you know, he he had a job.

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His wife had a job and he ended up, you know, stop.

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He stopped his job.

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He they cashed out their 401ks and they went towards this idea to create a shirt that was

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going to solve the problems that so many people in the world have and to create a brief that

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so many people had problems or to solve the problem that people have with briefs like

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the you know, the waistband folding over and all these, you know, all these other issues.

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And they believed in themselves.

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Okay, now let's think about that right there right now.

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That is a very successful brand.

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You guys can look it up.

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Okay, there are a little bit more on the expensive side.

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They're worth it.

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The product's great.

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He has been very successful in over the years and you know, he went from whatever his normal

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job was to being, you know, a very successful entrepreneur.

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And I guarantee if I could call him right now and talk to him and ask him, hey, did

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you face any insecurities, fears or doubts when you decided to build this business?

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He's going to say 100 percent.

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Yes.

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The difference between entrepreneurs that succeed and start their own companies from

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scratch and the people who don't want or, you know, want to start something and haven't

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done it.

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The difference is actually doing it.

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Grant Cardone did a show called Undercover Billionaire.

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Grant Cardone for those of you know, he's a very successful real estate entrepreneur

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and he dabbles in a couple other businesses.

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And what Undercover Billionaire did is they basically took this, you know, entrepreneur

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and they took away his name, gave him a fake name, took away his phone and all of his contacts,

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all the people he knew, took away his wallet.

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He had no access to credit lines, any of his financials, nothing.

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They took away his vehicle, gave him an old truck and they put him in a town where nobody

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knew him.

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And they gave him a hundred dollars and said, hey, here's your task.

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You are going to have to build a one million dollar business in 90 days with this hundred

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dollars and absolutely nothing else.

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He said, I'm actually going to build a $10 million business.

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And he went out there and after 90 days, he had acquired over $2 million in real estate

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and built a five, over a $5 million business in just three months.

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With nothing.

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Absolutely nothing but a hundred bucks, old truck, fake name in a town where nobody knew

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him.

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That comes to show you that your mindset and actually just doing something, pushing and

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going and making your first moves wherever you can, wherever you know to make them is

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going to lead you to results.

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Again, in other, in other episodes, we've talked about whatever action you put in, those

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are the results you are going to get.

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Coming back to, Hey, well, if you put 50% effort and guess how much of a percentage

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of results you're going to get, you're going to get 50% of results or less.

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But if you're putting 120% in, what do you think you're going to achieve?

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Now another cool point to make out on the story about Grant Cardone and his, his adventure

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that he had is that it wasn't easy.

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You know, he there, if you actually go and find the episode, he had a lot of struggles

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and he even faced doubts, fears, anxiety during the process.

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Because what happened was he put his entire name, business, everything he's ever built

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on the line.

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Cause who would work or who would believe in this multi-millionaire real estate entrepreneur

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if he went on this show and he failed?

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One of the greatest salesmen in the world and he failed.

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So he had a lot on the line and he had to believe in himself, but that doesn't mean

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he didn't face all these hardships, all this anxiety, fears, doubts, insecurities along

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the way.

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Oh, can I do this 30 days in?

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I don't have much to show for it.

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Can I do this?

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Did I make a bad choice?

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I face insecurities every day and I'm going to be very honest with you today was one of

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those days.

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Wasn't the greatest week.

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We're all just having a hard week.

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We all have those weeks and you know, you see stuff happen or things transpire that

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really gets you down.

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And again, there comes fear, doubt and insecurity.

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Man, where am I going to be five years from now?

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Is this working?

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Am I doing what's right?

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Am I making the right decisions?

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The way you can defeat that is by drowning out that voice and telling yourself that you

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can do it, that believing in yourself and flush it out, find something to do about it

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and just go do it.

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Don't think, just go do.

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For me also at this point, I'm also able to look back and be like, okay, you know what?

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Well, I did this.

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I did that.

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Or, hey, it's been working or you know what?

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Like it worked here, it worked there and that's also going to help solidify and bring you

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encouragement along the road to building your business.

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So, if you think you guys are not going to face hard things, variables, insecurities,

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you know, fear, doubt, the whole nine yards, even when you become successful, then you

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misunderstand the road to success.

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It is always going to be there.

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I don't care how rich you are.

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I don't care who you are.

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I don't care how animated you are.

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I don't care if you're the best salesperson.

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I don't care if you're the number one top 0.1% in your field or industry.

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I do not care.

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You are going to face fear, doubt, anxiety and insecurities along the way.

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It is part of life.

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Why?

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Because we're human.

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We have that voice in our head that tells us, hey, careful, this might fail.

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Hey, careful.

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This isn't going to work.

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And you have to fight that out.

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I always call that voice the natural man.

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The natural man faces those or brings up those types of feelings.

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You need to learn how to control the natural man.

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You need to learn how to overcome the natural man because what you're going to find when

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you do that is only going to be success.

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Now, I've been told, hey, that sounds easy.

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It sounds easy.

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It sounds great.

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Or hey, yeah, that's easy for you to say because you're already doing multi millions of dollars

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worth of business or do you have six figures?

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You take home whatever the case is.

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That's a bunch of crap.

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It's not any easier.

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It may be a little bit more comfortable.

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Right.

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But it's not any easier.

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Grant Cardone also talks about the zero mindset mentality.

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Okay.

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Every day.

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I don't care how much money you have in your bank account or I have in my bank account.

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I wake up and I act as if I have zero dollars.

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That keeps my hustle alive.

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That keeps me treating the game and the business and everything I do in life as if I have zero

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options, as if I have nothing, as if I am already at rock bottom.

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If you were to have that mindset, I am already at rock bottom.

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My situation could not get any worse.

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How powerful, how dangerous would you be and implementing an idea that could change your

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entire life?

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Now take that, be like that, think like that every single day, be that dangerous every

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single day, be that powerful every single day and your entire life will never be the

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same ever, ever again.

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That's how easy it is.

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The start is hard, but you can make it easy by just doing something about it, by thinking

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the right thoughts.

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Okay.

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This doesn't just entail for construction companies.

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This also entails for, I mean, I think everything in life.

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Like I said, when I go back to me and my wife getting married, right, there's a lot of people

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out there that are scared to get married.

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Well, what if I'm not good enough?

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What if I can't provide?

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What if I can't protect?

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And I'm talking about attributes of a man here.

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These are some of my personal things that I actually felt when I was about to get down

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on a knee and marry my wife and that there was a millions of thoughts.

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I actually, funny story, I took her to a lantern festival and she was staring at all the lights

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and so I had the perfect opportunity to get on a knee.

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So I got on a knee, freaked myself out, got back up, got back on a knee, freaked myself

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out and got back up, got on a knee a third time.

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And that's when I actually proposed.

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Looking back, I also wonder why my wife had no idea.

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Cause I literally was, it felt like it was like 10 minutes of me kneeling and getting

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back up and she was just sitting there staring at the beautiful lights.

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But anyways, I'm glad, I'm glad she didn't turn around.

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Talking to her today, she feels like she should have known, but she really had no idea what was

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going on.

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So anyways, that's fantastic.

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But you know, I felt all those emotions.

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Okay.

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A little bit later on before we got married, I felt those emotions again.

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I remember laying on the couch watching TV with my wife and I started feeling, can I

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do this?

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I'm about to have to provide for this beautiful woman right here.

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On top of that, I know we're about to have kids.

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I'm have to provide for all those kids.

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Or let's take it back to just a few weeks ago when I found me, my wife found out we're

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having another baby.

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Okay.

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I already have two girls.

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I have a baby pup and I got two teenage siblings that I provide and care for.

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Now I have to have another kid.

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That's five kids total.

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Am I going to be able to provide?

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These are things that you deal with on a daily basis.

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And even if you decide not to start something, you're going to go to your normal job.

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You're going to go to your daily life and you're going to face those same fears, anxieties

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and doubts.

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You're going to find them just like you're going to find failure everywhere.

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No matter where you go, no matter what you do.

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So again, why not start?

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Why not face those same things you're going to face anywhere else over here where the

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reward could be life altering, where the journey could be incredible.

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Not saying that you're not going to be happy over here.

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I think people can be happy in a lot of different aspects.

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Me, I couldn't be happy working a nine to five.

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I just couldn't.

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I would go absolutely insane.

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I need more freedom.

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Okay.

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Need more freedom than that.

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So whatever it may be, whatever your passions desire, whatever you're thinking about building

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or doing right now, if we go back to, well, how do you start?

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That is just do it.

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Okay.

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If you don't have the right information, find out what you got to do.

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That's the first step.

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Do that.

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Then implement it.

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Okay.

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When all those voices and everything comes into your head, flush them out and go forward.

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Make a decision now, no matter what you feel, no matter what you tell yourself here in your

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head in the morning at night, or when something bad happens that you will not quit, that you

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will prevail, you will push through.

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And I promise you in doing that, you will be successful.

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Period.

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There's no doubt about it.

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I feel like I face a lot of hardships that should break people, that should make people

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maybe take a different route in their life.

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And I've pushed through every single one of them.

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I continue to push through new ones, new problems, new variables.

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Okay.

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So the end concept or the end result is the same.

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When I push through, when I put a hundred percent of myself and my heart into it, I

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win.

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I don't lose.

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I may lose a battle, but I win the overall war every single time.

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No doubt about it.

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It works.

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Hundred percent.

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Just like two plus two equals six, just kidding, equals four.

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It works every single time.

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No matter what, two plus two equals the same number, unless you're a liberal.

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And all of a sudden math doesn't make sense, which we'll get onto topics like that on

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another, on another series, cause I could talk about that for days.

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Let's let's just be real.

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So bringing it all together.

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Okay.

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Starting a business, just do it.

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Do not psych yourself out.

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You are going to face all these same concepts, ideas and securities in your regular life.

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If you're trying to do something great, trying to build something, if you're trying to make

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a dream a reality, just understand you're going to face them over here, but you're going

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to just tell yourself you're going to do it.

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Cause I personally rather face all that over here where it's so much more rewarding, so

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much.

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There's so much more freedom, so much more happiness.

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Okay.

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So much more of the feeling of success.

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I'd rather feel it over here than over here where I would have never, I would have to

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live with never knowing if I could have been over here.

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I could never live with that.

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We have one life.

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I could never live with that.

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Okay.

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I have met, unfortunately, cause it's really sad.

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I've met and talked to people, loved ones and people, acquaintances that end of their

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life instead of smiling, they look at me and say, Hey, take every opportunity you can do

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what you love.

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And it's sad to hear that.

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And I'm not saying there aren't people who are happy that won't tell that will tell you

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that, but in my experience, these are people that wish you could just see it in their eyes.

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Some have said it.

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Some you can just see it in them that they feel like they didn't live their fullest life's

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potential.

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Could you imagine, and it freaks me out to even think about it, laying in your death

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bed, looking at your life and realizing that you didn't do what you hoped to do.

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You didn't do what you loved to do.

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You didn't find out what could have been.

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That's a scary thought.

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Growing up, I wanted to be a doctor.

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I don't want to, I didn't want to be a doctor later on, but I mean, I had that dream.

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Okay.

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And I tried to put that into fruition and I didn't go to med school.

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Why?

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Because I didn't, it was just a dream.

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Now again, I can look back and say it didn't work because what I, it's not truly what I

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wanted.

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I thought I wanted it.

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So when I was trying to go for it, I was putting 50% of myself into it.

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So of course I never did it.

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Right.

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But when I finally realized who I was and realized I wanted to own a business, I put

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a hundred percent into it and I'm here.

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I'm enjoying it and I'm dealing with all the anxiety, insecurities, fears and doubts that

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come along with the ride and the journey.

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You're never going to defeat it.

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So I encourage you guys to just start, fight those fears, fight the natural man, that voice

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inside your head that says you cannot do it.

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Fight them, don't stop and you will prevail.

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This is the home work assignment.

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Think about what you want to do.

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Think about what you've always wanted to do.

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Think about what makes you happy, whether that's starting a business, whether that is

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leaving your current job for a new job, whether that's moving your family from one state to

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a new state for better opportunities.

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Think about whatever you have to do that you've thought about before and you haven't done

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and do it.

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And then comment or if you have my number, call me and tell me what exactly happened

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when you actually did it and you put your full heart into it.

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Cause I will be excited with you when you tell me, call me and tell me that it worked

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or when you, you, you share your story with us.

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I believe that all this is true.

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I believe it because we have lived it.

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I have lived it and I'm going to continue to live it every single day.

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Thank you for joining us today and I hope that this, this podcast, these topics are

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helping you guys.

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Again, I think we've talked a lot about business and we are going to start talking a little

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bit more about, you know, home life.

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We're going to again have some guest speakers here soon.

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We're just, we're taking our time.

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We're preparing for you guys.

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We want to make sure this is a great show.

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It's very informational.

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But all in all, I 100% believe in each and every one of you guys that are listening to

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this because you're taking the time and you're doing something about whatever it is you may

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want to do and you're listening to self-improvement podcasts.

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You may be reading books.

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All in all, if you're listening to this podcast, you're already on the right direction to live

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the life you hope and want to live.

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If you haven't followed us on Instagram and Facebook, please follow us.

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The Home Work Sssignment also follow our contracting and construction company @ Elder Contracting

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Co.

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We also are on YouTube, Home Work assignment and Elder Contracting is on YouTube and you'll

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be able to follow us through our journey, our everyday life.

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We're trying to document as much as possible so you guys can see the ins, the outs, the

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dos, the don'ts of home life, work life.

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You'll see me in business mode.

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You'll see me in podcast mode.

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You'll see me in family mode, friend mode.

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We're a huge family company so we got best friends, father-in-law, brother-in-law, everything

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that you can imagine a family should be.

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Everybody works here.

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We get to experience this balance of life 24-7.

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I 100% love it and enjoy it and I wouldn't have it any other way.

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Thanks for joining us.