What's up guys?
Welcome back to the Homework Assignment Podcast where it is our assignment to find the balance
between work life and home life.
I'm your host, Arjun Patino and I'm really excited to share the topic that we're going
to talk about today because I feel like it's really hard to do this and I feel like there's
a lot of people out there that hold themselves back time and time again and it's even something
that new or successful entrepreneurs deal with time and time again.
It's not something that just happens once, it's something that happens multiple times
over an entrepreneur's life and especially when you're building a home life and a family
as well.
This goes through so many of the young parents or young couples minds and that is to start
something new.
To start a business or maybe to have kids or maybe to buy your first home, maybe to
move in together with somebody or whatever the case is, something new.
There's a lot of fear and doubt that comes with that.
For me, again, I started a business and the start of that, there were so many doubts,
fears, insecurities about myself.
If I could be up to the task in order to build a business, how was I going to build the business?
Was I going to be able to support my family or myself financially while I was trying to
gain the experience and build what I was trying to build?
There's so many reasons and so many different thoughts, different mindsets that you can
have that are going to turn you away from actually beginning.
I want to talk about that a little bit today because I know there are many, many people
that you guys may know, that I know or people you see in society that you don't know who
have once had a dream or a goal or wanted to do something with their life and that's
all it ended up being was a dream.
They never did anything to actually put a foot forward and take that first step to the
other side, the side of actually doing it, the side where you actually get to see and
test yourself and find out if what you're doing is going to work.
Now there's a few things that goes into starting something.
Again, whether you're starting a family, starting a business, starting a new job, a new responsibility
and it may sound easy just to say, hey, just do it, but there is that saying, if you don't
do it, you're never going to find out.
Oh, got an itch.
So I love that saying.
So if you never do it or if you never try, you're never going to find out.
For me, curiosity kicks in and I just, well, I kind of want to find out what's going to
happen and I'm a curious guy and that may not work for other people.
And I'm not saying to use that as your only motivation, but that saying, which I'm sure
all of us have heard before, definitely drives a little bit of curiosity.
What's going to happen?
I wonder what will happen.
I wonder if it's going to work.
So in my opinion, there's a few different things that it really comes down to that's
actually going to get you through that door.
That's actually going to push you over that hill to begin and start something new.
In my experience, I started a family and a business at the same exact time.
So when we talk about that homework and I'm sorry, home life and work life, you know,
I had the best of both worlds kind of going on and I was trying to figure out both, you
know, me and my wife are trying to figure out how to get married or be married.
And we were also preparing for our first kid because we had found out we were pregnant.
Right.
So now we've got to figure out how to become a parent and be a parent, what kind of parents
we wanted to be.
Okay.
And then on top of that, I started a business.
So I had to figure out who I was in my business, what kind of owner leader I was going to be.
I had to figure out how to make people follow me, how to bring in more business, how to
deal with money, how to deal with clients.
And it's you know, I had a lot of doubts.
I had a lot of insecurities in myself.
I don't think there's anybody out there that starts something new that doesn't feel or
doesn't feel like they're capable to do it right off the bat.
I think there's a lot of the similar doubts and fears and insecurities that goes through
everybody's head.
I think it's kind of more of a universal cycle.
And I feel like it's a lot of the same stuff.
And for me, I sometimes have a hard time explaining because I feel like for me, it really was
just doing something about it, not thinking and doing.
Other people can't do that.
Some people need to have a plan, need a little bit more security before they go in.
And I think that's okay.
But I know some people get stuck there.
If not a majority of people get stuck in that planning phase.
They get stuck in the brainstorming and let's do this, let's plan this, hey, this, this
and this.
And then they never plan on actually doing something about it.
They might have a great idea, a great plan, a great concept or software that they want
to build.
But if you don't do anything about it, you're never going to be able to introduce that.
And another thing to think about is, you know, not doing something, you have a for sure knowledge
what's going to happen.
It's not going to work, right?
So you have two options, not doing it, which you know the outcome already, and then doing
it, which you don't know the outcome.
So for me, it's like, okay, I already know what's going to happen here.
Let's give this a try.
And let's see what happens because worst case scenario, what's going to happen?
It's not going to work.
I'm going to end up back here.
Okay, well, you already were here before.
You're already there right now.
Right?
So if you don't take that action, you're not going to find out.
And I know 100% that every single success success story that you hear about from different
entrepreneurs or other, you know, people that are motivational speakers, speakers, everything
that's happened in their life, everything that they tried, there was failure.
Okay, I talked about this in our last podcast failure.
Don't let it scare you away.
You're going to fail.
I failed time and time again.
I continue to fail every day.
I'm not a perfect leader, not a perfect business owner.
Okay, I don't always have perfect projects.
Even when I run them myself, you know, I have problems.
I have miscommunications as well.
And so you just can't you can't let that stop you.
Okay, you need to actually put a foot forward, take all the planning if you do have some
planning and actually just do something about it.
Now for me going back to the not thinking and just doing what's worked for me and I
don't recommend this because I don't think it's for everybody.
But for me, I do something and I figure it out along the way.
Okay, so I become I get to a point where I really want to do something.
And the minute that my brain starts getting flooded with these insecurities and fears
and doubts and what ifs, you know, that's when I stop and I actually just do something
about it.
And I can tell you that 99.9% of the time, I end up being successful in what I do.
And I truly believe it's because I put my mind to it.
Okay, I'm dedicated to I'm motivated, which brings me to the point of if you're going
to do something, you also have to be 100% into it.
Okay, if you put 50% into it, you're probably not going to be successful in whatever you're
trying to start.
You need to it needs to be like this is the only option.
Okay, if you're over there saying, you know what, I want to start this business.
But just in case this doesn't work, I have a backup plan.
You're already on the road to failure.
Period.
If you have a plan B, you're already expecting to fail.
How can you expect to win?
How can you expect to succeed when you are planning for your failure?
Okay, we talked about the law of attraction a lot.
Okay, the law of attraction is you're attracting what you're you're you're you're trying to
bring to you.
Okay, well, the mindset of failure, hey, here's my plan B, C, D and E is obviously going to
attract failure.
And what's going to happen is when you're actually putting motion into what you're trying
to start in the back of your mind in your subconscious, you're going to be like, okay,
well, you know what, no worries.
I have this plan.
You know, I have this to fall back on to.
I have this to lean on to.
And so you're going to be maybe a little bit more comfortable.
And that's going to cause you to not grind in the moments that you have to grind as if
it was the only option.
Make it your only option to succeed in whatever you're trying to build.
Okay, I heard a story about the brand Tommy John.
And and I don't know if I got that name right.
I hope I did, but it's a brand of shirts and underwear and clothes or undergarments, I
believe.
And and Ed Mylet had a chance to interview him.
And what he talked about was that, you know, he he had a job.
His wife had a job and he ended up, you know, stop.
He stopped his job.
He they cashed out their 401ks and they went towards this idea to create a shirt that was
going to solve the problems that so many people in the world have and to create a brief that
so many people had problems or to solve the problem that people have with briefs like
the you know, the waistband folding over and all these, you know, all these other issues.
And they believed in themselves.
Okay, now let's think about that right there right now.
That is a very successful brand.
You guys can look it up.
Okay, there are a little bit more on the expensive side.
They're worth it.
The product's great.
He has been very successful in over the years and you know, he went from whatever his normal
job was to being, you know, a very successful entrepreneur.
And I guarantee if I could call him right now and talk to him and ask him, hey, did
you face any insecurities, fears or doubts when you decided to build this business?
He's going to say 100 percent.
Yes.
Okay.
The difference between entrepreneurs that succeed and start their own companies from
scratch and the people who don't want or, you know, want to start something and haven't
done it.
The difference is actually doing it.
Okay.
Grant Cardone did a show called Undercover Billionaire.
Grant Cardone for those of you know, he's a very successful real estate entrepreneur
and he dabbles in a couple other businesses.
And what Undercover Billionaire did is they basically took this, you know, entrepreneur
and they took away his name, gave him a fake name, took away his phone and all of his contacts,
all the people he knew, took away his wallet.
He had no access to credit lines, any of his financials, nothing.
Okay.
They took away his vehicle, gave him an old truck and they put him in a town where nobody
knew him.
And they gave him a hundred dollars and said, hey, here's your task.
You are going to have to build a one million dollar business in 90 days with this hundred
dollars and absolutely nothing else.
Okay.
He said, I'm actually going to build a $10 million business.
And he went out there and after 90 days, he had acquired over $2 million in real estate
and built a five, over a $5 million business in just three months.
Okay.
With nothing.
Absolutely nothing but a hundred bucks, old truck, fake name in a town where nobody knew
him.
That comes to show you that your mindset and actually just doing something, pushing and
going and making your first moves wherever you can, wherever you know to make them is
going to lead you to results.
Again, in other, in other episodes, we've talked about whatever action you put in, those
are the results you are going to get.
Coming back to, Hey, well, if you put 50% effort and guess how much of a percentage
of results you're going to get, you're going to get 50% of results or less.
Okay.
But if you're putting 120% in, what do you think you're going to achieve?
Now another cool point to make out on the story about Grant Cardone and his, his adventure
that he had is that it wasn't easy.
You know, he there, if you actually go and find the episode, he had a lot of struggles
and he even faced doubts, fears, anxiety during the process.
Okay.
Because what happened was he put his entire name, business, everything he's ever built
on the line.
Cause who would work or who would believe in this multi-millionaire real estate entrepreneur
if he went on this show and he failed?
One of the greatest salesmen in the world and he failed.
Okay.
So he had a lot on the line and he had to believe in himself, but that doesn't mean
he didn't face all these hardships, all this anxiety, fears, doubts, insecurities along
the way.
Oh, can I do this 30 days in?
I don't have much to show for it.
Can I do this?
Did I make a bad choice?
Okay.
I face insecurities every day and I'm going to be very honest with you today was one of
those days.
Okay.
Wasn't the greatest week.
Okay.
We're all just having a hard week.
We all have those weeks and you know, you see stuff happen or things transpire that
really gets you down.
Okay.
And again, there comes fear, doubt and insecurity.
Okay.
Man, where am I going to be five years from now?
Is this working?
Am I doing what's right?
Am I making the right decisions?
The way you can defeat that is by drowning out that voice and telling yourself that you
can do it, that believing in yourself and flush it out, find something to do about it
and just go do it.
Don't think, just go do.
For me also at this point, I'm also able to look back and be like, okay, you know what?
Well, I did this.
I did that.
Or, hey, it's been working or you know what?
Like it worked here, it worked there and that's also going to help solidify and bring you
encouragement along the road to building your business.
Okay.
So, if you think you guys are not going to face hard things, variables, insecurities,
you know, fear, doubt, the whole nine yards, even when you become successful, then you
misunderstand the road to success.
It is always going to be there.
I don't care how rich you are.
I don't care who you are.
I don't care how animated you are.
I don't care if you're the best salesperson.
I don't care if you're the number one top 0.1% in your field or industry.
I do not care.
You are going to face fear, doubt, anxiety and insecurities along the way.
It is part of life.
Why?
Because we're human.
Okay.
We have that voice in our head that tells us, hey, careful, this might fail.
Hey, careful.
This isn't going to work.
And you have to fight that out.
I always call that voice the natural man.
The natural man faces those or brings up those types of feelings.
Okay.
You need to learn how to control the natural man.
You need to learn how to overcome the natural man because what you're going to find when
you do that is only going to be success.
Now, I've been told, hey, that sounds easy.
It sounds easy.
It sounds great.
Or hey, yeah, that's easy for you to say because you're already doing multi millions of dollars
worth of business or do you have six figures?
You take home whatever the case is.
That's a bunch of crap.
It's not any easier.
It may be a little bit more comfortable.
Right.
But it's not any easier.
Grant Cardone also talks about the zero mindset mentality.
Okay.
Every day.
I don't care how much money you have in your bank account or I have in my bank account.
I wake up and I act as if I have zero dollars.
That keeps my hustle alive.
That keeps me treating the game and the business and everything I do in life as if I have zero
options, as if I have nothing, as if I am already at rock bottom.
If you were to have that mindset, I am already at rock bottom.
My situation could not get any worse.
How powerful, how dangerous would you be and implementing an idea that could change your
entire life?
Now take that, be like that, think like that every single day, be that dangerous every
single day, be that powerful every single day and your entire life will never be the
same ever, ever again.
That's how easy it is.
The start is hard, but you can make it easy by just doing something about it, by thinking
the right thoughts.
Okay.
This doesn't just entail for construction companies.
This also entails for, I mean, I think everything in life.
Like I said, when I go back to me and my wife getting married, right, there's a lot of people
out there that are scared to get married.
Well, what if I'm not good enough?
What if I can't provide?
What if I can't protect?
And I'm talking about attributes of a man here.
These are some of my personal things that I actually felt when I was about to get down
on a knee and marry my wife and that there was a millions of thoughts.
I actually, funny story, I took her to a lantern festival and she was staring at all the lights
and so I had the perfect opportunity to get on a knee.
So I got on a knee, freaked myself out, got back up, got back on a knee, freaked myself
out and got back up, got on a knee a third time.
And that's when I actually proposed.
Looking back, I also wonder why my wife had no idea.
Cause I literally was, it felt like it was like 10 minutes of me kneeling and getting
back up and she was just sitting there staring at the beautiful lights.
But anyways, I'm glad, I'm glad she didn't turn around.
Talking to her today, she feels like she should have known, but she really had no idea what was
going on.
So anyways, that's fantastic.
But you know, I felt all those emotions.
Okay.
A little bit later on before we got married, I felt those emotions again.
I remember laying on the couch watching TV with my wife and I started feeling, can I
do this?
I'm about to have to provide for this beautiful woman right here.
On top of that, I know we're about to have kids.
I'm have to provide for all those kids.
Or let's take it back to just a few weeks ago when I found me, my wife found out we're
having another baby.
Okay.
I already have two girls.
I have a baby pup and I got two teenage siblings that I provide and care for.
Now I have to have another kid.
That's five kids total.
Am I going to be able to provide?
These are things that you deal with on a daily basis.
And even if you decide not to start something, you're going to go to your normal job.
You're going to go to your daily life and you're going to face those same fears, anxieties
and doubts.
You're going to find them just like you're going to find failure everywhere.
No matter where you go, no matter what you do.
So again, why not start?
Why not face those same things you're going to face anywhere else over here where the
reward could be life altering, where the journey could be incredible.
Not saying that you're not going to be happy over here.
I think people can be happy in a lot of different aspects.
Me, I couldn't be happy working a nine to five.
I just couldn't.
I would go absolutely insane.
I need more freedom.
Okay.
Need more freedom than that.
So whatever it may be, whatever your passions desire, whatever you're thinking about building
or doing right now, if we go back to, well, how do you start?
That is just do it.
Okay.
If you don't have the right information, find out what you got to do.
That's the first step.
Do that.
Then implement it.
Okay.
When all those voices and everything comes into your head, flush them out and go forward.
Make a decision now, no matter what you feel, no matter what you tell yourself here in your
head in the morning at night, or when something bad happens that you will not quit, that you
will prevail, you will push through.
And I promise you in doing that, you will be successful.
Period.
There's no doubt about it.
I feel like I face a lot of hardships that should break people, that should make people
maybe take a different route in their life.
And I've pushed through every single one of them.
I continue to push through new ones, new problems, new variables.
Okay.
So the end concept or the end result is the same.
When I push through, when I put a hundred percent of myself and my heart into it, I
win.
I don't lose.
I may lose a battle, but I win the overall war every single time.
No doubt about it.
It works.
Hundred percent.
Just like two plus two equals six, just kidding, equals four.
It works every single time.
No matter what, two plus two equals the same number, unless you're a liberal.
And all of a sudden math doesn't make sense, which we'll get onto topics like that on
another, on another series, cause I could talk about that for days.
Let's let's just be real.
So bringing it all together.
Okay.
Starting a business, just do it.
Do not psych yourself out.
You are going to face all these same concepts, ideas and securities in your regular life.
If you're trying to do something great, trying to build something, if you're trying to make
a dream a reality, just understand you're going to face them over here, but you're going
to just tell yourself you're going to do it.
Cause I personally rather face all that over here where it's so much more rewarding, so
much.
There's so much more freedom, so much more happiness.
Okay.
So much more of the feeling of success.
I'd rather feel it over here than over here where I would have never, I would have to
live with never knowing if I could have been over here.
I could never live with that.
We have one life.
I could never live with that.
Okay.
I have met, unfortunately, cause it's really sad.
I've met and talked to people, loved ones and people, acquaintances that end of their
life instead of smiling, they look at me and say, Hey, take every opportunity you can do
what you love.
And it's sad to hear that.
And I'm not saying there aren't people who are happy that won't tell that will tell you
that, but in my experience, these are people that wish you could just see it in their eyes.
Some have said it.
Some you can just see it in them that they feel like they didn't live their fullest life's
potential.
Could you imagine, and it freaks me out to even think about it, laying in your death
bed, looking at your life and realizing that you didn't do what you hoped to do.
You didn't do what you loved to do.
You didn't find out what could have been.
That's a scary thought.
Growing up, I wanted to be a doctor.
I don't want to, I didn't want to be a doctor later on, but I mean, I had that dream.
Okay.
And I tried to put that into fruition and I didn't go to med school.
Why?
Because I didn't, it was just a dream.
Now again, I can look back and say it didn't work because what I, it's not truly what I
wanted.
I thought I wanted it.
So when I was trying to go for it, I was putting 50% of myself into it.
So of course I never did it.
Right.
But when I finally realized who I was and realized I wanted to own a business, I put
a hundred percent into it and I'm here.
I'm enjoying it and I'm dealing with all the anxiety, insecurities, fears and doubts that
come along with the ride and the journey.
You're never going to defeat it.
So I encourage you guys to just start, fight those fears, fight the natural man, that voice
inside your head that says you cannot do it.
Fight them, don't stop and you will prevail.
This is the home work assignment.
Think about what you want to do.
Think about what you've always wanted to do.
Think about what makes you happy, whether that's starting a business, whether that is
leaving your current job for a new job, whether that's moving your family from one state to
a new state for better opportunities.
Think about whatever you have to do that you've thought about before and you haven't done
and do it.
And then comment or if you have my number, call me and tell me what exactly happened
when you actually did it and you put your full heart into it.
Cause I will be excited with you when you tell me, call me and tell me that it worked
or when you, you, you share your story with us.
I believe that all this is true.
I believe it because we have lived it.
I have lived it and I'm going to continue to live it every single day.
Thank you for joining us today and I hope that this, this podcast, these topics are
helping you guys.
Again, I think we've talked a lot about business and we are going to start talking a little
bit more about, you know, home life.
We're going to again have some guest speakers here soon.
We're just, we're taking our time.
We're preparing for you guys.
We want to make sure this is a great show.
It's very informational.
But all in all, I 100% believe in each and every one of you guys that are listening to
this because you're taking the time and you're doing something about whatever it is you may
want to do and you're listening to self-improvement podcasts.
You may be reading books.
All in all, if you're listening to this podcast, you're already on the right direction to live
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