What's up guys welcome back to the homework assignment.
I'm your host RJ Patino and again today we are going to find the balance between work
life and home life.
So the last couple days we've been going or had a mastermind in business conference called
The Sexy Business Status Conference and this focus or the topic of this conference this
week was sales summit.
So we had some amazing speakers we heard from Tommy Mello, Michael Bernoff, who else did
we hear from?
Andy Elliott.
Andy Elliott which was just freaking phenomenal and yeah we've had him already.
Natalie Dawson and a few or in Carlo Reyes again so I mean just jam packed with so much
information and there are some things I remember I was just listening and thinking about and
I was like you know what like it's so cool to actually go and listen to six different
people that are successful and be like dude I think the same way as you do and it made
me think about mentors right mentors I've had in the past mentors I have now and one
of the things that I think is very essential is who you pick as a mentor right if you listen
to the wrong people what is going to happen you are going to be doing the wrong things
even if even if these people may have something to show for it if they're not doing it the
right way they're only going to bear those rewards for a fraction of the time okay things
don't last forever especially if you're doing it the wrong way so it's really important
to find a mentor that has the same morals as you the same mindset as you and you know
that believes in the same things that you do okay and especially when you're trying
to use them for business because business is tricky okay you start doing the wrong things
you're gonna get in trouble you're gonna lose a heck of a lot of money and you're gonna
not be doing very well within five or ten years if you don't follow the right people
on top of that the people I listen to and the advice that you get from these people
obviously as you apply in your life you're gonna be able to see what works and what doesn't
work okay so as you begin to choose a mentor and you start listening to them if you're
doing things they're saying and it doesn't seem to be working or it's not working the
right way okay like they're saying they are at some point you should maybe think okay
does this guy know what he's doing is he doing it the right way or maybe should I go get
a second opinion maybe should I go ask somebody else or listen to somebody else and kind of
just see if they align okay I've talked about this before the principles of success the
principles of building a business a healthy lifestyle building a family these principles
are all the same I'm reading a book right now called think and grow rich case by Napoleon
Hill thank you Michael Napoleon Hill so this book was written in the 1930s if I'm if I'm
not mistaken and it's still one of the best-selling books in business and in personal development
okay so 1930s compared to now can anybody think of the difference okay technology I
mean for starters right there wasn't probably anything at all back then very minimal I don't
even think did they have the ether back then they didn't have ether back then right wireless
connections all that everything I mean yeah they I mean literally lifestyles the way people
think the way people look at other people the way people just live in general is a hundred
and fifty thousand percent different than 1930s so how are these principles in think and grow rich
still guiding people and teaching people how to be successful in 2023 it's easy I've said
it a million times before and I'll continue to say the principles never change okay the
truths are eternal they're unending they're never going to be any different the principles
stay the same how we implement okay and how we so yeah so how we implement and put those
things to work the method of implementation those are the things that are going to adapt
and change okay but the principle is going to stay the same you may sell differently
now okay maybe you're not going door-to-door and or you know getting the yellow I'm too
young for this but you know calling on the yellow page or what was that thing they're
talking about the conference a all the different contacts on a little spin wheel I can't remember
what it's called yours man was called yeah I don't even know but you know all these
different methods can you send to take contacts down on a piece of paper pagers whatever the
cases you know I remember my dad talking about the first phone you know this big brick phone
well the first one I got was in sixth grade it was a razor next year the iPhone came out
and since then I haven't had a phone that isn't touchscreen okay so the principles they
same but the methods and the ways we do the way we do things changes right so we're not
knocking doors very much anymore I know pest control companies do a lot of that as well
but like for me like I'm not cold calling people for remodels what am I doing I'm using
technology social media marketing now selling people and getting them to be sold the principles
are the same the way I'm going about it is different from 1930 okay but I'm still using
a lot of similar techniques but adapting them in different forms to better produce and be
more efficient with all the blessings of technology communication all these things that we have
you know automobiles that you know planes we can fly you know I can fly to another part
of my state right now within an hour so now I can do a job out there okay rather than
having to take a five hour trip and go check up on it okay there's so many different things
that we can do so it's really important to understand that when you're choosing a mentor
kind of to bring this back around is you need to number one make sure you find someone who
knows what they're talking about and if you don't know what they're talking about I can
tell you you're gonna find out very quickly once you start implementing what they're saying
whether they know they're talking about or not okay because the things they should be
teaching you should be what bringing results now to be clear on that there's another side
of this okay when you get a mentor if you're implementing or you feel like you're implementing
you should and you're not getting results you should also take a look at what exactly
you're doing specifically okay I know a lot of people within a program you know a coaching
program that I'm a part of and you know in school I've seen this a lot people say oh
well you know they keep telling me to do this and do this and do this but it's not working
okay well what exactly are you doing how are you doing that well I'm doing this for example
in football okay one of the things that I was taught is when the ball is I played linebacker
okay so when the ball is snapped your first step is always forward never backwards okay
you're always looking for the run first because that's right in front of you that's the closest
zone okay once you realize it's passed then you drop back you go to your zone or whatever
the case is so but the first step is always forward now that was really hard for me to
get down no matter how many times my coach said it I felt it wasn't working right so
what actually made it work I can promise you it wasn't like some of these kids I knew going
home and watching it and watching YouTube's and doing even more film study was actually
being on the field and getting it done okay so that's a prime example of you also need
to take a look at how you're implementing what someone's telling you and if you're implementing
it the right way okay are you actually taking action or are you taking in knowledge okay
to get wisdom what do we need we need one the knowledge and two we need action okay
that knowledge needs to be put into action and then you get the experience you get the
wisdom okay it's same principle over hundreds of centuries or you know centuries of time
that haven't changed okay things have the world changed around us so we adapt a little
so when you're picking a mentor again to kind of recap first make sure they know what they're
talking about okay if they're if you don't know what they're what you're talking about
or you don't know if they're right put into action if it works then they're probably doing
something right if not then you're gonna find out really quick hey maybe this is not the
right way and at the same time find a mentor that's in a business or a lifestyle of what
you you're you're working towards okay so like I'm in construction I'm not gonna go
find a mentor that is in insurance okay though they don't they don't align right so who do
I go for mentor well right now I got a couple mentors one of them owns a roofing company
okay it's not my I do a lot more than just roofing but I do do roofing but the principles
and the concepts definitely co-align okay there's a lot of things I can get from him
but if I go listen to a real estate agent or if I go listen to an insurance agent there's
gonna be a lot less that I'm gonna be able to pull from this from these people than that
my coach was actually in a construction you know in the construction industry so make
sure you find somebody who actually is in your industry okay that's not to say don't
go listen to all these people like in podcasts like right I listen to a lot of people in
podcasts that own you know nutrition companies and clothing brands okay there's still a lot
you can learn but someone that you're gonna work with personal personally and and be get
mentored by they need to be in your industry okay that's number one so apart from that
a second part of the message I want to share today is you know we're starting to put out
videos you know every week and we're putting out this content and you know I was walking
my wife the other night on her evening walk I'm sitting here I'm like okay you know I
feel like we got good content and I know it takes time I'm very impatient like I want
I want people to see these I want people to get impacted because I want to help people
I want to change help people change their lives and show them how they can go from a
to be you know being a baller or whatever the case is wherever they want to be whatever
their dream or their goals are I want to show them how to do that because I've been able
to do some of that so I'm sitting here I'm like okay you know we've we've had a podcast
we have four you know this is the fifth episode great so how many views do we have how many
downloads okay what you know so got me thinking got me brainstorm a little bit I'm sitting
here I'm like okay I'm putting out great content there's a lot of people putting out great
content okay so why would anybody listen to me why would anybody listen to this 28 year
old kid on a couch in a collar shirt with a cheerleading puffy microphone at my at my
collar right now why would anybody listen to me and even allow my video to go past the
60 second point I'm gonna tell you why right now number one I want to make it clear I I
try I mean I don't know how good I am at it I mean you can ask my family and friends but
I don't feel like I don't like to be boastful I don't like to to show off I do like you
know a big truck and stuff like that and those things may may make people feel like I'm showing
off when I got you know nice things and stuff but I like those things okay I'm not buying
it to be able to go show Roger down the street they're like hey look at what I got like hey
do you have one of these but I do think it's important to explain why you guys should give
me the time of day and give my team the time of day and this podcast or even my company
the time of day and that is because we've been successful in a lot of different aspects
okay we weren't always successful right we've been through hardships we've been through
tough times I have freaking literally like if you guys go back a few episodes I've lost
everything I've been at literally nothing okay my manhood my my ego my confidence everything's
been torn down to literally be non-existent and I've been able to bring it back up to
a level even higher than it was previously when I first began so you know in two years
let's see so 2020 July 2020 I started to do try and rebuild my company after I pretty
much lost everything okay from July of 2020 to July of this year what is that two years
or is that three years that's like two and a half years yeah okay we have done over eight
figures in business okay so within two and a half years we have done over ten million
dollars in business okay ten million dollars we do know what we're talking about just a
little bit okay so if you guys want to get to a point where you're revenueing revering
whatever that word may be okay I'm not the best with grammar if you want to bring your
revenue past eight figures this is definitely a podcast you want to listen to if you want
to know what you should be doing at home how you should be living your life what you should
be absorbing who you should be listening to how you should be acting how to run the business
scale the business marketing whatever the case is I mean all these things how to be
a better you how to be a seven figure person what you have to do before you meet you have
a seven figure business okay and there's people out there that don't focus on that
first and they get that seven figure business but what happens to them just like I was talking
ten minutes ago about this mentor if you do not work on yourself first and you are lucky
enough to gain that okay you're going to lose it very quickly because business is so much
more than pulling in money and and selling product okay it is that is a fraction I personally
don't even think that's really the top five top three focuses in building a business sales
should be maybe number four there are three things at least that you should be focused
on to be able to do that so if you want to know why you guys should be listening to me
or to Mikey Kyle or anybody else we bring on this podcast that is because we have seen
multi millions of dollars flush through our account okay we have signed contracts you know
just what last year I sat down in front of an investor and a construction manager and
I convinced them at 27 years old to do over three million dollars of business with me
okay that's again not being prideful but I'm trying to show you like I was doing something
right in order to do that right so these are just a few reasons that I wanted to share
with you guys and hey why should I be listening in RJ why should we be listening to the
homework you know assignment why why should I even take into consideration Elder contracting
is because we've been through the ringer we've been through hell we've been knocked down
we've gone back up okay we've made the mistakes ourselves not just heard of the mistakes and
learn not what to do we've actually done what you shouldn't do which has led to the experience
which in my opinion is the best way to do it I don't recommend everybody do that you
save yourself a lot of pain but if I had to do it over again I would make all the mistakes
myself even if I heard him I would still do what I thought I shouldn't do and make the
mistakes because it has given me so much more wisdom experience and taught me even more
than just a lesson I'm not doing that okay I learned more about myself I learned more
about tenacity dedication consistency you know having a strong attitude mindset all
that kind of stuff that we're always going to talk about that came from all that so again
I know that for the people who are listening this podcast okay whether you're focused more
on the home life of things or you're focused more on the business life okay if you're listening
for just one of those things great but again our assignment is to figure out the balance
and how to mesh those together because I'll recount my life for you okay in 2018 I met
my wife okay at the end of 2018 six months later March of 2019 me and my wife got married
and so in the last let's see 2019 2020 2021 2022 so four years within four years I've
had two children one miscarriage my wife is pregnant now I don't know she's mad that I said
that but I think it's important I mean to know I mean like hey if you know we're having
another baby we're having another baby great so right so two kids we had a miscarriage
like six seven months ago that was very tough and really sad you know she's pregnant again
we have a new puppy and we are in the adoption process of adopting my two younger siblings
who are teenagers 13 14 all of that on top of what on top of building an eight-figure
multi-million dollar business okay within four years from nothing I got off the plane
from South America okay my parents picked me up that wasn't a fun time it was actually
a little sad mom was on drugs okay stepfather wanted to you know leave my mom at the time
kids were you know traumatized from not having any any guidance in her life it was really
sad coming home after not seeing everybody for two years especially when they made you
all maybe think it was you know everything was fine and dandy for the most part okay
to come home okay I haven't seen my family in two years got off the plane went to Denny's
okay and I chose a place where I wanted to go get some American food I've been in South
America Chile for the last couple years so I was like yeah give me some pancakes egg
sausage let's get it done which is really funny side note in South America I remember
when I got there for a few weeks in training at that what they call the MTC you couldn't
like go about and explore the world okay you know we're all 18 year old most of them were
18 year old I was a little bit older but I remember when I finally got kind of put out
on my own with my companion I finally found a McDonald's I'm like okay they got McDonald's
out here so I wanted breakfast is like my favorite thing and I love to McDonald's you
know McDonald's McMuffin a juicy McGriddle okay I go to freaking McDonald's I look at
the breakfast menu they got bread ham and freaking avocado there was there was no McGriddles
there was nothing so you can imagine why I wanted to go back to Denny's right when I
got off the plane but anyway so got off the plane went to Denny's you know ate there bunch
of arguing arguing really annoying whatever went home okay what am I expecting I'm expecting
hang out my family what didn't happen they all went to the rooms and my mom went to sleep
this like this and I'm sitting in my living room by myself with my suitcases and my mom
threw away everything I had no clothes she threw away you know memorabilia all my trophies
letterman jacket everything literally gone and all I had was what I brought with me and
brought home with me from Chile from South America okay didn't have any regular you know
jeans I didn't I mean I had a pair of shorts and some running shoes for like exercise things
but I didn't have literally anything I had no clothes had no money no you know bank account
luckily well hey for the first couple days I didn't even have a cell phone okay so literally
came home from nothing and having nothing is what honestly was a huge was a huge motivation
was a huge drive okay what am I gonna do I need to do something because I literally don't
even have clothes okay I literally don't like even my my shoes that I was wearing you know
I were I had one like two pair or three pairs of shoes I wore through them and my last pair
of shoes that I had for like a few months before I came home there those were about
to wear through okay I had rips in my pants like literally had nothing and nobody cared
my parents didn't care nobody cared I don't know if they had money or my mom or whatever
I think they may have but like it doesn't matter I'm glad because I built everything
from literally absolutely nothing and I know a lot of you out there are trying to build
something from nothing and I'm here to tell you you can do it it's going to work okay
but again find a good mentor listen to the right material take in consume everything
that you want to be find people that are 80 levels ahead of you do not hang out people
who are 80 levels below you because all that's going to do is bring you closer to their level
because they're not doing anything to benefit you okay they're not you're not doing anything
to benefit them okay so find the right people put yourself in the right environment in the
right situations right so and again if you wonder why you need to listen to us we know
what we're talking about okay if you guys want to to see seven eight figures when you
open up bank accounts you know your account whatever the cases if you guys want to see
a bunch of money trust me all these things that we talk about all the things that you
hear on a lot of other self-development self-development podcasts these are the things that you need
to be doing okay no matter what you may think no matter what anybody tells you and if you
consume it and if you put into action it's all going to come to light all right so I
I know for a fact like there's I've had a lot of mentors like my uncle has been one
Jensen over here who really kind of helped me get get even started okay and then you
know the business programs are in you know and that I guess that's another thing like
speaking of mentors and like business coaching right like if you're not willing to invest
in yourself then what are you what are you trying to do exactly okay so if you need to
be willing to invest in yourself okay you know I pay thousands tens of thousands of
dollars to be part of coaching you know books programs universities like Grant Cardone's
university on selling okay I buy a ton of content okay all of that brings it back and
let me tell you a cool story about that okay so we joined elder contracting we went to
a business conference beginning this year and it's actually the coaching program the
conference we just went and sponsored yesterday and one of the coolest things happen I did
I paid I think this was ten twelve thousand dollars we paid to get into this okay and
no matter how much money you may have and I the more you have it's a little bit easier
of course but even with six figures and bank accounts I had a hard time justifying why
I was going to give somebody twelve thousand dollars to for a meeting every week and a
quarterly conference to show me how to you know rack up my revenue it was really hard
for me okay but I had faith and I knew you had invest in yourself and I'm like okay I'm
gonna make it back one way or another whether it's through you know referrals or whether
it's through content or whatever I had a feeling I was gonna make it back so I paid that paid
it in full okay that program I've been in for what three months and I have pulled in
almost a million dollars it's soon to be over a million dollars worth of revenue off of
twelve thousand dollars can you guys tell me if you think it's worth it would it be
worth it at that point okay whether you have to you know pull out a loan or you know break
it down in monthly payments whatever the case is get be a part of something don't be scared
to pay and invest in yourself you need to do it you have to do it there is no way for
you to grow if you are not willing to invest in yourself money do not be scared to pay
money it will come back around okay and it makes the economy come back around why do
you guys think everybody got those Covid checks that I know everybody loved whether you hated
it or not or agree with it or not it was nice to get thousands of dollars right well why
does the government do that they do that because they know people will spend it okay so help
your economy okay that's that's two birds with one stone you invest in yourself and
you invest in a great economy and what do you need to make money a good economy my opinion
even through a bad economy I can make money okay and we'll show you how to do that we'll
show you how to make money we'll show you how to put your family first put your marriage
first and still build a multi-million dollar business it is possible and there are many
people that you're surrounded by on a daily basis that have done it and are doing it or
are about to do it so why don't you guys come and be one of them okay this is the Home Work
Assignment podcast we will find the balance okay we're gonna put stuff into action on
how to balance those two things but it's not just the balance you will grow okay that balance
will rise with you you will build a company you will be successful if you listen and implement
and you put action into it I know it so follow us on all of our social media you know Instagram
and Facebook is @ elder contracting code check out our website eldercontracting.com
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stuff we have a bunch of videos on YouTube and we're not always serious we're a little
goofy at times you know we have a blooper actually I think we might be posting here soon
and it's fun and that's another thing have fun with what you're doing with all this self
development stuff have fun let it be a passion and I'm getting a call and it's not my wife
so I don't care let it be a passion okay have fun it's it's very important if you do not
love what you're doing do not do it because all that's going to do is bring you into a
place that you don't want to be okay this is the Home Work Assignment podcast like share
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