1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:15,840 Hey guys, welcome to the homework assignment podcast where it is our assignment to find 2 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,560 the balance between work life and home life. 3 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:19,560 I'm your host, RJ Patino. 4 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:20,560 Today I'm here with my lovely wife. 5 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:21,560 Hi, I'm Ashtyn Patino. 6 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:28,720 Today what we want to do is give you guys a rundown of what this entire podcast is going 7 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:30,080 to entail. 8 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:35,840 We have a lot of amazing information, amazing advice and discussions that we're going to 9 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:36,840 be able to provide for you guys. 10 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:43,120 We're going to cover topics such as fitness and health, business, startups or whether 11 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:45,360 you have a business and you're looking to scale it. 12 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:50,480 We're going to talk about relationships, both personal between boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, 13 00:00:50,480 --> 00:00:55,880 wife, relationships with your children, how to parent and also relationships with the 14 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:56,880 outside world. 15 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:58,880 We're going to talk about social media. 16 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:06,160 We're going to talk about everything that literally you need to do, not just in work 17 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:13,880 but as well as at home for yourself in order to get to where you want to be and reach your 18 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:16,640 goals. 19 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:19,680 The way that we're going to start this off is we're first going to give you guys a little 20 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:23,360 bit of background about us, who we are, who I am and what we do. 21 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:25,120 Again, I'm RJ Patino. 22 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:28,280 I am the CEO and founder of Elder Contracting. 23 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:34,000 What we do is we specialize in residential and commercial construction and remodeling. 24 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:38,880 The journey that I have been through, that my lovely wife has been through with me by 25 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:42,520 my side and some of my closest friends which are in the room. 26 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:51,480 We got Kyle, our producer, Mikey, co-producer, co-host and it's just been a crazy ride. 27 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:53,640 We've had a lot of ups, we've had a lot of downs. 28 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:58,640 There's been times where we weren't sure if we were doing what we were supposed to do. 29 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:02,360 We weren't sure if we were actually going to make it where we wanted to go. 30 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:04,640 We just want to share that story with you guys. 31 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:09,920 In order to understand that story, first I need to bring you back to my childhood and 32 00:02:09,920 --> 00:02:12,480 what my life was a little bit like. 33 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,120 I grew up in a household of six siblings. 34 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:16,120 I am the oldest. 35 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:20,520 I'm currently 28 years old and I have five younger siblings. 36 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:24,560 I have three sisters and two brothers. 37 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,800 Growing up, I would say I had an amazing life. 38 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:29,960 I didn't have very many hardships. 39 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:32,560 My dad was a business owner himself. 40 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:39,680 His main trade was in the mechanical and vehicle industry, the tire shop, the mechanic shop. 41 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:44,880 I was able to grow up during my summers and most of my breaks I would go and work with 42 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,040 him and I learned a lot of my ethics. 43 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:54,840 I learned a lot of my discipline and I guess money knowledge as well from watching my dad 44 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:59,120 run that shop, him giving me certain responsibilities. 45 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:04,160 My work ethic definitely was built and established during that as well as sports. 46 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,000 I played a lot of sports. 47 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:07,000 Football was my main sport. 48 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:08,000 I did BMX for a while. 49 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:14,600 I was a lot better at BMXing than football, but football was more of a dream for me. 50 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:20,640 I learned a lot of amazing lessons in how to work with people as well through those 51 00:03:20,640 --> 00:03:21,640 sports. 52 00:03:21,640 --> 00:03:26,280 Fast forward a little bit into 2008 when the economy really took a hit. 53 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:30,760 My father was struggling with his business and come to find out at this point, he was 54 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:35,320 acting a little weird and we found out that he was a heavy drug abuser and he had been 55 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:40,400 this way for many years before we had even found out or it hadn't actually portrayed 56 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:41,400 itself. 57 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:46,480 I definitely know it portrayed itself because of the economy and everything that was happening 58 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:47,480 in my dad's business. 59 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:53,360 He was a lot more stressed and he ended up just getting a lot worse. 60 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:56,440 During that time as well, I was in high school. 61 00:03:56,440 --> 00:04:01,080 I was a sophomore and I had a lot going on and I was trying to figure out how to plan 62 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:04,200 my life like most kids do in high school, trying to figure out where they're going to 63 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,160 go in the next few years. 64 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:11,840 With that on that side as well, it made it very difficult for me to even see what the 65 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:13,120 future was going to entail. 66 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:21,080 Luckily, I have amazing friends so I was able to distract myself from my home life at that 67 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:22,080 point. 68 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:27,440 Then come to find out also my mom was also a heavy drug user but she did a lot better 69 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,320 because she didn't portray it at home. 70 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:35,680 She would do it when we were asleep, take her pills or whatever she was doing. 71 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:40,520 My dad was actually starting to do it and playing sight in public during the day. 72 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:45,120 It didn't matter what time he'd come to my football games and be completely just out 73 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:49,040 of his mind trying to get onto the field. 74 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:52,640 I remember my coach telling me one time, hey, your dad can't come to anymore games. 75 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:57,480 Anyways, long story short, we'll cover a lot more of that detail a little bit throughout 76 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:01,960 every podcast as the topics come up. 77 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,320 Yeah, it was a very interesting situation. 78 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:11,800 Most of my high school life or period of my high school, there was a lot of home struggle 79 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,920 going on and trying to figure out what I was going to do. 80 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:16,480 I got hurt in football. 81 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:20,120 I didn't really care to play college football but that's kind of the only thing I had going 82 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:21,120 for me. 83 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,000 My dad was a big sports guy so that was where we wanted to head. 84 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:27,680 Then I had also planned on taking over the family business. 85 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:32,960 I felt like I had a decent plan but when we lost the shop, lost our home and we had to 86 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:37,560 go live with the aunts and stuff until we could get some stuff figured out. 87 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:45,720 I had that disappear and then I ripped partially, had three partial tears in a few of my ligaments 88 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,720 in my ankle my senior year, my third game into the season. 89 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:50,720 I wasn't able to play the rest of the season. 90 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:57,080 Got another cool story there with my friend Mikey that I would love to explain a little 91 00:05:57,080 --> 00:05:58,080 bit later. 92 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:04,320 It was definitely an interesting ride and an emotional one for sure. 93 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:11,720 I got on a path that I didn't really want to be on, that I never wanted to be on, a 94 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:13,720 path that I am ashamed of. 95 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:18,040 I didn't like a lot of the things that I became, a lot of the things that I was doing, a lot 96 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:19,840 of the decisions I was making. 97 00:06:19,840 --> 00:06:30,960 When I ended high school to about 21 years old I just had my odd phase of partying and 98 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:35,440 living a very interesting lifestyle. 99 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:40,400 Me and my friends from high school, we all did it together. 100 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:44,400 There still was a little bit of comfortability there I think for all of us at that time in 101 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:48,400 our lives trying to figure out what we were doing with ourselves. 102 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:55,840 Point in time came, which I think it does for most people, you finally figure out who 103 00:06:55,840 --> 00:06:59,320 you want to be and you finally get that motivation and that drive to actually change. 104 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:05,600 One of the things I had to do for myself, which weighs heavily on the religion I believe 105 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:11,000 in, is I felt and wanted to for myself go and serve a mission for my church. 106 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,720 I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and so for me that had 107 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:19,480 always also been a plan was to go on a mission and since I kind of came off that path I was 108 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:25,320 like okay I need to go back, I need to realign myself with my beliefs and my core values. 109 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:31,640 I basically dropped where I was, who I was hanging out with for the most part, so kept 110 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:36,880 in contact with a few friends and I moved into a stranger's house out in San Tane Valley 111 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:39,640 for those of you that live in Arizona. 112 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:46,560 I moved in with a guy named David Phillips, he is like a father figure to me today, great 113 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:49,280 mentor and lived with him for about eight months. 114 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:53,600 At first it was very awkward and weird but I could tell he cared for me, I could tell 115 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:55,760 he loved me and he wanted only the best for me. 116 00:07:55,760 --> 00:08:02,680 So I worked with him, I followed him, I listened to his counsel and advice and I ended up changing 117 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:03,680 my life. 118 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:08,240 There was still some stuff that I definitely had to work on but I got myself to a point 119 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:12,080 where I was actually getting on a plane to go to South America where I was called to 120 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:19,160 serve a mission in Santiago, Chile and I went and served that mission for two years. 121 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:23,840 That was an amazing experience in itself, again a lot of hardships, I learned a lot 122 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:27,800 of lessons, I learned how to persevere, I learned how to push myself to limits I didn't 123 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:30,000 think were possible yet again. 124 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:37,480 Which was kind of cool because I think once I got off that path of sports and having that 125 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:43,200 family business and being the older sibling and once I got off that path I was able to 126 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:47,680 you know, one it's like practice right, you have to practice to make something perfect 127 00:08:47,680 --> 00:08:52,520 and so when you practice mental toughness constantly obviously you get better and better 128 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:55,960 and then when you let go of it it's kind of like the gym if you start working out, if 129 00:08:55,960 --> 00:09:00,400 you're heading to the gym you start working out for a day the old saying is hey every 130 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:04,080 day you miss in the gym is a week of progress lost, it's kind of that same thing. 131 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:08,760 So I went years, stopped, I had stopped practicing that mental toughness and then going on my 132 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:13,480 mission I realized wow I had really regressed and I was able to actually work on that again 133 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:16,280 which was phenomenal. 134 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:20,440 People in my opinion think or at least people who are going to serve a mission they think 135 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:24,840 it's about hey you know my main part of my mission is to go and help other people and 136 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:29,360 that is a huge part of it if not one of the main pieces to the mission but the other part 137 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:33,440 of it is that you end up working on yourself, you end up finding all the little things that 138 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:36,320 you don't like about yourself that you want to work on that you want to change and you're 139 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:41,920 able to have the time and you're able to focus on that because one of the things that our 140 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:47,560 religion teaches and something that I'm really big on is that you have to work on yourself 141 00:09:47,560 --> 00:09:52,480 first before you can help other people because if you are trying to help other people whether 142 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:57,800 it's good intention or not and you're not okay yourself you're only going to hurt yourself 143 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:03,400 more and you're not really going to help them as much as you're wanting to even if you hurt 144 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,160 them if at all at that point. 145 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:09,280 So it's really important to you know I had to cleanse myself, I had to clean the inner 146 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,760 vessel before I could actually make a difference in the world which is something I've always 147 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:13,760 wanted to do. 148 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:19,880 Love helping people, I love working with people and so yeah two years of that was fantastic. 149 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:25,080 I kept in contact with Kyle, Mikey and a few other people and obviously my family had a 150 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:30,000 lot of struggles going back home going on back home and that was also really hard seeing 151 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:35,560 certain things transpire and I wasn't able to be there to kind of have my family out. 152 00:10:35,560 --> 00:10:43,320 So anyways fast forward come home from my mission and well actually let me back up. 153 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:48,080 So while I was on my mission just about a couple months before heading home I had plans 154 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:49,080 to go to Utah. 155 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:55,640 I had signed up for LDS business college and I was going to get a degree in business management. 156 00:10:55,640 --> 00:11:00,480 I wanted to be an entrepreneur, I didn't know what I wanted to do exactly but I definitely 157 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:01,480 wanted to be an entrepreneur. 158 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:08,360 So I had those plans, I had potential plans to move in into a room or share a room with 159 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:16,680 a roommate for my mission and then about a month before I was going to come home or get 160 00:11:16,680 --> 00:11:19,840 on the plane to leave my mission I felt like I really needed to just go back home. 161 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:26,000 So I ended up doing that and then when I got off the plane to the airport I saw and again 162 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:29,720 so I had been in communication with my family I knew there were some harsh hits but I wasn't 163 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:31,320 nobody was kind of letting me know what was going on. 164 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:35,480 I think they wanted to keep me separated they didn't want me to worry because I was 17 hours 165 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:37,840 on a plane away from them. 166 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:47,440 So I get off the plane and I remember walking through the terminal or whatever and I see 167 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:53,160 my little brother he's yards away from my family like as close as he can get to me but 168 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:57,960 without crossing the security threshold and he's like crying just really excited to see 169 00:11:57,960 --> 00:11:58,960 me and it was awesome. 170 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:02,360 I remember seeing everybody and then I remember looking at my mom and I remember seeing my 171 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:07,440 mom looking just the worst I had ever seen her just completely sick. 172 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:14,000 I didn't quite know what it was but come to find out a few days later she was still heavily 173 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:19,480 addicted addicted to drugs we had thought that she had kind of stopped that while I 174 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:20,480 was on that mission. 175 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:24,640 So I noticed that right away and called her out on it. 176 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:25,640 That was a tough experience. 177 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:31,080 She fought that quite a bit but we were able to get her to rehab. 178 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:35,920 So before I explain that a little bit of the picture talk a little bit about how I met 179 00:12:35,920 --> 00:12:38,280 my wife because I was kind of in between there. 180 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:43,080 So basically from the time I got off the plane I think I got back on a Tuesday if I remember 181 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:48,080 correctly and that Sunday we do what's called a homecoming talk. 182 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:53,320 So I get up on a pulpit and I got 15 minutes to talk about my mission explain who I am 183 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:55,920 because I haven't seen these people in two years and there's probably a lot of new people 184 00:12:55,920 --> 00:13:00,760 that have come to ward and I get to talk about my experience and what I've learned and share 185 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,480 my testimony of my faith. 186 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:08,880 And on that pulpit I looked down in the third row just to the right a little bit was the 187 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:16,960 Jobe family and my wife was sitting there looking all beautiful and I remember feeling really 188 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:23,600 anxious and I love love public speaking I was pretty good at it and I don't know if 189 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:28,360 I choke or anything but I remember trying to keep my line my mind aligned on my talk 190 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:34,120 because all I want to do was just keep looking over at her to see if she's looking at me. 191 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:41,920 And yeah so after that talk I did not approach her I was a little weak on that point mostly 192 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:47,320 because I was like I'm not going to be like the typical stereotype come home and get married 193 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:51,280 in two months even though that's exactly what happened. 194 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:56,200 I ignored her right after that I didn't want to go talk to her and a couple days later 195 00:13:56,200 --> 00:14:02,880 I get a DM on Instagram saying hey I'm Ashtyn and I saw you give your homecoming talk and 196 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:10,400 -I think you're really cute and -I asked you on a date -yeah she basically asked me out so well she did she did ask me 197 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:19,360 out she sent my DMs asking out and I said yes and two months later got on a knee at 198 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:26,360 a lantern festival and proposed to her. 199 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:34,320 Yeah top three scariest moments in my life and she said no I'm just kidding she said 200 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:38,920 yes I thought she was going to say no but she did say yes I don't know why but she 201 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:46,200 did and so yeah then four months later we got married I did marry her in high school 202 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:51,840 I think that's a very important piece of the puzzle of our lives and we got a little bit 203 00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:59,560 of backlash on that a little bit of judgment but for us we were just in love I loved her 204 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:04,240 and there was no point in waiting I wanted to start a family with her and I needed her 205 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:08,720 by my side to be able to reach and achieve my goals I knew that right off the bat it's 206 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:11,840 kind of true because I always tell her and I don't know how this makes her feel because 207 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:18,400 one she's stunningly gorgeous you guys can see that but I saw her potential and that's 208 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:24,760 what mostly attracted me to her I saw a little bit of a glimpse of the future of what she 209 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:28,720 was going to become and what we were going to become together and that is what really 210 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:34,840 drove me my attraction towards her and she in the last four years of the marriage over 211 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:40,600 four years and I mean just watching that potential unfold and seeing those, I mean she's already 212 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:44,640 reached the potential that I actually saw and now she's beyond that and I'm just like 213 00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:51,920 really excited to see I mean she's 22 I'm 28 so we've only been married four years 214 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:56,800 and just knowing like in this four years that she's reached her potential I'm just so excited 215 00:15:56,800 --> 00:16:03,560 to see what we're going to be able to accomplish together so yes we got married and a few months 216 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:09,440 later we found out we were pregnant with our first daughter. Nova and that was an interesting 217 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:14,880 pregnancy if you want to talk a little bit about it. 218 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:20,920 I was sick the whole pregnancy so that was not fun and then I towards the end of the 219 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:27,120 pregnancy I had retained a lot of water so I just was uncomfortable constantly my hips 220 00:16:27,120 --> 00:16:31,080 hurt it was just a very uncomfortable time in pregnancy. 221 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:34,840 And she's had four knee surgeries that's super important so she has really bad knees two 222 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:41,000 on each knee and she still has problems she'll be walking and her knee will pop out of place 223 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:42,000 or dislocate. 224 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:50,240 Either way it hurts her a lot and it's really really sad to watch and so that did not help 225 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:51,240 right. 226 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:57,240 No yeah just all my knees and hips and feet are all kind of messed up so I made the pregnancy 227 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:04,040 a little bit worse and then we had to have an emergency c-section with her so that was 228 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:06,720 just an addition to that pregnancy. 229 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:12,400 Yeah so that labor was about 26 hours and I'm getting all this information right guys 230 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:18,320 because this is like our 80th take on this podcast so I've been able to be I've been 231 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:25,080 corrected a lot that I'll put it that way so 26 hour labor and there is a picture somewhere 232 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:28,480 on Instagram of me sleeping. 233 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:34,320 I was very very tired and stressed and that is not saying obviously she had the worst 234 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:39,160 thing in the world but I do feel bad for sleeping but I do think it's kind of a funny memory. 235 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:42,800 I don't know if that's a stereotype of dads falling asleep on their wives during labor but 236 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:51,600 I was definitely that guy so I even tried to drink a lot of caffeine for my second baby 237 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:57,200 and I think I fell asleep with Atheena too but we'll get to that part in here in a minute 238 00:17:57,200 --> 00:18:03,280 but anyways so yeah 26 hours of labor they had tried breaking the water and so there 239 00:18:03,280 --> 00:18:10,400 wasn't any liquid in the placenta with my daughter and she was losing oxygen and her 240 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:17,040 heart rate was dropping kind of like a wave and they because they gave me pitosis the 241 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:22,480 contractions were stronger so that was also making her lose oxygen so they did an emergency 242 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:26,960 c-section second scariest moment of my life. 243 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:31,600 Anyways yeah she's healthy now she's adorable she has her mom's attitude so I get walked 244 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:37,920 over every day of my life by all three of my girls so that's lovely and fun for me and 245 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:39,920 my wallet does go missing from time to time. 246 00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:43,920 Athena brought it to me this morning actually she goes here and I was like oh that's my 247 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:51,360 wallet was thank you and yeah 18 months after that we well a few months later we got pregnant 248 00:18:51,360 --> 00:18:59,120 again and so 18 months after that we had Atheena and Atheena is what her pregnancy was another 249 00:18:59,120 --> 00:19:03,520 emergency c-section but we knew the c-section might happen so we were a lot more mentally 250 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:09,120 prepared for it and again I think I fell asleep during that pregnancy too did I? 251 00:19:09,120 --> 00:19:10,120 I don't know. 252 00:19:10,120 --> 00:19:14,160 We'll leave it at that I did not she doesn't remember so we're gonna go so it's the first 253 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:19,520 thing she hasn't remembered in four years of my marriage to her so that's fantastic 254 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:26,720 and Athena was born she's adorable big bug eyes very very extremely ultimately sensitive 255 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:34,360 very sensitive I don't know if I can say that enough but she, she has the sweetest heart 256 00:19:34,360 --> 00:19:40,080 in the world -Yes shes so sweet - and if you even look at her like you're mad at her she will break down in a plethora 257 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:47,240 of tears and which I guess is a little manipulative at sometimes -no -in my opinion she's too young 258 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:55,840 to do it my wife says but she knows she knows I swear she knows because you can't just help 259 00:19:55,840 --> 00:20:01,800 but love her and she just gets what she wants but anyways I think she's really smart so 260 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:07,400 but yeah those are our two daughters and they're fantastic and so our oldest is three so we've 261 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:12,680 been parents for about three years and during this whole time of trying to figure out how 262 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:17,360 to be a parent how to parent which I think some kind of new an idea but obviously there's 263 00:20:17,360 --> 00:20:29,840 no book on how to write or no book written on how to parent -well there are plenty, but they dont work, you can't read them and learn -but you can't even compare 264 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:37,160 to the real life experience and during that time so my mom my siblings my younger siblings 265 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:42,760 I have a younger sister who Bella she's 15 and I've been their brother Gunner who is 266 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:51,440 13 now and they were living with my mom and my mom was even though she went through rehab 267 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:56,040 I don't think she ever got over her addiction I think she got really good at hiding it again 268 00:20:56,040 --> 00:21:00,200 because she went through rehab for a month for what over a decade worth of an addiction 269 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:06,320 to prescription pills I mean and it wasn't our choice she gave they let her out and I 270 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:11,560 don't know if they could keep her there obviously but she she stopped going after a month and 271 00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:15,640 she wasn't as bad but I think she was still doing it she was just on how to control it 272 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:19,600 not do it around us she dove into work she was working literally all the time she was 273 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:24,400 hardly ever home but I got married and I moved out of the house I didn't see a lot of that but 274 00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:28,960 she started drinking quite a bit and she was driving with the kids and something happened 275 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:32,920 so I kind of got us involved and to figure out what was kind of going on and at this 276 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:39,000 point your dad and your mom were separated right yeah so dad mom mom and dad separated 277 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:45,560 like a year after so like in 2014 dad left and I'll explain that sort of a little bit 278 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:51,840 later of how I kind of got into the lifestyle that I didn't want to live a lot of that had 279 00:21:51,840 --> 00:22:00,240 to do with him and but so yeah my siblings were just sitting with my mom and she you 280 00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:05,640 know was drinking a lot had it her addictions to some other stuff and so we ended up taking 281 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:11,880 in our siblings DCS got involved not not due to us it's not there was a school incident 282 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:15,680 and nothing in the school either it was an anonymous call from someone anonymous call 283 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:20,280 whoever that person was thank you yeah because I don't know if I would have I would have 284 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:25,560 I could have controlled the situation myself but it wouldn't have really progressed anywhere 285 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:31,200 without the involvement of DCS and so we've been indeed working with DCS and child services 286 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:37,440 with our siblings they've been in our care for the last two years and the plan has been 287 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:46,400 reunification with my mother but she has not been showing progress so it looks like we're 288 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:51,760 going to be leading towards guardianship and adoption here shortly but what's interesting 289 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:56,000 for us at least is that you know we're trying to establish how to parent we're building 290 00:22:56,000 --> 00:23:05,100 our family starting our lives all of that plus taking in my two siblings and that burden 291 00:23:05,100 --> 00:23:11,960 on my 22 year old wife who that I mean I'm just so proud of her and the way she handled 292 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:16,840 that she has just been my anchor in that because if she couldn't handle it like I don't know 293 00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:20,480 what I would do with my siblings but they wouldn't be in my house because my wife is 294 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:24,920 my pride and joy but she's been great and that's there of course there's been absolutely 295 00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:29,760 tough moments again like a business there's been moments where she's wanting to give up 296 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:33,720 and I wanted to give up and we've you know luckily never felt that quite at the same 297 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:39,480 time and we've been able to kind of pull each other out of those moments and I think a lot 298 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:43,240 of that also stems from is that these two kids are teenagers and we've never dealt with 299 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:48,080 teenagers I think I mean my wife literally was a teenager a few years ago and had an 300 00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:53,480 adorable attitude that she kind of still has anyways but yeah so trying to figure out new 301 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:59,240 babies and terrible twos and two teenagers that are like trying to figure out their life 302 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:05,080 and going through puberty and you know my brother never had a sex talk so I you know 303 00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:12,600 anyways it's been a it's been a wild ride I am grateful for it I think we learned a 304 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:20,120 lot of lessons and we do love Gunnar and Bella -very muvh - they are frustrating a lot of the times and 305 00:24:20,120 --> 00:24:25,640 there was so much of like life lessons that they didn't get taught there was so much schooling 306 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:31,600 I mean they were failing you know each year for multiple years they didn't have clothes 307 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:36,080 that fit there I mean it just and so they were so regressed and they didn't have the 308 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:42,160 common sense that kids their age should have like they were almost like reading but living 309 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:46,400 at a fourth grade level when they were in you know eighth grade and high school and 310 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:51,280 so that was very frustrating just even teaching them how to do stuff that they should have 311 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:57,800 learned to do in fifth grade and then on top of all that they also have the trauma of like 312 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:02,280 my mom and my dad not being there or kind of being around and them so you know having 313 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:07,520 addictions and stuff and they actually had the worst because like me you know I had 15 314 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:11,440 years and not even knowing what was going on but like good parents like you know my 315 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:15,120 dad in the business we went to church every Sunday we did family events together we were 316 00:25:15,120 --> 00:25:21,640 active in sports active in you know our community both my parents were community leaders and 317 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:26,840 you know we had some great vacations and so they didn't get that they just got the drug 318 00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:32,920 part and so they have this trauma and on top of being a teenager and figuring out life 319 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:41,720 and on top of having to come live with us that I think is a huge reason of just the 320 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:47,640 chaos that's kind of been surrounding us and them for the last couple years but I'm glad 321 00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:52,440 that out of there I'm glad that with us and we're doing the best that we can for them 322 00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:58,280 they both progressed quite a bit there's been some regression in some areas with them as 323 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:05,160 well but they definitely have done great so that is our family life in a nutshell and 324 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:11,000 through doing all that and I mean summarizing all that crap that's been you know going on 325 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:17,160 in our lives and good crap bad crap whatever just the whole experience in itself I've all 326 00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:21,640 I also started a business and just to give you a little background on our business again 327 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:25,720 is I own Elder Contracting so we it's a construction company remodeling company 328 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:33,720 we specialize in a variety of residential commercial and community type of construction 329 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:40,120 and that's been a wild ride for the last five years as well I basically I got off the plane 330 00:26:40,120 --> 00:26:45,400 on my mission and while trying to convince and sell myself to my wife to get her to marry me 331 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:50,440 I started landscaping I print out hundreds of cards and flyers and I hit as many houses 332 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:54,520 our neighborhood as possible and you know a lot of people in our neighborhood that know me 333 00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:59,160 and I didn't get one call I don't recall I know for a fact not one person called me in that 334 00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:03,160 neighborhood no matter how many flyers and cards I printed out but I started getting other work 335 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,400 elsewhere and I think that was an interesting lesson in itself to kind of see like where I was 336 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:14,200 putting my efforts weren't bearing me fruits but the action of doing something still bore me fruits 337 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:20,680 and I don't know how that all worked out well I do know and I do have a great theory but I'll get 338 00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:27,000 into that in another day another time and I started I started landscaping I built a really good 339 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:33,800 clientele I was making some decent money I was able to you know flex on my wife a little bit and 340 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:41,560 take her to restaurants and get her gifts and didn't really plan on saving too much never really 341 00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:48,200 learned how to save honestly my whole family they my parents at least were big spenders and I never 342 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:54,600 learned anything about finances I think in my in my mind it was just hey if you need to save money 343 00:27:54,600 --> 00:28:02,200 you ought to just make more money than you spend and I've learned a lot more since that mindset 344 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:10,840 but it went it went well and I ended up meeting a guy named Scott a tree fell out of my my truck 345 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:16,120 on the road one day and outside of a big American in Chandler and this kid came up and said you 346 00:28:16,120 --> 00:28:19,880 know to help me which was awesome he's like hey do you own a landscaping company do you 347 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:24,440 ask him like yeah you know kind of give him a rundown and then he introduced himself he also had 348 00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:29,960 a little landscaping business and a pretty good clientele and we met and we decided to team up so 349 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:36,760 we teamed up and I was the field guy running the jobs and he was the mind behind the scenes doing 350 00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:44,040 all the office work and we did end up getting um we did some jobs and I think a lot of the experience 351 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:51,000 of going from landscape to hardscape as well we did pavers turfs and all that um and that that was 352 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:56,440 an amazing experience as well it didn't last very long we ended up going separate ways my heart was 353 00:28:56,440 --> 00:29:02,200 more in the construction part and he loved the landscape and so we ended up splitting up and I 354 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:09,400 started getting into remodels which I already had a pretty decent knowledge base of construction 355 00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:14,680 general construction I worked for a lot of restoration companies growing up um damage control 356 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:21,240 restoration slave restoration I'm in a few other companies and so um I had a pretty good general 357 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:25,400 knowledge apart from that which is always good with my hands grew up in a mechanic shop and so 358 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:30,440 I was good with putting two and two together kind of solutionizing problems which I tend to do a lot 359 00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:38,760 according to my wife um and I guess not everything needs a solution but um and so yeah so that's 360 00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,880 yeah so that's that's where all my knowledge came down like you know what I'm gonna start doing 361 00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:46,840 construction so I started doing construction my father or my stepfather was a huge piece of that 362 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:53,560 puzzle um he he'd been handyman his whole life apart from another other skill sets and so he 363 00:29:53,560 --> 00:30:00,280 worked with me and we did all kinds of stuff built bathrooms additions we painted commercial buildings 364 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:06,440 him me and my younger brother colton who is now part of the Elder team which again huge family 365 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:13,320 company there are some great people in here and um so yeah so that's that's where we learned how to 366 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:19,080 you know do everything with our hands and I finally got officially license and going bigger 367 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:28,600 and building bigger and I failed pretty big too um I don't know what year it was I can't remember 368 00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:34,280 everything's such a blur at this point but there it was a Christmas time and I had that whole year 369 00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:39,400 been pretty consistent work and pretty consistent in having jobs and getting jobs done and making 370 00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:49,720 good money and 2018 19 2019 and it just slowed down and I didn't know what I was doing on the 371 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:54,200 like I knew how to do construction but running a business is so different that's another point I 372 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:59,960 really want to bring out and we're going to talk a lot about in the future is you know you can have 373 00:30:59,960 --> 00:31:07,240 a skill set you can have a talent and if you want to start a business it is not the same thing okay 374 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:12,440 you may be good at swinging a hammer you may be good at putting up tile like like I felt I was 375 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:20,520 but running a business and having systems and a culture and knowing how to be a leader those I 376 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:25,880 mean it's just a completely different and separate skill set that you need to have more than the 377 00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:32,120 experience of construction and again I'm talking about construction companies here and so I failed 378 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:37,960 horribly I could get the work I could sell all day long I'm a great salesman I could sell ice to an 379 00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:44,760 Eskimo I think it's a phrase something like that but I did not know how to run or organize a business 380 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:53,480 and because of that the summer of 2019 I had no money I everything I had tried to build all the 381 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:59,800 jobs and capital I tried to build was gone I had lost money throughout many jobs and that's due to 382 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:04,200 poor organization and management again not knowing what I was doing not knowing how to control cash 383 00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:13,080 flow and we had a Christmas trip planned with her family to go up to to Colorado that that Christmas 384 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:19,800 and I didn't have money to pay for the gas I had a vehicle so I had to go to family and our church 385 00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:27,880 and get help to pay my bills and that was a very low moment that was a moment where I felt like I 386 00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:32,200 wanted to quit I felt like I could be doing other stuff because my main priority was to provide for 387 00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:38,280 Ashtyn and she was pregnant with Nova at that time so I had all these priorities in my head and I'm 388 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:42,440 like okay you know maybe I need to go do something else take my skill set maybe go sell at a dealership 389 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:48,680 my uncles and her family they all own a construction company they're all contractors and so I knew I 390 00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:53,640 could you know go do stuff for them and I had a lot of people also that cared for me that are like 391 00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:58,840 hey you just need more experience so why don't you go you know working hang windows why don't you go 392 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:03,720 do more landscaping or focus on where you can get more experience about how to run a business 393 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:09,800 and again looking knowing what I know now looking back it had nothing to do with hands-on experience 394 00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:14,920 I need to go get business experience about how business management construction management 395 00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:20,840 experience is what I really needed but I had all these people that cared for me cared for you know 396 00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:26,360 my wife that were just like hey you need to maybe do something else and I think that was a pivotal 397 00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:32,920 moment for me in my personal life and in our relationship as well because she was going to 398 00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:39,960 have to support whatever decision I made you know on basically what hey if I want to do something 399 00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:45,080 I need to just do it I decided to keep going I decided to keep pressing forward I went with an 400 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:50,280 uncle with my uncle who had a business opportunity to help him build a restoration company so I spent 401 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:54,920 six months with him on a very low salary that didn't pay for our bills very well during that 402 00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:59,480 time we had our first baby went through that whole experience and then I was still failing on trying 403 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,560 a restoration is way different than construction it was a harder business to get in with insurance 404 00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:09,800 companies so again lack of experience and knowledge we try to build this without the proper resources 405 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:15,880 and I ended up we didn't make that work either so that's another company that someone entrusted me 406 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:20,760 which it wasn't my company but my uncle brought me on to build it and to get work because I'm a great 407 00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:27,400 salesman but you don't sell people on emergencies you know I mean there might be some cases but for 408 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:32,600 the most part emergency people call them they call 911 they call the fire department for fires they 409 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:38,200 call you know plumbers for floods and so I'm this guy trying to chase basically and that's how the 410 00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:43,080 process used to be back in the day you know fire chases all those people would chase these jobs 411 00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:47,400 and get the reconstruction working for me I was just trying to you know get people on social 412 00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:51,800 media on Facebook hey I have a leak and trying to be the first one to get there or try and contact 413 00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:56,040 them to go and it just didn't work out and so I started picking up you know I kept getting calls 414 00:34:56,040 --> 00:35:01,400 from remodeling because that's what I had done and so I was still kind of doing that on the side to 415 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:06,200 cover the other expensive living that you know this salary wasn't covering so you know I'd work 416 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:11,240 all day long trying to get jobs for this company and build it and then still have to go out and 417 00:35:11,240 --> 00:35:16,360 work a little bit to get these jobs done and pay for this so my uncle knew that you know he was 418 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:21,720 supportive of that he knew that what I was making wasn't good enough at the time and again COVID 419 00:35:21,720 --> 00:35:27,800 things I mean inflation started to hit and things got more expensive so it was really tough and 420 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:35,480 businesses shut down right so I basically got my uncle and you know his partner with the resting 421 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:39,880 company restoration company I said hey you know I'm getting a ton of work right now why don't we 422 00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:44,600 go where the money is and let's take care of these jobs and we'll still try to build this company but 423 00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:51,480 let's take these jobs get them done and let's make some money and they agreed and that really is where 424 00:35:51,480 --> 00:36:01,160 elder actually grew in personality and identity for itself and I from there haven't stopped and 425 00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:07,720 last year we you know or just that first year getting back into it we cleared seven figures 426 00:36:07,720 --> 00:36:15,480 of revenue and we've about tripled that every single year leading up to this year you know we 427 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:21,080 have goals to go beyond what we did last year and again we have you know dozens of employees and 428 00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:27,960 work vehicles and a great team great culture we have our office and you know trailers so 429 00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:34,760 and I say all this to explain that like hey in four years you know we went from nothing to being a 430 00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:40,920 very successful construction company and we saw so many flaws we're still learning so much we're 431 00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:45,320 still learning you know about the people that we need to bring on the people that we're looking for 432 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:51,160 and there's always stuff to learn but it's just awesome to see how much everybody has really come 433 00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:56,200 together and build what we currently have and the relationships with investors corporate companies 434 00:36:56,200 --> 00:37:03,800 and our residential clients and you know we never ever marketed really ever and we always were busy 435 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:09,720 referral basis was huge and we weren't perfect we did we do have did have bad jobs and every now and 436 00:37:09,720 --> 00:37:14,120 then there's mistakes made right but we've learned how to solutionize that we've learned how to 437 00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:22,440 handle those situations very properly and you know Elder has just been a huge part of our life now so 438 00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:28,360 on top of all that going on we built a I hate using the word successful company because I don't 439 00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:33,160 feel successful mostly because I have a high vision high goals which I think is really important 440 00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:37,720 Grant Cardone talks about the broke mindset about always bringing whatever you have down to 441 00:37:37,720 --> 00:37:41,960 zero every day because you know that's how the hustle stays alive and I think now after I've 442 00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:46,920 always been that way I never felt really satisfied and you know we'll talk more about how that affects 443 00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:52,440 our relationship in our home life but I'm very happy and grateful about where we are what we've 444 00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:57,000 built and the people that have helped me build it because there's no way I would have been able to 445 00:37:57,000 --> 00:38:02,920 bring this where we are today without the key players in our company which are brothers fathers 446 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:12,520 and the people that support them as well it's just been a phenomenal time and that is why we 447 00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:22,200 are trying to why we are taking it upon ourselves to talk about the assignment which is to balance 448 00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:28,680 home life and work life because you can't do one or the other again if things aren't good on this 449 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:35,000 side it's like what were those skills called the equilibrium scales or whatever like if too much 450 00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:39,640 weight on one side then you're you're not even you got to bring it even and when you're even when 451 00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:46,440 your equilibrium is set you're able to succeed and progress at a heavier rate than you would be if 452 00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:51,480 you know your relationship with your wife and your children is crap over here and you're out here 453 00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:58,120 hustling okay because you're having stress from home you're not at your at 100% operating capacity 454 00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:03,960 you're not at your best and to be able to build and reach your goals and your visions you need to 455 00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:10,520 be over 100% capacity you need to be able to put your entire self your entire heart in and then 456 00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:15,240 have your you know the people who support you also be able to do that on the back end 457 00:39:15,240 --> 00:39:21,640 and that's where the balance comes into play so we're really excited to get this podcast 458 00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:28,360 started and really just share our experiences our lives and again we're still growing we're not 459 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:34,440 you know this huge multi-billion dollar company we just want to share with other people our 460 00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:39,720 experiences we all have different experiences and what we've learned and one thing i will say 461 00:39:39,720 --> 00:39:49,000 before we end today is that i have learned that the principles and and ways of building starting 462 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:55,160 businesses and operating your home and work life they've been the same for centuries they've been 463 00:39:55,160 --> 00:40:01,080 implemented differently is the only difference okay that is why we have taken it upon ourselves 464 00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:06,920 to you know the responsibility to find that balance and talk about that balance between home 465 00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:13,560 life and work life we're really excited to share with you guys our experiences we're going to be 466 00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:19,800 having a variety of different people on the show we're going to be having key key players co-hosts 467 00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:26,760 you know family members and co-workers here co-partners share their experiences with us kind 468 00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:32,040 of our culture and also their personal experiences of what they've learned and we're also going to 469 00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:38,440 have guest speakers we have a great lineup coming up of business owners that started at from zero 470 00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:46,680 and have built million dollar multi hundred million dollar companies multi-million dollar 471 00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:52,280 companies people that have done incredible things in the business and home world and i can tell you 472 00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:56,840 right now every one of these successful people that I know that we're going to be interviewing 473 00:40:56,840 --> 00:41:04,280 they are amazing people they have mastered themselves to a point to where their business 474 00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:08,600 is a reflection of them and I think that's one of the most important principles so we're really 475 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:12,840 excited guys thank you for joining us if you have any questions or comments 476 00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:18,200 please leave them with us we're happy to answer them you can also follow us on instagram at hwa 477 00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:22,200 podcast we're going to be releasing all the info lineups everything you guys need to know about 478 00:41:22,200 --> 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