WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.559 I need some R &R with Chas, yeah, raw and real. 00:00:06.940 --> 00:00:12.740 I need some R &R with Chas, yeah, raw and real. 00:00:16.519 --> 00:00:19.320 Hey, what's up? Welcome to R &R raw and real 00:00:19.320 --> 00:00:21.820 with Chas. Here's where we speak on the journey 00:00:21.820 --> 00:00:25.359 of self -improvement based off experiences, observations, 00:00:25.679 --> 00:00:28.679 opinions, and some facts. Some topics can be 00:00:28.679 --> 00:00:31.280 a little triggering. But others may be funny, 00:00:31.780 --> 00:00:35.119 a little raw, or a little bit edgy. So sit back, 00:00:35.140 --> 00:00:37.719 relax, grab a snack, grab your notebook, grab 00:00:37.719 --> 00:00:40.600 something to drink, or even grab just your headphones. 00:00:41.320 --> 00:00:46.039 And let's get raw and real. Hey everybody. Welcome 00:00:46.039 --> 00:00:48.560 back to another episode of R &R Raw and Real 00:00:48.560 --> 00:00:53.960 with Chas. I'm your host Chasmine. And let me 00:00:53.960 --> 00:00:57.939 just tell you, I just want to do a check -in. 00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:02.820 Just for a moment. and like because we all all 00:01:02.820 --> 00:01:07.739 are like gratefully going through things life 00:01:07.739 --> 00:01:10.879 is life bang for everybody um nobody can tell 00:01:10.879 --> 00:01:12.840 me that oh yeah we're doing great it's like yeah 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:15.120 i'm getting by that's you know what i'm saying 00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:17.640 the typical answer but genuinely people are still 00:01:17.640 --> 00:01:19.900 trying to live but like i just want to do a check 00:01:19.900 --> 00:01:23.000 -in you know um first of all i just want to say 00:01:23.000 --> 00:01:29.579 like welcome winter If you live in Ohio, I'm 00:01:29.579 --> 00:01:36.459 pretty sure you are currently cold. Hey, winter 00:01:36.459 --> 00:01:41.859 is here. It is very cold. It is snowing like 00:01:41.859 --> 00:01:45.379 crazy, so if you are not in Ohio and you do not 00:01:45.379 --> 00:01:49.269 have snow, lucky for you, okay? And then I do 00:01:49.269 --> 00:01:51.469 want to address something seriously. What is 00:01:51.469 --> 00:01:54.049 really going on with the economy, with this government? 00:01:54.469 --> 00:01:58.090 This is a wild time to be alive, if you think 00:01:58.090 --> 00:02:03.189 about it. It is genuinely a wild time to be alive. 00:02:04.209 --> 00:02:07.409 We are living in some crazy times where people 00:02:07.409 --> 00:02:10.210 are making rules and stuff over our laws, and 00:02:10.210 --> 00:02:13.030 it's genuinely affecting everybody around us. 00:02:13.889 --> 00:02:17.939 Everybody's gas prices are, you know, still kind 00:02:17.939 --> 00:02:21.939 of high. Groceries are ridiculous. The cost of 00:02:21.939 --> 00:02:25.319 food is crazy to me. In some ways somehow we 00:02:25.319 --> 00:02:27.939 still have to do it. Rent, I wish we could get 00:02:27.939 --> 00:02:33.580 like a month of like free. Like all of the landlords 00:02:33.580 --> 00:02:35.979 and property managers, everybody just give everybody 00:02:35.979 --> 00:02:39.659 a month free. Bills, all of that, like everything 00:02:39.659 --> 00:02:43.680 just get canceled. Because it's just too much 00:02:43.680 --> 00:02:46.879 right now. And a lot of us have been feeling 00:02:46.879 --> 00:02:49.300 the pressure a lot of us are like scrambling 00:02:49.300 --> 00:02:53.460 trying to get things to make things happen A 00:02:53.460 --> 00:02:56.699 lot of us are so tired and anxious and I'm like, 00:02:56.699 --> 00:02:59.080 I don't care what nobody say Every single as 00:02:59.080 --> 00:03:02.400 one of us are potentially are already in survival 00:03:02.400 --> 00:03:05.960 mode Fighting going to into that depression because 00:03:05.960 --> 00:03:09.939 we still have to make things do You know, it 00:03:09.939 --> 00:03:15.819 is very difficult You're not alone You are not 00:03:15.819 --> 00:03:19.259 alone. We all are going through it right now 00:03:19.259 --> 00:03:23.280 everybody is hurting in some way shape or form 00:03:23.280 --> 00:03:27.159 and Because of that I'm not mad at people for 00:03:27.159 --> 00:03:33.039 taking risk right now Trying new things really 00:03:33.039 --> 00:03:37.599 planning things out and You know really just 00:03:37.599 --> 00:03:44.750 going for it And it is time It is actually time 00:03:44.750 --> 00:03:48.310 Right now for you to be like taking advantage 00:03:48.310 --> 00:03:52.550 of things if you can Slide into the one of those 00:03:52.550 --> 00:03:56.430 courses or whatever and get you a trade. Yo go 00:03:56.430 --> 00:03:58.729 for it right now right now It's like the perfect 00:03:58.729 --> 00:04:02.569 time. They already have low admissions so you'll 00:04:02.569 --> 00:04:09.009 be able to Really? Take the time to do so Just 00:04:09.009 --> 00:04:12.250 if you can like that's where it now what it is 00:04:12.520 --> 00:04:17.579 Make it work however you can. If you can take 00:04:17.579 --> 00:04:19.680 the opportunity, if you have the opportunity 00:04:19.680 --> 00:04:21.560 and it has been presented to you, you know you've 00:04:21.560 --> 00:04:22.939 been thinking about it, you've been wondering 00:04:22.939 --> 00:04:25.120 about it, you've been saying, OK, I'm just going 00:04:25.120 --> 00:04:27.120 to do this. I'm going to do that. I'm going to 00:04:27.120 --> 00:04:30.560 do this. You never do it. You never do it. Just 00:04:30.560 --> 00:04:33.060 do it. What could be wrong? What could go wrong? 00:04:34.319 --> 00:04:36.100 What are the chances that something could always 00:04:36.100 --> 00:04:39.779 go wrong? Like we live in our heads over things 00:04:39.779 --> 00:04:43.490 so much sometimes. that gets us into a lot of 00:04:43.490 --> 00:04:47.449 trouble when we can't do what we want to do we 00:04:47.449 --> 00:04:51.209 can't have any control and it just it just throws 00:04:51.209 --> 00:04:56.569 everything off but now we are in a space go be 00:04:56.569 --> 00:05:00.430 great go get your mind together go put your foot 00:05:00.430 --> 00:05:04.449 on the pedal it is time to get you together it's 00:05:04.449 --> 00:05:09.189 no time to play around it is absolutely no time 00:05:09.209 --> 00:05:12.649 to play around do you understand we are living 00:05:12.649 --> 00:05:15.170 in a season where opportunities might be temporary 00:05:15.170 --> 00:05:21.389 but they also may be um but they also may be 00:05:21.389 --> 00:05:24.389 available to you because of the low admission 00:05:24.389 --> 00:05:27.949 or because people are so busy trying are so busy 00:05:27.949 --> 00:05:30.930 comparing themselves to this person that person 00:05:30.930 --> 00:05:34.449 that person this person and leaving the opportunities 00:05:34.449 --> 00:05:38.360 so wide open right now where you could Benefit 00:05:38.360 --> 00:05:40.800 from a lot of things within like yes, it may 00:05:40.800 --> 00:05:43.420 take time. It's an investment You're gonna have 00:05:43.420 --> 00:05:45.540 to get your things together and like make this 00:05:45.540 --> 00:05:48.959 investment Because you'll need it in a couple 00:05:48.959 --> 00:05:51.579 years that investment to turn over for you and 00:05:51.579 --> 00:05:53.879 you'll be able to like Hit the ground running 00:05:53.879 --> 00:05:56.839 and be in a great place over you need to be that's 00:05:56.839 --> 00:06:00.120 the time that it is No more time for games. No 00:06:00.120 --> 00:06:06.790 more time playing playing around procrastinating 00:06:06.790 --> 00:06:12.230 just do it just do it would you wait now would 00:06:12.230 --> 00:06:14.649 you wait now you don't got no time to be playing 00:06:14.649 --> 00:06:18.670 we already in a place where life isn't even promised 00:06:18.670 --> 00:06:21.730 to us all the time so like what you playing for 00:06:21.730 --> 00:06:25.269 grace might be temporary access to the things 00:06:25.269 --> 00:06:27.189 that we are seeking right now right now they 00:06:27.189 --> 00:06:29.889 give out stuff for free even our stuff at a low 00:06:29.889 --> 00:06:32.230 price because the economy like people are responding 00:06:32.230 --> 00:06:34.449 to it do it take your chances don't miss the 00:06:34.449 --> 00:06:38.029 opportunity If there's something something available 00:06:38.029 --> 00:06:40.050 to you right now that you can help that can help 00:06:40.050 --> 00:06:44.970 you build a better backup plan a safety net stability 00:06:44.970 --> 00:06:50.110 or catapult you into a better better opportunity 00:06:50.110 --> 00:06:52.230 for making more money for yourself rather than 00:06:52.230 --> 00:06:54.870 if that's getting a certificate go for it what 00:06:54.870 --> 00:07:01.209 are you doing stop waiting the time is now I'm 00:07:01.209 --> 00:07:03.689 with you I'm right here doing it currently right 00:07:03.689 --> 00:07:08.209 here doing it I just signed back up to go back 00:07:08.209 --> 00:07:16.209 to Tracy because I Need to I've been saying that 00:07:16.209 --> 00:07:18.050 I wanted to do this one particular thing and 00:07:18.050 --> 00:07:20.170 I have not done it and now the Opportunity has 00:07:20.170 --> 00:07:22.750 come and I am like I said last time I'm taking 00:07:22.750 --> 00:07:25.470 the opportunity I have done so now I have officially 00:07:25.470 --> 00:07:29.569 signed back up for Tracy and I am going to Get 00:07:29.569 --> 00:07:33.089 my get what I need and move forward and I'm also 00:07:33.089 --> 00:07:37.620 moving Along with listening to these videos and 00:07:37.620 --> 00:07:40.480 taking notes for this other certificate I have 00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:43.160 listed close to like the first section. I am 00:07:43.160 --> 00:07:45.180 almost finished y 'all It was three hours y 'all 00:07:45.180 --> 00:07:47.120 don't understand how hard it is to listen to 00:07:47.120 --> 00:07:50.379 somebody talk for three hours While you have 00:07:50.379 --> 00:07:53.899 a little bit of ADHD. I'm sorry it is very difficult 00:07:53.899 --> 00:07:57.079 for me at times, but anyway I'm right here with 00:07:57.079 --> 00:08:00.620 you go for what am I waiting for? What are you 00:08:00.620 --> 00:08:04.459 waiting for? Tonight is the night Today is the 00:08:04.459 --> 00:08:07.199 day. Tomorrow is the day. Go for it. What are 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:12.579 you doing? And like, you know, next year is coming 00:08:12.579 --> 00:08:22.160 up. Next year is coming up. And you're going 00:08:22.160 --> 00:08:24.040 to need some set some goals. You know how you 00:08:24.040 --> 00:08:26.019 guys do it. I've already had my goals that I 00:08:26.019 --> 00:08:28.399 use my birthday as my next year is my new year. 00:08:28.879 --> 00:08:31.600 So let's say if you're into it. Go for it set 00:08:31.600 --> 00:08:34.100 yourself some goals. It's good for it make yourself 00:08:34.100 --> 00:08:39.039 goals financially physically spiritually Emotionally 00:08:39.039 --> 00:08:42.019 you need to set goals for every part of you Because 00:08:42.019 --> 00:08:44.779 it is time for you to lock in with yourself and 00:08:44.779 --> 00:08:47.639 show yourself and your children if you have children 00:08:47.639 --> 00:08:50.220 I'm sorry if you have children let them be the 00:08:50.220 --> 00:08:52.679 motivation for you Let them be the motivation 00:08:52.679 --> 00:08:55.399 for you so that you can lock into yourself your 00:08:55.399 --> 00:08:59.169 kids deserve to see their parents grow into who 00:08:59.169 --> 00:09:03.470 they're destined to be. Your kids are watching 00:09:03.470 --> 00:09:06.809 you. Show them what it looks like to put the 00:09:06.809 --> 00:09:10.149 work in. Really put the time in emotionally, 00:09:10.389 --> 00:09:13.750 spiritually. Stop playing. We ain't got time 00:09:13.750 --> 00:09:15.789 to be joking around. It's time to hurry up and 00:09:15.789 --> 00:09:18.769 try to get what we can now. And you got to make 00:09:18.769 --> 00:09:21.429 yourself happy. You can't sit around and try 00:09:21.429 --> 00:09:23.669 to listen to other people and try to make everybody 00:09:23.669 --> 00:09:26.230 else happy. I'm sorry. That is not working right 00:09:26.230 --> 00:09:29.240 now. You got a partner. Tell them to lock in 00:09:29.240 --> 00:09:31.440 with you. Y 'all look at each other and y 'all 00:09:31.440 --> 00:09:34.759 purely put it put together. Build a plan. Like, 00:09:34.840 --> 00:09:38.539 come on, let's make some gold for next year. 00:09:38.799 --> 00:09:41.840 Do all the things you said you wouldn't do because 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:44.600 you were afraid. You think it's cringe. Do it. 00:09:44.799 --> 00:09:47.259 Just just just do it. Afraid. It's time for us 00:09:47.259 --> 00:09:50.940 to just do the things. Give it give in to the 00:09:50.940 --> 00:09:54.000 push you keep pulling away from. Stop fighting 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:58.779 the discomfort. Stop resisting the nudge. If 00:09:58.779 --> 00:10:01.480 you need to tell somebody hey this season I'm 00:10:01.480 --> 00:10:05.100 isolating on purpose Say it because sometimes 00:10:05.100 --> 00:10:09.600 isolation isn't loneliness It's preparation and 00:10:09.600 --> 00:10:12.740 you may feel lonely in that season you and what 00:10:12.740 --> 00:10:16.700 it is is You're seeking connection and the way 00:10:16.700 --> 00:10:18.539 you're going about it the way you've been going 00:10:18.539 --> 00:10:27.490 about it God is trying to tell you a listen What 00:10:27.490 --> 00:10:30.070 you're looking for the validation the connection 00:10:30.070 --> 00:10:32.850 the reason why you want to be feel something 00:10:32.850 --> 00:10:36.289 you just want to feel something You're going 00:10:36.289 --> 00:10:38.509 about it the wrong way and you keep running away 00:10:38.509 --> 00:10:41.610 from the space of isolation because you keep 00:10:41.610 --> 00:10:47.789 looking at isolation in a season of hiding When 00:10:47.789 --> 00:10:50.570 in actuality you are about to walk into a season 00:10:50.570 --> 00:10:53.409 if you accept this from God the obedience that 00:10:53.409 --> 00:10:58.820 he's asking you to do If you just accept it and 00:10:58.820 --> 00:11:05.620 actually go into it as Not hiding but for you 00:11:05.620 --> 00:11:10.559 to transform You are You have been hurt you have 00:11:10.559 --> 00:11:13.320 been wrong. God is kind of so you everything 00:11:13.320 --> 00:11:17.259 that you think You need everything that you think 00:11:17.259 --> 00:11:22.120 Is right ain't right and I've been I'm a jealous 00:11:22.120 --> 00:11:26.159 God and I've been trying to show you that Yeah, 00:11:26.159 --> 00:11:31.379 baby girl, or son, baby boy. Yeah, daughter, 00:11:31.720 --> 00:11:36.019 that's not it. I'm everything that you need, 00:11:36.039 --> 00:11:39.820 and you keep running from me. You've been searching 00:11:39.820 --> 00:11:42.559 for something in people and money and validation 00:11:42.559 --> 00:11:47.299 and relationships, and only he can give it. So 00:11:47.299 --> 00:11:49.879 maybe change your mindset when you go into the 00:11:49.879 --> 00:11:52.580 season of isolation and see what God is actually 00:11:52.580 --> 00:11:55.279 asking of you. What is it? What is it got that 00:11:55.279 --> 00:11:58.179 you keep trying to push this on me, and I promise 00:11:58.179 --> 00:12:02.259 you he will show you And when God is trying to 00:12:02.259 --> 00:12:04.700 get your attention He will do everything to remove 00:12:04.700 --> 00:12:07.139 everything out of your life for you to sit down 00:12:07.139 --> 00:12:10.480 and be quiet Because you'll be thinking that 00:12:10.480 --> 00:12:12.340 you got all the answers that you that you know 00:12:12.340 --> 00:12:15.960 everything and you don't So pay attention and 00:12:15.960 --> 00:12:19.659 follow him this time change your mind Clean up 00:12:19.659 --> 00:12:24.200 your mental space And it's some of you out there 00:12:24.200 --> 00:12:32.620 who are, who are just dealing with people who 00:12:32.620 --> 00:12:35.539 ain't good for you, who aren't giving you exactly 00:12:35.539 --> 00:12:39.940 what you know you deserve. And you're just settling. 00:12:41.480 --> 00:12:46.700 You're settling. I'm about to call you, but it's 00:12:46.700 --> 00:12:48.980 pathetic. You keep doing this over and over and 00:12:48.980 --> 00:12:55.769 over. What's wrong with you? Us I'm not I'm speaking 00:12:55.769 --> 00:12:59.009 from a place of complete understanding complete 00:12:59.009 --> 00:13:08.070 experience It's time to let them go Let it go 00:13:08.070 --> 00:13:11.509 let it go let it go let it go it is not serving 00:13:11.509 --> 00:13:14.570 you about to go until so you telling me That 00:13:14.570 --> 00:13:16.629 you've been in this same situation. You've been 00:13:16.629 --> 00:13:18.389 doing the same thing. You've been getting the 00:13:18.389 --> 00:13:24.419 same results Year after year time at the time 00:13:24.419 --> 00:13:27.000 month at the month. You're telling me you're 00:13:27.000 --> 00:13:29.139 not gonna try something different one just one 00:13:29.139 --> 00:13:32.340 time You're telling me you're just gonna not 00:13:32.340 --> 00:13:34.700 let them go this time. You keep saying I'm gonna 00:13:34.700 --> 00:13:39.940 let them go. I'm gonna do it You are so afraid 00:13:39.940 --> 00:13:42.759 of how you are going to feel you are so afraid 00:13:42.759 --> 00:13:45.840 you are trying to control everything you cannot 00:13:45.840 --> 00:13:50.460 control everything You have to move for you have 00:13:50.460 --> 00:13:55.490 to evolve you have to to grow. You just have 00:13:55.490 --> 00:14:02.129 to. You have to clean out trash that has been 00:14:02.129 --> 00:14:04.509 sitting in the backyard. You ain't took out your 00:14:04.509 --> 00:14:07.529 trash in a long time. It's time to clean house. 00:14:08.830 --> 00:14:11.029 Clean out everything. Clean out your social media, 00:14:11.129 --> 00:14:13.490 what you listening to, what you watching, the 00:14:13.490 --> 00:14:15.610 conversations you having, the music, the advice, 00:14:15.730 --> 00:14:19.529 the opinions. Clean it up. Lock in on your money. 00:14:19.799 --> 00:14:22.120 Because obviously they playing with money out 00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:26.399 here nowadays Get your stuff up Plan the move 00:14:26.399 --> 00:14:29.080 if you plan in the move take the course if you 00:14:29.080 --> 00:14:32.379 take in the course sign up for the class Take 00:14:32.379 --> 00:14:36.139 care of your money learn financial literacy stop 00:14:36.139 --> 00:14:39.220 acting like you don't know where to get the resources 00:14:39.220 --> 00:14:43.500 There are so many books stop being lazy and just 00:14:43.500 --> 00:14:46.740 do it They have created all the easiest ways 00:14:46.740 --> 00:14:51.120 for you to learn and do anything You can't say 00:14:51.120 --> 00:14:53.059 I don't have the time yes you do you can listen 00:14:53.059 --> 00:14:56.279 to the e -book of a book telling you about finances? 00:14:57.340 --> 00:15:01.539 What like stop it? Stop coming up with excuses 00:15:01.539 --> 00:15:04.220 because you don't want to do right because you're 00:15:04.220 --> 00:15:06.360 just trying to make excuses y 'all make so many 00:15:06.360 --> 00:15:10.039 excuses for everything y 'all are soft I'm just 00:15:10.039 --> 00:15:12.500 gonna come out and say it y 'all are some soft 00:15:12.500 --> 00:15:19.190 human beings y 'all are so soft I got no It's 00:15:19.190 --> 00:15:23.049 always so scary. Since when did the 90s? When 00:15:23.049 --> 00:15:27.649 was we so scary? We big now. Who gonna stop you? 00:15:27.789 --> 00:15:33.669 Who gonna tell you? What they gonna do? And so 00:15:33.669 --> 00:15:38.730 what that you 33, 35, 38 just now getting yourself 00:15:38.730 --> 00:15:42.549 together. And so who said that you had to be 00:15:42.549 --> 00:15:45.860 a certain age? Where's the law for that? Some 00:15:45.860 --> 00:15:48.340 of the greatest people didn't hit their prime 00:15:48.340 --> 00:15:50.940 until their 40s some of the greatest people didn't 00:15:50.940 --> 00:15:53.559 start becoming millionaires until their 40s Why 00:15:53.559 --> 00:15:56.340 are you worried about other people? Why are you 00:15:56.340 --> 00:15:58.639 worried about why you haven't made it there has 00:15:58.639 --> 00:16:02.100 been no rule? Where was that written in the adult 00:16:02.100 --> 00:16:06.220 handbook? Who said that you was too old who said 00:16:06.220 --> 00:16:13.620 it where they at let me meet him What are you 00:16:13.620 --> 00:16:17.149 waiting for We've seen life is not promised. 00:16:17.669 --> 00:16:21.950 Who's gonna stop you? Who's gonna stop you? Who's 00:16:21.950 --> 00:16:26.070 gonna whoop your butt? Who's gonna stop you if 00:16:26.070 --> 00:16:28.889 you actually believe in you? So what you wait 00:16:28.889 --> 00:16:31.750 for, go for it. What if it really works out for 00:16:31.750 --> 00:16:34.309 you? I'm speaking because I'm a walking contradiction. 00:16:34.570 --> 00:16:36.730 I can speak like this y 'all, and I'd be just 00:16:36.730 --> 00:16:40.330 as scared as y 'all, okay? I'm terrified of success. 00:16:40.870 --> 00:16:43.190 I'm terrified of what if it works out? I'm just 00:16:43.190 --> 00:16:48.879 as terrified, but I have to do it. And if it 00:16:48.879 --> 00:16:50.620 didn't and if you didn't work out the first time 00:16:50.620 --> 00:16:53.259 I gotta keep keep doing dust yourself off and 00:16:53.259 --> 00:16:56.559 try again You know real talk. I know Christmas 00:16:56.559 --> 00:17:00.240 is around the corner and I love Christmas. I'm 00:17:00.240 --> 00:17:04.119 not buying that much for them spoiled kids Y 00:17:04.119 --> 00:17:07.380 'all our kids are spoiled We have bought them 00:17:07.380 --> 00:17:09.660 everything all year round take them to do a lot 00:17:09.660 --> 00:17:12.519 of things. It is okay if we just ease up off 00:17:12.519 --> 00:17:17.369 Christmas Genuinely, I'm not joking I genuinely 00:17:17.369 --> 00:17:20.390 don't care. Take them on a trip. Or maybe not 00:17:20.390 --> 00:17:23.710 a trip, but to do something fun. I'd rather just 00:17:23.710 --> 00:17:25.869 take them, surprise them with tickets to the 00:17:25.869 --> 00:17:29.349 game. And we go, we take pictures. And I spend 00:17:29.349 --> 00:17:33.470 money on food and t -shirts. Just wig out, you 00:17:33.470 --> 00:17:35.569 know what I'm saying? I'd rather do that. And 00:17:35.569 --> 00:17:38.289 they open up some gifts. But teach your kids 00:17:38.289 --> 00:17:41.309 about giving to others during that time. My kids 00:17:41.309 --> 00:17:43.450 got a million one toys that they don't play with. 00:17:43.609 --> 00:17:45.890 We've got to bag this up and take this to the 00:17:45.890 --> 00:17:47.970 to the shelters and give these to kids who deserve 00:17:47.970 --> 00:17:50.829 it Give these to pass these on like not taking 00:17:50.829 --> 00:17:52.869 them to the homeless show. I mean not take them 00:17:52.869 --> 00:17:56.329 to the Goodwill No, let's take them to children 00:17:56.329 --> 00:17:58.789 like some kids who really are unfortunate or 00:17:58.789 --> 00:18:02.069 how about this this Christmas turn off your phone 00:18:02.069 --> 00:18:09.069 and just be in the present Talk laugh open up 00:18:09.069 --> 00:18:14.069 presents watch movies giggle 80 have a DD or 00:18:14.069 --> 00:18:19.470 ADHD moments, wig out, scream, laugh, crack jokes, 00:18:20.509 --> 00:18:24.569 all of that, but no social media for the whole 00:18:24.569 --> 00:18:26.650 day. What would be wrong with that? To sit and 00:18:26.650 --> 00:18:29.809 laugh with your children. Go for it. Go do the 00:18:29.809 --> 00:18:31.769 free stuff that our parents used to take us to 00:18:31.769 --> 00:18:34.289 do. We will go ice skating. Ice skating, okay, 00:18:34.470 --> 00:18:36.789 okay, ice skating is not free. It's about $15 00:18:36.789 --> 00:18:39.109 a person, at least in Cleveland, little one downtown. 00:18:39.630 --> 00:18:44.470 Take them ice skating or go. Take the drive out 00:18:44.470 --> 00:18:46.869 to the nice places and go look at all the Christmas 00:18:46.869 --> 00:18:49.670 lights like our parents used to do. Pack some, 00:18:49.710 --> 00:18:53.869 we got plenty of technology. We got plenty of 00:18:53.869 --> 00:18:57.670 fire gadgets. Put the hot cocoa in them cups 00:18:57.670 --> 00:19:01.210 and y 'all go ride around and look at them lights. 00:19:01.869 --> 00:19:05.289 Take pictures, play Christmas music, sing, play 00:19:05.289 --> 00:19:08.029 games in the car. Funny games, silly games in 00:19:08.029 --> 00:19:14.150 the car. Share moments. Make it magical, but 00:19:14.150 --> 00:19:16.869 on a cheaper budget the way our parents used 00:19:16.869 --> 00:19:20.230 to do it. There is nothing wrong with that. I 00:19:20.230 --> 00:19:23.150 am a grown child and my dad still goes and looks 00:19:23.150 --> 00:19:26.190 at the Christmas lights during Christmas. We 00:19:26.190 --> 00:19:28.690 did it when I was down there and my kids loved 00:19:28.690 --> 00:19:32.130 it. It may seem pointless, but to me, I remember 00:19:32.130 --> 00:19:35.789 those things. And if you got snow, like we got 00:19:35.789 --> 00:19:38.170 snow, go outside and build a snowman with your 00:19:38.170 --> 00:19:39.609 children. Teach them how to build a snowman. 00:19:40.039 --> 00:19:43.140 Take them sweating there are plenty places when 00:19:43.140 --> 00:19:48.220 in Cleveland where we have sweating Come on use 00:19:48.220 --> 00:19:52.640 your brain and Lock out from social media world 00:19:52.640 --> 00:19:57.019 and lock into real world for a day Give love 00:19:57.019 --> 00:19:59.660 this year these kids don't need it. They are 00:19:59.660 --> 00:20:03.980 so good They are so loved you did an amazing 00:20:03.980 --> 00:20:06.700 job, and if you don't have children your family 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:09.920 You did an amazing job pouring into your family. 00:20:10.220 --> 00:20:12.839 You did the best that you do. You were there. 00:20:12.900 --> 00:20:15.440 You showed up. You called. You laughed. You shared 00:20:15.440 --> 00:20:17.900 a joke. You shared a meme. You shared a movie. 00:20:18.160 --> 00:20:21.640 You've done your part. You're trying. You're 00:20:21.640 --> 00:20:29.220 not being out of the left wing, crazy. You're 00:20:29.220 --> 00:20:31.640 doing your part. You're making the best of whatever 00:20:31.640 --> 00:20:35.099 situation you're in. Yes, you may need some help. 00:20:35.220 --> 00:20:39.269 OK, and we all do. That doesn't exclude you being 00:20:39.269 --> 00:20:43.089 a human being and being someone's child You're 00:20:43.089 --> 00:20:45.930 doing the best that you can with what you're 00:20:45.930 --> 00:20:54.009 giving And it's okay Life is hard right now, 00:20:54.430 --> 00:20:58.029 but it is not the end and We have to realize 00:20:58.029 --> 00:21:04.349 that if you have to keep fighting back We cannot 00:21:04.349 --> 00:21:06.910 let this defeat us we have to find the loopholes 00:21:07.400 --> 00:21:11.480 the keyholes whatever to get to the other side 00:21:11.480 --> 00:21:14.180 we are all in survival mode and we are fighting 00:21:14.180 --> 00:21:16.420 right now but you got to fight to get to the 00:21:16.420 --> 00:21:19.539 other side because we're not going backwards 00:21:19.539 --> 00:21:21.640 we're only going forward so you have to move 00:21:21.640 --> 00:21:25.140 forward and grow stop being afraid of growing 00:21:25.140 --> 00:21:28.480 stop being afraid of growth you have to grieve 00:21:28.480 --> 00:21:33.519 the old version of you and the old you because 00:21:33.519 --> 00:21:39.569 it cannot go with you When you get older and 00:21:39.569 --> 00:21:44.069 when you evolve and when you grow Why would you 00:21:44.069 --> 00:21:46.990 want the 20 -year -old you to be with the 30 00:21:46.990 --> 00:21:48.390 -year -old you like that makes them? Why would 00:21:48.390 --> 00:21:49.829 you want to be the same as you was when you was 00:21:49.829 --> 00:21:53.410 20 30 that makes absolutely no sense You change 00:21:53.410 --> 00:21:56.450 and you evolve you have to grow you have to just 00:21:56.450 --> 00:21:58.849 stop running from who you're trying Where you're 00:21:58.849 --> 00:22:02.230 supposed to be we run so much. We some we some 00:22:02.230 --> 00:22:08.359 we some drag stars always running, running, running, 00:22:08.579 --> 00:22:13.259 just be running from everything. Scary punks. 00:22:14.200 --> 00:22:16.299 Sometimes you just still gotta take risks, y 00:22:16.299 --> 00:22:19.680 'all. We still have to take risks. You know what 00:22:19.680 --> 00:22:21.460 I started doing? Oh, yeah, I think I told y 'all. 00:22:21.480 --> 00:22:23.819 I started reading books. I be reading them heavy. 00:22:23.859 --> 00:22:25.599 I be forcing myself to read books. I'm like, 00:22:25.720 --> 00:22:27.619 come on, you gotta read, you gotta read. I do 00:22:27.619 --> 00:22:29.720 not like reading physical books sometimes, but 00:22:29.720 --> 00:22:33.140 I force myself. I'm forcing myself to be a more 00:22:33.140 --> 00:22:35.970 present parent in the moment. I'm forcing myself 00:22:35.970 --> 00:22:39.470 to get a to move up into the next stage of my 00:22:39.470 --> 00:22:42.890 career. I'm forcing myself to do that, to stop 00:22:42.890 --> 00:22:45.029 playing games. And I keep pushing these goals 00:22:45.029 --> 00:22:46.609 out. I'll be like, OK, I'll do it. I'm going 00:22:46.609 --> 00:22:48.609 to do it. I'm going to do it. And here we are. 00:22:48.609 --> 00:22:52.490 Ain't did nothing. Ain't did nothing. Ain't made 00:22:52.490 --> 00:22:55.130 a dent, a budge. All I'm doing is talking, talking, 00:22:55.329 --> 00:22:57.450 talking. I ain't just running my mouth. Ain't 00:22:57.450 --> 00:23:02.930 did nothing. No, I ain't no talk now. It's time 00:23:02.930 --> 00:23:07.960 to put my foot to the. metal foot on a gas foot 00:23:07.960 --> 00:23:11.619 on a neck on whose neck my neck my own snack 00:23:11.619 --> 00:23:14.500 Stop playing with myself. I know I'm better than 00:23:14.500 --> 00:23:17.559 that incapable of that capable of more. This 00:23:17.559 --> 00:23:20.579 is not my end story This is not your end story 00:23:20.579 --> 00:23:25.240 at all. You deserve the life that you dream of 00:23:25.240 --> 00:23:29.900 And I'm gonna be honest I'm not leaving this 00:23:29.900 --> 00:23:33.890 world Not that I can control when I leave, but 00:23:33.890 --> 00:23:36.750 I'm not going to leave this world at least every 00:23:36.750 --> 00:23:39.109 day not waking up trying to continuously live 00:23:39.109 --> 00:23:43.890 the dream of my life. Of my children's life of 00:23:43.890 --> 00:23:46.190 pouring into my children and showing them what 00:23:46.190 --> 00:23:48.809 it looks like to chase your dreams and to go 00:23:48.809 --> 00:23:51.970 for something and not be afraid of what other 00:23:51.970 --> 00:23:55.809 people think because nobody cares and can't nobody 00:23:55.809 --> 00:24:04.170 beat your butt. Can't nobody do it and if God 00:24:04.170 --> 00:24:16.289 is not the center of it it won't last Keep fighting 00:24:16.289 --> 00:24:19.210 keep finding ways other paths to get you where 00:24:19.210 --> 00:24:26.569 you need to be you have to Now let me leave you 00:24:26.569 --> 00:24:31.839 with this Sometimes the breakthrough doesn't 00:24:31.839 --> 00:24:36.220 come from doing more It comes from listening 00:24:36.220 --> 00:24:40.660 closer moving braver and trusting God enough 00:24:40.660 --> 00:24:46.819 to try again Take care of yourself I'm with you. 00:24:46.980 --> 00:24:49.460 We all are trying to fight keep fighting. Don't 00:24:49.460 --> 00:24:52.740 you stop you keep going after everything pivot. 00:24:52.759 --> 00:24:56.779 It's okay to pivot pivot If it didn't work out 00:24:56.730 --> 00:25:00.029 You tried your best, it's time to pivot. Go to 00:25:00.029 --> 00:25:05.450 the next thing. Keep searching. Go hard. Go harder 00:25:05.450 --> 00:25:07.109 than the next person because there's somebody 00:25:07.109 --> 00:25:09.569 out there that want it harder than you. And if 00:25:09.569 --> 00:25:11.130 they want it harder than you, they're doing 10 00:25:11.130 --> 00:25:12.829 times more than you. That's where you need to 00:25:12.829 --> 00:25:16.170 be. Going hard. But I'm with you. We're all about 00:25:16.170 --> 00:25:18.490 to go hard. It's time to lock in on you and get 00:25:18.490 --> 00:25:21.569 everything that you deserve. And as always, this 00:25:21.569 --> 00:25:27.099 has been R &R Ron Real with Shaz. Bye. Well, 00:25:27.500 --> 00:25:31.440 what an episode Listen before you go. I just 00:25:31.440 --> 00:25:33.740 want to know if you really enjoyed this episode 00:25:33.740 --> 00:25:36.000 Would you mind sharing it with a friend a co 00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:39.019 -worker a family member or whoever? 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