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And let's get raw and real. Hey everybody. Welcome
back to another episode of R &R Raw and Real
with Chas. I'm your host Chasmine. And let me
just tell you, I just want to do a check -in.
Just for a moment. and like because we all all
are like gratefully going through things life
is life bang for everybody um nobody can tell
me that oh yeah we're doing great it's like yeah
i'm getting by that's you know what i'm saying
the typical answer but genuinely people are still
trying to live but like i just want to do a check
-in you know um first of all i just want to say
like welcome winter If you live in Ohio, I'm
pretty sure you are currently cold. Hey, winter
is here. It is very cold. It is snowing like
crazy, so if you are not in Ohio and you do not
have snow, lucky for you, okay? And then I do
want to address something seriously. What is
really going on with the economy, with this government?
This is a wild time to be alive, if you think
about it. It is genuinely a wild time to be alive.
We are living in some crazy times where people
are making rules and stuff over our laws, and
it's genuinely affecting everybody around us.
Everybody's gas prices are, you know, still kind
of high. Groceries are ridiculous. The cost of
food is crazy to me. In some ways somehow we
still have to do it. Rent, I wish we could get
like a month of like free. Like all of the landlords
and property managers, everybody just give everybody
a month free. Bills, all of that, like everything
just get canceled. Because it's just too much
right now. And a lot of us have been feeling
the pressure a lot of us are like scrambling
trying to get things to make things happen A
lot of us are so tired and anxious and I'm like,
I don't care what nobody say Every single as
one of us are potentially are already in survival
mode Fighting going to into that depression because
we still have to make things do You know, it
is very difficult You're not alone You are not
alone. We all are going through it right now
everybody is hurting in some way shape or form
and Because of that I'm not mad at people for
taking risk right now Trying new things really
planning things out and You know really just
going for it And it is time It is actually time
Right now for you to be like taking advantage
of things if you can Slide into the one of those
courses or whatever and get you a trade. Yo go
for it right now right now It's like the perfect
time. They already have low admissions so you'll
be able to Really? Take the time to do so Just
if you can like that's where it now what it is
Make it work however you can. If you can take
the opportunity, if you have the opportunity
and it has been presented to you, you know you've
been thinking about it, you've been wondering
about it, you've been saying, OK, I'm just going
to do this. I'm going to do that. I'm going to
do this. You never do it. You never do it. Just
do it. What could be wrong? What could go wrong?
What are the chances that something could always
go wrong? Like we live in our heads over things
so much sometimes. that gets us into a lot of
trouble when we can't do what we want to do we
can't have any control and it just it just throws
everything off but now we are in a space go be
great go get your mind together go put your foot
on the pedal it is time to get you together it's
no time to play around it is absolutely no time
to play around do you understand we are living
in a season where opportunities might be temporary
but they also may be um but they also may be
available to you because of the low admission
or because people are so busy trying are so busy
comparing themselves to this person that person
that person this person and leaving the opportunities
so wide open right now where you could Benefit
from a lot of things within like yes, it may
take time. It's an investment You're gonna have
to get your things together and like make this
investment Because you'll need it in a couple
years that investment to turn over for you and
you'll be able to like Hit the ground running
and be in a great place over you need to be that's
the time that it is No more time for games. No
more time playing playing around procrastinating
just do it just do it would you wait now would
you wait now you don't got no time to be playing
we already in a place where life isn't even promised
to us all the time so like what you playing for
grace might be temporary access to the things
that we are seeking right now right now they
give out stuff for free even our stuff at a low
price because the economy like people are responding
to it do it take your chances don't miss the
opportunity If there's something something available
to you right now that you can help that can help
you build a better backup plan a safety net stability
or catapult you into a better better opportunity
for making more money for yourself rather than
if that's getting a certificate go for it what
are you doing stop waiting the time is now I'm
with you I'm right here doing it currently right
here doing it I just signed back up to go back
to Tracy because I Need to I've been saying that
I wanted to do this one particular thing and
I have not done it and now the Opportunity has
come and I am like I said last time I'm taking
the opportunity I have done so now I have officially
signed back up for Tracy and I am going to Get
my get what I need and move forward and I'm also
moving Along with listening to these videos and
taking notes for this other certificate I have
listed close to like the first section. I am
almost finished y 'all It was three hours y 'all
don't understand how hard it is to listen to
somebody talk for three hours While you have
a little bit of ADHD. I'm sorry it is very difficult
for me at times, but anyway I'm right here with
you go for what am I waiting for? What are you
waiting for? Tonight is the night Today is the
day. Tomorrow is the day. Go for it. What are
you doing? And like, you know, next year is coming
up. Next year is coming up. And you're going
to need some set some goals. You know how you
guys do it. I've already had my goals that I
use my birthday as my next year is my new year.
So let's say if you're into it. Go for it set
yourself some goals. It's good for it make yourself
goals financially physically spiritually Emotionally
you need to set goals for every part of you Because
it is time for you to lock in with yourself and
show yourself and your children if you have children
I'm sorry if you have children let them be the
motivation for you Let them be the motivation
for you so that you can lock into yourself your
kids deserve to see their parents grow into who
they're destined to be. Your kids are watching
you. Show them what it looks like to put the
work in. Really put the time in emotionally,
spiritually. Stop playing. We ain't got time
to be joking around. It's time to hurry up and
try to get what we can now. And you got to make
yourself happy. You can't sit around and try
to listen to other people and try to make everybody
else happy. I'm sorry. That is not working right
now. You got a partner. Tell them to lock in
with you. Y 'all look at each other and y 'all
purely put it put together. Build a plan. Like,
come on, let's make some gold for next year.
Do all the things you said you wouldn't do because
you were afraid. You think it's cringe. Do it.
Just just just do it. Afraid. It's time for us
to just do the things. Give it give in to the
push you keep pulling away from. Stop fighting
the discomfort. Stop resisting the nudge. If
you need to tell somebody hey this season I'm
isolating on purpose Say it because sometimes
isolation isn't loneliness It's preparation and
you may feel lonely in that season you and what
it is is You're seeking connection and the way
you're going about it the way you've been going
about it God is trying to tell you a listen What
you're looking for the validation the connection
the reason why you want to be feel something
you just want to feel something You're going
about it the wrong way and you keep running away
from the space of isolation because you keep
looking at isolation in a season of hiding When
in actuality you are about to walk into a season
if you accept this from God the obedience that
he's asking you to do If you just accept it and
actually go into it as Not hiding but for you
to transform You are You have been hurt you have
been wrong. God is kind of so you everything
that you think You need everything that you think
Is right ain't right and I've been I'm a jealous
God and I've been trying to show you that Yeah,
baby girl, or son, baby boy. Yeah, daughter,
that's not it. I'm everything that you need,
and you keep running from me. You've been searching
for something in people and money and validation
and relationships, and only he can give it. So
maybe change your mindset when you go into the
season of isolation and see what God is actually
asking of you. What is it? What is it got that
you keep trying to push this on me, and I promise
you he will show you And when God is trying to
get your attention He will do everything to remove
everything out of your life for you to sit down
and be quiet Because you'll be thinking that
you got all the answers that you that you know
everything and you don't So pay attention and
follow him this time change your mind Clean up
your mental space And it's some of you out there
who are, who are just dealing with people who
ain't good for you, who aren't giving you exactly
what you know you deserve. And you're just settling.
You're settling. I'm about to call you, but it's
pathetic. You keep doing this over and over and
over. What's wrong with you? Us I'm not I'm speaking
from a place of complete understanding complete
experience It's time to let them go Let it go
let it go let it go let it go it is not serving
you about to go until so you telling me That
you've been in this same situation. You've been
doing the same thing. You've been getting the
same results Year after year time at the time
month at the month. You're telling me you're
not gonna try something different one just one
time You're telling me you're just gonna not
let them go this time. You keep saying I'm gonna
let them go. I'm gonna do it You are so afraid
of how you are going to feel you are so afraid
you are trying to control everything you cannot
control everything You have to move for you have
to evolve you have to to grow. You just have
to. You have to clean out trash that has been
sitting in the backyard. You ain't took out your
trash in a long time. It's time to clean house.
Clean out everything. Clean out your social media,
what you listening to, what you watching, the
conversations you having, the music, the advice,
the opinions. Clean it up. Lock in on your money.
Because obviously they playing with money out
here nowadays Get your stuff up Plan the move
if you plan in the move take the course if you
take in the course sign up for the class Take
care of your money learn financial literacy stop
acting like you don't know where to get the resources
There are so many books stop being lazy and just
do it They have created all the easiest ways
for you to learn and do anything You can't say
I don't have the time yes you do you can listen
to the e -book of a book telling you about finances?
What like stop it? Stop coming up with excuses
because you don't want to do right because you're
just trying to make excuses y 'all make so many
excuses for everything y 'all are soft I'm just
gonna come out and say it y 'all are some soft
human beings y 'all are so soft I got no It's
always so scary. Since when did the 90s? When
was we so scary? We big now. Who gonna stop you?
Who gonna tell you? What they gonna do? And so
what that you 33, 35, 38 just now getting yourself
together. And so who said that you had to be
a certain age? Where's the law for that? Some
of the greatest people didn't hit their prime
until their 40s some of the greatest people didn't
start becoming millionaires until their 40s Why
are you worried about other people? Why are you
worried about why you haven't made it there has
been no rule? Where was that written in the adult
handbook? Who said that you was too old who said
it where they at let me meet him What are you
waiting for We've seen life is not promised.
Who's gonna stop you? Who's gonna stop you? Who's
gonna whoop your butt? Who's gonna stop you if
you actually believe in you? So what you wait
for, go for it. What if it really works out for
you? I'm speaking because I'm a walking contradiction.
I can speak like this y 'all, and I'd be just
as scared as y 'all, okay? I'm terrified of success.
I'm terrified of what if it works out? I'm just
as terrified, but I have to do it. And if it
didn't and if you didn't work out the first time
I gotta keep keep doing dust yourself off and
try again You know real talk. I know Christmas
is around the corner and I love Christmas. I'm
not buying that much for them spoiled kids Y
'all our kids are spoiled We have bought them
everything all year round take them to do a lot
of things. It is okay if we just ease up off
Christmas Genuinely, I'm not joking I genuinely
don't care. Take them on a trip. Or maybe not
a trip, but to do something fun. I'd rather just
take them, surprise them with tickets to the
game. And we go, we take pictures. And I spend
money on food and t -shirts. Just wig out, you
know what I'm saying? I'd rather do that. And
they open up some gifts. But teach your kids
about giving to others during that time. My kids
got a million one toys that they don't play with.
We've got to bag this up and take this to the
to the shelters and give these to kids who deserve
it Give these to pass these on like not taking
them to the homeless show. I mean not take them
to the Goodwill No, let's take them to children
like some kids who really are unfortunate or
how about this this Christmas turn off your phone
and just be in the present Talk laugh open up
presents watch movies giggle 80 have a DD or
ADHD moments, wig out, scream, laugh, crack jokes,
all of that, but no social media for the whole
day. What would be wrong with that? To sit and
laugh with your children. Go for it. Go do the
free stuff that our parents used to take us to
do. We will go ice skating. Ice skating, okay,
okay, ice skating is not free. It's about $15
a person, at least in Cleveland, little one downtown.
Take them ice skating or go. Take the drive out
to the nice places and go look at all the Christmas
lights like our parents used to do. Pack some,
we got plenty of technology. We got plenty of
fire gadgets. Put the hot cocoa in them cups
and y 'all go ride around and look at them lights.
Take pictures, play Christmas music, sing, play
games in the car. Funny games, silly games in
the car. Share moments. Make it magical, but
on a cheaper budget the way our parents used
to do it. There is nothing wrong with that. I
am a grown child and my dad still goes and looks
at the Christmas lights during Christmas. We
did it when I was down there and my kids loved
it. It may seem pointless, but to me, I remember
those things. And if you got snow, like we got
snow, go outside and build a snowman with your
children. Teach them how to build a snowman.
Take them sweating there are plenty places when
in Cleveland where we have sweating Come on use
your brain and Lock out from social media world
and lock into real world for a day Give love
this year these kids don't need it. They are
so good They are so loved you did an amazing
job, and if you don't have children your family
You did an amazing job pouring into your family.
You did the best that you do. You were there.
You showed up. You called. You laughed. You shared
a joke. You shared a meme. You shared a movie.
You've done your part. You're trying. You're
not being out of the left wing, crazy. You're
doing your part. You're making the best of whatever
situation you're in. Yes, you may need some help.
OK, and we all do. That doesn't exclude you being
a human being and being someone's child You're
doing the best that you can with what you're
giving And it's okay Life is hard right now,
but it is not the end and We have to realize
that if you have to keep fighting back We cannot
let this defeat us we have to find the loopholes
the keyholes whatever to get to the other side
we are all in survival mode and we are fighting
right now but you got to fight to get to the
other side because we're not going backwards
we're only going forward so you have to move
forward and grow stop being afraid of growing
stop being afraid of growth you have to grieve
the old version of you and the old you because
it cannot go with you When you get older and
when you evolve and when you grow Why would you
want the 20 -year -old you to be with the 30
-year -old you like that makes them? Why would
you want to be the same as you was when you was
20 30 that makes absolutely no sense You change
and you evolve you have to grow you have to just
stop running from who you're trying Where you're
supposed to be we run so much. We some we some
we some drag stars always running, running, running,
just be running from everything. Scary punks.
Sometimes you just still gotta take risks, y
'all. We still have to take risks. You know what
I started doing? Oh, yeah, I think I told y 'all.
I started reading books. I be reading them heavy.
I be forcing myself to read books. I'm like,
come on, you gotta read, you gotta read. I do
not like reading physical books sometimes, but
I force myself. I'm forcing myself to be a more
present parent in the moment. I'm forcing myself
to get a to move up into the next stage of my
career. I'm forcing myself to do that, to stop
playing games. And I keep pushing these goals
out. I'll be like, OK, I'll do it. I'm going
to do it. I'm going to do it. And here we are.
Ain't did nothing. Ain't did nothing. Ain't made
a dent, a budge. All I'm doing is talking, talking,
talking. I ain't just running my mouth. Ain't
did nothing. No, I ain't no talk now. It's time
to put my foot to the. metal foot on a gas foot
on a neck on whose neck my neck my own snack
Stop playing with myself. I know I'm better than
that incapable of that capable of more. This
is not my end story This is not your end story
at all. You deserve the life that you dream of
And I'm gonna be honest I'm not leaving this
world Not that I can control when I leave, but
I'm not going to leave this world at least every
day not waking up trying to continuously live
the dream of my life. Of my children's life of
pouring into my children and showing them what
it looks like to chase your dreams and to go
for something and not be afraid of what other
people think because nobody cares and can't nobody
beat your butt. Can't nobody do it and if God
is not the center of it it won't last Keep fighting
keep finding ways other paths to get you where
you need to be you have to Now let me leave you
with this Sometimes the breakthrough doesn't
come from doing more It comes from listening
closer moving braver and trusting God enough
to try again Take care of yourself I'm with you.
We all are trying to fight keep fighting. Don't
you stop you keep going after everything pivot.
It's okay to pivot pivot If it didn't work out
You tried your best, it's time to pivot. Go to
the next thing. Keep searching. Go hard. Go harder
than the next person because there's somebody
out there that want it harder than you. And if
they want it harder than you, they're doing 10
times more than you. That's where you need to
be. Going hard. But I'm with you. We're all about
to go hard. It's time to lock in on you and get
everything that you deserve. And as always, this
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