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Hey y 'all, whether it's morning, evening, or

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afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys had decided

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to vibe with E. Yes, the one and only E. Hey

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y 'all, hope y 'all feeling amazing, doing amazing,

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and just being amazing overall. And if not, it's

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okay. It's alright, my friend, because you know

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why? Bedtimes don't last forever. After every

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storm, there is a rainbow, and you're getting

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closer and closer. Every day, my friend, to that

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rainbow, that lot of gold, that python in the

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tunnel, whichever you prefer. Okay? okay once

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again y 'all hey y 'all what's up what's poppin

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if you're new here welcome welcome welcome and

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for the ones that are not new to this but true

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to this hey y 'all what's up what's poppin y

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'all we are in the third week of March which

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is so crazy how we're already getting down to

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the wire soon already like this is really scary

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but hey you know we're spring you know well spring

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is approaching spring is approaching us and I

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really hope that this season that's coming in

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with spring fills a lot of good things in your

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life you know let go of the negativity make you

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guys feel whole but most importantly make you

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feel important in areas where you probably think

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you are slipping and things of that nature but

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trust me my friend i want you to hold on to them

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bad times because the bad times have helped us

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to get to the good times take it one day at a

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time and i guarantee you you're going to get

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to where you want to be slow and steady wins

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the race okay okay guys so like i mentioned we

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are in week three already when it comes to march

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and we are still in the theme of becoming you

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leveling up the next level you as we going back

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to within february when with all impacting you

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know finding yourself again and not losing yourself

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because that's one thing that at times when we

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are starting a new chapter in our life and things

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like that at times we do forget What really matters

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and that's us in the center? Especially when

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we're the type of people that are always there

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to help others pick them up and things like that

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We have to go back to what really matters and

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that is impacting becoming you me I Whatever

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making sure that we are becoming the people the

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person, whatever, that we want to become by understanding

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the next level of us, what's important, how to

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handle it, and why it's important, but most importantly,

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what is going on while we are in this level of

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leveling up in our new chapter. Okay, so I hope

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you're feeling present and open to growth this

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week, and if things... and if things have been

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feeling heavy that's okay too healing can be

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powerful but it can also be exhausting if it

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becomes the only story we talk about ourselves

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now we are on third we have 38 newsletters so

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guys once again if you want to be Add it to the

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Time. Please click the link tree wherever you

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will be on the now you will be a part of the

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newsletter's email. So yeah, so when it comes

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to this part right here y 'all healing can be

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powerful But it can also be exhausting if it

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becomes the only story we talk we tell ourselves

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we talk we tell ourselves So with this being

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with that being said y 'all healing is a gift

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Healing is one of the biggest things that we

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want to do, but that doesn't make us who we are

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It's a part of our journey is a part of who we're

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becoming but it's not who we are as a person

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like oh I'm in my is we have those things in

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life like you do have a healing stage But if

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you keep talking and talking and talking and

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talking about The same old story and playing

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the same old sad song you won't be able to find

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a joy within the morning Yes, we all have our

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healing stays. Yes. We are in a moment of you

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know Getting ourselves together things of that

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nature, but that doesn't make us who we are that

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helps us But it doesn't define who we are in

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general. It's not your personal trait It's not

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those type of things it helps but if you keep

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it that way It hurts you and it haunts you for

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you to be in the stage of the next level of your

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life for you to become you to find yourself because

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if you keep having these exhaustion and not so

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good vibes going on it's not going to get better

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it's not going to get better at all and you're

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going to make healing a part of your personality

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when it's not when in the process we are preparing

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for the better healing is helping us we're in

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stages of our life but you don't want to keep

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playing that old sad song of when i was depressed

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i was depressed because If you keep being depressed,

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you won't find joy. And you won't understand

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the full clips and glans of joy. You have to

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find joy. Like, I believe in a saying, if you

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wake up mad, don't go to sleep mad. If you go

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to sleep mad, don't wake up mad. You know, you

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have to change the narrative because the more

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and more bad days you have, the more and more

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things are not going to go as planned. Trust

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me, I've been there, done that. I'm on spring

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break, y 'all. You know I'm trying to get the

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rhythm of you know it not having to worry about

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homework and stuff right now But it's still like

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at a time it gets frustrating when you know you're

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used to something and then You won't pause right

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now for good But then sometimes certain things

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and people will take you there and you have to

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remember. What is my logic here? You know I'm

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disciplining back to the conversation. We had

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discipline over motivation. I gotta remain to

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understand that right now I'm disciplining myself

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on what I can handle when I What I can't handle

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the motivation may be here may not be there But

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it's not part of my personality me keep being

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consistent of who I am and staying taller firm

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on it That's what matters most then we keep having

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to play this old sad song of Depression trying

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to take over because that's not going to happen

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and I want you guys to understand it So if you're

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a part of this or you have a friend Tell a friend

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to tell a friend This is not going to be your

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story forever. It's a part of it, but it doesn't

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make the story. It's a part of it, but it's not

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the whole main idea. It's a little bit of context

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clues, you know, a little bit of piece of information,

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but it's not the main idea. It's not the main,

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in the beginning, the middle, or the end. It

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is not. It's in the story. It's a stage. And

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a stage don't last so long. So let's kick this

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out of the blue, you know? Here it could be powerful,

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and it can also be exhausting. But we have to

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understand that we have to make our story the

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way we want to be. Do you want to keep hearing

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that old record playing sad song or do you want

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to hear upbeat tempo here and there? These are

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questions we have to ask ourselves on a daily,

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every day, okay? So, as we continue our March

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theme, Becoming You, The Next Level, you This

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week's reminder is simple but powerful. Healing

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is a chapter of your life. It's a chapter, it's

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a state of your life, it's in your life. It's

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not your entire identity. Like I said, like,

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healing's not a part of your personality traits

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as we deep dive deeper into you guys understand

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that. It doesn't hurt you as much as you think

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it will but it can be exhausting but don't make

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it bigger than what it is. Healing helps us to

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understand ourselves. Healing helps us process

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pain. Healing helps us grow beyond what once

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hurt us. but healing is not meant to keep us

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stuck in the past healing is helping us to get

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rid of it not get rid of it but get out of that

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mindset like i've been through things you've

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been through things your friends and telefriends

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family whatever we all been through things and

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the process of healing is to help us get out

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of that mentality take that stagnant out and

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think of the brighter things you know the finding

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brighter things in life and not that same old

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sad song playing on a record player That's what

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this is. At some point, growth asks us to shift

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from consistent revisiting our rooms to building

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the life we deserve beyond them, becoming meaning,

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allowing you to evolve past survival mode and

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to step into thriving. So yes, healing. We're,

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you know, we're stepping out of that zone of

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I'm on survival mode. Now I want to get into

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the part where I'm laying this to rest. This

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ish happened, you know, now I'm laying it to

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rest. It is what it is. It is a part of the journey,

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but it doesn't identify who I am. Yes, I've been

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through this, but that doesn't define who I am.

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Vice versa for you. You, my friend, probably

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went through hell and high waters with certain

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things, certain people, but that doesn't make

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you who you are. That's a part of the journey,

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but that doesn't... Entirely impacts who you

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are. It's not your personal trait. We've been

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there. You've been there done that We all did

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it doesn't make you who you are It helped you

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develop into the person that you want to be especially

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when it comes to our theme Becoming you as we're

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entering the next level of you Okay So yes, y

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'all you are more than what you thought you you

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are more than that Well you more than what you

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thought you could be but you're also more than

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you have been through We all been through things

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our life that people will tell us back and forth

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like you're not gonna do bad All negativity comes

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to mind where people be like, you know, something

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we like you are what you been through. No You

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are more than what you've been through more than

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you thought you were going to be. You're not

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in that stagnant mind no more. You're not doing

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that. You're in the process of healing. Healing

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is a gift. Healing is a part of a journey that

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is needed for you. It's not a part of your personality.

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It is a part of helping you in your chapter or

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season in your life. So don't forget it, okay?

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Because impacting with this, this week's challenge

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is I want you guys to X yourself. Ask yourself,

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am I growing beyond the healing or am I staying

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attached to identifying what's being hurt? Choose

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one action this week that reflects the version

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of you who is moving forward rather than... Trying

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something whether that's trying something new.

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That's it rather than Rather, you know try something

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whether trying something new Setting a healthier

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boundary or allowing yourself to enjoy Because

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I'm yourself to experience joy without guilt

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do what's necessary for you because yes We are

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and this healing is a gift stage, you know, but

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it's not making us who we are It's it's a stage

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and it's chapter of our life, but you have to

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also identify if I want to get out of this Excuse

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me, hell -hole, what do I have to do for myself

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for me to be healed, to be whole as a person,

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to have those feelings of frustrations out the

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window and gone for now? What do I have to do?

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How am I going to do this and why is this important

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to me? I understand that healing is a gift. What

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we've been through doesn't identify who you are.

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It does not, because we change. People change

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seasons, monthly, yearly, days. We change. Certain

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stuff is not going to stay the same. Healing

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is not a part of your personality. Healing is

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one of the things that's going to help you when

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we're in this theme of March right now, becoming

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you, the next level you. And I want you guys

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to understand that you are in control of this.

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You're in control of becoming who you want to

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be in this next level of your life. Going back

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to February's Thing when we said, you know, we're

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leveling up and not losing ourselves now in the

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process, you know I'm not losing myself no more

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but now I have to embrace this becoming me era

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and Understand that this next level of me leveling

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up is ten times More important than me having

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to deal with me being a survival mode. I'm scribing

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now I don't want to stay a survival mode because

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healing is not a part of my personality. Is that

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a character trick for me? Okay, it's not don't

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make that. Oh, this is what it is. No That's

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why you have to be cautious of what you say and

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how you say things. I know sometimes it's like,

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dang, but it's okay. You learn something new

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every day. Education doesn't stop. Learning doesn't

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stop. Even if you're in a classroom or not, education

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is flowing all around. Knowledge is being flowed.

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You just have to absorb it like a sponge, especially

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with you learning what you can take, what you

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cannot take. Red flags, good fear, green flags,

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pros and cons, x, all that. In this stage of

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you becoming you, the next level you with understanding

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that healing is a gift and is not a part of your

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personality, you're gonna understand more who

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you are and what's for you and what's not for

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you, my friend. Take it one day at a time and

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surround yourself by people that is on the same

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path as you or been there and they're willing

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to help you, a mentor of role model things of

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that nature. It's okay to get help from others,

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trust me. I'm here for it and I'm learning every

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day about myself, what I can take, what I cannot

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take. One day and one step at a time and no monkey

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is going to stop my show. I'm in control of everything

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that goes around here. I'm going to show you

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how to do this and I'm going to pop out when

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I want to. I'm taking control and I'm being selfish

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of what matters to me and you need to do the

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same my friend because Handling is not part of

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your personality is a part of the journey And

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yeah, you know, what's for you what's not you're

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gonna get there because we are in the process

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of Becoming you we're becoming us. We want to

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see we're in the next level of leveling up Okay

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So Okay, I want you guys to do that, you know

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try to see Are you in the healing stage or I'm

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staying attached to things that hurt me? Do you

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wanna, it's like you know we say you know that

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hurt me but I'm trying to heal but if you keep

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talking about what hurt you you're never getting

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yourself time to heal because you keep talking

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about it. Let them things let them people go

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slowly but steady but don't wait until it's too

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late to do that. Okay? Because growth happens

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when you allow yourself to become more than your

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past. You, like I said, you are in control of

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what you can take what you cannot take. You are

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in control of how you want your healing stage

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to be. You want to stay in survival mode, or

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do you want to strive? We are in survival mode.

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We've been there, done that. We want to strive

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for success. We don't want to be stagnant no

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more. We are in control. Growth happens when

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we take control of it, when we let those things

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in the past go. You know, we hold on to them.

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Thank you. Love on them. Kiss it. Thank you.

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But we're not going to keep on holding on to

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it for so long, because if you do, it's going

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to... Effect us for being in the next chapter

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of our life bad times unless forever and there's

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no there is a rainbow Because good, you know

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your things are happening, but you have to take

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it one day and one step at a time Okay So now

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y 'all vibing out with guests vibing out with

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guests remains. You know a space where Real conversations

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Book your sessions today. I cannot wait to see

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You know, life be life and it is okay if you

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have to take a mental break and stuff. Take it

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from me. Things happen, you know. You gotta step

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back sometimes when things are not in your control.

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But as right now, I'm saying this here loud and

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proud that on Friday, March 27th... 2025 3 30

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as well as the calendar to book the date of when

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you can come We still have in person and we still

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are doing zoom I haven't done a zoom session

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yet, but i'm hoping someone will say yeah i'm

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gonna do zoom You know for the fun of it and

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we're gonna do it like brutus. Okay? So yes,

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y 'all I cannot wait to see you I cannot wait

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for you guys to come back in here guess as always

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I thank you also very much for the guest that

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has been on there to the featured guest And things

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of that nature, I appreciate you all so much.

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But nevertheless, I appreciate all you guys who

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listen to vibing with Eve, vibing out with Guess.

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If you're new here, thank you so much. Welcome,

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welcome, welcome. The OGs, you're not new to

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this, you're true to this. I thank you all so

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very much. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I

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really, really do. Without you guys, I don't

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know how this will go. The more and more y 'all

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help me, the more and more it helps me to be

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consistent within the discipline of making sure

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that I'm doing what's necessary. Okay, so the

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quote of the week is healing is a part of your

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story not your entire entire identity Healing

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is a part of your story. Not a is not your entire

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identity Okay, stay connected follow me or will

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follow us or filing out with vibing dot with

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you're choosing growth beyond healing this week,

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okay? So now let's get into the nitty -gritty

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part. So vibing with E, weekly check where meaningful

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conversations meets growth in real life connections.

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So guys, we have reached 147 episodes, and today's

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vibe of the day is healing isn't your personality.

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I know y 'all see it because of the title, but

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you know, still gotta read it out there, you

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know? Healing is not a part of your personality,

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my friend. This week's episode explores the difference

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between honoring your healing journey and allowing

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it to define who you are forever. Healing is

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important but is not meant to be a permanent

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identity. In this week, well in this week, in

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this episode y 'all, we will cover the difference

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between healing and staying in survival mode,

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why do some people become attached to their pain

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story, moving from processing trauma to building

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your future, allowing yourself to experience

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joy without guilt, and how growth shifts from

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reflection to international lives. Okay? So this

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episode is your reminder that you are allowed

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to grow beyond what hurts you. You are allowed

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to grow from what have hurt you or who have hurted

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you in the past. You are entitled to grow, to

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flow like a butterfly, to get out of that locked

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up cage. You have the key to take control. Take

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your foot off the brake and put on the gas and

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take off. Okay? This episode, I'm glad you guys

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are attentive for this episode because this is

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a powerful conversation about evolving past survival

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mode and stepping fully into your next level.

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Okay? So, without further ado guys, let's get

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into it. Hold on y 'all, I'm really supposed

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to be wearing my glasses right now, but... Hey,

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you know things happen, you know things just

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happen out the blue, you know, sometimes we we

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forget we tend to forget I know I forget but

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I'm there I'm looking at them right here y 'all

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like I can see it right here on my thing and

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I'm like I should have put them on but I'm okay

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now cuz everything is in front of my face so

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we we cool we you know, but Yes, y 'all without

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further ado Excuse me, if you're new here again,

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welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome. And for the

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OGs that's not new to this, but true to this,

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y 'all already know what's going on. Okay, guys,

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once again, I want you guys to... Well, I didn't

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mean to tell y 'all, but... Okay y 'all, so what

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I want y 'all to do is I want you guys to sit

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back, relax, and enjoy hearing my voice or seeing

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my face whether you're on the go or on the moving

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around, whatever the case may be. I just want

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you guys to sit back, relax, and enjoy hearing

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my voice or seeing my pretty face. Turn me up

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on your speakers, your uh, PCs, car radios, beats,

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pills, alexas, google dots, cvs, phones, wherever

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you're listening or watching me. From okay because

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as always every vibe of the day is something

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special Okay, so now let's get into it. I'm gonna

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repeat it again. We have reached 147 episodes

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and today's vibe of the day is based on Healing

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isn't your personality Okay, if you're new here,

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I break down every vibe of the day within the

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definition the five W's The quote of the day,

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the quote of the week slash the day again and

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then help y 'all understand what it is You know

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get a little bit of understand of what it is

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as well as to a thank you for tapping in Well,

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thank you for vibing in the new notes and then

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we go on with today Okay, so let's get into it.

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I'm repeated again today's vibe of the day is

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Healing isn't your personality and I already

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gave y 'all a little bit sermon in the beginning

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when I was breaking down to you guys You know

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the news that But now you understand a little

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bit more until we get into the nitty -gritty

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of why healing isn't a part of your personality.

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Why is healing isn't part of my personality?

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Why is not a part of your personality? Tell a

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friend to tell a friend. Healing is not a part

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of your personality, my friend. It's not a part

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of it. It's not a part of your personality. It's

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a part of the journey. Yeah, so it's not a part

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of your personality. It's not like, oh, my name

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is such and such. I can't go around saying my

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name is E. I'm healing. That's not a character

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trait. You know, like, I'm caring, stuff like

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that. That's a character trait. The personality

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trait. Healing isn't a personality trait. It's

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a part of the growth of where you want to be.

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Healing journey, no healing is a gift. But it's

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not your personality. It doesn't make you a whole.

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It doesn't make you who you are. Okay? So let's

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get into it. What does healing, what does healing

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isn't your personality really mean? I gave y

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'all a little snippet, but let me read to y 'all

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what I have, exactly. Healing isn't your personality,

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meaning realizing that while healing is an important

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part of growth, it should not become the only

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way you define yourself. Like I said, healing

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is not, healing is not a personal character trait.

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It's not, it's not. It's a part of the growth,

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you know, we're in a healing stage and things

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like that, but it's not a character trait. Healing

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helps us process pain, understand our experience,

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and develop emotional awareness. However, when

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healing becomes an identity, People may remain

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focused on past wounds instead of moving forward

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into growth purpose and fulfillment Healing is

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meant to help you understand what happened Not

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to keep you permanently tied to it like stagnant

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tied to what had happened in the past or whatever

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True healing allows you to acknowledge your experiences

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while still creating space for joy growth and

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new possibilities so with this being said y 'all

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basically what i told y 'all in the beginning

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and before then a nice little sermon i gave y

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'all you know had to give y 'all the what what

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why that healing isn't your personality but healing

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is helping us to grow and in order for us to

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let healing be able to do the job we have to

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understand that what had happened to us it happened

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but we cannot keep that stagnant mentality going

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because if so we will never give ourselves the

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time to be able to have the freedom in the space

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to create joy growth and most importantly try

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to be able to have new possibilities in things

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in our life healing is healing isn't part of

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your personality is it's important within our

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healing journey but it's not it doesn't identify

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who we are like I said I can't walk around and

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say I can't walk around and say hi I'm Eve I'm

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healing What's my ex was your personal character

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trait of yourself? You can't say healing they're

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gonna be like, what does that mean? You can say

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yes, I'm in my healing stage. I'm in this healing

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era of my life But think about it. How is how

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are you? How that a personal character trait

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for you? We can heal but so much people, you

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know, we can heal some people But sometimes we

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can't healing is different from healers if I'm

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not mistaken y 'all If I'm not, I have to double

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back on it. But nevertheless, you cannot walk

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around saying, my name is such -such, I'm a healer.

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It's impossible. And we have to understand that

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when healing becomes a part of our identity,

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if we make that a part of our identity, people

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are going to remain on those issues that hurted

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them in the past, instead of seeing the finer

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things in life. Like, trust me, we all been through

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some ish I tell you not healing is a gift healing

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is a gift if you accept that gift and I'm keep

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saying that because we get things or we hear

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these things so sometimes we don't take them

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for what they are healing is a gift take advantage

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of that gift but don't have it where is though

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is a part of your personality where you know

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you know I'm healing why are you still healing

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because of a situation or a personal thing or

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something that you did is still haunting you

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Bad times don't last forever my friend they don't

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but they help us to get to the good times in

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our life They prepare us and shape us for these

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things that we have been waiting to see happen

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But if we don't give ourselves the proper Healing

00:26:34.660 --> 00:26:37.440
we're gonna stay stagnant and that bad time will

00:26:37.440 --> 00:26:39.799
keep repeating all those negative thoughts. Everything's

00:26:39.799 --> 00:26:42.839
gonna repeat So with that being said healing

00:26:42.839 --> 00:26:47.160
isn't a part of your personality Because while

00:26:47.160 --> 00:26:50.500
you're in this healing stage, you should not

00:26:50.500 --> 00:26:52.700
be it shouldn't be the only way you define yourself

00:26:52.700 --> 00:26:55.160
You can't it's impossible to define yourself

00:26:55.160 --> 00:26:57.099
because healing is going to help you process

00:26:57.099 --> 00:27:01.160
all these pain and understanding of Your experience

00:27:01.160 --> 00:27:04.380
and to develop a new type of space and his space

00:27:04.380 --> 00:27:06.880
and emotional awareness for yourself Rather than

00:27:06.880 --> 00:27:09.460
keep saying, you know, I'm healing and I'm a

00:27:09.460 --> 00:27:12.059
healer, you know If you keep saying that you're

00:27:12.059 --> 00:27:14.660
not putting in the work to heal them bad wounds

00:27:14.660 --> 00:27:17.359
and past wounds, whatever, you're not moving

00:27:17.359 --> 00:27:18.900
forward so you can see growth for the purpose

00:27:18.900 --> 00:27:23.140
for yourself and fulfillment. So also have the

00:27:23.140 --> 00:27:27.000
space of joy come to you. You know, see joy in

00:27:27.000 --> 00:27:28.480
the morning. You're not going to let that happen

00:27:28.480 --> 00:27:30.700
if you keep having that there. No growth is going

00:27:30.700 --> 00:27:34.500
to happen as well as no new positivity or new

00:27:34.500 --> 00:27:37.660
new new momentals are going to happen. So Yes.

00:27:38.059 --> 00:27:39.880
Take it one day at a time, my friend, and understand

00:27:39.880 --> 00:27:42.539
that healing isn't your personality. It's a part

00:27:42.539 --> 00:27:46.460
of your journey. So who is impacted? Who needs

00:27:46.460 --> 00:27:48.099
to hear this message? First and foremost, if

00:27:48.099 --> 00:27:50.440
you're someone that's in the healing stage and

00:27:50.440 --> 00:27:52.460
is still in survival mode and scared, this is

00:27:52.460 --> 00:27:55.660
for you. This is for anybody, regardless of what

00:27:55.660 --> 00:27:58.119
titles you hold. Anyone that's in this process

00:27:58.119 --> 00:28:02.859
of wanting to heal, needing to heal. and things

00:28:02.859 --> 00:28:05.000
of that nature and need to understanding the

00:28:05.000 --> 00:28:08.740
purpose of why healing isn't a part of your personality,

00:28:09.220 --> 00:28:12.480
this is for you. This message is for individuals

00:28:12.480 --> 00:28:14.740
who has been actively working on their self,

00:28:15.099 --> 00:28:18.099
processing past experiences and focusing on emotional

00:28:18.099 --> 00:28:19.740
growth. Like I said, if you're in the process

00:28:19.740 --> 00:28:22.619
of wanting to heal, this is for you and understanding

00:28:22.619 --> 00:28:24.799
why it's important for you to heal from these

00:28:24.799 --> 00:28:27.809
situations. It is especially impacted for people

00:28:27.809 --> 00:28:30.529
who have spent a lot of time reflecting on trauma

00:28:30.529 --> 00:28:33.450
relationships or difficulty life experiences

00:28:33.450 --> 00:28:36.150
but may feel stuck in a cycle of consistently

00:28:36.150 --> 00:28:39.670
revisiting the same pain. It also speaks to those

00:28:39.670 --> 00:28:42.130
who feel defined by what they have been through

00:28:42.130 --> 00:28:45.549
instead of who you are becoming. Anyone who wants

00:28:45.549 --> 00:28:47.910
to move from survival mode into thriving can

00:28:47.910 --> 00:28:51.220
benefit from this. Lovely vibe of the day. So

00:28:51.220 --> 00:28:53.480
basically like I just said y 'all we're in this

00:28:53.480 --> 00:28:55.660
space even I'm on this journey with y 'all because

00:28:55.660 --> 00:28:59.680
I'm still having to Understand that things that

00:28:59.680 --> 00:29:01.740
happen six seven eight nine years ago. It's not

00:29:01.740 --> 00:29:04.460
going to impact how it is for you now, for example

00:29:04.460 --> 00:29:08.720
I'm about to graduate again third time third

00:29:08.720 --> 00:29:14.400
times in a row And I sometimes I might be this

00:29:14.400 --> 00:29:17.049
person it may not just be me Patterns, I see

00:29:17.049 --> 00:29:20.390
some patterns. When I first graduated my associate's

00:29:20.390 --> 00:29:25.009
degree, I seen a pattern. I was like, F it, I'm

00:29:25.009 --> 00:29:29.009
ready to get out. My bachelor's, I didn't rush

00:29:29.009 --> 00:29:30.769
it. I enjoyed the moment, even though it got

00:29:30.769 --> 00:29:33.589
a little rough with me having to do my paper

00:29:33.589 --> 00:29:36.269
and stuff like that. I still found joy within

00:29:36.269 --> 00:29:43.240
the moment. This MSW degree hooo child. In the

00:29:43.240 --> 00:29:45.500
beginning I was scared as hell. I'm not gonna

00:29:45.500 --> 00:29:47.559
lie, I was scared as hell because I took the

00:29:47.559 --> 00:29:50.619
accelerator program. I'm like, okay, I know my

00:29:50.619 --> 00:29:53.839
stuff. Why not just put it on the flow, okay?

00:29:54.059 --> 00:29:57.400
You can know your stuff and still be feeling

00:29:57.400 --> 00:30:01.220
like bricks is about to come out of you. But

00:30:01.220 --> 00:30:03.140
the pattern I've seen y 'all is that I was like,

00:30:03.259 --> 00:30:05.960
oh my gosh my first Now get my third degree.

00:30:05.960 --> 00:30:09.980
I feel like I'm having the same Trauma story

00:30:09.980 --> 00:30:14.660
that I had while getting this one And right now

00:30:14.660 --> 00:30:16.640
I'm gonna tell y 'all I'm not having that happening.

00:30:16.960 --> 00:30:19.559
Nope. I gotta let that go I gotta let that go.

00:30:19.619 --> 00:30:22.359
I gotta let that go. I'm in the process of healing.

00:30:22.420 --> 00:30:26.680
I'm stepping into understanding that during that

00:30:26.680 --> 00:30:31.009
time I was still In my teen years, I was grown,

00:30:31.509 --> 00:30:34.529
but I ain't even hit 20 yet. I ain't even graduated

00:30:34.529 --> 00:30:38.029
my first degree, y 'all, at 20. I ain't gonna

00:30:38.029 --> 00:30:42.789
lie. I did it. I did it. That's probably why,

00:30:42.789 --> 00:30:45.170
too, I was like, okay, still frustrated. I'm

00:30:45.170 --> 00:30:48.210
still young, you know, I'm working a job. I was

00:30:48.210 --> 00:30:50.190
working a job, y 'all, that really didn't help

00:30:50.190 --> 00:30:55.470
me in the sense of really motivation, but I was

00:30:55.470 --> 00:30:58.150
committed to it because I needed the money, had

00:30:58.150 --> 00:31:01.230
bills to pay from school and things like that.

00:31:01.250 --> 00:31:03.329
It helped me, even though the job, I didn't like

00:31:03.329 --> 00:31:06.829
it. It was, it wasn't for me, but I still learned

00:31:06.829 --> 00:31:10.569
something out of it. And then versus now, you

00:31:10.569 --> 00:31:12.670
know, it's a different ball game, different time

00:31:12.670 --> 00:31:15.589
zone, and my mindset is different. However, you

00:31:15.589 --> 00:31:17.609
could be in a healing journey, and sometimes

00:31:17.609 --> 00:31:20.569
you have to go back to or start over a new healing

00:31:20.569 --> 00:31:26.460
journey. It took me a minute to really heal properly

00:31:26.460 --> 00:31:28.640
because in order for me to heal properly I had

00:31:28.640 --> 00:31:32.119
to get myself out of those spaces and clear my

00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:34.400
mind but also too sometimes the healing journey

00:31:34.400 --> 00:31:38.700
you have to be away I had to be selfish and to

00:31:38.700 --> 00:31:41.119
take control of things that I need to take control

00:31:41.119 --> 00:31:45.480
of and I needed to pop out when I knew when it

00:31:45.480 --> 00:31:49.099
was necessary and let people know because when

00:31:49.099 --> 00:31:52.819
you're at a point in your life to where things

00:31:52.819 --> 00:31:57.500
change people change You're healing for the better,

00:31:57.720 --> 00:31:59.839
and I'm understanding it's not a part of my personality,

00:32:00.119 --> 00:32:04.539
but I'm also understanding that I'm Actively

00:32:04.539 --> 00:32:06.720
working on myself each and every day and yes

00:32:06.720 --> 00:32:08.680
bears are gonna happen trust me y 'all I'm on

00:32:08.680 --> 00:32:10.279
spring break and already got some days where

00:32:10.279 --> 00:32:15.799
I'm just like Fuck it Like what what like what

00:32:15.799 --> 00:32:20.779
is going on, but I can't Double back on the past

00:32:20.779 --> 00:32:23.720
can't do that Let that you know I put that to

00:32:23.720 --> 00:32:26.460
rest because I'm focusing on my emotional growth

00:32:26.460 --> 00:32:28.880
because in the past y 'all used to wild out scream

00:32:28.880 --> 00:32:31.859
kick holla when things just wasn't there But

00:32:31.859 --> 00:32:34.119
now you know of course I'm gonna complain about

00:32:34.119 --> 00:32:36.859
it first and then I'm gonna get myself together

00:32:36.859 --> 00:32:40.579
and journaling and video diary and stuff like

00:32:40.579 --> 00:32:42.799
that are the best things that ever was invented

00:32:42.799 --> 00:32:48.160
impacting counseling therapy It helps me to calm

00:32:48.160 --> 00:32:51.619
down and look back and be like okay I'm growing.

00:32:52.019 --> 00:32:55.319
I'm healing. It's helping me. And so for you,

00:32:55.460 --> 00:32:57.180
my friend, whatever you're doing, going to the

00:32:57.180 --> 00:33:01.240
gym, writing, poetry, whatever, looking back

00:33:01.240 --> 00:33:02.700
at it and seeing the difference how you were

00:33:02.700 --> 00:33:05.500
this year versus years ago, you're healing. You're

00:33:05.500 --> 00:33:07.039
in your healing stage. You're changing for the

00:33:07.039 --> 00:33:08.779
better. You're not letting nothing or no one

00:33:08.779 --> 00:33:10.960
tear down what you have going on. Because when

00:33:10.960 --> 00:33:15.440
you build something from the ground up, nothing

00:33:15.440 --> 00:33:17.680
or no one can tear it down. nothing that no one

00:33:17.680 --> 00:33:19.640
can say right now and that's why it's important

00:33:19.640 --> 00:33:21.700
for you guys to understand that who needs this

00:33:21.700 --> 00:33:23.920
message the most is anyone who is working on

00:33:23.920 --> 00:33:27.859
themselves in process and progressing to be healing

00:33:27.859 --> 00:33:30.220
in the proper way to get out of that stagnant

00:33:30.220 --> 00:33:33.740
mode of survival mode anyone who wants to move

00:33:33.740 --> 00:33:36.400
forward from survival and to move into thriving

00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:38.660
this is going to benefit you so much my friend

00:33:38.660 --> 00:33:41.799
because when we focus on those cycles that gave

00:33:41.799 --> 00:33:44.609
us hell such as that relationship within a family

00:33:44.609 --> 00:33:47.930
member or spouse or friend that really gave us

00:33:47.930 --> 00:33:50.029
hell and tormented us in ways that we thought

00:33:50.029 --> 00:33:53.369
couldn't happen again. And it really took a toll

00:33:53.369 --> 00:33:55.710
on us that we couldn't trust no one again, or

00:33:55.710 --> 00:33:57.549
we couldn't look at people and stuff like that

00:33:57.549 --> 00:33:59.109
again. Trust me, I've been there, done that.

00:34:00.410 --> 00:34:02.089
But one thing I learned too, while in the healing

00:34:02.089 --> 00:34:03.869
stage, people will come in the healing stage

00:34:03.869 --> 00:34:07.410
that you didn't expect to come. And a real big

00:34:07.410 --> 00:34:10.340
one too. Even sometimes the people that we think

00:34:10.340 --> 00:34:13.539
are here for a season may turn into our reasons

00:34:13.539 --> 00:34:15.500
and sometimes our reasonable people turn into

00:34:15.500 --> 00:34:18.639
seasons. You never know. Or a complete stranger

00:34:18.639 --> 00:34:22.000
you never know. You just hit it off with. It's

00:34:22.000 --> 00:34:23.760
helping you. And part of your healing journey

00:34:23.760 --> 00:34:26.820
is like someone that's really there for you.

00:34:28.460 --> 00:34:32.619
And I haven't met fully my people yet, but I

00:34:32.619 --> 00:34:34.900
see who's for me and I see what's for me. It

00:34:34.900 --> 00:34:37.820
was not for me. As well as for yourself you learn

00:34:37.820 --> 00:34:40.320
about yourself every day Sometimes like I say

00:34:40.320 --> 00:34:43.440
we are our biggest critics sometimes When we

00:34:43.440 --> 00:34:45.500
don't give ourselves the time to relax because

00:34:45.500 --> 00:34:46.840
sometimes we give ourselves a headache trust

00:34:46.840 --> 00:34:49.260
me I gave myself I know I gave myself a hell

00:34:49.260 --> 00:34:51.139
of a headache yesterday when I was mad about

00:34:51.139 --> 00:34:53.460
the news that I had got But it was like I still

00:34:53.460 --> 00:34:55.239
was able to get what I wanted, but I couldn't

00:34:55.239 --> 00:34:57.599
get what I wanted right in there But it's like

00:34:57.599 --> 00:35:00.159
you know what I'm healing because back then Erica

00:35:00.159 --> 00:35:05.320
who got her first degree at the young age and

00:35:05.320 --> 00:35:07.880
didn't see what she wanted she had a fit but

00:35:07.880 --> 00:35:10.239
now i'm in this process you know is in this process

00:35:10.239 --> 00:35:11.900
you know seeking herself together and learning

00:35:11.900 --> 00:35:13.780
what's for her what's not for her and taking

00:35:13.780 --> 00:35:17.239
it one day at a time and relying on excuse me

00:35:17.239 --> 00:35:21.420
the resources that's helping her to succeed okay

00:35:21.420 --> 00:35:24.960
so anyone that is going through this process

00:35:24.960 --> 00:35:28.039
of healing preparing to heal and things like

00:35:28.039 --> 00:35:31.699
that i want you to know that get rid of that

00:35:31.699 --> 00:35:34.989
cycle of wanting to revisit the same pain over

00:35:34.989 --> 00:35:37.929
and over again putting yourself in the position

00:35:37.929 --> 00:35:42.469
or predicament that's hurting you let it go wear

00:35:42.469 --> 00:35:45.429
healing i want you to see better days you deserve

00:35:45.429 --> 00:35:48.329
to be happy you deserve to walk around with a

00:35:48.329 --> 00:35:49.989
smile on your face whether if a person will look

00:35:49.989 --> 00:35:51.469
at you have you crazy like this girl walking

00:35:51.469 --> 00:35:53.750
around like she wants sunshine this man like

00:35:53.750 --> 00:35:56.429
these people they who cares because you're in

00:35:56.429 --> 00:35:58.289
your healing journey and you understand that

00:35:58.289 --> 00:36:02.300
healing isn't your personality It isn't. All

00:36:02.300 --> 00:36:03.920
that stuff that happened in your life, that doesn't

00:36:03.920 --> 00:36:06.579
make you who you are. It was a part of the journey,

00:36:06.659 --> 00:36:09.019
but that didn't develop like, oh, you're such

00:36:09.019 --> 00:36:11.360
a depressing person. You're such a bitter, no.

00:36:11.599 --> 00:36:14.719
At that time in my life, in that season, that

00:36:14.719 --> 00:36:17.800
chapter, whatever my life I was, but now I'm

00:36:17.800 --> 00:36:21.000
in the season where I'm becoming me, led to the

00:36:21.000 --> 00:36:25.769
next level for me. I'm healing, I'm progressing,

00:36:26.170 --> 00:36:28.650
I'm processing everything, and I'm not going

00:36:28.650 --> 00:36:31.150
back in time to rely on those memories that had

00:36:31.150 --> 00:36:34.010
me so messed up, that had me wanting to destroy

00:36:34.010 --> 00:36:36.050
some things and people feel like Wreck -It Ralph.

00:36:36.250 --> 00:36:39.449
No, because I'm in this stage where I don't want

00:36:39.449 --> 00:36:41.769
to be in survival mode no more. I want to thrive

00:36:41.769 --> 00:36:45.139
and come benefit. from what i'm seeing in my

00:36:45.139 --> 00:36:47.760
healing journey what is meant for me will not

00:36:47.760 --> 00:36:50.340
be meant for you and vice versa what's meant

00:36:50.340 --> 00:36:52.500
for you my friend is not going to be meant for

00:36:52.500 --> 00:36:55.860
me and for others we have to do is for us because

00:36:55.860 --> 00:36:59.940
this for example a family could go through the

00:36:59.940 --> 00:37:04.119
same trauma but our reactions and feelings are

00:37:04.119 --> 00:37:08.139
not going to be the same when years to come some

00:37:08.139 --> 00:37:09.800
will be like you know what i healed from and

00:37:09.800 --> 00:37:12.980
i'm going to forget it But I forgive what had

00:37:12.980 --> 00:37:16.019
happened if someone like oh hell no, I don't

00:37:16.019 --> 00:37:18.699
forgive or forgets Well, you know, you know,

00:37:18.960 --> 00:37:22.360
I'm I forget but I ain't gonna forgive or I forget

00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:25.460
but I don't forgive I forgive but I ain't gonna

00:37:25.460 --> 00:37:29.380
forget it. I forgive And I forget it, you know,

00:37:29.380 --> 00:37:31.940
it is what it is So right now I have to understand

00:37:31.940 --> 00:37:35.119
a healing is a gift It's a part of the journey

00:37:35.119 --> 00:37:38.400
of you becoming who you are, but it's not your

00:37:38.400 --> 00:37:42.909
personality Is that a personal trait? At all.

00:37:44.090 --> 00:37:51.389
Okay? Now, what is the benefit? What happens

00:37:51.389 --> 00:37:58.769
when healing stops becoming your identity? Well,

00:37:59.170 --> 00:38:01.889
when healing stops becoming your identity, you

00:38:01.889 --> 00:38:06.210
create spaces to fulfill your life again. When

00:38:06.210 --> 00:38:08.150
you stop having this thing of where you know,

00:38:08.150 --> 00:38:10.769
I'm in my healing stage. This is me This is the

00:38:10.769 --> 00:38:13.130
part of my personality, huh? You got me you got

00:38:13.130 --> 00:38:15.670
a hold of me. Now. This is the me personally

00:38:15.670 --> 00:38:18.730
It's my personal trait, you know I'm gonna purse,

00:38:18.750 --> 00:38:21.570
you know, I'm in this day to be I'm healing Take

00:38:21.570 --> 00:38:23.630
it or leave it. Take me as I am a favorite song

00:38:23.630 --> 00:38:27.409
by Mary J. Blige take me as I am When healing

00:38:27.409 --> 00:38:29.510
stops becoming your identity my friend. I want

00:38:29.510 --> 00:38:33.550
you to create a space that fully your life again

00:38:34.260 --> 00:38:37.199
Create this new beginning for yourself all that

00:38:37.199 --> 00:38:42.239
down -and -out depressing blue over Simulating

00:38:42.239 --> 00:38:45.559
and it's so annoying mindset. I want you to let

00:38:45.559 --> 00:38:51.619
all that shit go today. I Want you to walk out

00:38:51.619 --> 00:38:55.539
of that time in your life to help you understand

00:38:55.539 --> 00:39:00.079
that Time doesn't wait for no one Every day is

00:39:00.079 --> 00:39:02.000
a new day. Like I said, we're the third week

00:39:02.000 --> 00:39:08.699
of March January was two months ago. The first

00:39:08.699 --> 00:39:12.679
quarter of the year is over. April 1st is the

00:39:12.679 --> 00:39:15.880
second quarter of the year. April, May, June.

00:39:17.179 --> 00:39:19.840
July, August, September is third quarter. October,

00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:23.280
November, December is fourth quarter. We're changing

00:39:23.280 --> 00:39:26.280
every day. Things are changing. And we gotta

00:39:26.280 --> 00:39:29.019
see what's for us and what's not for us. as well

00:39:29.019 --> 00:39:32.579
as who's for us but mainly what is for us what

00:39:32.579 --> 00:39:35.260
is for me i'm in this stage where i'm becoming

00:39:35.260 --> 00:39:39.920
me i'm at a new level for me but in order for

00:39:39.920 --> 00:39:45.380
me to do that i have to stop having healing a

00:39:45.380 --> 00:39:51.599
part of my identity i have to have it as a i

00:39:51.599 --> 00:39:55.880
want to have it as a tool that helped me to get

00:39:55.880 --> 00:40:02.340
to understand my new normal of the tool that

00:40:02.340 --> 00:40:06.219
helped me guide me to feel whole again a tool

00:40:06.219 --> 00:40:10.900
that really helped me understand that I am somebody

00:40:10.900 --> 00:40:17.000
and I am able to move on my trauma doesn't define

00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:19.539
what I've been through It's not a part of my

00:40:19.539 --> 00:40:21.699
personality. Yes. I've been through it hell We

00:40:21.699 --> 00:40:24.059
all been through some things My trauma might

00:40:24.059 --> 00:40:26.079
have been ten times worse than yours or vice

00:40:26.079 --> 00:40:28.139
versa your trauma might have been ten times worse

00:40:28.139 --> 00:40:30.780
than mine Whatever the case may be But we have

00:40:30.780 --> 00:40:33.360
to let that go because the more more we keep

00:40:33.360 --> 00:40:35.400
that burden on us the more more it's hard for

00:40:35.400 --> 00:40:41.840
us to even Be surrounded in things that are beautiful

00:40:41.840 --> 00:40:48.139
again to even accept nice things Not even items

00:40:48.139 --> 00:40:51.900
just calm it's just being able to be in bliss

00:40:51.900 --> 00:40:54.760
of the beautiful things in life Because if we

00:40:54.760 --> 00:40:58.260
keep that same old sad song playing We won't

00:40:58.260 --> 00:41:00.719
be able to hear the good song that won't skip

00:41:00.719 --> 00:41:05.519
and mess up the record player So when you begin

00:41:05.519 --> 00:41:08.619
focusing on building new experiences rather than

00:41:08.619 --> 00:41:11.760
consistently reviewing old ones emotional growth

00:41:11.760 --> 00:41:15.099
becomes balanced with full with with forward

00:41:15.099 --> 00:41:19.760
movements Emotional growth becomes balanced with

00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:24.059
forward movement. When we let go of those things

00:41:24.059 --> 00:41:27.199
that hurted us and haunted us in the past, we

00:41:27.199 --> 00:41:29.460
are now in the process of understanding that

00:41:29.460 --> 00:41:32.280
our emotional growth is becoming balanced and

00:41:32.280 --> 00:41:35.719
we're moving forward with having these moments

00:41:35.719 --> 00:41:38.579
of feeling alive again, feeling whole, smelling

00:41:38.579 --> 00:41:41.500
the fresh roses, the flowers, smelling fresh

00:41:41.500 --> 00:41:44.659
air, you know. Smelling the beautiful things

00:41:44.659 --> 00:41:47.239
in life and not the nasty smoky smoke in the

00:41:47.239 --> 00:41:50.099
air all that black smoke is gone. You can see

00:41:50.099 --> 00:41:55.059
clearly now The rain is gone all that you can

00:41:55.059 --> 00:41:59.420
see now I can see I can smell it that could feel

00:41:59.420 --> 00:42:04.820
it. I'm at a peace. I'm in home Okay Because

00:42:04.820 --> 00:42:09.139
instead of feeling Defined by pain you begin

00:42:09.139 --> 00:42:13.539
defining yourself through purpose relationships,

00:42:13.840 --> 00:42:16.719
goals, and personal views. Once you get all the

00:42:16.719 --> 00:42:19.139
smokes out, the flame and stuff, all that out

00:42:19.139 --> 00:42:24.519
the way, you're in the place where, you know,

00:42:24.539 --> 00:42:28.119
I'm done feeling down and out. I'm done feeling

00:42:28.119 --> 00:42:32.219
hopeless. Once I define myself through my purpose

00:42:32.219 --> 00:42:34.880
of knowing who I am, what I stand for, what I

00:42:34.880 --> 00:42:40.099
believe in, I'm pulled into or attached. like

00:42:40.099 --> 00:42:42.219
metal, to relationships within family members,

00:42:42.300 --> 00:42:46.860
friends, or companionship that is meant for me.

00:42:47.260 --> 00:42:51.460
I'm reaching goals that is meant for me. Creating

00:42:51.460 --> 00:42:54.760
goals, the discipline. And most importantly,

00:42:54.860 --> 00:42:58.800
my personal values are whole again. I'm creating

00:42:58.800 --> 00:43:02.619
it. I'm the captain of the ship. I'm the coach

00:43:02.619 --> 00:43:05.119
of the game. I'm in control of what's for me.

00:43:05.340 --> 00:43:08.809
I'm the creator. And everyone is watching because

00:43:08.809 --> 00:43:11.949
I took my time you took your time. We took the

00:43:11.949 --> 00:43:15.030
time out to pop out We wanted to be selfish when

00:43:15.030 --> 00:43:20.190
it's needed Mm -hmm, but most importantly we

00:43:20.190 --> 00:43:23.070
took control over this and understanding that

00:43:23.070 --> 00:43:25.769
what is the benefit of understanding healing

00:43:25.769 --> 00:43:30.610
isn't a Personal trait isn't our personality

00:43:31.880 --> 00:43:34.719
What happens when we stop identifying healing

00:43:34.719 --> 00:43:38.460
as our personality we understand that we're Whole

00:43:38.460 --> 00:43:41.340
again all the smoke and mirrors are gone. We

00:43:41.340 --> 00:43:47.980
see cleared Lee Got that 2020 vision We selling

00:43:47.980 --> 00:43:51.199
rolls and things like that because when this

00:43:51.199 --> 00:43:56.099
shifts allows us To experience when this when

00:43:56.099 --> 00:44:01.900
this shift allows us people To understand what's

00:44:01.900 --> 00:44:05.980
for us. We experience this joy. We have confidence

00:44:05.980 --> 00:44:12.900
We have emotional freedom Without feeling guilty

00:44:12.900 --> 00:44:16.179
towards moving forward we don't feel guilty about

00:44:16.179 --> 00:44:17.699
it, you know I did this and I don't feel guilty

00:44:17.699 --> 00:44:19.679
about it Especially if the packing was for me

00:44:19.679 --> 00:44:21.739
and I want you to do that my friend. Whatever

00:44:21.739 --> 00:44:24.460
you do. Don't feel guilty about it All because

00:44:24.460 --> 00:44:26.340
you're in this healing stage. You're not making

00:44:26.340 --> 00:44:28.480
it a part of your person personal trait no more

00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:30.179
You're not saying how much a name is such a such

00:44:30.179 --> 00:44:33.539
I'm healing no You're showing them better than

00:44:33.539 --> 00:44:35.139
you could tell but you're mainly showing yourself

00:44:35.139 --> 00:44:37.360
that you can do it One day and one step at a

00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:40.860
time. You're healing when you're ready to heal.

00:44:41.099 --> 00:44:42.639
You're popping out when you want to. You're taking

00:44:42.639 --> 00:44:44.280
control when you want to. You're being selfish.

00:44:44.400 --> 00:44:46.539
Most importantly, you're in control of this.

00:44:46.900 --> 00:44:49.360
You're in control of how you want it to go, why

00:44:49.360 --> 00:44:51.980
it's going that way, and why do you feel it's

00:44:51.980 --> 00:44:53.760
necessary for it to go that way because this

00:44:53.760 --> 00:44:58.800
is for you. This is for you. You. Not no one

00:44:58.800 --> 00:45:01.059
else. It's people that's going to come into your

00:45:01.059 --> 00:45:02.960
life that's going to be there and support you

00:45:02.960 --> 00:45:05.510
because they see it. And there's people out there.

00:45:05.510 --> 00:45:06.889
It's gonna give you your flowers You gonna be

00:45:06.889 --> 00:45:08.690
like why the hell this person giving you my flowers

00:45:08.690 --> 00:45:09.969
if I don't even talk to them like that because

00:45:09.969 --> 00:45:12.369
they see the potential in you that you didn't

00:45:12.369 --> 00:45:15.949
see and It's vice versa even with us. We see

00:45:15.949 --> 00:45:17.349
things from people that they probably don't see

00:45:17.349 --> 00:45:21.730
in our in their selves Good judge of character

00:45:21.730 --> 00:45:25.269
And it doesn't take nothing out of a person to

00:45:25.269 --> 00:45:27.949
be nice someone it doesn't It doesn't at all

00:45:27.949 --> 00:45:29.989
say something nice. It helps you and it's good

00:45:29.989 --> 00:45:35.820
for the soul Okay Now, when should someone reflect

00:45:35.820 --> 00:45:38.360
on whether healing has become their identity?

00:45:39.340 --> 00:45:42.480
Well, let's deep dive into this one a little

00:45:42.480 --> 00:45:44.599
bit deeper so you can understand how at times

00:45:44.599 --> 00:45:47.360
people do make healing as their personality,

00:45:47.440 --> 00:45:49.739
because we're talking about why it isn't a part

00:45:49.739 --> 00:45:51.239
of your personality, the whole root of this,

00:45:51.380 --> 00:45:54.159
but understanding too why people have gone around

00:45:54.159 --> 00:45:57.139
so long saying healing is a part of their personality,

00:45:57.179 --> 00:46:01.480
and maybe for you too. So let's see. It may be

00:46:01.480 --> 00:46:06.739
helpful to reflect on when you notice yourself

00:46:06.739 --> 00:46:10.300
repeatedly revisiting the same pain without feeling

00:46:10.300 --> 00:46:14.800
progress. This right here, when someone should

00:46:14.800 --> 00:46:17.400
reflect on whether healing has become their identity,

00:46:17.760 --> 00:46:19.599
one for sure is when something had happened in

00:46:19.599 --> 00:46:22.880
your life and you keep revisiting with the same

00:46:22.880 --> 00:46:25.900
pain, you haven't healed. Trust me, for example,

00:46:26.059 --> 00:46:29.739
I can... I can most definitely say this has hit

00:46:29.739 --> 00:46:32.679
me because when it comes to certain things such

00:46:32.679 --> 00:46:34.840
as family members and stuff, I don't want to

00:46:34.840 --> 00:46:37.119
be around certain ones because that pain or situation

00:46:37.119 --> 00:46:39.440
that happened to me and them, I don't want no

00:46:39.440 --> 00:46:41.039
part to them no more. I don't want no - I don't

00:46:41.039 --> 00:46:42.659
want - I don't want nothing to do with you. What?

00:46:43.539 --> 00:46:45.920
And every time I revisit it, the same pain happens.

00:46:46.559 --> 00:46:48.199
Well, I'm gonna take that back. In the beginning

00:46:48.199 --> 00:46:49.780
of when it started, yes, when it's calming, like

00:46:49.780 --> 00:46:51.380
when it's still fresh, you're gonna have that.

00:46:51.679 --> 00:46:53.800
But now I still probably throw little jabs like,

00:46:54.079 --> 00:46:55.820
oh well, whoop whoop, but then my mind, I'm like,

00:46:55.880 --> 00:46:58.400
I - I don't care no more. I'm in the process

00:46:58.400 --> 00:47:00.019
of where I got bigger things to worry about.

00:47:00.619 --> 00:47:02.900
That's where the healing came in for me. But

00:47:02.900 --> 00:47:05.159
when someone keeps reflecting on something that

00:47:05.159 --> 00:47:08.039
happens, where they see that healing has became

00:47:08.039 --> 00:47:10.579
their identity, that's where it's like when you

00:47:10.579 --> 00:47:13.019
keep on going back to this place, but you're

00:47:13.019 --> 00:47:17.000
not in a place where, okay, you can laugh about

00:47:17.000 --> 00:47:19.119
it. You know, sometimes what they say to you,

00:47:19.119 --> 00:47:21.059
we're gonna look at this one day and laugh about

00:47:21.059 --> 00:47:23.300
it. It takes a minute for you to go back and

00:47:23.300 --> 00:47:25.159
do that. It does. It takes a while for you to

00:47:25.159 --> 00:47:27.500
do that. This is why we're talking about healing

00:47:27.500 --> 00:47:29.500
is a part of your personality. Yes in the beginning

00:47:29.500 --> 00:47:31.820
It's going to eat you up alive my friend. Yes,

00:47:31.940 --> 00:47:34.099
trust me been there done that we get to a point

00:47:34.099 --> 00:47:35.239
It's like, you know what? I don't even care no

00:47:35.239 --> 00:47:36.599
more I'm sit back and laugh at this because it

00:47:36.599 --> 00:47:38.840
didn't hurt me in the end and hurt it Yes, but

00:47:38.840 --> 00:47:40.880
it didn't affect what I got going on. It didn't

00:47:40.880 --> 00:47:42.860
stop me making money It didn't stop me forgetting

00:47:42.860 --> 00:47:45.119
this education. It didn't stop me for helping

00:47:45.119 --> 00:47:48.599
people that Need my message need my word. It

00:47:48.599 --> 00:47:52.489
didn't hurt. It kept me going That right there,

00:47:52.590 --> 00:47:55.429
when you notice yourself repeating and repeatedly

00:47:55.429 --> 00:47:58.050
revisiting a situation with the same pain without

00:47:58.050 --> 00:48:01.130
feeling the progress of seeing that I've grown

00:48:01.130 --> 00:48:03.829
from this and this person, you know, we did,

00:48:03.989 --> 00:48:06.170
she or he or they did what they did to me. It

00:48:06.170 --> 00:48:07.730
won't happen again because I won't allow it again.

00:48:07.789 --> 00:48:09.829
It takes time. But if you keep going back and

00:48:09.829 --> 00:48:11.409
you're saying you're healing, but you're not

00:48:11.409 --> 00:48:15.550
fully healed, my friend, something got to give.

00:48:15.809 --> 00:48:18.269
That's one point. Second point, conversations

00:48:18.269 --> 00:48:23.840
about growth always return to the past hurt okay

00:48:23.840 --> 00:48:26.039
we all have conversations on life sometimes you

00:48:26.039 --> 00:48:27.920
know we talk about growth sometimes we do reflect

00:48:27.920 --> 00:48:30.800
on in the past when it hurts but i want you to

00:48:30.800 --> 00:48:32.199
do this when you have a conversation you know

00:48:32.199 --> 00:48:34.840
you say yeah in the past it was it was screwed

00:48:34.840 --> 00:48:38.719
but right now i am here to say you know it happened

00:48:38.719 --> 00:48:41.659
but it didn't define who i was that person that

00:48:41.659 --> 00:48:45.380
healing isn't the isn't my personality but it

00:48:45.380 --> 00:48:47.760
helped me heal to understand that what happened

00:48:47.760 --> 00:48:50.619
then It's not going to happen to me again. So

00:48:50.619 --> 00:48:52.599
once you have a conversation about growth, you

00:48:52.599 --> 00:48:54.139
don't want to always turn to the past. You want

00:48:54.139 --> 00:48:56.960
to say, you know what? Give a little summary.

00:48:57.119 --> 00:48:59.719
Don't give the whole experience, because that's

00:48:59.719 --> 00:49:01.880
going to drain it. That's going to die down,

00:49:01.880 --> 00:49:04.320
you know? When we're in the healing stage, you

00:49:04.320 --> 00:49:06.360
don't want to keep talking about what hurted

00:49:06.360 --> 00:49:08.780
us, who hurted us, and why this hurt us. No.

00:49:09.340 --> 00:49:12.000
You want to talk about, yes, healing is a gift.

00:49:12.880 --> 00:49:15.269
Healing helped me. Because when I was if you

00:49:15.269 --> 00:49:17.610
was in that part my friend and I whatever was

00:49:17.610 --> 00:49:19.570
in that era in our life We know we had healing

00:49:19.570 --> 00:49:22.429
is a part of our proc as a part of our personality

00:49:22.429 --> 00:49:25.909
What you say now healing isn't a part of my personality

00:49:25.909 --> 00:49:30.289
It isn't healing is a gift Because it helped

00:49:30.289 --> 00:49:33.550
me grow in so many ways and it helped me flourish

00:49:33.550 --> 00:49:36.590
in so many ways and helped me with so many aspirations

00:49:36.590 --> 00:49:41.079
I'm I'm fulfilled I have growth, my emotional

00:49:41.079 --> 00:49:44.000
awareness, emotional healing, all those things.

00:49:44.679 --> 00:49:48.340
I'm great. I'm not worried about him or them

00:49:48.340 --> 00:49:50.280
no more. I'm not worried about things that used

00:49:50.280 --> 00:49:54.019
to tear me down. I'm not going back in the past,

00:49:54.079 --> 00:49:56.440
too, because I forgive. You know, I ain't going

00:49:56.440 --> 00:49:59.119
to forget it, but I forgive. That person plays

00:49:59.119 --> 00:50:01.619
a thing, even myself. I forgave myself years

00:50:01.619 --> 00:50:04.260
ago, months ago, whatever, days ago. And I want

00:50:04.260 --> 00:50:05.400
to keep hearing about it, because when you're

00:50:05.400 --> 00:50:07.280
in your growth stage and you have those memories

00:50:07.280 --> 00:50:10.059
coming back, It sometimes haunts you, like, okay,

00:50:10.059 --> 00:50:11.800
am I doing the right thing? Did I heal it right?

00:50:11.820 --> 00:50:14.320
No. Once you close that book or close that chapter

00:50:14.320 --> 00:50:15.739
in your life with that thing or that person,

00:50:16.139 --> 00:50:19.340
let it go and don't let it come back again. And

00:50:19.340 --> 00:50:21.219
if somebody tries, oop oop, you walk away. The

00:50:21.219 --> 00:50:23.159
best thing to do is take a deep breath, count

00:50:23.159 --> 00:50:25.280
to five backwards, or count to five, one, two,

00:50:25.280 --> 00:50:27.980
three, four, five, four, three, two, one, whatever,

00:50:28.099 --> 00:50:29.599
and walk away from it, because you don't need

00:50:29.599 --> 00:50:32.000
to show everybody. Everybody needs to see that

00:50:32.000 --> 00:50:34.880
ugly side, no. Because in the process of healing

00:50:34.880 --> 00:50:37.000
and growing for the better, you don't need everybody

00:50:37.369 --> 00:50:39.869
Everybody don't need your attention. Some things

00:50:39.869 --> 00:50:41.630
are just meant to be left alone. When you're

00:50:41.630 --> 00:50:44.429
in your new beginning, things that happened in

00:50:44.429 --> 00:50:46.989
the past, leave it alone. Don't let it come into

00:50:46.989 --> 00:50:49.789
your new journey because you're healing. Because

00:50:49.789 --> 00:50:51.250
those things that hurt us, why would I want to

00:50:51.250 --> 00:50:52.690
come back again? It's going to be harder for

00:50:52.690 --> 00:50:57.989
me to even let it go. So yeah. Number three,

00:50:58.130 --> 00:51:00.690
you feel afraid to move forward because it feels

00:51:00.690 --> 00:51:03.829
like you are minimizing your experiences. First

00:51:03.829 --> 00:51:05.510
and foremost, I don't want you to feel like you're

00:51:05.510 --> 00:51:08.840
minimizing nothing. you're on maximum control

00:51:08.840 --> 00:51:13.340
do not feel afraid to move forward because once

00:51:13.340 --> 00:51:15.739
you're at the bottom all you want to go is go

00:51:15.739 --> 00:51:17.800
all you want to do is go to the top and once

00:51:17.800 --> 00:51:20.179
you're back all you want to do is go forward

00:51:20.179 --> 00:51:23.920
who want to keep going back back i want to go

00:51:23.920 --> 00:51:26.360
forward i don't want to keep going back and forth

00:51:26.360 --> 00:51:28.960
i want to go forth and forth i don't want to

00:51:28.960 --> 00:51:32.300
keep going backwards and back pedaling no sometimes

00:51:32.300 --> 00:51:34.579
we may slip but that's what you put yourself

00:51:34.579 --> 00:51:36.960
to go forward keep swimming just keep swimming

00:51:36.960 --> 00:51:38.900
keep swimming keep swimming yes it's going to

00:51:38.900 --> 00:51:41.800
be hard we need to understand that you're in

00:51:41.800 --> 00:51:43.440
this healing journey you're in a space where

00:51:43.440 --> 00:51:46.579
you're obligated to control it you're the captain

00:51:46.579 --> 00:51:49.519
of this you're the coach whatever you want to

00:51:49.519 --> 00:51:52.940
identify it is you are in control of what you

00:51:52.940 --> 00:51:55.159
can take in your healing journey and what is

00:51:55.159 --> 00:51:57.400
necessary for you yes it's going to be you're

00:51:57.400 --> 00:51:59.400
going to be afraid but you have to be you have

00:51:59.400 --> 00:52:01.739
to get comfortable when you're uncomfortable

00:52:02.039 --> 00:52:04.400
You know, we all get uncomfortable, but once

00:52:04.400 --> 00:52:05.920
we get comfortable, it's like, you know, it is

00:52:05.920 --> 00:52:09.659
what it is. I'm here. This is for me. And I'm

00:52:09.659 --> 00:52:12.039
okay with that. And don't let nothing or no one

00:52:12.039 --> 00:52:14.679
try to minimize your experience. No, it's on

00:52:14.679 --> 00:52:17.960
maximum control, maximum value. You speak value

00:52:17.960 --> 00:52:19.860
on what's for you. Yes, it's going to be, you're

00:52:19.860 --> 00:52:23.659
going to be afraid, but don't be afraid to heal

00:52:23.659 --> 00:52:26.880
into things, into a new chapter in your life

00:52:26.880 --> 00:52:30.260
that's going to bring you hope and peace that

00:52:30.260 --> 00:52:34.639
you need. Point four you find it difficult to

00:52:34.639 --> 00:52:38.039
imagine a version of yourself beyond what you've

00:52:38.039 --> 00:52:43.920
been through This one is a good one Sometimes

00:52:43.920 --> 00:52:46.800
we do find it hard to imagine ourselves in a

00:52:46.800 --> 00:52:49.219
better space let me tell you this we go through

00:52:49.219 --> 00:52:50.960
rock bottom What's the favorite just a favorite

00:52:50.960 --> 00:52:55.400
words like to say I wish I? Wish that I wish

00:52:55.400 --> 00:52:57.440
that a lot. I wish this that a lot the tongue

00:52:57.440 --> 00:53:00.239
is a powerful thing That's why they tell you

00:53:00.239 --> 00:53:03.280
be careful what you say what you ask for because

00:53:03.280 --> 00:53:05.840
when you go through hard shit Excuse my friends

00:53:05.840 --> 00:53:09.320
when you go through hard times All you wish for

00:53:09.320 --> 00:53:11.519
is a good time and within this part when you

00:53:11.519 --> 00:53:13.760
find it difficult to imagine a version of yourself

00:53:13.760 --> 00:53:16.619
beyond what you've been through Don't ever be

00:53:16.619 --> 00:53:18.500
afraid to make that wish because we don't want

00:53:18.500 --> 00:53:22.360
to live in the same Messed up environment or

00:53:22.360 --> 00:53:24.400
whatever the case may be that's not growing.

00:53:24.420 --> 00:53:26.019
It's not a healing. It's not comfortable for

00:53:26.019 --> 00:53:29.260
us You have the right, my friend. Tell a friend,

00:53:29.360 --> 00:53:32.780
tell a friend, whatever. You have the right to

00:53:32.780 --> 00:53:34.980
imagine a version of yourself that you've been

00:53:34.980 --> 00:53:38.539
manifesting and praying for. You have the right

00:53:38.539 --> 00:53:41.260
to dream big on things you want to do. You have

00:53:41.260 --> 00:53:42.800
the right to take control of what's for you.

00:53:42.880 --> 00:53:45.219
You're in control of whatever you want to call

00:53:45.219 --> 00:53:47.460
you, the captain, the coach, whatever. You're

00:53:47.460 --> 00:53:49.739
in control of what's for you. Imagine it for

00:53:49.739 --> 00:53:52.260
the good. Don't think of it for the worst. Don't

00:53:52.260 --> 00:53:54.280
ever think of it for the worse. Yes, we're going

00:53:54.280 --> 00:53:56.440
to find it difficult to imagine a version of

00:53:56.440 --> 00:53:58.500
ourselves beyond what we've been through, but

00:53:58.500 --> 00:54:01.059
we'd rather see something beyond the music than

00:54:01.059 --> 00:54:05.300
keep playing that same sad, old -ass song on

00:54:05.300 --> 00:54:07.380
the record player that keeps scratching and it

00:54:07.380 --> 00:54:10.260
doesn't get clear. That makes us have to take

00:54:10.260 --> 00:54:13.239
the needle off the record and put a new one on

00:54:13.239 --> 00:54:17.559
there for us to experience new things. Okay?

00:54:18.210 --> 00:54:25.210
And lastly, healing begins to feel like a permission

00:54:25.210 --> 00:54:28.210
state instead of a progress. When you feel that

00:54:28.210 --> 00:54:30.389
way, my friend, that goes to show you still have

00:54:30.389 --> 00:54:34.349
it as a person, no trait. You gotta have it as

00:54:34.349 --> 00:54:37.750
you know, healing is beginning to feel like growth,

00:54:38.050 --> 00:54:41.309
as a process that I'm taking, and not as a...

00:54:41.119 --> 00:54:44.880
permit state it's not a permit state it's not

00:54:44.880 --> 00:54:47.440
a t extension babe you are in control of how

00:54:47.440 --> 00:54:49.659
you want to be how long it is stop putting the

00:54:49.659 --> 00:54:51.480
time on it but you're in control of how you want

00:54:51.480 --> 00:54:53.820
it to go though and stop putting the time on

00:54:53.820 --> 00:54:57.579
it because healing is important but growth requires

00:54:57.579 --> 00:55:00.780
the movement beyond reflection we have to understand

00:55:00.780 --> 00:55:02.920
that growth is a part of it yes healing is a

00:55:02.920 --> 00:55:05.179
good thing too but growth is the main thing that

00:55:05.179 --> 00:55:07.860
requires the movement to be what it is to see

00:55:07.860 --> 00:55:10.340
the reflection to get the results of how we want

00:55:10.409 --> 00:55:14.570
them to be, to understand that healing isn't

00:55:14.570 --> 00:55:21.269
your personality. Healing isn't gonna, no, it's

00:55:21.269 --> 00:55:23.289
not, my friend, it's not. We're learning each

00:55:23.289 --> 00:55:26.090
and every day. I get it, it takes time, but I

00:55:26.090 --> 00:55:28.250
need you to know that healing is important, but

00:55:28.250 --> 00:55:32.989
growth requires the movement beyond reflection,

00:55:34.030 --> 00:55:37.409
okay? We almost there, y 'all. Where does this

00:55:37.409 --> 00:55:41.940
show up most in life? Healing shows up in all

00:55:41.940 --> 00:55:46.019
areas of life. Personal, work life, school, parenting,

00:55:46.699 --> 00:55:50.179
relationships, children, whatever. Mental, physical,

00:55:50.300 --> 00:55:53.260
emotional, spiritually, financially, emotionally.

00:55:53.400 --> 00:55:56.340
It shows up everywhere in our life. Everywhere.

00:55:56.679 --> 00:56:00.139
Everywhere. Healing shows up in our life everywhere.

00:56:00.400 --> 00:56:03.599
Where does it show up? Everywhere. Healing becomes

00:56:03.599 --> 00:56:08.059
an identity, may show up in, may I do, excuse

00:56:08.059 --> 00:56:12.099
me, may show up in personal conversations that

00:56:12.099 --> 00:56:15.719
repeatedly sifted on past pain. When you're having

00:56:15.719 --> 00:56:18.840
a conversation with yourself, the mirror conversations,

00:56:19.099 --> 00:56:23.300
the 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30, 45 % hour conversation

00:56:23.300 --> 00:56:26.260
with ourselves, and we keep on reflecting on

00:56:26.260 --> 00:56:30.739
the past, this is where healing shows, this is

00:56:30.739 --> 00:56:35.360
where, you know, it's keep coming. We need to

00:56:35.360 --> 00:56:38.199
take that out. Sometimes we have, the mirror

00:56:38.199 --> 00:56:42.210
conversation is to reflect on. What's to come?

00:56:42.389 --> 00:56:48.349
What's next? Like it's secure What Issa did Had

00:56:48.349 --> 00:56:50.369
the mirror conversation for everything and the

00:56:50.369 --> 00:56:51.929
mirror talked back to her I wish that can happen

00:56:51.929 --> 00:56:54.349
for us though, but she had these conversations

00:56:54.349 --> 00:56:56.590
You know and she had her moments, but the mirror

00:56:56.590 --> 00:56:59.989
was telling her what's next for her to come We're

00:56:59.989 --> 00:57:02.309
here. You're healing babe. We need to move forward.

00:57:02.329 --> 00:57:05.659
Don't let that do that Make a joke on that with

00:57:05.659 --> 00:57:07.559
a rap whatever song out of it for the better

00:57:07.559 --> 00:57:09.400
because you don't want to keep having these personal

00:57:09.400 --> 00:57:10.960
conversations with yourself about things that

00:57:10.960 --> 00:57:13.940
hurt and Tormented us for you. You don't want

00:57:13.940 --> 00:57:16.360
that. We want to feel whole I want to feel better.

00:57:16.360 --> 00:57:18.219
I don't want to keep hearing the same old sad

00:57:18.219 --> 00:57:20.699
damn song I want to hear something that's upbeat

00:57:20.699 --> 00:57:26.039
up tempo and fits me. I Don't want that Mm -hmm

00:57:26.039 --> 00:57:28.159
as well as within relationships where someone

00:57:28.159 --> 00:57:31.599
feels defined by the past experience Let's talk

00:57:31.599 --> 00:57:34.860
about spouse type of relationships when you have

00:57:34.860 --> 00:57:37.000
a spouse that has you know say they want to be

00:57:37.000 --> 00:57:40.079
in a relationship First and foremost the partner

00:57:40.079 --> 00:57:42.480
if you know your partner is not ready for do

00:57:42.480 --> 00:57:44.340
not force that on them Especially if they still

00:57:44.340 --> 00:57:47.159
have no one I don't want to say baggage, but

00:57:47.159 --> 00:57:50.739
they still need to heal from the past relationship

00:57:50.739 --> 00:57:55.219
they just got out of if You know you know you

00:57:55.219 --> 00:57:59.250
talking to this guy just woman whomever They

00:57:59.250 --> 00:58:00.730
tell you straight up, you know what? I do want

00:58:00.730 --> 00:58:04.949
a relationship, but I need to heal I want you

00:58:04.949 --> 00:58:08.329
to respectfully Respectfully take that whole

00:58:08.329 --> 00:58:09.929
hardly because it takes a lot out of a human

00:58:09.929 --> 00:58:11.670
being to say straight up You know what? I want

00:58:11.670 --> 00:58:15.090
this but I need the needs are most important

00:58:15.090 --> 00:58:18.469
than the once You know, we need the needs are

00:58:18.469 --> 00:58:20.869
more important than your wants You need to get

00:58:20.869 --> 00:58:23.170
yourself together in order for you to step into

00:58:23.170 --> 00:58:25.300
this new relationship with this with this person

00:58:25.300 --> 00:58:27.639
to be your significant other you need to heal

00:58:27.639 --> 00:58:30.360
from the last person or last situation you've

00:58:30.360 --> 00:58:32.820
done with you've been through you've gone through

00:58:32.820 --> 00:58:38.420
for you to be comfortably to be comfortable healed

00:58:38.420 --> 00:58:42.679
and now feel whole with this new person as well

00:58:42.679 --> 00:58:48.739
as making them know too that you are healed and

00:58:48.739 --> 00:58:52.150
that situation is beyond past you Don't rush

00:58:52.150 --> 00:58:53.849
it because you feel like, oh, if I don't tell

00:58:53.849 --> 00:58:57.469
this person, yes, I f my chances up. No, because

00:58:57.469 --> 00:59:00.469
a real person will understand that if they ain't

00:59:00.469 --> 00:59:02.889
ready, they ain't ready. And if they lie to you,

00:59:02.989 --> 00:59:04.250
say they ain't ready, and they go back to what

00:59:04.250 --> 00:59:07.010
they went back to, what hurt them, or go somebody

00:59:07.010 --> 00:59:08.590
else, that mean that that person was not for

00:59:08.590 --> 00:59:11.449
you. Ha, I've been there, done that. I seen it

00:59:11.449 --> 00:59:15.170
happen. I seen it happen, y 'all. And I'm gonna

00:59:15.170 --> 00:59:16.750
tell you this, I healed from what happened to

00:59:16.750 --> 00:59:21.110
me six years ago. healed I can say this line

00:59:21.110 --> 00:59:25.250
proud I healed I'm not saying it ever again in

00:59:25.250 --> 00:59:26.809
the relationship when it talks to somebody unless

00:59:26.809 --> 00:59:29.050
they asked me you know how was it I'm like it

00:59:29.050 --> 00:59:31.269
was it was something that said I don't talk about

00:59:31.269 --> 00:59:35.710
it no more because I fully healed what had happened

00:59:35.710 --> 00:59:39.539
to me impacting the person that I was with It

00:59:39.539 --> 00:59:41.980
wasn't for us, you know, sometimes things change

00:59:41.980 --> 00:59:44.219
people change. It wasn't for you Sometimes, you

00:59:44.219 --> 00:59:46.760
know, you may come back in the next lifetime

00:59:46.760 --> 00:59:50.440
like arc about you say but baby I Sometimes not

00:59:50.440 --> 00:59:53.400
and I can say that wholeheartedly. I've healed

00:59:53.400 --> 00:59:55.739
what happened to me six years ago It takes so

00:59:55.739 --> 00:59:59.460
many it does we keep backpedaling and keep You

00:59:59.460 --> 01:00:02.699
know playing cat and mouse even within friendships

01:00:03.210 --> 01:00:05.690
It gets to a point is we're gonna be friends

01:00:05.690 --> 01:00:07.909
or not. Are we gonna heal together? You know,

01:00:07.989 --> 01:00:10.530
we're gonna we're waiting to exhale together

01:00:10.530 --> 01:00:12.389
We inhale and we're gonna exhale together get

01:00:12.389 --> 01:00:15.409
it done or we're gonna keep playing cat and mouse

01:00:15.409 --> 01:00:17.090
and we're not going in the healing stage And

01:00:17.090 --> 01:00:19.730
I don't need that sis. Bye, bro. I don't need

01:00:19.730 --> 01:00:22.829
that Because when relationships where someone

01:00:22.829 --> 01:00:24.909
feels defined by the past experience it hurts

01:00:24.909 --> 01:00:28.730
them to get into the new relationships even with

01:00:28.730 --> 01:00:31.449
family members it takes a minute for you to gather

01:00:31.449 --> 01:00:33.510
your thoughts and Clutch your pearls and hold

01:00:33.510 --> 01:00:35.809
on to them to even think that well I want to

01:00:35.809 --> 01:00:38.710
get back in touch with this person or even connect

01:00:38.710 --> 01:00:42.269
with another Family member. It's it. It takes

01:00:42.269 --> 01:00:44.730
a hold on you. But when you're in your healing

01:00:44.730 --> 01:00:46.329
stage, you're able to understand that you know

01:00:46.329 --> 01:00:51.630
what? I'm healed I'm whole I'm in the center

01:00:51.630 --> 01:00:56.030
of peace I am NOT going to have a relationship

01:00:56.030 --> 01:00:58.510
where someone feels defined by their past experiences.

01:00:58.730 --> 01:01:00.969
I've been there done that baby. I'm on the future

01:01:01.449 --> 01:01:04.590
I'm living in the present and enjoying what the

01:01:04.590 --> 01:01:06.449
future has to hold for me too while I'm moving

01:01:06.449 --> 01:01:08.530
around in the present. Because if I keep relying

01:01:08.530 --> 01:01:13.829
on the past, I can't see what the future has

01:01:13.829 --> 01:01:16.130
in store for me. If I don't live in the moment

01:01:16.130 --> 01:01:19.070
of the present and keep on working toward my

01:01:19.070 --> 01:01:21.110
future, because if I keep having the past keep

01:01:21.110 --> 01:01:23.949
replaying and rewinding, nothing's going to shake.

01:01:24.829 --> 01:01:27.050
Nothing's gonna shake with relationships from

01:01:27.050 --> 01:01:29.730
family spouse and friend wise if I keep relying

01:01:29.730 --> 01:01:32.610
on those incidents that was gonna shake as Well

01:01:32.610 --> 01:01:35.309
as my personal development space where reflection

01:01:35.309 --> 01:01:38.769
replace actions. I keep on keep on doing it.

01:01:38.889 --> 01:01:42.469
Nothing's gonna change self -talk Self -talk

01:01:42.469 --> 01:01:44.690
that consistently refers back to what happened

01:01:44.690 --> 01:01:48.289
instead of what is possible You know because

01:01:48.289 --> 01:01:50.570
it's like damn that happened to me, but okay

01:01:50.570 --> 01:01:53.760
that what is the possibility of a good result

01:01:53.760 --> 01:01:58.159
at the end of it as well as lastly difficulty

01:01:58.159 --> 01:02:02.760
allowing joy peace or stability become struggling

01:02:02.760 --> 01:02:07.260
feels more familiar when you don't allow yourself

01:02:07.260 --> 01:02:09.539
to let joy come in the morning let peace sit

01:02:09.539 --> 01:02:12.800
in whether it's silent and you can hear but I

01:02:12.800 --> 01:02:17.039
say a mouse Piss on cotton a pin drop all those

01:02:17.039 --> 01:02:19.159
old sands. It's gonna hurt you because you're

01:02:19.159 --> 01:02:22.039
not being able to have this ability To let that

01:02:22.039 --> 01:02:26.320
ride you so used to chaos and a whole bunch of

01:02:26.320 --> 01:02:30.059
ruff raff wrecking Ralph Ruck rat shenanigans.

01:02:30.079 --> 01:02:31.960
You're not giving yourself the privilege to be

01:02:31.960 --> 01:02:35.300
like, you know what? Yeah, I deserve to be happy.

01:02:35.480 --> 01:02:38.599
I deserve to be loved I deserve to find joy in

01:02:38.599 --> 01:02:40.400
the morning. I deserve to have peace as much

01:02:40.400 --> 01:02:44.090
as my mom and daddy have Huh, and I hold that

01:02:44.090 --> 01:02:46.809
whole heart like I say that out loud. I deserve

01:02:46.809 --> 01:02:50.769
the same damn peace they got But maybe even better

01:02:50.769 --> 01:02:54.469
I deserve to have this ability to do what I need

01:02:54.469 --> 01:02:56.389
to do for myself mentally physically emotionally

01:02:56.389 --> 01:02:59.670
spiritually and financially I Don't want to keep

01:02:59.670 --> 01:03:01.650
having those feelings of struggling and it feels

01:03:01.650 --> 01:03:04.289
so familiar that I'm not getting myself the time

01:03:04.289 --> 01:03:07.349
to relax As well as going back to the self -talk

01:03:07.349 --> 01:03:09.869
if I keep on seven those mirror conversations

01:03:09.869 --> 01:03:13.789
is not positive instead of keep talking about

01:03:13.789 --> 01:03:17.190
what happened instead of saying what is the Possibility

01:03:17.190 --> 01:03:20.309
of me to move forward is hurting me as well as

01:03:20.309 --> 01:03:22.630
the personal development Spaces where reflection

01:03:22.630 --> 01:03:24.789
needs to be replaced with the actions if I keep

01:03:24.789 --> 01:03:26.550
saying I'll do this in it now My actions gotta

01:03:26.550 --> 01:03:28.710
speak aloud in my words. I'm tired of hearing

01:03:28.710 --> 01:03:31.590
words your words can be grained on much You know

01:03:31.590 --> 01:03:33.389
they say sticks and stones may break my bones

01:03:33.389 --> 01:03:36.929
words hurt like a bitch, too Excuse my French

01:03:36.929 --> 01:03:40.469
y 'all, but words hurt, too. Oh Words can hurt

01:03:40.469 --> 01:03:42.639
the hell out of you And you know, sticks and

01:03:42.639 --> 01:03:44.980
stones may break my bones, but words can beat

01:03:44.980 --> 01:03:47.659
the hell out of you. And you have to be able

01:03:47.659 --> 01:03:49.360
to understand what you can take, what you cannot

01:03:49.360 --> 01:03:51.079
take. It gets to a point, y 'all. Sometimes I

01:03:51.079 --> 01:03:53.059
don't like the kiki ha ha. Because if I feel

01:03:53.059 --> 01:03:54.780
like that hurt me, I'm in my healing stage where

01:03:54.780 --> 01:03:57.420
I know I can take what I cannot take. And you

01:03:57.420 --> 01:04:01.980
don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Don't.

01:04:02.539 --> 01:04:05.239
Don't. Don't let nothing or no one try to tear

01:04:05.239 --> 01:04:08.320
you down because you are in this process of your

01:04:08.320 --> 01:04:12.510
life where realizing that healing isn't your

01:04:12.510 --> 01:04:15.550
personality. Recognizing these patterns can help

01:04:15.550 --> 01:04:18.389
people shift towards healthier growth. Once you

01:04:18.389 --> 01:04:20.110
be able to understand the personal connection,

01:04:20.190 --> 01:04:21.690
the relationships, the personal development,

01:04:21.929 --> 01:04:23.869
self -talk, and difficulties within allowing

01:04:23.869 --> 01:04:26.170
yourself to have this, this is where these patterns

01:04:26.170 --> 01:04:29.269
can help you shift from, shift towards a healthier

01:04:29.269 --> 01:04:31.889
growth. Once you get out of the way, you're healing

01:04:31.889 --> 01:04:33.550
permanently. You're not worried about what he

01:04:33.550 --> 01:04:36.670
say, the naysayers say. They can talk all damn

01:04:36.670 --> 01:04:39.150
day long till they lips fall off and hurt. You're

01:04:39.150 --> 01:04:42.730
in a process where you know what? I'm standing

01:04:42.730 --> 01:04:45.329
up holding my head. Hell. I don't care what he

01:04:45.329 --> 01:04:48.309
she the naysayers have to say I'm healing for

01:04:48.309 --> 01:04:50.929
the better healing us again I'm that I'm not

01:04:50.929 --> 01:04:53.489
letting nothing or no one tear me down again.

01:04:53.710 --> 01:04:55.989
I've been there. I've done it. I'm done with

01:04:55.989 --> 01:04:58.030
day I'm in this process of I'm doing what's for

01:04:58.030 --> 01:05:00.489
me and what I know is going to help me because

01:05:00.489 --> 01:05:02.369
this is my healing journey This is my healing

01:05:02.369 --> 01:05:05.769
story And I don't gotta tell nobody cuz I could

01:05:05.769 --> 01:05:08.030
pop out when I want to I'm taking control of

01:05:08.030 --> 01:05:10.789
what's mine And I'm being selfish in the process

01:05:10.789 --> 01:05:16.059
of it, too Okay? And lastly, why is this important?

01:05:16.300 --> 01:05:20.539
Why is healing isn't your personality important?

01:05:22.079 --> 01:05:24.300
Why is it important? Why does separating healing

01:05:24.300 --> 01:05:27.380
from identity matters? This is the whole nitty

01:05:27.380 --> 01:05:29.099
-gritty of understanding that healing isn't your

01:05:29.099 --> 01:05:30.659
personality and why you have to separate it from

01:05:30.659 --> 01:05:34.380
your identity. Because healing is meant to restore

01:05:34.380 --> 01:05:39.179
you, not limit to you. Healing is meant to restore

01:05:39.179 --> 01:05:42.809
you, not limit to you. You're not putting yourself

01:05:42.809 --> 01:05:44.889
on a backburn no more. You're not limiting what

01:05:44.889 --> 01:05:46.829
you can control and what's for you, what you

01:05:46.829 --> 01:05:51.690
can take. Nope. When people identify only their

01:05:51.690 --> 01:05:55.230
healing journey, they may unintentionally keep

01:05:55.230 --> 01:05:57.510
themselves emotionally connected to the pain

01:05:57.510 --> 01:06:01.670
that they have already worked through. Separating

01:06:01.670 --> 01:06:04.889
healing from identity allows individuals to acknowledge

01:06:04.889 --> 01:06:07.150
their past without letting it control their future.

01:06:07.710 --> 01:06:12.289
Bingo! Bingo, B -I -N -G -O. Let me tell y 'all

01:06:12.289 --> 01:06:20.309
again. Let me tell you again. Separating healing

01:06:20.309 --> 01:06:24.289
from identity allows individuals to acknowledge

01:06:24.289 --> 01:06:27.269
their past without letting it control their future.

01:06:28.849 --> 01:06:31.250
Once you, right there, set the boundaries, what's

01:06:31.250 --> 01:06:32.909
for you, and that's not for you, that's you taking

01:06:32.909 --> 01:06:37.079
control of what's for you. You're letting what's

01:06:37.079 --> 01:06:38.760
in control of your future like I mentioned we

01:06:38.760 --> 01:06:42.079
keep replying on the past I'm not enjoying the

01:06:42.079 --> 01:06:45.219
present so the future can be hold I'm making

01:06:45.219 --> 01:06:48.320
it a shitshell because if I don't let the past

01:06:48.320 --> 01:06:52.760
be the past What will my future hold I? have

01:06:52.760 --> 01:06:56.679
to seek the healing from identifying and Acknowledging

01:06:56.679 --> 01:06:59.000
what the past has done to me, but without letting

01:06:59.000 --> 01:07:03.019
it control my future. I'm not letting past eat

01:07:03.019 --> 01:07:06.409
and mess up with with the future he has to hold,

01:07:07.010 --> 01:07:10.650
hell, hell nah. And that goes for you, my friend.

01:07:10.670 --> 01:07:14.110
Don't have the past you control, the future you,

01:07:14.630 --> 01:07:20.590
and the present you, hell nah. Mm -mm, no. Because

01:07:20.590 --> 01:07:23.690
growth becomes about building something new rather

01:07:23.690 --> 01:07:27.250
than consistently repairing what's broke. It's

01:07:27.250 --> 01:07:30.050
like, for example, like a toy when you was little.

01:07:30.659 --> 01:07:32.900
It's but so much duct tape you can put on the

01:07:32.900 --> 01:07:35.059
toy. It's but so much gorilla glue you can put

01:07:35.059 --> 01:07:39.239
on there. It's but so much screws and bandaging

01:07:39.239 --> 01:07:41.940
you can do. Sometimes you gotta let it go. Sometimes

01:07:41.940 --> 01:07:44.619
you gotta let it go. Sometimes you gotta build

01:07:44.619 --> 01:07:46.139
something new. Sometimes you gotta get a new

01:07:46.139 --> 01:07:47.960
toy. Sometimes you gotta get a new something.

01:07:48.800 --> 01:07:51.920
Rather than keep trying to repair what was broken.

01:07:52.119 --> 01:07:54.179
Sometimes things like that are meant to be broken.

01:07:54.440 --> 01:07:57.019
Sometimes when things break, it can't be fixed.

01:07:57.320 --> 01:07:59.860
Now you have to find something new. or create

01:07:59.860 --> 01:08:02.739
from scratch. Once it's broke, you may be able

01:08:02.739 --> 01:08:04.559
to repair it, but how many times can you keep

01:08:04.559 --> 01:08:07.019
repairing? How many times are you going to keep

01:08:07.019 --> 01:08:09.139
repairing it like it's brand new, like a car?

01:08:09.539 --> 01:08:11.300
How many times are you going to keep on keeping,

01:08:11.480 --> 01:08:13.019
like they say, that piece of junk in a movie?

01:08:13.019 --> 01:08:14.159
How many times are you going to keep that piece

01:08:14.159 --> 01:08:17.479
of junk in a way to go? Sometimes it's meant

01:08:17.479 --> 01:08:19.760
to be what it is, and it's but so many times

01:08:19.760 --> 01:08:21.600
you keep on repairing and repairing and repairing.

01:08:22.239 --> 01:08:25.079
And it's the same thing within your life. You

01:08:25.079 --> 01:08:28.859
can take but so much. You can fix but so much.

01:08:29.100 --> 01:08:33.279
You get tired of stuff. It's okay to let it go,

01:08:33.300 --> 01:08:37.939
let it flow. This shift creates space for purpose,

01:08:38.439 --> 01:08:42.220
confidence, and ability to fulfill and embrace

01:08:42.220 --> 01:08:46.380
the new version of oneself. Because growth becomes

01:08:46.380 --> 01:08:49.159
about building something new rather than consistently

01:08:49.159 --> 01:08:52.720
let it repairing what was broke. Once that is

01:08:52.720 --> 01:08:57.470
happening, this shift causes Space for purpose,

01:08:57.810 --> 01:09:01.329
confidence, and the ability to fully embrace

01:09:01.329 --> 01:09:07.289
the new version of oneself. That's why it's important

01:09:07.289 --> 01:09:09.510
for you to understand that healing isn't your

01:09:09.510 --> 01:09:14.729
personality and understanding why does separating

01:09:14.729 --> 01:09:20.149
healing from identity matters. You are in control

01:09:20.149 --> 01:09:22.609
once again of what's for you and what's not for

01:09:22.609 --> 01:09:25.050
you. You are in control how you want your story

01:09:25.050 --> 01:09:27.689
to be told. You are in control how you want things

01:09:27.689 --> 01:09:30.449
to go. This is all about you, my friend. It's

01:09:30.449 --> 01:09:34.149
all about you and your life. We're here to observe.

01:09:34.289 --> 01:09:36.270
Me, I'm here to observe, give you your applause

01:09:36.270 --> 01:09:38.890
because no one knows how hard it was for you

01:09:38.890 --> 01:09:41.670
to get to this point in your life. Hell. You

01:09:41.670 --> 01:09:43.369
don't know how hard it was for you to even get

01:09:43.369 --> 01:09:45.750
to this point in your life, but you did it. And

01:09:45.750 --> 01:09:48.010
you're here, and you deserve it, and you're gonna

01:09:48.010 --> 01:09:50.390
keep on doing what's necessary for you. And don't

01:09:50.390 --> 01:09:54.750
let nothing or no one try to steal your growth.

01:09:55.750 --> 01:09:58.130
Stump on your growth. F up your healing journey.

01:09:58.630 --> 01:10:04.569
Hell nah. Okay? And going back to now, you understanding

01:10:04.569 --> 01:10:07.560
the quote of the day slash the week, Healing

01:10:07.560 --> 01:10:10.720
is a part of your journey, not your identity.

01:10:11.319 --> 01:10:14.859
That means you are not just the person who heals,

01:10:15.119 --> 01:10:18.420
you are the person who kept growing. That's what

01:10:18.420 --> 01:10:22.300
that meant for me. You're not just the person

01:10:22.300 --> 01:10:26.300
who healed, you are the person who kept growing.

01:10:27.279 --> 01:10:30.119
You are the person that kept growing, and you

01:10:30.119 --> 01:10:32.760
kept flowing, and you kept doing what is necessary

01:10:32.760 --> 01:10:37.250
for you. Okay? I know that was a lot, y 'all.

01:10:37.310 --> 01:10:39.510
I know that was a lot. And I hope you guys learned

01:10:39.510 --> 01:10:43.329
a lot because this impacts a lot of what's for

01:10:43.329 --> 01:10:45.289
you and what's not for you. But understand the

01:10:45.289 --> 01:10:49.090
purpose of healing isn't your personality. It

01:10:49.090 --> 01:10:53.130
isn't. Healing is a part of the story. Yes, healing

01:10:53.130 --> 01:10:56.289
is a part of our story, but it's not our entire

01:10:56.289 --> 01:11:01.949
identity. It doesn't identify nothing. It doesn't.

01:11:02.130 --> 01:11:05.869
You're not just the person who heals. You are

01:11:05.869 --> 01:11:07.909
the person that keeps growing, each and every

01:11:07.909 --> 01:11:10.229
day. And little do you know, you learn something

01:11:10.229 --> 01:11:12.390
new every day. Big, small, whatever the case

01:11:12.390 --> 01:11:14.890
may be, even if yourself. Featured things like

01:11:14.890 --> 01:11:17.369
that, y 'all. Look at my hair. I didn't know

01:11:17.369 --> 01:11:19.170
I could do this. At first, I ain't like it, but

01:11:19.170 --> 01:11:22.289
it's, you know, it gives something. I'm learning

01:11:22.289 --> 01:11:23.989
something new by myself, and I'm healing with

01:11:23.989 --> 01:11:25.909
it and doing things. It took me a long time to

01:11:25.909 --> 01:11:28.130
really embrace my natural hair. You know why?

01:11:28.149 --> 01:11:30.229
Because I do like, you know, one point in time,

01:11:30.329 --> 01:11:32.689
you know, you're younger. You need a perm. I

01:11:32.689 --> 01:11:35.210
said, hell nah, I got older now. Them perms keep

01:11:35.210 --> 01:11:36.590
straightening your hair. I like a good curl.

01:11:36.590 --> 01:11:38.449
I like a good bounce. You know, I like a little

01:11:38.449 --> 01:11:42.029
nice little shimmy shine. That helped me heal.

01:11:42.109 --> 01:11:44.850
So understand, I'm healed with who I am. My identity.

01:11:44.970 --> 01:11:47.710
Yes, I could wear some clip -ins, a wig, put

01:11:47.710 --> 01:11:51.329
some. I could do all that. Because I'm healing

01:11:51.329 --> 01:11:53.810
now. I'm healing. Like, I can do what's for me.

01:11:53.930 --> 01:11:56.369
I can show up how I want to show up. And I ain't

01:11:56.369 --> 01:11:58.149
got to worry about that man saying he don't like

01:11:58.149 --> 01:12:01.069
how I look. Okay? I didn't do this for you, babe.

01:12:01.130 --> 01:12:05.970
I did this for me. Okay? So yes, y 'all, I thank

01:12:05.970 --> 01:12:08.470
you guys for vibing in with me. And with that

01:12:08.470 --> 01:12:11.829
being said, I want you guys to keep this in mind.

01:12:12.390 --> 01:12:15.109
Today, remember that healing helps you understand

01:12:15.109 --> 01:12:18.310
your past, but it does not have to define your

01:12:18.310 --> 01:12:23.149
future, like I mentioned earlier. You are allowed

01:12:23.149 --> 01:12:26.500
to grow beyond what hurt you. You are allowed

01:12:26.500 --> 01:12:29.140
to experience joy without revisiting pain to

01:12:29.140 --> 01:12:32.199
provide growth. To prove a point, no, you ain't

01:12:32.199 --> 01:12:37.039
gotta do that. And lastly, healing opened the

01:12:37.039 --> 01:12:40.260
door. Now give yourself permission to walk through

01:12:40.260 --> 01:12:44.300
it and keep becoming the flower that you want

01:12:44.300 --> 01:12:48.000
to see grow. Keep going, keep flourishing, and

01:12:48.000 --> 01:12:50.619
keep nurturing that flower inside of you or that

01:12:50.619 --> 01:12:53.380
caterpillar to develop into a butterfly. Keep

01:12:53.380 --> 01:12:56.199
going. Don't let nothing or no one stop you.

01:12:56.439 --> 01:12:59.000
Let the naysayers do what they're going to do

01:12:59.000 --> 01:13:01.539
because, baby, you're on a high horse now. You're

01:13:01.539 --> 01:13:03.699
not worried about nothing or no one. You're not

01:13:03.699 --> 01:13:06.079
worried about what used to tarnish you and all

01:13:06.079 --> 01:13:08.560
those things. Hell nah. You're on a pedestal

01:13:08.560 --> 01:13:10.720
where, you know what? I know what I can take.

01:13:10.720 --> 01:13:12.920
I know what I cannot take. I know who I am and

01:13:12.920 --> 01:13:17.739
I know what I'm not. Okay? So guys like I said,

01:13:17.840 --> 01:13:20.060
I know that was a lot, but I really really hope

01:13:20.060 --> 01:13:22.779
that you guys learned a few important points

01:13:22.779 --> 01:13:25.720
from today's vibe of the day I really hope that

01:13:25.720 --> 01:13:28.060
this helps you understand that healing is a gift

01:13:28.060 --> 01:13:30.439
for you and healing isn't a part of your personal

01:13:30.439 --> 01:13:33.420
journey It's not a part of your excuse me personality

01:13:33.420 --> 01:13:35.199
It is a part of your journey was not a part of

01:13:35.199 --> 01:13:37.979
your personality and helping you understand the

01:13:37.979 --> 01:13:40.720
identity and purpose of things like that Please

01:13:40.720 --> 01:13:44.460
please please tell a friend tell a friend look

01:13:44.569 --> 01:13:46.810
You going through this, I've seen, I heard, or

01:13:46.810 --> 01:13:50.590
watched this podcast, you know, and it felt like

01:13:50.590 --> 01:13:51.949
just connected with you, and it's not throwing

01:13:51.949 --> 01:13:54.689
shade, or tea, it's just me being your friend,

01:13:54.789 --> 01:13:56.489
or your family member, your confidant, whatever,

01:13:56.970 --> 01:13:59.210
I feel this for you, and I went up with the best

01:13:59.210 --> 01:14:03.710
for you. Okay? So as always, y 'all, I thank

01:14:03.710 --> 01:14:06.789
you so much, so, so very much, whether you watched

01:14:06.789 --> 01:14:08.850
it in the morning, the evening, or afternoon,

01:14:08.989 --> 01:14:13.050
I appreciate it. I really, really do. And I really

01:14:13.050 --> 01:14:15.289
hope that this impacts with you in some type

01:14:15.289 --> 01:14:17.149
of way. Even if it's not impacting with you now,

01:14:17.630 --> 01:14:18.890
somewhere down the line, you can come back and

01:14:18.890 --> 01:14:21.069
be like, dang, E made some good points in this

01:14:21.069 --> 01:14:24.130
episode, and now I can feel it. I'm like, yes,

01:14:24.390 --> 01:14:27.130
yes, yes, I feel it. Because like I said, y 'all,

01:14:27.289 --> 01:14:30.069
my vibes the other day, I wanted to have a conversation.

01:14:30.210 --> 01:14:31.470
Even though we're not in front of each other,

01:14:31.470 --> 01:14:33.510
but it's giving a conversation. You know, you

01:14:33.510 --> 01:14:36.590
feel me? You, I, those type of things. It's giving

01:14:36.590 --> 01:14:41.590
real good convo, and it's not brief. OK? But

01:14:41.590 --> 01:14:43.550
yes, I think you also very much taking the time

01:14:43.550 --> 01:14:45.529
out of your busy day to listen or to watch me

01:14:45.529 --> 01:14:49.130
I think you all so very much I hope you guys

01:14:49.130 --> 01:14:52.569
learned a few important points from today's vibe

01:14:52.569 --> 01:14:54.750
of the day of understanding that healing isn't

01:14:54.750 --> 01:14:58.090
your personality And you may be able to share

01:14:58.090 --> 01:15:00.729
with a friend or two and I hope you guys do the

01:15:00.729 --> 01:15:02.750
weekly challenge of understanding What can you

01:15:02.750 --> 01:15:05.880
do for your healing journey? With you know not

01:15:05.880 --> 01:15:08.659
feeling guilty about it and just enjoying it

01:15:08.659 --> 01:15:11.479
new growth new energy new spirit But also just

01:15:11.479 --> 01:15:14.560
being happy and experiencing beautiful things

01:15:14.560 --> 01:15:18.579
in the moment And until then guys I cannot wait

01:15:18.579 --> 01:15:21.079
for you guys to hear me next Wednesday, which

01:15:21.079 --> 01:15:24.300
is wellness 101 We please remember that vibing

01:15:24.300 --> 01:15:29.340
out with gas will be open March 23rd. Oh 27 excuse

01:15:29.340 --> 01:15:34.810
me at 330 p .m. Eastern Time on a Friday, okay?

01:15:35.470 --> 01:15:38.770
Please be safe out here, love on yourself, know

01:15:38.770 --> 01:15:40.930
what's for you, know what's not for you. It's

01:15:40.930 --> 01:15:43.430
okay to have your moments, it's all right, but

01:15:43.430 --> 01:15:45.930
don't have them depressing moments take over

01:15:45.930 --> 01:15:49.529
your day. Find happiness, find joy in the morning,

01:15:49.789 --> 01:15:51.550
in the night, whatever the case may be, but most

01:15:51.550 --> 01:15:54.180
importantly, take care of yourself and be - nice

01:15:54.180 --> 01:15:55.819
to someone you never know how much that might

01:15:55.819 --> 01:15:58.619
help somebody shoot we all need to hear some

01:15:58.619 --> 01:16:02.319
positivity from somebody okay and until next

01:16:02.319 --> 01:16:06.520
time and until next time beautiful people I love

01:16:06.520 --> 01:16:09.060
you all so very much bye