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Hey y 'all, I think it's morning, evening, or

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afternoon. I'm just glad that you guys had decided

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to vibe with E. Yes, the one and only E. Hey

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y 'all, hope y 'all feeling amazing, doing amazing,

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and just being amazing overall. And if not, it's

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okay. It's alright, my friend, because bad times

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don't last forever. After every storm, there

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is a rainbow, and you're getting closer and closer

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every day to that rainbow, that pot of gold,

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that light in the tunnel, whichever one you prefer,

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my friend, okay? But I do want you guys to still

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rely on the bad times. because the bad times

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had helped us to get to where we are now as well

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as it helped grounded us to be grateful and thankful

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for everything that we have now okay so welcome

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welcome welcome guys cheers to the last week

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of November which is super crazy we are celebrating

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the holiday times now so Thanksgiving is like

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literally the next day I hope you guys if you

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are celebrating Thanksgiving I hope Thanksgiving

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be amazing to you and if not I still hope that

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your day is amazing full of whatever you want

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to come your way It is holiday season, so whatever

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holiday you celebrate, happy holidays to you

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all. Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Christmas, Thanksgiving,

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New Year's, Boxing Day, and things of that nature.

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Happy holidays. I wish you all nothing but the

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best, and I really hope that this holiday season

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be the season that you have been manifesting,

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praying for, but overall be the season that you

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will get what you have been manifesting and praying

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for. And when I say the season of get what you

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get, it's saying that... most of the time when

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holiday times come around oh excuse me guys most

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of the time when holiday time come around a lot

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of people don't ask for much they just have they

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just have a few things they want to see happen

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and things of that nature like for me like christmas

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is coming up i don't want much for christmas

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at all i just want peace and happiness and if

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i can help any family in need family friends

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in need i am so here for it and yeah and thanksgiving

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is all about being able to appreciate things

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that you're thankful for as well as what are

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you thankful for and who you think before things

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of that nature and also understanding the importance

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of thanksgiving if you're new here welcome welcome

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welcome and for the ones that are not new to

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this but truly just hey y 'all what's up what's

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popping so going back to just saying what thanksgiving

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is i did do episode on thanksgiving i think last

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year or the year i think last year i did episode

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on thanksgiving if you have not tuned into that

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please do because that episode i break down what's

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the importance of it and why why is thanksgiving

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so important as well as before vibing out with

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guests became a thing i did an interview with

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my family and it was around thanksgiving time

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and their episode did come out, I believe, on

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Thanksgiving. So, I want y 'all free time. Please,

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please, please, please tune into that. It's been

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ages. It's been like a good little while. Like,

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this was around the time when I was in the prime

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of starting vibing with E2. So, whenever you're

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free, have a free moment to learn, to dig dive,

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deep dive a little bit more into what Thanksgiving

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is and all those things. And then also, hear

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it from different point of views from my family.

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Take the time to listen to it, okay? All right

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y 'all so like I said we are in the last week

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of November and it's been quite a week I will

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say. It's been quite a month I'll say and this

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week is full of nothing but good things. However

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if you're new here this week is all about wellness

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one -on -one lessons and I'll give y 'all a little

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snippet of why I do wellness one -on -one lessons

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at the end of the month. So Wellness 101 lessons

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are lessons that helps us overall look at the

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impact of how this month or this year has been

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to us. And hopefully we can impact whatever lesson

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that we are learning here with me can impact

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with us through the next day or new year and

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things of that nature. My whole reason of Wellness

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101 is when I went to Morgan State, they had

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did wellness. They had did wellness days to help

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us students as well as staff to focus on our

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mental health. It inspired me so much because

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like, okay, I talk about education and wellness.

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So why not do the same thing for my listeners

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or whoever's watching me to help them incorporate

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with just understanding the importance of wellness

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while still learning whatever topic it is with

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me. So basically, Wellness 101 lessons are to

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help you to understand your wellness a little

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bit more, but also to appreciate these lessons

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and take them. as okay this is something that

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i need hopefully a stepping stone for you guys

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to understand what's going on around you and

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things of that nature so yes that's what that

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is so we have as of today we have 24 newsletters

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which is so amazing which is so like dope because

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i i tell this i say it all the time i never thought

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that i would keep going with these newsletters

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but i like doing them because if you do follow

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me on instagram and wherever else you see like

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The newsletters, the little slips of the newsletters.

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But if you still want to be a part of the newsletters,

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don't hesitate. Click the link in my bio, my

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link tree, and you will see an icon that says

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sign up for weekly newsletters. And all you have

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to do is insert your email. And once you insert

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your email, I will get the notification from

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link tree. And then every time I prepare for

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the newsletters to get sent out, you will be

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on there. And the newsletters come out Wednesdays

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at 3 .30 Eastern time, two hours before. like

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the episodes drop so you'll get to see what's

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going on any big news any exciting news what's

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about it a day before it even comes out as well

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as any guest appearances that i have or if you

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don't have any guest appearances guest appearances

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and things of that nature so it's like you get

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a sneak peek of everything before the world really

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knows what's going on so yeah so we are on the

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24th newsletter super exciting i think we will

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hit 30 newsletters this year i think i have to

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double check probably between 29 30 at the max

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but i think we should hit 30 well at least 29

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i think i want to say at least 29 20 i won't

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say 29 to the best bet if not 30 30 probably

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will hit in january and the new year and that'd

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be super dope too but you know it is what it

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is so we're on newsletter 24 and this month's

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theme is still november we're ending out with

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the grace and gratitude the gratitude growth

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and grace cultivating peace in every season and

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this is part four the last week of november So,

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guys, we have reached the last Wednesday of November,

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and with it comes to the final chapter of our

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monthly theme, Gratitude, Grace, and Growth,

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the cultivating piece of every season. This month

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has been a journey, slowing down, leaning in,

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giving thanks, extending grace, and recognizing

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how much you have grown, even in the moments

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you didn't notice. And as we close out November,

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this week's vibe centers on one powerful practice,

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reflection. Before we step into December, before

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we set new goals, before we rush into the next

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chapter, it's time to pause and honor everything

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this year has taught us. As December comes, if

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you're new here, every time December comes, I

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prepare us for the new year, as well as still

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preparing us into the holiday time and loving

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on the holidays and things of that nature. For

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December, I'd like to prepare us for January

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to give us a little bit of a pep talk and then

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let you guys know it's okay. Like, be prepared

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for this new beginning, this new chapter in your

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life. It's okay to start over. If you have to

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start over 5 million times, do what's needed

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for you because you matter, as well as to just

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you being able to just... appreciate the things

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that has been going on and please celebrate yourself

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regardless of how big or small your accomplishments

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are celebrate them because no one knows how hard

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it was for you to even get to these accomplishments

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like nobody knows how hard it was for you to

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even start this new project begin this new relationship

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start these this foundation go back to school,

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start a family, whatever the case may be, my

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friend, please level yourself, but also celebrate

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your accomplishments because these are things

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that has helped you. Like once back to bad times

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don't last forever. This is a stepping stone

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for you too, to understand that, you know, them

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bad times don't last forever, but they help you

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get to the good times because they shaped you

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and they ground you to get to where you need

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to be. And that's how I do for December to help

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us understand that we all been through some things

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in these last couple months of the new year,

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of the year. but as we enter the new year what

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we want to what do we want to work on within

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a new year what we don't want to bring in a new

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year and who when all these things this new year

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like every new year i have it set to this is

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for you the goal is for you like last year i

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think it was pop out um it was pop out sometimes

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you got to be selfish and do what's for you and

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then next year it'd be somewhat the same thing

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like pop out Take care of yourself, but also

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do what is right for you. But the whole purpose

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of that thing will be to fill your cup up before

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you can fill somebody else's. Pour into yourself

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more before you can pour into others. So, yes.

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So, we're going to today just take a... deep

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breath and then just reflect on how things have

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been so far and that's why i love when wellness

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lessons are impacted because it helps you understand

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more and grounds you to understand why is this

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so important for you to do and why it's important

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for you to master this skill but not really master

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it but understand this skill perfectly so yes

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so this week's challenge i want you to choose

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one moment each day to reflect on your growth

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during the thanksgiving week such as right down

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one thing you've learned one thing you release

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and one area where you have grown without even

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realizing it so reflection is not about juggling

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your past it's about appreciating your journey

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let your reflections remind you of your strength

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you're evolving and your resentment. So this

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week, as we're giving thanks to what we're thankful

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for, who we're thankful for, why we're thankful

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for these things, I want you guys to also just

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choose one thing that you have learned from yourself

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that you're thankful that you have been able

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to learn for yourself. One thing that you have

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been able to be thankful to release, regardless

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of how big or small it is, good or bad, just

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one thing you want, you're like, I'm releasing

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this and I'm thankful for this to be released,

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to be out in the open. Or one area where you

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have grown, without realizing it, being thankful

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for this because it can be a challenge. It could

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be a challenge for you to even hit these moments

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in your life that we probably don't even know

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of. Sorry, y 'all. My doggone Apple Watch is

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greasy and I was like, hmm. But yes, y 'all.

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So that's the challenge. This is the challenge

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of the week for you guys. So vibing with E, weekly

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vibe, where meaningful conversations meet growth

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and real live conversations. The week of November

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27th. which is wednesday so the new episode today

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is we're on episode 131 and we are on wellness

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101 lesson 21 the power of reflecting what this

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year has taught me me you so this week's episode

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is all about realizing your growth in real time

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we are dividing into what it means to pat what

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it means to pause reflect and honor your past

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that shaped you this year. The challenges you

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overcame, the lessons you've learned, and the

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strength you never knew you had. Reflection is

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one of the most underrated wellness tools. It

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helps you understand your seasons, celebrate

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your process, and prepare your heart for what's

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next. In this episode, we're going to cover why

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reflection is essential for emotional healing

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and clarity, how the highs and the lows of this

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year shapes your mindset and helps you out, helps

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you shape your mindset and just... heavy really

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deep dive into like really this really was going

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on tools to help you reflect intentionally without

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judging or pressuring yourself what it means

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to honor your small wins not just the big ones

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please please i'm begging you y 'all please i

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don't care how big a small is pat yourself on

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the back toot your horn whatever you gotta do

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please love on them small achievements because

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those small achievements are helping you get

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to them big ones And how reflection prepares

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you for a better, softer, more grounded future.

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This conversation is a reminder that reflection

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is a form of self -love. It helps you see how

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far you have come and affirmations that every

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version of you was growing, learning, and becoming.

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So y 'all are tuned in this Wednesday for a grounded,

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heart -opening, year -closing conversation. okay

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so lastly guys vibing out with guests this week

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again we have no guest appearances this week

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and that's okay that's all right because vibing

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out with guests is proof that every story no

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matter where it starts has the power to inspire

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others this series continues to grow and every

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episode is a reminder of why we start real conversations

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that live inspires and connect This Friday, we're

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pausing guest conversations to honor the spirit

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of reflection. No interviews, no deep dives,

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just space. Space to breathe. Space to acknowledge

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your growth. Space to enter the final month of

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this year with intentions, clarity, and peace.

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But don't worry. more guests will be returning

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soon with more powerful voices and stories y

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'all so i am going to say we do have a few of

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them lined up so far i'm not going to say how

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many but we do and as you guys know right now

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we do have 26 guest appearances and our goal

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is to hit 30 but i'm not going to tell y 'all

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how many we have so far but i feel as though

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we can get to 30 fingers crossed and if not i'm

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still grateful and i'm still I still appreciate

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the guests that has been on the show for you

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guys supporting me and just being able to just

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listen, like, comment, all those things. So all

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the past guests, the present guests, the future

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guests, I thank you so very much for your time,

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your support and everything of that nature. To

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the ones that listen to our amazing guests and

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their stories, I thank you also very much because...

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I love that series a lot because that series

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gives people the floor to express themselves.

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And I love when guests be like, this is my first

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time ever sitting down and doing something like

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this. And it makes me so happy too because I'm

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like, not only is this their first time, but

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it's my first time to even being comfortable

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with them doing this series. But overall, I'm

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just so appreciative and thankful for you guys

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to even sit there and just sit. in front of a

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mic and a camera and just sit with me and talk

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about these conversations. I appreciate it so

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much. Another thing we do now, a new thing that

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I do have is group guest appearances. So please,

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you know, as you guys see, you see some two appearances.

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You've seen two guests appear too. people in

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one guest appearance. Now I made it to a group.

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So it's up to three guest appearance to three

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group appearances. So what that means is I will

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be there and a group of three, a group up to

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three could be able to come sit in the studio

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with me and we vibe out on whatever topic and

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things you want to talk about. So I did do that

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before with my classmates and my friends. We

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did that before, but now I'm making it a permanent

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thing because I know at times people be like,

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I want to bring this person. I want to bring

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that person. I'm like, okay, cool. You know,

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and sometimes it may work and it may not work,

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but it's okay. But now I'm making it permanent

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now that we do still have the one -on -one guest

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session appearances. But if you want two or more

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people with you, then we have a group vibe without

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a guest appearance. yes y 'all please check that

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out as well and as always the quote of this week

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is reflection is the bridge between where you

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were and where you're going where you were and

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where you're going is the reflection And also,

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please, y 'all, please stay connected. Follow

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the podcast page or IG at vibing .withE using

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hashtag vibingwithE to share your reflections

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and what this year has taught you. And until

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next time, from your favorite host, I hope that

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this time, with E, vibing with E. So now let's

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get into it. let's get into it okay as always

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every vibe of the day as well as every wellness

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lesson of the day is something special so i want

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you guys to sit back relax and enjoy hearing

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my voice or watch me on youtube because as always

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every vibe of the day every wellness lesson of

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the day and every vibing out with guest appearance

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is something special okay so please Turn me up

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on your speakers, your car radios, your phones,

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your PCs, MacBooks, Alexas, Google Dots, whatever.

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Because, yeah. So, yeah. Whether you want to

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go on a move, whether you want to go on a move,

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turn me up. Because, as always, every lesson

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of the day, every vibe of the day, every guest

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appearance of the day is something special. Okay?

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If you're new here, once again, welcome. As we

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break down every vibe of the day, as well as

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wellness lesson of the day, title again the the

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vibe with a wellness lesson of the week of the

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day for the week um i break down every wellness

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lesson as well as vibe of the day into the definition

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the five w's the quote of the day which is the

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quote of the week and i think i do a thank you

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for tapping in little note to help you also understand

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what's going on and then give y 'all a little

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deep dive into thinking of like what's the week

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to come okay and by this being thanksgiving week

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for the ones that celebrate it i want you to

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really think deeper and if you don't celebrate

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thanksgiving as a whole i still want you guys

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to think deeper on this because this is a very

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important topic like i said we are entering the

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new year so i do want to tap in a little bit

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with and give you guys a little bit of a heads

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up on what's to come for the new year so we won't

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be you know scared and surprised on all these

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things that are coming to us that's coming in

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for the new year because I guarantee you, we

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all have an easy most like, oh my gosh, we're

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entering the new year. I'm a little bit frightened.

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I might not have hit every goal that I wanted

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to in a new year. My vision board probably has

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not really been checked off, but that's okay,

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my friend, because you have the chance to do

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it next year. Sometimes you got to start over

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from scratch. Sometimes you got to add pieces

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in there that you didn't hit that you could do

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in a new year. But do what's right for you. And

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you know you're ready for it. And take your time.

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And don't rush it. Because things happen. And

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that's okay. But we're still going to work these

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kinks out. Do what we need to do. Because it's

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all going to work out in the end. Okay? Sorry.

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I had to drink a sip of my juice. And I got this

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glittery lipstick lip gloss on. It's lip gloss.

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And I don't like when my lip gloss. Touch the

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rim of my can. Or my scrawl. It just. It makes

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it sticky. So it's like I got to waterfall my

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own drink. Because I don't want all the glitter

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and stuff on there. I know it's so funny. And

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it's so weird. But. I can't help it. But. I can't

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help it. But. You know. Things happen. But without

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further ado, let's get into it. We have hit 131

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episodes and today's wellness lesson of the day

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is wellness 101. Lesson 21. Hold on, y 'all.

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I think I messed up. Oopsies. sorry y 'all let

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me put my notes back up because I always forget

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the numbers sometimes yep we are on episode 131

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and we're on wellness 101 lesson 21 the power

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of reflection what this year has taught me you

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us we're all in this together so let's get into

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it definition what does this really what does

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it really mean to reflect on a new year reflect

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on the year reflect on the year like what is

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the whole purpose of us being able to reflect

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on our year and why is it important for us to

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do this like why do we need to reflect on a year

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and why do we need to take that take that risk

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to just sit back and be like okay let me reflect

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on what has happened the good or bad the ugly

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the beautiful like why do i need to do this and

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let's see what is important to me doing this

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so reflection is intentional practice of pausing

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to look back Not to judge yourself, but to understand

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yourself. It means reviewing your experiences,

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emotions, lessons, mistakes, achievements, and

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moments of growth with honesty and compassion.

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Reflection isn't about reliving the past. It's

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about learning from it. It helps you see patterns,

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celebrate progress, release what no longer serves

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you, and step into a new season with clarity.

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When you reflect with purpose, you reconnect

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with your journey and realize how much strength,

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wisdom and realization you have gained along

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the way. Forgot to mention y 'all. So I break

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down the definition, the five W's into my own

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words, a little bit, a little bit of research.

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And then I go base. I talk about that. I go based

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off of thoughts of just chatting, whatever y

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'all want to call it. So. The whole purpose of

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reflection of the year is just to take a look

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back at how has the year been for you. Like,

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within the emotions, within the experiences you

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learned, the bad times, the good times, what

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you've learned, what you didn't learn, what you

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achieved, what you didn't achieve, but it's overall

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what you have done for yourself that you're proud

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of and maybe what you're not proud of. But it's

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just a whole reflection of what you like to see

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and like to... just see out on the forefront

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of what you have done and how far have you came

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like look how far have you come and i like to

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use like last year impacting this year for me

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like i like to do compare contrast of this year

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and last year so for me last year was 2024 i'll

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say 2024 as i gave it because i look back i did

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a a breakdown of how January and December was

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for me and I rated my whole experience out of

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10 I said I gave it 7 out of 10 and the reason

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for that is because excuse me in the beginning

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of January the beginning of the year when the

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new year started things were going pretty well

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up until I had a health scare. I had a really

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bad breakout that spreaded all over my body and

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it scared the living hell out of me. And I had

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just started my, was it my senior year? I think

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I had just started. No, I started my junior year

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in my program. and I was so nervous. So I was

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like, okay, I just started the program. I don't

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know what's this going to do. Then at that time,

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too, I was still working two jobs, still pushing,

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vibing with E. It was a whole bunch of stuff

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that happened. So from January up until March,

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I was still physically and mentally preparing

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myself for being comfortable with still having

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scars, a little bit of scars on there. having

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to deal with my face like it was it was so much

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and then i still was busting my butt though i

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still was busting my butt when it came to getting

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my grades getting no doing my assignments keep

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my grades up still working both jobs and still

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giving you guys vibing vibe with e let um the

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vibe of the day as well as wellness lessons of

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the day and i was very um well I was very vocal

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about what was going on in my life because one

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thing about me I'm very I'm raw and uncut I'm

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gonna give you I'm not going to just have you

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one certain certain stuff I will say you do have

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to leave people guessing but when it comes to

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my platform and I'm talking about mental health

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and all these things why not let it be known

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because someone I'm someone that may be listening

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probably went through the same thing or going

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through the same thing so I was very vocal about

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what was going on in my life and it was moments

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where I did crash it was moments where I did

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crash and I started going to counseling to help

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me and it started working however it wasn't consistent

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as I am now going to therapy but however April

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April, May. April, I was getting myself together.

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Like, I was finally stepping out a little bit.

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May, when the semester was over, I had received

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my first 4 .0 in college. I was too livid. I

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was too turnt. I was outside here and there.

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I was still working and working and working.

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Well, no. I quit one of my jobs. I had to leave

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one of my jobs because it was too much for me

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mentally to. And so I was at another job. So

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I was still doing good. Still getting things

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going. I did get another job before my birthday

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in July. August came around. I was preparing

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to be at the internship for undergrad at my elementary

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middle school. And things were starting to pick

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up. However, I still had moments where I was

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just like. That's when my senior year came into

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play. I was still like, oh my gosh, it's really

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happening. A lot of nerve wracking. And then

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I reflect on this year, January of this year,

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it went well. However, beginning of February,

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I got the flu and the semester just started again.

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I'm like, oh my gosh, this is a repeat of what

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happened last year. Like, I was like, what the

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hell? But I fought so bad when I had the flu,

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y 'all. Like, I think I told y 'all recently,

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like, it was a... Five of the day that I did.

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It was on Black History Month and Valentine's

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Day. Valentine's is a love month. And I pushed

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myself in the bed, y 'all. I did not record.

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I did not want y 'all to see how drained and

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busted I look. I said, okay, that's a little

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too much. In my voice, it was already enough.

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And I still progressed. So, that was funny. see

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so yeah January it was it started out good because

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we did the rebrand for vibe now with e y 'all

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see the lovely new logo we got um so that went

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well went back to school got sick um but then

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I got myself together then I started to love

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on me a little bit more I started doing things

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I've never done to my like never done like try

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new hairstyles um yeah try new hairstyles was

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getting like my lashes done consistently like

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i was doing a lot for me that i wasn't doing

00:26:58.079 --> 00:27:03.779
for myself before so i was just so like i was

00:27:03.779 --> 00:27:07.500
on cloud nine and still getting and still being

00:27:07.500 --> 00:27:12.720
able to i was still being able to do what is

00:27:12.720 --> 00:27:16.819
necessary for vibing with e started vibing out

00:27:16.819 --> 00:27:22.059
with gas um March came, I was accepted into both

00:27:22.059 --> 00:27:25.079
of the colleges that I applied for for grad school,

00:27:25.180 --> 00:27:26.740
which was only Morgan University of Maryland.

00:27:26.940 --> 00:27:30.420
It was a hard decision to swallow for me to go

00:27:30.420 --> 00:27:32.619
where I wanted to go. I ended up going to University

00:27:32.619 --> 00:27:37.039
of Maryland. my grades were still cool and good

00:27:37.039 --> 00:27:40.859
however I had the paper 16 page paper that paper

00:27:40.859 --> 00:27:44.500
was beating my ass but I did not let that defeat

00:27:44.500 --> 00:27:46.980
me because I still I went then I started like

00:27:46.980 --> 00:27:48.599
doing spring break with my friends we started

00:27:48.599 --> 00:27:50.680
going to the library we helping each other we

00:27:50.680 --> 00:27:53.900
in the library on Saturdays it was so weird how

00:27:53.900 --> 00:27:56.059
the hours were the hours were from nine to six

00:27:56.059 --> 00:28:00.140
on Sundays it was open I think to 12 to 12 like

00:28:00.140 --> 00:28:02.920
we were in that library so much it was like to

00:28:02.920 --> 00:28:05.440
the point where that they knew us by first name

00:28:05.440 --> 00:28:09.180
they knew us by first days like the security

00:28:09.180 --> 00:28:11.160
guards would look out for us everything like

00:28:11.160 --> 00:28:13.559
that so it was good and then every time we went

00:28:13.559 --> 00:28:15.500
to the library we would look at the the state

00:28:15.500 --> 00:28:17.359
the stadium the football field because that's

00:28:17.359 --> 00:28:18.940
what we graduated we was like we would count

00:28:18.940 --> 00:28:21.420
down and we would just take a moment to just

00:28:21.420 --> 00:28:23.660
look at the field and just manifest and just

00:28:23.660 --> 00:28:25.200
be like oh my gosh we almost there we almost

00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:30.220
there may hit my sister went to prom I finished

00:28:30.220 --> 00:28:32.819
out my semester strong again with 4 .0. That

00:28:32.819 --> 00:28:36.839
led me to graduate with Magna Cum Laude with

00:28:36.839 --> 00:28:43.579
higher honors. With higher honors. Yeah, May

00:28:43.579 --> 00:28:47.240
came. Things were going good. It went very well.

00:28:47.359 --> 00:28:49.839
June came. The podcast started two years old.

00:28:50.180 --> 00:28:52.740
I was still doing a lot of stuff then. July,

00:28:52.819 --> 00:28:56.019
my birthday came. I didn't really do much. But

00:28:56.019 --> 00:28:57.880
July, I was still doing what I had to do with

00:28:57.880 --> 00:29:00.660
appearances and things like that. that august

00:29:00.660 --> 00:29:05.079
really dope um yeah so i look back in versus

00:29:05.079 --> 00:29:08.099
last year this year a lot of things shifted and

00:29:08.099 --> 00:29:10.140
a lot of things i hit that i didn't hit last

00:29:10.140 --> 00:29:12.599
year i hit this year and some things i did i

00:29:12.599 --> 00:29:14.960
didn't think i would ever do so when it comes

00:29:14.960 --> 00:29:17.279
to y 'all i just gave my little story so y 'all

00:29:17.279 --> 00:29:19.380
can understand why is it important for y 'all

00:29:19.380 --> 00:29:21.779
to reflect i want y 'all to see how far have

00:29:21.779 --> 00:29:25.950
you come just the whole purpose of seeing why

00:29:25.950 --> 00:29:28.009
reflection on the year is important is to see

00:29:28.009 --> 00:29:30.710
how far you've come and you sitting back and

00:29:30.710 --> 00:29:33.069
oops give me thinking to yourself like damn I

00:29:33.069 --> 00:29:37.769
really and I might have had hit rock bottom but

00:29:37.769 --> 00:29:40.089
I did not let me that did not let that stop me

00:29:40.089 --> 00:29:43.150
because I kept going and now where I'm at I'm

00:29:43.150 --> 00:29:47.369
10 times better or you know where you go zero

00:29:47.369 --> 00:29:49.710
to 100 real quick I had those moments too last

00:29:49.710 --> 00:29:52.049
year even in this year it was like points where

00:29:52.049 --> 00:29:54.970
when I was at internship or school i was like

00:29:54.970 --> 00:29:57.769
i can i don't know like sometimes i would question

00:29:57.769 --> 00:30:00.430
myself like i don't know how i'm doing this but

00:30:00.430 --> 00:30:02.509
i know damn well i'm gonna keep on doing this

00:30:02.509 --> 00:30:05.230
because this is very important for me and the

00:30:05.230 --> 00:30:07.230
whole point too y 'all want to understand that

00:30:07.230 --> 00:30:10.789
when you are you know reflecting on what happened

00:30:10.789 --> 00:30:13.289
don't beat yourself up about it because it was

00:30:13.289 --> 00:30:16.170
bound to happen and at times we'd be like i don't

00:30:16.170 --> 00:30:18.589
know why this happened but at times it's bound

00:30:18.589 --> 00:30:22.390
to happen And that's what I love when it comes

00:30:22.390 --> 00:30:24.670
to the power of reflection of what this year

00:30:24.670 --> 00:30:26.670
has taught me because a lot of things had happened

00:30:26.670 --> 00:30:29.369
in my life that I did not want to happen, but

00:30:29.369 --> 00:30:31.650
it was bound to happen. And I learned a lot from

00:30:31.650 --> 00:30:33.869
it that it helped me so much to where I'm at

00:30:33.869 --> 00:30:36.170
right now. And I hope this is the same way for

00:30:36.170 --> 00:30:38.490
you guys too, because this is a time where you

00:30:38.490 --> 00:30:41.289
get to reflect and also be thankful as it's being

00:30:41.289 --> 00:30:43.390
Thanksgiving week. And if you don't celebrate

00:30:43.390 --> 00:30:45.529
Thanksgiving, just period, just sit back and

00:30:45.529 --> 00:30:48.279
be thankful for what. you have done and how far

00:30:48.279 --> 00:30:50.099
you've come because it could have been 10 times

00:30:50.099 --> 00:30:52.599
worse and sometimes it could be 10 times better

00:30:52.599 --> 00:30:55.039
but i want y 'all to be able to be thankful and

00:30:55.039 --> 00:30:58.420
to be grateful for how far you've come because

00:30:58.420 --> 00:31:01.880
we never really take the time to appreciate them

00:31:01.880 --> 00:31:04.039
small blessings and them small manifestations

00:31:04.039 --> 00:31:06.619
that everything that we have came to we never

00:31:06.619 --> 00:31:09.119
really sit back and really be like dang i did

00:31:09.119 --> 00:31:11.619
not know i was gonna make it this far and i i

00:31:11.619 --> 00:31:16.289
it just be so stuck you know we just be so stuck

00:31:16.289 --> 00:31:19.089
on what's to come but i want you guys to remember

00:31:19.089 --> 00:31:22.549
this be thankful and be able to sit back and

00:31:22.549 --> 00:31:25.309
reflect on your life and be like wow i might

00:31:25.309 --> 00:31:27.190
have hit rock bottom or i might not whatever

00:31:27.190 --> 00:31:29.549
the case may be but i'm thankful i'm still here

00:31:29.549 --> 00:31:31.890
i'm thankful i'm still progressing even if the

00:31:31.890 --> 00:31:34.049
results are not hitting where it is long as i

00:31:34.049 --> 00:31:36.309
see results and i'm appreciative of that and

00:31:36.309 --> 00:31:38.269
i'm thankful for that because it could have been

00:31:38.269 --> 00:31:41.630
even worse so we have to be able to reflect on

00:31:41.630 --> 00:31:44.809
that pause And look back and not judge ourselves,

00:31:45.130 --> 00:31:48.470
but be able to understand ourselves. Because

00:31:48.470 --> 00:31:51.130
I feel like every time a new year come in, y

00:31:51.130 --> 00:31:52.349
'all know what people be like, that new year,

00:31:52.369 --> 00:31:55.230
new me. Everybody don't follow that. Technically,

00:31:55.230 --> 00:31:59.109
we do. Because sometimes when we look at that,

00:31:59.269 --> 00:32:01.089
you know, listen to the phrase and then we think

00:32:01.089 --> 00:32:03.809
about it, we all are impacted by that. Because

00:32:03.809 --> 00:32:06.490
sometimes we don't bring in the stuff that we

00:32:06.490 --> 00:32:08.750
had last year into the new year. And sometimes

00:32:08.750 --> 00:32:13.500
we do a whole 360. on how we want things to go

00:32:13.500 --> 00:32:15.859
for ourselves in the new year so when people

00:32:15.859 --> 00:32:17.960
be like you know new year new me and sometimes

00:32:17.960 --> 00:32:20.200
i'm gonna tell you this first and foremost it's

00:32:20.200 --> 00:32:22.339
not gonna happen overnight so yes you're gonna

00:32:22.339 --> 00:32:24.059
steal some have some character traits from last

00:32:24.059 --> 00:32:26.519
year that you had you bringing a new year okay

00:32:26.519 --> 00:32:28.440
that's fine but i guarantee you when june comes

00:32:28.440 --> 00:32:31.099
you because we like that's what halfway in the

00:32:31.099 --> 00:32:34.660
year you're not going to be that same person

00:32:34.660 --> 00:32:37.319
that you was last year When you get into 2026.

00:32:37.599 --> 00:32:41.220
I promise you that. Because I look like I gave

00:32:41.220 --> 00:32:44.700
y 'all. My mini little snippet. Of how I reflect

00:32:44.700 --> 00:32:48.779
on my year. I look back now. On what it was last

00:32:48.779 --> 00:32:50.759
year. I wouldn't think I would even get this

00:32:50.759 --> 00:32:53.539
far. To the things I did. Or just taking a risk

00:32:53.539 --> 00:32:55.619
and doing all that stuff. So you got to be able

00:32:55.619 --> 00:32:58.299
to appreciate yourself. But also love on yourself.

00:32:59.440 --> 00:33:02.799
Just be thankful for everything you have done

00:33:02.799 --> 00:33:06.319
because it is not easy at all to just be able

00:33:06.319 --> 00:33:08.380
to sit and reflect on what has happened. Some

00:33:08.380 --> 00:33:10.819
people will be like, I'll be damned to sit and

00:33:10.819 --> 00:33:12.559
reflect on what happened to me last year because

00:33:12.559 --> 00:33:16.259
I've been through hell. But then. i get it i

00:33:16.259 --> 00:33:18.799
mean i get it but i want you to be thankful because

00:33:18.799 --> 00:33:21.460
them times had helped you and molded and grounded

00:33:21.460 --> 00:33:24.099
you in the times that you are in now you're in

00:33:24.099 --> 00:33:25.680
a better space you're in a better predicament

00:33:25.680 --> 00:33:27.319
you're in a better relationship you're in a better

00:33:27.319 --> 00:33:28.940
home you're in a better job you're in a better

00:33:28.940 --> 00:33:30.980
whatever it is everything is 10 times better

00:33:30.980 --> 00:33:33.180
than it was last time and i know at times it's

00:33:33.180 --> 00:33:35.380
hard to reflect on that but i'm real big on the

00:33:35.380 --> 00:33:37.880
freak i'm not gonna forget but i'm gonna forgive

00:33:37.880 --> 00:33:40.500
what has happened but in that state i've learned

00:33:40.500 --> 00:33:42.299
from it and i'm thankful and i'm grateful you

00:33:42.299 --> 00:33:44.500
know because we been unthankful for things and

00:33:44.500 --> 00:33:48.000
then we have to be grateful and it happens it

00:33:48.000 --> 00:33:49.779
happens to us we all go through these things

00:33:49.779 --> 00:33:52.059
but i want y 'all to be able to understand that

00:33:52.059 --> 00:33:54.359
your story is your story and don't change it

00:33:54.359 --> 00:33:57.640
for nobody regardless of how high their story

00:33:57.640 --> 00:33:59.559
may be or low because sometimes people don't

00:33:59.559 --> 00:34:01.680
tell you the real some people are not going to

00:34:01.680 --> 00:34:03.259
give you the raw and uncut version but me i'm

00:34:03.259 --> 00:34:04.759
gonna give you the raw and uncut version shoot

00:34:04.759 --> 00:34:07.779
i'm like i cried i had some crash out moments

00:34:07.779 --> 00:34:10.420
i questioned myself so many times because we're

00:34:10.420 --> 00:34:12.679
human and i'm human and i go through these things

00:34:12.679 --> 00:34:16.750
but i had to think i came so far look how far

00:34:16.750 --> 00:34:20.070
i came i can't give up now I'm entitled. You're

00:34:20.070 --> 00:34:22.110
entitled to, my friend, to take a break. But

00:34:22.110 --> 00:34:24.170
don't let nothing or anyone stop you into what

00:34:24.170 --> 00:34:27.449
you're doing. Because you know how far you come

00:34:27.449 --> 00:34:29.889
and how bad you want it. And at times, we do

00:34:29.889 --> 00:34:31.429
have to take a break. And it doesn't make you

00:34:31.429 --> 00:34:33.449
less of a person. But you're going to keep on

00:34:33.449 --> 00:34:35.449
going until you get the results you want. But

00:34:35.449 --> 00:34:38.130
in the meantime, appreciate those small blessings

00:34:38.130 --> 00:34:40.530
you had. As well as just take the time to reflect

00:34:40.530 --> 00:34:43.789
on how far you've come. Because reflection isn't

00:34:43.789 --> 00:34:46.610
about what lived in the past. It's about learning

00:34:46.610 --> 00:34:48.820
from it. So it can help you see that. patterns

00:34:48.820 --> 00:34:51.719
of what has happened see the patterns the celebrations

00:34:51.719 --> 00:34:55.800
and the progress reflecting that you have the

00:34:55.800 --> 00:34:58.159
progress that you have seen as well as releasing

00:34:58.159 --> 00:35:02.679
what no longer serves you and you step into a

00:35:02.679 --> 00:35:04.739
new season with clarity and that's how we're

00:35:04.739 --> 00:35:07.800
going to step into 2026 we're going to step into

00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:10.599
things with new clarity new hope and new everything

00:35:10.599 --> 00:35:13.099
and it's okay to reflect on these things that

00:35:13.099 --> 00:35:17.530
didn't serve us a purpose but We're thankful

00:35:17.530 --> 00:35:19.449
for those things because it helped us get to

00:35:19.449 --> 00:35:21.829
where we are now. So when the next year come

00:35:21.829 --> 00:35:24.469
in, if it comes up again, we know how to handle

00:35:24.469 --> 00:35:28.210
it. Because when you reflect with purpose, you

00:35:28.210 --> 00:35:30.650
connect with your journey and realize how much

00:35:30.650 --> 00:35:32.909
strength of wisdom and realization you have gained

00:35:32.909 --> 00:35:35.789
along the way. So when a new year comes in, it's

00:35:35.789 --> 00:35:37.309
all about what you want to do and how you want

00:35:37.309 --> 00:35:39.809
to do it, my friend. So just look at reflection

00:35:39.809 --> 00:35:42.550
as not reliving the past, but just reflecting

00:35:42.550 --> 00:35:47.429
on how. Things have really hit. Just reflect

00:35:47.429 --> 00:35:50.309
on how things have been. And just looking at,

00:35:50.349 --> 00:35:52.409
just reviewing your experiences, the emotions

00:35:52.409 --> 00:35:55.190
and lessons, mistakes, achievements, and moments

00:35:55.190 --> 00:35:57.750
of growth with honesty and compassion that you

00:35:57.750 --> 00:36:00.150
have overcome. Be proud of yourself regardless

00:36:00.150 --> 00:36:03.110
of how bad things have went. Be proud of yourself

00:36:03.110 --> 00:36:04.750
because you didn't let those things or those

00:36:04.750 --> 00:36:07.170
people stop you. It may have took up time, but

00:36:07.170 --> 00:36:09.429
it's okay. But you still didn't let that defeat

00:36:09.429 --> 00:36:14.940
you and be your whole life. Okay? So next, who

00:36:14.940 --> 00:36:17.920
is impacted? Who is benefit the most from reflecting

00:36:17.920 --> 00:36:21.739
on their year? Everyone is, from children all

00:36:21.739 --> 00:36:25.920
the way up to older adults. Everyone is impacted

00:36:25.920 --> 00:36:28.159
with them being able to sit back and reflect

00:36:28.159 --> 00:36:31.159
on the year. How has the year have been for them?

00:36:31.219 --> 00:36:33.420
How good, how bad, whatever it is. Everyone is

00:36:33.420 --> 00:36:37.679
impacted within reflecting on the year. everyone

00:36:37.679 --> 00:36:39.920
who has lived through challenges transformation

00:36:39.920 --> 00:36:44.280
growth or uncertainties benefits from reflection

00:36:44.280 --> 00:36:47.940
students adjusting to new pressure adults juggling

00:36:47.940 --> 00:36:50.579
responsibility and anyone experiencing emotional

00:36:50.579 --> 00:36:53.900
or personal change Gain clarity from looking

00:36:53.900 --> 00:36:57.019
back. Reflection is compelling for people who

00:36:57.019 --> 00:37:00.280
feel stuck, discouraged, or unsure about their

00:37:00.280 --> 00:37:02.920
next step. When you pause to reflect, you gain

00:37:02.920 --> 00:37:05.639
understanding that helps you move forward stronger,

00:37:05.820 --> 00:37:08.440
smarter, and more grounded. So everyone is impacted

00:37:08.440 --> 00:37:11.119
by this. We're all impacted by this. We all have

00:37:11.119 --> 00:37:14.260
the right to sit back and just think or brainstorm

00:37:14.260 --> 00:37:17.280
or daydream about what the hell has happened

00:37:17.280 --> 00:37:22.389
to us this year. Excuse me. What the hell has

00:37:22.389 --> 00:37:28.170
happened to us this year? What has been good?

00:37:28.969 --> 00:37:32.309
What has been bad? Let's just say it like this.

00:37:34.250 --> 00:37:37.289
Regardless of how many hats you wear, how many

00:37:37.289 --> 00:37:40.469
titles you have, let's take all that out real

00:37:40.469 --> 00:37:43.550
quick. You're still human. Regardless, before

00:37:43.550 --> 00:37:46.150
all those titles came, you were a human. You

00:37:46.150 --> 00:37:48.670
had one name, your government name, before you

00:37:48.670 --> 00:37:52.630
had all these other names. Like me, I was Erica

00:37:52.630 --> 00:37:59.449
before Eve was born. All other names before they

00:37:59.449 --> 00:38:05.690
were born, I was Erica. And I look back at everything

00:38:05.690 --> 00:38:08.469
that has happened this year and I say, thank

00:38:08.469 --> 00:38:13.949
you to Erica for helping me navigate all these.

00:38:15.489 --> 00:38:19.130
and phrases in my life, regardless of if I was

00:38:19.130 --> 00:38:23.030
in E mode or missed such and such mode and missed

00:38:23.030 --> 00:38:26.309
whatever mode, Erica was still there. You got

00:38:26.309 --> 00:38:29.190
to be able to thank yourself because we all are

00:38:29.190 --> 00:38:30.969
impacted with so much in our life. We have to

00:38:30.969 --> 00:38:32.909
be thankful for everything that has came our

00:38:32.909 --> 00:38:35.230
way, as well as not being ashamed to reflect

00:38:35.230 --> 00:38:38.050
on it. At times, it is hard to just reflect,

00:38:38.150 --> 00:38:42.570
but I want y 'all to understand this. We all

00:38:42.570 --> 00:38:44.849
went through some challenges, some trials and

00:38:44.849 --> 00:38:47.250
tribulations. We've all been through friendships,

00:38:47.409 --> 00:38:51.550
relationships that were just not it. And we worked

00:38:51.550 --> 00:38:57.170
so hard to see what, like, we were in the trenches

00:38:57.170 --> 00:39:01.670
manifesting and praying that things will work.

00:39:01.849 --> 00:39:04.090
But it's like, when you've had enough, enough

00:39:04.090 --> 00:39:07.750
is enough. And it's okay to have to say the word.

00:39:08.570 --> 00:39:12.730
f this I'm done I'm done and we all went through

00:39:12.730 --> 00:39:15.550
those things the challenges in our lives I will

00:39:15.550 --> 00:39:17.710
say this challenges really helped me to be where

00:39:17.710 --> 00:39:20.989
I'm at challenges at times were needed when I

00:39:20.989 --> 00:39:23.489
never thought that I was going through a challenge

00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:27.119
challenges can make or break you but I always

00:39:27.119 --> 00:39:29.539
say that in the beginning it's going to break

00:39:29.539 --> 00:39:31.199
you but in the end it's going to make you because

00:39:31.199 --> 00:39:33.199
sometimes it's like I'm going through a challenge

00:39:33.199 --> 00:39:35.519
and it's beating me down like it's beating me

00:39:35.519 --> 00:39:38.639
up so bad but in the end it has helped me so

00:39:38.639 --> 00:39:41.300
much even though I've been through all the Things

00:39:41.300 --> 00:39:43.159
that I've been through within this challenge.

00:39:43.239 --> 00:39:45.699
Like it had me in a chokehold and things like

00:39:45.699 --> 00:39:48.760
that. I did not let this stop what I was doing.

00:39:48.820 --> 00:39:51.460
I didn't quit. I pushed through this challenge.

00:39:51.659 --> 00:39:54.079
I navigated what needed to be navigated. And

00:39:54.079 --> 00:39:56.940
I stood up with my chin up, chest out. And still

00:39:56.940 --> 00:39:59.780
did what had to be done. And I fought that challenge.

00:39:59.860 --> 00:40:02.340
And I fought a good fight. I did a good fight.

00:40:02.539 --> 00:40:06.000
And now look where I'm at. As well as like the

00:40:06.000 --> 00:40:08.840
transformation. We are a transformation in some

00:40:08.840 --> 00:40:11.219
type of way. Physically, mentally, emotionally,

00:40:11.380 --> 00:40:14.219
spiritually, financially, wellness, everything.

00:40:14.639 --> 00:40:18.260
In those areas, we did flourish and transition

00:40:18.260 --> 00:40:20.800
in so many ways. Some people physically did by

00:40:20.800 --> 00:40:23.480
moving away. Some mentally did by just mentally

00:40:23.480 --> 00:40:25.760
not putting their pressure, energy into those

00:40:25.760 --> 00:40:28.780
things. Emotionally, everything of that nature,

00:40:28.800 --> 00:40:30.920
we all been through it. Trust me, I been through.

00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:33.679
I feel like every part of it, but in every different

00:40:33.679 --> 00:40:37.659
parts, in many parts, in different parts of my

00:40:37.659 --> 00:40:42.010
life within this year. And I'm not ashamed of

00:40:42.010 --> 00:40:45.170
it because it was needed. I've been through those

00:40:45.170 --> 00:40:47.190
things and it was needed. It was needed for me

00:40:47.190 --> 00:40:51.429
to separate myself from certain things. It was

00:40:51.429 --> 00:40:54.170
needed for me to mentally grasp things that do

00:40:54.170 --> 00:40:56.389
or do not serve me a purpose financially. Like

00:40:56.389 --> 00:40:59.230
I was like, look, I'm making some money, a good

00:40:59.230 --> 00:41:03.389
amount of money. Still being careful of how I

00:41:03.389 --> 00:41:06.530
spin and how I do these things. Spiritually,

00:41:06.550 --> 00:41:08.389
it was beautiful getting a closer connection

00:41:08.389 --> 00:41:12.409
to the Lord himself. Physically, I'm still moving

00:41:12.409 --> 00:41:14.349
around as much as I can. And also my physical

00:41:14.349 --> 00:41:16.369
appearance. I'm wearing what I want to wear and

00:41:16.369 --> 00:41:18.969
making sure that it fits my standard. As well

00:41:18.969 --> 00:41:23.050
as I'm comfortable with who I am. Because at

00:41:23.050 --> 00:41:24.570
one point in time, we all went through this.

00:41:24.610 --> 00:41:27.829
We were not comfortable in our skin. We were

00:41:27.829 --> 00:41:30.119
not. And I'm going to tell you right now. That

00:41:30.119 --> 00:41:32.260
was a big transformation for me. That was a big

00:41:32.260 --> 00:41:34.460
transition for me to even be finally be comfortable

00:41:34.460 --> 00:41:36.659
with who I am. Like, you know, I could be on

00:41:36.659 --> 00:41:38.519
here all day sometimes. Like I tell y 'all too,

00:41:38.599 --> 00:41:40.900
it was hard as hell for me to be able to sit

00:41:40.900 --> 00:41:43.500
in front of a camera because my biggest issue

00:41:43.500 --> 00:41:45.980
was I might not come looking up to par. Like

00:41:45.980 --> 00:41:48.099
y 'all seen one video I did within the beginning

00:41:48.099 --> 00:41:51.480
of this year. I had the same exact braids, same

00:41:51.480 --> 00:41:54.320
exact style of braids in my head. Lashes was

00:41:54.320 --> 00:41:56.980
on the last straw. And I had my glasses on. And

00:41:56.980 --> 00:41:59.980
I had the nerve to be like, oh, my God, they're

00:41:59.980 --> 00:42:01.139
going to see it. But I was like, you know what?

00:42:01.219 --> 00:42:04.639
I came this far. And this, my whole model is

00:42:04.639 --> 00:42:07.480
raw and uncut. Sometimes you got to see the rawness.

00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:10.179
Sometimes you got to see the reckless and rawness

00:42:10.179 --> 00:42:12.579
in people. Because sometimes you will not see

00:42:12.579 --> 00:42:14.039
all the glam. Sometimes you're going to see the

00:42:14.039 --> 00:42:17.679
roughness. But I still showed up. You still showed

00:42:17.679 --> 00:42:21.480
up. Regardless. Mentally, I'm here. I'm focused.

00:42:21.659 --> 00:42:23.460
I'm in there. But physically, my appearance might

00:42:23.460 --> 00:42:25.400
say another thing. But I guarantee the energy

00:42:25.400 --> 00:42:26.820
and the work that I'm putting in is saying a

00:42:26.820 --> 00:42:28.820
whole other thing. And I know you probably went

00:42:28.820 --> 00:42:30.679
through the same thing, my friend. It's all in

00:42:30.679 --> 00:42:33.380
how you impact with things. It's all how you

00:42:33.380 --> 00:42:35.019
tell the story. It's all about how you carry

00:42:35.019 --> 00:42:37.960
these things. And trust me, we've been through

00:42:37.960 --> 00:42:39.619
these challenges. We've been through these transformations.

00:42:39.840 --> 00:42:42.280
But with all those things happening, we learned

00:42:42.280 --> 00:42:45.400
a lot. We have grown so much. We have growth

00:42:45.400 --> 00:42:48.440
in so many areas that we need to appreciate too.

00:42:48.579 --> 00:42:51.019
Because we always get wrapped up at times within

00:42:51.019 --> 00:42:53.980
like relying on what we didn't do. We need to

00:42:53.980 --> 00:42:57.019
be relying on things that we did do. Going back

00:42:57.019 --> 00:42:59.500
to, excuse me, like I said, bad times don't last

00:42:59.500 --> 00:43:04.679
forever. They do not last forever. Because the

00:43:04.679 --> 00:43:07.320
bad times, bad times don't last forever. Because

00:43:07.320 --> 00:43:09.579
after every storm, there is going to be a rainbow.

00:43:10.469 --> 00:43:12.690
If you can't see it, it's out there, though.

00:43:13.269 --> 00:43:15.530
Trust me, I may not cannot be able to see it,

00:43:15.570 --> 00:43:19.750
but it's there. And this is what growth is like.

00:43:19.829 --> 00:43:21.769
We go through these bad times, like the challenges

00:43:21.769 --> 00:43:23.369
and transformation that we go through that we

00:43:23.369 --> 00:43:25.909
may not want it to happen. But then the growth

00:43:25.909 --> 00:43:28.730
side is like, OK, the bad times, they happen.

00:43:28.949 --> 00:43:32.750
But here is the rainbow, the sunshine, the pot

00:43:32.750 --> 00:43:34.369
of gold, whatever light in the tunnel that's

00:43:34.369 --> 00:43:36.820
helping me to help me. and help me understand

00:43:36.820 --> 00:43:39.940
that i have done so much i've grown in so many

00:43:39.940 --> 00:43:42.000
areas that i may not have seen the growth in

00:43:42.000 --> 00:43:44.480
and i tell you you will see growth when you're

00:43:44.480 --> 00:43:46.639
able to deal with situations that you used to

00:43:46.639 --> 00:43:48.599
in the past that used to just eat you up so bad

00:43:48.599 --> 00:43:52.780
as now like i'm not doing this for me mentally

00:43:52.780 --> 00:43:56.079
i've seen growth for myself when it came to just

00:43:56.079 --> 00:43:58.980
knowing how to if my mom would say hold and fold

00:43:58.980 --> 00:44:01.019
my thoughts and feelings with certain things

00:44:01.019 --> 00:44:04.800
in certain situations with people like family

00:44:05.309 --> 00:44:07.190
friends they're gonna they're gonna take you

00:44:07.190 --> 00:44:09.929
there and sometimes it's gonna take you to the

00:44:09.929 --> 00:44:12.750
point where you have to see for yourself some

00:44:12.750 --> 00:44:14.630
will do it in front of crowds and some won't

00:44:14.630 --> 00:44:16.070
do it in front of crowds some will do behind

00:44:16.070 --> 00:44:18.650
doors closed doors whatever i don't care what

00:44:18.650 --> 00:44:21.889
it is when you had enough you had enough and

00:44:21.889 --> 00:44:24.909
you give it to them the most polite way possible

00:44:24.909 --> 00:44:28.230
i dealt with this this year i never thought it

00:44:28.230 --> 00:44:31.250
would come to this point but the growth in me

00:44:32.880 --> 00:44:36.199
by me going to therapy but also by me being able

00:44:36.199 --> 00:44:41.780
to know is it even worth it the situation was

00:44:41.780 --> 00:44:44.099
not as good as I wanted it to be a few other

00:44:44.099 --> 00:44:46.800
situations but I had to think okay I'm gonna

00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:49.619
tell you how I feel respectfully as an adult

00:44:49.619 --> 00:44:53.559
that I am and I'm gonna get out my chest I'm

00:44:53.559 --> 00:44:55.099
gonna come to you correct and I'm not gonna come

00:44:55.099 --> 00:44:58.480
to you wrong and I said what I said if you like

00:44:58.480 --> 00:45:00.780
it oh well and if not that's okay But respect

00:45:00.780 --> 00:45:03.599
is a thing that I had learned that I have growth

00:45:03.599 --> 00:45:06.019
within me, me being vocal for myself and not

00:45:06.019 --> 00:45:07.900
being ashamed of it. Because sometimes I used

00:45:07.900 --> 00:45:09.500
to be vocal with people and then I feel like

00:45:09.500 --> 00:45:11.780
I regret it because I feel like, okay, our friendship,

00:45:11.860 --> 00:45:14.599
our relationship is done with because I said

00:45:14.599 --> 00:45:17.420
how I felt. No, and I'm even teaching my students,

00:45:17.440 --> 00:45:20.619
do not be ashamed on expressing your feelings

00:45:20.619 --> 00:45:22.460
because you don't want nobody treating you like

00:45:22.460 --> 00:45:25.400
a lap dog. And you know, you're not, that's not

00:45:25.400 --> 00:45:28.780
you. And I'm really big on feelings because we

00:45:28.780 --> 00:45:31.960
all have feelings. And when it comes to wellness

00:45:31.960 --> 00:45:35.619
education that I love to talk about, your feelings

00:45:35.619 --> 00:45:38.139
matter regardless of how big or small it is or

00:45:38.139 --> 00:45:39.760
how big or small the situation is. Your feelings

00:45:39.760 --> 00:45:42.659
matter and it's valid because people think at

00:45:42.659 --> 00:45:44.880
times, oh yeah, I'm going to tell you how it

00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:47.550
is and whoop -de -whoop, wop -wop -wop. No, I'm

00:45:47.550 --> 00:45:49.449
going to tell you 10 times better in a way that

00:45:49.449 --> 00:45:51.750
you may not can handle it. And when you give

00:45:51.750 --> 00:45:54.289
people the energy that they didn't think they

00:45:54.289 --> 00:45:56.590
were going to receive, like you cool, calm, and

00:45:56.590 --> 00:45:58.849
collect, that's the growth right there. Because

00:45:58.849 --> 00:46:01.650
not seeing growth will be you matching their

00:46:01.650 --> 00:46:03.369
energy. Y 'all fussing back with each other.

00:46:03.389 --> 00:46:05.789
You loud. You in their face. You cussing. Y 'all

00:46:05.789 --> 00:46:08.429
fussing. You fighting. It's not worth it. In

00:46:08.429 --> 00:46:09.989
those situations that I've been through, I've

00:46:09.989 --> 00:46:11.469
seen growth within myself. I'm like, you know

00:46:11.469 --> 00:46:14.150
what? It's not worth it. It's not really. It's

00:46:14.150 --> 00:46:16.869
not meant for me to sit here and give you the

00:46:16.869 --> 00:46:18.429
same treatment that you're giving me because

00:46:18.429 --> 00:46:20.150
I'm going to respect you. I'm going to treat

00:46:20.150 --> 00:46:21.969
you. You're going to treat me like a lady and

00:46:21.969 --> 00:46:23.869
I'm going to treat you like a human. I'm going

00:46:23.869 --> 00:46:27.309
to treat you like the human that you are. Let's

00:46:27.309 --> 00:46:28.429
just say that. You're going to treat me like

00:46:28.429 --> 00:46:29.750
a human. I'm going to treat you like a human,

00:46:29.809 --> 00:46:31.289
but you're not going to talk to me like I'm a

00:46:31.289 --> 00:46:34.230
child or a lap dog or nothing of that nature.

00:46:34.510 --> 00:46:36.869
Not going to do that. Let's say you're not going

00:46:36.869 --> 00:46:39.429
to talk to me like a pet. Okay. You're not going

00:46:39.429 --> 00:46:43.480
to talk to me crazy. And with growth. And in

00:46:43.480 --> 00:46:46.159
that area when you see like okay things that

00:46:46.159 --> 00:46:48.820
used to just get you on the edge of you to curse

00:46:48.820 --> 00:46:50.760
people and stuff Growth is when you be like,

00:46:50.840 --> 00:46:52.059
you know, well, let me sit back and really think

00:46:52.059 --> 00:46:55.239
about this Is it worth me going toe to toe with

00:46:55.239 --> 00:46:58.280
you? Is it worth me going to jail? And sacrifice

00:46:58.280 --> 00:47:00.719
everything I got because you acting like a child

00:47:00.719 --> 00:47:03.539
and you acting like a lap dog and you acting

00:47:03.539 --> 00:47:07.389
out of character Hell nah not doing that because

00:47:07.389 --> 00:47:10.289
my wellness is impacting what I have going on

00:47:10.289 --> 00:47:13.230
and if I learned nothing this year I learned

00:47:13.230 --> 00:47:16.409
this you don't have to match energy with energy

00:47:16.409 --> 00:47:19.030
you don't gotta match it you do not have to match

00:47:19.030 --> 00:47:21.349
negative with negative someone has to be positive

00:47:21.349 --> 00:47:23.469
somebody gotta be the big person like I tell

00:47:23.469 --> 00:47:25.550
my students mostly my girls you gotta be a big

00:47:25.550 --> 00:47:28.050
girl sometimes you have to be the big girl it's

00:47:28.050 --> 00:47:30.670
hard I know it's like oh my gosh he or she should

00:47:30.670 --> 00:47:32.269
I'm gonna give them what they want but it's like

00:47:32.269 --> 00:47:36.300
at the end of the day what's the purpose? When

00:47:36.300 --> 00:47:38.840
you say what you say, it's like, okay, I did

00:47:38.840 --> 00:47:40.480
it and now I still don't feel good because I

00:47:40.480 --> 00:47:42.440
feel like I should have did something else. And

00:47:42.440 --> 00:47:43.840
I didn't want that too. I was like, you know,

00:47:43.920 --> 00:47:48.280
I'm a big girl now. I cannot let certain things

00:47:48.280 --> 00:47:51.460
and issues, people and stuff get to me no more.

00:47:52.280 --> 00:47:55.860
I've learned that with the reflection of this

00:47:55.860 --> 00:47:58.710
year, within the power of reflection of... This

00:47:58.710 --> 00:48:00.869
year, like what has this year taught me? One

00:48:00.869 --> 00:48:02.750
thing I will most likely say is growth. I've

00:48:02.750 --> 00:48:05.849
grown in so many areas that I think I couldn't

00:48:05.849 --> 00:48:07.849
grow into, that I thought I couldn't grow into.

00:48:08.190 --> 00:48:11.889
But now I know I've grown into them because I've

00:48:11.889 --> 00:48:14.170
seen firsthand when an incident had happened

00:48:14.170 --> 00:48:16.889
that the old me would have been matching energy.

00:48:17.010 --> 00:48:19.050
We would have been in each other's face. Fingers

00:48:19.050 --> 00:48:21.429
would have been pointing at everything. And this

00:48:21.429 --> 00:48:24.469
year I've learned that back back, you back yourself

00:48:24.469 --> 00:48:27.380
up. You speak to them like an adult. They can

00:48:27.380 --> 00:48:29.860
yell and scream all they want because you don't

00:48:29.860 --> 00:48:31.360
want to yell and scream with them. Because they

00:48:31.360 --> 00:48:33.199
say to you, when a loud person is in a room,

00:48:33.320 --> 00:48:35.519
they're the one that's doing too much. They're

00:48:35.519 --> 00:48:37.159
guilty and they're doing too much, which is true.

00:48:38.619 --> 00:48:40.800
But I've learned, too, that growth is, you know,

00:48:40.820 --> 00:48:44.179
just stop walking away. Seeing the things that

00:48:44.179 --> 00:48:47.900
used to bring you down and baggage and stuff

00:48:47.900 --> 00:48:50.400
doesn't impact with you no more. The growth of

00:48:50.400 --> 00:48:52.679
it is you flourish in so many ways you thought

00:48:52.679 --> 00:48:55.980
you couldn't. that you thought you couldn't,

00:48:55.980 --> 00:48:58.639
that has helped you to understand also to the

00:48:58.639 --> 00:49:02.059
uncertain benefits that doesn't serve a purpose

00:49:02.059 --> 00:49:05.139
for you no more. And that's why it's important

00:49:05.139 --> 00:49:08.599
for all of us to understand that we all are impacted

00:49:08.599 --> 00:49:10.820
with reflecting on how the year has been for

00:49:10.820 --> 00:49:14.860
us. We're all impacted by reflecting on how has

00:49:14.860 --> 00:49:17.219
this year been for you, regardless how good or

00:49:17.219 --> 00:49:21.340
bad it is. Just sit back and be like, hmm, it

00:49:21.340 --> 00:49:24.949
taught me a lot. It taught me something because

00:49:24.949 --> 00:49:26.989
it's impossible for you to not learn nothing.

00:49:27.349 --> 00:49:29.550
But it's going to teach you something because

00:49:29.550 --> 00:49:32.670
reflection will also help you with it. Reflection

00:49:32.670 --> 00:49:35.670
is compelling for people who have felt stuck,

00:49:35.889 --> 00:49:39.110
discouraged, or unsure about their next step.

00:49:39.230 --> 00:49:40.769
I want you to know when you pause and reflect,

00:49:40.909 --> 00:49:44.210
my friend, you're going to gain so much understanding.

00:49:44.269 --> 00:49:47.110
It's going to help you within the next year for

00:49:47.110 --> 00:49:50.150
you to move forward, to be stronger, to think

00:49:50.150 --> 00:49:53.980
smarter. And to be more grounded in things that

00:49:53.980 --> 00:49:56.440
serve your purpose and that doesn't. And I know

00:49:56.440 --> 00:49:58.420
it hurts at times when we be like, oh my gosh,

00:49:58.440 --> 00:50:00.500
I should not feel that way. I should not do that

00:50:00.500 --> 00:50:03.440
way. Your mental health matters. Your peace matters.

00:50:04.159 --> 00:50:07.340
Everything that you stand for matters within

00:50:07.340 --> 00:50:09.619
your wellness. Don't let nobody take advantage

00:50:09.619 --> 00:50:12.500
of something that you have. Because most of the

00:50:12.500 --> 00:50:13.920
time they want to do that because they're jealous

00:50:13.920 --> 00:50:17.880
of you. Or they want to see you down. Don't be

00:50:17.880 --> 00:50:19.440
a fool for these people. And don't let nobody

00:50:19.440 --> 00:50:26.719
fool you. Okay. Next, what is the benefit? What

00:50:26.719 --> 00:50:30.079
happens when you take time to reflect intentionally?

00:50:32.000 --> 00:50:34.400
What I'm going to say is when you take the time

00:50:34.400 --> 00:50:37.980
to reflect intentionally about yourself, that's

00:50:37.980 --> 00:50:40.000
where all the self -awareness, the self -worth,

00:50:40.159 --> 00:50:43.579
the self -care, the self... Everything impacting

00:50:43.579 --> 00:50:46.500
self comes into play. When you take the time

00:50:46.500 --> 00:50:48.679
to sit back and just reflect on what has been

00:50:48.679 --> 00:50:51.159
going on intentionally with your life, you're

00:50:51.159 --> 00:50:53.260
thinking about self. Everything impacting self

00:50:53.260 --> 00:50:57.739
-care, self -affirmation, self... intuition whatever

00:50:57.739 --> 00:51:00.519
everything self comes into play where you reflect

00:51:00.519 --> 00:51:03.019
on how things have been going for yourself you're

00:51:03.019 --> 00:51:05.360
reflecting on yourself intentionally for you

00:51:05.360 --> 00:51:08.099
and just only you and taking to see what was

00:51:08.099 --> 00:51:10.539
the benefit that has impacted with me within

00:51:10.539 --> 00:51:13.280
myself what has this done for me how has this

00:51:13.280 --> 00:51:16.460
been important how does impact gotta etc etc

00:51:17.039 --> 00:51:20.000
So reflection strengthens self -awareness. It

00:51:20.000 --> 00:51:22.559
helps you identify what worked, what drains you,

00:51:22.619 --> 00:51:25.159
what brought you joy, and what needs to change.

00:51:25.440 --> 00:51:27.760
When you reflect, you gain emotional clarity,

00:51:28.000 --> 00:51:30.900
reduce intentional pressure, and see yourself

00:51:30.900 --> 00:51:35.579
from a more compassive perspective, compassionate

00:51:35.579 --> 00:51:40.119
perspective, perspective. Reflection also boosts

00:51:40.119 --> 00:51:43.619
confidence by rewarding, by reminding you and

00:51:43.619 --> 00:51:46.400
rewarding you of what you have overcome and achieved,

00:51:46.679 --> 00:51:49.679
even things you forgot to celebrate. Ultimately,

00:51:50.000 --> 00:51:54.389
reflection transformations your mind allowing

00:51:54.389 --> 00:51:57.369
you to make more intentional decisions in the

00:51:57.369 --> 00:52:00.469
future. So like I said, going back into like

00:52:00.469 --> 00:52:02.889
what happens when you take the time to reflect

00:52:02.889 --> 00:52:06.269
intentionally, it's all about self, your self

00:52:06.269 --> 00:52:08.150
-awareness. You're reflecting on a lot of self

00:52:08.150 --> 00:52:11.030
-awareness, things that would work for you. I

00:52:11.030 --> 00:52:13.050
want you to sit back and be like, what worked

00:52:13.050 --> 00:52:16.170
for me this year? I don't care how big or small

00:52:16.170 --> 00:52:18.230
it is. What really worked for me this year? And

00:52:18.230 --> 00:52:20.809
how did it help me mentally, physically, emotionally,

00:52:21.150 --> 00:52:23.869
spiritually, financially, well -being, whatever

00:52:23.869 --> 00:52:27.489
it is. How did this help me so much? As well

00:52:27.489 --> 00:52:31.010
as what drained you? I think for me too, what

00:52:31.010 --> 00:52:34.690
has really been versus this year, last year.

00:52:34.730 --> 00:52:36.929
Last year, I was able to point out so many things

00:52:36.929 --> 00:52:39.730
that drained me so fast. It was so hard to identify

00:52:39.730 --> 00:52:42.349
what really made me happy. It was so hard to

00:52:42.349 --> 00:52:45.289
really figure out what. would work for me sometimes

00:52:45.289 --> 00:52:50.010
but this year I could say okay these things really

00:52:50.010 --> 00:52:53.210
drain me but these things work for me because

00:52:53.210 --> 00:52:58.250
I took that vow to be more positive of certain

00:52:58.250 --> 00:53:01.510
situations that were negative than to make it

00:53:01.510 --> 00:53:05.000
be worked up for me and to drain me If that makes

00:53:05.000 --> 00:53:07.380
sense. So I want you guys to just reflect on

00:53:07.380 --> 00:53:08.760
like, okay, what really worked for me? Okay,

00:53:08.880 --> 00:53:11.519
this worked for me. I did that for me when I

00:53:11.519 --> 00:53:13.739
left this person alone. When I left this job

00:53:13.739 --> 00:53:16.360
alone, that worked for me. What drains me was

00:53:16.360 --> 00:53:18.480
when I kept going back and forth with these people.

00:53:18.539 --> 00:53:21.679
When I kept pushing and pressuring myself. And

00:53:21.679 --> 00:53:23.219
it's what I kept saying I'm not going to do.

00:53:23.219 --> 00:53:25.800
And I kept doing like whatever drained me. As

00:53:25.800 --> 00:53:28.599
well as what brought you joy. What overall, even

00:53:28.599 --> 00:53:30.699
though you went to these things work for you.

00:53:31.159 --> 00:53:33.579
These things did not, but what really brought

00:53:33.579 --> 00:53:36.840
me joy was this, doing this, having this, becoming

00:53:36.840 --> 00:53:39.579
a mom, becoming a dad, becoming a sister, a brother,

00:53:39.739 --> 00:53:41.880
becoming an auntie, whatever, becoming a business

00:53:41.880 --> 00:53:44.619
owner, becoming this, becoming that. These things

00:53:44.619 --> 00:53:47.699
have really brought me joy as well as what I

00:53:47.699 --> 00:53:50.909
need to change. I know I've been through some

00:53:50.909 --> 00:53:52.849
good and some bad times, but something got to

00:53:52.849 --> 00:53:54.690
give and something got to give now. And this

00:53:54.690 --> 00:53:56.650
is what I need to change. I need to change how

00:53:56.650 --> 00:53:58.969
I feel about this. I need to change how I feel

00:53:58.969 --> 00:54:00.989
about myself within this. I need to change how

00:54:00.989 --> 00:54:03.449
my work ethics. I need to change how I talk to

00:54:03.449 --> 00:54:04.949
people. I need to change how I talk to myself.

00:54:05.269 --> 00:54:09.469
I need to change how. um i spend my money whatever

00:54:09.469 --> 00:54:13.110
it is it's all impacting you my friend that impacts

00:54:13.110 --> 00:54:15.369
was when you reflect you gain emotional clarity

00:54:15.369 --> 00:54:17.630
you gain the emotional clarity for yourself that

00:54:17.630 --> 00:54:20.110
no one else will know for yourself You will see

00:54:20.110 --> 00:54:24.570
what helps me emotionally and what doesn't help

00:54:24.570 --> 00:54:27.309
me emotionally. As well as reducing the intentional

00:54:27.309 --> 00:54:30.289
pressure you have on yourself. We all have so

00:54:30.289 --> 00:54:32.989
much pressure built up that at times it blows

00:54:32.989 --> 00:54:35.809
up. And at times we be like, was it even worth

00:54:35.809 --> 00:54:38.349
me blowing up on this person? Was it even worth

00:54:38.349 --> 00:54:41.349
me blowing up on this thing or situation? What

00:54:41.349 --> 00:54:43.510
was really it? We have the emotional clarity.

00:54:43.530 --> 00:54:46.039
It's like, okay. I'm not going to let this happen

00:54:46.039 --> 00:54:47.320
to me because I've been through this before.

00:54:47.480 --> 00:54:49.000
I'm not going to let this happen because it's

00:54:49.000 --> 00:54:51.320
not worth it. This is where everything falls

00:54:51.320 --> 00:54:54.440
into. What's the benefit and why is it important

00:54:54.440 --> 00:54:57.760
for you to do these things? As well as to reduce

00:54:57.760 --> 00:55:01.099
the intentional pressure. We all have these pressure

00:55:01.099 --> 00:55:02.980
build up. These pressure build walls and all

00:55:02.980 --> 00:55:05.159
that. We got to let some of these things go.

00:55:05.579 --> 00:55:08.820
And seeing yourself for a more compassionate

00:55:08.820 --> 00:55:14.000
perspective. compassion is something that we

00:55:14.000 --> 00:55:16.380
have for others that at times we don't have for

00:55:16.380 --> 00:55:19.099
ourselves. We're always there to give the love

00:55:19.099 --> 00:55:21.159
and feel the love, but we don't really feel for

00:55:21.159 --> 00:55:23.820
ourselves. And compassion and empathy is something

00:55:23.820 --> 00:55:25.780
that we always give to each other, but have we

00:55:25.780 --> 00:55:28.780
really gave it to ourselves? Once you sit back

00:55:28.780 --> 00:55:31.260
and think like, have I gave myself enough compassion

00:55:31.260 --> 00:55:35.420
and empathy this year? If not, I need to start

00:55:35.420 --> 00:55:38.039
doing that. And the new year still is appreciate

00:55:38.039 --> 00:55:41.119
myself more. I need to pour more into my cup

00:55:41.119 --> 00:55:43.820
before I can pour into someone else's. Even though,

00:55:43.820 --> 00:55:45.800
yes, I'm not going to take this away from nobody

00:55:45.800 --> 00:55:48.320
because I'm a part of this too. Helping people,

00:55:48.340 --> 00:55:50.599
that's a part of your DNA. Love that down for

00:55:50.599 --> 00:55:53.239
you. You're a giver more than you are a receiver.

00:55:53.980 --> 00:55:57.480
Hey, I'm here for it. But sometimes us givers

00:55:57.480 --> 00:55:59.820
need to receive for ourselves. We need to receive

00:55:59.820 --> 00:56:02.699
things for ourselves before we can give to people

00:56:02.699 --> 00:56:06.469
so they can receive from us. whatever it is we

00:56:06.469 --> 00:56:09.570
have to give to ourselves so we can receive the

00:56:09.570 --> 00:56:13.030
love and energy the prosperity the goodness and

00:56:13.030 --> 00:56:14.949
all those good things for ourselves before we

00:56:14.949 --> 00:56:17.570
can give it to others because if we don't do

00:56:17.570 --> 00:56:19.730
that for ourselves it's like we're not showing

00:56:19.730 --> 00:56:21.690
up for ourselves but we're quick to show up for

00:56:21.690 --> 00:56:27.179
others you know We have to do what's for us as

00:56:27.179 --> 00:56:29.719
before we can step out on the forefront and be

00:56:29.719 --> 00:56:32.840
like, hey, I got you. Because like I say to you,

00:56:32.860 --> 00:56:35.579
even superheroes need to love on their self before

00:56:35.579 --> 00:56:37.579
they can go out there and save the day. They

00:56:37.579 --> 00:56:39.940
need to prepare their self for what's to come

00:56:39.940 --> 00:56:43.300
before they get prepared for others. As well

00:56:43.300 --> 00:56:47.000
as reflecting also helps us boost our confidence.

00:56:48.280 --> 00:56:50.760
It may be crazy, but it reminds us of everything

00:56:50.760 --> 00:56:53.480
that has been going on. It reminds us what we

00:56:53.480 --> 00:56:56.300
have overcome and achieved, even things we forgot

00:56:56.300 --> 00:57:02.079
to celebrate. One thing about it, y 'all. I like

00:57:02.079 --> 00:57:06.780
to say this. You are your biggest cheerleader,

00:57:06.860 --> 00:57:09.599
even if people are not going to cheer for you

00:57:09.599 --> 00:57:12.960
like you cheer for yourself. And one thing I

00:57:12.960 --> 00:57:15.260
have a big problem of this year that I have to

00:57:15.260 --> 00:57:17.260
learn when it comes to the new year is that sometimes

00:57:17.260 --> 00:57:21.320
you have. to do expect more from yourself than

00:57:21.320 --> 00:57:24.539
you expect from others especially when it comes

00:57:24.539 --> 00:57:29.420
to reminding yourself of what you have overcome

00:57:29.420 --> 00:57:31.940
and achieved sometimes we always look for other

00:57:31.940 --> 00:57:35.340
people's opinion to see and to give us our flowers

00:57:35.340 --> 00:57:38.820
and our applause my friend if you're just like

00:57:38.820 --> 00:57:41.420
me or you know someone that's just in a situation

00:57:41.420 --> 00:57:44.179
like me When you step into the new year, I want

00:57:44.179 --> 00:57:46.500
you to love on yourself so hard. I want you to

00:57:46.500 --> 00:57:49.179
not think about anybody else's opinion unless

00:57:49.179 --> 00:57:51.599
it's necessary for you to get their opinion,

00:57:51.679 --> 00:57:54.719
like on a job or a business type of thing that

00:57:54.719 --> 00:57:56.780
you need to get their opinion. If it's a personal,

00:57:56.880 --> 00:57:59.840
a goal, achievement you did, my friend, you don't

00:57:59.840 --> 00:58:01.159
even have to tell the world. You tell the world

00:58:01.159 --> 00:58:02.559
when you're ready, whatever the case may be.

00:58:02.639 --> 00:58:04.860
But the moment you see the progress or you get

00:58:04.860 --> 00:58:07.130
the results, whatever you need. That's when you

00:58:07.130 --> 00:58:09.610
honor and you celebrate yourself, regardless

00:58:09.610 --> 00:58:12.610
of how big or small the over you have overcome

00:58:12.610 --> 00:58:15.949
within this achievement or whatever you have

00:58:15.949 --> 00:58:18.650
overcome or the achievement is celebrated because

00:58:18.650 --> 00:58:21.050
we do lose sight of forgetting the things that

00:58:21.050 --> 00:58:24.130
we have achieved and overcome because we forget

00:58:24.130 --> 00:58:26.989
to celebrate ourselves. When we're so eager to

00:58:26.989 --> 00:58:29.110
celebrate others at times, they may not be able

00:58:29.110 --> 00:58:31.599
to celebrate us. This is where we take the chance

00:58:31.599 --> 00:58:33.460
to celebrate ourselves. Even though, like, for

00:58:33.460 --> 00:58:35.920
me, it's scary still because sometimes I do want

00:58:35.920 --> 00:58:37.900
people to celebrate with me. But then sometimes

00:58:37.900 --> 00:58:39.960
you got to think, do I want these people around

00:58:39.960 --> 00:58:42.599
me that I have to keep looking behind my shoulder

00:58:42.599 --> 00:58:44.360
to make sure they can talk about me in the midst

00:58:44.360 --> 00:58:47.280
of me having the spotlight? Because that's another

00:58:47.280 --> 00:58:49.280
thing to y 'all I've seen. When you have the

00:58:49.280 --> 00:58:51.179
spotlight, sometimes it's like you don't want

00:58:51.179 --> 00:58:53.900
it. again like me personally like graduation

00:58:53.900 --> 00:58:56.380
things like that I don't do the big parties because

00:58:56.380 --> 00:59:00.539
I just am very frightened of having a spotlight

00:59:00.539 --> 00:59:03.480
and it gets taken from you or you have the spotlight

00:59:03.480 --> 00:59:05.739
and it still feel like it's not your spotlight

00:59:05.739 --> 00:59:10.610
because of x y and z but I'll say this When you

00:59:10.610 --> 00:59:13.230
do have things and moments of your life, celebrate

00:59:13.230 --> 00:59:15.309
it with the ones that you know for a fact you

00:59:15.309 --> 00:59:17.829
love. And they're your reasons. Celebrate with

00:59:17.829 --> 00:59:20.090
your reasons, not the seasons. And you know that

00:59:20.090 --> 00:59:22.110
they're going to love you. And they're going

00:59:22.110 --> 00:59:24.130
to celebrate with you because it's all about

00:59:24.130 --> 00:59:26.070
you. And they're pouring into you things like

00:59:26.070 --> 00:59:29.570
that. Or if you don't want to do that, sometimes

00:59:29.570 --> 00:59:31.409
we got to celebrate and love on ourselves a little

00:59:31.409 --> 00:59:32.929
bit hard. Sometimes we got to do for ourselves.

00:59:33.309 --> 00:59:35.150
And then sometimes people be like, you know what?

00:59:35.849 --> 00:59:37.750
And most of the time I don't do these things

00:59:37.750 --> 00:59:39.210
because I don't want to be bothered with people.

00:59:39.349 --> 00:59:40.809
I don't want to do this and that because I just

00:59:40.809 --> 00:59:42.909
don't want to do it no more. God do what's for

00:59:42.909 --> 00:59:46.090
you. But overall, my friend, I want you to appreciate

00:59:46.090 --> 00:59:49.230
and celebrate every accomplishment or whatever

00:59:49.230 --> 00:59:51.690
you have done. And starting in the new year to

00:59:51.690 --> 00:59:54.150
level yourself a little bit harder because we

00:59:54.150 --> 00:59:56.909
can lose sight of these things. We can forget

00:59:56.909 --> 01:00:00.010
to love on ourselves. We can forget to celebrate

01:00:00.010 --> 01:00:02.869
ourselves because no one knows how hard it was

01:00:02.869 --> 01:00:07.050
for us to get to where we are. us so I want you

01:00:07.050 --> 01:00:10.849
to reflect on this year coming up and reflect

01:00:10.849 --> 01:00:13.730
on this year to see if I celebrate myself enough

01:00:13.730 --> 01:00:16.710
if I loved myself a little enough if I didn't

01:00:16.710 --> 01:00:19.949
in a new year I'm going out with a bang I'm going

01:00:19.949 --> 01:00:22.449
in with a bang I'm going in with a bang and I'm

01:00:22.449 --> 01:00:24.489
going to go out with a bang next year the same

01:00:24.489 --> 01:00:27.690
way with a good one because you have to pour

01:00:27.690 --> 01:00:29.789
into yourself harder before anyone else can pour

01:00:29.789 --> 01:00:32.599
into you You can help as much as possible, but

01:00:32.599 --> 01:00:34.800
you know what's for you. And that impacts with

01:00:34.800 --> 01:00:38.179
you. Reflection is transforming your mindset

01:00:38.179 --> 01:00:40.840
as well and allowing you to make more intentional

01:00:40.840 --> 01:00:43.300
decisions for your future. You have to do what's

01:00:43.300 --> 01:00:44.900
best for you before you can do it for anyone

01:00:44.900 --> 01:00:47.239
else within helping them navigate the world.

01:00:47.320 --> 01:00:49.639
You have to do what's necessary for you, my friend,

01:00:49.739 --> 01:00:52.400
and take advantage of it every day. But reflect

01:00:52.400 --> 01:00:54.760
on the things you didn't do. If you didn't celebrate

01:00:54.760 --> 01:00:57.159
yourself a little harder stuff, do it this year,

01:00:57.179 --> 01:01:01.050
next year coming in. Because you matter. and

01:01:01.050 --> 01:01:03.150
this is about you my friend it's all about you

01:01:03.150 --> 01:01:06.969
this is the power within reflecting on what this

01:01:06.969 --> 01:01:09.570
year taught me so when the next when a new year

01:01:09.570 --> 01:01:12.269
come what I learned this year I'm putting it

01:01:12.269 --> 01:01:15.949
into the new year so I can see so I can put into

01:01:15.949 --> 01:01:18.369
the action and see for myself that I've learned

01:01:18.369 --> 01:01:20.590
this last year so I'm putting in the work for

01:01:20.590 --> 01:01:22.190
this year and making sure that's going to come

01:01:22.190 --> 01:01:24.630
true if it don't come over even if it don't come

01:01:24.630 --> 01:01:26.269
overnight because it's not going to happen overnight

01:01:26.269 --> 01:01:28.869
long as I'm putting in that work Putting in that

01:01:28.869 --> 01:01:31.250
pressure. So I can see how far I've come. So

01:01:31.250 --> 01:01:33.289
I can praise and applaud myself before anybody

01:01:33.289 --> 01:01:38.110
else. And try to get any type of comments or

01:01:38.110 --> 01:01:43.949
victory from anyone else. So when should you

01:01:43.949 --> 01:01:46.449
reflect? When is the most important time to pause

01:01:46.449 --> 01:01:50.090
and look back? Anytime. I don't care if it's

01:01:50.090 --> 01:01:52.190
the morning, evening, afternoon, middle of the

01:01:52.190 --> 01:01:55.449
night. You wake up, reflect on any time of the

01:01:55.449 --> 01:02:00.119
day. I don't care. do it because you it also

01:02:00.119 --> 01:02:03.539
gives you a flashback of like hmm you deep diving

01:02:03.539 --> 01:02:07.260
into what has gone on and sometimes we look back

01:02:07.260 --> 01:02:09.460
be like damn this really happened sometimes we

01:02:09.460 --> 01:02:12.420
be like damn this really happened like the tone

01:02:12.420 --> 01:02:15.559
and the voice you know take the time anytime

01:02:15.559 --> 01:02:19.539
to sit back reflect the daydream or whatever

01:02:19.539 --> 01:02:22.440
you have to do to time travel to see how this

01:02:22.440 --> 01:02:27.139
year has been for you excuse me y 'all So anytime

01:02:27.139 --> 01:02:30.719
you feel overwhelmed, lost, or unsure of your

01:02:30.719 --> 01:02:35.900
decision, excuse me, reflection is a lot. Reflection

01:02:35.900 --> 01:02:39.380
is... especially powerful at the end of a season

01:02:39.380 --> 01:02:42.860
where that's the end of the year the end of the

01:02:42.860 --> 01:02:46.420
year a major chapter or after a major challenge

01:02:46.420 --> 01:02:49.159
reflect when you're standing you're starting

01:02:49.159 --> 01:02:52.360
something new you're healing from something painful

01:02:52.360 --> 01:02:55.739
you need clarity before making a decision and

01:02:55.739 --> 01:02:59.019
you feel stuck or disconnected from your goal

01:02:59.019 --> 01:03:03.539
reflection is your inner compass it relines It

01:03:03.539 --> 01:03:07.880
realigns you when life feels scattered or rushed.

01:03:09.619 --> 01:03:13.059
So you should reflect anytime, even when you

01:03:13.059 --> 01:03:17.099
feel overwhelmed, lost, unsure of your direction.

01:03:17.360 --> 01:03:20.039
This is where you reflect on what's next. Like

01:03:20.039 --> 01:03:22.159
you just look back, like look how far you've

01:03:22.159 --> 01:03:25.039
come or where you want to be. Reflect when you're

01:03:25.039 --> 01:03:27.980
starting something new. Reflect that, okay, just

01:03:27.980 --> 01:03:30.760
pinpoint things. Okay, like this is worth it.

01:03:30.860 --> 01:03:34.119
I'm a little nervous. But overall, still go for

01:03:34.119 --> 01:03:36.780
it. Take that risk, my friend. Take that risk

01:03:36.780 --> 01:03:39.300
regardless. Reflect on the things like, okay,

01:03:39.380 --> 01:03:42.840
this really, it really made sense. It didn't

01:03:42.840 --> 01:03:44.539
make sense or I'm scared, I'm afraid, whatever

01:03:44.539 --> 01:03:47.260
the case may be. I want you to look at how far

01:03:47.260 --> 01:03:49.619
you've come, my friend, but be able and thankful

01:03:49.619 --> 01:03:51.559
for these things because they are preparing you

01:03:51.559 --> 01:03:54.000
for something new. Like, reflect when you're

01:03:54.000 --> 01:03:56.739
starting something new. You're healing from something

01:03:56.739 --> 01:03:59.500
painful. That's a relationship, grief and loss.

01:04:01.199 --> 01:04:04.239
not getting something you wanted reflect on this

01:04:04.239 --> 01:04:07.199
and see is it worth the next step for you I feel

01:04:07.199 --> 01:04:10.199
like it is you need clarity before making a big

01:04:10.199 --> 01:04:12.619
decision take that time to reflect on things

01:04:12.619 --> 01:04:15.199
that maybe you felt lost or stuck on and then

01:04:15.199 --> 01:04:17.039
you look at like okay I remember I told myself

01:04:17.039 --> 01:04:19.579
that if this happened again if you wrote it down

01:04:19.579 --> 01:04:21.519
did a video journal or whatever it is I told

01:04:21.519 --> 01:04:22.780
myself I'm gonna do it again I'm gonna take a

01:04:22.780 --> 01:04:27.159
chance on it do that And when you're feeling

01:04:27.159 --> 01:04:29.260
stuck or disconnected from your goals, this is

01:04:29.260 --> 01:04:30.840
where you really take the time to reflect. Okay,

01:04:31.059 --> 01:04:34.420
this can be something that is worth the while.

01:04:34.519 --> 01:04:36.159
If I don't take this right now, I don't know

01:04:36.159 --> 01:04:38.219
what's going to happen. But if I do, it's going

01:04:38.219 --> 01:04:40.280
to make sense in the long run. Because reflection

01:04:40.280 --> 01:04:43.119
is your inner compass. It realigns you when life

01:04:43.119 --> 01:04:45.559
feels scattered or rushed. You'll be able to

01:04:45.559 --> 01:04:47.500
take that time to reflect on things that what

01:04:47.500 --> 01:04:50.900
matters for you and how you are able to take.

01:04:51.469 --> 01:04:54.750
take that risk because you are in control of

01:04:54.750 --> 01:04:58.329
your life. You are the captain, excuse me, of

01:04:58.329 --> 01:05:00.750
the ship, the bus driver, whatever you want to

01:05:00.750 --> 01:05:02.769
do about your, however you narrate your life,

01:05:02.829 --> 01:05:06.190
you're in control. And I want you to take that

01:05:06.190 --> 01:05:09.250
time to reflect as much as possible. Even reflect

01:05:09.250 --> 01:05:12.070
when you're happy, when you're excited, you on

01:05:12.070 --> 01:05:15.050
cloud nine, even reflect on them times where

01:05:15.050 --> 01:05:18.530
you are like on sky high, not just when you're

01:05:18.530 --> 01:05:21.079
at the darkest times, even when it's light. When

01:05:21.079 --> 01:05:23.099
you have light in your life, reflect on those

01:05:23.099 --> 01:05:25.179
times, even when you're in the darkest times.

01:05:25.559 --> 01:05:28.659
Reflect every time that's needed. Because you

01:05:28.659 --> 01:05:31.619
never know. Reflecting in the mirror and all

01:05:31.619 --> 01:05:35.079
that is needed. Take it when you know for a fact

01:05:35.079 --> 01:05:36.340
that, like, okay, I need to reflect on this.

01:05:36.780 --> 01:05:39.000
Even, like, when you have light. When I say when

01:05:39.000 --> 01:05:40.380
you have light is, you know, when you're in the

01:05:40.380 --> 01:05:42.119
dark times, it's like, I cannot stand it. It's

01:05:42.119 --> 01:05:43.860
something I have to give. And you work so hard

01:05:43.860 --> 01:05:46.780
for you to see the lights again. Thank yourself

01:05:46.780 --> 01:05:48.780
and reflect on them bad times. Like, dang, I

01:05:48.780 --> 01:05:50.900
really went through this, but I think. Those

01:05:50.900 --> 01:05:52.820
bad times for me to be where I'm at right now

01:05:52.820 --> 01:05:55.079
because if I was not right here, I don't know

01:05:55.079 --> 01:05:56.960
what I would have done. And don't take them for

01:05:56.960 --> 01:05:58.500
granted because that's when the dark times come

01:05:58.500 --> 01:06:01.820
and be like, dang, why did I do this? What's

01:06:01.820 --> 01:06:04.079
going on? And be appreciative of everything you

01:06:04.079 --> 01:06:07.159
have every day. Be thankful and grateful for

01:06:07.159 --> 01:06:09.880
everything that we have, that you have going

01:06:09.880 --> 01:06:14.360
on. That impacts with two, where does this matters

01:06:14.360 --> 01:06:17.159
most? In which areas of your life does reflection

01:06:17.159 --> 01:06:20.579
make a big impact? I feel like every area of

01:06:20.579 --> 01:06:22.300
your life makes a big impact when it comes to

01:06:22.300 --> 01:06:25.179
reflecting on how things have been for you. Reflection

01:06:25.179 --> 01:06:28.119
matters in every area of your wellbeing. Personal

01:06:28.119 --> 01:06:32.539
growth help you see how far you have come. Mental

01:06:32.539 --> 01:06:35.400
health gives emotional clarity and reduces stress.

01:06:35.940 --> 01:06:38.539
Relationships help you understand patterns, needs,

01:06:38.719 --> 01:06:41.900
and boundaries. School slash work improves decision

01:06:41.900 --> 01:06:44.639
-making and goal settings. Self -worth reminds

01:06:44.639 --> 01:06:47.519
you that you are elevating, learning, and worthy

01:06:47.519 --> 01:06:50.219
because reflection shifts your perseverance,

01:06:50.300 --> 01:06:53.639
allowing you to show up more intentionally, gratefully,

01:06:53.639 --> 01:06:56.659
and grounded. That right there is enough said.

01:06:57.250 --> 01:06:59.010
overall because when it comes to where does this

01:06:59.010 --> 01:07:02.889
matters the most in every area of your life reflection

01:07:02.889 --> 01:07:05.510
makes the biggest impact, especially when it

01:07:05.510 --> 01:07:07.650
comes to your personal growth. It helps you see

01:07:07.650 --> 01:07:10.030
how far you've come. Look how far you've come.

01:07:10.269 --> 01:07:12.389
You have made it to this point so far that you

01:07:12.389 --> 01:07:15.030
probably didn't even imagine it. Take advantage

01:07:15.030 --> 01:07:17.889
of it and grasp onto it. Even if you didn't get

01:07:17.889 --> 01:07:19.530
to that point, still take advantage of it because

01:07:19.530 --> 01:07:21.590
you tried and you're still in the race to get

01:07:21.590 --> 01:07:23.670
to where you want to be. As well as your mental

01:07:23.670 --> 01:07:26.309
health, it helps you give your emotional clarity

01:07:26.309 --> 01:07:28.989
and reduce the stress. And if not, you're working

01:07:28.989 --> 01:07:31.269
to it and you've got this, my friend. Within

01:07:31.269 --> 01:07:33.320
your relationships, it helps you understand the

01:07:33.320 --> 01:07:35.300
patterns needed and the boundaries that you need

01:07:35.300 --> 01:07:37.400
to set for yourself that you're setting now or

01:07:37.400 --> 01:07:39.940
within the new year to come with the school work

01:07:39.940 --> 01:07:42.380
or with the school or within work your business

01:07:42.380 --> 01:07:44.800
whatever the case may be you're improving and

01:07:44.800 --> 01:07:47.099
making decisions and setting goals as needed

01:07:47.099 --> 01:07:50.260
now or into the new year and within your self

01:07:50.260 --> 01:07:53.159
-worth reminding you that you are elevating learning

01:07:53.159 --> 01:07:55.599
and worthy you're taking these baby steps you're

01:07:55.599 --> 01:07:57.800
appreciating small achievements you have made

01:07:57.800 --> 01:08:00.599
in your life from now on to the new year because

01:08:00.599 --> 01:08:04.039
your reflection is perseverance allowing you

01:08:04.039 --> 01:08:06.039
to show up more intentionally for yourself being

01:08:06.039 --> 01:08:08.300
grateful and grounded for how far you have come

01:08:08.300 --> 01:08:10.619
and how far things are going to go because you're

01:08:10.619 --> 01:08:13.239
in control of your life and we're here to cheer

01:08:13.239 --> 01:08:15.519
you on i know i'm most definitely here to cheer

01:08:15.519 --> 01:08:17.739
you on my friend because i know how hard it gets

01:08:17.739 --> 01:08:20.479
i know how it is to be in these situations in

01:08:20.479 --> 01:08:22.699
your life where look it's like damn something

01:08:22.699 --> 01:08:24.420
gotta give and i'm tired of it like something

01:08:24.420 --> 01:08:26.140
gotta give and when you put in that work and

01:08:26.140 --> 01:08:27.979
you keep going and you keep flourishing my friend

01:08:27.979 --> 01:08:32.479
you are there So please take the initiative of

01:08:32.479 --> 01:08:35.680
the power of reflection. Because what this year

01:08:35.680 --> 01:08:38.659
has taught you has been teaching you so many

01:08:38.659 --> 01:08:42.100
things that you may be like, I did not even know

01:08:42.100 --> 01:08:44.779
until just after listening to me and just being

01:08:44.779 --> 01:08:49.539
able to please put the pieces together. You know?

01:08:49.840 --> 01:08:53.720
And lastly, why is this important? Why is reflection

01:08:53.720 --> 01:08:56.619
essential for long -term growth and wellness?

01:08:57.159 --> 01:08:59.859
Because... This is something that's very important

01:08:59.859 --> 01:09:01.220
that's needed because it's going to help you

01:09:01.220 --> 01:09:03.100
in the future in the long run to see your growth

01:09:03.100 --> 01:09:06.319
and how far you have come again. Because you

01:09:06.319 --> 01:09:10.460
can't grow forward if you don't understand where

01:09:10.460 --> 01:09:13.800
you have been. That's like you cannot go forward

01:09:13.800 --> 01:09:16.819
if you don't take a step back and to see how

01:09:16.819 --> 01:09:19.100
far you've come to just jump into something new.

01:09:20.659 --> 01:09:23.180
Reflection helps you stop repeating cycles that

01:09:23.180 --> 01:09:27.359
no longer serve you. And it empowers you to create

01:09:27.359 --> 01:09:30.060
new habits, new boundaries, and new intentions

01:09:30.060 --> 01:09:33.979
for the future. It brings peace by helping you

01:09:33.979 --> 01:09:36.979
release guilt, regret, fear, and emotional weight

01:09:36.979 --> 01:09:40.079
you have carried all year. Because I know y 'all

01:09:40.079 --> 01:09:42.460
carried this burden on y 'all. Before I get deep

01:09:42.460 --> 01:09:44.239
into it, my friend, I want you to get rid of

01:09:44.239 --> 01:09:46.479
all that guilt, that regret, that fear, and emotion

01:09:46.479 --> 01:09:49.119
and weight that you have going on. Let it go.

01:09:49.220 --> 01:09:51.260
Let it flow. Before you go into the new year,

01:09:51.300 --> 01:09:53.239
I want you to pray on a manifestation. Do whatever

01:09:53.239 --> 01:09:56.039
you got to do. do to get all that out just because

01:09:56.039 --> 01:09:58.300
that's negativity that negativity is going to

01:09:58.300 --> 01:10:01.060
hold you back and you don't want nothing or no

01:10:01.060 --> 01:10:02.939
one to hold you back for what your future has

01:10:02.939 --> 01:10:05.180
to come for you because i know your future is

01:10:05.180 --> 01:10:08.159
bright and i know you have so much to offer and

01:10:08.159 --> 01:10:10.520
i know you have so much more to put into this

01:10:10.520 --> 01:10:13.560
this atmosphere this world whatever you want

01:10:13.560 --> 01:10:16.289
to call it Do not let nothing or anyone make

01:10:16.289 --> 01:10:19.449
you feel guilty, make you regret, have fear,

01:10:19.649 --> 01:10:21.810
as well as having the emotional weight that you

01:10:21.810 --> 01:10:23.850
have been carrying all year long. My friend,

01:10:23.869 --> 01:10:26.829
before we step into January the 1st, 2026, I

01:10:26.829 --> 01:10:29.229
want you to let go of all them things that don't

01:10:29.229 --> 01:10:32.130
serve you no more. Let go of every little thing

01:10:32.130 --> 01:10:34.729
and everybody that has been in your ear just

01:10:34.729 --> 01:10:37.569
giving you negative energy. Let them go before

01:10:37.569 --> 01:10:42.680
we jump into January the 1st, 2026. I think it's

01:10:42.680 --> 01:10:45.399
a Thursday. Let me check before I say the wrong

01:10:45.399 --> 01:10:49.359
thing. I think it's a Thursday. Is it a Thursday?

01:10:49.399 --> 01:10:52.939
Yes. Before Thursday, January 1st, 2026, my friend,

01:10:52.979 --> 01:10:54.960
I want you to get rid of all that negative energy

01:10:54.960 --> 01:10:58.439
right here, right now. We're in the holiday time

01:10:58.439 --> 01:11:00.439
too. And I don't want you to deal with the holidays.

01:11:00.439 --> 01:11:03.020
We're dealing with this fear, this guilt, and

01:11:03.020 --> 01:11:06.729
this emotional fear, rejection, guilt. And all

01:11:06.729 --> 01:11:08.710
those things, all those people and those things

01:11:08.710 --> 01:11:10.470
in your ear, you need to let them go. If you

01:11:10.470 --> 01:11:12.069
got to scream, you got to yell, got to do whatever

01:11:12.069 --> 01:11:13.770
you got to do, let them go. Please do it, my

01:11:13.770 --> 01:11:16.630
friend, because you deserve so much. You do not

01:11:16.630 --> 01:11:19.109
deserve to be somebody's puppet master. You don't

01:11:19.109 --> 01:11:20.710
deserve to have somebody have you walking around

01:11:20.710 --> 01:11:22.750
in fear, feeling guilty and regretting the things

01:11:22.750 --> 01:11:24.729
that you have done, as well as having all that

01:11:24.729 --> 01:11:26.609
emotional weight on your shoulder because you

01:11:26.609 --> 01:11:28.350
deserve better, my friend, and you're going to

01:11:28.350 --> 01:11:30.880
get better. but i want you to make this vow to

01:11:30.880 --> 01:11:32.340
yourself that you're not going to let nothing

01:11:32.340 --> 01:11:34.859
or no one have you walking around in fear feel

01:11:34.859 --> 01:11:37.520
guilty reject having these feelings of rejection

01:11:37.520 --> 01:11:40.199
but overall carrying weight that don't serve

01:11:40.199 --> 01:11:42.420
you a purpose no more because it hurts yes it

01:11:42.420 --> 01:11:44.380
does hurts but i guarantee you that person that

01:11:44.380 --> 01:11:47.359
thing doesn't give a damn no more and it hurts

01:11:47.359 --> 01:11:50.270
when we People have so much feelings and things

01:11:50.270 --> 01:11:52.329
going on, but people may not feel the same way

01:11:52.329 --> 01:11:54.250
that we do. But we have to shift the gears and

01:11:54.250 --> 01:11:55.569
be like, you know what? They don't care no more.

01:11:55.689 --> 01:11:57.869
I got to do what's best for me because I can't

01:11:57.869 --> 01:11:59.449
keep living with this conscious, this guilty

01:11:59.449 --> 01:12:01.630
conscious or these things keep affecting me.

01:12:02.069 --> 01:12:04.289
Let it go. Let it flow right here, right now,

01:12:04.289 --> 01:12:06.270
my friend, because you deserve better. And as

01:12:06.270 --> 01:12:08.409
you walk into the new year on Thursday, January

01:12:08.409 --> 01:12:12.529
1st, 2026, let all them people and worries go

01:12:12.529 --> 01:12:16.350
right here, right now. I said it. E, the one

01:12:16.350 --> 01:12:18.600
and only E said it for you. Because you're going

01:12:18.600 --> 01:12:19.640
to get through this. You're not going to let

01:12:19.640 --> 01:12:23.479
no man or woman, they, them, none of that make

01:12:23.479 --> 01:12:25.220
you feel less of a person, my friend. Because

01:12:25.220 --> 01:12:27.560
you got to keep going, keep flowing. Do what

01:12:27.560 --> 01:12:29.840
you got to do to get rid of those negative things

01:12:29.840 --> 01:12:32.439
that don't serve you a purpose. Because we're

01:12:32.439 --> 01:12:34.199
going to start off the new year with a new start.

01:12:34.600 --> 01:12:36.300
And we're going to do things that impacts with

01:12:36.300 --> 01:12:38.439
us for the better, the greater good. Because

01:12:38.439 --> 01:12:40.800
this is impacted with our wellness. We don't

01:12:40.800 --> 01:12:43.920
need nobody coming in with this nasty attitude,

01:12:44.199 --> 01:12:47.329
none of that. So let all it go and let it flow

01:12:47.329 --> 01:12:51.329
now. Before we step foot on Thursday, January

01:12:51.329 --> 01:12:53.949
1st, 2026, we need to do what's best for us.

01:12:54.670 --> 01:12:58.390
And you're going to do it, my friend. Because...

01:12:58.390 --> 01:13:05.010
Because reflection turns your experiences into

01:13:05.010 --> 01:13:08.430
wisdom. It teaches you that you didn't just survive

01:13:08.430 --> 01:13:12.010
this year. You evolved through it. And that...

01:13:12.919 --> 01:13:16.600
Evolve is what prepares you for the next season

01:13:16.600 --> 01:13:18.819
of your life. Even though you went through all

01:13:18.819 --> 01:13:22.399
these things, it still helps you to understand

01:13:22.399 --> 01:13:24.979
that that reflection has helped you to turn your

01:13:24.979 --> 01:13:27.979
experiences into wisdom. You went through hell

01:13:27.979 --> 01:13:31.720
and back and high waters. Cool, but that still

01:13:31.720 --> 01:13:34.260
helped you to understand that you turned those

01:13:34.260 --> 01:13:37.979
experiences into wisdom. Hell, it was a fucked

01:13:37.979 --> 01:13:42.510
up situation for you. But it gave me wisdom.

01:13:42.590 --> 01:13:44.710
It gave me hope. It gave me strength. Like going

01:13:44.710 --> 01:13:46.750
back to, I'm not going to let nobody or nothing

01:13:46.750 --> 01:13:50.010
make me feel guilty no more. All that rejection

01:13:50.010 --> 01:13:52.890
and fear, regret, that emotional wealth, all

01:13:52.890 --> 01:13:55.750
that is gone. But I'm not going to just leave.

01:13:55.829 --> 01:13:57.689
I'm not going to forget it. I'm not going to

01:13:57.689 --> 01:14:00.050
forget it. I'm going to forgive it, but I'm not

01:14:00.050 --> 01:14:02.069
going to forget it. Because that reflection turned

01:14:02.069 --> 01:14:04.630
my experience into wisdom. Because it taught

01:14:04.630 --> 01:14:08.250
me that. I didn't just survive this year, and

01:14:08.250 --> 01:14:10.250
you didn't just survive this year, my friend,

01:14:10.329 --> 01:14:13.689
but you evolved through every storm you went

01:14:13.689 --> 01:14:16.149
through, every hell and high waters. good or

01:14:16.149 --> 01:14:18.970
bad emotional roller coaster you have evolved

01:14:18.970 --> 01:14:22.390
through it and after all of that it is now preparing

01:14:22.390 --> 01:14:25.970
you for the next season of your life it's preparing

01:14:25.970 --> 01:14:28.109
you for what you want and what you don't want

01:14:28.109 --> 01:14:31.250
because you're in control of your life and we're

01:14:31.250 --> 01:14:33.970
here to sit back and cheer you on regardless

01:14:33.970 --> 01:14:36.890
of how big or small it gets or how hard it gets

01:14:36.890 --> 01:14:38.890
i'm here to still cheer you want to keep you

01:14:38.890 --> 01:14:40.869
going and here to help you if you need a shoulder

01:14:40.869 --> 01:14:43.149
and i'm here to help you and if you need a shoulder

01:14:43.149 --> 01:14:45.510
cry on my friend because i know how party gets

01:14:45.510 --> 01:14:51.609
okay i know and the quote of the day impacting

01:14:51.609 --> 01:14:53.729
the quote of the week is reflection is the bridge

01:14:53.729 --> 01:14:56.050
between where you were and where you're going

01:14:56.050 --> 01:15:00.470
reflection is the bridge between where you're

01:15:00.470 --> 01:15:04.550
where you were and where you're going and you're

01:15:04.550 --> 01:15:07.789
going places my friend don't let nothing or anyone

01:15:07.789 --> 01:15:09.930
dictate you and say you're not because you are

01:15:09.930 --> 01:15:14.600
it's going to come manifest pray on it Live on

01:15:14.600 --> 01:15:17.039
it. Write it out. Whatever you got to do. Stand

01:15:17.039 --> 01:15:20.659
on it. Dance on it. Praise on it. Whatever you

01:15:20.659 --> 01:15:24.680
got to do. Keep that faith going. Okay. I know

01:15:24.680 --> 01:15:28.039
this wellness lesson was a lot. It was. But I

01:15:28.039 --> 01:15:29.239
want y 'all to understand this is important.

01:15:29.720 --> 01:15:33.220
Because as we are doing the wellness 101 lesson

01:15:33.220 --> 01:15:36.680
21. Within the power of reflection. Of what this

01:15:36.680 --> 01:15:38.500
year has taught us. I want you to understand

01:15:38.500 --> 01:15:41.319
and think that. Appreciate what you have. And

01:15:41.319 --> 01:15:44.060
be. thankful for everything that came your way

01:15:44.060 --> 01:15:47.520
okay because i thank y 'all for taking the time

01:15:47.520 --> 01:15:49.060
out of y 'all busy day y 'all be scheduled to

01:15:49.060 --> 01:15:51.899
listen to me or watch me and just for that thank

01:15:51.899 --> 01:15:54.000
you for tapping in and i want y 'all to remember

01:15:54.000 --> 01:15:57.479
this remember your year didn't define you it

01:15:57.479 --> 01:16:02.300
redefined you take time this week to pause breathe

01:16:02.300 --> 01:16:04.819
and honor everything this year has taught you

01:16:04.819 --> 01:16:08.340
the wins the losses the lessons the moments you

01:16:08.340 --> 01:16:12.479
doubted yourself they all shaped you to the person

01:16:12.479 --> 01:16:16.159
you are today continue to reflect learn and grow

01:16:16.159 --> 01:16:19.699
your next chapter is already proud of you and

01:16:19.699 --> 01:16:24.119
so am I regardless of what is to come I'm proud

01:16:24.119 --> 01:16:26.340
of you and your next chapter is proud of you

01:16:26.340 --> 01:16:31.420
as well okay my friend so I thank you all so

01:16:31.420 --> 01:16:34.779
very much again I hope you learned quite a few

01:16:34.779 --> 01:16:39.449
things within this wellness lesson because You're

01:16:39.449 --> 01:16:41.229
in control of everything that you do, my friend.

01:16:41.329 --> 01:16:43.750
You are the one that knows what's for you and

01:16:43.750 --> 01:16:45.390
what's not for you, who serves a purpose and

01:16:45.390 --> 01:16:48.170
who doesn't. And I really hope that you do take

01:16:48.170 --> 01:16:51.989
the time to reflect on how, to reflect on what

01:16:51.989 --> 01:16:54.710
this year has taught you, regardless of how big

01:16:54.710 --> 01:16:56.470
or small it is, but just take that time to reflect

01:16:56.470 --> 01:16:58.770
and be thankful for everything that has come.

01:16:58.869 --> 01:17:01.170
Even be thankful for them good times and them

01:17:01.170 --> 01:17:03.510
bad times. Be extra thankful for them bad times

01:17:03.510 --> 01:17:06.430
because they have... granted you the wish of

01:17:06.430 --> 01:17:08.569
where you are right now. And I want you to step

01:17:08.569 --> 01:17:12.050
into the new year as a whole, as much and holy

01:17:12.050 --> 01:17:14.689
as possible if you want to, as brand new, if

01:17:14.689 --> 01:17:18.390
so. Because the new year is already, the next

01:17:18.390 --> 01:17:19.789
chapter of your life is already proud of you

01:17:19.789 --> 01:17:22.449
and so am I. You're going to go far. I know you

01:17:22.449 --> 01:17:26.890
can do it. Situations are going to come, but

01:17:26.890 --> 01:17:28.430
you know how to deal with them and you're not

01:17:28.430 --> 01:17:31.140
going to let them stop you. You're going to do

01:17:31.140 --> 01:17:32.680
what's necessary for you. You're going to use

01:17:32.680 --> 01:17:37.560
them resources to help you to not be so worked

01:17:37.560 --> 01:17:40.300
up and to help you when you need the help. And

01:17:40.300 --> 01:17:42.159
you're going to be someone that you wish you

01:17:42.159 --> 01:17:44.239
had like me. I'm being the social worker that

01:17:44.239 --> 01:17:48.079
I wish I had for my students. I'm being the podcaster

01:17:48.079 --> 01:17:51.079
that I wish I had growing up for the people that

01:17:51.079 --> 01:17:54.100
listens and watch to me. I'm being the woman

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that I want to be when I have children so they

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can look. at me and be like wow you know be the

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person that you are for yourself so in the future

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that you can look back and be like i did this

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because i wanted this for me and for the next

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generation to come as well be the person that

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you are set to be we're all going to deal with

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obstacles but don't let them obstacles defeat

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you or stop you okay I hope you all enjoy your

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Thanksgiving week. If you don't celebrate Thanksgiving,

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I still want you to still be thankful for the

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things that you have. But overall, just enjoy

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your week. If you're celebrating Thanksgiving,

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I hope it goes good. Hope you sit at your table

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where you do your prayers and say what you're

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thankful for and stuff. You are thankful for

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things that really serve your purpose. And if

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you don't celebrate Thanksgiving still, I want

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you to still reflect on things that hasn't. got

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you to where you are and you're thankful for

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how far you've come but just being overall being

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able to reflect on how this year has been okay

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so happy holidays everyone and if not you don't

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celebrate the holidays have a good weekend i

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wish you all the best please be safe out here

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bundle up you know pay attention to the weather

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wear the proper clothes and attire also Be nice.

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Be kind to someone. You never know who needs

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it. As well as be kind and give to yourself.

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Okay? I love you also very much. You guys will

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hear from me next week. And I cannot wait to

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give y 'all the next vibe of the day as we enter

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December. Okay? Bye.