Hey y 'all, I think it's morning, evening, or
afternoon. I'm just glad that you guys had decided
to vibe with E. Yes, the one and only E. Hey
y 'all, hope y 'all feeling amazing, doing amazing,
and just being amazing overall. And if not, it's
okay. It's alright, my friend, because bad times
don't last forever. After every storm, there
is a rainbow, and you're getting closer and closer
every day to that rainbow, that pot of gold,
that light in the tunnel, whichever one you prefer,
my friend, okay? But I do want you guys to still
rely on the bad times. because the bad times
had helped us to get to where we are now as well
as it helped grounded us to be grateful and thankful
for everything that we have now okay so welcome
welcome welcome guys cheers to the last week
of November which is super crazy we are celebrating
the holiday times now so Thanksgiving is like
literally the next day I hope you guys if you
are celebrating Thanksgiving I hope Thanksgiving
be amazing to you and if not I still hope that
your day is amazing full of whatever you want
to come your way It is holiday season, so whatever
holiday you celebrate, happy holidays to you
all. Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Christmas, Thanksgiving,
New Year's, Boxing Day, and things of that nature.
Happy holidays. I wish you all nothing but the
best, and I really hope that this holiday season
be the season that you have been manifesting,
praying for, but overall be the season that you
will get what you have been manifesting and praying
for. And when I say the season of get what you
get, it's saying that... most of the time when
holiday times come around oh excuse me guys most
of the time when holiday time come around a lot
of people don't ask for much they just have they
just have a few things they want to see happen
and things of that nature like for me like christmas
is coming up i don't want much for christmas
at all i just want peace and happiness and if
i can help any family in need family friends
in need i am so here for it and yeah and thanksgiving
is all about being able to appreciate things
that you're thankful for as well as what are
you thankful for and who you think before things
of that nature and also understanding the importance
of thanksgiving if you're new here welcome welcome
welcome and for the ones that are not new to
this but truly just hey y 'all what's up what's
popping so going back to just saying what thanksgiving
is i did do episode on thanksgiving i think last
year or the year i think last year i did episode
on thanksgiving if you have not tuned into that
please do because that episode i break down what's
the importance of it and why why is thanksgiving
so important as well as before vibing out with
guests became a thing i did an interview with
my family and it was around thanksgiving time
and their episode did come out, I believe, on
Thanksgiving. So, I want y 'all free time. Please,
please, please, please tune into that. It's been
ages. It's been like a good little while. Like,
this was around the time when I was in the prime
of starting vibing with E2. So, whenever you're
free, have a free moment to learn, to dig dive,
deep dive a little bit more into what Thanksgiving
is and all those things. And then also, hear
it from different point of views from my family.
Take the time to listen to it, okay? All right
y 'all so like I said we are in the last week
of November and it's been quite a week I will
say. It's been quite a month I'll say and this
week is full of nothing but good things. However
if you're new here this week is all about wellness
one -on -one lessons and I'll give y 'all a little
snippet of why I do wellness one -on -one lessons
at the end of the month. So Wellness 101 lessons
are lessons that helps us overall look at the
impact of how this month or this year has been
to us. And hopefully we can impact whatever lesson
that we are learning here with me can impact
with us through the next day or new year and
things of that nature. My whole reason of Wellness
101 is when I went to Morgan State, they had
did wellness. They had did wellness days to help
us students as well as staff to focus on our
mental health. It inspired me so much because
like, okay, I talk about education and wellness.
So why not do the same thing for my listeners
or whoever's watching me to help them incorporate
with just understanding the importance of wellness
while still learning whatever topic it is with
me. So basically, Wellness 101 lessons are to
help you to understand your wellness a little
bit more, but also to appreciate these lessons
and take them. as okay this is something that
i need hopefully a stepping stone for you guys
to understand what's going on around you and
things of that nature so yes that's what that
is so we have as of today we have 24 newsletters
which is so amazing which is so like dope because
i i tell this i say it all the time i never thought
that i would keep going with these newsletters
but i like doing them because if you do follow
me on instagram and wherever else you see like
The newsletters, the little slips of the newsletters.
But if you still want to be a part of the newsletters,
don't hesitate. Click the link in my bio, my
link tree, and you will see an icon that says
sign up for weekly newsletters. And all you have
to do is insert your email. And once you insert
your email, I will get the notification from
link tree. And then every time I prepare for
the newsletters to get sent out, you will be
on there. And the newsletters come out Wednesdays
at 3 .30 Eastern time, two hours before. like
the episodes drop so you'll get to see what's
going on any big news any exciting news what's
about it a day before it even comes out as well
as any guest appearances that i have or if you
don't have any guest appearances guest appearances
and things of that nature so it's like you get
a sneak peek of everything before the world really
knows what's going on so yeah so we are on the
24th newsletter super exciting i think we will
hit 30 newsletters this year i think i have to
double check probably between 29 30 at the max
but i think we should hit 30 well at least 29
i think i want to say at least 29 20 i won't
say 29 to the best bet if not 30 30 probably
will hit in january and the new year and that'd
be super dope too but you know it is what it
is so we're on newsletter 24 and this month's
theme is still november we're ending out with
the grace and gratitude the gratitude growth
and grace cultivating peace in every season and
this is part four the last week of november So,
guys, we have reached the last Wednesday of November,
and with it comes to the final chapter of our
monthly theme, Gratitude, Grace, and Growth,
the cultivating piece of every season. This month
has been a journey, slowing down, leaning in,
giving thanks, extending grace, and recognizing
how much you have grown, even in the moments
you didn't notice. And as we close out November,
this week's vibe centers on one powerful practice,
reflection. Before we step into December, before
we set new goals, before we rush into the next
chapter, it's time to pause and honor everything
this year has taught us. As December comes, if
you're new here, every time December comes, I
prepare us for the new year, as well as still
preparing us into the holiday time and loving
on the holidays and things of that nature. For
December, I'd like to prepare us for January
to give us a little bit of a pep talk and then
let you guys know it's okay. Like, be prepared
for this new beginning, this new chapter in your
life. It's okay to start over. If you have to
start over 5 million times, do what's needed
for you because you matter, as well as to just
you being able to just... appreciate the things
that has been going on and please celebrate yourself
regardless of how big or small your accomplishments
are celebrate them because no one knows how hard
it was for you to even get to these accomplishments
like nobody knows how hard it was for you to
even start this new project begin this new relationship
start these this foundation go back to school,
start a family, whatever the case may be, my
friend, please level yourself, but also celebrate
your accomplishments because these are things
that has helped you. Like once back to bad times
don't last forever. This is a stepping stone
for you too, to understand that, you know, them
bad times don't last forever, but they help you
get to the good times because they shaped you
and they ground you to get to where you need
to be. And that's how I do for December to help
us understand that we all been through some things
in these last couple months of the new year,
of the year. but as we enter the new year what
we want to what do we want to work on within
a new year what we don't want to bring in a new
year and who when all these things this new year
like every new year i have it set to this is
for you the goal is for you like last year i
think it was pop out um it was pop out sometimes
you got to be selfish and do what's for you and
then next year it'd be somewhat the same thing
like pop out Take care of yourself, but also
do what is right for you. But the whole purpose
of that thing will be to fill your cup up before
you can fill somebody else's. Pour into yourself
more before you can pour into others. So, yes.
So, we're going to today just take a... deep
breath and then just reflect on how things have
been so far and that's why i love when wellness
lessons are impacted because it helps you understand
more and grounds you to understand why is this
so important for you to do and why it's important
for you to master this skill but not really master
it but understand this skill perfectly so yes
so this week's challenge i want you to choose
one moment each day to reflect on your growth
during the thanksgiving week such as right down
one thing you've learned one thing you release
and one area where you have grown without even
realizing it so reflection is not about juggling
your past it's about appreciating your journey
let your reflections remind you of your strength
you're evolving and your resentment. So this
week, as we're giving thanks to what we're thankful
for, who we're thankful for, why we're thankful
for these things, I want you guys to also just
choose one thing that you have learned from yourself
that you're thankful that you have been able
to learn for yourself. One thing that you have
been able to be thankful to release, regardless
of how big or small it is, good or bad, just
one thing you want, you're like, I'm releasing
this and I'm thankful for this to be released,
to be out in the open. Or one area where you
have grown, without realizing it, being thankful
for this because it can be a challenge. It could
be a challenge for you to even hit these moments
in your life that we probably don't even know
of. Sorry, y 'all. My doggone Apple Watch is
greasy and I was like, hmm. But yes, y 'all.
So that's the challenge. This is the challenge
of the week for you guys. So vibing with E, weekly
vibe, where meaningful conversations meet growth
and real live conversations. The week of November
27th. which is wednesday so the new episode today
is we're on episode 131 and we are on wellness
101 lesson 21 the power of reflecting what this
year has taught me me you so this week's episode
is all about realizing your growth in real time
we are dividing into what it means to pat what
it means to pause reflect and honor your past
that shaped you this year. The challenges you
overcame, the lessons you've learned, and the
strength you never knew you had. Reflection is
one of the most underrated wellness tools. It
helps you understand your seasons, celebrate
your process, and prepare your heart for what's
next. In this episode, we're going to cover why
reflection is essential for emotional healing
and clarity, how the highs and the lows of this
year shapes your mindset and helps you out, helps
you shape your mindset and just... heavy really
deep dive into like really this really was going
on tools to help you reflect intentionally without
judging or pressuring yourself what it means
to honor your small wins not just the big ones
please please i'm begging you y 'all please i
don't care how big a small is pat yourself on
the back toot your horn whatever you gotta do
please love on them small achievements because
those small achievements are helping you get
to them big ones And how reflection prepares
you for a better, softer, more grounded future.
This conversation is a reminder that reflection
is a form of self -love. It helps you see how
far you have come and affirmations that every
version of you was growing, learning, and becoming.
So y 'all are tuned in this Wednesday for a grounded,
heart -opening, year -closing conversation. okay
so lastly guys vibing out with guests this week
again we have no guest appearances this week
and that's okay that's all right because vibing
out with guests is proof that every story no
matter where it starts has the power to inspire
others this series continues to grow and every
episode is a reminder of why we start real conversations
that live inspires and connect This Friday, we're
pausing guest conversations to honor the spirit
of reflection. No interviews, no deep dives,
just space. Space to breathe. Space to acknowledge
your growth. Space to enter the final month of
this year with intentions, clarity, and peace.
But don't worry. more guests will be returning
soon with more powerful voices and stories y
'all so i am going to say we do have a few of
them lined up so far i'm not going to say how
many but we do and as you guys know right now
we do have 26 guest appearances and our goal
is to hit 30 but i'm not going to tell y 'all
how many we have so far but i feel as though
we can get to 30 fingers crossed and if not i'm
still grateful and i'm still I still appreciate
the guests that has been on the show for you
guys supporting me and just being able to just
listen, like, comment, all those things. So all
the past guests, the present guests, the future
guests, I thank you so very much for your time,
your support and everything of that nature. To
the ones that listen to our amazing guests and
their stories, I thank you also very much because...
I love that series a lot because that series
gives people the floor to express themselves.
And I love when guests be like, this is my first
time ever sitting down and doing something like
this. And it makes me so happy too because I'm
like, not only is this their first time, but
it's my first time to even being comfortable
with them doing this series. But overall, I'm
just so appreciative and thankful for you guys
to even sit there and just sit. in front of a
mic and a camera and just sit with me and talk
about these conversations. I appreciate it so
much. Another thing we do now, a new thing that
I do have is group guest appearances. So please,
you know, as you guys see, you see some two appearances.
You've seen two guests appear too. people in
one guest appearance. Now I made it to a group.
So it's up to three guest appearance to three
group appearances. So what that means is I will
be there and a group of three, a group up to
three could be able to come sit in the studio
with me and we vibe out on whatever topic and
things you want to talk about. So I did do that
before with my classmates and my friends. We
did that before, but now I'm making it a permanent
thing because I know at times people be like,
I want to bring this person. I want to bring
that person. I'm like, okay, cool. You know,
and sometimes it may work and it may not work,
but it's okay. But now I'm making it permanent
now that we do still have the one -on -one guest
session appearances. But if you want two or more
people with you, then we have a group vibe without
a guest appearance. yes y 'all please check that
out as well and as always the quote of this week
is reflection is the bridge between where you
were and where you're going where you were and
where you're going is the reflection And also,
please, y 'all, please stay connected. Follow
the podcast page or IG at vibing .withE using
hashtag vibingwithE to share your reflections
and what this year has taught you. And until
next time, from your favorite host, I hope that
this time, with E, vibing with E. So now let's
get into it. let's get into it okay as always
every vibe of the day as well as every wellness
lesson of the day is something special so i want
you guys to sit back relax and enjoy hearing
my voice or watch me on youtube because as always
every vibe of the day every wellness lesson of
the day and every vibing out with guest appearance
is something special okay so please Turn me up
on your speakers, your car radios, your phones,
your PCs, MacBooks, Alexas, Google Dots, whatever.
Because, yeah. So, yeah. Whether you want to
go on a move, whether you want to go on a move,
turn me up. Because, as always, every lesson
of the day, every vibe of the day, every guest
appearance of the day is something special. Okay?
If you're new here, once again, welcome. As we
break down every vibe of the day, as well as
wellness lesson of the day, title again the the
vibe with a wellness lesson of the week of the
day for the week um i break down every wellness
lesson as well as vibe of the day into the definition
the five w's the quote of the day which is the
quote of the week and i think i do a thank you
for tapping in little note to help you also understand
what's going on and then give y 'all a little
deep dive into thinking of like what's the week
to come okay and by this being thanksgiving week
for the ones that celebrate it i want you to
really think deeper and if you don't celebrate
thanksgiving as a whole i still want you guys
to think deeper on this because this is a very
important topic like i said we are entering the
new year so i do want to tap in a little bit
with and give you guys a little bit of a heads
up on what's to come for the new year so we won't
be you know scared and surprised on all these
things that are coming to us that's coming in
for the new year because I guarantee you, we
all have an easy most like, oh my gosh, we're
entering the new year. I'm a little bit frightened.
I might not have hit every goal that I wanted
to in a new year. My vision board probably has
not really been checked off, but that's okay,
my friend, because you have the chance to do
it next year. Sometimes you got to start over
from scratch. Sometimes you got to add pieces
in there that you didn't hit that you could do
in a new year. But do what's right for you. And
you know you're ready for it. And take your time.
And don't rush it. Because things happen. And
that's okay. But we're still going to work these
kinks out. Do what we need to do. Because it's
all going to work out in the end. Okay? Sorry.
I had to drink a sip of my juice. And I got this
glittery lipstick lip gloss on. It's lip gloss.
And I don't like when my lip gloss. Touch the
rim of my can. Or my scrawl. It just. It makes
it sticky. So it's like I got to waterfall my
own drink. Because I don't want all the glitter
and stuff on there. I know it's so funny. And
it's so weird. But. I can't help it. But. I can't
help it. But. You know. Things happen. But without
further ado, let's get into it. We have hit 131
episodes and today's wellness lesson of the day
is wellness 101. Lesson 21. Hold on, y 'all.
I think I messed up. Oopsies. sorry y 'all let
me put my notes back up because I always forget
the numbers sometimes yep we are on episode 131
and we're on wellness 101 lesson 21 the power
of reflection what this year has taught me you
us we're all in this together so let's get into
it definition what does this really what does
it really mean to reflect on a new year reflect
on the year reflect on the year like what is
the whole purpose of us being able to reflect
on our year and why is it important for us to
do this like why do we need to reflect on a year
and why do we need to take that take that risk
to just sit back and be like okay let me reflect
on what has happened the good or bad the ugly
the beautiful like why do i need to do this and
let's see what is important to me doing this
so reflection is intentional practice of pausing
to look back Not to judge yourself, but to understand
yourself. It means reviewing your experiences,
emotions, lessons, mistakes, achievements, and
moments of growth with honesty and compassion.
Reflection isn't about reliving the past. It's
about learning from it. It helps you see patterns,
celebrate progress, release what no longer serves
you, and step into a new season with clarity.
When you reflect with purpose, you reconnect
with your journey and realize how much strength,
wisdom and realization you have gained along
the way. Forgot to mention y 'all. So I break
down the definition, the five W's into my own
words, a little bit, a little bit of research.
And then I go base. I talk about that. I go based
off of thoughts of just chatting, whatever y
'all want to call it. So. The whole purpose of
reflection of the year is just to take a look
back at how has the year been for you. Like,
within the emotions, within the experiences you
learned, the bad times, the good times, what
you've learned, what you didn't learn, what you
achieved, what you didn't achieve, but it's overall
what you have done for yourself that you're proud
of and maybe what you're not proud of. But it's
just a whole reflection of what you like to see
and like to... just see out on the forefront
of what you have done and how far have you came
like look how far have you come and i like to
use like last year impacting this year for me
like i like to do compare contrast of this year
and last year so for me last year was 2024 i'll
say 2024 as i gave it because i look back i did
a a breakdown of how January and December was
for me and I rated my whole experience out of
10 I said I gave it 7 out of 10 and the reason
for that is because excuse me in the beginning
of January the beginning of the year when the
new year started things were going pretty well
up until I had a health scare. I had a really
bad breakout that spreaded all over my body and
it scared the living hell out of me. And I had
just started my, was it my senior year? I think
I had just started. No, I started my junior year
in my program. and I was so nervous. So I was
like, okay, I just started the program. I don't
know what's this going to do. Then at that time,
too, I was still working two jobs, still pushing,
vibing with E. It was a whole bunch of stuff
that happened. So from January up until March,
I was still physically and mentally preparing
myself for being comfortable with still having
scars, a little bit of scars on there. having
to deal with my face like it was it was so much
and then i still was busting my butt though i
still was busting my butt when it came to getting
my grades getting no doing my assignments keep
my grades up still working both jobs and still
giving you guys vibing vibe with e let um the
vibe of the day as well as wellness lessons of
the day and i was very um well I was very vocal
about what was going on in my life because one
thing about me I'm very I'm raw and uncut I'm
gonna give you I'm not going to just have you
one certain certain stuff I will say you do have
to leave people guessing but when it comes to
my platform and I'm talking about mental health
and all these things why not let it be known
because someone I'm someone that may be listening
probably went through the same thing or going
through the same thing so I was very vocal about
what was going on in my life and it was moments
where I did crash it was moments where I did
crash and I started going to counseling to help
me and it started working however it wasn't consistent
as I am now going to therapy but however April
April, May. April, I was getting myself together.
Like, I was finally stepping out a little bit.
May, when the semester was over, I had received
my first 4 .0 in college. I was too livid. I
was too turnt. I was outside here and there.
I was still working and working and working.
Well, no. I quit one of my jobs. I had to leave
one of my jobs because it was too much for me
mentally to. And so I was at another job. So
I was still doing good. Still getting things
going. I did get another job before my birthday
in July. August came around. I was preparing
to be at the internship for undergrad at my elementary
middle school. And things were starting to pick
up. However, I still had moments where I was
just like. That's when my senior year came into
play. I was still like, oh my gosh, it's really
happening. A lot of nerve wracking. And then
I reflect on this year, January of this year,
it went well. However, beginning of February,
I got the flu and the semester just started again.
I'm like, oh my gosh, this is a repeat of what
happened last year. Like, I was like, what the
hell? But I fought so bad when I had the flu,
y 'all. Like, I think I told y 'all recently,
like, it was a... Five of the day that I did.
It was on Black History Month and Valentine's
Day. Valentine's is a love month. And I pushed
myself in the bed, y 'all. I did not record.
I did not want y 'all to see how drained and
busted I look. I said, okay, that's a little
too much. In my voice, it was already enough.
And I still progressed. So, that was funny. see
so yeah January it was it started out good because
we did the rebrand for vibe now with e y 'all
see the lovely new logo we got um so that went
well went back to school got sick um but then
I got myself together then I started to love
on me a little bit more I started doing things
I've never done to my like never done like try
new hairstyles um yeah try new hairstyles was
getting like my lashes done consistently like
i was doing a lot for me that i wasn't doing
for myself before so i was just so like i was
on cloud nine and still getting and still being
able to i was still being able to do what is
necessary for vibing with e started vibing out
with gas um March came, I was accepted into both
of the colleges that I applied for for grad school,
which was only Morgan University of Maryland.
It was a hard decision to swallow for me to go
where I wanted to go. I ended up going to University
of Maryland. my grades were still cool and good
however I had the paper 16 page paper that paper
was beating my ass but I did not let that defeat
me because I still I went then I started like
doing spring break with my friends we started
going to the library we helping each other we
in the library on Saturdays it was so weird how
the hours were the hours were from nine to six
on Sundays it was open I think to 12 to 12 like
we were in that library so much it was like to
the point where that they knew us by first name
they knew us by first days like the security
guards would look out for us everything like
that so it was good and then every time we went
to the library we would look at the the state
the stadium the football field because that's
what we graduated we was like we would count
down and we would just take a moment to just
look at the field and just manifest and just
be like oh my gosh we almost there we almost
there may hit my sister went to prom I finished
out my semester strong again with 4 .0. That
led me to graduate with Magna Cum Laude with
higher honors. With higher honors. Yeah, May
came. Things were going good. It went very well.
June came. The podcast started two years old.
I was still doing a lot of stuff then. July,
my birthday came. I didn't really do much. But
July, I was still doing what I had to do with
appearances and things like that. that august
really dope um yeah so i look back in versus
last year this year a lot of things shifted and
a lot of things i hit that i didn't hit last
year i hit this year and some things i did i
didn't think i would ever do so when it comes
to y 'all i just gave my little story so y 'all
can understand why is it important for y 'all
to reflect i want y 'all to see how far have
you come just the whole purpose of seeing why
reflection on the year is important is to see
how far you've come and you sitting back and
oops give me thinking to yourself like damn I
really and I might have had hit rock bottom but
I did not let me that did not let that stop me
because I kept going and now where I'm at I'm
10 times better or you know where you go zero
to 100 real quick I had those moments too last
year even in this year it was like points where
when I was at internship or school i was like
i can i don't know like sometimes i would question
myself like i don't know how i'm doing this but
i know damn well i'm gonna keep on doing this
because this is very important for me and the
whole point too y 'all want to understand that
when you are you know reflecting on what happened
don't beat yourself up about it because it was
bound to happen and at times we'd be like i don't
know why this happened but at times it's bound
to happen And that's what I love when it comes
to the power of reflection of what this year
has taught me because a lot of things had happened
in my life that I did not want to happen, but
it was bound to happen. And I learned a lot from
it that it helped me so much to where I'm at
right now. And I hope this is the same way for
you guys too, because this is a time where you
get to reflect and also be thankful as it's being
Thanksgiving week. And if you don't celebrate
Thanksgiving, just period, just sit back and
be thankful for what. you have done and how far
you've come because it could have been 10 times
worse and sometimes it could be 10 times better
but i want y 'all to be able to be thankful and
to be grateful for how far you've come because
we never really take the time to appreciate them
small blessings and them small manifestations
that everything that we have came to we never
really sit back and really be like dang i did
not know i was gonna make it this far and i i
it just be so stuck you know we just be so stuck
on what's to come but i want you guys to remember
this be thankful and be able to sit back and
reflect on your life and be like wow i might
have hit rock bottom or i might not whatever
the case may be but i'm thankful i'm still here
i'm thankful i'm still progressing even if the
results are not hitting where it is long as i
see results and i'm appreciative of that and
i'm thankful for that because it could have been
even worse so we have to be able to reflect on
that pause And look back and not judge ourselves,
but be able to understand ourselves. Because
I feel like every time a new year come in, y
'all know what people be like, that new year,
new me. Everybody don't follow that. Technically,
we do. Because sometimes when we look at that,
you know, listen to the phrase and then we think
about it, we all are impacted by that. Because
sometimes we don't bring in the stuff that we
had last year into the new year. And sometimes
we do a whole 360. on how we want things to go
for ourselves in the new year so when people
be like you know new year new me and sometimes
i'm gonna tell you this first and foremost it's
not gonna happen overnight so yes you're gonna
steal some have some character traits from last
year that you had you bringing a new year okay
that's fine but i guarantee you when june comes
you because we like that's what halfway in the
year you're not going to be that same person
that you was last year When you get into 2026.
I promise you that. Because I look like I gave
y 'all. My mini little snippet. Of how I reflect
on my year. I look back now. On what it was last
year. I wouldn't think I would even get this
far. To the things I did. Or just taking a risk
and doing all that stuff. So you got to be able
to appreciate yourself. But also love on yourself.
Just be thankful for everything you have done
because it is not easy at all to just be able
to sit and reflect on what has happened. Some
people will be like, I'll be damned to sit and
reflect on what happened to me last year because
I've been through hell. But then. i get it i
mean i get it but i want you to be thankful because
them times had helped you and molded and grounded
you in the times that you are in now you're in
a better space you're in a better predicament
you're in a better relationship you're in a better
home you're in a better job you're in a better
whatever it is everything is 10 times better
than it was last time and i know at times it's
hard to reflect on that but i'm real big on the
freak i'm not gonna forget but i'm gonna forgive
what has happened but in that state i've learned
from it and i'm thankful and i'm grateful you
know because we been unthankful for things and
then we have to be grateful and it happens it
happens to us we all go through these things
but i want y 'all to be able to understand that
your story is your story and don't change it
for nobody regardless of how high their story
may be or low because sometimes people don't
tell you the real some people are not going to
give you the raw and uncut version but me i'm
gonna give you the raw and uncut version shoot
i'm like i cried i had some crash out moments
i questioned myself so many times because we're
human and i'm human and i go through these things
but i had to think i came so far look how far
i came i can't give up now I'm entitled. You're
entitled to, my friend, to take a break. But
don't let nothing or anyone stop you into what
you're doing. Because you know how far you come
and how bad you want it. And at times, we do
have to take a break. And it doesn't make you
less of a person. But you're going to keep on
going until you get the results you want. But
in the meantime, appreciate those small blessings
you had. As well as just take the time to reflect
on how far you've come. Because reflection isn't
about what lived in the past. It's about learning
from it. So it can help you see that. patterns
of what has happened see the patterns the celebrations
and the progress reflecting that you have the
progress that you have seen as well as releasing
what no longer serves you and you step into a
new season with clarity and that's how we're
going to step into 2026 we're going to step into
things with new clarity new hope and new everything
and it's okay to reflect on these things that
didn't serve us a purpose but We're thankful
for those things because it helped us get to
where we are now. So when the next year come
in, if it comes up again, we know how to handle
it. Because when you reflect with purpose, you
connect with your journey and realize how much
strength of wisdom and realization you have gained
along the way. So when a new year comes in, it's
all about what you want to do and how you want
to do it, my friend. So just look at reflection
as not reliving the past, but just reflecting
on how. Things have really hit. Just reflect
on how things have been. And just looking at,
just reviewing your experiences, the emotions
and lessons, mistakes, achievements, and moments
of growth with honesty and compassion that you
have overcome. Be proud of yourself regardless
of how bad things have went. Be proud of yourself
because you didn't let those things or those
people stop you. It may have took up time, but
it's okay. But you still didn't let that defeat
you and be your whole life. Okay? So next, who
is impacted? Who is benefit the most from reflecting
on their year? Everyone is, from children all
the way up to older adults. Everyone is impacted
with them being able to sit back and reflect
on the year. How has the year have been for them?
How good, how bad, whatever it is. Everyone is
impacted within reflecting on the year. everyone
who has lived through challenges transformation
growth or uncertainties benefits from reflection
students adjusting to new pressure adults juggling
responsibility and anyone experiencing emotional
or personal change Gain clarity from looking
back. Reflection is compelling for people who
feel stuck, discouraged, or unsure about their
next step. When you pause to reflect, you gain
understanding that helps you move forward stronger,
smarter, and more grounded. So everyone is impacted
by this. We're all impacted by this. We all have
the right to sit back and just think or brainstorm
or daydream about what the hell has happened
to us this year. Excuse me. What the hell has
happened to us this year? What has been good?
What has been bad? Let's just say it like this.
Regardless of how many hats you wear, how many
titles you have, let's take all that out real
quick. You're still human. Regardless, before
all those titles came, you were a human. You
had one name, your government name, before you
had all these other names. Like me, I was Erica
before Eve was born. All other names before they
were born, I was Erica. And I look back at everything
that has happened this year and I say, thank
you to Erica for helping me navigate all these.
and phrases in my life, regardless of if I was
in E mode or missed such and such mode and missed
whatever mode, Erica was still there. You got
to be able to thank yourself because we all are
impacted with so much in our life. We have to
be thankful for everything that has came our
way, as well as not being ashamed to reflect
on it. At times, it is hard to just reflect,
but I want y 'all to understand this. We all
went through some challenges, some trials and
tribulations. We've all been through friendships,
relationships that were just not it. And we worked
so hard to see what, like, we were in the trenches
manifesting and praying that things will work.
But it's like, when you've had enough, enough
is enough. And it's okay to have to say the word.
f this I'm done I'm done and we all went through
those things the challenges in our lives I will
say this challenges really helped me to be where
I'm at challenges at times were needed when I
never thought that I was going through a challenge
challenges can make or break you but I always
say that in the beginning it's going to break
you but in the end it's going to make you because
sometimes it's like I'm going through a challenge
and it's beating me down like it's beating me
up so bad but in the end it has helped me so
much even though I've been through all the Things
that I've been through within this challenge.
Like it had me in a chokehold and things like
that. I did not let this stop what I was doing.
I didn't quit. I pushed through this challenge.
I navigated what needed to be navigated. And
I stood up with my chin up, chest out. And still
did what had to be done. And I fought that challenge.
And I fought a good fight. I did a good fight.
And now look where I'm at. As well as like the
transformation. We are a transformation in some
type of way. Physically, mentally, emotionally,
spiritually, financially, wellness, everything.
In those areas, we did flourish and transition
in so many ways. Some people physically did by
moving away. Some mentally did by just mentally
not putting their pressure, energy into those
things. Emotionally, everything of that nature,
we all been through it. Trust me, I been through.
I feel like every part of it, but in every different
parts, in many parts, in different parts of my
life within this year. And I'm not ashamed of
it because it was needed. I've been through those
things and it was needed. It was needed for me
to separate myself from certain things. It was
needed for me to mentally grasp things that do
or do not serve me a purpose financially. Like
I was like, look, I'm making some money, a good
amount of money. Still being careful of how I
spin and how I do these things. Spiritually,
it was beautiful getting a closer connection
to the Lord himself. Physically, I'm still moving
around as much as I can. And also my physical
appearance. I'm wearing what I want to wear and
making sure that it fits my standard. As well
as I'm comfortable with who I am. Because at
one point in time, we all went through this.
We were not comfortable in our skin. We were
not. And I'm going to tell you right now. That
was a big transformation for me. That was a big
transition for me to even be finally be comfortable
with who I am. Like, you know, I could be on
here all day sometimes. Like I tell y 'all too,
it was hard as hell for me to be able to sit
in front of a camera because my biggest issue
was I might not come looking up to par. Like
y 'all seen one video I did within the beginning
of this year. I had the same exact braids, same
exact style of braids in my head. Lashes was
on the last straw. And I had my glasses on. And
I had the nerve to be like, oh, my God, they're
going to see it. But I was like, you know what?
I came this far. And this, my whole model is
raw and uncut. Sometimes you got to see the rawness.
Sometimes you got to see the reckless and rawness
in people. Because sometimes you will not see
all the glam. Sometimes you're going to see the
roughness. But I still showed up. You still showed
up. Regardless. Mentally, I'm here. I'm focused.
I'm in there. But physically, my appearance might
say another thing. But I guarantee the energy
and the work that I'm putting in is saying a
whole other thing. And I know you probably went
through the same thing, my friend. It's all in
how you impact with things. It's all how you
tell the story. It's all about how you carry
these things. And trust me, we've been through
these challenges. We've been through these transformations.
But with all those things happening, we learned
a lot. We have grown so much. We have growth
in so many areas that we need to appreciate too.
Because we always get wrapped up at times within
like relying on what we didn't do. We need to
be relying on things that we did do. Going back
to, excuse me, like I said, bad times don't last
forever. They do not last forever. Because the
bad times, bad times don't last forever. Because
after every storm, there is going to be a rainbow.
If you can't see it, it's out there, though.
Trust me, I may not cannot be able to see it,
but it's there. And this is what growth is like.
We go through these bad times, like the challenges
and transformation that we go through that we
may not want it to happen. But then the growth
side is like, OK, the bad times, they happen.
But here is the rainbow, the sunshine, the pot
of gold, whatever light in the tunnel that's
helping me to help me. and help me understand
that i have done so much i've grown in so many
areas that i may not have seen the growth in
and i tell you you will see growth when you're
able to deal with situations that you used to
in the past that used to just eat you up so bad
as now like i'm not doing this for me mentally
i've seen growth for myself when it came to just
knowing how to if my mom would say hold and fold
my thoughts and feelings with certain things
in certain situations with people like family
friends they're gonna they're gonna take you
there and sometimes it's gonna take you to the
point where you have to see for yourself some
will do it in front of crowds and some won't
do it in front of crowds some will do behind
doors closed doors whatever i don't care what
it is when you had enough you had enough and
you give it to them the most polite way possible
i dealt with this this year i never thought it
would come to this point but the growth in me
by me going to therapy but also by me being able
to know is it even worth it the situation was
not as good as I wanted it to be a few other
situations but I had to think okay I'm gonna
tell you how I feel respectfully as an adult
that I am and I'm gonna get out my chest I'm
gonna come to you correct and I'm not gonna come
to you wrong and I said what I said if you like
it oh well and if not that's okay But respect
is a thing that I had learned that I have growth
within me, me being vocal for myself and not
being ashamed of it. Because sometimes I used
to be vocal with people and then I feel like
I regret it because I feel like, okay, our friendship,
our relationship is done with because I said
how I felt. No, and I'm even teaching my students,
do not be ashamed on expressing your feelings
because you don't want nobody treating you like
a lap dog. And you know, you're not, that's not
you. And I'm really big on feelings because we
all have feelings. And when it comes to wellness
education that I love to talk about, your feelings
matter regardless of how big or small it is or
how big or small the situation is. Your feelings
matter and it's valid because people think at
times, oh yeah, I'm going to tell you how it
is and whoop -de -whoop, wop -wop -wop. No, I'm
going to tell you 10 times better in a way that
you may not can handle it. And when you give
people the energy that they didn't think they
were going to receive, like you cool, calm, and
collect, that's the growth right there. Because
not seeing growth will be you matching their
energy. Y 'all fussing back with each other.
You loud. You in their face. You cussing. Y 'all
fussing. You fighting. It's not worth it. In
those situations that I've been through, I've
seen growth within myself. I'm like, you know
what? It's not worth it. It's not really. It's
not meant for me to sit here and give you the
same treatment that you're giving me because
I'm going to respect you. I'm going to treat
you. You're going to treat me like a lady and
I'm going to treat you like a human. I'm going
to treat you like the human that you are. Let's
just say that. You're going to treat me like
a human. I'm going to treat you like a human,
but you're not going to talk to me like I'm a
child or a lap dog or nothing of that nature.
Not going to do that. Let's say you're not going
to talk to me like a pet. Okay. You're not going
to talk to me crazy. And with growth. And in
that area when you see like okay things that
used to just get you on the edge of you to curse
people and stuff Growth is when you be like,
you know, well, let me sit back and really think
about this Is it worth me going toe to toe with
you? Is it worth me going to jail? And sacrifice
everything I got because you acting like a child
and you acting like a lap dog and you acting
out of character Hell nah not doing that because
my wellness is impacting what I have going on
and if I learned nothing this year I learned
this you don't have to match energy with energy
you don't gotta match it you do not have to match
negative with negative someone has to be positive
somebody gotta be the big person like I tell
my students mostly my girls you gotta be a big
girl sometimes you have to be the big girl it's
hard I know it's like oh my gosh he or she should
I'm gonna give them what they want but it's like
at the end of the day what's the purpose? When
you say what you say, it's like, okay, I did
it and now I still don't feel good because I
feel like I should have did something else. And
I didn't want that too. I was like, you know,
I'm a big girl now. I cannot let certain things
and issues, people and stuff get to me no more.
I've learned that with the reflection of this
year, within the power of reflection of... This
year, like what has this year taught me? One
thing I will most likely say is growth. I've
grown in so many areas that I think I couldn't
grow into, that I thought I couldn't grow into.
But now I know I've grown into them because I've
seen firsthand when an incident had happened
that the old me would have been matching energy.
We would have been in each other's face. Fingers
would have been pointing at everything. And this
year I've learned that back back, you back yourself
up. You speak to them like an adult. They can
yell and scream all they want because you don't
want to yell and scream with them. Because they
say to you, when a loud person is in a room,
they're the one that's doing too much. They're
guilty and they're doing too much, which is true.
But I've learned, too, that growth is, you know,
just stop walking away. Seeing the things that
used to bring you down and baggage and stuff
doesn't impact with you no more. The growth of
it is you flourish in so many ways you thought
you couldn't. that you thought you couldn't,
that has helped you to understand also to the
uncertain benefits that doesn't serve a purpose
for you no more. And that's why it's important
for all of us to understand that we all are impacted
with reflecting on how the year has been for
us. We're all impacted by reflecting on how has
this year been for you, regardless how good or
bad it is. Just sit back and be like, hmm, it
taught me a lot. It taught me something because
it's impossible for you to not learn nothing.
But it's going to teach you something because
reflection will also help you with it. Reflection
is compelling for people who have felt stuck,
discouraged, or unsure about their next step.
I want you to know when you pause and reflect,
my friend, you're going to gain so much understanding.
It's going to help you within the next year for
you to move forward, to be stronger, to think
smarter. And to be more grounded in things that
serve your purpose and that doesn't. And I know
it hurts at times when we be like, oh my gosh,
I should not feel that way. I should not do that
way. Your mental health matters. Your peace matters.
Everything that you stand for matters within
your wellness. Don't let nobody take advantage
of something that you have. Because most of the
time they want to do that because they're jealous
of you. Or they want to see you down. Don't be
a fool for these people. And don't let nobody
fool you. Okay. Next, what is the benefit? What
happens when you take time to reflect intentionally?
What I'm going to say is when you take the time
to reflect intentionally about yourself, that's
where all the self -awareness, the self -worth,
the self -care, the self... Everything impacting
self comes into play. When you take the time
to sit back and just reflect on what has been
going on intentionally with your life, you're
thinking about self. Everything impacting self
-care, self -affirmation, self... intuition whatever
everything self comes into play where you reflect
on how things have been going for yourself you're
reflecting on yourself intentionally for you
and just only you and taking to see what was
the benefit that has impacted with me within
myself what has this done for me how has this
been important how does impact gotta etc etc
So reflection strengthens self -awareness. It
helps you identify what worked, what drains you,
what brought you joy, and what needs to change.
When you reflect, you gain emotional clarity,
reduce intentional pressure, and see yourself
from a more compassive perspective, compassionate
perspective, perspective. Reflection also boosts
confidence by rewarding, by reminding you and
rewarding you of what you have overcome and achieved,
even things you forgot to celebrate. Ultimately,
reflection transformations your mind allowing
you to make more intentional decisions in the
future. So like I said, going back into like
what happens when you take the time to reflect
intentionally, it's all about self, your self
-awareness. You're reflecting on a lot of self
-awareness, things that would work for you. I
want you to sit back and be like, what worked
for me this year? I don't care how big or small
it is. What really worked for me this year? And
how did it help me mentally, physically, emotionally,
spiritually, financially, well -being, whatever
it is. How did this help me so much? As well
as what drained you? I think for me too, what
has really been versus this year, last year.
Last year, I was able to point out so many things
that drained me so fast. It was so hard to identify
what really made me happy. It was so hard to
really figure out what. would work for me sometimes
but this year I could say okay these things really
drain me but these things work for me because
I took that vow to be more positive of certain
situations that were negative than to make it
be worked up for me and to drain me If that makes
sense. So I want you guys to just reflect on
like, okay, what really worked for me? Okay,
this worked for me. I did that for me when I
left this person alone. When I left this job
alone, that worked for me. What drains me was
when I kept going back and forth with these people.
When I kept pushing and pressuring myself. And
it's what I kept saying I'm not going to do.
And I kept doing like whatever drained me. As
well as what brought you joy. What overall, even
though you went to these things work for you.
These things did not, but what really brought
me joy was this, doing this, having this, becoming
a mom, becoming a dad, becoming a sister, a brother,
becoming an auntie, whatever, becoming a business
owner, becoming this, becoming that. These things
have really brought me joy as well as what I
need to change. I know I've been through some
good and some bad times, but something got to
give and something got to give now. And this
is what I need to change. I need to change how
I feel about this. I need to change how I feel
about myself within this. I need to change how
my work ethics. I need to change how I talk to
people. I need to change how I talk to myself.
I need to change how. um i spend my money whatever
it is it's all impacting you my friend that impacts
was when you reflect you gain emotional clarity
you gain the emotional clarity for yourself that
no one else will know for yourself You will see
what helps me emotionally and what doesn't help
me emotionally. As well as reducing the intentional
pressure you have on yourself. We all have so
much pressure built up that at times it blows
up. And at times we be like, was it even worth
me blowing up on this person? Was it even worth
me blowing up on this thing or situation? What
was really it? We have the emotional clarity.
It's like, okay. I'm not going to let this happen
to me because I've been through this before.
I'm not going to let this happen because it's
not worth it. This is where everything falls
into. What's the benefit and why is it important
for you to do these things? As well as to reduce
the intentional pressure. We all have these pressure
build up. These pressure build walls and all
that. We got to let some of these things go.
And seeing yourself for a more compassionate
perspective. compassion is something that we
have for others that at times we don't have for
ourselves. We're always there to give the love
and feel the love, but we don't really feel for
ourselves. And compassion and empathy is something
that we always give to each other, but have we
really gave it to ourselves? Once you sit back
and think like, have I gave myself enough compassion
and empathy this year? If not, I need to start
doing that. And the new year still is appreciate
myself more. I need to pour more into my cup
before I can pour into someone else's. Even though,
yes, I'm not going to take this away from nobody
because I'm a part of this too. Helping people,
that's a part of your DNA. Love that down for
you. You're a giver more than you are a receiver.
Hey, I'm here for it. But sometimes us givers
need to receive for ourselves. We need to receive
things for ourselves before we can give to people
so they can receive from us. whatever it is we
have to give to ourselves so we can receive the
love and energy the prosperity the goodness and
all those good things for ourselves before we
can give it to others because if we don't do
that for ourselves it's like we're not showing
up for ourselves but we're quick to show up for
others you know We have to do what's for us as
before we can step out on the forefront and be
like, hey, I got you. Because like I say to you,
even superheroes need to love on their self before
they can go out there and save the day. They
need to prepare their self for what's to come
before they get prepared for others. As well
as reflecting also helps us boost our confidence.
It may be crazy, but it reminds us of everything
that has been going on. It reminds us what we
have overcome and achieved, even things we forgot
to celebrate. One thing about it, y 'all. I like
to say this. You are your biggest cheerleader,
even if people are not going to cheer for you
like you cheer for yourself. And one thing I
have a big problem of this year that I have to
learn when it comes to the new year is that sometimes
you have. to do expect more from yourself than
you expect from others especially when it comes
to reminding yourself of what you have overcome
and achieved sometimes we always look for other
people's opinion to see and to give us our flowers
and our applause my friend if you're just like
me or you know someone that's just in a situation
like me When you step into the new year, I want
you to love on yourself so hard. I want you to
not think about anybody else's opinion unless
it's necessary for you to get their opinion,
like on a job or a business type of thing that
you need to get their opinion. If it's a personal,
a goal, achievement you did, my friend, you don't
even have to tell the world. You tell the world
when you're ready, whatever the case may be.
But the moment you see the progress or you get
the results, whatever you need. That's when you
honor and you celebrate yourself, regardless
of how big or small the over you have overcome
within this achievement or whatever you have
overcome or the achievement is celebrated because
we do lose sight of forgetting the things that
we have achieved and overcome because we forget
to celebrate ourselves. When we're so eager to
celebrate others at times, they may not be able
to celebrate us. This is where we take the chance
to celebrate ourselves. Even though, like, for
me, it's scary still because sometimes I do want
people to celebrate with me. But then sometimes
you got to think, do I want these people around
me that I have to keep looking behind my shoulder
to make sure they can talk about me in the midst
of me having the spotlight? Because that's another
thing to y 'all I've seen. When you have the
spotlight, sometimes it's like you don't want
it. again like me personally like graduation
things like that I don't do the big parties because
I just am very frightened of having a spotlight
and it gets taken from you or you have the spotlight
and it still feel like it's not your spotlight
because of x y and z but I'll say this When you
do have things and moments of your life, celebrate
it with the ones that you know for a fact you
love. And they're your reasons. Celebrate with
your reasons, not the seasons. And you know that
they're going to love you. And they're going
to celebrate with you because it's all about
you. And they're pouring into you things like
that. Or if you don't want to do that, sometimes
we got to celebrate and love on ourselves a little
bit hard. Sometimes we got to do for ourselves.
And then sometimes people be like, you know what?
And most of the time I don't do these things
because I don't want to be bothered with people.
I don't want to do this and that because I just
don't want to do it no more. God do what's for
you. But overall, my friend, I want you to appreciate
and celebrate every accomplishment or whatever
you have done. And starting in the new year to
level yourself a little bit harder because we
can lose sight of these things. We can forget
to love on ourselves. We can forget to celebrate
ourselves because no one knows how hard it was
for us to get to where we are. us so I want you
to reflect on this year coming up and reflect
on this year to see if I celebrate myself enough
if I loved myself a little enough if I didn't
in a new year I'm going out with a bang I'm going
in with a bang I'm going in with a bang and I'm
going to go out with a bang next year the same
way with a good one because you have to pour
into yourself harder before anyone else can pour
into you You can help as much as possible, but
you know what's for you. And that impacts with
you. Reflection is transforming your mindset
as well and allowing you to make more intentional
decisions for your future. You have to do what's
best for you before you can do it for anyone
else within helping them navigate the world.
You have to do what's necessary for you, my friend,
and take advantage of it every day. But reflect
on the things you didn't do. If you didn't celebrate
yourself a little harder stuff, do it this year,
next year coming in. Because you matter. and
this is about you my friend it's all about you
this is the power within reflecting on what this
year taught me so when the next when a new year
come what I learned this year I'm putting it
into the new year so I can see so I can put into
the action and see for myself that I've learned
this last year so I'm putting in the work for
this year and making sure that's going to come
true if it don't come over even if it don't come
overnight because it's not going to happen overnight
long as I'm putting in that work Putting in that
pressure. So I can see how far I've come. So
I can praise and applaud myself before anybody
else. And try to get any type of comments or
victory from anyone else. So when should you
reflect? When is the most important time to pause
and look back? Anytime. I don't care if it's
the morning, evening, afternoon, middle of the
night. You wake up, reflect on any time of the
day. I don't care. do it because you it also
gives you a flashback of like hmm you deep diving
into what has gone on and sometimes we look back
be like damn this really happened sometimes we
be like damn this really happened like the tone
and the voice you know take the time anytime
to sit back reflect the daydream or whatever
you have to do to time travel to see how this
year has been for you excuse me y 'all So anytime
you feel overwhelmed, lost, or unsure of your
decision, excuse me, reflection is a lot. Reflection
is... especially powerful at the end of a season
where that's the end of the year the end of the
year a major chapter or after a major challenge
reflect when you're standing you're starting
something new you're healing from something painful
you need clarity before making a decision and
you feel stuck or disconnected from your goal
reflection is your inner compass it relines It
realigns you when life feels scattered or rushed.
So you should reflect anytime, even when you
feel overwhelmed, lost, unsure of your direction.
This is where you reflect on what's next. Like
you just look back, like look how far you've
come or where you want to be. Reflect when you're
starting something new. Reflect that, okay, just
pinpoint things. Okay, like this is worth it.
I'm a little nervous. But overall, still go for
it. Take that risk, my friend. Take that risk
regardless. Reflect on the things like, okay,
this really, it really made sense. It didn't
make sense or I'm scared, I'm afraid, whatever
the case may be. I want you to look at how far
you've come, my friend, but be able and thankful
for these things because they are preparing you
for something new. Like, reflect when you're
starting something new. You're healing from something
painful. That's a relationship, grief and loss.
not getting something you wanted reflect on this
and see is it worth the next step for you I feel
like it is you need clarity before making a big
decision take that time to reflect on things
that maybe you felt lost or stuck on and then
you look at like okay I remember I told myself
that if this happened again if you wrote it down
did a video journal or whatever it is I told
myself I'm gonna do it again I'm gonna take a
chance on it do that And when you're feeling
stuck or disconnected from your goals, this is
where you really take the time to reflect. Okay,
this can be something that is worth the while.
If I don't take this right now, I don't know
what's going to happen. But if I do, it's going
to make sense in the long run. Because reflection
is your inner compass. It realigns you when life
feels scattered or rushed. You'll be able to
take that time to reflect on things that what
matters for you and how you are able to take.
take that risk because you are in control of
your life. You are the captain, excuse me, of
the ship, the bus driver, whatever you want to
do about your, however you narrate your life,
you're in control. And I want you to take that
time to reflect as much as possible. Even reflect
when you're happy, when you're excited, you on
cloud nine, even reflect on them times where
you are like on sky high, not just when you're
at the darkest times, even when it's light. When
you have light in your life, reflect on those
times, even when you're in the darkest times.
Reflect every time that's needed. Because you
never know. Reflecting in the mirror and all
that is needed. Take it when you know for a fact
that, like, okay, I need to reflect on this.
Even, like, when you have light. When I say when
you have light is, you know, when you're in the
dark times, it's like, I cannot stand it. It's
something I have to give. And you work so hard
for you to see the lights again. Thank yourself
and reflect on them bad times. Like, dang, I
really went through this, but I think. Those
bad times for me to be where I'm at right now
because if I was not right here, I don't know
what I would have done. And don't take them for
granted because that's when the dark times come
and be like, dang, why did I do this? What's
going on? And be appreciative of everything you
have every day. Be thankful and grateful for
everything that we have, that you have going
on. That impacts with two, where does this matters
most? In which areas of your life does reflection
make a big impact? I feel like every area of
your life makes a big impact when it comes to
reflecting on how things have been for you. Reflection
matters in every area of your wellbeing. Personal
growth help you see how far you have come. Mental
health gives emotional clarity and reduces stress.
Relationships help you understand patterns, needs,
and boundaries. School slash work improves decision
-making and goal settings. Self -worth reminds
you that you are elevating, learning, and worthy
because reflection shifts your perseverance,
allowing you to show up more intentionally, gratefully,
and grounded. That right there is enough said.
overall because when it comes to where does this
matters the most in every area of your life reflection
makes the biggest impact, especially when it
comes to your personal growth. It helps you see
how far you've come. Look how far you've come.
You have made it to this point so far that you
probably didn't even imagine it. Take advantage
of it and grasp onto it. Even if you didn't get
to that point, still take advantage of it because
you tried and you're still in the race to get
to where you want to be. As well as your mental
health, it helps you give your emotional clarity
and reduce the stress. And if not, you're working
to it and you've got this, my friend. Within
your relationships, it helps you understand the
patterns needed and the boundaries that you need
to set for yourself that you're setting now or
within the new year to come with the school work
or with the school or within work your business
whatever the case may be you're improving and
making decisions and setting goals as needed
now or into the new year and within your self
-worth reminding you that you are elevating learning
and worthy you're taking these baby steps you're
appreciating small achievements you have made
in your life from now on to the new year because
your reflection is perseverance allowing you
to show up more intentionally for yourself being
grateful and grounded for how far you have come
and how far things are going to go because you're
in control of your life and we're here to cheer
you on i know i'm most definitely here to cheer
you on my friend because i know how hard it gets
i know how it is to be in these situations in
your life where look it's like damn something
gotta give and i'm tired of it like something
gotta give and when you put in that work and
you keep going and you keep flourishing my friend
you are there So please take the initiative of
the power of reflection. Because what this year
has taught you has been teaching you so many
things that you may be like, I did not even know
until just after listening to me and just being
able to please put the pieces together. You know?
And lastly, why is this important? Why is reflection
essential for long -term growth and wellness?
Because... This is something that's very important
that's needed because it's going to help you
in the future in the long run to see your growth
and how far you have come again. Because you
can't grow forward if you don't understand where
you have been. That's like you cannot go forward
if you don't take a step back and to see how
far you've come to just jump into something new.
Reflection helps you stop repeating cycles that
no longer serve you. And it empowers you to create
new habits, new boundaries, and new intentions
for the future. It brings peace by helping you
release guilt, regret, fear, and emotional weight
you have carried all year. Because I know y 'all
carried this burden on y 'all. Before I get deep
into it, my friend, I want you to get rid of
all that guilt, that regret, that fear, and emotion
and weight that you have going on. Let it go.
Let it flow. Before you go into the new year,
I want you to pray on a manifestation. Do whatever
you got to do. do to get all that out just because
that's negativity that negativity is going to
hold you back and you don't want nothing or no
one to hold you back for what your future has
to come for you because i know your future is
bright and i know you have so much to offer and
i know you have so much more to put into this
this atmosphere this world whatever you want
to call it Do not let nothing or anyone make
you feel guilty, make you regret, have fear,
as well as having the emotional weight that you
have been carrying all year long. My friend,
before we step into January the 1st, 2026, I
want you to let go of all them things that don't
serve you no more. Let go of every little thing
and everybody that has been in your ear just
giving you negative energy. Let them go before
we jump into January the 1st, 2026. I think it's
a Thursday. Let me check before I say the wrong
thing. I think it's a Thursday. Is it a Thursday?
Yes. Before Thursday, January 1st, 2026, my friend,
I want you to get rid of all that negative energy
right here, right now. We're in the holiday time
too. And I don't want you to deal with the holidays.
We're dealing with this fear, this guilt, and
this emotional fear, rejection, guilt. And all
those things, all those people and those things
in your ear, you need to let them go. If you
got to scream, you got to yell, got to do whatever
you got to do, let them go. Please do it, my
friend, because you deserve so much. You do not
deserve to be somebody's puppet master. You don't
deserve to have somebody have you walking around
in fear, feeling guilty and regretting the things
that you have done, as well as having all that
emotional weight on your shoulder because you
deserve better, my friend, and you're going to
get better. but i want you to make this vow to
yourself that you're not going to let nothing
or no one have you walking around in fear feel
guilty reject having these feelings of rejection
but overall carrying weight that don't serve
you a purpose no more because it hurts yes it
does hurts but i guarantee you that person that
thing doesn't give a damn no more and it hurts
when we People have so much feelings and things
going on, but people may not feel the same way
that we do. But we have to shift the gears and
be like, you know what? They don't care no more.
I got to do what's best for me because I can't
keep living with this conscious, this guilty
conscious or these things keep affecting me.
Let it go. Let it flow right here, right now,
my friend, because you deserve better. And as
you walk into the new year on Thursday, January
1st, 2026, let all them people and worries go
right here, right now. I said it. E, the one
and only E said it for you. Because you're going
to get through this. You're not going to let
no man or woman, they, them, none of that make
you feel less of a person, my friend. Because
you got to keep going, keep flowing. Do what
you got to do to get rid of those negative things
that don't serve you a purpose. Because we're
going to start off the new year with a new start.
And we're going to do things that impacts with
us for the better, the greater good. Because
this is impacted with our wellness. We don't
need nobody coming in with this nasty attitude,
none of that. So let all it go and let it flow
now. Before we step foot on Thursday, January
1st, 2026, we need to do what's best for us.
And you're going to do it, my friend. Because...
Because reflection turns your experiences into
wisdom. It teaches you that you didn't just survive
this year. You evolved through it. And that...
Evolve is what prepares you for the next season
of your life. Even though you went through all
these things, it still helps you to understand
that that reflection has helped you to turn your
experiences into wisdom. You went through hell
and back and high waters. Cool, but that still
helped you to understand that you turned those
experiences into wisdom. Hell, it was a fucked
up situation for you. But it gave me wisdom.
It gave me hope. It gave me strength. Like going
back to, I'm not going to let nobody or nothing
make me feel guilty no more. All that rejection
and fear, regret, that emotional wealth, all
that is gone. But I'm not going to just leave.
I'm not going to forget it. I'm not going to
forget it. I'm going to forgive it, but I'm not
going to forget it. Because that reflection turned
my experience into wisdom. Because it taught
me that. I didn't just survive this year, and
you didn't just survive this year, my friend,
but you evolved through every storm you went
through, every hell and high waters. good or
bad emotional roller coaster you have evolved
through it and after all of that it is now preparing
you for the next season of your life it's preparing
you for what you want and what you don't want
because you're in control of your life and we're
here to sit back and cheer you on regardless
of how big or small it gets or how hard it gets
i'm here to still cheer you want to keep you
going and here to help you if you need a shoulder
and i'm here to help you and if you need a shoulder
cry on my friend because i know how party gets
okay i know and the quote of the day impacting
the quote of the week is reflection is the bridge
between where you were and where you're going
reflection is the bridge between where you're
where you were and where you're going and you're
going places my friend don't let nothing or anyone
dictate you and say you're not because you are
it's going to come manifest pray on it Live on
it. Write it out. Whatever you got to do. Stand
on it. Dance on it. Praise on it. Whatever you
got to do. Keep that faith going. Okay. I know
this wellness lesson was a lot. It was. But I
want y 'all to understand this is important.
Because as we are doing the wellness 101 lesson
21. Within the power of reflection. Of what this
year has taught us. I want you to understand
and think that. Appreciate what you have. And
be. thankful for everything that came your way
okay because i thank y 'all for taking the time
out of y 'all busy day y 'all be scheduled to
listen to me or watch me and just for that thank
you for tapping in and i want y 'all to remember
this remember your year didn't define you it
redefined you take time this week to pause breathe
and honor everything this year has taught you
the wins the losses the lessons the moments you
doubted yourself they all shaped you to the person
you are today continue to reflect learn and grow
your next chapter is already proud of you and
so am I regardless of what is to come I'm proud
of you and your next chapter is proud of you
as well okay my friend so I thank you all so
very much again I hope you learned quite a few
things within this wellness lesson because You're
in control of everything that you do, my friend.
You are the one that knows what's for you and
what's not for you, who serves a purpose and
who doesn't. And I really hope that you do take
the time to reflect on how, to reflect on what
this year has taught you, regardless of how big
or small it is, but just take that time to reflect
and be thankful for everything that has come.
Even be thankful for them good times and them
bad times. Be extra thankful for them bad times
because they have... granted you the wish of
where you are right now. And I want you to step
into the new year as a whole, as much and holy
as possible if you want to, as brand new, if
so. Because the new year is already, the next
chapter of your life is already proud of you
and so am I. You're going to go far. I know you
can do it. Situations are going to come, but
you know how to deal with them and you're not
going to let them stop you. You're going to do
what's necessary for you. You're going to use
them resources to help you to not be so worked
up and to help you when you need the help. And
you're going to be someone that you wish you
had like me. I'm being the social worker that
I wish I had for my students. I'm being the podcaster
that I wish I had growing up for the people that
listens and watch to me. I'm being the woman
that I want to be when I have children so they
can look. at me and be like wow you know be the
person that you are for yourself so in the future
that you can look back and be like i did this
because i wanted this for me and for the next
generation to come as well be the person that
you are set to be we're all going to deal with
obstacles but don't let them obstacles defeat
you or stop you okay I hope you all enjoy your
Thanksgiving week. If you don't celebrate Thanksgiving,
I still want you to still be thankful for the
things that you have. But overall, just enjoy
your week. If you're celebrating Thanksgiving,
I hope it goes good. Hope you sit at your table
where you do your prayers and say what you're
thankful for and stuff. You are thankful for
things that really serve your purpose. And if
you don't celebrate Thanksgiving still, I want
you to still reflect on things that hasn't. got
you to where you are and you're thankful for
how far you've come but just being overall being
able to reflect on how this year has been okay
so happy holidays everyone and if not you don't
celebrate the holidays have a good weekend i
wish you all the best please be safe out here
bundle up you know pay attention to the weather
wear the proper clothes and attire also Be nice.
Be kind to someone. You never know who needs
it. As well as be kind and give to yourself.
Okay? I love you also very much. You guys will
hear from me next week. And I cannot wait to
give y 'all the next vibe of the day as we enter
December. Okay? Bye.