1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,040 Hey y'all whether it's morning evening or afternoon I'm just glad that you guys had decided to 2 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:14,000 buy with E. Yes the one and only E and I hope you guys are having an amazing day. Happy Wednesday. 3 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:19,840 Happy last Wednesday of the month at that. I hope you guys are safe and sound. I hope you guys are 4 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:26,480 in a good mood, good energy and things of that nature. So without further ado if you're new here 5 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:30,880 welcome welcome welcome and for the ones that are not new to this would true to this hey y'all what's 6 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:37,920 up popping. So without further ado I want you guys to sit back relax and enjoy the show wherever you 7 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:46,000 are just enjoy hearing my voice okay. So today is the last Wednesday of the month and as you guys 8 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:55,440 know last Wednesday in February the last Wednesday of the month I dedicated as wellness. So the new 9 00:00:55,440 --> 00:01:01,840 thing I would do is tips on impacting our wellness you know just to reflect on how we have been so 10 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:08,400 far how the month has treated us even if you know the month was very not so good to us or if it was 11 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:16,720 really good to us. So today's vibe well wellness tip of the day is let it flow and the reason why 12 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:24,880 today's wellness tip is let it flow is because I'm not ready to y'all music is one of the many things 13 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:33,360 that help me especially songs with titles and the lyrics impact with the titles. So such as Tony 14 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:40,480 Braxton she has a song called let it flow and I listen to that song and be listening and listening 15 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:46,800 to it and it helped me let things go especially when it comes to things that I couldn't control anymore. 16 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:56,000 So that's why I wanted to have this wellness tip as let it flow. So this is the first wellness tip 17 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:03,680 because last Wednesday it was just the overview of how I can help y'all within your wellness and 18 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:11,360 how I do my things within wellness but so every last so every Wednesday of the month it will be 19 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:16,960 dedicated to a wellness tip that I will be helping you guys with. So the first wellness tip is let it 20 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:28,560 flow. So what is like let it flow or letting it flow as a wellness concern let it flow is impacted by 21 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:37,040 surrounding to the nature of rhythm of life letting go of control situations beyond one's 22 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:44,000 control and accepting life as it is allowing experiences emotions and thoughts to come without 23 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:53,120 judgmental or like interfering involving letting go of worries and the urge of everything in their 24 00:02:53,120 --> 00:03:00,080 life. When you let it flow you reduce your stress you foster recents recents list and foster an 25 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:07,760 inner peace despite all the things that are going on in your life. So when I think of this I think of 26 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:15,600 letting everything and everybody go that probably piss me off or do not stay in a chance in my life 27 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:23,760 no more and the reason why I say that is because today has been one of them days where I just 28 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:30,480 thought about it I was okay the month of March has been good to me financial wise and when it comes 29 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:38,480 to me not stressing out. However when spring break had came around for me I'm not realized y'all 30 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:46,160 certain things I just could not stop thinking about and it made me so upset because certain 31 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:51,840 things I just don't allow and you know especially when you come into a work environment or you're 32 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:59,200 coming into a new environment that's impacted on helping you within your career or life whatever 33 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:04,960 the case may be you have to take time to adjust it and when it comes to people as well certain 34 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:11,040 things you don't tolerate. So when certain issues happen I just have it back in my mind okay I'm 35 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:15,280 gonna let that flow I'm gonna let it slide let it roll off because if I don't let it go it's 36 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:20,960 still gonna be on my mind and that flow of me getting pissed off and things like that is not 37 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:27,040 going to resolve it is not going to go pretty well because you know when you go into an environment 38 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:31,520 like say like if something happened at your house whatever happens at home you know in 39 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:35,360 situation let it stay home so when it's time for you to go to work go to school let it flow 40 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:40,480 just let it roll off don't let nobody piss you off anymore than you already is at times it's hard 41 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:47,600 to put that mask on but I'm gonna tell you right now for the sake of your wellness whatever it is 42 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:54,080 I don't care how small it is let it go let it flow let it do what it's going to do because at the 43 00:04:54,080 --> 00:05:01,280 end of the day it's bigger stuff going on and we have bigger fish to fry because it's it's it's not 44 00:05:01,280 --> 00:05:07,280 worth it it's so not worth it and I'm telling y'all every day I'm learning to let things flow and let 45 00:05:07,280 --> 00:05:14,400 it go for what it is because I'm real big on my mental and I be damned to let anybody mess up my 46 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:22,800 wellness because of something that it pissed me off let alone triggered me but it's like what's the 47 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:27,760 point of me going back and forth with somebody if it's so small I'm gonna let it flow I'm gonna let 48 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:33,600 it ride because what's the point what's the issue like you know people like get your issue man half 49 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:39,840 the time you don't need to get your issue because it's pointless so I hope that you guys so far are 50 00:05:39,840 --> 00:05:45,360 getting to the understand of what it is to let things flow or letting it flow because impacting 51 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:52,080 your well-being it allows you to help with like any experience the emotions and thoughts that come 52 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:58,320 to your mind without a judgment anything whatever whatever situation you gone through I don't care 53 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:02,800 how small it is let it go when it's big that's a whole different story because it's going to take 54 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:09,360 time for you to let it go and I will be talking about that deeper into the episode so next I'm 55 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:16,480 going to talk about why is it important to let things go so to maintain wellness us as individuals 56 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:22,960 must allow things to flow this will enable us to navigate life with a greater flexibility and 57 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:33,520 remorse because being stressed and having anxiety levels can reduce by letting go of things that are 58 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:42,400 pointless to control and accepting the natural flow of experience and emotions and any circumstances 59 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:49,600 by shifting our minds and developing inner peace to our self it allows us to 60 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:57,360 regulate with our emotions and improve on our mental health by embracing the flow of also 61 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:04,400 promoting and adapting and empowering ourselves to cope with more things with challenges and setbacks 62 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:10,720 to lead a greater overall life satisfaction and fulfillment so what that means is why isn't it 63 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:16,400 important to let things flow because like I mentioned you have bigger shit to worry about y'all I 64 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:22,240 told myself I was going to try to not cut but this you might have to you might want to hear some 65 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:30,880 d and s because like I mentioned when it comes to situations that don't put money in your pocket 66 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:36,000 not impacting you with getting your degree or diploma certification over the case me base 67 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:41,520 b or not impacting you with your business or getting things you know ripped off the ground let it flow 68 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:47,920 let it flow like damn I don't have time for this especially when it comes to them your mental health 69 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:54,080 if you're new here I'm gonna let you know this podcast is based on self-improvement 70 00:07:54,080 --> 00:08:00,560 self-empowerment and with that being said those two impact with your mental health 71 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:08,240 self-improvement it also it impacts because you have to believe in yourself you have to change 72 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:14,240 their narrative within yourself within okay mentally I have to prepare as well as physically 73 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:21,440 as well as self-empowerment within your mental you got to make sure you're in that state of mind 74 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:28,960 where okay I feel this way in my appearance physical appearance will do the same so when it 75 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:35,040 comes to why is it important to let things flow you have to make you have to remember your mental 76 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:43,040 health is on the line you have things in life that you want to pursue that you don't have time for 77 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:50,400 little petty stuff to get you so riled up about because that's how things make your stress and 78 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:57,600 anxiety level go up by you just like giving a damn about them little situations your stress level 79 00:08:57,600 --> 00:09:04,640 will go down in your anxiety depression everything like that will go down trust me trust me here as 80 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:12,960 a person that's studying social work and also study counseling and everything's semi-surrounding 81 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:18,240 the brain and seeing how people interact and things like that I'm telling y'all every day I'm 82 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:25,440 trying in I'm not gonna say trying I am because don't say trying I try to take like and trying out 83 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:32,240 of my vocabulary because I'm not trying I'm doing it I'm doing this and I want to be true to this 84 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:40,240 so when it comes to things that's going on in my life maybe if it impacted my job school 85 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:50,960 um yeah if it impacts my job or school or personal life I tend to not let little stuff 86 00:09:51,680 --> 00:10:01,120 take me off because it don't mean anything like I mentioned we have bigger things to worry about 87 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:09,040 it's bigger fish to fry what do I sit like what do I what do I look like sitting there going back 88 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:14,320 and forth with a person or giving a person the type of energy that they want now I want you 89 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:24,560 all to think for a minute we all have them situations where things can go so small to the 90 00:10:24,560 --> 00:10:31,520 point where they'll escalate to be big but we never think on right in there at that time how can I 91 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:37,600 make sure I don't let this shit get so big because it's already so small right now to the point where 92 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:46,480 I get pissed off and it's like well damn we about to get into it so with that being said with this 93 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:55,440 being you know wellness one on one now day one I want you guys to keep in mind you gotta let 94 00:10:55,440 --> 00:11:00,720 shit flow you gotta let shit go you gotta let people do what they're gonna do because at the end 95 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:06,400 of the day some people like to poke you know poke the bear you're the bear and they're poking you 96 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:12,080 with the needle whatever the hell they poking you with because they want some type of entertainment 97 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:18,480 they want some type of attention or they jealous of you or people try to make a mockery out of you 98 00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:22,720 you gotta pay attention you gotta learn a sign especially if you're gonna work in the work 99 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:29,120 environment school environment business environment home environment wherever it is you gotta pay 100 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:35,520 attention to them people like me and I'm getting older I'm comfortable now with reading a room real 101 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:42,560 good and I'm comfortable now with letting it know how I feel sometimes you don't sometimes we have 102 00:11:42,560 --> 00:11:48,720 to speak in cold because you don't want to make it too hot but then I'm like shit is this how I 103 00:11:48,720 --> 00:11:53,120 feel I'm gonna be straight up about it because this is something that I feel I need to let it off my 104 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:57,920 chest now I need to let it flow let it go now because if I don't it's still gonna be on my mind 105 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:03,920 and it's gonna piss me off it's gonna make my stress and anxiety level go up so I want y'all to do 106 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:13,280 this if someone or something tries to piss you off I want you to think how can I prevent this problem 107 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:20,640 so it won't be on my mind bingo I'm gonna let it handle I'm gonna let whatever I feel I'm gonna let 108 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:27,520 it out there or if I gotta walk away whatever I gotta do whatever I gotta do so it don't happen 109 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:33,440 so it don't like impact with me I'm gonna do it because you don't want that burden on you 110 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:38,960 and especially like I say when it comes to your mental health so mental health is very important 111 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:44,720 because it impacts with the brain you don't want to fuck the brain up even more than it is your mind 112 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:51,280 is always racing 24 7 even when you sleep your mind's racing how you think dreams come true 113 00:12:52,640 --> 00:12:59,920 how you think dreams are creating you know I bet y'all know that so when it comes to this letting 114 00:12:59,920 --> 00:13:04,880 it let it flow and letting it flow and why is it important to let things flow I'm letting y'all 115 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:13,600 know now with it impacting your wellness your well-being do everything in your power to make 116 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:20,240 sure that you don't have to you know once they say like once you enter them four walls in your 117 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:24,640 work environment school environment whatever whatever happened like at home or business 118 00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:30,080 wherever you came from previous leave it there at the door because now you're at a new setting 119 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:34,880 and you know the vibes can change and that's nothing to I'm big on vibes I'm big on reading 120 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:40,160 the room and I'm big on speaking how I feel those three things matter the most to me because as I'm 121 00:13:40,160 --> 00:13:46,080 getting older I understand when I was younger I didn't do that I didn't read the room I didn't 122 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:54,480 let my feelings you know at the door as much and I I didn't really speak up for myself but 123 00:13:54,480 --> 00:14:02,640 now I'm older I understand why my mother was on my ass the way she was and I would always say 124 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:10,720 Bobby being the oldest and by me being a cancerer because as my siblings got older they'd be like oh 125 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:16,640 yes only X on you a cancer they so sensitive right now certain certain stuff like that it 126 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:22,160 would like take me off because whatever I didn't care how big the situation was or how little it 127 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:28,400 was it still affect me because I didn't know how to let it flow and now that I'm older and grown 128 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:36,960 growing and getting wiser and things like that I know how to let shit go I know how to let it 129 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:44,320 flow you ain't gonna piss me off because I'm gonna tell you like this sometimes you just gotta laugh 130 00:14:44,320 --> 00:14:50,400 you gotta laugh shit off and if people be like oh my gosh I feel like when you laugh at times 131 00:14:50,400 --> 00:14:57,680 that's being smart you don't laugh in their face of course not but you just you know give them the 132 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:04,880 uh-huh yep period well you leave without that full wall wherever you at laugh because it's a joke 133 00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:10,080 because I honestly feel like it's a joke because certain stuff is like I'm not ready to see here 134 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:15,760 if I chill I'm not ready to hear argue with you over something that's that doesn't impact with my life 135 00:15:15,760 --> 00:15:23,520 and it's not gonna make me feel like I'm me so what that being said when it comes to my wellness 136 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:31,440 if your wellness I'm let you have it yep mm-hmm chuck the boost up and I'm gone because you 137 00:15:31,440 --> 00:15:36,560 gotta learn how to let it flow baby if I'm gonna teach you one thing I'm gonna tell you something 138 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:43,280 that you need to know and letting it flow it's gonna take time it's gonna take time on how to 139 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:49,920 like learn how to let things go excuse me it took me a minute I ain't ready to lie to y'all it took me 140 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:56,480 a minute to let certain shit it learned let certain people go and let it flow because it's like it's 141 00:15:56,480 --> 00:16:04,640 not that deep it's bigger things going on in the world that I need to make sure that I'm not getting 142 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:16,560 myself wrapped up into anything that's not going to benefit me in it in okay so let's get into the 143 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:24,800 nitty gritty of this one how can a person let things flow hmm hmm hmm I love these techniques 144 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:34,800 that I've seen one is meditation now I tried to you know breathe in breathe out for a good five minutes 145 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:42,960 knowing me I needed down there probably goddamn an hour soon and the reason why I said probably I 146 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:48,800 was too because I need complete silence I need to hear me and only me my inner thoughts need to be 147 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:55,760 let out I need to hear me say breathe in breathe out breathe in breathe out but I'm gonna let y'all know 148 00:16:56,560 --> 00:17:05,040 when I went to counseling last semester like when I entered hell as I entered the social work program 149 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:11,920 I did take counseling after the incident that happened at my school I took the offer of going 150 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:18,080 to counseling and letting it letting things out it happened I guess that meditation moment because 151 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:23,920 like it would get silent to the point where I'd be like okay me and my counselor look at each other 152 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:30,960 she know like okay get it together and also my counselor she gave me a button that has her voice 153 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:36,240 in it and when you tap it her buttons say don't let don't sweat the small stuff and that also 154 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:42,720 impacts with letting it flow because don't let the small stuff or the little itty bitty things 155 00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:48,080 and affect you like I mentioned within your life because you have bigger fish to fry and you got 156 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:53,760 bigger better things to worry about and baby your mental health matters the most so what I tell people 157 00:17:53,760 --> 00:18:01,360 to also don't be afraid to get a counselor therapist psychiatrist whatever because they're 158 00:18:01,360 --> 00:18:06,640 humans as well they've been there done that that's why they specialize in this because they know how 159 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:13,360 I feel that's their duty to do this as I mentioned within the social work episode people that are 160 00:18:13,360 --> 00:18:18,480 working with people within the mental level the mental health level this is what they signed up 161 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:26,160 to do this is what they felt as though this was their gift to the world that needs to be displayed 162 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:32,800 and they're going to make sure they help as many people as they can and I love that about 163 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:40,240 my people y'all don't talk about my black people because it's not easy especially when it comes to 164 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:46,320 us when it comes to letting things flow especially where you're from and how you brought up as y'all 165 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:55,120 know if you don't know I'm from Baltimore and at times certain people do know how to let things go 166 00:18:55,120 --> 00:19:02,880 and some it's hard to let it flow and you want to let that's what I'm telling y'all so you have to 167 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:10,480 let things flow so it don't build up so bad to the point where it creates chaos and it makes you 168 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:16,880 do things that you will that you will regret because we are I know y'all sitting here listening to me 169 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:22,720 probably like we all been in situations where we told ourselves we won't let it go but if I hear it 170 00:19:22,720 --> 00:19:28,480 again I'm a pop off or I'm a snack or if I see something or I see that person I'm a snack trust 171 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:34,800 me I've been there like I almost had that moment at work like I almost had one of those moments at 172 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:40,480 work because when it comes to our mental and the mind like I said the mind be racing 24 seven when 173 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:46,320 we sleep when we up whatever and our mind has photographic memories or like that voice in our 174 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:51,520 head it repeats things that we heard it's stuff like that like the mind be racing and the mind is 175 00:19:51,520 --> 00:20:00,400 one of the the amazing body parts I will say when the body because it's saying how certain things you 176 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:06,240 can remember certain things you cannot remember so if you remember seeing a person in a trigger you 177 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:11,440 and if then the issue baby it's gonna take I know it's gonna take time for you to let let it flow 178 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:18,800 and let it go but I'm telling you for your own sanity and safety let that shit go it's if it ain't 179 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:24,640 if it ain't making you no money it's not helping you get your diploma your degrees or the fricassia 180 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:31,280 helping you as a man or woman whatever the case may be if it's not helping you period with your 181 00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:36,160 mental health and things like that let that shit flow and let that shit go because at the end of the 182 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:45,920 day it's not worth it you got a thing like I said that mental is very important and then you don't 183 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:49,600 want to stress yourself out and have anxiety over something or someone that don't give two 184 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:56,960 shits about you trust me I don't even have to be of a relationship or nothing like that people can 185 00:20:56,960 --> 00:21:04,080 really piss you off things can really tick you off at a point where it gives you out of your 186 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:12,000 character and that's why I say we have to learn a technique for our wellness concerning our wellness 187 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:21,760 is let it flow let it go letting things flow letting it go whatever term y'all want to do 188 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:29,600 longest let it is involved because letting it go I'ma let it do what it do because at the end of 189 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:38,560 the day it's not worth it it's not worth time energy body it's not worth it baby like let it go like 190 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:45,520 let it go and another question I seen this is the last question before I go a little bit deeper 191 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:55,120 is when can a person let it flow now when it comes to this beneficial to let things flow 192 00:21:55,680 --> 00:22:01,120 when dealing with one's wellness in most situations but especially during uncertain times 193 00:22:01,120 --> 00:22:08,720 times of change or times of like adversity it is possible for like unnecessary anxiety is stress 194 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:17,680 levels to happy but by letting go of the desires to control every outcome when one face a job loss 195 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:23,360 relationship problems or health issues beyond a control letting things flow is especially important 196 00:22:23,360 --> 00:22:31,600 in these moments embracing a mindset of accepting and adapting by allowing us individuals to navigate 197 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:41,280 through difficulties with greater results and inner peace so what that means that we have to practice 198 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:49,360 of letting things go of letting things flow into our daily routine can drive us to protect 199 00:22:49,360 --> 00:22:57,520 it can drive us to practice an approach to maintain overall well-being fostering a more balance 200 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:05,520 and better relationship one with through ourself and the world around us so with that being said 201 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:11,360 you it is you you know who's saying things don't happen overnight I'm very say shit don't happen 202 00:23:11,360 --> 00:23:17,520 overnight you know black people always got to put their own twist on to it but things don't 203 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:24,080 happen overnight it takes time for a person to adapt to letting things go it takes time for a 204 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,720 person to learn things like riding the bike learning how to read and write learning how to 205 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:36,160 speak another language learning how to master um so whatever course whatever it is it takes time 206 00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:45,120 for a person to understand master and gravitate on what's going on so when it comes to us individuals 207 00:23:45,120 --> 00:23:54,720 on letting things flow it benefits us in a long one because in impacting with our wellness 208 00:23:55,520 --> 00:24:00,880 in most situations it is most definitely an uncertain time when can you be able to let go 209 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:11,200 and I'm not ready to see y'all it's a walking process it's a very I wouldn't even say time 210 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:20,640 time consuming process and there's no limit to it because like I said it takes people time to get 211 00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:27,760 over things as as I mentioned when it comes to like a job loss now with the job loss baby I'm not 212 00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:35,920 realizing and one thing about me if you're new here I'm not ashamed to relate on like whatever 213 00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:42,560 like whatever I'm talking about I'm not ashamed to relate it to real life problems that I went through 214 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:50,240 or share stories that my peers will allow me to share with y'all because it's life baby it's life 215 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:58,880 and life be life and shit like nobody's perfect and I hate what people be like oh my gosh I don't 216 00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:03,520 think I I never would have thought you would have went through that it's a lot of things that you 217 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:09,040 don't need to let people know but sometimes you need to let them know like hey I'm you know 218 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:16,240 I'm not no scrub or nothing but baby I've been through some things and I just know how to handle it 219 00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:25,040 I knew how to maneuver around and knew how to you know let who know and who not to not 220 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:32,560 that and I knew who to let know and who not to like you know let them know what's going on you know 221 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:38,720 privacy basically I knew about my privacy because impacted with my well wellness in my mental health 222 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:46,240 I ain't got time so when it comes to a job loss one thing about me I will keep two jobs I don't care 223 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:52,560 I don't care I have to keep two part-time jobs because like impacting this type that packed in 224 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:58,240 the scenario we're talking about right now within job laws and letting it flow baby I am not ready 225 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:05,600 hold you I started working like a big girl job at the age of 18 straight out of high school 226 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:12,400 right after my birthday and when I started my freshman year in community college I worked 227 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:20,560 and that was my only job and first then I started working on campus now you know we work on campus 228 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:26,560 as considered work study jobs and those jobs don't stay long they're just semester jobs unless you 229 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:31,840 were working the library stuff like that but like work studies things like that that's what I was doing 230 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:41,040 that was going good up until 2022 when I graduated um and I had you know stopped doing the work 231 00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:51,280 studies job at my community college um that summer after my birthday uh I'm gonna say around homecoming 232 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:58,960 is in October for HBCU October except the end of September all October and maybe the 233 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:06,880 the the beginning to the middle of November depending on where you go so this is my first 234 00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:16,240 this is my first ever um HB HBCU homecoming as a student at Morgan I didn't go to like the 235 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:22,160 concert it's nothing because I was working and on that day I never forget I heard like they 236 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:31,040 cut hours huh baby when they start cutting hours I felt like I lost my job because I was barely there 237 00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:38,000 I was like I'm barely there I don't know what it feels like dang so it it had me like okay 238 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:45,520 I gotta I can't let this flow because that's the only money flow I had so I was like you know what 239 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:52,720 this gives me time so I had that mindset okay like dang I need some more money some money 240 00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:58,480 you know I'm in college you know broke I'm a broke college student now now I'm living by the 241 00:27:59,120 --> 00:28:06,320 to say but I'm like nah I can't do that and one thing about a black person we gonna hustle 242 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:15,200 and we gonna hustle hard we gonna find something to you know get some money okay so I was okay 243 00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:21,280 it gave me time so it's post the car that came with it I'm like okay it gave me time to do homework 244 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:27,440 because I'm like okay I got all these classes give me time to do homework ahead of time because one 245 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:33,120 thing about me I'm not gonna procrastinate okay I can't spam procrastinating so I'm gonna let that 246 00:28:33,120 --> 00:28:39,280 so I'm like okay I'm gonna get this out of the way pop pop pop all right then like I said I need some 247 00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:48,960 money that's when I was applying for jobs in the local the mall near me local stores like the schools 248 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:55,920 like I was planning for eating everything when I got that call from my job I'm working at now 249 00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:04,560 I will make two years this year that phone call changed how I felt about job my job like the job 250 00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:10,000 losing situation because I had let it flow I'm like okay money ain't coming in okay I still need to 251 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:16,000 keep my head on the swivel I was saving money from every little paycheck I was getting because 252 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:20,240 it's like okay I'm not doing so much I don't have a lot of bills you know I don't have a car 253 00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:27,280 like that for real so like and I'm still helping my mom and dad you know with what I can but till 254 00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:32,560 I get back on my feet and make the money I was making as well as like throwing some extra cash 255 00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:39,120 just up in there to my siblings and my parents and you know making sure that I get myself something 256 00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:46,160 on the side too as well as hanging out because hey it was but you know I'm a I'm a student I'm 257 00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:52,880 going to HBCU I want to keep up with how I'm looking at stuff like that so I just will never 258 00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:59,760 forget how I had to let that flow because money wasn't coming in like that but I've seen the pros 259 00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:07,520 and the cons and once I got that call from my job I'm at now I had to let them go I had to let the 260 00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:13,680 job I was working at let it go because of a fact too you know when jobs you know cut hours or something 261 00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:20,320 things change people change and I wasn't with that and then that's when my semester got to the nitty 262 00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:25,600 gritty that's when things was like okay I had to buckle my seatbelt up and really like 263 00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:33,680 to put my big girl boots on and start marching because like it got nitty that's when I started 264 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,880 by the take social work courses everything I was like you know what I can't afford 265 00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:46,640 it for nobody to be talking to me crazy if I need time if I need you know to take time off 266 00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:51,120 depending on impacting my studies because one thing about me when it comes to working I'm not 267 00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:57,920 taking those days off unless I have to I'm not calling out unless I have to impacting my well-being 268 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:06,480 my family but if something's going on there's only three options you're going to get so I understand 269 00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:11,200 how it feels when it comes to the job loss and I understand everybody out there that's listening 270 00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:14,960 has been through it or is going through it now if you're going through it now baby let me let you 271 00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:22,320 know right now your time is coming right now I know right now I'm fucked up with finances but let 272 00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:28,240 it flow because I'm gonna tell you something at times when you lose your job is a sign from whoever 273 00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:34,080 you whoever you believe is telling you baby I'm about to open another motherfucking door for you 274 00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:39,440 and this one gonna be better than the last one and that's what I had in mind too even though I was 275 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:45,680 working in a nursing home and then transfer I'm transforming to the shoe store I still went back 276 00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:50,560 into like the nursing home type setting because I ended up working in the Children's Hospital 277 00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:57,040 as well as when I was working in the shoe this is working in the shoe store so I had to make that 278 00:31:57,040 --> 00:32:03,760 you know you had to make sure like I had an option a second option because like I said I'm in 279 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:09,840 college and now things getting a little too great you know got paid brand stuff like that oh yeah and 280 00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:14,800 y'all want to want to think about me I love me a good the love me a good pair shoes my hair got 281 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:21,200 stayed done up clothes I get it like here and there I'm not really too big on it long as I have some 282 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:27,760 the bags yes and now I'm so obsessed with body I feel like I buy perfume every other week now 283 00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:35,360 it's just so I understand how it is but baby I'm letting you know right now your time is coming 284 00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:41,600 that new job that new career is coming to replace that job loss that you had because I'm telling you 285 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:47,920 once you step foot into their new job your new improved career all that stuff that happened 286 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:55,440 at that old job career let that shit flow good that shit don't matter no more okay so when it comes 287 00:32:55,440 --> 00:33:01,120 relationship problems I'm not really gonna say much on that because I haven't been in relationship 288 00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:09,520 for years so it's really not much for me to say because my memory pile is a little foggy it's 289 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:17,520 like certain stuff but just it just fogs to me it's really foggy but I'm gonna let y'all know this 290 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:24,320 I let that shit flow that stuff I went through four years ago over with talking stages two three 291 00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:31,040 years ago I let it flow because it's pointless I'm not gonna hold a grudge for so long because like 292 00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:37,040 I said you got back I bigger first to fry and bigger and better things to do and I wish them 293 00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:41,600 nothing but peace of blessings as well because I don't want to see nobody down I don't want to see 294 00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:48,800 nobody bad because God forbid you know something can happen to that tomorrow any given time any 295 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:56,240 given place and give a second every any given minute I refuse to hold or have so much hate in 296 00:33:56,240 --> 00:34:01,600 my heart for a person or whatever the case may be so I let that thing slow especially within 297 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:08,080 relationship or friendship you know a I believe in saying people come for a season and then you 298 00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:15,680 have the ones that are in your life for a reason and or they wasn't meant at that time real happy 299 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:20,240 one that one you know wasn't meant for you at that time and I get it and it's understandable 300 00:34:20,240 --> 00:34:26,960 because you know we'll get older you learn a person learn who they really are and you just 301 00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:33,920 got to take it with a grand assault and also when they mention the health issues or beyond now 302 00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:40,640 going back to the health episode of y'all guys in here I'm gonna need y'all to hear that going 303 00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:48,400 back to my big issue with health was the breakout baby it took me a minute to let go because of 304 00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:53,600 the scars you know sometimes it comes to health issues if he's impacting scars or 305 00:34:54,880 --> 00:35:01,280 you know within your physical appearance yeah it's gonna take a minute to let that flow it took me 306 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:11,760 a cool it happened two months ago I think till this day I feel like comfortable again to probably 307 00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:16,640 show my stomach a little bit probably show my legs when it get warm outside because I'm not ready 308 00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:23,200 well I see y'all when the boy the breakout happened it took a minute for like the rash to go down it 309 00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:30,000 took a minute for um the rash is to go down the swelling to go down and it took a real good 310 00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:35,360 minute for my face to go down because that was so upset because I'm like I'm already uh 311 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:42,480 little like I'm already a plus size type female and my face is a little chunky I have 312 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:51,200 chunk I have like chubby cheeks so my face swelled up I'm like man I it fucked me up it took me 313 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:59,280 a minute to let it flow because I'm like oh my god because it's like okay I work in a public place 314 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:06,560 for one two I go to a public college three I wouldn't say I'm a public figure because you guys hear 315 00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:11,360 me y'all don't see me if I was a public figure it would have fucked me up even more because it's 316 00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:17,200 like I'm looking at a camera and people are going to be watching me and they're gonna be like oh my 317 00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:22,000 god something wrong with you or something's going on you know I didn't want that and also when I did 318 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:26,480 take pictures of myself it scared the hell out of me because I'm like I don't even know who I am 319 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:32,080 and when the situation had happened like when the breakout happened and you know I felt like I 320 00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:38,160 looked like Martin when he got beat up in the boxing right because my face was so like y'all my face 321 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:46,240 was so like oh my lips were so big look like a big it stung my lips like I had like them die on 322 00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:55,600 lumps and stuff Martin had on his face they were on my body them rashes was like huh so y'all um 323 00:36:55,600 --> 00:37:01,760 if one thing I'm not gonna do is I'm not gonna shoot a cold off of a job I'm gonna let y'all know 324 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:08,720 what's going on so that's why I dedicate this wellness this wellness day one-on-one on letting 325 00:37:08,720 --> 00:37:18,880 it go because I know like we had some issues that happened this month that it almost has the 326 00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:24,640 point where like oh this motherfucker almost got me but I'm glad I saved myself I was like who 327 00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:30,480 who I'm gonna let that go I'm gonna let that slide I'm gonna let it flow because I ain't got time 328 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:36,240 and it's not gonna happen again because I'm gonna speak my peace and once I say what I say 329 00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:42,560 what's done is done if you're on respect it oh well because one thing's for certain two things 330 00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:48,480 for sure I have to be an adult we have to be adults if some adults are here they want to be 331 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:53,920 childish let them rock out and be childish but we're not going to be childish we're gonna get this 332 00:37:53,920 --> 00:38:01,520 money get them degrees get them uh diplomas get them certifications whatever the case may be 333 00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:08,560 because we got shit to do so put them big boy big girl boots on and march to where you gotta go 334 00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:14,400 because you right now on a level baby that you're not worried about nothing god damn thing or no 335 00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:20,800 bad because when it comes to your mental impacting what your well-being within your wellness 336 00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:27,120 is you ain't got time for the bull you ain't got time for the bull you don't got time for the bull 337 00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:33,280 y'all that's me cracking my freaking fingers cracking my freaking knuckles you're not supposed 338 00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:42,480 to do that but baby it just feels so good when you just crack them so I hope you guys have enjoyed 339 00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:53,440 this first wellness day one on one with me because I thought about it while I was in class and I was 340 00:38:53,440 --> 00:39:00,960 like oh my gosh oh because certain stuff that had been going on lately and within the couple past 341 00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:08,800 couple days I'm like I can't get I can't let this get the best of me I can't so in order for me to 342 00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:16,000 debt the issue I have to let this go and let it flow I have to let things flow right here right now 343 00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:22,080 speak my peace and once I say what I say it's done it's done it's there's there and I have made it 344 00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:32,160 declared okay so I thank you all for listening to me I really appreciate it because we have busy 345 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:38,800 busy lives and just being able to listen to a person within your speakers in your car your 346 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:44,640 AirPods beats whatever case may be that is such a beautiful thing like I appreciate that I appreciate 347 00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:51,440 y'all reaching out to me letting me know what's going on like it it really like brings it brings 348 00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:59,280 more it brings brings me so much happiness it brings me so much love and it makes me know it 349 00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:06,400 it lets me know that I'm doing something positive and that someone is listening to me because like 350 00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:12,320 I always say if I cannot help a group of people along because I'm helping someone and that's all 351 00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:20,080 that matters okay so with that being said I hope you guys have learned the thing of two maybe a 352 00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:29,040 good five six seven eight things for me when it comes to letting things flow and also remaining calm 353 00:40:30,240 --> 00:40:37,360 and whatever you got to do to let things flow do it and baby it's no time limit you are the one in 354 00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:42,560 charge when it comes to any and everything in your life and do not forget that okay so with that being 355 00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:47,280 said again I wish y'all are nothing but the best I wish y'all nothing but peace of blessings I hope 356 00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:53,200 you guys have a good day whatever day y'all listen to it it's not on a Wednesday uh Thursday Friday 357 00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:58,800 Saturday Sunday Monday Tuesday the next Wednesday whatever the case may be I wish y'all nothing 358 00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:06,000 but peace and blessings I wish y'all nothing but a very very safe trip please be careful out here 359 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:15,920 as you guys have seen within my city the bridge had collapsed and that was one of the most very 360 00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:22,880 crazy and most saddest things ever so please let your loved ones and family members please let your 361 00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:27,600 loved ones and friends know that you're there for them you know texting you know like I'm just 362 00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:31,280 talking on you I love you without the case maybe just let them know that you care you're checking 363 00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:38,160 up on them please please please be safe out here once again and as always you guys will hear from 364 00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:46,880 me next time bye