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Hey y'all, whether it's morning, evening, or afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys

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had decided to vibe with E! Yes, the one and only E! Before I get into the nitty gritty,

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I just want to say happy international women's moms to all my women out there, especially

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my black women, and also happy national social workers moms to all my social workers out

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there and social workers that's getting them degrees. Me? It's including me. Oh my gosh,

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March really is one of those months that I would say my favorite due to being international

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women's mom and in learning that this month is also dedicated to social workers as well.

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It just puts the ice on the cake for me. It just turns me up because it's like, bro,

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that is amazing. Shout out to us. Clap, clap. Well, now, y'all look, I didn't have a sound

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effects one because I need to charge the sound board. But it's something y'all are

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going to hear a real round of applause because it's not easy. It's not easy being a social

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worker, I'm going to say this, a social worker in training because I was like, when I first

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got my entire business, being a social worker in training, it's not easy right now in the

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process of me like, you know, being about to have an internship and stuff to. It's not

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easy. So shout out to all your social workers out there that is getting in, that's doing

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it, getting to the bed, you know, doing everything you can for your community, the youth, everything

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out there, whatever field you're in impacted with social work. Shout out to you because

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baby, it's not easy and I applaud you and I cannot wait to be in the same shoes with

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y'all and also maybe connect with y'all as well. But without further ado, since I got

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into a little bit, y'all another drill, and if you don't know, I want you guys to sit

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back, relax, enjoy the show, whether you want to go on the move, whatever the case may be,

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sit back, relax and enjoy hearing my voice. And if you're new here, welcome, welcome,

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welcome, I hope all is well with you. And if you're not new to this, but true to this,

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hey, y'all, what's up, what's popping? I hope everything is going well so far with y'all,

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all y'all as well. So let's get into what today's boppa day. I think I probably gave

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it away a little bit, but I probably didn't. But oh well. Today's boppa day is women's

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month. Yes. In honor of international women's month, I will be every Wednesday going over

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a topic that's a pact with a woman because it is, you know, national women's month. And

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I might also talk about social work as well a little bit deeper. I'm thinking probably

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like on the day of like you say it's national social work day, I think it's the 11th. So

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that's a Monday. So that 13th may be dedicated to social work day. I don't know. I got to

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dig a little deeper, but I'm going to talk about that too. But in honor of, you know,

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international women's month, I'm going to be talking about my black women. Yes. Yes. Because

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if you look at your history, if you go back to your history, baby, our ancestors in all

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the time, they did a lot, especially when it comes to international women's month. I

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had to do some digging, some research had to like really dig and think back on when I

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had a class on insurance women's studies, like in community college at that. And that

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class is phenomenal. Shout out to the professor. I forgot her name, but she's SBCSX. But that

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class was so like amazing. It was an eye opener. And I was free to talk how I wanted to talk

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because hey, I'm in a class full of women from all different races. So I was able to

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speak my Pino at times. We couldn't like understand or go out of eye with the cancer and stuff.

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But sometimes like we learning, you learn it from me. I'm learning for you. So it's

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just a learning experience all on the board. And when March, when we didn't, I wasn't in

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that class when March came around. But we did talk about, you know, international women's

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month stuff like that, because like a lot of things that happened, a lot of people were

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involved when it came to that month, especially within the black community. A lot of people

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do not pay attention to you, which is kind of messed up. But I'm going to overall give

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you the point of like women's words and how they impact so much within international women's

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month. So let's get into it. Like there are so many aspects, aspects. I always, that's

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what women's word like, I just don't know. Like there are many aspects to black women's

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words, including their resistance, intelligence, creativity in there. Them as a human like

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come on now, like kudos to us. The dignity and their values to extend beyond their achievements

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and you know, contribute is like, yeah, I was just so excited. Like I just cannot get my

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words out. Their strength and grace within which black women navigate it has been a very

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big aspect when it comes to work, especially when it comes to symptomatic society of people.

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Like as well as their capability to empower, inspire, lead and achieve to change in lives

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and their unwavering communication, to justice, equal team, equal in community development.

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But there was no doubt that black women could not contribute to society and value everything

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that they can in a both shape their lives, their own lives and enriches society as well

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as a whole. Like, it's nothing I feel like a black woman can't do. But at times it's

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like, we got to sit back sometimes and just really like, I wouldn't say chill because

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sometimes like for a black woman, a young black woman like me, I'm young, people like

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usually need to chill. I would like, I can't chill. Like I don't know what chill is. Only

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time I know chill is when it's helping me to wind down or if I'm finished, you know,

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with my business, doing stuff in my business or my job or maybe for school. Like that's

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the only time I know when I chill. Just chilling in reality. Just enjoy sometimes. No. So it's

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like a lot of people do not understand that when it comes to us black women contribute

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to a lot in history. We do not get a lot of recognition like that race does because I

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look at us as nothing. They look at us like, oh, look at us as, oh, just no black woman

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or women trying to get involved in something that doesn't have anything to do with them.

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And when I did my history in as a four major too, learned some things about supporting amazing

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women that involved with helping, you know, International Women's Month as long as just

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helping in general within my major. It's a lot of amazing black women out here that

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did a lot for us. And God bless their souls because it's not easy. Especially today still

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I feel like within the day and age, when it comes to a woman's work, especially a black

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woman's work, I feel like sometimes we get taken for granted when it comes to work because

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at times people do not understand how it is to be black, especially when it comes to the

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things that we care for that impact with our work, they think is a joke when it's not.

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It's like building something from scratch and trying to, you know, put it out there to

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the universe in the world, whatever you all want to consider. And then once you have the,

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you know, the time to display your blueprint, your blueprint, people are looking at you like

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you were joking because at times we are still signified, systemized by a fucking race. I

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said I wasn't going to crush you all today, but I want to, if you were, because where

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it might come out would. Do I know how this goes? And if not, y'all, I'm sorry. But I

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just feel like it is so hard for us black women to be at times accepted for the things

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that we do because on the positive side, because women out here that's really busting

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their ass to get to a point in their life where you know they want to put in good vibes,

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peace of blessings, things like that. And then they be over trying to label us as, you know,

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nothing. And that just makes me so mad because like, you do your research, you need to open

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a book, you need to really like understand because throughout the highlighting of the

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unique challenges women have kind of experienced worldwide in advocating for like, intersexual,

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feminist, black women played an important role in shaping and influencing international

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women as well. Like the work of the black women in reaching the discourse on women's

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rights through their achievements, scholarships and leaderships on issues such as racism and

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gender equality, like reproductive justice and economics empowerment. Like as a result

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of that, feminists is understood now, now as a movement that must be addressed and to

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insert in certain forms of, you know, opportunities when it comes to women. Now, it's crazy that

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now that we're getting the recognition that we are because when it comes to feminists,

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when it comes to us at times, so that's another thing I just don't understand. Like yes, women

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are feminists, but it's like we can be at times masculine when it comes to things because

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you know what I'm saying, a man can't do what a woman, a man can't do what a woman can do

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and a woman can't do what a man can do. I think that when it comes to certain stuff, it should

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not be like sex, should not always have to be involved, like when it comes to what it is,

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like when it comes to job, especially like the cover is like, if a woman want to be out

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there in the field when it comes to like construction and you know, doing things like that, getting

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her hands dirty, why not? I just feel like no stereotypes at times took a toll on a lot of

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things when it comes to us women, especially still to this day, like yeah, we're getting

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the recognition somewhat now, but it's still like back then, these women were really

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fought for the rights, these main ideas of what we're worth and this is why we're worth it,

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and I'm gonna show you better than I can tell you because I love history, especially when

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it comes to African American history. If it has nothing to do with my people, I don't want

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to hear it, I don't, I mean like that's so crazy bias, I mean it's not, because it's like,

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to put it in a sense, that's like a black person also, PWI, the only one here about is

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Caucasian history, if you're not gonna hear much about your history, unless you're going to

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go to HBCU, and that's another thing too, like we go to HBCU every day, you're learning

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about your people on your campus, like I go to morning, you learn about your people, like

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my school, they have like books and stuff, like they have, you know, the building's named after

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these amazing store people and things like that, because they have birth and everything

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they did when they put an impact on stuff, like copying, my best friend goes to copying,

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I'm gonna live a little bit about them too, when I went up there or did some research

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and stuff on them, like HBCUs, y'all, when it comes to learning your history too, especially

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when it comes to impacting every woman involved too, they do a lot, a lot that impact what they're worth.

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And people will take it for learning, and sometimes people just do not pay attention to stuff,

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so obviously, if y'all want to HBCU and those like HBCU or whatever, do y'all research and pay

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attention to the things that they have displayed within, you know, on the business on their campus,

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because that's important, in half of that time, that stuff impacts what a woman's worth within

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her worth of making things happen for us, so think about that, and look into that.

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Also, by including Black women's stories and experience into national women's,

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international women's mom, they have now expanded the roots of a campaign that often like,

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ignores or monetize such as narrating, and when it comes to certain stuff, like I've

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reached, like I've seen too, like certain stuff, like people would be negative about,

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especially like I said, when it comes to us women of color, because they just don't take us serious,

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they don't believe that we're worth anything. But this one thing's changed, Black women

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influenced individuals all around the world by shaping their stories of, you know, being silent,

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of being treated like shit, of being, you know, just through the blues and making something out of,

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making nothing out of something, by being so inspiring, they were able to engage in meaningful dialogue

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and take meaningful action to create a more like exclusive society.

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Women's liberation must be intersectioned, intersected to be truly affected and to be presented

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in a team as we, you know, emphasize on the importance of their inter-science, because like I said,

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when it comes to women's worth-making, when it comes to women in general, they did not want to hear anything from us.

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They didn't even want us to vote. It took so long for us to get the rights that we deserve

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because these are things that we wanted. This is why we're worth so much.

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But when you have men involved that don't want you to be anything, but just to be that little, you know,

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puppy or somebody in a corner, it makes things so hard. And I remember in class like,

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whoo, that was like two years ago. I graduated from CCBC this year, we were like two years ago, two years ago in June.

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I remember getting class, we were talking about, you know, how like they say,

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is always when it comes to power, is always, you know, a white man, you with vision.

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It's never really a black man, and especially when it comes into office and things like that.

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Now, I'm not building on politics and stuff like that, but when I thought about it, I was like,

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you're right, because also when we were talking about, you know, International Women's Month,

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you know, a lot of white women also was impacted with it too, and that's a thing too that people feel

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and realize, not just white women were involved within the movement of International Women's Month,

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or women's rights and the work, it was also black women. And we don't get to highlight that because

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every time you think of something, it's always about a white person.

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But nevertheless, back then, I also noticed that I watched documents of stuff in the class and outside of class

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that a lot of white men wanted their women, mainly their white women, to, you know, stay in the back,

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be in the background, like just look pretty, support me, don't say nothing.

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And that's where the bottom line drew, draw right there, like all bets were off, like I'm not feeling to be

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on the right for such and such. These women wanted to display their worth, these women wanted to express

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their self as them, the women that they are, not just, oh, I'm such and such a woman.

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No, I'm a woman of my own. My name is such and such, and I'm not just known as, you know, such and such

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right, if that makes sense. Because when I was looking, I was like, that makes a lot of sense

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on why these women fought so hard the way they did, because they did not want to be stuck in the background

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and have, you know, be quiet. Because, you know, they're saying, close mouths don't get fed.

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And these women were not staying quiet, they were not staying stagnant no more when it came in their worth

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and their rights, because they knew for a fact that they were worth a lot, especially, yes, women all around.

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But I'm focusing on my black women, because we don't get recognition for the things that we do within the face

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of their achievements, they didn't get recognized as much. But I'm telling you this, and the things with all that,

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black women was able to display a spirit and grace that transferred and intertwined in a positive way

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for them, especially when it came to achievements. Like, their courses and authentic was

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able to narrow it in an interesting identity challenge that had happened within, like, you know, social norms

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and forgetting paths of empowerment. They did a lot. Like I said, close mouths don't get fed, they wasn't with that.

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And it wasn't going to be labeled as just as a man's wife. Because you don't know what I'm saying too,

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like, a man is supposed to do everything a man's supposed to do, a man's supposed to be a boss, man, a household.

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Now, there's women who's the head of the household, have a son. You know, so their main goal was to do everything

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they came for each other. They created a sisterhood, basically, that was willing to help each other.

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When it came to, like, daycare, going back to school, when I mentioned about scholarships, housing, jobs,

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they were willing to do anything and everything for each other because they had to stick together.

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That's all they had. They were not trying to depend on their husband. Because, you know, that's the thing too,

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like, when you get married, they'll be like, oh, she want to depend on her husband for everything. Not so much.

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And I feel that way too, because I said, once I get married in the future, yes, I want to get married.

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I would not depend so much, you know, on my husband because I feel as though, like, I'm able to stand on my own

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because, like, before, you know, I was just saying, like, before I meet anybody, a man, period, a dude, period,

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I always say, like, you know, I'm not the type to be like, oh, I want you to spoil me and stuff like that.

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I mean, that would be nice, but I'm letting you know now, I'm not the type to be so...manicative, I don't be going to say,

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but self-extending. I don't want to be like, oh, you got to spoil me. You got to do this. You got to do that.

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You know, I'm always saying, I'm very independent, you know, so when it comes to, like, people offering me stuff,

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I'd be like, huh? So it's just like, I always tell them, like, even if you are a relationship or not,

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I just feel like you have to have some type of sense of independence because at times, like, say if you were a person

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and then it all goes downhill, you know, you got to understand where it comes from as a black woman.

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You have to know your worth. You got to know your worth. You got to stay at times of firm on your worth

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because that's your worth. This is a woman's worth.

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And I told Alicia Keys, like, y'all pay a listen to a woman's worth.

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I wanted to play that so bad, but I don't have time for the copyright and all that, but y'all, if y'all don't know,

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you got to listen to this song. And that's another thing too. That song just kept playing in my head

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when I was thinking about what I was going to say today. And I was like, oh, woman's worth.

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Oh my God, the perfect song and it's international women's worth.

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So why not talk about women's worth because a lot of people don't.

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Excuse me, y'all. A lot of people don't talk about this. Especially when it comes to African American women.

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We get the bottom of the burrow. We get the inner stick. It's like, bro.

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And we are human too. We deserve the same treatment as everybody else, especially the white woman.

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So yeah. So these women came up with the idea of coming together, doing things for each other.

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Because they was like basically going on strikes and I'm not the pen on old man to help me.

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Because men don't think we're controlling everything. You know, like the, like when they said like for your equal rights,

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like men were like, oh abortions, no. No, you know how no abortion, you won't keep it and dude,

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you won't keep that baby and do what you ought to do. But I think about abortions is I always said,

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it's the woman's choice because like some, you know, some women have been through a lot and it's like right now,

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it's not the time for it or they had past experiences. Like, you know, this ain't for me or God forbid,

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say if something was to happen to a woman in a way she didn't imagine to happen and she has to.

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You know, so I just felt like also a man cannot control what a woman can say and do.

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Let's just say this, a man can't control a woman's worth and a woman can't control a man's worth.

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And that's the thing that people feel the real eyes to when it comes to your work, nobody can control it.

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That's when you baby, that's all on you. And when I was going my history back, like running my history back then

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and today I did a little bit more and remembering the conversations I had within the class.

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So that's what I got out of it. It's just like men were so controlling back then support.

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Where it was like, like I said, they just wanted their wife to support them, you know,

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being in the background, like, you know, be my personal cheerleader,

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but they never wanted them to stand on something for their style.

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But around that time, this was like early 19.

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I want to say 50s, I might be wrong, 40s or 50s around that time.

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They weren't having it. That's what it was like, you know what, we can't even vote.

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We can't even do the basic stuff that a man is doing because they all thought about was sex.

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You are a woman, you know, you got to cook, clean, take care of the kids.

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They didn't want to have a good education and it's so fucked up because I said,

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I remember when my professor had talked about that, like, how would you feel?

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I say, I would honestly feel like I'm a nobody because if you just trained to be home with your kids,

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okay, take care of your kids, that's like what you're supposed to do.

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But not having no type of social life, like no outing, like going to school and working is a part of social life

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because you're being social with the others.

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You're actually a family, you're number one supporter, you know, you're number one priority.

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But sometimes you need to meet other people who need to socialize.

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I said I couldn't because the simple fact that the right person I am, I like to explore.

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I've been exploring, like I love, I've been a type of to explore since I was a little kid.

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So imagine me being stuck with being in the house 24-7, cooking and cleaning,

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making sure this is right for my husband.

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I would have lost my mind because it made me feel like I'm a prisoner because like all I know is home life.

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I don't know nothing about outside.

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You're like, you know, looking at a window, you're inside and you looking outside like they,

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and then you got the outside looking in, which is the men like test their job, test their duty.

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And some people, some women say, you know, they would be a housewife.

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And I'd be like kudos to y'all because I can't.

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The way that I am, like I'm always on my feet a little bit.

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I'm always stayed booked and busy.

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I just couldn't stay stagnant, you know, regardless in the future.

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I do want children, but I just feel like I couldn't be a housewife because it's like I want to get as much education as I can.

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While I'm young, you know, getting it while I'm young like my dad say, but I just can't envision myself being a housewife.

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I just can't because like that gets stressful sometimes.

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Like, you know, like you just home all day, you know, it's like, don't you want to have a social life?

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Like, don't you want to do social things stuff like that?

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Like people just didn't realize that.

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And I feel like men never realize like a woman's worth is something that you are.

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If you even a part of that, if you're a part of the worthy, you know, characterist's belt that she had in her book,

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Bless Your Heart.

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Back then, so like the car occasion women, I felt really bad for them because they was like their husbands were so big.

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And it's like they were just known as, you know, oh, this is a wife.

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They wasn't known as, oh, I am blah, blah, blah.

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I'm not just blah, blah, blah, wife.

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And that's where this came into within the national women's mom.

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They took a stand.

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It took an oath.

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They boycott, you know, rallies, walks and everything to make it known to the world that they are worth more than being a man's

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significant other or as people would say, priority.

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Because back then they didn't have a land to stand on without their husband or their partner.

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Well, back then it was husband's period.

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You know, her thing was boyfriend and girlfriend.

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Like for us, like in the younger generation, my friend.

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No, back then you were married.

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No, boyfriend and girlfriend.

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Like you probably got married a month, three, four months, you know, here's how.

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Like it wasn't really big on the boyfriend and girlfriend.

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That's based on last long.

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Our generation.

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Yeah, cool.

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But back then, hell no, you're my wife.

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You're my husband.

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And there's that.

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But I applaud the women that took that off and did the rallies, the protest and walked and did everything for your freedom to prove the point, especially with black women, because it's like I said, people do not recognize our worth.

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And it's just so insane because it's like, okay, anytime you think of international, international black, international women's month, you always, people always think of white women.

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No, you gotta think about women as a whole.

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But you also got to think of black women too, because they did a lot, a very lot that a lot of people didn't didn't see because it was always in the background, always in the background.

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And it was just like, wow, this is just how we are.

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This is how we're seeing that.

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They took a stand too.

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They did what they did to like they had those were the ones that were making money too.

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They were able to like find funds for families for their for their people, help get scholarships, help do this, help do that.

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That's why all the scholarships you hear that's at that's named after a lot of you say old people have for those concepts are named after black people.

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Think about it.

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Think about it.

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Think about it baby.

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What do you see with those like what do you see you and they got a scholarship asking what's the name of the scholarship.

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I bet you they're saying it's from old name, some older lady man or name, but I'm telling you it's gotta be a black person.

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And the HBCU forces a book but black person is not out the dawn.

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But they did you history on that person.

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So I just love exploring and digging deep within my roots because it's like every time I look on the news.

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It's like I feel like every day a city is saying oh they don't want their kids to notice.

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They don't want their students to notice especially when it comes to history.

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Fabulate bro, you need to let these children know about their history because at times they need to know what's going on.

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They need to know their worth as well as a person.

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You need to know who they are.

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We just need some more certain things in our children here that needs to be stuck to them for life.

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Like it has to be stuck with them for life.

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There's more to this as well.

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I'm getting into it because this one just got.

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I say it all the time.

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I don't even know my favorite episode.

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I think everyone is my favorite episode because when it comes to topics like topics like this and things involving black women, my black women, and me.

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You being a black woman, I feel and sense paying some more.

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If I can come to my worth, like my worth and how I am and what I expect and what I don't expect, I stand tall and firm on.

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A woman's worth is something that you should not play about.

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A black woman, black women are very, very strong.

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Like there is more to black women than just their individual accomplishments.

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They're often their families and community love support as well as their collective wisdom.

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In order to realize an honor black women's worth, we must dismantle the oppressive system, the oppressive system, and to make their voices and experience heard.

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Because as we celebrate this, this, this, this, and this amazing month, we need to be able to acknowledge and address the injustice that they faced.

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Women of color deserve respect, recognition, equal for their human like the things that they for for their dignity and their rights, just not for the social narrative standards.

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As we fail to realize, why is so important to recognize a black woman?

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Why are we so important? And why we are who we are?

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Now, when it comes to women's worth, let's talk about the mental side too.

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In my, I'm trying to pull it up, because I forgot the questions and it was just so mind blowing to me.

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In my diversity, economics, diversity, let me find the right name for y'all, because I'll be messing up this name all the time.

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My diversity in social justice economy class.

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I had that class Tuesday night. I had the class of Tuesday nights. That's where I get my motivation from leaving that class.

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This makes me so motivated. Y'all like, y'all did not understand.

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So we had watched a podcast that had explained breaking down the mental health, you know, signal with black women.

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But the questions that my professor had asked, it was just like, this all depends with women's worth and how we are.

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And y'all don't, don't, don't, don't know, you're probably like, is she gonna talk about women's mental health? Oh, yes, I am. That's how we accept the episode.

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Y'all know the drill.

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The first question he said was, is black, I'm thinking of this, say is black women are at a like intersection of like, portrayed in racism?

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And I think I'm going to find my response because I said, because I said, so the question was, a must have, suppose to say is black women are at the intersection of patriarchy in racism.

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And I say, yes, we black women are at a crossroad between patriarchy and racism because of our race, our gender, we face challenges and experience that continues to this day.

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These challenges and experience are packed by disadvantages.

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And you know, then this is impact by disadvantage.

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We need to realize and address these issues to create a more equal society for us.

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Now, even though it is international black, you know, internet, international black, international women's mom, and you know, a lot of these women did a lot for us.

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Tell us today, the stuff that we do, the stuff that they, the, the generation before us, like our ancestors did to, for us with our rights, is still not getting recognized in a positive way.

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It's still not getting the recognition that we need.

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It's still not, we're still not being took seriously.

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There it is.

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We're not being taken seriously.

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We're being, I feel like, taken, it's filled with bandages.

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Like, okay, I hear you, but it's not really like I'm hearing you.

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Then another question is he had was self-worth should not be wrapped up in the ability to struggle.

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Now, within this question, when it came to work, our artist magically thought of like, whoa, whoa, this is where they give real, real technical because you know, like I said, a woman's work was important.

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You gotta really pay attention.

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You gotta really know how your woman is or the woman that's around you, period.

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And I said, when it comes down to its self-worth should not be defined as your ability to fight.

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Because at times within a black woman, like that stereotype is, she talked about that too.

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I'm just give you all the rundown of everything I say because it impacts with like, when it comes to international black women's mouth.

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I feel as though like it does because, like I said, we did, they didn't get a lot of recognition until this day is women out here that's fighting, having all these protested organizations and still getting the bottom of the stick.

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Yes, we are able to, you know, vote and have certain things like that, but it's still a struggle.

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It's still a struggle for us black women, for us black people in general.

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But right now we're focusing on black women.

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It's a struggle.

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And I said that like for our ability to fight because at times it's just so much that we could fight for if nobody is fighting for us or taking our fight as much as we're fighting for.

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Like this is something that we're willing to put in the atmosphere and people are not really willing to help us.

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And it gets tiring sometimes when you fight and it just don't get recognized.

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And I said like when it comes down to, down to a self-worth should not be defined as your ability to fight.

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Self-worth has a lot of different labels, so a lot of people think of, oh, you're fighting.

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You know, you pushing the pull.

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Yes, but it's more to it.

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As black women we need to realize and value our strength and weaknesses.

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And that's the problem when we come to weaknesses.

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Sometimes we don't like talking about it.

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We so quickly talk about our strength.

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But at times I feel like it's hard for me to identify my strength versus in my weakness.

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I know it sounds crazy, but I'm for real y'all.

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And I said like fighting is a normal part of life, but it's not what defines your worth as a human being.

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Our worth is defined by who we are and not our ability to fight.

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So that's what I was getting to people to like, you know, when it comes to us, our worth is defining who we are, what we are, why we stand for who we are, how we do this, X, Y, Z.

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It's not just because of, you know, I'm a woman.

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I know my worth.

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Half of us don't know and it's okay.

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We learn it day by day.

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But I will let you know a man is not controlling our worth.

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Hmm.

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Yeah.

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So another question was he had said, they had said y'all, resilience is not a strength, rather it is a response.

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I was like, yes, resilience isn't a power in a traditional sense, rather than it is a response to difficult situations.

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Now what is resilience?

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I'm saying like it's a cable cable to overcome into overcome, you know, adversity.

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It is the ability to keep going through life changes.

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And even when it's hard to do is something that you can build over time, but it's something that needs to be nurtured.

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And that's what I feel like within this whole topic of a woman's worth as well as international women's month.

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That's exactly what these women did.

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They were resilient to everything that they did, but it isn't just a power.

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It's like they did things that they were capable to overcome to adversity.

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It was their ability to keep going through these life challenges, no matter how hard it's on, no matter how many nodes they got, they kept going until they got, yes.

388
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:21,880
And I feel like at times that's our problem from now.

389
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,880
So we hear somebody, no, no, no, no, no, no, it's like a whole bunch of LLLLs.

390
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:26,880
We just cannot stand it.

391
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:34,880
And it's like, don't stop, keep going because you don't know when you're going to hear that, you're going to turn that LL to the other.

392
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,880
I even turned a note with yes.

393
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:43,880
So it takes time. And I was like, it's just something you know, they can build up over time, but it's something that needs to be nurtured.

394
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:45,880
And that's what they did. They kept going.

395
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,880
They did a lot of things. They did this, did that, did that. It came nurturing.

396
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:50,880
And it's like, okay, we hear.

397
00:37:50,880 --> 00:38:00,880
Another question was, resilient is only available because we haven't been exposed to trauma or social equality.

398
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:10,880
Now, I said, there's like a lot of myths out there saying like, you know, that resilience comes from trauma or social justice.

399
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:16,880
But the truth is when we are faced with adversity, we're forced to adapt to what's going on.

400
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:21,880
We have to find ways to deal with it and that we're resilient comes from.

401
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:26,880
But it's important to remember that resilience isn't just for people who have gone through trauma.

402
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:31,880
It is for every black woman.

403
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:36,880
No matter where she's from or where she's been through.

404
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,880
And that's what I feel like also with PAC, we're becoming more and more resilient.

405
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:48,880
Resilient is only, you know, it's only available because we have been exposed to trauma or social equity, not so much.

406
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:51,880
Resilience impacts a lot of things.

407
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:56,880
And people always think of trauma as, you know, any quality issue. They don't dig deeper.

408
00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:02,880
And that's why I say, I'm glad I found this because this impacts with us.

409
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:04,880
This would happen years ago.

410
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:09,880
This might impact your grandmama, your great-grandmama, your great-great-grandmama, things like that.

411
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:13,880
Like great aunties, cause all that.

412
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,880
Like, they know and you need to do your research.

413
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:23,880
It's not bad. Do your research. And I'm helping you too. Do some of it.

414
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:29,880
And then the question that stood out to me the most, especially when it passed, like I said, with International Women's Month.

415
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:36,880
Now, y'all know the images that they have when it comes to a woman period is a strong woman.

416
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:41,880
You know, they had the woman, she got her arm up, touching her muscles, flexing, things like that.

417
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:47,880
And within the video, what I could remember, well, the podcast I remember, it was a...

418
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:52,880
One of the ladies, she was a... I believe she was a therapist.

419
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:59,880
And she was like, some of the stereotypes that impact for the black woman, I just don't feel like at times impact with her.

420
00:39:59,880 --> 00:40:04,880
Because at times, I can't do but so much and I can't live up to it.

421
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:11,880
And that's the known stereotype term, excuse me, is strong black woman.

422
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:20,880
And she used that because she was like, at times, and she also used the example I used within, like, you know, the woman in the picture, flexing her arms.

423
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:31,880
Sometimes, like I said, we as black women, we, I feel like, are molded to be strong within any circumstance that's going on.

424
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:40,880
And I felt like also too, within, international, you know, women's month impacts, international women's month impacting the black women,

425
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:42,880
and also black women's worth.

426
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:44,880
At times, we cannot always be strong.

427
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:51,880
And I wrote that, I said, when I hear like, the question was, what are your thoughts on the term strong black woman?

428
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:56,880
And I said, when I hear the term strong black woman, I imagine a black woman who was naturally strong,

429
00:40:56,880 --> 00:41:09,880
and capable of dealing with whatever life throws at her, which can sometimes lead to forgetting her valuable, her vulnerableness, her vulnerability, sorry,

430
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:11,880
a need for support.

431
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:15,880
And when times get tough, she never gives up because she remains strong.

432
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:19,880
Even at times, she can't always be superwoman.

433
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:24,880
That's another term too, the never picture, you know, you got the black woman with the S on her chest.

434
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:26,880
Sometimes we cannot be superwomen.

435
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:32,880
Sometimes we need somebody to be a superwoman, or a super hero, because at times it gets hard.

436
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:37,880
And I also said, she can't always be the superwoman.

437
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:46,880
She also keeps the T mentality, you know, keep it T, keep it cute, keep it on the T.

438
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:53,880
Also, when it comes to the term strong black woman, I think of a woman who was human, and she is strong in any situation.

439
00:41:53,880 --> 00:42:01,880
Because one of the most powerful things a black woman can do is make it within whatever comes her way.

440
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:11,880
This is one of the most powerful qualities a black woman can possibly have regarding her background in life experience.

441
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:19,880
And when it comes to a woman's worth, I say that too, because at times, one of my favorite movies is Meet the Browns.

442
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:24,880
And one of my favorite actors is Angela Bassett.

443
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:32,880
And in the movie, if you didn't watch it, Angela Bassett was a single mother of three, she lived in the projects.

444
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:36,880
And her lifestyle was not going so good.

445
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:41,880
She had a job that wasn't making much paycheck to paycheck.

446
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:46,880
One day, the company shut down, she lost her job.

447
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:51,880
She was already struggling enough because, you know, living the paycheck to paycheck, and you're raising three kids on your own.

448
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:55,880
You got to owe this boy, you're trying to, you know, make sure he good in school.

449
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:59,880
They got two girls, you know, try to make sure they good at school, they care, everything like that.

450
00:42:59,880 --> 00:43:00,880
It's always hard.

451
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:06,880
And I never forget that scene within the movie when she was talking to her son because he wanted to help her.

452
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:11,880
But she was telling, you know, you know how moms be staying in school, big folks, I don't want you helping me.

453
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:18,880
And I never forget when she was telling him, you know, one thing a black woman can do is make it.

454
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:27,880
And when I heard that, I reflect on my mama because like I always use my mama as an example because like I've seen my mama.

455
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:37,880
When I was probably like, I started school like priest, like pre-k, kindergarten, down in a mother's going to community college, getting a lot of, getting certifications.

456
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:42,880
Because she was a nurse, she was, um, thank you for a CNA.

457
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,880
Yeah, a CNA, one of them.

458
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:47,880
But I know it's on them.

459
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:55,880
I never forget seeing her go to school at night, you know, working the day, being mom in the afternoon, and then go to be a student at night.

460
00:43:55,880 --> 00:44:03,880
I could tell like middle school mother had a badge list, high school master's, you know, and she's ready to work on something else.

461
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:06,880
And I always looked at my mother, I was like, bro, this is cool.

462
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,880
This is crazy.

463
00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:13,880
Because like, she knew her word, she knows her word.

464
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:17,880
My god, anything that come her way, she still won't make it.

465
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:23,880
And by her having my dad as support too, that I still, you know, ease some of the pain off of her.

466
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:35,880
But I was like, bro, my mother made it through so much because I couldn't imagine raising three kids, you know, still trying to have that romantic lifestyle, you know, with your partner.

467
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:42,880
Still trying to pay bills, no work, as much, speed a student, and still have a social life.

468
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:48,880
And I said, my mama know her words because she pussed her ass and until this day, she's still busting her ass.

469
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:55,880
Like I'm so proud of her and I look up some of it because that's a lot.

470
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:56,880
It's a lot.

471
00:44:56,880 --> 00:45:04,880
And when it comes to a strong black woman at times, like, you can't be strong, but it's like, you know, like I'm strong, but like right now I just don't feel it.

472
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,880
Because, you know, you go through things.

473
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:15,880
And one thing like I said, one thing a black woman know how to do is make it and they know how to make it.

474
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:17,880
Shout out to all my black women, man.

475
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,880
Like, I just love y'all.

476
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:24,880
I love us so much because like, it's a lot.

477
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:33,880
It's a lot that we go through when it comes to our work, when it comes to things that people fail to realize that we're worth so much.

478
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:35,880
We're not just worth our bodies.

479
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:37,880
We're not just worth our mindset, baby.

480
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:41,880
We worth more than a million in this motherfucking world.

481
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:44,880
And don't you ever motherfucking forget.

482
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:49,880
Like, when it comes to my words, I know what I want.

483
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:50,880
I know what I am.

484
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:51,880
I know what I'm saying.

485
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:52,880
It's all in firmware.

486
00:45:52,880 --> 00:46:01,880
And ladies out there, I want y'all to understand, like, know your words, know what you want, know who you are, you know why you do the things you do.

487
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:04,880
Know why you move the way you move.

488
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:06,880
Know why you are.

489
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:15,880
Just know why for everything that comes your way, especially when it comes to your work because people are always trying to play on, especially black women, because they be like, oh, y'all don't know y'all worth.

490
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:19,880
Every time I turn around on Instagram, you showing your behind, you showing a body part.

491
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:20,880
You don't know your worth.

492
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:21,880
You don't have no worth.

493
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:26,880
You can't categorize us into every black woman you see.

494
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:34,880
At times, yes, sometimes, you know, we give a little frisky for them, but it's like not every black woman's worth is the same.

495
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:38,880
So before we end out, I know I just want y'all to think about that.

496
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:39,880
And I know y'all listen to it.

497
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:40,880
I want y'all to understand too.

498
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:47,880
If you're not a good one, then you're like, be there for her and understand why she do what she do because that's a part of her worth.

499
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,880
That's the woman's worth.

500
00:46:50,880 --> 00:47:02,880
We do what we do because this is the shit that impacts with our work and it's the patch of who we are as a woman and as a black woman because it's already hard enough for us to be a woman of color.

501
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:07,880
And it's hard for us to get our name out there and do the things that we do.

502
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:16,880
So if we got a good black woman or you have black women in your family that's worth a lot and your mama better be number one.

503
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:21,880
Please like hit them up, say I'm proud of you.

504
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:22,880
I love that.

505
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:23,880
I appreciate you.

506
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:24,880
Show some appreciation.

507
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:27,880
Don't be afraid because they need it.

508
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:32,880
Because like I said, at times, a woman cannot always be strong.

509
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,880
Sometimes this shit is hard.

510
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:40,880
Especially if you have single moms out there, moms battling with the women period.

511
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:42,880
It's not easy for us.

512
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:46,880
We're not. But we always make it.

513
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,880
One thing a black woman know how to do is make it.

514
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:50,880
And I want y'all to remember that.

515
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:52,880
I want y'all to keep that in your head.

516
00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:54,880
I want y'all to keep that in your mind.

517
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:58,880
I want y'all to keep that because one thing a black woman know how to do is make it.

518
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:03,880
Regardless of anything that's going on, no matter how good a bag it is, they still will make it an end.

519
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:04,880
I keep that.

520
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,880
And I'm going to keep saying that because it's true.

521
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:16,880
As I got older, I understood what it is and I'm standing tall to firm on as well because as a black woman, as a young black woman, I know how to make it.

522
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:19,880
I know how to have multiple plans.

523
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:20,880
Plan B, plan C.

524
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:25,880
At times you don't want to have as many plans, but you never know what can happen.

525
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:26,880
So always keep that in mind.

526
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:29,880
You know, one thing a black woman know how to do is make it.

527
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:35,880
If I got a flip, this plan, mix this plan, I'm going to do what I got to do because I'm going to make it.

528
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:37,880
That's the part of my worth.

529
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:39,880
A real woman's worth.

530
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:40,880
Boom.

531
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,880
So with that being said, y'all, I wish y'all nothing but the best.

532
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:48,880
This episode was very long, but I'm like, I'm schooling y'all.

533
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:49,880
I'm teaching y'all.

534
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:55,880
I tell y'all all the time if my podcast don't help a lot of people long as it helps someone.

535
00:48:55,880 --> 00:49:04,880
So with that being said, y'all, happy international woman, some moms, all the beautiful women out there, especially my black women.

536
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,880
Also happy national social work month.

537
00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:14,880
Social workers month against all my social workers out there, especially my black social workers because baby, it's not easy for us.

538
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:15,880
It's not.

539
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:22,880
And I applaud all of y'all because y'all get into the bag and y'all doing what y'all were set to do.

540
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:25,880
And as always, I wish y'all nothing but the best.

541
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:27,880
I hope y'all have a nice day.

542
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:33,880
This Wednesday, whenever you guys hear Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, whatever.

543
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:35,880
I hope y'all have a nice day.

544
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:36,880
I hope you have a nice weekend.

545
00:49:36,880 --> 00:49:39,880
And as always, please stay safe.

546
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:42,880
Please be careful of your surroundings.

547
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:49,880
Please just stay in tent holds down on yourself and just also have a moment of peace.

548
00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:53,880
You know, if you don't feel good, you feel like you're about to zap out or whatever.

549
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:56,880
Have that 5, 10, 15, 20, 20, 25, 30, 45, whatever.

550
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:57,880
Mirror conversation yourself.

551
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:58,880
Call your therapist.

552
00:49:58,880 --> 00:50:01,880
You know, do what makes you happy because you don't want to lash out.

553
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:02,880
We don't want that.

554
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:09,880
I want y'all to stay positive, even though at times it's hard, but the bad times don't last forever.

555
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:10,880
Okay.

556
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:15,880
With that being said, you guys will hear from me next Wednesday.

557
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:32,880
Bye.