y'all whether it's morning evening or afternoon I'm just glad that you guys
had decided to vibe with E. Yes but one and only E and today the vibe is gonna be
a little bit different probably a little bit personal but I wouldn't say as
personal but y'all don't figure out what this is. So without further ado I want you guys to sit back, relax and enjoy hearing my voice.
Because today it's gonna be interesting. So if you're new here welcome welcome
welcome and if you're not new here and you true to this, what's up with popping and that's the end of it.
So the day's vibe is basically like a wellness day slash check-in and the reason why I wanted to do this because I
was thinking about like when it comes to like the end of the month if it lands like not too far from like if the last
day of the month ends on a Wednesday or probably a day before why not do a check-in with y'all and see what's going on like a wellness check like at my
HBCU Morgan State we have wellness days where you know we focus on our wellness our mental health and things like that days for us to just move
side. Don't worry about no assignments don't worry about nothing else so basically like on job and stuff they'll say like a mental
health day and shit like that. So today is that and I'm going to just break down a few things that I just want to check in and give y'all some strategies when it comes to like you know your well-being and just checking in which I'll make sure everything's good.
So let's get into it. Recently we just had a wellness day and the crazy thing is on Fridays that's when it seemed like our wellness days on Fridays is good and bad because good because you know the weekend why not.
It's bad because as a social work major I speak on the behalf of my major we do not have classes on Fridays. So it's just like what wellness are we really getting like we already getting enough wellness because like we don't have classes on Fridays.
So it was just like I'm going to take it but it's just like how can I really enjoy when I already had it. So my professor yesterday I have classes on Tuesday nights and my professor was like you know what since all of y'all you know
you know I was always working on this and we don't have classes on Fridays. I'm going to give y'all a wellness day for my class and hopefully you know y'all can woo-sah you know but let me tell y'all on that wellness day y'all how was that work.
How was that work and came home and was handling some business with my brother prepared for college because he will be a bear next semester. I'm putting it out there like he will be a bear this semester or as my friend said a baby bear.
But you know I'm putting it out there because like you know you got to put a lot of motivation in you got to manifest a lot of things that you want like you can't just like you know don't doubt yourself.
I can't tell my brother like don't doubt yourself like I know was nervous. I know it's like a new beginning for you because you're just like you're one step away from adulthood really when you go to college and stuff like that is a whole other world like when you leave high school like you're on your own basically like it's your decision is not your mother your father's your
guardian grandma grandpa it's not their decision no more it's your decision on what you want to do but you have to make sure that you make the best decision that you can do that you can you know the best decision that you can make for yourself in the future.
So but on wellness day that Morgan State gave how I was all from work and I didn't have class I took advantage of that you know what I did I had a hair appointment and I had my hair done I got these nice little six stitch cornrows in my head.
The first I was bringing my hand down like yeah got these little nice little cornrows and I had a last appointment. Yeah well I left one appointment I was feeling myself because I feel refreshed I feel good and I feel like when you get a new dude or get a new like if you get a facial
your nose your toes headcuts eyebrows laces whatever you get done waxes I don't care what it is you feel refreshed and you feel like damn nobody can break my spirit nobody can break my soul nobody can see if you fuck up my vibe you're not gonna fuck up my wellness okay you're not gonna fuck it up for me.
So then I was thinking I also handle some business to you know the school and also a little bit with school just like right now what I gotta do on a weekend cuz like I said I took advantage of that wellness day.
Okay I didn't do no schoolwork but I was like what needs to be done when Sunday hit cuz on Sundays I do chill also but also make sure if I got like a lot of stuff to do I'm gonna get that shit out the way.
So you know when the day like during the week some weeks like this week is the week where I don't have to be on campus because it's online so every other week is like okay campus online so this was online because I was like okay cool you know everything I was making sure everything got the way make sure I handled this business and also gotta make sure you're not getting my undervalued attention.
So I had to make sure that was done you know cuz yeah like that's a part of my daily life.
So what I learned also from when I came to Morgan in fall 2022 when they had the wellness days I was like whoa I never heard of a university doing wellness days because you know a lot of universities say that they care for your muscle health and stuff but to the point where a university letting you have a day off every month.
Come on now.
I was like now that's that's some shit that I'm up I'm here for because everybody we need a wellness check day we need a wellness day we need a day where we need peace because at times she gets overwhelming and I know especially when it comes to jobs.
School business money wherever the case may be at times you need to have a wellness day you need to take time to regroup or just take a break to who's up because shit is hard like at times it's just like if you have a lot going on with your doing a lot within like.
The time manner like some people say this like it's like it's a short time and it's just like that if you need like I say all the time you have that moment at 510 1520.
I had it but a day I feel like a whole day of just like distancing yourself away from the world is needed because at times shit get real out here and people don't understand that at times like shit gets hard and sometimes it's just like we need to have that moment to who's up and people like a selfish it's
just selfish it's just that you want peace and I mean my peace to shit I'm human you're human you're entitled to feel the way you feel and say how you feel because at the end of the day you matter you cannot take on taking care of everybody you can't take care of yourself.
Like shout out to all the parents out there single parents grandparents gardens all that is a lot it's a lot of shit that people have to do especially if you're a parent guardian of children you're working got a busy man or school all that man it's hard.
It's the point where you can't be strong all the time you can't sometimes you need to release the frustration sometimes you need to release sometimes you need a moment to be like look damn it I need some space and it's not being selfish every once in a blue moon yes but every five minutes you say you need them man that's being selfish.
So people got understand to when it comes to your well being you can tell when people really need the shit and when people just don't need to shit just to say they need it when they don't need it at all.
That's why when it comes to your well being in the wellness days and shit and the check in make sure you don't it for a reason and take an advantage of it because like.
It's there for a reason but don't just use it just to get out of some bullshit and when I say get out of bullshit is like at your jobs because I know jobs are really big on down the path and like.
The mental health days take advantage of the mental health days when your mental health is not where you know it's supposed to be at.
Don't take advantage of that shit where you just don't want to come to work on having a mental health day whole time your ass ain't doing nothing.
Whole time your ass probably doing something not supposed to be doing you know and it's not throwing no shots because like at times you be like okay it's better take advantage of this like for real.
Say you waste that time for nothing and shit is really going on and you need that time and you can't get back.
That's another thing too when it comes to your time with the wellness and checking in all that take advantage of what you need to take advantage of when it comes to your well being especially within the wellness check.
Like I don't know if my job does it they probably do and I really don't pay attention to it because I really just paid attention to Morgan's wellness day.
Like ever since I've been a student there I've been taking advantage of their wellness days and sometimes my wellness days would not be on Friday.
Sometimes I notice too like sometimes they probably on a Thursday or Friday but they try to aim it between a Thursday and a Friday and maybe a Monday you know to help you out for real.
And I appreciate that I'm sick of that if I'm at work or not I'm taking advantage of because it's like shit is hard.
It's not easy having to handle a business go to school raise a family work and then still trying to find time to make sure that you're okay because sometimes it's another thing too and one of my classes.
They was my first diverse issues economics class if I'm standing right I don't know but I know it has something to do with diversity in economics.
We watched the podcast based on African American women you know that that one slogan they have for us super woman every time you see a black woman think of a super woman.
And when they the women dug down deep into like the same like one order they were like every time people think of black women they think about super woman but sometimes we cannot always be super women super woman.
And I said to myself I was like you know what I always said that because sometimes like you cannot always be a hero because sometimes you need to think who's going to be your hero when shit gets rough.
Who's going to support me when I need help who's going to help me in my situation who won't be there for me when shit get rough.
Instead of me coming to save the day every five minutes like a freaking hero who won't help me especially when it impacts on my well being because that's the thing to us African American women we're the ones that are considered the backbone the strong we take charge of control of everything and everybody.
Yes, but no one you ever thought about it like all the black women that help you and was there for you.
Spice with you you know did all the shit they did for you that you needed in everything.
Did it ever occur to you to just be like look I need to check on her do a check in with her see was she good whatever the case may be you know show appreciation to some shit.
Think about it especially when it comes to black women we do a lot we bust our ass a lot especially like my mom generation and up they bust they ask a lot.
I remember the night I see my mother I was little taking care of us.
My dad was there also help her to the school making sure your kids go to school and you also have help as well.
It's like a time when you ever focus on you and when I got older and I'm a social major so I tell him like you know I give you your flowers that's why I do anything and everything for my family as much as I can to take the weight off my parents because the shit is hard shit is hard especially when it comes to that well being young telling
you know when it comes to your wellness if you know you're dealing with somebody that's been there for you that have murdered my daughter all of Ron on cut shit.
Appreciate them body hit because I'm telling you God forbid it can all be here one day and it's gone.
So you got to take initiative for the shit that's helping you and you also got to think about their well being also and their in their wellness because shit is not easy.
We are from the bottom.
It's a good city here near but every time I turn around this guy shot such a such a high side to the point where they shoot with kids that fucks up my mental because what the fuck kids are the most innocent creatures on this planet in my eyes.
And you know you know they're always saying they didn't actually be here. They didn't.
So you also got to remember their wellness matters too.
You got to also you got to do like you got to do some juggling you got to do some investigations everything like that too because the mental is one of the worst things to ever fuck up.
Play your play on because I'm telling you this shit ain't funny. This shit ain't no game.
That's why people be like don't die. I ain't got the time today. I ain't I ain't with it. Let them have it because nowadays people are not fucking with you.
People are not thinking straight.
You know so you got to be very careful if the mother can tell you today's not the day.
Don't fuck with them.
Don't do it. Don't do it even if you think it's playful. No I'm not fucking with you.
If you not you know you're not being this not where is that today cool.
It takes you make sure you good my checkerboy like show you good you know just want to see lock in you know like make sure you cool.
Checking in with you to let them come when they can.
That's another thing to you can tell when people are really going through shit with their well being when it comes to their wellness and stuff versus people that always use their well being as a damn excuse.
This is where pros and cons come in and if you're new here that's why I always examine the pros and cons.
The pros is you can understand like I'm saying like I said about you know the superwoman within the black within like you know the black community within the female.
If you can tell from a female or man you know that being hustling you know just be every day be so happy excited and things like that.
And then you just see one day one day they just is not a day you know like they're not their self.
That's where the wellness of you being the person that you all you know do a check in with them like are you OK what's going on.
You know I'm here for you want to talk just notice like today you just not being yourself and they tell you what's going on just because it's they tell you what's going on.
Because this shit going on they won't let you know versus somebody that always got something going on.
But when it comes to social media too that's another thing don't ever in your life tell somebody you've gone through the most oppressive stuff.
And then you want Instagram back and like oh I don't have no kid in the world I'm out here boiling them heavy.
I hate when people do that do not try to play on a person because that's that's taking advantage of somebody especially the people that's out here.
That's so genuine that I do anything for you take this shirt off a bag for you spend a match for you because that's how much they care for you.
And the people that always use their their so called.
Oh I'm not feeling it I'm not feeling it always using their wellness as an excuse.
It's bullshit to me it's bullshit because it's like bro you want to do a little thing a little scenario when I know somebody or I've been in this position.
Where my well being on the line and I still was hustling for example I had a breakout y'all know y'all didn't listen to the health episode listen to it the health episode.
I had a breakout yesterday made a month at the breakout and I forget I left the emergency room with a visa me I was in my bed still doing motherfucking homework.
I'm all fucked up tired of week stress out but I still motivated myself to get the shit done because this is what I signed up for and shit got to get done.
And I don't use that as an excuse I didn't use the excuse but I did that people know like hey right now you know mentally and physically I'm fucked up.
But it's this this is gonna get done because this is how I am I'm the type I work with no days off go hard no days off where the fatty why I'm gonna get shit done.
Because I feel like you know when I was in that position I was fucked up and it was I felt like it was a soft and god saying you need to chill out need to relax you need to sit down because you're doing a little bit too much and you need to sit down.
And when I was sitting down I feel like why does that happen to me but sometimes like I say if your body is telling you something listen to it.
Listen to it because it could be a sign right in the name like look your well being is on the line and it's going to affect you physically.
So I'm gonna need for you to get checked out a dude you got to do take advantage of that wellness but also take advantage in the right way things right now not looking too good you know take advantage of that wellness day and stuff.
Get the help that you need go to counseling go to therapy it's nothing wrong with it.
I'm not really a lot of y'all I went to it I'm going I'm going back to counseling.
There was nothing wrong with talking to somebody to help you.
Like I say all the time if my podcast don't help a lot of y'all longer to help somebody because that's the thing.
My whole model is to help change somebody is to help somebody in the best way I can.
You know you can't really change a person but with you being there to encourage them giving the words encouragement and showing them the rules and stuff it can easily be an impact on to them that it can help them in the long run.
I have people in my life that help me and I appreciate them because it helped me realize mentally and physically of my well being and my wellness.
So when it comes to that well being and their wellness please I know it's hard sometimes to identify who's real and who's not.
Especially within the well being. I hate when people play on their well being and their mental health because this is people out here that are really struggling and fighting for their life for things that they should not be fighting for but they have to fight for.
You know and I just like I said with the pros because of you know your well being where people always be saying like oh I'm so depressed and I've been going through this and using it as an excuse to cover up the shit that they fucking up on.
Let me tell you something. We're not perfect. Shit happens. If you fuck up it's okay bro. It's okay to say you fucked up. Don't use that mental health shit because people can see through the bullshit.
Especially by me a social work major like you have psychology major counselors.
We can see bullshit because you can tell when people are really going through the shit but people just oh I can't my mental I'm into my mental I'm into my mental.
So man don't try that because people out here is people out here that's really going through shit that wants to get the help but sometimes people like them that do a little too much and once they get to it is like oh I can't I don't know what I just did.
You gotta be really careful what you're saying what you're doing what you put in the universe. You know and then like I say certain people can tell the fake from the phony and I've been seeking that out now ever since I've been in my program.
Like you can tell what people really going through shit and you can tell people are really not and just using it as an excuse and just to cover up for the ass.
No it's okay to say you fucked up. It's okay. I say it should I fucked up.
Right now it's not the time or like you know what let's just sit down and just put all the ducks in the row. You know like I ain't finna just why lie about it.
Why lie about it. The mental is so so important. Your well being and your wellness is so so important. Why fuck it up. Why lie on it. Why play on it.
You should be praying to make sure it gets better. Cause like I said y'all like being a social work major is like it's days where you read cases and stuff like that it hurts you so bad because like bro this shit is going on for real this ain't no made up shit.
This shit ain't shit. This is somebody's story. This is somebody that's struggling and needs somebody to help them guide them make things feel better take some of their stress away make sure that their well being and their wellness is on there.
Make sure it's on it somewhere to like get it to some same some sanity give me something give me some leeway give me give me to a place where I don't have to revisit this dark place again and that's what I tell people to like I'm not ashamed of it when I have my first counseling session ever as a 20 something year old person.
I did cry in front of my counselor because sitting and talking to somebody that don't know you from a can of paint and letting you express yourself is a leap of faith in a week off your shoulders.
I remember that day like it was clear as day sat in the ladies office that in my doctor's office.
She's a doctor the counselors their doctors so like I was in the doctor's doctor's office getting checked up nothing like that.
I was in the doctor's office and she talked and she's telling me tell me about yourself and what is your goal for meeting with me every so you know how often you can be meeting me what's the goal. How can I help you and why will this help you when I broke down everything to her that I need to get closer on and when I was saying.
You know I was just windows. He did fuck me up and I didn't want them to fuck me up any longer when he came to my well being.
So when I say this to say I do not.
Be afraid.
To go to somebody.
To talk.
To change when you're when your well being on the line. It's okay. It's okay. Don't don't don't be afraid. Don't be ashamed.
Just like I said you won't this matters.
I don't care how old you are.
It's not too late when they say not to go back to school and stuff. It's not too late to get help.
The right help.
Not the media help because sometimes the media be bullshit.
Get it from people that actually went to school. But they are stayed up late nights and see this nice.
So first they asked to get to where they at now.
You know sometimes I have a love hate relationship with the media because sometimes certain things that people say and do it just makes me feel like are you serious.
This is what we're going to live by this. What you think is right when you know it's not right.
But I'm going to let you walk out girls. It's because like what I know and what you know may be different in me.
Come on some agreements but when they come that wellness they're meant to I'm big on that because it's real.
It's real especially within our children. We need to make sure that the children's well being is nothing but stress free.
You know people be like kids are too young to be stressed. Shit. I heard some of the most outrageous stories from kids at a young age saying you know things that they're going through.
They should not be going through but they're going through it because they had no choice.
It is hard sometimes to provide them with the help they need because you know in the black household whatever goes on in this house stays in this house.
All the stuff that goes on in that house needs to be released because that's the shit that's fucking with the mental well being.
And I know they're like dang what we have in this today.
Only the warm rainy day because it needs to be said in every Wednesday at the end of the month we're doing a wellness check.
So with that being said I hope you all enjoy this Wednesday. I hope you all have the time to you know take advantage of the wellness days you know the mental health days that your job or school whatever take advantage of anything.
Don't have it you know sometimes if things are not going right you know today is not your day or you just feel like something's not there.
Take advantage of it but make sure you take an advantage of it the right way and don't just take it just because you don't feel like going.
You know like sometimes when we call out some jobs or we just like I feel like going then you wake up like dang I should have went to work and stuff today.
You don't do that if you know you're in your head is faces not in it today is not there.
You're missing just dreams.
I can't do it. That's me to convince of it. Don't take advantage of it when you just be like oh I don't feel like I don't want to like.
No maybe next time. No take advantage of it for a reason and not for bullcrap.
So without being sad I hope you guys enjoyed this Wednesday even though it's raining where I'm at if it's not any of you enjoy this nice weather.
Also please be safe and be cautious of what's going on.
Also I wish you guys a peace and blessings and as always you guys will hear from me next Wednesday.
But also please please please please practice your self care and please practice on loving yourself a little bit more.
Until then bye.