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Hey y'all whether it's the morning evening or afternoon I'm just glad that you guys

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have decided to vibe with E. Yes the one and only E. So before we get into it if you're new here

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welcome welcome welcome and for the ones that are not new to this but true to this hey y'all what's

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up what's popping without further ado whether if you want to go or not I want you guys to sit back

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relax and enjoy hearing my voice because today's vibe of the day is something interesting and

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something I want to take a little dive into because I feel like we go through this like every year

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but every year is something different when it comes to this vibe. Don't let's get into it. So today's

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today's vibe of the day is looks. Yes today's vibe of the day is based on looks because

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you know like I said every year we try to every year is a packed this vibe is impacted.

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So with that being said like when it comes to looks every year we try to change our look

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or try to do things to like overall it's always with looks we try to change you try to do better

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try to like just something to improve ourselves with our looks or try to look better things

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like that especially with our visible appearance or within our households business whatever the case

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may be whatever visual people can see too we try to make it as beautiful to us to hopefully be

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beautiful to somebody else and others as well. So let's get into it when it comes into the physical

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appearance because you know looks the quote that always gets me is you know beauty is on the inside.

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Sometimes I feel like looks are impacted with that too because say like it's a pretty it's a

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pretty or handsome person and they have a nasty ass and it's me and the inside of your ugly is

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hailed to me like I don't care how good you look I don't care how beautiful you are if your soul is

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ugly overall you're ugly you're ugly to me because it's like come on out. Do you want to display a look

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that I just but that quote y'all it just makes me like want to uncover and unpack so much stuff

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because it's like a lot of people out here are really like are great I feel like they're crazy

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when it comes to like oh yeah I'm the baddest oh yeah I'm the realest but does the looks match up to

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what you're saying you know when they said like actions speak louder than words I'd rather look

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and see what's going on especially within the appearance than hearing all that like you could

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talk all that talk but can that talk match the look like you know when people say also too like

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your voice don't match how you look and I'd be like because sometimes like certain people I would

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think okay they gotta do true masculine whatever voice sometimes you wouldn't you wouldn't think

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about when the chick mugs if somebody you know or as they say Michelle Aleve and whatever but

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when it comes to looks y'all within the physical appearance for me I say every year I try to update

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my clothes and I try to update my physical appearance from head to toe especially from my hair because

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now that I'm natural the only thing that I really do is now I'm starting to get into braids like y'all

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like braids a little bit more I cannot wait to get my head done but I just get that way like I told

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myself this year when it comes to my looks and color my hair because that's the first thing like I

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feel like people look at especially the dude is your head I don't want to buy be like oh my god this

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this child looks so busted like sometimes like y'all when I wear buns I got a bun in my head right

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now it don't last up to one to two business days it won't last a whole week a ponytail yes because

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in the back but a bun sometimes it does not last for one to two business days because sometimes

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like I'm tired of keep making it up you want to make this and stuff but this week we're gonna keep

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it in because like I don't get my head done till Friday so I'm cool but yes when it comes to looks

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I'm real big on looks for myself because like at one point in time like I mentioned a few episodes

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ago I was real big I'm real big on my appearance because when I was in middle school and elementary

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school I really was not looked at as the girl that I wouldn't say the girl as I would say that I wouldn't

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like I would not picture myself as the girl of a dream I've never seen myself as a girl

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of somebody's dreams because my my looks versus the looks that were around me like females and

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younger than me well the same age as me they I felt like they looked better than me and I always told

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myself like you know I gotta improve on my look like I had to lose some weight that's why like when

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I was in my freshman year of high school I was so active because you know looks are very important

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sometimes when it comes to important things and I was just like me and I need to lose this weight

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I gotta fix my parents you know I wasn't gonna walk out here with a whole face of makeup now like

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that now I knew that I didn't do that and only time you'll see me in makeup is every so rare

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if it's an event like I'm going out with my friends or like graduation like I tried not to do that

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for graduation or my birthday but something because it's hot if you had his hair around I was like

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um I just try to do the best that I can but not do too much when it comes to looks because you

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could tell what's about you the little too much when it comes to the looks and the appearance

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so for me like as a female I always just kept that in my mind like at one point in time we really had

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um padded socks for yourself and that impact what your looks because that impact what my looks

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because like I said I always use middle school elementary as example because like today it

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close to my Tuesday night class today is my Tuesday night class um we had to um

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brainstorm on a business say like you know somebody offered three million dollars what you

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gonna do with that money and we created a business that impacts with helping children

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elevate within their um academics this is middle school kids and we will help them

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even with their physical appearance um not well somewhat of the mental but mainly with the physical

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appearance because you know when you are at middle school it's like you just got out of

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elementary school and your only way to high school that's junior high they considered so it's like

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that's where you find who you are that's where all the like oh you find out what you like what you

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don't like how you want to look and what you don't want to look like and for me it started hitting me

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when I was in the seventh grade because I started like for my hair like I always wore a bun that's

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why I say like buns now that I'm older I don't care how long my hair is it does not it's not gonna

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last as much as one of the two business days if I don't have any bangs in the front like no

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have no hairs hanging down with like a bang in the curl like the bangs curl down you will not see me

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wearing that hairstyle for a week now this is a straight bun see yeah no you ain't gonna see me

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you had some bangs it's a dramatic curl yeah you're gonna see me wear it for like a whole week

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but not without that you're not gonna see me so the point that matter that I'm making is like

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overall when it comes to looks we try to at times do things to attract others then to do things that

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that impacts with ourselves now for me at one point in time I felt like I had to approve myself

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to get attention but not like the bad way like certain stuff I would wear like okay all like

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oh I wear these oh I think they move on like that like within my clothes appearance like I put on

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something simple but I'll be like okay let me dress up a little bit like this so people like oh dang

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you know like just for the compliments I'm not the type to do too much like I'm not a friend to go

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out here half ass naked and get the attention because that's thing too like when it comes to your

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looks at times especially as a female no matter how bummy you look today like you know we all

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have our bummy days no matter how humming you look that day or how good you look today people

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are still gonna say the most crazy outrageous things they come to look especially when it comes to men

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and sometimes it makes you feel like bro sometimes it's best to leave and see yourself because you

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don't know what a person wanted how a person is especially when it comes to the look on a face

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like don't give nobody a compliment if you know the look on a face is not going to change and that's

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another thing people be like oh I don't know sometimes I don't want to talk to you because you

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be mugging I'm like you could talk to me like yes I bring my love down sometimes that's just me

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because I'm reading the room I'm reading the scenery scoping the scenery out you know so the

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look on my face gonna be like this this sometimes yeah it'd be like that but when you say something

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to me you're gonna see all 32 teeth baby like it's nothing gonna change you're gonna see these teeth

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okay but yes when it comes to looks with a physical appearance for a female it is so freaking hard

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because the media is impacting with this and when I say the media don't get don't suffer with me please

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the media holds like 50 percent of what impacts with our other 50 percent with their reality

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because when you look on instagram you see all these instagram models and flores and the stuff

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you see they got the looks where it's like okay this look of all the views on her everybody

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want to be like her versus if it was somebody just like a regular person like me the looks and the

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compliments would not be the same because of one you got look the parents sometimes when it comes to

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looks body is involved and half the time when you look at a media half of these girls at pbls you

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know lipo injections and things like that and I'm like me I would not personally do the surgery

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for whoever whoever does it I commend y'all God bless y'all because I'm just terrified like all

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the crazy stories I heard about I just can't especially when it comes to doing anything cosmetic

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I always think of like how crazy it is for us black women because regardless when it comes to

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even want to do something to improve with your looks as well as give a childbirth for us we're at

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risk so many said we're at risk when it comes to so many things dealing with our health it's just like

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do you really want to play a dangerous game especially when it comes to freaking you know

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surgery but sometimes it's like you know like I say go for but then sometimes like always have a

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backup plan and always read through everything I'm gonna scratch that y'all scratch that out to y'all

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like read through everything I don't care how long that shit is if it's a 30 40-page contract read

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through all that shit because people are crazy and it's shaky and it's tax time people are getting

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people out the ass when it comes to surgeries um cars houses businesses like you really gotta pay

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attention to everything you're reading especially when it comes to the cosmetic industry like I was

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watching baddies baddies ease and I was watching this youtuber who was like doing an overview on um

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baddies ease and it was like one of the people that's on um baddies she was up while her doing

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her procedure and I was just like that's not going to be a good look because you know you're

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supposed to be what under anesthesia um when you are getting the the procedures I'm like wait a minute

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hold up you're awoke so you're seeing you're feeling every pain it's like that's not a good look

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and then the outcome of the look is like okay I got it and now I'm on attention so that's another

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thing too when it comes to looks that I always wanted to stress like stretch out was like when it

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comes to looks at times for us females do we ever think of like what why are we looking this way

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like what's the reason why I look how I look now why is the why is my parents different from what it

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was like she like a valid reason like for me my parents is appearance is very different than what

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it was like she when it comes looks because like I've always been obsessed with cargoes but as I

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got older I got really really obsessed to the point where like all I want is cargoes leggings I

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went into work you know jeans it's like every so very you know it's like I do this stuff for me

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I want to look good for me you know regardless people are going to have their comments and

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some are going to hate was like at the end of the day I'm not doing this for attention you know

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I'm doing this because it's hot feel I look comfortable I look good and then somebody give me a

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compliment I say thank you and they want to know where I got it from baby I feel a T I'm not no

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gatekeeper because you know shit put people on game you know you can put people on gang it's okay

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don't be shy you know because I can make somebody day and yeah why not because I feel like it's not

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gonna hurt it's not gonna cost nothing but back to the media the media has a really downfall

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definition when it comes to looks like when a female dudes think about bbls like they like

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dudes you're like I don't want no bblg was like what if we together and your butt just buzzed I was

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just like you know like I don't want that I was on Instagram on the dudes like they had this thing

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where it was asking dudes like natural bbls and a lot of them were saying natural the dudes were

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saying they prefer natural females over bbl females and a lot of women were saying they want to bbls

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and like I said don't get me wrong I have nothing against the bbl or anything which is like what is

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the concept of it like what is the concept of these bbls like both structures like um lip filters

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like I understand with the dentures like sometimes I be saying too I want to get my t white in

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that's nothing and veneers that's not as major when it comes to anything involving like

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you know major surgeries that has me like what look are you going for are you doing this look

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for you like you're doing the big diff like you're doing the big like upgrade on you because it's

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what you want for yourself or you're doing this for attention like let that soak in for a little

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bit I know dudes probably listen like hey you probably got a point you probably like damn you

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got me says like trust me because I like to like get on the dudes too it's like some dudes out here

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getting um the hairline like the hairline surgery some out here getting what the abs surgery like

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it's like okay when it comes to looks like I said the media it holds like a big I wouldn't say

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uproar but the definition that they display when it comes to looks is very iffy and it's very

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challenging to know what's real and what's not because we're so twisted up and looking a certain

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way and we don't really pay attention to what are we doing because yeah you can look good with all

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this surgery but in order for you to continue looking good you got to keep the maintenance up

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and a lot of people don't understand who you get these surgeries you gotta work that shit out you

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gotta go to the gym you gotta keep that shit toned like how you see them people on social media they

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have personal trainers to keep it toned like yeah that's another thing too when it comes to looks

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within the cosmetic world the the whole concept you know when it comes to that look you're doing

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is going to be good however in the bed is it's hard to sometimes maintain to keep it up like

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going to the gym sometimes people don't want to go to the gym that's why they go to y'all to get

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the work done so they don't have to do that and it just be like wow this is crazy but it's like hey

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it is what it is people do what they gotta do because they want to impact they looks or they

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doing it because they want to be looked at nevertheless like I have nothing against people that

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wants to draw looks like get somebody's attention however all attention is not good

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intense like good attention like all attention is not good intentions like sometimes when like I

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say when it comes to all looked at females you can look like a bum you could look like a five star

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whatever even in between sometimes people intentions when it comes to all looks are fdub

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like you can walk outside look like a bum and somebody's gonna say something so stupid they

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don't have you like bro what's going on versus when you do look good same thing like bro what

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are you doing like you know sometimes like when it comes to the compliments when it's impacted

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looks people please be careful what you're saying how you saying it because sometimes people can really

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be rubbed the wrong way and that's when their motherfucking mug break down because if somebody was to

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tell me judge me on my looks even though that like the outfit my face or whatever I you know sometimes

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I just be like let me prepare like I'm preparing myself but would you raise set and I also like

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to ask for instagram too like you know the hearts and emojis I'm okay y'all like y'all fuck it with

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and as always people that look at me like she thinks she better than me you think he better than me

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she think like no I'm doing this because this is what I like to look for me this is how I like

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to look and that's nothing too when people are comfortable with their own style and identity

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let them have that just because y'all looks are the same like why you try to change somebody else's

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look like if that person want to walk on the crocs all they let them have it they want to wear a nice

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fitting where crocs let them have it they want to have like the rock star vibe emo thing is what's

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called yeah style let them have it if she want to have like you know the models instagram models

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it's um looks she inspired by let her have it if he want to go out here looking like you know

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little dirt little baby um and then meet meals let him do that you know if she want to look out if

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she want to you know wear sweaters of letting people have it that's the thing I hate as an adult as a

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young adult is that people always try to go tick the tack for you with you when it comes to your

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looks my looks are defined by who I am and this is what I'm comfortable with like I said when it

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comes to your looks people will try to try to be your downfall but at the day you gotta realize

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this what you this is your look this is you this is who you are is what you're comfortable with

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and when it's time for you to get out of your comfort zone and pop out when you want to pop out

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you do it like I said this year this year and if you're new here the three things for this year

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is pop out self control so taking control and selfish so pop out taking control and selfish

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so when it comes to your look you want to be selfish with it you want to do some crazy do it

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you want to take control by adding this in there doing what you want to do and how you do it do

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it pop out with that motherfucker I'm guarantee you people don't want to steal that steal that idea

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shoot when it comes to look people always try to after like a time try to be downers because

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sometimes people that be talking all that weird stuff be the main ones that be studying you

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you just don't know it like if you like me I love a big I love an oversized jacket and I'm starting

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to like oversize oversized clothes pre it because I'm a little big and when it comes to tight fit

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it stuff it's just like uh-uh you can see every dent mark through you can so like I'm very big on

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the oversized look sometimes it would be like why you got all the way you got that on like you know

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it's a little big because what I like this this is my signature look my signature look is a good

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oversized hoodie t-shirt sweatshirt cargo pants wild leg whatever it's my look and because my shoes

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going to make sure the outfit is giving what is supposed to get because there's a look and I see

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you looking baby like take some notes it's okay take your notes and when it comes to looks in the

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fashion world shout out to all the people that's in the fashion world or going into the fashion

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world or love the fashion world as much as I do because like when I had the podcast on fashion

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I was just like bro when it comes to fashion you are able to express yourself how you want and when

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you want yes sometimes we all look at people like they're crazy when it comes to their style when it

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comes to looks but that's what they're comfortable with and that's the thing people feel a lot of

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real life see when it comes to looks it equals comfortable if I want to look like this I'm

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comfortable like this if I want to you know go that's my comfort that's how I feel comfortable

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I'll go outside you know and an oversized top bottoms and some fresh kicks and if nobody

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don't understand that then oh well because that's my look this is my comfort zone that's how I feel

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comfortable like I don't judge anybody that got proud is all that shit I don't that's what makes

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you feel comfortable within your look within that day or that second or hour and when it comes to

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look people looks people be jealous of you for no reason you would think but it's a reason

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because you're beautiful or you handsome on the outside and you know how to put that shit on

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and they want to be like you but they don't say ain't nothing they're too scared to even actually

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we get that from like you know the compliments but you can know when people are sincere when it

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comes to giving compliments on your looks and when you and you know when people are not sincere like

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me I try to give I don't try I give people flowers when it's doing if something you have on or your

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outfit or whatever I like I'm like you look nice today that fits you really well XYZ because I like

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the feeling when somebody tells me how I look and you know and when it comes to looks you have to be

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confident that's a real big word well it's not a big word but that's a big mind blowing being

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confident because at times like I said to when I was like in middle school I was not confident

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in the shit that I was doing that that shit I wanted to do I didn't do tell now if I was able

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to talk to middle school me I would tell her like baby things about to get better you ready to be

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you ready to be on your way to high school you ready find yourself even more you'll be going to

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college soon you'll be making that del right me and you will be helping people in the world that

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need your help especially with the need that's my dream is to work with children that's my

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future career goal and that's why I'm so strict me too but that's like having confidence is one

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of the biggest things when it comes to look because looks because like I said sometimes we give people

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the eyes like what the hell that person have on but that's their comfort zone that's how they're

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comfortable this will make them comfortable that's what they like to wear that's what they're going

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to do but sometimes I do be the understanding you're saying like we are doing a little too much but

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hey sometimes who wants to do less so you can do more and I only go out pop out when it's time so

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you know if I'm hanging with a friend or family member that involved dressed it up looking cute

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why not the most you'll probably see for me is some videos and that's about it like

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sometimes I look good sometimes I don't have you had to put a filter on the exact like who I look

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pale or too light or lose yeah so I know how it is when it comes to being confident and being able

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to walk out the door with that outfit you picked out and if nobody likes it regardless that outfit

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you put together you put it together even if you don't think you put it together because

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you're not getting the feedback you want to give you put it together and it's okay to not get noticed

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because in the end when you blow up with it whatever you do within your career or your life

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spanning goals whatever people are want to be with you they will be the ones that look down on you

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and how they want to be with you that's why I said like with the quote I said earlier beauty is on

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the inside it's beauty is on the inside and outside and if you're not beautiful inside and out I don't

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know tell you but when it comes to outside with that part of the quote I'd be like outside like

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sometimes you know some people don't like to be referred as things like me I don't like to be

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referred as cute sometimes because you think about babies and puppies and I think about Tyler

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probably meet the frowns when all fans said cute was for puppies so but it's like you know I be joking

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I'm like all that's so sweet but you gotta be careful because some people confidence is like way

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high it's something like you know it's like a middle-aged confidence high yeah not high

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some of them like hell no nope no no no don't even don't even try that shit

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okay but y'all I'm not even realizing y'all this vibe was really like off the not even off the dome

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because I had this vibe like in my notes but when it came to looks it just was like I thought of

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appearance especially when it comes to today's generation and in the world around us because

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baby when it comes to appearance these kids that are like the around the age as my siblings 1816

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15 they look older than me like their looks give off oh you're a college student oh you an adult

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like the looks just give off like bro uh I'm older than you but I look like your age you're younger

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than me and you look like my age that is thinking god like I just be like when I look at my sister and

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look at my brother and their friends I'm like bro I really like a little kid of them they look older

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than they look older than me but I'm young but they're younger than me it is be like wow

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you miss I just be like wow looks are very crucial and you gotta be very very I want to say picky

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but just up to speed and up to date on whoever it is when it comes to looks even within yourself

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because like I said too within me I use music of course I didn't really start feeling comfortable

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till like the seventh grade but I felt really comfortable as I went to high school because

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the high school I went to we were regular clothes and when you wear regular clothes you know you're

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able to identify yourself but you able to like read the outfit like and my that much I finished

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line we had mannequins and it tells a story the outfit tells a story your looks tells a story on

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you little do you know if y'all didn't know now y'all know like it tells a story your outfit tells a

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very detailed story that you just don't know it does like you know when they say a picture or

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for a thousand words you're like a walking piece you're like a walk of art I'm not gonna say peace

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of art because you're the whole damn thing okay you're walking art or trophy you gotta really

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study pay attention you really gotta go miles to get that and that's how I feel when it comes to the

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dating world when it comes to looks here because I want someone to accept me for who I am like Mary

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J's a take me as I am don't take me for looks because it helps you look good now let's let

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this thing I want you to let that soak in because I know y'all feel that way like I don't want somebody

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to deal with me because of looks I want you to deal with me because of realness because my vibes

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okay I want you to deal with me because of the person you see me as I don't want you to view me

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as a person that needs to be you know a be have to be like the fashion over models I don't want

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you to do that because it's like why are you trying to change the person's looks if a person is

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comfortable with certain outfits and tires and shoes let them have it such some kinds of shoes

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y'all like I said when I was in middle school like I kept the latest stuff for my father made

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sure of that but I wore a boot cut pants I was like sometimes you really didn't really see what I

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had on like I've been I heard some of the most craziest things about my looks when it comes to

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my shoes my dog I was not wearing sketches nothing like that even though nothing's wrong with those

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they comfortable shoes but people like I said the younger generation you know time for them look older

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than me so and half of them don't have no good sense but hey we ain't gonna talk about that because

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it's just like it's just so crazy when we think about our looks we always try to make sure that we

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are looking good for somebody else but not ourselves see me I'm looking good for me

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with or without a relationship with or without a person like I say all the time mental health is

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real is important y'all need to practice and you know do what you gotta do you can't

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play with that especially when it comes to the looks aspect you really gotta be like okay

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my looks don't really don't define who I am your personality does especially when it comes to the

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big one the the importance of why do we do the things we do especially when it comes to our looks

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and you gotta be careful too like I said your outfit reads a story sometimes people will look at

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you and be like oh you gotta make sure those stuff oh that reads you're a whore stuff like that's like

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whoa whoa that's not the memo I just wear it I'm wearing this because this is what this match my

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outfit or I wanted you know blah blah blah and that's another thing too you can narrate your own

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story verbally and without saying anything and people will still think and say the dumbest

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stuff like it's so hard I keep using the females because this I feel like it's a little harder

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when it's like how can you not go to the store you know with your parent or something you know you

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look you know you look like a regular kid and they're trying to stop you and be like oh my gosh

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you let your kid walk out the house like this that I was like you know at a certain age I feel like

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that's where kids are able to express themselves so let them express themselves sometimes it's a

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phase and sometimes it's not my siblings I think they had a phase I'm not sure probably not I think

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I had a phase because like certain times you know I just I didn't care about my hair I didn't care

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like you know what bun it up you know if it already there bun it up whatever and then I say you know

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what I can't because people would look at me and they're like oh she ugly and that's the first thing

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they look at like the face is important you know the body gives tea and everything but the face

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tells it all especially like I said when it comes to social media when you when you see somebody and

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on Instagram versus how you see them outside like at their house that's the thing like social media

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is a place where you can do whatever you want when you want how you want but I always tell people like

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don't fake the fun because it's always somebody you know behind the scenes know what's going on so

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play your cards right but yes when it comes to looks it's just so hard especially with men let me

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get on y'all now with men yes it is hard because when it comes to us females we're looking for the

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most handsome as God in the world but like I said sometimes he can be the most handsome guy in the

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world but have the most shittiest attitude the personality the vibe it give it will give off

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shitty we don't want that I want the whole package if you look good you feel good and your soul is

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good you want that I want y'all to keep that mindset I want y'all to even though they say you know

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when you're dealing with somebody or like dealing with friends or people don't go for looks look for

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their vibe yes but sometimes you got to make sure the vibe match the look because like I said you

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could be the most bombest handsome this person ever and your attitude and vibe is bullshit you're

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ugly you're all around like I look at you as you're yelp to me you just that's fitting to me

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and at times yes I will admit at times I have my moments I have to be that oh my gosh I'm sorry

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let me catch myself sometimes people don't catch they say they do arrogance shit and it pisses me

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off because like bro why are you doing that like that's not nice like don't do that be nice like

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I don't like that like you're that can impact what y'all looks like you could come out here you know

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be bomb hit to toe but your attitude is BS let's talk about attitude because I feel like attitude

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impacts will lose so this this this vibe is gonna be considered vibes and attitude when it comes to

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attitude if your attitude suck your looks are suck as I'm gonna keep repeating it y'all because it's

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been like it needs to be heard however sometimes people be like oh she looks ugly or she's not

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really my type those be the ones that be the sweetest pie those be the ones that be the sweetest ones

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sometimes those be the ones that they say obvious sometimes it may be true but it's also

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true like I say all the time don't judge a book by its cover if you ain't sit down and read it

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flip some pages and got the main idea and some context clues because shoot I heard some stuff

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about me too shoot let I tell y'all all the time if you knew here I say Ron uncut I'm something like

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gonna lie this is about self-improvement and self-empowerment everything impacted the self

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within my community nothing I'm like sometimes we get things misconstrued especially when it comes

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to attitude and looks like at times your looks can be the death of you sometimes sometimes like I

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said see we gotta think why are we looking like this what are we trying to get what is the end goal

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of we're trying to get within this look to look good or to attract this boy like one example you

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know in the movie so I said the media plays a big role especially when it comes to real life you know

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media you can put anything in anything out there you can be any anybody like all these fake pages

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and shit you can be anybody you want nobody really gotta know because it looks good to you but

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sometimes they don't look good to everybody like when it comes to the media you know back then you

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watch videos you know or tv shows girls like oh my gosh I gotta make sure I look good for

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a jar I gotta look good make sure I look good for they go on like but you could look good for him

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and what if that don't impress him and I always said to myself like if a dude can't accept me for

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how I looked then bye bye because it's like if you cannot accept me for how I look when I do look

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pretty and when I don't look pretty then I don't know what to tell you back to a more braxist egg

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when my head looks a mess yeah he's gonna tell me that I'm beautiful

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all right same thing when it comes to a man ladies if he ain't got no haircut are you still gonna

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say he's handsome get off like we gotta think when it comes to looks we sometimes overthink it and

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not realize like at times the simple things are it just looks so good especially when it comes to

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appearance this overall you know this overall episode was just based on appearance and how

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appearance is impact within looks within society because the day like I said the media plays a

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big role of how we address ourselves within looks you know like cosmetics and stuff like that I don't

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knock it but it's just like what is the main end goal for you getting this bbl is it for you to have

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a bigger butt or for you to have the energy to you know have men to draw your attention and not

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right there is bad attention because people in attention when they see things sometimes they

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be like oh I look like I can just imagine how that is so it's like when it comes to all of you gotta

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be really careful like in the summer time too y'all me I have thick legs I got big legs with this

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short to stuff on where I gotta make sure it don't look like it's eating me up with those like not

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too tight because people minds is crazy people are local and I don't have the time and the patience

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okay so I want to leave y'all out with this when it comes to looks I want y'all to really think

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deep and also analyze how you are when it comes to your looks like even what you do or do not go out

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you know your style you know what you like you know what you don't like and it's okay because

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it's different when it comes to look people always be like oh that's not normal which means

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that's not normal you think I'm gonna walk out here just like you are no I got a different style

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my look look like this and I don't want to look like that and you're entitled to feel the way you

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do when it comes to your looks but at the end of the day you gotta respect people for how they are

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and what they are and why they choose the things they do to impact how they look and why they look

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the way they do looking like they look at where the Mr. Burn so y'all when it comes to like this

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this this vibe it just was like looks can be sometimes deceiving that's another one looks to

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be deceiving I believe in that because sometimes it's like you know like I said people be like oh

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my god he look a man she look ugly but be the sweetest pie this is the sweetest thing and you

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need anything for you but just because they're not a beyond your scale rating and they're like a six

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and a half or seven I bet you when things go wrong with all the ones them bbls and uh

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instagram model chicks bring you down you're gonna go right to that one because like I said

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looks can be deceiving it sometimes need to take a leap on faith shoot even I did you know

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and sometimes looks are not always important but it's also too when it comes to looks I feel like

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overall to us as a self as a person we have to make sure that we're comfortable with the looks

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that we give we're comfortable with the things that we put together when it comes to our looks

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regardless if it do or do not draw the tension with me I don't look for attention because I just

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hype myself up like oh you're a good girl like yeah period I like that move and when people do

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give me compliments I say thank you but if it's a compliment that I don't like and it's fucked up I'd

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like um excuse me like you looked at me you just compared me to what now yeah you gotta be you know

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you gotta be really careful sometimes it's like when it comes to look people will compare you to

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things that are crazy out of the warm it's be like uh it might have sound good in your head but

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you know out your mouth no you tried not give you that you tried you tried but no so with that

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being said y'all when it comes to looks and ratio looks but also remember people are watching

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and also remember no matter how good or bad you might think you're looking as long as you're

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comfortable with any I'm guarantee you somebody's gonna try and steal that look okay so with that

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being said y'all I hope y'all have an amazing Wednesday as well as the rest of the weekend

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and weekend I hope you guys are staying safe out here because they like savings it's almost here

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and I'm so glad because baby I'm tired of leaving class and work and it'd be dark and every time I

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look out my window it's like okay um it's this time like it's what six o'clock but seven eight

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it's like um you know I don't know what I want to do now and it gets dark really fast and then in

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the morning it's like it gets the sun comes out a little bit later than it's supposed to so like

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but other than that y'all I wish I'd have a piece of blessings please stay safe out here please

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bundle up because feel a little cold it's crazy because I just checked the weather it's crazy

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that I mentioned that it's supposed to be warm outside next week during the week though Monday

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Tuesday when you say from what I've seen I've seen 61 62 63 years I say damn it ain't spain yeah

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hey hi man but yes overall please be safe y'all I wish I'm not the best piece of blessings and as

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always you guys will hear from me next Wednesday I love you all please stay safe out here and you

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know where to find me on five being with that's e on its back bram bye