Hey y'all, whether it's morning, evening, or afternoon,
I'm just glad that you guys had decided to buy with E.
Yes, the one and only E.
And today, today's vibe is something special,
like all of them.
So without further ado, first, I'm
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because we still in the peak of the new year, I guess,
for real.
So why not start it off with me?
You know what I'm saying?
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OK, so today's vibe of the day is selfish.
Yeah, selfish.
Yep.
And the reason why today's vibe of the day is selfish
is because, like I said, impacting on new year, new you,
I feel like this year, I said the theme is selfish.
The theme is selfish, taking control and doing for you.
So let's get into it.
The reason why I selfish, I feel like
should have been the next vibe of the day,
because like I said, it's a new year and a new you.
If it's not a new you, you can still be selfish.
It's OK.
So let's get into it a little bit more.
When it comes to selfish, I think of, for me,
is taking a leap on things that you just
need to keep to yourself.
One thing about me, I keep a mystery on everything I do now.
I feel like when it's time for me to pop out, I'm a pop out.
Like I said, within the new year, new year, new me.
But so the vibe for me is pop out, taking control and being
selfish.
Those are the three vibes that I'm feeling this year,
because like I said, with last year, last year,
I learned a lot about myself.
I learned what to do, what not to do, and how to do it,
and why not to feel some type of way.
So that's why I'm being selfish within everything
and with everybody.
At times, people will be like, why are you being selfish?
Why are you doing this to me?
Why are you doing that?
Sometimes you got to take control on yourself.
You got to really, really be selfish at times.
And we always, when we think of selfish,
we think about the bad of it.
But we never think of the good, because at times,
you have to be selfish.
And I feel like at times when people will be selfish,
I feel like it's for a good cause,
because at times, people don't want to keep going
in those cycles of life where they have to be there
and open arms for people, and then nobody's there for them
like that.
That's them being selfish.
And at times, we have our ways where
we need to be selfish within ourselves and also
the people around us.
So selfish, what does it mean?
It's either of a person or action or movement,
lack of abilities for others.
And people is only on, and people is with only one's
own personality, personal profit or pleasure.
And people always be like, when it comes to a selfish person,
they always think about themselves
and never think about others.
However, at times, you have, like I said, you got to be selfish.
And I had to learn that because I'm the type of person
that is, like I said, I'm there for a person, open arms,
and X, Y, Z, and doing the most and stuff like that.
And I just had to think about it.
Like, one day, I really was sitting in my room,
sitting up in my room, just thinking about it.
I'm like, bro, it's been so many times I've
been there for people, and I took the risk on doing
certain stuff that I don't do at times and do things I don't do.
But the type of person I am, I did it.
However, when it comes to my turn,
I don't see no, everybody go go.
Everybody be self-like.
No, I'm not doing it.
No, I'm not doing that.
I'm not doing this.
I'm not doing that.
The light bulb went off in my head, and it was like, child,
you need to stop being selfish.
You need to start taking control and taking matters
in your own hands when it comes to E.
E does everything for people that she love.
E goes the extra mile.
E, I'm like, bro, I'm sitting there just thinking.
I'm just thinking to myself, like, bro, I really do a lot.
And at times, I don't get the shit in return.
Or you do it for a company, business, whatever it is.
Sometimes when it comes to also the mental,
that's what I really want to focus on.
When it comes to mental, I ain't got time for nobody
to fuck up what I got going on.
And I was like, damn, that was hard when she said, yeah,
I ain't got time for nobody to be fucking up
nothing I got going on, especially when it comes to my mental.
Because if you fuck my mental up,
I'm really being selfish.
When you tell them you had to diss us yourself,
like right now, by the time, people be like, oh, you being
selfish.
Oh, you only think about yourself like, what the fuck?
Think about it.
My mental, me being selfish for my mental, that's fucked up.
Sometimes you got to step away from people.
But you're not doing the things that you used to do for people.
Like doing this, going to bat, going for war,
and all that for people.
You see who's there for you and who's not.
You see who's been selfish and who has not been selfish.
Just people, if I feel like some people in general
be selfish for a reason.
And some just be selfish because how they are.
And I feel like the main thing when
it comes to selfish is it packed with needs.
And if it's impacted with your needs, some people just,
some people put their needs first before they put yours.
That's being selfish.
And I'm the opposite.
I always put it others before me because I'm just
that type of loving, caring person.
And then I had to think, if it's not the people that I am
surrounded by every other day or talk to every other day
or it's very, basically, period have a type of relationship
with, it's a difference.
But if it's motherfuckers that just be coming out of nowhere,
ex-abolish, be selfish.
Because you don't want nobody disrespecting, fucking up
what you've got going on.
Because when it comes to you being selfish,
it manifests in the various ways.
People be such as, like I said, people
be like, oh, you put your own needs over others.
You disregard the feelings or well-beings of others.
Or you just constantly seeking personal growth tactics.
Like, you put yourself before others.
Like, you give yourself that platform
before you give anybody that platform.
Now, what I say about that is, I'm not like that.
I give my flowers when it's blue.
I give my shout-outs.
I go to beyond.
The only time I'll be selfish is when it comes to my feelings
and the needs.
When it comes to somebody telling me
their accomplishments or saying, I'm giving you your flowers.
I'm not the type of person to talk about you
or do little things to you because you're doing something.
Now, that's another thing.
That's where that comes in.
People don't like to see you win.
You can tell who wants to see you win, who is in the middle,
like, OK, I want to see.
But it's like, girl, I don't want to see you.
I don't want to see you win before me.
And then there's the ones that don't want to see you do nothing.
That's the selfish shit.
That's one of the most selfish shit
I feel like you can ever do is down top on a person that
really been doing what they got to do for themselves
versus people that take the shortcut scam and do the most
and don't get it right.
You know?
Selfish and jealousy go hand to hand.
I've been in situations where you wouldn't
think the people that you consider
or is your family and friends to be selfish of you,
to be selfish towards you, so I'm sorry, and jealous of you.
Jealousy is one of the things that ticks me off.
Word to drink.
Jealousy in the air tonight, I can tell.
You can tell when the motherfucking jealousy you by the way
they talk to you.
The body language, I'm big on body language.
If your body language is giving off, like, yeah,
I hear you, but like, I'm bother.
Baby, I don't care.
One thing about me when people try to brag,
I'm like, I brag different.
I don't even got a brag.
I'm going to show you better than I can tell you.
I don't like a person that bragged.
That's the person that's selfish.
Like, if you got a brag about every little thing
you do from head to toe, the littles to the big things,
that's selfish.
Like, when somebody compares to what you get,
somebody is on your level and you looking at them like,
you don't need to be on my level.
Like, uh-uh, this is about me.
Like, I'm talking like, how are you going to be on my level?
How you experience what I experience?
Like, you ain't do what I did.
I seen it, y'all, and I've been through it.
Like, just having a conversation with somebody
and every five minutes is about them, that's selfish.
And playing the victim is very selfish.
Like, how can you not own up to the shit that you do?
How can you not own up to what has been going on
or whatever?
People, excuse me, people, I feel like I need to realize
that at times you need to learn how to turn it on
and turn it off.
You should know when it's time to be all about you,
then it's time to turn it off, okay,
I'm gonna listen to her.
Even then, I feel like this is the thing that pissed me off.
If you're having a conversation with somebody,
why every conversation is about you?
Like, you are not the motherfucking president.
Like, why the fuck I always gotta have a conversation
with you when every five minutes is about your damn self?
Like, damn, I thought we're having a conversation.
If that was the case, you should just make a book
or a movie or some shit about yourself.
And I just watch it or read it or listen,
I don't fucking know.
Like, people that just do certain stuff,
like be selfish and always wanna talk about theyself,
really is like, as they say, my ick.
That's my ick.
My ick when it comes to selfish is the way people
maneuver around things and the way they say shit.
Like, you wouldn't think,
so you wouldn't think the people that you are related to
would be selfish.
That alone is jealous of you.
They don't do shit.
I mean, you do shit, like you get to the bed,
you get to the bed, you got a business,
you handle your business, you get in that degree.
If you just mind your business, period,
they gotta find a way to say some bullshit,
to be jealous, and then the jealousy,
they wanna be selfish and all that.
That's annoying.
At this age that I'm at and I'm able to like,
you know, I ain't gotta hear the same,
if they had a grown folks business like that no more.
I see and understand what my mom was to say like.
Why, you gotta be selfish.
Sometimes you gotta take matters into your own hands
and tell people, look, I don't wanna hear it,
it's always about you.
Now it's about me, it's my turn.
I'm gonna show you how to do this.
Where's Stevie J, I'm gonna show you how to do this.
Sign me.
I'ma get to you.
That's another thing too, people feel like
when they're doing little selfish stuff,
that's them getting to you.
Sometimes it depends on, like,
if it's somebody I'm really, really closely,
and they do something, oh yeah, they gonna get to me.
Somebody outside, oh fuck, baby, you ain't get to me.
That ain't getting to me.
You're getting to yourself.
Cause I'm not giving you the satisfaction,
let alone not even giving you the time
or the day that you want me to give you.
I'm not even giving you your little five, 15 minutes
of fame and all that.
Especially when it comes to social media,
and jealousy and being selfish shows a lot.
I just sit back and observe, I'll be like damn,
you being selfish, like, if you got a family
and you out here doing all the glips
and glam for yourself and your family not up there with you,
that's being selfish.
What about me, if I'm looking like I'm looking old,
baby, best believe, whoever I'm with
is going to look up to par.
So that's another thing I feel like,
when it comes to friends, if me and my girls we out,
before we go out, we always ask,
what's going on, what's the vibe, how we feeling?
If I feel like somebody, even myself,
it's not following the vibe, that's why I speak up.
Cause if not, that's them being selfish.
They gonna let me walk around like a fool
and not tell me what's going on.
One thing about me, I'm not gonna be selfish
to the people that I love the most.
I'm gonna be selfish to the motherfuckers
that keep trying to play with me.
I'm gonna show you better than I can tell you.
I leave a mystery to every motherfucking thing I do.
You gotta leave a mystery because people will be like,
hmm, I'm jelly, cause you can't post everything.
That's nothing to learn.
You gotta keep a mystery.
And I don't really like post everything about myself
cause I don't want people with all my business.
And I don't like being on social media like that.
Like I don't wanna have, and then I don't like having all
that shit on my story.
Like I don't like that.
Like between five stories is cool with me.
The only exception would be like, you know, your birthdays
or like if you, you know, promote something.
Cool.
On a regular basis, I'm not gonna be on my story
talking all this selfish bullshit.
I'm not doing that, you know?
Hey, you know?
But when it comes to being selfish in a good way,
like I said, it's time, certain stuff you gotta do for you.
You gotta be selfish.
You wanna take yourself out, do it.
You wanna widen down yourself, do it.
If you used to have a vibe with somebody and, you know,
you take a mile and like do stuff with them,
you introduced them to a vibe and they, you know,
you thought that they were able to maintain it
but it wasn't and you had to take it back, be selfish on it.
Because a lot of things I had to be selfish on,
I had to take back what was mine.
That's when, that's the impact of taking control.
With me being selfish this year, taking control
and popping out when I want to.
It's all gonna fall in line.
This is a new year, new me, new everything.
When it comes to being selfish, baby,
I'm telling you this and you're getting it from me.
Do it.
If you feel like you gotta separate yourself,
you gotta go in a hibernation, do it.
And if they, the people that don't understand,
be like, oh, that's me and selfish, be like,
hey, that's how to cookie crumbles.
Sometimes I gotta take action.
Sometimes I gotta do what's best for me
because I only have one life.
You only have one life.
So live it right.
Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
Sometimes it's gonna be good days.
Sometimes it's gonna be bad days.
I'm gonna say them bad days do not last forever.
They don't.
So with them being selfish,
even if it's for good or bad cause, do it.
Because at the end of the day, you know what's best for you.
If you gotta be selfish with your peoples,
loved ones, whatever, friends, whatever,
people's period, do it.
You gotta be selfish with the company.
You gotta do it.
But if you're doing it, make sure it's for a good cause.
Don't just do it just to be selfish.
Cause there's some ignorant people out here
that just be selfish and it just rubs me the wrong way.
Like within the movies, you know,
you always got that one selfish ass that's good.
They'd always think she better than somebody
and when it's time for her to, you know,
have a conversation, you ask her how she's doing.
She oughta hold them, autobiography or biography
to give you like, baby, I don't wanna hear that.
Or bro, I don't wanna hear that.
Like come on now.
Like let it go.
We get it.
We get the same.
And that's the other thing too.
Sometimes like it's the same old shit.
Just a different day.
I don't wanna keep hearing about it, you know.
So if you gotta exit yourself from that, do it.
Be selfish cause you know,
your ears probably will start hearing it.
Your eyes is probably tired of seeing it, you know,
like whatever it is, you gotta take steps back, do it.
And I feel like when you take steps back,
that also impacts being selfish.
Cause at times when you just move yourself away
from things that people, you're being selfish
and you're taking control on what's yours,
you're taking control on what you need for you.
Especially when it comes to mental, spiritual
and emotional impact on you.
The well-being and that.
Cause I'm not gonna let nobody drain me.
And when it's my turn, they be real selfish.
That's another thing too.
Selfish people are not giving.
They'll give you what they want to give.
And it'd be like probably bull or it's probably nothing.
But they gonna give you a hard time.
That's what I'm gonna tell you.
Selfish people gonna give you a hard time.
Selfish people is always going to
overall make it about them.
Like, I feel like it's ways that you could be selfish
that people just be not thinking about the good in it.
And at times like I said, I thought of all the bad
because I've seen it, been through it, done it.
But when it comes to selfish, I'm being selfish with my love.
I'm being selfish with, you know, love.
I'm being selfish with a lot of things this year
because I need it and you need it.
You need it.
Don't say you don't, because you need it.
At times you need to be selfish within yourself.
You need to take that control for yourself.
You need to really put your foot down
and be like, all right, I'm not having that.
And I'm not gonna do this.
I'm not gonna be there.
Because I'm not gonna let nobody take nothing from me.
And I'm not gonna let nobody feel like they
obligated to have me feelings and type away.
And like I said, when it comes to selfish
and being the center of attention,
it feel like you're taking somebody's shine.
Like when, that's another thing too.
Like a lot of times when I see like a lot of people
within the black community, within my black community
have their time to shine is always that one
or group of people that is willing to be selfish
to take that moment from you and make it their moment.
Like why can't you just be happy for somebody?
Why can't you just be happy for a month?
If nobody is paying attention to you,
you are still the light.
That's another thing.
I didn't witness so many times people being selfish
and they don't even know they being selfish.
Like what the fuck, bro?
You can't do that.
Like let that person have that moment,
let people feel the way they feel.
Cause that's fucked up.
Don't let somebody,
don't let somebody have you in that space where
you gotta be like, I don't know if I'm being selfish
or should I be selfish?
I feel like if you gotta do what you gotta do,
but it's the ways on the pros and cons of selfish.
You always gotta think of the pros.
And I'm on the pro side.
I've been too nice to you some people.
And I know you've been too nice to some people.
And you need to take matters into your own hands.
You need to take control.
You need to put your foot down and say,
look, I'm being selfish.
I'm doing what's best for me.
And mine, and mine, cause I know y'all,
some of y'all probably got some kids,
some lovers, some friends, whatever.
Be selfish with them.
See me, I can't, only thing I'm being selfish with
is my household and my very, very close friends.
I ain't being selfish with no man.
Like when you, I feel like when you get into a relationship
with a person, okay, be selfish.
Like P&D, right?
Say he's selfish, he wants you all to be selfish.
Now that's another thing, it's levels
with that type of selfish.
Like, whoa, whoa.
Like, I feel like it's a good selfish
within a relationship and I feel like it's a bad selfish.
The good selfish is like, you know,
they doing all the wine and down, you know,
you my only one.
Woo-dee-wootie-wootie-woot.
The bad selfish is like my controlling,
trying to take control of you.
No, no, no, no, no, no.
And one, like I say, within the black community,
the media displays like, I don't see a lot of
being selfish within a good way, within a relationship.
Back then, like the night that you got a different world,
Cosme Show was stuff like that.
Within their love, there's way of being selfish was like,
it was very like, I want that.
Versus the media, it's like,
for me to be selfish, I gotta knock your ass up
side your head and to show you like nobody,
like nobody gonna get to you, like you mine.
Like, I don't wanna be aggressive.
Like, I'm not even the aggressive type.
I feel like the only time I gotta get aggressive
is if you getting aggressive with me
and I don't even like doing that, you know?
But being selfish, I feel like within a relationship,
who is like, you gotta show me,
I can't believe the hearing, like you can be like,
oh, I must be so selfish to you.
I'ma do this, I want you all to myself.
I don't want nobody else, you don't need nobody else.
But want, want, want, want, show me.
Don't tell me, show me.
But then the opposite, oh, they be like, nobody wants you.
And I just be like, that's abuse.
Like, that's just like y'all abusing physically,
mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
Oh my God.
Like, whew, when it comes to that word selfish,
it's so like, it's so strong
because we always think of the negative.
We don't really think of the positive.
But when I think of positive,
I think of a person as a one individual,
a person that is able to stand up for themselves,
take control on what is theirs.
If they feel as though they need to be selfish
what they love, selfish what they money,
selfish what they household,
selfish what they do it.
Cause that's what I'm doing.
You gotta leave a mystery
within everything you do and how you do it.
You gotta be selfish,
you gotta take matters to your own hands.
Sometimes you gotta be the H-B-I-C.
Sometimes you really gotta do that
because like I said,
you'd be surprised at the people that's selfish
and you'd be surprised at the people
that really, really is jealousy.
And jealousy is a part of being selfish.
I feel like if you don't know,
you don't know one day.
You gotta really like pay attention to the signs.
See, one thing about me, I observe people
and I read between the lines,
especially when it comes to social media,
certain things that people do,
certain things that people say,
the songs and messages,
the way you phrase it,
your grammar, your punctuations,
emojis, the tone of your voice
if you send an audio or if I'm listening to a video,
the body language, the face expression.
Y'all gotta pay attention.
You gotta see what's real and what's not.
What is the traits of being selfish
and what's the traits of jealousy?
Think about it.
Like I want y'all to just really soak,
like let it soak in like season.
It just, like let's just take the moment
and think on that.
You know, we had those moments in our life
when we told people, you're so selfish.
Like you being selfish, like you only think of yourself.
At times we never really asked them why they are selfish.
And most of them has very good reasons
on why they do what they do.
And some just ask this, like,
they just selfish just because.
Like I always say, people that were the only child
were selfish.
Sometimes they have their reasons
on why they selfish and I get it, and I get it.
Then there's some people that grew up, you know,
like me and I also with two or more siblings
or one or more siblings or whatever the case may be.
And they ask, still fucking selfish.
I'll be like, God damn, like what the,
but hey, some break out of it and some don't.
But me, I haven't been selfish, like,
when it comes to things and people,
but myself, I'm going to be selfish when it comes to me
and taking control of me on a deeper level.
I'm taking control of what to say or what not to say.
How to do this, how to do that, why this, why that,
where, all that good stuff.
But with me being selfish this year,
it's just mainly just being selfish on things
that impact with that mental.
Yeah, that's what it is.
So I want you all to just keep this in mind.
With it being selfish, you got to take control
of that mental.
The brain is racing 24 seven.
You need to make sure, you know, all hands on deck
and you at a place in your life where you're good.
You don't want to feel like, oh, I'm a superhero
of everybody, but do you have a hero?
You know?
I know you're probably like, girl, you just mumbling,
like you just waiting around the bush,
but I'm just trying to tell y'all like,
take control, be selfish, do things that you never did
that you just want to do.
If you know, sometimes you are always at them events
and then when it's your turn to do stuff
and nobody does it, be selfish within if it's an event.
Come up and they invite you and they come to you
and be selfish and don't go and keep going
and keep doing it.
I'm telling you, you're going to get comfortable
and it's going to be like, okay,
maybe I'm a breakout of it and maybe I'm not.
Sometimes it's like it's meant to be.
Sometimes you have to be selfish within things
that are meant to be selfish for,
especially when it comes to when you grow up,
when you reach the peak of your 20s.
That's the year of being selfish.
That's the year of you getting your bag.
I feel like, and you get real down and dirty.
I don't want to do this.
I don't want to do that.
And if it's not done like this, I don't want to see that.
And I don't want to hear it.
That's how I feel.
That's how I want it.
I'm all about, you know, getting these degrees,
getting that money on.
I'm on a new level where I'm being selfish
with things that matters.
I'm not being selfish on bullshit.
I'm on a level where you got to be selfish
to the point where it's going to make sense at the end.
Just, I feel like people just do things
that don't make no sense.
And it don't make like nothing spectacular in your life.
It don't bring no type of joy or, I don't know y'all.
That's just me.
I feel like when I'm doing something,
the opposite way, like if I'm a nice person,
and when it's time to do like, be cruddy,
sometimes I'm like, dang, just don't feel right.
But sometimes like, man, I'm selfish.
I got a do for me and I'm a do this for me.
And with that being said y'all,
I hope y'all take something I said out of this
and run with it.
If it don't help some of y'all,
long as it helped one of y'all.
Because I'm telling you, you got to take control.
You got to take matters into your own hands.
Sometimes you got to be selfish with others
and with yourself.
Because like I said, it's only one you
and you got to do for you.
And if nobody wants to, I'm gonna tell you, do it.
Do that shit, do that shit.
Do it.
If you got to take that time to just separate yourself,
do it.
And if they feel like you being selfish
because you're putting yourself first,
oh well, like you got to think.
Everybody has feelings.
Some people don't take everybody's feelings of caution.
And some do.
Shoot.
With that being said y'all, I wish y'all nothing but
the past within the new year and on this day
or whenever y'all listen to this.
I want y'all to be selfish within any and everything
you're doing, even with whoever you're dealing with
in the ones you love the most.
You got to have that sense of urge to also
really put yourself first.
Really, really be selfish with yourself first
before you be selfish with anybody.
And you got to learn how to be selfish in a way that,
you know, it don't come off so nasty.
That's another thing I really forgot to really dig into.
But I feel like it wasn't a point because
we all know, we see it, come on, like we know what's going on.
But just y'all, I wish y'all nothing but the best.
I hope you guys have a great week.
Please stay safe out here.
It's getting cold and cold by the day.
Sometimes it's like warm, I was like cold, freezing cold.
I'm like, dang, we gon' have some snow.
Like, what's going on?
But yes, please be safe out here.
I wish y'all nothing but the best.
And you guys will hear from me next week.
Peace and blessings.
Au revoir.