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Hey y'all, whether it's morning evening or afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys had decided to

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vibe with me, the one and only E. I am thrilled to welcome you guys into 2024, the first Wednesday

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ever. So why not rock out with a bang to open the new year? Because this year, the theme is selfish.

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And with that being said, we are taking control of everything in our lives when it comes to the mental,

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physical, social aspects of ourselves. Okay, so happy New Year's, happy Kwanzaa, Merry Christmas,

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Hanukkah and all those good things as well. If I forgot to say it, you know, because 2023 been a

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year and if you haven't got a chance to listen to the recap 2023, I advise y'all to go check that out.

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So with that being said, I want you all to sit back, relax and enjoy here my voice,

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whether you want to go or at home, get real comfortable to enjoy hearing me. And for the

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ones that are new, hey, what's up with popping? Welcome, welcome, welcome. If for the ones that

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are not new to this, but true to this, hey, y'all, what's up? And I hope all is well with everyone.

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So without further ado, let's introduce today's vibe of the day. So to open up 2024, the first

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Wednesday of the year. Today's vibe is New Year, New Year. Yeah, yeah, New Year, New Year. That's

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getting syllable. So the reason why I did New Year, New Year's because every year, we tell ourselves

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that things are going to be different and we're taking control on things and we're doing things

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differently, such as within our mindset, when it comes to businesses and whatever we got going on

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in life, we're taking control of it. We're getting it back and we're getting it out the mug or doing

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whatever like everything is going to change. Like we say is a new year, new you or is a new year

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and things are going to change. And I always say that people be like, oh, y'all say this bullshit

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every year, these new resolutions like, oh, this year, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do that, I'm

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gonna do that. And I'm a firm believer of vision boards. Vision boards also help within the new

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year and also helping within you because those those those dreams that you're manifesting will

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most definitely come to reality because I will never forget the first time I ever made a vision

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board in so many years with one of my friends. I checked off most of the stuff off my vision board

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and then she added the same thing. And I'll just tell everybody like just write down,

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even if you got to do pictures, do what you have to do to make sure that whatever you want to do

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within the new year, no matter how long it is, just write it out or cut pictures of it or whatever.

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And it tells a story either way, go like pictures, tell a story, words, whatever, whatever way is

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best for you to explain how you want things to go for you in the new year that impacts with the new

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you do it baby because that's for you and for you only. Okay, so let's get into it. New year, new you.

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New year, that means taking action and doing something that will lead you to desire outcomes

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with desire outcome. Break down your goals into management pieces and start taking them one step

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at a time with that being said, like I said, within the vision boards or the goals you right now,

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however you do and make a list or whatever, take it one step at a time, do one thing at a time,

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don't try to do everything at once because it's going to be very discombobulated and it's going

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to give you a headache. Like you cannot do but so much at one time. If that makes sense, you know,

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like for me, my goal is one of my goals is to travel more. So in order for me to travel more,

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I got to get a passport. So I've been like saving money on the side to like be prepared for when

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it's time for me to, you know, make the payment to be my passport. I'm gonna make it because baby,

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once the semester is over, I'm going somewhere, even if it's not out of the country right away.

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I'm going to be traveling more because I deserve it and you only have one life. So living to the

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fullest, even though in life we go through a lot of obstacles, if in the good and the bad,

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them bad times don't last forever. So without being instead, take that risk on doing those things

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that you want to do and that's what I want to do. Take that risk on traveling. I'm gonna take that

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risk on updating my closet. And the reason why I said update my closet because the appearance,

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like I'm a social work major, soon I will be in my internship where I am in an internship,

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you know, getting the feel of how it is when you officially had your license, your degree,

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and be able to do what you want to do. And then when you're working in those type of settings,

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you have to pee on your P's and Q's and you have to look professional from head to toe.

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And I love the professional look. So each day, every day I'm on country's looking at professional

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looks on the head to toe. Like, guys, I'm so big on sneakers. It's gonna be so hard to try to wear

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flats. I'm gonna wear flats. I'm not real big on heels. Like, I'll wear it here and there, but

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I'm a sneaker girl. I'm a sneaker. I gotta take my time. So yes, y'all, when it comes to anything

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that you have written down or your vision board or however you break down what you want to do for

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your dish new year, take it one step at a time. Take it one step at a time. Like, it's just like,

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it's not gonna, I'm gonna say this, don't rush it. One thing you don't want to do is don't rush

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anything. Because once you rush it, it's like, you think you look back and it's like, whoa,

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I rushed it and I don't feel like I did enough or I feel like it went by too quick. Well, I just

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did it just to get it over with. No, because within everything that you do is a lesson learned,

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even if it didn't even even if you thought that it would be bigger than what it is. And sometimes

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it's nice. Okay, long as you took that risk and did it, you know, long as you did that for you.

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And another thing that I want to tell y'all to when it comes to breaking down your goals

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and to the pieces and taking, you know, taking them one step at a time, you don't need to announce

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it to everybody. I'm real big on leaving a mystery within everything I do because a lot of people

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will either let's break it down like this. It's some people that are really genuine,

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like, you know, the people your day one, they genuine. And then there's people that are just

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there to be nosy. They're there just to get the scoop on what's going on. They're not there to

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support you. They're just there just to see what's going on. And then when you do tell them your

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game plans, those are the same ones that are taking everything that you're doing. And they're

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trying to do it the same way. Like it's ridiculous. But this is the world we live in. You know,

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like if you just say this is the evil world we live in, and every time I see that video,

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it makes me cringe, y'all. But it's like, it's true. This is the world we live in. Like,

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sometimes people don't want to see you happy. Most of the time people want to see you fall.

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And that's another thing when it packs in new year, new you, I want to let y'all know this.

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Don't ever let nobody shun you. Don't let nobody little boy, little girl you. It's in times where

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I had to like shun myself and be quiet because I couldn't. I felt like it wasn't my place to speak.

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No, we're not doing that. This year we're putting our foot down. If something or someone is trying

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to test you or do something to you that you're not feeling, let it be known. Because like I said,

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you are human and you have feelings too. And most of the time when people are doing the things

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they're doing is to get under your skin and because they're jealous of you. So when it comes to the

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new year, new you, we're not going to match energy. If we feel threatened or something, we're going

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to say it in the most respectful way ever. And it's only, and we only, oh, excuse me, we're only

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going to say it once. Like it's only going to be one time that I'm going to tell you. Because after

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that I'm going to keep on showing you and I'm not going to tell you no more. You know, like new year,

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new year for me before I get deeper into it with y'all. Y'all know I got to take my, you know,

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I got to take my time and tell y'all for me. I told myself it was a new year, new me. I'm not letting

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anyone or anything get under my skin no more. I'm being able to say what I have to say, no matter

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how big or small it is. If it's brought into me face to face and I don't like it, I'm going to let

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it be known. Because like I said, you're human. I'm human. I have feelings too. And my feelings matter

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just as well as anybody else's. Let alone, I'm big on respect. Especially if you respect them,

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they need to respect you. You know, at times we'd be like, you don't want to get nasty. Like I had

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the whole, we had the whole conversation on respect. We big on respect. Because of family members,

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friends, co-workers, lovers, whatever. We're not letting no one slide no more. When people try to

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throw jabs and stuff at us, we're going to address them. Because me, people would throw jabs and I'd

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be like, okay, no, I'm not doing that no more. Because once they throw a jab, they're going to keep on,

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keep on, keep on, keep on, keep on, keep on. Because like, oh yeah, I got you now. No. So with that being

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said for me, when it comes to feelings this year, my God is really, really bad when it comes to my

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feelings. No matter who you are to me, family, friends, lover, I don't care. Because this year,

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it's about chill. Like I said, the theme for me is being selfish. You taking control of things that

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you didn't really have a lot of control of. Like you had 50, 50%, but now it's like, you need that

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100% of taking real control on who you are and what you are, especially when it comes to that

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mental. Y'all know I'm big on that mental. And if you're new here, I am so big on the mental because

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the brain is always racing. Your brain is always racing, even when you think it's not it is.

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So with that being said, I'm not letting anything or anyone get into my head. Because they're

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jealous or they just want to be mean or whatever the case may be. No. Then in the day, I'm living

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for me. Every day, I'm going to make it worth the while. Even if I have a moment where things don't

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go right. I'm gonna bounce back because always another day is going to be a brighter day tomorrow.

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You know, and that's another thing too. You don't want to live in that space where you feel like

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you got to fight all the time. Like sometimes you get tired of it. You get tired of having to

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tell this one this, tell that no, not doing that no more. It should only take one time and one time

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only for you to let something or someone know what's going on. And another thing, once you say

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it, that's it. Action is going to speak a lot of them words. And if they don't respect that,

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chuck them deuces up and do what you got to do. Because at the end of the day, you have one life,

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live it to the fullest and take control of your life. Even if things right now in your life is

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not going so good, take that control. Take that five, 10, 15, 20 minutes in the mirror in your car.

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I don't care where you're at. To have that conversation with yourself or with whoever

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you believe in, have that conversation. So you feel comfortable with thing yourself.

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You know, like, it just, it has me like, whoo, it got me shaking. It got me like, it got me excited

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because this is how I feel that feeling of literally being able to stand up for yourself,

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being able to just take that risk going, taking control of everything that people doubted you on

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is one of the best things ever. This year, I said is selfish. It's selfish here because

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you did a lot for others. Now it's time to take control for you. Now it's time for you to get

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back into that place where you had everything in order. Well, is you getting yourself back in

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order? You're doing for you. Yes, you're still going to be there for the ones you were there for,

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but you need to take that time for you. You need to do for you, baby. Like for me, I told myself,

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I'm not going to let anyone or anything have me in an uproar. I'm not. You have one life

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and make it count because tomorrow is not promised sometimes. It's not promised.

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It's not promised. So live every day to the fullest, even when it's hard times, like even if you work

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a job and the people there just get on your nerves. It's always a light at the tunnel and you're almost

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there because some bad times don't last forever. And whoever you believe in has that blueprint,

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that master plan for you. They're not ready. It's just when they feel as though you're ready,

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they're going to throw it out there. So for me, like strong believer of Jesus Christ,

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that's my savior. It's been times where I feel like I've been tested. I feel like some things were

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not for me and my gut feeling and then the man of above always got my back because, baby,

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I'm one of God's favorites. Okay. Hey, y'all are too. Whoever you believe in as well, you're their

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favorite because they're not going to let nothing or anyone play with you because they know what you

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can handle. Okay. Because I always say this too, God is not going to put you in a predicament

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where you can't handle it. Yeah, in your mind, you like you can't do this, you can't do this,

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but I guarantee you you'll be able to do it. And that's why I say for this year, this new year,

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new me, I'm coming for everything that's mine. Everything, even if I have to go through so

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many obstacles to get to the shit, I'm going to do it because I deserve it. And that's something

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that I've been praying and manifesting for. And I pray and manifest that you guys get the same thing.

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The theme for this year also is to take control. And with that being said, taking control is

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taking the lead on things that you usually don't take the lead on. You know, at times you don't

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want to take the lead on things because you know it's not for you. But you never know what the

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outcome can be when you take the lead on things. Take a leap on faith. Take a leap on that bridge.

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Just take the leap on anything that you feel as though you didn't believe in it at first.

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Take it, do it. You never know where it can take you. Just do it. Like, Nagi baby, just do it.

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Like, you what's the worst that can happen at times? You know, just do it. You never know.

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Like, it could really put a major impact on to your life. And that's another thing to

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when I say be selfish and leave a mystery, whatever you got going on in your life,

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you know who to tell and you know who not to tell. And I feel as though also,

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when it comes to social media, don't let social media know. Let them know until after you finish.

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Pop out. That's another thing to do. So the theme is selfish, taking control and pop out.

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Pop out. Yeah, you're gonna pop out when you want to hear in there. I told myself, you know,

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I'm not big on social media like that anyway. And if I do, it's for the podcast, post a video or two

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of me here and there and a quote, and whatever going on today, like if it's a countdown or event,

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that's the only time you'll see me. You're not gonna see me on there every day, posing all these

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quotes and you know, I'm not doing that because that takes up most of your time. I'm not realizing

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social media can take up a time like that and you can miss out on a lot, you know. So when I say

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pop out, pop out when you know you damn right now when it's time for you to buy about like,

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like we pop up at your party type shit. You don't even have to pop up with the gang or not

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because most of the time, baby, this year, I guarantee you will be popping out by yourself

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with a lot of achievements, accomplishments and things that you have been manifesting and praying

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for it. Because that's how I'm like I said, it's people that are there in your corner that support

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you and is your cheerleader and it's people that's on the sidelines that is watching you because

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they're observing everything they want to do everything that you're doing and they want to

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take every little thing that you're doing and do it because some people don't have their own identity.

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And it's just like when you're a trendsetter at times, it's like, wow, why is people doing what

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times people try to do what I do? And it's right there. You're a trendsetter. You're doing something

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that you're doing something that you think is just just because for the somebody is like, they want

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to do it. I'm gonna do it. And in their mind, they're gonna do it 10 times better. But sometimes

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nobody can be better than the original. Let's sink on that. Let's sink

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then a little bit like nobody is better than the original word adjustment. And like, I believe

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that I believe that because nobody cannot be better than the original, like the original product.

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Yeah, you could bootleg it. But that's the thing bootleg like bootleg DVDs is all muffled and stuff

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like that versus the original is clear high death in your face. Boom. Like, what?

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So yeah, like New Year, New You, Baby, take this time to set a goal and make a plan to achieve it.

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Start by taking small steps back and break your goals into smaller pieces, more manageable tasks,

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and give yourself credit for each accomplishment. And you will be well on your way to achieving

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your goals. With that being said, take credit for everything that you're doing. Take the time to

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appreciate yourself. Give yourself the glory to praise and everything. Be your biggest cheerleader

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because at the end of the day, no matter how big or small your accomplishment is, it's people out

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there that don't give two fucks about you. But you got to remember, you got to stay solid

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and stay stagnant within yourself because at the end of the day, you know how this

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obstacle was. You knew how this journey was because a lot of people will be like, oh,

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congratulations. And you could tell the fake from the phony, you know, sometimes your own blood won't

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support you. A stranger will go out they way before and times your own blood will. And I'm just

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speaking facts because when it comes to things, when it comes to goals, turning dreams to reality,

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baby, it's not easy. This shit ain't easy. And I tell people all the time, take it one step at a time.

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Don't rush it because when you rush, it's not going to be the way you imagine it to be. It's not going

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to be the way how you had it on that blueprint. Another thing, y'all know I'm big on that blueprint.

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If you're here and if you're new here, baby, I'm big on a blueprint. And with a blueprint, you have it

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out, you lay out how you want something to go like a building. They have a sketch on the blueprint,

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how it's going to come. So whatever's on that paper is supposed to come to reality.

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So with that being said, I don't care. Like I said, how big or small it is. Take some steps back

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if you have to to break your goals down into the smallest pieces before you jump into them big

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pieces because it has to take time for you to see these dreams come to reality. It's not going to

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happen overnight. And once you put a lot of umph in it, a lot of time, long hours, whatever it is,

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into whatever you got to do, that shows how dedicated and hard you are. And that's the thing too,

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like I said, when it comes to pop out, you ain't got to let everybody know what the fuck going on.

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That's another thing. Once you let them know a snippet, they're like, oh, I'm on your ass now.

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I know what you're doing. So this year, like I said, the theme is selfish, taking control and

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pop out because it is important to stay positive and focus on your goals as this will help to keep

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you motivated in on track. Because like I said, like I tell y'all, you have to be

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your biggest goddamn cheerleader because if nobody is, long as you know you are, and the person you

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believe in the end, whoever you believe in, for me is my immediate family, my immediate household,

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and my closest friends, anybody other than that, I don't know what to tell you. I don't know what to

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tell you because when it comes to this new you, this new year, new you, it's not easy.

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It's not easy. It's like when it comes to the new year, new you, it's a lot. It's a lot because you

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can't change overnight. You can't. And some things that you have to weigh out the pros and cons about

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yourself such as like, what I got to do better, why I need to take away, what I got to stop doing,

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you know, and that's where constructive criticism comes in also. And sometimes we hate it, but it's

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like it's the truth. And then you can see who can take it and who can dish it, you know. So,

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like it's important to stay positive and focus on your goals as this will help to keep you motivated

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and on track. It also helps to break down your goals into small tasks that are easier to achieve

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such as like if you're trying to lose, like trying to lose weight and your goal is to lose such as

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five pounds a month, you know, you're going to do everything in your power to lose them pounds.

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If you have to double the scale every other week, two times a week or whatever to see how it is,

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do it. And if you get to that level every month, reward yourself, baby. Like reward yourself with

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something small like a new pair of sneakers. See, that's something I would do. That's something I

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would do. I would reward myself with a pair of sneakers, okay, or a nice little jacket. Okay. Or

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like just take the day off or like have a cheat day, you know what I'm saying? Because speaking about

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like taking risk and doing things really small, every 15th of the month, that's when I spoil myself

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because my birthday is July 15. So like before my birthday, like starting like January 15th,

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or baby, I might be getting me a little something. It don't have to be big. It's only something little

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like if I'm like, let's say January 15th, I might buy me a cheesecake, cheese or a cheesecake

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factor. That's like $10.60. That's plus tax, everything. You know, a little cheesecake or

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probably a little dinner, probably some headbands of beanie. Like, you know, just something to show

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my appreciation for myself. You don't, you know, like you have to appreciate yourself. Like we have

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to give ourselves flowers too. I thought about that too. I thought about giving myself flowers

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because I'm not big on them. Like I see them all the time on social media. My friends be like,

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Oh my God, he bought me flowers. You know, and I just be so in awe when they tell me that or when

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I see other people like, Oh, that's so sweet. And I'd be like, I want somebody to give me some flowers.

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But I'd be like, Hmm, even you're gonna give yourself some flowers. When are you going to give

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yourself some flowers? When are you going to applaud yourself? That's another thing too. Like I said,

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y'all, with them three themes being selfish, taking control and popping out, you also have to think

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about you. You have to give yourself some credit, not credit, you need to give yourself credit

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period. And I haven't really gave myself a lot of credit. I haven't. And I just thought about like,

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I literally just thought about that when I said, when are you going to appreciate yourself? When

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you're going to applaud yourself? We're going to appreciate yourself by like flowers here and there.

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That might be one thing I got to start now. Y'all. So I hope y'all are like really, really,

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I hope this episode is really, really, really, really digging into y'all. Because like it really

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is digging into me. Like it has my mind like, phew, like I'm just so, so big on my people. Like

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shout out to my black community, Kings and Queens, because I see y'all. If nobody gonna see y'all,

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I'm most definitely gonna see y'all. If nobody gonna give you your flowers, I am. Because I'm the type

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of person I am. I'm not the type to not give another person the other their flowers, the

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parades, the confetti and all that. I'm the type to give it to you. Because I know how it feels to

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not get anything at times from people that you think are there for you. But you never know how

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that would make a person feel just a little compliment, no matter how big or small it is.

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No matter how big it is, big or small it is, give somebody some credit. Give them that type of

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feeling that they feel appreciated. Even if you don't even know them, even if they're strange or

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not, like even if it's a small compliment, like I like your hair, you look so pretty, you smell

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good, something like that. Like this year, like I feel like that's the one thing that we need to

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work on. That we just need to appreciate ourselves and others. Because this world, like I said,

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we're at the future, this evil world we live in, like it's just crazy. Like we just entered the new

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year and violence is already happening more within our black community. Like it's just crazy. And if

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you guys don't know, I'm from Baltimore City. Like it's just crazy. Like, I would think you were

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coming to the new year and violence would just like simmer down below. Because in order for it

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to simmer down, we have to think of ways to control ourselves. And I feel as though, like I said

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last year, counseling therapy, go, go do it. Go get it. Don't be as shiny like me. Like

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when I took, when I had my first session in October, I felt amazing. And I'm not ready

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like y'all. Y'all know I don't lie to y'all about stuff. When I had my first session, I busped down

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in tears because I was able to express myself to someone that don't know me from a can of paint

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and is, you know, went to school for this profession. And like they are willing to help me.

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And I went to school to be a counselor. And it's also helping me too for when I speak social

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worker, just sitting down talking to someone that don't know you. I feel as though we'll help you

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in the long run, because they're not going to judge you. And that's the first thing you have to do

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first thing you have in a session. They say who they are. And they say from the jump,

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this is your safe place. Wherever you are not discussed is confidential and it stays between

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us. But if it's harmful, yes, has reported to the police, ASAP. You know, even if it's about

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self harm, stuff like that, it has to be reported. But nevertheless, just being able to sit with

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someone that is in that profession, that had went to school and did all the hours and things like

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that to be in that profession to help people and their people at that. That's a big, big,

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big thing to me. Because when it comes to us, black people, we all know the sand grown up.

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Black people don't even know therapy. Shit. Hold on. I think we all do. And I think that'll be one

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of the things to help us even more. To close some some chapters in our lives to get some skeletons

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out the closet, because in order for you to feel and to get to a place to get a fresh start, you

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need to let everything that has been hurting you or haunting you or anything in your life,

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let it flow, let it go and let it flow. Word to Tony Braxford. Okay. No matter how big or small

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it is, even if it's what a friendship's family members, immediate family members, ex lovers,

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coworkers, whatever it is, if it has put a burden on you to the point where at times, like you just

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at times you just feel a certain type of way and is affecting you as a person on how you control

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and handle things, baby, go see somebody. Don't be ashamed. And at times you don't have to tell

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people, but I tell people because, like I say, I'll be working in a profession with people that

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has probably gone through twice as biggest things that I've never gone through. And it's my job.

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It'd be my job, my duty to help them, to help them the best way I know how to

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so they can live a new normal life. I was like, I mentioned last year, there's no such thing as

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going back to normal. When you're dealing through things, you have to adapt to a new normal.

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So regardless of if you felt so happy inside, sometimes your new normal be extra happy,

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stress free, you know, so don't be afraid to go see somebody. It's not going to make you less of a

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person. It's just going to, it's going to help you better because when you're talking to someone,

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like I said, that's specialized within this field. It's going to help you 10 times better because

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I'm telling y'all since October 2023 and going to counseling, it has helped me. Like I see

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what can I take, what I can't take no more. I'm learning myself each and every day. And that's

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why when I'm on my platform with you guys and just talking to you guys, it makes me feel so amazing.

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And I'm so full of joy. And I'm so uplifted because like I said, if my podcast don't help a lot of

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people, long as it helps somebody because you never know what somebody is going through, especially

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within this journey of the new year, new new, it's not easy. It's not easy to start over.

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Sometimes you have to, you know, you got to take steps back. You got to create steps. You

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got to write it down, have pictures or whatever, like vision boards or bullet points or whatever,

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take notes on what you want to do. So with that being said, even if it's like, I'm a stranger

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to mostly y'all and some of y'all I'm not and I'm already lots of y'all my doctor.

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I didn't know her from a can of pain. She didn't know me until a few sessions we had up until

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December. She has made my life so amazing and she don't even know. And she doesn't even know.

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And I tell her every day I thank you so much when she don't know how much she changed it.

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Like she just changes so much. And it helped me to be able to navigate on this new year, new

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meet. That's why I said the theme is selfish, taking control and pop out. Because at times, you have

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to be your biggest cheerleader within everything. And when it comes to taking control, you have to

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take control of what is yours, what belongs to you, especially when it comes to your mental

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identity, your respect. Take control of that. Because within this new year, this new you,

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you got to embrace the change and strive to be the best, the best you that you can be.

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You have to strive to be the best version of yourself. Consistency is key when making a

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lifestyle change. Celebrate your success and stay motivated. Even when things get tough,

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believe in yourself and you can achieve anything. Like it was so crazy when New Year's hits,

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January 1st, 2024. I have a mirror. You know the Dollar Tree mirrors you have. Like we go to the

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beauty salon or like when you go to the barbershop or whatever and they have them little, the handheld

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mirrors. My handle broke off. So I would put it on my dresser on top of my bin that has like my

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feminine products in there. And I would use it when I fix my hair. And I did have words on there,

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but it faded away. So then I was like, hold up. I look at this mirror every day. And you know,

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if you've ever seen the commercials where the little boy was like, and his father was telling him,

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you're going to do great things today. And if you've ever watched the help, you know, you was kind,

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you was smart, you was important. I thought of those two and I was like, you know what,

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if you start off every day by saying something positive about yourself, that'll help you boost

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your day as well. And like I said, consistency is key in being consistent with it as well.

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So to make a little story short, I got my marker and I started hashtagging things on my mirror.

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I was like, hashtag, you're amazing. Hashtag, you're beautiful. Hashtag, you're smart. Hashtag,

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you're the one hashtag today is going to be a great day. Hashtag, you're going to take control

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of things like I was just writing things like that words of encouragement, because that's another

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thing too. When it comes to the new year, new you, you have to encourage yourself. You have to put

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yourself in a mindset where so you are able to feel powerful. You're able to say nice things

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about yourself. If no one else is going to tell you what that means. Like celebrate you no matter

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how big or small the accomplishment is. I don't care if you just got an A on the paper. If you

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just lost five pounds, celebrate you because you did it. Even if nobody knows about it, still

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celebrate it. Because like I said, you never know. And tomorrow is not promised. So you got to take

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the leap, my faith. You got to do things that you never thought you could do it. Now you're

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going to do it. You got to do things that is worth living for for you. Take that risk and do for you.

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Do what you got to do. And I want to leave y'all with this. 2024 is your season when it comes to

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better life, inner peace, financial freedom, and you will prosper as well as the big plan.

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You're stepping into a new season of your life. You're worthy. You can do anything

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that you want. Because you got this. And my favorite quote, a little long favorite song

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from the person in the fraud. And I'm almost there. And I'm almost there. And another quote I love

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from a song, my favorite artist, Wale, he says, that's my theme song for this year.

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Ambitious girl, your drive drives me crazy. Everything you do within the hustler in the

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business, how to lose ambition. If you don't know, y'all need to play it. Y'all need to get into it.

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Just songs that will help you motivate you as well. To help you to the new year, new you.

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Just find things that are going to help you to open your mindset. Make you feel

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important, but also help you physically and mentally. Like if you got to change your role,

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if you want to change up your wardrobe, do it. You want to change your head, do it. Baby, I did it.

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I'm born with a little bit of brown. Y'all got so many cuffs in here. I don't even know. But if you

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want a new look, do it. Whatever you want to do, do it. The new, this is a new year, new you.

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Do for you. Find your new norm. Because there's nobody wants I amma tell you. Tomorrow's not promise.

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Live for you. Be your biggest goddamn cheerleader. And always remember, whoever you believe in,

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it's not going to put anything in your life that they know you cannot handle. Yeah, you may think

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you can't handle that storm. But baby, after that storm, it's always a beautiful rainbow at the end.

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And especially when it comes to that tunnel is always a light at the end.

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And I'm going to leave you off with this one. No matter how small the change are,

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stay consistent and focus on your goals. Believe in yourself and stay consistent.

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Anything is possible. Take it into your hands. And with that being said, I wish you guys nothing

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but peace and blessings. I hope this year brings you nothing but amazing things in life.

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And if like I said, if I don't help a group of y'all, long as I help somebody. And as always,

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please stay safe out here. It's a new year. It's still cold outside, so please bundle up.

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Also, please, please, please pay attention to your surroundings. Even though the new year just

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kicked in and people, you know, still a little crazy, still a little holiday time, people still

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getting sales and X, Y and Z. As always, you guys will hear from me next Wednesday. I love you all

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so very much. And if you want to get in touch with me through my Instagram is vibing with that.

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E. Until next week y'all. Bye.