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Okay, so in honor of the holiday season,
such as Hanukkah, Kwanzaa Christmas and other holidays that you guys may celebrate.
Today's vibe is all about traditions.
Yes, the reason why today's vibe is all about traditions,
because like I said, it's holiday time and this is where things get a little,
I'm going to say a little, it gets exciting to me.
It's really, really exciting.
Learning new traditions, creating new traditions and sticking to traditions
that has been passed down from generation to generation to generation.
It excites me, especially within the black community.
Traditions are one of the many things that is important to us because it sticks to us.
It's something that we created or has been created,
like I said, from our generations down, down and down.
So, like I mentioned, by being holiday time,
this is where traditions are pulled out the most.
And I love seeing it on social medias from the pajamas,
which I eat for dinner, how y'all hook your trees up,
how y'all celebrate Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and whatever other holidays
that you guys may celebrate in the black community.
All here for it and I love the holiday time because like I said,
that's where you see all the creativities,
all the amazing traditions from dishes, culture, fashion, music, whatever it is.
I'm such a fan of it.
Such, I'm so like, I'll be so into it, it's just be like,
that's the most beautiful thing ever because traditions are the many things
that overall to me, it helps bring family together.
Family and close friends together.
Traditions are very important because it's the passing on of beliefs,
customs and stories from one generation to the next.
So like, storytelling is like traditions, like you telling me this,
you telling me that and this I'm learning this, I'm learning that.
There's a tradition, we tell a story every year or things like that.
And whatever's custom, like we customize this, like in my household,
we do Secret Santa and when we do Secret Santa, it's Christmas Eve night.
It's a tradition that we all wear the same pajamas.
Sometimes we, in a tradition, sometimes that like every Christmas,
we try to do different things with dishes.
We try to be a little bit more different with decorations.
We try to do, there's a lot of things that impacts with like,
Kali's harm, especially for Christmas for me,
because that's when I celebrate Christmas.
And whoever celebrates Hanukkah and Kwanzaa,
I really don't know much about it, but I love the ideas of it.
I love what it's about.
And I would love to probably one day, you know,
maybe dig a little deeper and see what it's about.
So let's get into it, even though I got into it,
but we're going to get really into it.
I already told y'all what, what are traditions.
So why are traditions important?
Traditions are important because they help to preserve a group history,
they create a sense of belonging.
They also provide a sense of stability in a changing environment.
Traditions can be a source of joy and celebration.
Now that right there, that last sentence,
traditions can be a source of joy and celebration.
Yes, traditions is something that you look forward to,
especially by it being holiday time.
In honor of holiday time, I took it upon myself to talk about traditions
because, like I said, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa,
and whatever holiday that you celebrate,
those are where the traditions come out at.
Those are the times where you're able to enjoy yourself.
Those are the times where you're at ease, you're at peace,
even if you are going through the worst times of your life.
The traditions that you have with your family and friends,
close friends, when you're around them and y'all know what time it is,
like, hey, you know what's time, you know what's time to do this, do that.
Those will be the times where whatever's going on in your life,
it sweeps it under the rug and it turns everything into a new light.
It turns everything into a negative to a positive.
Like, whatever you was going through,
it's going to easily go under the rug.
And that's what I love about traditions
because when you make traditions with your friends,
your close friends and your family,
regardless of what's going on, those traditions,
spending time with the ones you love,
it makes things go away like a snap, like a blink of an eye,
blink of an eye, snap of a finger, like,
it is just so crazy how a vibe didn't just switch out like that
because of the traditions that you guys have,
it brings the joy out of you.
It brings you joy.
It helps you be comfortable.
It helps you even experience
some more things you never thought you could experience
when it comes to traditions.
Like I said, like, within my household, we do like orange...
Christmas Eve, we do secrets and eat cool stuff,
you know, not cool stuff, but like,
we try to do different cultural stuff
and we try to do like, you know, the cookies, that's a tradition.
You have to do cookies, you have to do Christmas cookies.
We started the tradition with the Secret Santa
and every year the limit is different.
This year's limit is $10, y'all, and I'm not gonna lie to y'all.
It was impossible for me to get a gift for $10, y'all.
I really had to get really creative
and that was the thing too, like I said, when it comes to traditions,
you can stick to it, the tradition,
but sometimes things tweak,
like with the Secret Santa, y'all, last year I think it was $20.
This year was $10, because sometimes we go up, down,
or we stay the same, but this year we went $10 down.
So, y'all, I'm like, what can I do?
And I try, if I go over my limit,
I try to go at least $1 or $2 over the limit,
not $5, $10, because then that's like,
oh, you try to thank you better than everybody.
Now I want to do that, but I am very creative
when it comes to the gifts.
I've been told that I'm a good, y'all, I give good gifts,
so I'm like, okay, cool.
So, for my Secret Santa, I'm not gonna say who it is,
because my family most definitely listens to the podcast.
So, I'm just gonna say, I'm hopefully,
I hope, hopefully, my Secret Santa like their gift
because maybe I had to get real creative
and I got things that they would need,
well, I don't even say need, things that they like,
and also a need too, because like, hey, who doesn't need,
whatever, whatever, whatever, piece of clothing,
I'm gonna just say that, only a piece of clothing
in a little accessories.
So, yes, so when it comes to traditions,
y'all, the joy of a tradition is just out of this world.
Like I said, regardless of what you're going through
or what you might be going through,
sometimes the traditions, around how late time
are the best times to have that moment
or that situation on pause and spend it with the ones you love
because they are the ones that are gonna make sure
you're good regardless, even if they don't know what's going on,
they're gonna turn that negative to a positive real quick
along with the celebration.
I know like around how late time,
cause also forgot about Thanksgiving too, that just passed.
A lot of people I know too, like Thanksgiving,
you know, is usually traditional to be at somebody's house.
Now in the black community here and there,
we're also burning halls and having Thanksgiving at halls
because the family get is so big that, you know,
people having babies everywhere is like,
okay, I can't have y'all all at my little house,
so now I gotta, you know, put y'all in a hall
because it's a lot of us.
And those be the times too, like I said,
the celebrations be the most wonderful times.
Like it's the most wonderful time of the year, holiday time.
Yes, but being around your family and your close friends,
like I said, I'm always, I'm gonna keep saying close friends
and family because your close friends turn into family.
They call them kinships in the black family.
You know, you got, as I say, your play cousins
and your fake aunties and all that, no.
To me, I'm like, if we know each other for so many plus years,
I don't know what a friend is, like,
you my cousin, but we not related by blood, but we not blood.
But at times, y'all still gotta remember too,
sometimes blood ain't thicker than water.
Sometimes water, they say is thicker than blood.
Yeah, sometimes we have those moments, you know?
And that, and sometimes they become a part of the tradition.
Sometimes they become part of the tradition and it's like, wow.
You got a friend, though, you're not a family friend no more.
You're a family and you know what's going,
you know what gets on, you know what's going on,
you know what's going on, you know what's going on,
you know what's going on, you know what's going on.
You know, like, I'm just like,
it's my thoughts are running so fast because like,
when I was thinking, when I was writing down this vibe
and the notes that I was like, bro,
and hearing from my friends and their traditions,
I'm like, whoa, like, there is some,
the black community, bro, when it comes to our community,
we are very creative, especially when it comes to traditions
because when it comes to celebrations,
this impacting joy for traditions,
we know how to make some stuff shake.
We know how to make some of the craziest-ass ideas
be so impressive, like, the pajama thing,
we all get creative with pajama, like, how to onesies,
or some people even customize their pajamas.
I'm like, what the hell?
But it's creative and they do it as a tradition.
And every little thing that the black community does
that we do in the black community, I love it.
I love it, the traditions.
Even 90 years for the holiday time,
say, like, for birthdays, anniversaries,
or a graduation, you know,
it would be a tradition that if you graduate from college,
you know, like, I'll give you a party and stuff like that.
That right there, that stuff excites me
because y'all go out and beyond, like, homes,
like, it's a tradition, like, you know,
they say the tradition, you have to go with the date.
I didn't have a date my junior prom,
and I didn't have senior prom due to COVID.
But the traditions that happens over and over and over,
they live on, like, I love it.
And like I said, I, like, I love it,
especially holiday time because that's where
all the creativity comes out, especially for the black community.
Shout out to my black community, as always.
I love y'all amazing ideas, and I love it.
Like, I love it, love it, love it, love it.
So let's get down to the nitty-gritty of how do traditions
bring people together?
Because, you know, it takes a lot to get a lot of people
to come together, especially the black community.
It takes a lot out of me for me to go to certain places
and to be around certain people,
depending on what the event is and how long the event is.
And, you know, sometimes us black people,
we ask a thousand questions.
I'm that type of person.
Because I need to know every detail,
so I, you know, come correct and not wrong.
Even when it comes to dress code, good y'all,
that's another thing.
When it comes to traditions, like birthday parties,
I feel like sometimes people do the tradition with,
you have to have a dress code.
And I, trust me, y'all, I don't have no problem with it,
because I love fashion.
I'm getting really deep into, like, the creative minds
and things like that of, like, thrift shopping
and, you know, oversized cargo, things like that, fashion.
So I'm like, okay, the only thing that makes me upset
is that if I feel like I overdid it,
because, like, okay, this is a party, you know,
every year they had an AAU party for this or that,
or family reunion, stuff like that,
I don't want to be over the top, because I'll be like,
oh, shit, you know, so.
So how do traditions bring people together?
Well, let me just say this,
traditions bring people together
by allowing them to share values and experience.
They are also of creating a sense of unity
and understanding in a group,
and they provide a sense of connection
to something larger than one.
So traditions can also help to create
a sense of community and belonging.
So without being sad like, how do traditions
bring people together?
You can create a tradition one time
or go to something and you will like an event
and something like that, and you make it, you know,
it helps you bring people together.
Like, I'll say like, the breast cancer walk
I did with my mom and her friends and my little sister.
That made me want to do a breast cancer walk every year
or be involved with breast cancer.
So that's a tradition to me, like, every year
when October comes, it's a tradition to me
that I have must participate in something involving
breast cancer to support it in where my pink,
because that's a tradition that I made for myself,
and it also helped me get closer.
Well, not even close.
Well, yeah, I say close, it's been more time
on my sister and my mom.
That made people come together and like, with those annual events,
annual events, I've seen a lot of black women
participate in that event and it was very, very, very amazing
because, you know, these are annual events
that people make as traditions, like, every year
it's a must that they must participate
in a black cancer walk to honor the people they know
that have breast cancer or to honor themselves.
So that's a big one to me, like, for me,
I must participate in something that involves breast cancer.
And I must wear pink at least a couple of times
about a month because in honor of breast cancer.
Along with bringing people together, you know,
another thing I say is like my house is a tradition in my house
that every Sunday or whatever they brave and play,
people must come to the basement.
The basement is like Sundays at my house is a tradition.
Every football season, you must come here to watch the game.
It's been a tradition like that since I was little.
Like, at first things, the basement has been created.
Before the basement even had got an upgrade,
it would be a lot of people deep in like a semi...
Now I'm gonna say not so small, but like semi-large, medium,
small, medium-large.
It's so hard to explain your room,
but it's a tradition that every Sunday
that the game is a must to be over here.
Like, we're not going over nobody else's house,
everybody else's house, watch the game,
everybody must watch the game here.
And that's been a tradition since I was younger.
And that tradition had been living on for years
because as you get older, you grow and the people that come grow.
So, yes, that's one of the fameders as well
because like you bring people together,
like you know, you have your crew,
and then some of the people from their crew starts to, you know,
get accepted into the crew, as they say in the basement,
like gets, you know, sworn in, and then, you know, it's like, wow.
Okay, that brings people together.
I feel like good food, good music, a good game,
whatever good is going to bring us, brought people together.
Don't put us in a room where there's something that doesn't make...
It don't look good.
If it is, don't look good, don't sound good, I don't want to go.
And that's what I feel like that would bring,
that's what brings people together.
Having a vibe that you can maintain,
let alone whoever is hosting it, and you know who's there,
make sure the vibe is good because that makes you want to be there.
That makes you want to be like, okay, this is a tradition
that I could do like every Sunday, I'll go here,
or every Saturday, or every Friday, whatever day y'all make it to,
or y'all hang out, see each other, whatever.
Like, you know, I'm trying to make my own tradition of myself,
like at least once or twice out of the month,
I got to treat myself, you know?
Even though it's holiday time, y'all, I know, I know, I know, I know.
Sometimes we need a break.
We need to, like I say, have that mirror of conversation.
And if you're new to this, I say this all the time,
sometimes you need to make time for you.
You are your number one priority.
Even if you do have a family or someone else to raise
or taking in on something very big,
you must have time for yourself because,
at the end of the day, your mental matters,
and I'm also big on the mental.
The mental is one of the many important things
because your mind is juggling every second,
every hour, every minute of the day.
It don't stop, unless something happens.
But that mind is going to race, race, race, race, race,
and you also have to take the initiative to do for you.
So, you know, even though I said this is going to be a packing
on the holiday time, let's take a moment to focus on
making traditions for ourselves.
Because there's like, every other, I know a lot of people say,
every Sunday is their tradition where it's their self-care routine.
It's a self-care routine. It's a self-care day.
They don't answer no phones, they don't touch no laptop,
they don't touch no work, they don't do nothing.
If they do, it's something involving they want to do.
If they want to relax in the house, they're going to do that.
If they want to go out for a drink or have brunch,
they're going to do that.
They are not doing anything that doesn't help them mentally and physically.
So, such as, like for me, every 15th, I try to treat myself.
I made that a tradition to myself.
Try to treat myself to something.
It could be so small, like a good 10 or 20 dollars.
I ain't going to say 10 dollars because I don't think food is 20 or 20 dollars.
Like that no more. If it is, it's probably going to sell or discount or stuff.
I probably got a... I probably got a whistling for a bit.
Most of the times, I try to give myself like over 30-40 dollar meal.
Dependent on where it is and where I'm at if I got paid.
Like, I try to give myself...
I try to treat myself. I try to reward myself.
And, you know, sometimes you got to honor yourself.
You need to make it that a tradition, like have days or have some day out of the month
or like every couple of months and you know,
treat yourself due for you because you are important.
Your mental is important as well as your physical.
But that mental maybe that's very, very, very, very important.
So, I want you guys to take a minute and be like,
in this state of ideas that you can do to help you,
especially when it comes to you, self-care day, meditation,
taking yourself out every once in a blue moon, having a self-care day
or staying in, relaxing, having a sleep in day.
Like, you know, whatever you want to do,
make that a tradition or routine for yourself so you can feel comfortable
and you will be better. I'm telling y'all, it's going to work.
Now, me, I've been slacking on my tradition I made for myself
within the beginning of the year because I've been working
and the semester was getting to me.
Now, the semester is over and I'm working.
Like, I got a whole bunch of kids to feed.
But on the meantime, in between time,
yes, I'm going to find something for me to help me
so I don't break the tradition. Okay?
So, let's go back to how do traditions run people together.
With just allowing people to come together and share values and experiences,
like, coming together, like I said, as a family and close friends,
those are the many things that help people come together.
Like I said, for me at my house, every Sunday is a tradition
where we have the game, the gameplay.
Like, everybody watch the game here.
Okay? It's a month. We watch the game here.
We provide food, drinks, whatever.
You must, it's a must here every Sunday.
I haven't seen a Sunday yet that we haven't watched the game here.
I don't watch the game like that because I'd be at work,
but you know, money must be made.
But I do be here after the game, you know, it's a tradition
that, you know, every Sunday is at my house.
So, you know, that's what my dad likes to do.
So, like, we have traditions like, you know, things like that.
Like, that can bring people together.
Or you go to this person's house, every Christmas,
every holiday, every quads, everything's given.
Or every, whatever, how they, friendsgiving.
Well, did you guys got one for Christmas?
Like, friendsmas?
Like, I don't know.
I haven't had a friendsgiving and I have not had a friendsmas.
That's what I'm saying, right?
Friendsmas, because, you know, Christmas, friendsma.
I haven't had a friends, let me just say friends Christmas.
And when I do have friends Christmas, it'd be my best friend.
Like, a group of friends, not so much.
This year, I'm going to try that with my friends.
Hopefully it'll go good.
If it do go good, we can make that our tradition, you know,
because that's just helping us bring each other together.
Because we also decided on a new Secret Santa,
and I mean, it was $30.
So, I had a little league with that Secret Santa,
like, I had, you know, I could be creative,
but we also told each other, you know,
send a list of five things that y'all like,
so we can get a hint, like, so we could probably buy all five,
probably four, three, two, one,
because, like, at least one of the options
that we all gave was expensive.
Like, I've seen about polo, tees, um...
Uh, being, some being you know,
depending on if you want to design it, you know,
like, I've seen a whole bunch of ideas, y'all,
that we was giving off each other, like, dang.
But, like I said, like, that was one of the traditions
that we made for ourselves was to do Secret Santa.
And if it goes right this first year around,
every year, we'll do it, and then, hey,
that helped us bring each other more closer.
We shared a value with each other, like, okay,
me and my friend Nia, if y'all don't know,
Nia, y'all need to listen to Bob,
but I would not end beyond.
Just shut up, shut up tonight,
because that was her idea to do Secret Santa.
And I was just kind of like, okay, I'm with it,
but within our friend group, it's a lot of dudes.
So we're like, okay, we got to get a girl with me to mount,
you know, not too high, not too low, so 30 was our limit.
And then, you know, we're gonna meet up with each other,
you know, have some nice food, some drinks,
give each other gifts, and have a nice time,
because like, we're finally, the semester's finally over.
Okay, shout out to Morgan State University
for making sure that I was good,
making sure the rest of the fellow bears was good,
because whoo, this was a semester.
And I thank God I persevered through this,
and my close friends also that are fellow bears,
because baby, it was something.
So it's time to act the fool, act the clown.
But, yeah, so we came up with that idea,
and that value to the idea was like, okay,
we can make this a tradition,
because it's already a national tradition that people have,
so let's make it our own with our friend group.
And it allowed us to share how we feel we wanna do,
and we understand our creativity,
because we also say like, be creative, you know,
if you gotta make it, draw it, whatever, do it.
Me, as long as though it's, as long as it's creative,
you know, like traditions are really, can help you
create a sense of creativity.
Like, I love that with a tradition,
because you can create anything, like friends giving,
and friends Christmas, that's a tradition that's now,
people are holding up to, especially in the black community,
that I have not experienced yet.
Hopefully, for my fingers that I will, next year,
the year after that year after that with my friends,
because, like, I look at it every day,
like, we're almost out of college,
some with their first, some with their second degree,
like, we're almost done, like,
ah, and we're gonna start making our own traditions
or following the traditions that our family had,
or that our partner's family had,
they combined, you know, I look forward to it,
I'm a little scared, because I'm not playing
when it comes to my traditions, okay?
But, y'all know what I'm saying,
and if you're new here, buckle up and get ready for this.
Every topic that I talk about,
I always weigh out the good and the bad.
And yes, when it comes to traditions,
there are pros and there are cons,
so let's get into it.
Traditions are a great way to create a feeling
of sharing identity and purpose,
as they provide a sense of continuing
instability in a society, okay?
That's good, and Danny, it's, you know,
okay, it's getting what's supposed to get.
However, they can diverse as different groups
can disagree on the importance or meaning of certain traditions.
Traditions can also be, like,
resent as they can create a sense of...
Ugh, cool, y'all, like, it can create a sense of, like,
a upborn, because sometimes, let me say this,
like I said, we talk about the good,
now talk about the bad, sometimes, tradition.
Sometimes you can live up to a tradition
and then sometimes as you get older,
you know, like I said, when, like, me and Mahalika,
my friends, we're getting older
and we're doing traditions now with ourselves.
Imagine when we have our own family,
the traditions may break because of the lifestyle
that we're doing, the lifestyle that we're creating.
We created for ourselves, the lifestyle
that we work so hard and cause for.
So I said, it's like, I have friends
that want to be engineers.
I have friends that want to be teachers.
I have friends that wants to be,
I, you know, work with computers, I have a teacher.
I have, I teach, I have friends that are in the same major
as me in social work.
I have nursing majors.
I have lawyers, like, it's a lot.
And, you know, I want y'all to think,
like, I've said a lot of careers,
and that's a lot of time,
and a lot of money that we really make here.
So at times we might not even have time
to all link together because of our lifestyle.
And hopefully, them traditions will not break.
However, like within the family,
sometimes when you get older,
those traditions, you have breaks.
Like, y'all, I lied to you,
and it's so crazy that I did that, you know,
today's opportunity is traditions
because if y'all don't know Soulful,
that's one of the biggest, I feel like,
one of the biggest movies that everybody
in the black community should know about,
because they had a tradition every Sunday
that they had family dinner.
Like, they had Sunday dinner at Big Mama's house.
When Big Mama passed, the traditions started to fade
because people had things going on.
They had to take, I forgot his name,
the little boy to lie.
But he lied, but his lie was true at the same time.
If y'all didn't watch it, y'all need to watch it,
but I'm gonna give y'all a summary.
So basically, you know, every Sunday,
Big Mama had Sunday dinner.
It was traditional.
It was traditional, and they had,
however she was getting sick.
So, like, the tradition was somewhat fading away,
and by that somewhat fading away,
that made more conflict within the family.
Like, everybody going at this one,
everybody going at that, and everybody doing things
like out of the woodworks, you know?
So, as she got sick, you know, Big Mama was telling him,
like, you gotta keep the family together.
You gotta keep the family together.
And that's what I think also is a big impact
with traditions is that within the Black family,
having that grandmother, the grandmother,
the great grandmother, keeping the family together
was one that I feel like is a tradition, period.
Like, they had to hear Hancho, a big show,
everything that's put together,
because they're the ones that create the traditions,
because they're the ones passing it down from...
They gotta pass down from their family,
and it's coming down to their families,
and family, family, and family.
So, overall, like, you know, when she passed,
the little boy, y'all, I forgot his name,
I literally was just watching that movie, like,
three or two hours ago,
before my favorite movie, Meet the Browns, came on, okay?
So, you know, it was a tradition for them
to eat Sunday dinner, and Big Mama's out.
Big Mama passed, they was acting the fool,
little boy had to step in, he had to lie,
say that Big Mama had money here, which she did.
They had an uncle, uncle Pete,
he never came out of the house,
he never came out of his room or nothing.
But that one day, you know, at the Big Mama passed,
they had dinner, they somewhat was getting along,
but that's when all the dirty laundry
was coming out of the table as well.
The long story short, a fire broke out,
because the little boy had a towel over the pot,
you know, fire and everything, and they had the blue towel,
da-da-da-da, and then, you know, like I said,
uncle Pete, but if ever he don't come out of nothing.
So, he saw this fire and everything,
his TV, he always had a TV, he brought a TV downstairs,
and it fell on the floor, and money fell out.
So, the little boy had, in order for him to get the tradition back together,
he had to lie and say, Big Mama had money stashed up,
which she did, but nobody knew about.
So, it was like, he made a lie,
but his lie was really not a lie, because like,
Big Mama had it, but Big Mama ain't down to buy it, you know?
So, with that being said, like, you're like,
you could see how a really good tradition,
like, if y'all didn't watch the movie,
y'all just got a picture, like,
how can a good-ass tradition like that
get fucked up from people, you know, not sticking to it,
or not having that person, the head, which was Big Mama,
to continue?
And that was all, and I said,
I wish I had that in my life, because I think I were made
my family more closer,
especially like, even on your mom or your dad's side.
Either side, I felt like I probably would say my dad's,
because like, it's more than, you know, excuse me, like,
my parents, they experienced that, you know, Big Mama,
or your great-grandma mama, whatever you prefer.
They kept everybody in check, they kept everybody in line,
like, they ain't played that shit.
So, you try to mess up a tradition,
or you try to get out of line, stop a line there on your ass,
like, or ass.
Today, with all the traditions, it's like,
yes, some of them are passed down, like, the pro is,
some of us are still sticking to them, we're still going strong,
and then it's like, on the other side, some of us sticking to them,
and then we're slacking, like, it's like, we have ass in it.
And it's like, okay, we doing it, but we not doing it,
what we used to like, you know, it's like saying,
like, this is traditional, you fucking out tradition.
I'm not a type of person.
I don't like that, because like, if it's a tradition,
like, if something's stuck, it's going to be passed down
to generation to generation to generation.
Because if you have kids, I know I'm going to have some kids
in the future, I want to keep them traditions alive,
because those traditions help me.
The same thing with my future partner.
If they have traditions, you know, to help them kept them alive,
okay, we're going to do them traditions.
And then, like I said, we might even have to mix our traditions
together, longest the traditions are there.
That's what matters to me, like, keeping a process going
and keeping things going and making sure you keep things
from how you grew up, even though if you add a little twist,
a little spice, a little sauce on it, cool,
but long as you're keeping the tradition in the family.
Because I just like, I feel like, like I said,
so if it was a prime example of traditions
and how it could be so big to slightly go left,
and it has to take something to get people back together.
And I don't want that to happen, but you know,
you can't control what God does or whatever you believe in,
because it was best.
But so far, fingers crossed, not going good.
Things hasn't gone good when it comes to my immediate family
with our tradition.
And even though we have our maokunao,
we're adding him in traditions and making it even more creative.
You know, so I like that, so big pops on that one.
But yeah, y'all have not seen so full.
I mean, y'all are going to watch it.
If you have, and if you have watched it,
y'all know that's a good point.
Y'all know I made a good point because it was just so funny,
like how the world, like how things were going.
Like I literally was watching it,
like towards the end of the break,
the part like, ask the big mama die and everything.
Like I seen that part of how like he tried to get everybody together,
got everybody together to make sure that they don't miss Sunday dinner.
They did it, but it's like,
you shouldn't have to bribe nobody to come.
And sometimes that's the thing too, when it comes to tradition,
that's a con.
I should not have to be bribein' you to come
to something that you supposed to come to every year.
You know, don't do that.
Or we do every, you know, every day of that week.
Don't do that. Don't break the tradition.
Because if you don't have a legit reason, don't do that.
If you have a reason like, you know, you had a wrong day
or you don't have, you know, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, cool. But if you wanna go and you try and be sneaky,
let me know, don't do that.
So yeah, it's gonna come to traditions on
is pros and cons.
And I always wanna look on the positive side.
Don't like to come up because like it gets ugly.
And I feel like traditions are things that
you can do generations after generations.
Like there's something that must be kept in the family
and it must go on like Thanksgiving.
Like I said, you know,
you people always have things to give out.
You know, it goes down in the black community,
you gotta rent halls.
Because every five minutes, you know,
the family getting bigger and bigger
or somebody getting added in the family, you know?
And it was just so funny that one of my professors is like,
did she think it was a baby boomer?
Because everybody having babies at the right.
And I see it because every year,
every year I tell her,
oh, somebody in the family having a baby.
So I'm like, yeah, I think it's baby boomer scenes as well.
But I love it. I love babies, you know, the more the merrier.
And that also helps us with our tradition too,
you know, now the new generation can see it.
And I love when the new generation, you know,
the babies when they get to toddlers, you know, up there,
like when they see it and they get into it,
it's like, it's so, it's like, it makes it more fun.
I think when you create your own little family
and you do the traditions like you did when you was a kid
and stuff like that, it makes it more fun.
It makes the holiday time more interesting
and so full of joy,
especially when you, you know, you have your own little family
or you have like your own little nieces and nephews
and God children and stuff like that.
Like, they're all like, well, I'm being a mom.
I would like, oh my God, look at the all the family.
Like, when I was younger, it was a tradition
that I must take pictures with Santa.
It was a must.
And it kind of started slipping when my brother came
because he hated it, like he hated it.
So I was like, okay, cut that back.
My sister, she didn't want to take it at all.
So she was like, no, so yeah, that tradition was gone.
But for me, it was, it was a must.
It was a must.
And I feel like too, with my kids, I'm gonna do that.
When I have kids in the future, every year is a must
that we take pictures with Santa.
Like, we're gonna take it, they're gonna take their own,
but we're gonna take pictures too.
So like, when it comes to holiday time, y'all,
I love to think of the positive
and do the positive when it comes to tradition.
I don't want to slip and slack because I feel like
if you slacken on the traditions, it's just like,
it's gonna turn to a constant point
where you don't want to do it no more or like, it gets,
I don't want to say played out, but it's like,
people start to forget what it was
and then they, oh, they try to do it again
and it just fucks up.
You know, so I always say like, you know,
I keep traditions alive.
I don't want to break it because it's like,
that's what helped me.
Like I mentioned earlier, like sometimes I do be having
a rough time during the holiday season
because I don't have my grandparents.
So, oh, my aunt, they're just past God rest their soul,
you know, sometimes for traditions, like every,
some Christmas, I would go down there.
And I was younger, they spent Christmas,
my grandparents were Christmas with me,
but then when they passed, you know, things were different
then my siblings came along, you know,
sometimes it is hard when you lose people.
It is like, you have to still make the best out of it.
And also keep hope alive, keep their memories alive with them
because, you know, even though they're not here physically,
they're still here because you're keeping it alive.
So, I leave, before I leave y'all off,
I just want y'all to know to keep traditions alive,
especially when it comes to the Black community,
like when it comes to the Black community,
we have traditions, like our traditions of like
having a large family gathering to celebrate special
occasions, such as like birthdays, weddings,
and with the holiday time, we go all out.
When I did my research, some, it said funerals.
Now, yes, I would say yes because that's to celebrate
a homecoming, homegoing for a person.
But y'all, with that tradition as a Black person,
I can't do funerals, I can't, but, you know,
it's tradition in the Black community to celebrate
that person homegoing, how they were here when they were alive.
So, you have to go out.
I won't say would have banged, but take them, you know,
celebrate them the way that they were celebrated here.
So, before, so, I'm gonna say before we leave,
like, I'm about to let y'all go because I know y'all probably like,
okay, you got me excited.
But I'm gonna say, like, all right, okay, whatever.
But like I said, I, like, I, I have this platform to help somebody.
I just hope that my platform helps.
If it don't help a lot of people, it helps somebody.
If my platform don't help a lot of people,
I just hope my platform helps somebody.
And I'm gonna keep on, keep on, keep on, keep on,
keep on, keep on posting every Wednesday
because this is a tradition.
I've been like, you know, when you stick to something,
it gets traditional, it gets a routine.
Routines, I feel like, I feel like a traditional type thing.
It depends on what it is and what it is, but I'm gonna get into it.
But, um, yeah, as I said, I'm gonna keep posting
until somebody notice me.
And when I say somebody notice me, meaning like,
uh, what's about the famous to notice me?
You know, be like, they want me to interview them,
type stuff like that, putting it out there, manifestin' that.
Okay?
And with that being said, I want to leave y'all guys out
on this snow when it comes to traditions,
especially in the black community, don't break them.
If you feel like it's getting boring, tweak it up.
If you feel like people slacking,
get in their ass and tell them, get their shit together,
so they won't mess this up.
And I want y'all to, oh, I just want y'all to,
like, if you feel like something ain't right,
feel like the tradition's going left or something like that,
bring up some food.
And if they don't, and they don't know what it is, play it.
And after that, I'm telling y'all, they're gonna be crying,
they're gonna be like, they're gonna appreciate
the traditions that y'all have, okay?
Because when I watch it, I almost tear it up.
Now, like, you know what?
I'm sticking real hard to my traditions
because I'm getting older,
everybody getting older,
and we need to stick to what we know,
because soon we will be having our own little families
that we have to bring together as one.
So when they get older, having families
passing on, passing on, passing on, basically,
keep the traditions going, okay?
Keep the legacy alive, okay?
So with that being said, y'all, keep traditions alive,
keep the legacy alive.
If you feel like something's slipping,
take a soulful, play it, they don't know what it is,
but just keep traditions alive,
especially within the Black community,
because we are all that we had.
Close families, close family members,
and close friends are what we had.
That's all we got.
So make the best out of it.
Please enjoy this holiday time.
We're celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa.
I wish you guys nothing but a happy holiday.
I wish you guys nothing but peace and blessings
and also good wealth and good health.
And you guys will most definitely hear from me next week.
Always there.
And also, please be safe out here as well.
Bye!