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Hey y'all, whether it's morning evening or afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys have decided to

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vibe with me, the one and only E. Happy holidays to y'all because it is the finally holiday season

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even though we just, you know, got over Thanksgiving. It is Christmas time, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, whatever

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holiday you guys celebrate in New Year's is right around the corner. So cheers to us. Finally,

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almost at the finish line into another amazing year. I hope you guys have, you know,

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prospered in many ways that you wanted to this year. You learned from yourself, you learned

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what's good, what's bad, X, Y, Z. Okay. So without further ado, whether you guys are on a go or just

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at home, whatever you're doing, I'm just glad that you guys had decided to listen to me. And as

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always, if you're new here, welcome, welcome, welcome. And if you're not new to this, but you're

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to this, Hey, y'all, what's up? What's happening? And as always, every vibe of the day is something new.

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Okay. So let's get into it. In honor of us coming to the end of 2023, I want to touch based on

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respect. Yes, R E S P E C T respect. And the reason why I wanted to talk on respect is because

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I feel like that was one of the main vibes that we don't get at times. And sometimes we do get

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depending on who it is and where you getting it from, especially from me, like over the past couple

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days, I feel like sometimes when it comes to respect, especially for our holiday time, you want

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to be respectful as possible. But somebody is always going to try to play with you when it

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comes to your respect and nobody got time for that. I know I don't got time for that because I don't

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like to be ugly, especially when I'm such a respectful person. And if I'm giving you respect,

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I expected to be vice versa. You know, that's from all generations. Okay, I felt as though even

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from children, they start from at home, you have to teach your children respect, regardless, I don't

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care if they're the same age. I don't care respect thoughts at home. And respect is something very,

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very broad that we need to pinpoint especially around this time of the year because, like I say,

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it's Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, whatever holidays you guys celebrate, it gets rowdy.

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And you know, people will be, you know, on every road. So you don't want to feed into what they're

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doing because that's just going to dimmer down to who that's going to dim down. That's like you,

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they're going low and you going low with them. No, you don't want to do that. You want to be the

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bigger person. And that's where respect comes into play. Okay, so let's get into it. So what is respect?

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We always say, Oh, I want you to treat me respect or respect me as much as I respect you. But what

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is respect? Respect is a feeling of admiring, admiring, admiring for someone because of their

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quality or achievement. It is important to value that encouraging people to treat each other kindly

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and respectfully. Respect is an, is a necessity for creating and managing and maintaining positive

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relationships. So what that means is saying like respect is essential. Okay, regardless. I don't

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care if you don't like that person or not respect is respect. Please show people kindness and please

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say and do good because you never know who's watching and you never know who you might need

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in life. Even though at times it is hard for us to fake the funk, but it's like, come on out.

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Respect is something that you want and I'm going to give it to you because at the end of the day,

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I want respect just as much as you want it. So I always ask people like, why is this so important?

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People be like, why is so important? I'll be saying things too. Like, why is your respect so important

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versus mine? Well, let me tell you, why is respect important to have? Respect is important to have

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because it helps to foster trust and understanding between people. It encourages open communication

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and enables people to work together ethnically. Respect also helps to present conflict and

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allow people to work together to solve issues. Now, that's really big because baby, let me tell you

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something. I am a social work major. I've been having projects left to right since my semester

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started. I'm officially in the school of social work at that. I've been having projects left to

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right. And then there's been times where I felt like within some of my projects that I had, like

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the group of assignments that I had, I feel like my respect was not being taken, you know, the right

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way. I felt like people was playing on my top. That's how we say it, playing on my, you playing on

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my top. Like, stop playing with me because when it comes to respect, like I said, all generations,

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ages, all that good stuff, I don't, I give people respect because I want to in return. But if I feel

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like I'm being nice and the kind of something, how I'm being respectful of you and your time and your

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patience and you're not doing the same thing for me, that gets ugly, especially when it comes to

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communication and being able to work with people because, for example, you have to work with people

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for Godless. Whatever profession you work in, you have to work with people for Godless. I don't

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think there's a profession where you are working by yourself. Even when you, your own boss, you still

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have your own workers, clients, X, Y, and Z. You have to be respected for all times. Yes, at times,

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there'd be times where we want to get, vow to act and ask, but it's like, you got to think. If I act

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out a line and do this and that, people won't remember that. If people want to categorize me as a

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disrespectful person, which I'm not. Like I said, at times when it comes to why respect is important,

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is because it helps to foster trust and understanding between people. You know, you don't want to be

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disrespectful. At times you have to, but there's different ways on how to handle that. That's why

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it's important to have respect because within this generation, each and every day, I look,

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I just be like, between school, work in it, whatever I'm doing, I just feel like the younger

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generation don't have no respect. And I be like, you know what, it starts from at home. It starts

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from the parents, solving the parents, guardians, whoever, taking care of these kids. It starts from

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them because it should not be no way in the world. I'm outside. You down at the same age as my

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siblings, but you out here cussing like you ain't got no damn sense in front of these older people.

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I be damned. Like they don't even say miss, mister. Like they don't do that no more. They call the

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people by the, excuse me y'all, their first name. I'm like, what the hell is going on here? See,

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it's no such thing as respect. And that's why it's important to show respect in order to give it.

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And it's important to have respect so people will see that you're respectful and no off the

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dumb. Oh, he or she so respectful. X, Y and Z, you know, you don't want to be labeled as disrespectful.

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Because let me tell you something. You can be disrespectful. What is the way of still being

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respectful at the same time? Yes, sometimes y'all, you did a tone, gotta get out of line,

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but I'm going to check you in the right way before it gets real, real disrespectful. Okay. And the

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thing that people also be like, well, how do you show it? Baby, this is how you show respect.

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Showing respect can be done through actions such as being polite to somebody, listening to them,

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but also being open to different opinions. And with that being said, additionally, it is important

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to express like appreciation for others and to realization that they're accomplishments,

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like recognize their accomplishment. And finally, it is important to open and have honest conversations

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when it comes to communication with each other. So with that being said, like if I'm having a

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conversation with someone or you're having a conversation with someone, respect is showing

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your undivided attention. Look at them in the eye. I'm real big on body language. If your body

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language is not respectful as in shaking your, nodding your head, saying something and your face

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expressions is friendly, that's you showing respect. Now, if it's disrespectful, shaking your head

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and not giving me eye contact and you slouch in the chair or you just out of the while standing up,

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that goes to show disrespect. And that's the show, that's a sign that people is like, they're not

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engaged. Especially when it comes to even whatever you're doing involving action, if someone is not

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giving you the underbite of attention, that's not respect. I'm letting you know that now. Respect is

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one of the biggest things that we fail to realize today because at times we always got to be disrespectful,

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we feel like. And that's not the case. I feel like respect is something that we must give

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because even if you don't want to give that respect, that should be in the bigger person.

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Because at times, yes, y'all, like I said, sometimes people do not deserve our respect,

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but we have to be respectful at all times so people don't label us as people that is disrespectful.

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Or this one is this, she did that, I'll let you know, I don't want that. So I know it's like

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being respectful is one of them things where, okay, I'm gonna be respectful. And then sometimes

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you got to fake the phone because you know, sometimes if you have a situation where you got a

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co-worker, student group member, whatever, or family member, and you can't stand a ass,

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but you like, you know, I'm not going to be ugly because that's disrespectful. And I don't want

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to be this type of person. So I'm going to kill you with kindness, but I'm also going to be respectful

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too because I don't want you to see that I'm that I'm pissed. I don't want to do it, but I'm going to

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be respectful and get it out the way because that's another thing too. When you play your cards, right,

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and you, you know, put that poker face on this stuff, sometimes it's like, okay, I'm gonna get

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over it. However, sometimes we put that poker face on in, try to get over it, it still be in your

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mind like he or she got one time to try me. I ain't trying to get out of line, but I'm gonna get out

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of line today. Like, you know, I'm telling you, especially when it comes to dealing within the

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real world, it's like a battle field is like you're really in the field battling because at times

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people that's testing you, testing your patience and testing your respect because they want you to

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act an ass, especially as an African American. Oh yeah, they want you to act an ass, but you got

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to remember you got to kill them with kindness. You got to kill them with the respect that you had

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because I'd be the same thing. Like sometimes I've been looking at people that's not from our,

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that's not the same race as me and they be trying me. I'd be disrespectful as I can be because they

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want you to get out of line. Even your own race wants you to get out of line, but I always keep

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it to myself. But we always have to, like I say, y'all have the mirror of conversations with us

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up because those conversations, you know, you have with yourself, you're like, okay, if I would have

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said this, it would have gone left. If I would have did that, probably wouldn't have went right,

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but I'm glad I didn't because you know, out of respect for me and that person, I know how I am,

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but they don't know how I am when I get on that level. So it's best of me just to keep it cute

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and let this fly. Okay, so I'm gonna give you all some examples like how, like, how to,

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how it easily comes to respect. Like for example, with your family, my immediate family asks,

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we are big on respect. I'm big on respecting here too. Okay, it don't matter how big or small

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you are, respect is respect. And I demand my respect just as well as everybody else do.

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And like I said, it starts from at home, at home, whoever your, your, your parent, guardian, aunt,

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whoever is taking care of you, whoever householder, and it's their job to teach you about respect.

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I feel like that's one of the things that is packed with manners, but you have to have respect to

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manners, especially with this day and age. Children need that because sometimes you look online and

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half these kids don't even say please and thank you. Mrs. and Mrs. and Mrs. Like, they don't

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say, you know, like that's important. It's important to let your children know the basics.

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That's the basics. I feel as though manners is the basics. They're long with respect because

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that's a respect thing. Even big adults too don't have no respect. And I'm like, y'all know about

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them, but y'all just want to act like you ain't got no respect. But okay, but I correct people like

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thank you, like, thank you, you're welcome, please. And you know, it's something called respect.

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It's common courtesy, to be honest, the basics, common courtesy, you know, shit.

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I'm feeling like an old lady because I'm like, it's something called respect. And you know,

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this imagine that was your parents right there. Because I always keep in mind too, I work with

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people that's down there, the age of my parents, some people the same age as me, you know, I always

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keep in mind to say, Miss, Mr, you know, whatever it is, because it's something called respect,

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because God forbid, the mother fall with Satan right beside me and they didn't hear me say that,

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or greet them nothing. Oh, that's a pop in your mouth. Okay, because it's something called respect.

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Now with the outside family. Sometimes you got to be disrespectful. You know, sometimes you got to

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get disrespectful when it comes to respect. And the reason why I say you got to get disrespectful

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when it comes to respect because like I said, some people outside of your family don't have respect

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either. And it's like, okay, I don't want to get disrespectful. But I'm gonna get disrespectful,

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but it's gonna be respectful. For example, you could talk about me like a dog all day, every day,

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but I bet you won't come to me as a woman. I bet you won't come to me as a woman, respectfully,

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because you're being disrespectful. And if I find out about it, and I find out you being disrespectful,

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I'm not to play my cards, right? You know, it's not worth it. That's in general. Let's

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just scratch family, because this is in general, that's where respect comes into, especially when

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it comes to when you when a person know you well, and you know that person well, and then,

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and you know, and you know that person big on respect and they don't do stuff like that.

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Why are you testing them to be disrespectful? We all had the moments in our life where we

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are respectful as can be, but people always test us to be disrespectful. And when like the

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disrespect happens, all the respect was out the window. And then when you come back to reality

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and think I'm like, Hey, why did I do that? Why did I let this person see that side of me when

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that's not me? Hey, we all been there. Trust me. Recently, I felt like I almost had to get on that

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side because like I said, respect is respect. That's like you coming to somebody's job or house,

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and the greeting you give them, you know, it's like they all would do whatever you get to another

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greeting, they feel some type of way about it. You gotta think, are we on that level? Are we

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respecting each other on this level? You know, it's boundaries and levels to everything that

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happens, especially when it comes to respect in the relationship that you have with a person.

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A lot of people get those things miscontrued. Yeah, we could be the if we're not the best of friends,

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I'm not doing the most, especially and that's out of respect. If we're not the closest family

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members, I'm not doing all that and that's out of respect. Because also thing of respect is too

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like your feelings matter and feelings is impacted with respect. And a lot of people fail to realize

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too that people have feelings. And if you're not respecting a property and their feelings,

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whatever it is, you need to go. Because that's nobody needs that. And I feel like I'm glad I

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did pinpoint on this by because a lot of people, you know, in the end of the year, they, you know,

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they have their new year resolution is that I'm not playing about my respect. And that's one of

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mine. I say it every year, I'm not playing about my respect, because there's been times where people

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have gotten us out of line. And we had to remember like, I can't do this. It's not me. Because I'm

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way more respectful than you are. I hold myself to a higher level when it comes to respect. Because

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you can tell when a person don't have enough respect for themselves, let alone others,

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the way they carry themselves and the way they do things. I always say that because it's like,

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you cannot just how you want to talk somebody out and you don't have that mirror conversation with

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yourself and look at yourself with a mirror and say, what's respectful? You can't even say anything

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respectful about yourself. But it eats me up inside when people act like they can't say nothing

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respectful about themselves for others. Like it's not going to kill you to say something nice about

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a person, you know, or you can't respect people's boundaries or like the respect people wishes what

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they do, especially when it comes to career goals, their lifestyle and things like that. Like if a

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woman out here hustling, grinding, and taking care of a family, going to school, working and coming

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home back to her family, that ain't old. Same thing for a man. If he working, grinding, taking care of

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household, going to school, working day to old man, that's what he want to do. That's what he and she

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want to do. Because that's out of respect. And people try to disrespect and be like, oh, that's

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some old lady stuff. That's old man stuff. No, that's what they like to do. That's the comfort

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of what they want to do. And you need to respect it. Because versus other people, they do have a house,

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but they don't have a household. They work, but they don't work as much as you do. They're able to go

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outside all the time tonight. I don't, I don't, I don't knock it. But that stopped me. Because I

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don't respect. I'm gonna be like, that's nice. In the back of my mind and be like, that shit ain't for me.

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That ain't for me. And that's the thing. Like when it comes to respect, it's pros and cons.

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Like respect has so, has so many advantages, such as like fostering better relationships,

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increasing trust in people and fostering the sense of unity. However, sometimes on the other

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hand, no, it can also be a challenge to give respect in certain situations. And some people

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may not even respond properly. That's what I'm saying. Like, y'all, when it comes to even having

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discussions about certain stuff in life, like especially with like people outside of your

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immediate family or your kinship or whatever and things like that, when it comes to basically the

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closest people in your circle, family and friends, anybody outside of that, that's where the disrespect

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gets crazy. That ain't be the people that be challenging you when it comes to respect. And I

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say this to say is because I don't play my respect. And when it comes to like certain situations,

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I always try to think the two sides of it. But if I know who you are, real good, and something

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not adding up, I'm like, hold up. I'm a saying in a respectful way. And of course, the other person

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is always going to come off disrespectful. Because that's what they do. And you sometimes you can't

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change a person. But this is how you kill a person. You kill them with kindness and respect.

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But you don't go rah, rah, rah and toe to toe with them. Like how they going toe to toe with you.

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You got to walk away from certain issues. Or you say your point. But in fact, sometimes you

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think I said just show it. One way is shown is walking away, like a team what you're doing.

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Why not say nothing at all? Because I had to learn at the hallway. I'm learning at the

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hallway till this day. Like last week, y'all like I'm over it. Because we came out respect,

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I just don't play my respect. And I don't like when people give off a narrative that you know,

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it's not right. And it makes it seem like you're disrespectful when you're not. And then for people

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to try to twist it around and stuff, that puts a big button on a person because like, whoa,

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I mess with you, you don't mess with me. So why are you just respect to me? And I'll and I had

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to think I'm like, I can't do this. I can't do this. I'm not going to go out my way and be

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disrespectful like you pretty and respect to me because there's no point. Why go low with you?

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I'm gonna go higher. And leave your ass alone. I'm not going to be going down there arguing with

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you. I'm not going to go back and forth on social media. No, because out of respect that I have.

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Okay, I'm not going to do that. And I need y'all to like understand it because I know every year

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we tell us what it kind of our respect. We not playing with it. I said every year I'm not playing

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my respect. I don't care if you're a man woman, young boy, younger, I'm not playing older man,

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older woman. I'm not playing with you when it comes to my respect. If I feel some type of way,

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I'm gonna say it respectfully. Now if you disrespect me, we have a conversation like two human beings,

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but it's always when you got to go loud, when you be loud and doing the most that's disrespect.

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And that makes a person want to walk away and that makes the person only want to deal with you.

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And that's why it's hard, especially with this communication to even sit down and have

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conversations because we always feel as though we got to get loud. We got to get rowdy. I got

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to yell a scream. No, you got to sit down and have conversations. I felt like that at times.

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Like sometimes I'm like, I can be talking like this. And then you still can't hear me. And I

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got to be like, like that's not me no more. I'm grown. I can't be like if you have a conversation

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out of respect, we're gonna be respectful. But if you if I the minute I see you get out from

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being respectful to being disrespectful, check them do something going. Nobody has time for that

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because we're adults. You know, right from wrong. And you want me to show you respect.

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I'm gonna show you it, but it has to be vice versa. That's the thing that we miss as adults.

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Vice versa. You want one thing, I want the same thing you want. But in order for it to be the

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same, you got to display it, especially when it comes to this thing called respect. And

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these are why people don't play when it comes to respect. I don't play when it comes to my respect

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because that's something that's a feeling that you just cannot get away. That you just can't

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just go away like that, especially what you say and how you say that. I know when there's disrespect

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but I know what is respectful. The tone of your voice can just top it off just take the

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took the ice on a cake. And that's what people feel and realize it's not what you say at times.

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It's how you saying it. You're telling your body language, man, like respect is something that

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should be given and received freely. And some people may not be comfortable giving it or receiving

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it. They don't feel like it's genuine. And with that being said, some people may not be

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willing to show respect if they are not given the same in return or if they don't feel that the other

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person has earned it. Now, when I say that, like I said outside the media family, friendships,

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kinship, life, sometimes we'd have to battle when it comes to respect that some people do need

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the respect. It's I'm just only not but you also just got to still play a part of being respectful.

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Even though at times it's like this motherfucker don't need this or that respect. We got to be

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respectful, you know, we have to because you never know. And there's another thing to always

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tell myself like you never know who you need in life. You never know who needs you. You never

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know who you need in life. So it was like it's very hard to it's hard. It's very hard as to even

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I don't know. Sometimes it's hard to be like for me it's hard to be like dang I can't. But at times

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I do be like I don't respect the woman that you are because certain things that you parade around

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do and say especially when it's impacting another person especially if you're trying to tear down

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another black woman or a man that's total disrespect in your family or not close friends are not.

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You should not be wanting to tear down another person because it's like what if that was you

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people don't think about how would life be on the other side on the other end of the stick.

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Like say that that was you going through this or you having a hard time with that X Y and Z.

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That's why it comes to respect respect is something that should be given and received freely but it

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doesn't at times because people always trying to be disrespectful and people always trying to play

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the next person. That's why it's so hard for us to respect one another. It's so hard for us to even

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show and give respect because we feel like if I'm showing and giving you respect or people be like

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oh you kissing ass or you're doing too much. No that's the type of person I am and I deserve

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it back up a turn and then sometimes we're like you know what some people are not going to change

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some people are not going to change their disrespectful way but when you're the bigger person and showing

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nothing but respect that's going to kill them. That's going to kill them. What? What is one fifty

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cents? Show no love love that you kill because at times when you show love to certain people

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that don't deserve it it kills them and it's killing you too because certain people don't deserve it

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as well as respect. That's why when people say I do not play by my respect because they know

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what's good and what's not good for this person especially if you already had that you know when

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it comes to first impressions you get that first impression of a person and they already off the

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rip being disrespectful all loud and rowdy. Cut it. I'm sorry. It feels like in this generation

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this is something that needs to be said and done. Respect is something so broad that it's not showing

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in a good way. It's the bad way. It's always a disrespect. Respect is something that should be

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given freely. Respect should be a feeling that should be very appreciative especially when it

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comes to a friendship and relationship. If you're dealing with a person and they're not showing you

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respect such as you're telling them what you like and what you don't like and they're doing a lot of

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things you don't like that's disrespect. You need to leave that person and find somebody that's going

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to respect you for you. If they cannot respect you for the woman or the man that you are leave them

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because at the end of the day you matter and your respect matters. You hold you hold yourself to a

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T. You hold yourself on a pedestal where you want nothing but respect as well as in general when it

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comes to anything in this life you hold yourself on a pedestal where if nobody can meet these standards

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of respect and levels that I have need to go. Nobody got time for disrespect and that's how I am.

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Believe your friendship if you cannot respect my levels respect what I'm doing respect how I

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handle this or whatever. You can't respect me period as the woman that I am. You need to go

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because I don't have time for that. Respect is something that is given freely and it's free game

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and it's something that I don't play with and I know y'all can relate to that because respect is

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something that is free and people like to take advantage of it. Respect is one of the many

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things that is something that a person should be able to feel you know feel honored to be receiving

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and to be given because it's a lot of things in life that people have to offer.

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So why shun them people and why dog them out? Let that marinate for a minute.

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When it comes to respect you hold yourself to a T. You hold yourself on a pedestal where

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this person or this career or school whatever does not respect it it does not meet my needs.

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They need to go. I need to leave it alone because I don't have time for that. I rather

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exit myself out before it gets worse and it shows disrespect. So with that being said y'all

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please keep in mind that we're almost at the end and respect is something that we always say every

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year in our new year resolution that we want people to understand that respect is something

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given free and something that we hold ourselves to a pedestal that I count of before and nobody

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can respect our needs and wishes and blessings. Chuck them, do something, let them go because

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going over and over and dealing with disrespect and you being respecting

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no it's negative. It's like mixing two substances together that's not good for each other

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and it's not going to be good in the long run and it's going to turn you from being respectful to

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disrespectful. Okay so with that being said y'all please remember respect is something

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that is that should be given and received freely and it is something that is going to

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be impacted on to somebody's life. It might also help you when it comes to learning a new person

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such as being able to develop that trust and understanding between that person as also when

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it comes to being able to ensure to feel comfortable to openly have the conversation and be able to

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work with people. Okay I wish y'all nothing but the best please be safe out here and please be bundled

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up. I wish you guys nothing peace and blessings and as always I hope this episode helps someone

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in need because it's important. This is all about self-approvement and self-empowerment

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and this is real and this shit is going on today okay. Happy Wednesday to you guys and you guys

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will hear from me next Wednesday. Bye!