Hey y'all, whether it's morning evening or afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys have decided to
vibe with me, the one and only E. Happy holidays to y'all because it is the finally holiday season
even though we just, you know, got over Thanksgiving. It is Christmas time, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, whatever
holiday you guys celebrate in New Year's is right around the corner. So cheers to us. Finally,
almost at the finish line into another amazing year. I hope you guys have, you know,
prospered in many ways that you wanted to this year. You learned from yourself, you learned
what's good, what's bad, X, Y, Z. Okay. So without further ado, whether you guys are on a go or just
at home, whatever you're doing, I'm just glad that you guys had decided to listen to me. And as
always, if you're new here, welcome, welcome, welcome. And if you're not new to this, but you're
to this, Hey, y'all, what's up? What's happening? And as always, every vibe of the day is something new.
Okay. So let's get into it. In honor of us coming to the end of 2023, I want to touch based on
respect. Yes, R E S P E C T respect. And the reason why I wanted to talk on respect is because
I feel like that was one of the main vibes that we don't get at times. And sometimes we do get
depending on who it is and where you getting it from, especially from me, like over the past couple
days, I feel like sometimes when it comes to respect, especially for our holiday time, you want
to be respectful as possible. But somebody is always going to try to play with you when it
comes to your respect and nobody got time for that. I know I don't got time for that because I don't
like to be ugly, especially when I'm such a respectful person. And if I'm giving you respect,
I expected to be vice versa. You know, that's from all generations. Okay, I felt as though even
from children, they start from at home, you have to teach your children respect, regardless, I don't
care if they're the same age. I don't care respect thoughts at home. And respect is something very,
very broad that we need to pinpoint especially around this time of the year because, like I say,
it's Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, whatever holidays you guys celebrate, it gets rowdy.
And you know, people will be, you know, on every road. So you don't want to feed into what they're
doing because that's just going to dimmer down to who that's going to dim down. That's like you,
they're going low and you going low with them. No, you don't want to do that. You want to be the
bigger person. And that's where respect comes into play. Okay, so let's get into it. So what is respect?
We always say, Oh, I want you to treat me respect or respect me as much as I respect you. But what
is respect? Respect is a feeling of admiring, admiring, admiring for someone because of their
quality or achievement. It is important to value that encouraging people to treat each other kindly
and respectfully. Respect is an, is a necessity for creating and managing and maintaining positive
relationships. So what that means is saying like respect is essential. Okay, regardless. I don't
care if you don't like that person or not respect is respect. Please show people kindness and please
say and do good because you never know who's watching and you never know who you might need
in life. Even though at times it is hard for us to fake the funk, but it's like, come on out.
Respect is something that you want and I'm going to give it to you because at the end of the day,
I want respect just as much as you want it. So I always ask people like, why is this so important?
People be like, why is so important? I'll be saying things too. Like, why is your respect so important
versus mine? Well, let me tell you, why is respect important to have? Respect is important to have
because it helps to foster trust and understanding between people. It encourages open communication
and enables people to work together ethnically. Respect also helps to present conflict and
allow people to work together to solve issues. Now, that's really big because baby, let me tell you
something. I am a social work major. I've been having projects left to right since my semester
started. I'm officially in the school of social work at that. I've been having projects left to
right. And then there's been times where I felt like within some of my projects that I had, like
the group of assignments that I had, I feel like my respect was not being taken, you know, the right
way. I felt like people was playing on my top. That's how we say it, playing on my, you playing on
my top. Like, stop playing with me because when it comes to respect, like I said, all generations,
ages, all that good stuff, I don't, I give people respect because I want to in return. But if I feel
like I'm being nice and the kind of something, how I'm being respectful of you and your time and your
patience and you're not doing the same thing for me, that gets ugly, especially when it comes to
communication and being able to work with people because, for example, you have to work with people
for Godless. Whatever profession you work in, you have to work with people for Godless. I don't
think there's a profession where you are working by yourself. Even when you, your own boss, you still
have your own workers, clients, X, Y, and Z. You have to be respected for all times. Yes, at times,
there'd be times where we want to get, vow to act and ask, but it's like, you got to think. If I act
out a line and do this and that, people won't remember that. If people want to categorize me as a
disrespectful person, which I'm not. Like I said, at times when it comes to why respect is important,
is because it helps to foster trust and understanding between people. You know, you don't want to be
disrespectful. At times you have to, but there's different ways on how to handle that. That's why
it's important to have respect because within this generation, each and every day, I look,
I just be like, between school, work in it, whatever I'm doing, I just feel like the younger
generation don't have no respect. And I be like, you know what, it starts from at home. It starts
from the parents, solving the parents, guardians, whoever, taking care of these kids. It starts from
them because it should not be no way in the world. I'm outside. You down at the same age as my
siblings, but you out here cussing like you ain't got no damn sense in front of these older people.
I be damned. Like they don't even say miss, mister. Like they don't do that no more. They call the
people by the, excuse me y'all, their first name. I'm like, what the hell is going on here? See,
it's no such thing as respect. And that's why it's important to show respect in order to give it.
And it's important to have respect so people will see that you're respectful and no off the
dumb. Oh, he or she so respectful. X, Y and Z, you know, you don't want to be labeled as disrespectful.
Because let me tell you something. You can be disrespectful. What is the way of still being
respectful at the same time? Yes, sometimes y'all, you did a tone, gotta get out of line,
but I'm going to check you in the right way before it gets real, real disrespectful. Okay. And the
thing that people also be like, well, how do you show it? Baby, this is how you show respect.
Showing respect can be done through actions such as being polite to somebody, listening to them,
but also being open to different opinions. And with that being said, additionally, it is important
to express like appreciation for others and to realization that they're accomplishments,
like recognize their accomplishment. And finally, it is important to open and have honest conversations
when it comes to communication with each other. So with that being said, like if I'm having a
conversation with someone or you're having a conversation with someone, respect is showing
your undivided attention. Look at them in the eye. I'm real big on body language. If your body
language is not respectful as in shaking your, nodding your head, saying something and your face
expressions is friendly, that's you showing respect. Now, if it's disrespectful, shaking your head
and not giving me eye contact and you slouch in the chair or you just out of the while standing up,
that goes to show disrespect. And that's the show, that's a sign that people is like, they're not
engaged. Especially when it comes to even whatever you're doing involving action, if someone is not
giving you the underbite of attention, that's not respect. I'm letting you know that now. Respect is
one of the biggest things that we fail to realize today because at times we always got to be disrespectful,
we feel like. And that's not the case. I feel like respect is something that we must give
because even if you don't want to give that respect, that should be in the bigger person.
Because at times, yes, y'all, like I said, sometimes people do not deserve our respect,
but we have to be respectful at all times so people don't label us as people that is disrespectful.
Or this one is this, she did that, I'll let you know, I don't want that. So I know it's like
being respectful is one of them things where, okay, I'm gonna be respectful. And then sometimes
you got to fake the phone because you know, sometimes if you have a situation where you got a
co-worker, student group member, whatever, or family member, and you can't stand a ass,
but you like, you know, I'm not going to be ugly because that's disrespectful. And I don't want
to be this type of person. So I'm going to kill you with kindness, but I'm also going to be respectful
too because I don't want you to see that I'm that I'm pissed. I don't want to do it, but I'm going to
be respectful and get it out the way because that's another thing too. When you play your cards, right,
and you, you know, put that poker face on this stuff, sometimes it's like, okay, I'm gonna get
over it. However, sometimes we put that poker face on in, try to get over it, it still be in your
mind like he or she got one time to try me. I ain't trying to get out of line, but I'm gonna get out
of line today. Like, you know, I'm telling you, especially when it comes to dealing within the
real world, it's like a battle field is like you're really in the field battling because at times
people that's testing you, testing your patience and testing your respect because they want you to
act an ass, especially as an African American. Oh yeah, they want you to act an ass, but you got
to remember you got to kill them with kindness. You got to kill them with the respect that you had
because I'd be the same thing. Like sometimes I've been looking at people that's not from our,
that's not the same race as me and they be trying me. I'd be disrespectful as I can be because they
want you to get out of line. Even your own race wants you to get out of line, but I always keep
it to myself. But we always have to, like I say, y'all have the mirror of conversations with us
up because those conversations, you know, you have with yourself, you're like, okay, if I would have
said this, it would have gone left. If I would have did that, probably wouldn't have went right,
but I'm glad I didn't because you know, out of respect for me and that person, I know how I am,
but they don't know how I am when I get on that level. So it's best of me just to keep it cute
and let this fly. Okay, so I'm gonna give you all some examples like how, like, how to,
how it easily comes to respect. Like for example, with your family, my immediate family asks,
we are big on respect. I'm big on respecting here too. Okay, it don't matter how big or small
you are, respect is respect. And I demand my respect just as well as everybody else do.
And like I said, it starts from at home, at home, whoever your, your, your parent, guardian, aunt,
whoever is taking care of you, whoever householder, and it's their job to teach you about respect.
I feel like that's one of the things that is packed with manners, but you have to have respect to
manners, especially with this day and age. Children need that because sometimes you look online and
half these kids don't even say please and thank you. Mrs. and Mrs. and Mrs. Like, they don't
say, you know, like that's important. It's important to let your children know the basics.
That's the basics. I feel as though manners is the basics. They're long with respect because
that's a respect thing. Even big adults too don't have no respect. And I'm like, y'all know about
them, but y'all just want to act like you ain't got no respect. But okay, but I correct people like
thank you, like, thank you, you're welcome, please. And you know, it's something called respect.
It's common courtesy, to be honest, the basics, common courtesy, you know, shit.
I'm feeling like an old lady because I'm like, it's something called respect. And you know,
this imagine that was your parents right there. Because I always keep in mind too, I work with
people that's down there, the age of my parents, some people the same age as me, you know, I always
keep in mind to say, Miss, Mr, you know, whatever it is, because it's something called respect,
because God forbid, the mother fall with Satan right beside me and they didn't hear me say that,
or greet them nothing. Oh, that's a pop in your mouth. Okay, because it's something called respect.
Now with the outside family. Sometimes you got to be disrespectful. You know, sometimes you got to
get disrespectful when it comes to respect. And the reason why I say you got to get disrespectful
when it comes to respect because like I said, some people outside of your family don't have respect
either. And it's like, okay, I don't want to get disrespectful. But I'm gonna get disrespectful,
but it's gonna be respectful. For example, you could talk about me like a dog all day, every day,
but I bet you won't come to me as a woman. I bet you won't come to me as a woman, respectfully,
because you're being disrespectful. And if I find out about it, and I find out you being disrespectful,
I'm not to play my cards, right? You know, it's not worth it. That's in general. Let's
just scratch family, because this is in general, that's where respect comes into, especially when
it comes to when you when a person know you well, and you know that person well, and then,
and you know, and you know that person big on respect and they don't do stuff like that.
Why are you testing them to be disrespectful? We all had the moments in our life where we
are respectful as can be, but people always test us to be disrespectful. And when like the
disrespect happens, all the respect was out the window. And then when you come back to reality
and think I'm like, Hey, why did I do that? Why did I let this person see that side of me when
that's not me? Hey, we all been there. Trust me. Recently, I felt like I almost had to get on that
side because like I said, respect is respect. That's like you coming to somebody's job or house,
and the greeting you give them, you know, it's like they all would do whatever you get to another
greeting, they feel some type of way about it. You gotta think, are we on that level? Are we
respecting each other on this level? You know, it's boundaries and levels to everything that
happens, especially when it comes to respect in the relationship that you have with a person.
A lot of people get those things miscontrued. Yeah, we could be the if we're not the best of friends,
I'm not doing the most, especially and that's out of respect. If we're not the closest family
members, I'm not doing all that and that's out of respect. Because also thing of respect is too
like your feelings matter and feelings is impacted with respect. And a lot of people fail to realize
too that people have feelings. And if you're not respecting a property and their feelings,
whatever it is, you need to go. Because that's nobody needs that. And I feel like I'm glad I
did pinpoint on this by because a lot of people, you know, in the end of the year, they, you know,
they have their new year resolution is that I'm not playing about my respect. And that's one of
mine. I say it every year, I'm not playing about my respect, because there's been times where people
have gotten us out of line. And we had to remember like, I can't do this. It's not me. Because I'm
way more respectful than you are. I hold myself to a higher level when it comes to respect. Because
you can tell when a person don't have enough respect for themselves, let alone others,
the way they carry themselves and the way they do things. I always say that because it's like,
you cannot just how you want to talk somebody out and you don't have that mirror conversation with
yourself and look at yourself with a mirror and say, what's respectful? You can't even say anything
respectful about yourself. But it eats me up inside when people act like they can't say nothing
respectful about themselves for others. Like it's not going to kill you to say something nice about
a person, you know, or you can't respect people's boundaries or like the respect people wishes what
they do, especially when it comes to career goals, their lifestyle and things like that. Like if a
woman out here hustling, grinding, and taking care of a family, going to school, working and coming
home back to her family, that ain't old. Same thing for a man. If he working, grinding, taking care of
household, going to school, working day to old man, that's what he want to do. That's what he and she
want to do. Because that's out of respect. And people try to disrespect and be like, oh, that's
some old lady stuff. That's old man stuff. No, that's what they like to do. That's the comfort
of what they want to do. And you need to respect it. Because versus other people, they do have a house,
but they don't have a household. They work, but they don't work as much as you do. They're able to go
outside all the time tonight. I don't, I don't, I don't knock it. But that stopped me. Because I
don't respect. I'm gonna be like, that's nice. In the back of my mind and be like, that shit ain't for me.
That ain't for me. And that's the thing. Like when it comes to respect, it's pros and cons.
Like respect has so, has so many advantages, such as like fostering better relationships,
increasing trust in people and fostering the sense of unity. However, sometimes on the other
hand, no, it can also be a challenge to give respect in certain situations. And some people
may not even respond properly. That's what I'm saying. Like, y'all, when it comes to even having
discussions about certain stuff in life, like especially with like people outside of your
immediate family or your kinship or whatever and things like that, when it comes to basically the
closest people in your circle, family and friends, anybody outside of that, that's where the disrespect
gets crazy. That ain't be the people that be challenging you when it comes to respect. And I
say this to say is because I don't play my respect. And when it comes to like certain situations,
I always try to think the two sides of it. But if I know who you are, real good, and something
not adding up, I'm like, hold up. I'm a saying in a respectful way. And of course, the other person
is always going to come off disrespectful. Because that's what they do. And you sometimes you can't
change a person. But this is how you kill a person. You kill them with kindness and respect.
But you don't go rah, rah, rah and toe to toe with them. Like how they going toe to toe with you.
You got to walk away from certain issues. Or you say your point. But in fact, sometimes you
think I said just show it. One way is shown is walking away, like a team what you're doing.
Why not say nothing at all? Because I had to learn at the hallway. I'm learning at the
hallway till this day. Like last week, y'all like I'm over it. Because we came out respect,
I just don't play my respect. And I don't like when people give off a narrative that you know,
it's not right. And it makes it seem like you're disrespectful when you're not. And then for people
to try to twist it around and stuff, that puts a big button on a person because like, whoa,
I mess with you, you don't mess with me. So why are you just respect to me? And I'll and I had
to think I'm like, I can't do this. I can't do this. I'm not going to go out my way and be
disrespectful like you pretty and respect to me because there's no point. Why go low with you?
I'm gonna go higher. And leave your ass alone. I'm not going to be going down there arguing with
you. I'm not going to go back and forth on social media. No, because out of respect that I have.
Okay, I'm not going to do that. And I need y'all to like understand it because I know every year
we tell us what it kind of our respect. We not playing with it. I said every year I'm not playing
my respect. I don't care if you're a man woman, young boy, younger, I'm not playing older man,
older woman. I'm not playing with you when it comes to my respect. If I feel some type of way,
I'm gonna say it respectfully. Now if you disrespect me, we have a conversation like two human beings,
but it's always when you got to go loud, when you be loud and doing the most that's disrespect.
And that makes a person want to walk away and that makes the person only want to deal with you.
And that's why it's hard, especially with this communication to even sit down and have
conversations because we always feel as though we got to get loud. We got to get rowdy. I got
to yell a scream. No, you got to sit down and have conversations. I felt like that at times.
Like sometimes I'm like, I can be talking like this. And then you still can't hear me. And I
got to be like, like that's not me no more. I'm grown. I can't be like if you have a conversation
out of respect, we're gonna be respectful. But if you if I the minute I see you get out from
being respectful to being disrespectful, check them do something going. Nobody has time for that
because we're adults. You know, right from wrong. And you want me to show you respect.
I'm gonna show you it, but it has to be vice versa. That's the thing that we miss as adults.
Vice versa. You want one thing, I want the same thing you want. But in order for it to be the
same, you got to display it, especially when it comes to this thing called respect. And
these are why people don't play when it comes to respect. I don't play when it comes to my respect
because that's something that's a feeling that you just cannot get away. That you just can't
just go away like that, especially what you say and how you say that. I know when there's disrespect
but I know what is respectful. The tone of your voice can just top it off just take the
took the ice on a cake. And that's what people feel and realize it's not what you say at times.
It's how you saying it. You're telling your body language, man, like respect is something that
should be given and received freely. And some people may not be comfortable giving it or receiving
it. They don't feel like it's genuine. And with that being said, some people may not be
willing to show respect if they are not given the same in return or if they don't feel that the other
person has earned it. Now, when I say that, like I said outside the media family, friendships,
kinship, life, sometimes we'd have to battle when it comes to respect that some people do need
the respect. It's I'm just only not but you also just got to still play a part of being respectful.
Even though at times it's like this motherfucker don't need this or that respect. We got to be
respectful, you know, we have to because you never know. And there's another thing to always
tell myself like you never know who you need in life. You never know who needs you. You never
know who you need in life. So it was like it's very hard to it's hard. It's very hard as to even
I don't know. Sometimes it's hard to be like for me it's hard to be like dang I can't. But at times
I do be like I don't respect the woman that you are because certain things that you parade around
do and say especially when it's impacting another person especially if you're trying to tear down
another black woman or a man that's total disrespect in your family or not close friends are not.
You should not be wanting to tear down another person because it's like what if that was you
people don't think about how would life be on the other side on the other end of the stick.
Like say that that was you going through this or you having a hard time with that X Y and Z.
That's why it comes to respect respect is something that should be given and received freely but it
doesn't at times because people always trying to be disrespectful and people always trying to play
the next person. That's why it's so hard for us to respect one another. It's so hard for us to even
show and give respect because we feel like if I'm showing and giving you respect or people be like
oh you kissing ass or you're doing too much. No that's the type of person I am and I deserve
it back up a turn and then sometimes we're like you know what some people are not going to change
some people are not going to change their disrespectful way but when you're the bigger person and showing
nothing but respect that's going to kill them. That's going to kill them. What? What is one fifty
cents? Show no love love that you kill because at times when you show love to certain people
that don't deserve it it kills them and it's killing you too because certain people don't deserve it
as well as respect. That's why when people say I do not play by my respect because they know
what's good and what's not good for this person especially if you already had that you know when
it comes to first impressions you get that first impression of a person and they already off the
rip being disrespectful all loud and rowdy. Cut it. I'm sorry. It feels like in this generation
this is something that needs to be said and done. Respect is something so broad that it's not showing
in a good way. It's the bad way. It's always a disrespect. Respect is something that should be
given freely. Respect should be a feeling that should be very appreciative especially when it
comes to a friendship and relationship. If you're dealing with a person and they're not showing you
respect such as you're telling them what you like and what you don't like and they're doing a lot of
things you don't like that's disrespect. You need to leave that person and find somebody that's going
to respect you for you. If they cannot respect you for the woman or the man that you are leave them
because at the end of the day you matter and your respect matters. You hold you hold yourself to a
T. You hold yourself on a pedestal where you want nothing but respect as well as in general when it
comes to anything in this life you hold yourself on a pedestal where if nobody can meet these standards
of respect and levels that I have need to go. Nobody got time for disrespect and that's how I am.
Believe your friendship if you cannot respect my levels respect what I'm doing respect how I
handle this or whatever. You can't respect me period as the woman that I am. You need to go
because I don't have time for that. Respect is something that is given freely and it's free game
and it's something that I don't play with and I know y'all can relate to that because respect is
something that is free and people like to take advantage of it. Respect is one of the many
things that is something that a person should be able to feel you know feel honored to be receiving
and to be given because it's a lot of things in life that people have to offer.
So why shun them people and why dog them out? Let that marinate for a minute.
When it comes to respect you hold yourself to a T. You hold yourself on a pedestal where
this person or this career or school whatever does not respect it it does not meet my needs.
They need to go. I need to leave it alone because I don't have time for that. I rather
exit myself out before it gets worse and it shows disrespect. So with that being said y'all
please keep in mind that we're almost at the end and respect is something that we always say every
year in our new year resolution that we want people to understand that respect is something
given free and something that we hold ourselves to a pedestal that I count of before and nobody
can respect our needs and wishes and blessings. Chuck them, do something, let them go because
going over and over and dealing with disrespect and you being respecting
no it's negative. It's like mixing two substances together that's not good for each other
and it's not going to be good in the long run and it's going to turn you from being respectful to
disrespectful. Okay so with that being said y'all please remember respect is something
that is that should be given and received freely and it is something that is going to
be impacted on to somebody's life. It might also help you when it comes to learning a new person
such as being able to develop that trust and understanding between that person as also when
it comes to being able to ensure to feel comfortable to openly have the conversation and be able to
work with people. Okay I wish y'all nothing but the best please be safe out here and please be bundled
up. I wish you guys nothing peace and blessings and as always I hope this episode helps someone
in need because it's important. This is all about self-approvement and self-empowerment
and this is real and this shit is going on today okay. Happy Wednesday to you guys and you guys
will hear from me next Wednesday. Bye!