Hey y'all, whether it's morning, evening, or afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys
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to Viving with E. And I hope you guys enjoy so far. And for the ones that are not new to this
and true to this, hey y'all, what's going on? And hello everyone all together. Happy Wednesday.
And I hope y'all Wednesday is going good or whatever day y'all guys listen to me. Hope your
day is going good. So as always, if you're new here, whether you guys are on the go or on the
move, I just want you guys to sit back, relax, and enjoy listening to my voice. Because as always,
every vibe of the day is something special and it's always something very interesting.
So without further ado, let's get into it. Today's vibe of the day is forgiveness.
And the reason why today's vibe of the day is forgiveness is because I'm in that journey of
forgiving a lot of people for a lot of things and forgiving a lot of things.
You know, when you're in that, y'all know, I talk about it all the time. And if you're new here,
I talk about always the mental. Always talk about how you got to make sure that you got to make sure
you're mentally straight before you can continue to do anything and everything in your power
to make sure that you're 100% willing to move on, especially when it comes to forgiving something
or someone, it takes a while. It's a challenge that we have to, you know, prepare and make sure
that we are ready to take on a challenge. Because especially when it comes to forgiving people and
things, it takes time. It's not going to happen overnight. And at times it's like, just like you
don't want to just say, fuck it. But at times it's like, depending on the situation of the person,
like, hey, God, do what you got to do. And I'm in that stage in my life where now I can forgive you,
but I'm not going to forget what happened. And I feel like we all been there. Like we all been in
those stages in our life where we forgive a person, but sometimes we cannot forgive that. And it's
okay. It's all right. We're human. Same thing with in the fight, something going on our life.
I'm not going to forget that thing. But you also got to learn the balance of forgiveness
and being able to forget it. So let's get into it. I'm gonna start off with a quote.
I'm one of my favorite artists ever. And when he said this in a song, it was just like, wow.
Because it happened. Yeah. So let's get into it. Yeah. Fool me one time, shame on you. Fool me twice.
Can't put the blame on you. Fool me three times. F the peace sign, load the chop and let it rain on you.
Once said J Cole. Now, the reason why I take this quote is because
you know, sometimes we fall each other, you know, so it's like, okay, as they happen. Okay.
You fool me once. Okay, that's shame on you. Because like, you look stupid.
You do it again. That's shame on me because I already know how you are. But I let it happen.
And it's just like, wow. And the three, you know, second time for me three times. He said, F the peace sign.
You know, he chucked he chucked up the deuces and say, All right, I got to go. You know, and
then that quote in the song, it just had me like, wow. It just came. It just had me like, wow.
Because it's, it's, it's true. We all been through there. We all had those problems with it's like,
okay, for me one time, shame on you. You know, it is what it is. But for me again, it's like, I'm a fool.
Like, oh, it's like, why did I let you do that? Like, we just be standing there sometimes like,
this is really happening. Like, it's crazy. I need to stop saying like, like, like,
because I'm talking about where it's going to be. And I just don't want to mess up with y'all.
This is Ron uncut. I'm gonna give you a Ron uncut, you know, ain't no,
ain't no sugarcoating nothing. But yes, he said that in no role models. And when he said it in
the song, I was just like, wow, because it's true. We all had the moments in our life where we'd be
like, okay, he they pull me once. All right, that's shame on them. Because you got the wrong one.
You do it again on a slick tip. It's all right. I'm a fool now, because I let you do it. And you
know I'm not about that. But I just let you do it. And it just fucked me up. And I need to let you
know, you do it again. It's effort, like, deuces, like you're wrong, especially if it depends on
how close you are with the person. That's really fucked up. Because at times, it's hard to forgive
a person, especially if you're so close to them, depending on what the situation is.
Like, I understand how they go. Like, sometimes it's like, you don't want to be the bad guy,
but sometimes you got to be the bigger person. And we phrase it. Sometimes, sometimes don't
be wrong, y'all. Sometimes we're in situations where we've been in situations where we don't want
to be the bigger person. Because when you be the bigger person, sometimes in certain situations,
it's feel like, why I got to keep being the one to show you better not tell you.
You know, why I got to keep telling you why not just show you. And I feel like being the
bigger person in every situation matters because life is too short. Time is a terrible thing to
waste. And I can't get my time back fussing and fighting with you and you're not going to get
your time. Who's giving me time back fussing and fighting with anybody else, period.
So with that being said, your forgiveness is a hard pill to swallow. It is.
It is. Forgiving someone is a very hard, especially if you had a bond with that person
when it comes to like friendships, relationships, family members, anything of relationship type of,
you know, factor. Forgiveness is a win or lose game. Like imagine, you know, being in a situation
with somebody, you know, y'all rocking out, wheels fall off. And something happened and you just feel
like you've been played disrespect, whatever this little maybe. It's going to take time for you to
get that person. It's going to take you a good amount of time for you to really, you know,
like patch it up. Because I feel like at times we try to patch up things in our life and we try to
get things to be set and strong. But at times things is not going to happen like that. And
it's for a situation for me, forgiveness is very big. Because I'm a real easygoing person, you know,
I believe in hearing people out and I believe in being adults and sitting down face to face rather
than going on FaceTime, text messages or on the phone having a conversation because you need to
really analyze and really sink in and understand what's going on so you can be able to forgive
the person. Now let me tell you, it's not easy. It takes time for you to really want to even sit
down and have a conversation with people because I'm not going to lie to y'all. Sometimes forgiveness
is a good thing. Like I said, it comes with pros and cons. But if you really know and you see potential
in that person and they tell you that they were wrong, like when a person is able to admit
they're wrong, I feel like you're a real motherfucking person. Because that's where you get a sense of
okay, I can forgive you, but it's going to take time. You can't forgive a person right in there.
No, it takes time to even just accept things. It takes time for you to even be able, like I said,
to sit down with a person, let alone be able to express what it is that you want to express.
So I'm going to tell y'all forgiveness is one of the things that comes with pros and cons. And like
I say, for those of you who are new here, when it comes to every vibe of the day, I always weigh
out the pros and cons. And because with everything we do in life, it comes with pros and cons. And
at times we just sit back and be like, oh my gosh, what I did was so wrong, but it felt right.
And sometimes you got to be selfish with yourself. You have to be selfish, especially when it comes
to that mental. And I'm going to say it again, I'm so big on the mental because the brain
is always on the go. It's always moving. It's always clicking. It's always doing a lot of
things that we just don't know about. And you just cannot put so much on your brain. Because when
you do, it's going to make you go insane. Like you got to make sure you're mentally stable and make
sure that you're in a place where you're saying like you're finding peace and things like that.
So when it comes to forgiveness, y'all, like I say all the time when you're in those chapters of your
life, where you're willing to do for the better for yourself and willing to do for yourself,
X, Y, and Z, sometimes you got to make amends with people that you know is going to take time for
you to forgive, but you're willing to forget it. You're willing to, you know, tell them, you know,
I forgive you, but I'm not going to forget it. It's going to take time for me for forgiveness.
Because I'm going to tell y'all, I mean one thing about me, like I said, I'm an easy go person,
you know, cool comic collect, but when it comes to my feelings, when it comes to my feelings,
I'm real big on my feelings because I don't believe it. I don't believe I'm a respect,
especially if you was grown, like grown up around a lot of people that was, you know, big on respect,
manners, everything like that, like real Southern hospitality, things like that. You don't got time
for that. You don't. And you, and it sucks to say, y'all, like sometimes you expected from the people
you wish you never expected from and like your family members, relationships, friendships,
you know, but I believe in them saying, in the saying that people come for a season and it's
some people that's here for a reason. So you got to really be able to know who's here for, like,
for that, for that reason. And you got to know who's here for them season because if you see so
many red flags or have so many arguments and you just forgive and forgive, you know, let's keep that
line from J. Cole in our head, you know, for me once I'm okay to shame on you because I got you,
I caught you and I told you, okay, I'm gonna forgive you this time. But that's not happening again.
But if it happened again, and I let it happen again, I'm a fool because I know, I know what I
can take, I know what I can take, and I know what I can't take. And nobody's gonna take bullshit from
anyone over and over and over again. I don't care who you are, family, friends, call workers under
that. With kind of respect, like I say all the time, you got to be big on it. You got to be really
big on your respect and who you are because you matter regardless of anything in your life. Sometimes
you got to be selfish. You got to be really, really, really selfish when it comes to you.
I don't care if you got a lot on your plate. Sometimes you got to take five, 10, 15, 20, an
hour, two hours, three, four hours to really regroup on yourself. And you got to really
have them mirror conversations and stuff like, listen up, we ain't gonna take this today. I'm
not having that today. We're gonna do this today. We're gonna do that today, especially when it
comes to being able to sit down with someone with another person, basically sit down like adults
and tell them what's going, what it is and what it's not. If they can't accept it, you got to let
them go. You got to be like, okay, I'm gonna forgive you, but I'm not gonna forget what you did.
And if you are not able to come on one accord, throw them deuces of assistance bro and let them go
because you cannot keep trying to forgive and forgive and they're not forgiving you or they
act like it is what it is. Like I say, you got to be selfish when it comes to your stuff. I'm real
big on self. This is what my pocket is based on self improvement, self empowerment, anything
all over the self. It's first when it comes to my black community, we got to be selfish for
us all. We got to know what we can take and what we can't take. And when it comes to forgiveness,
it plays a real tricky game on us because it's like we have them relationships with people that we
just don't want to let go. But if it's just signs and flags and XYZ that we see and I keep forgetting
or going past it, but it takes only one time that one good goddamn time you see it. It's like, oh,
I can't forget this shit. I can't let this shit pass. Forgiveness is one of the trickiest things
ever. It is, but it's like, like I say, you got to be selfish. You got to think what's right for you.
And every day is a walking testimony for you. It's like, what can you take today? And what I'm
not going to take today? Like for me, I wake up in the morning, get myself together and everything.
I have to listen to music to get myself motivated, even if I'm having a good or bad day, I still got
to listen to some music to get me motivated. Regardless of what's going on, because sometimes
I'd be going through situations like my mom playing trick for me, your heart will play a
real big trick on you too, especially when it's a person. It's like, should I forgive this person
for what they did? Should I just forget it? Forget the forgiveness? Or should I just say, I forgive you,
but I ain't gonna forget. You know, it's like, it's like, what can I take? What can I do, you know?
Because it's like, especially if you and that person has a deep relationship, but like I said,
you got to pay attention to them signs because you fooled me one time. That's the same on you.
I caught you, ha ha, and I got you down. That's on you. But the second time, it shouldn't be a
second time. It shouldn't. I feel like it takes one good time for you to do something to me. That's
it. I'm sorry. I don't care because it's somebody's respect. And when it comes to forgiveness, it's
very hard. It's tricky. Like I said, it's very hard to forgive a person. But sometimes it's like,
you got to do what you got to do, baby. You really got to do what matters for you. Forgiveness
can take as long as it can, but don't take as much time because time will run out.
Am I right, Lati? Time will run out to the point where you be like, damn, I should have told them
this. I should have told them that. You know, God forbid, things happen. You know, we have
them arguments with our loved ones, or people we truly, you know, didn't know, a one day one,
something like that. And you know, we go time and time, months, you know, days, weeks, months,
down there years without talking to them because we weren't able to come together and sit down and
forgive each other. And then God forbid something happens to them. And it's like, over your head,
it is like, damn, I wish I would have told them I forget them. And it's like, I do forgive them,
but I just never told them. So that's what I'm saying. When it comes to forgiveness, y'all,
at times you got to be selfish, but you got to also let people know that certain things just
ain't gonna fly. And depending on switch, like I said, it's like, all right, I forgive you.
It ain't nothing. But if it's something so serious, so rare, like, you know, in relationships,
it's like a pill. It's a hard pill to swallow, especially when there's years plus involved
with friendships, relationships, it's hard to forgive a person. It's hard to really sit there
and really take that pill and, you know, try to sit there, chin up, chest out, you know,
with your chin out and chest out, and really just try to keep that poker face on when really
underneath that mask is like, I'm so fucking pissed. I want to cuss you out so bad. But I'll be like,
you know what, first before I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna show that I want to see what you want to say
first. Because I'm gonna tell y'all, you I feel like one conversation, a deep,
wrong folk conversation with a person or people, whatever the situation is, will fix everything.
However, it takes time, forgiveness, it takes time. But don't let it be so much time that
it's like, what's the point, you know, what's the purpose. And I, I had to tell myself that too,
because like, you know, at times, I don't like ending anything on bad terms. I don't. I don't.
Because it's like, you don't want to end anything off with a personal bad term, even if the situation
was not big, it could be so it could be small. You know, when you get older, you know, certain
stuff is like, all right, you got to walk away. Some people go, that's me, I'll go because I'm like,
something don't feel right. But I got to stop that because you don't want to leave the person on and
you don't just want to disappear on a person and then it has a person like, Oh my God, what did I do
to you? Because it's gonna be like, you know, that that plays a big part of forgiveness too. Like,
damn, you just left me high and dry. You just ghost me or have me like, sliding along the fence
with you. Like, I don't know if I should even intertwine with it, keep it going. Because like,
I don't even know what I want to forgive me. So you're like, I say this to say when it comes to
forgiveness, it's a lot. It's a lot. It's a lot that comes with it. I'm telling y'all like,
I'm not gonna lie to y'all. I've been in situations with my friends, and it took us a minute to regroup,
to recalculate everything that's going on. Because you know, time is a terrible thing to
waste. Especially when it comes to a situation that you know, could just be, you know,
patched up, good talk, good whatever way y'all get things, you know, handle things and stuff like
that, get it done. But if it's something that's really, really bad, you, it's gonna take time,
you know, it's gonna take time for you to regroup, to even see the person, to even want to sit down,
talk to it, talk to them. I understand, trust me, I've been in those situations. But it's just like,
you have to really be on top of it. While I still fresh, a little bit still fresh, so you
could be able to get the feel of, do you want to forgive or not? Even though at times, if you
don't forgive, you just got to make sure you leave on a no where, it's like, it's no bad vibes.
Like y'all know I'm big on the vibes, I'm big on the vibes. That's why when anything of the source
is don't feel right, and it don't look right, or I just don't know what to say. I'd rather sit down,
face to face, and talk about it with whomever it is concerning, it is too, because I want to see
your reaction. I want you to see my reaction. I'm real big on body language. And people, you know,
talk, we talk with our hands sometimes, don't get me wrong, because sometimes I talk with my hands,
but I'm mad when I'm happy, you know. I would like to see all that, because baby texting is not it.
It's not. I feel like you can't smile with me or try to play with me within the punctuations,
the emotions, everything, but oh, time's up, I don't even want to do it anymore. Like I don't
even know what is, I don't even know what, I don't even think I want to forgive you, because like,
why are you talking to me? I don't like that. Phone, I don't like that either, because the tone in my
ear, and it's like, mm-mm, I don't like that. Face time, it's like, it's like, in the middle, that's
why I prefer to have a grown conversation. It's evil, we meet up in a public place, or your house,
my house, I don't care, as long as we see each other in person, and we're able to get it all out,
because I'm telling y'all, one good conversation, one long conversation, you gotta cry about it,
whatever you gotta do in order to feel the need to forgive that person who do it, because I'm
telling you, forgiveness is one of the things that us as human beings, is like, it plays tricks on us.
It's like chess, not checkers, it's like, do I want to do it, do I want to make that move,
do I don't want to make that move, do I really want to give them a bit of a doubt, do he need,
or do she need to benefit it out, you would really matter, but you gotta think, because before it all,
you know, before arguments happen, you gotta think of all the good times. Sometimes we like,
fuck them good times, this is, what's going on now, I don't like that, if it keeps happening over and
over again, yeah, it's time to chuck them deacons up and go, but it just happened like, every so rare,
you know, rarely, okay, we'll be able to sit down, have a grown face to face conversation,
and let it out to the point where I be able to forgive you, okay, but I'm gonna, I want you
to think about this for a moment, let's think about it, because I know we are going through this
right now, is it someone out there that you miss so bad, but you just don't know how to communicate
with them, because it's something that they did, or it's a situation that you did, whatever, you know,
both parties play a part, that you just afraid to forgive them, or you forgave a person, you know,
how to talk with them, but it's just like, you didn't patch it up all the way, because that's
how I feel like, I forgive and forgave, but 75% of it, you know, is forgave, forgive and forgive,
but I need that 25% of it to be sealed up, so I don't have to think about it, don't need it to
come back up, if that makes sense, I want you to think about it for real, and I know it's somebody
out there, if it's not, mostly it's somebody out there that feels the need to reach out to this
person and be like, look, I know we ain't on the best terms right now, I know you're the ones
talking with me, but I feel as though that it's time for us to have an adult conversation, because
forgiveness is, you know, forgiveness is key, and we're adults, and we need to
learn how to forgive and forget, even if we don't, you know, continue to, if we don't go back to how
things was, if it takes time, whatever the case may be, I'm telling y'all, one conversation can
change everything, it will take time, things is not going to happen overnight, but if you do forgive
a person within the forgiveness, it's going to take time, you're not going to forgive them right
to the next, unless if it's something petty, all right, cool, forget it, forget it, you know,
we had them little petty arguments, she's like, I'm not going to forget you, I think about it,
all right, that don't count, we're talking about serious things that we feel is done, like,
impact what our feelings are, real, real feelings, you know, like if you did me dirty, or did me
crime, you know, things like that, you know, those type of things, or like, basically, overall,
if you felt like you can disrespect it, it's going to take time, to be able to even want to sit down
with a person, and be like, okay, point out to them what happened, you know, both parties are able
to point out how they feel, because we're grown, you know, but you always got to keep that question
in your mind, do I want to forgive you, or do I don't, but if I do forgive you, and we don't, you
know, you know, go back to how it was, it's okay, as long as I forgave you in that chapter in my life,
it's sealed, patched up, it's not going to come back up, it is what it is, or we can fix it the
right way as adults, and if something was like this to ever come up again, be a hiccup, we know
how to handle it, and I know what to do before it comes again, because you don't want your mind
to play tricks on you, and like I said, let's keep that no role models lying in our head,
fool me one time, shame on you, fool me twice, can't put a blame on you, that's my fault,
that's your fault, if you let it happen again, like I said, it's just so many things in our life
that we can tolerate, and most people be like, I'm not tolerating shit, come correct, or don't come at
all, and sometimes like I said, you got to think like that, because if you've been in those situations
in your life where you're not taking bullshit, you got to do what you got to do, and sometimes you
know me, I get people benefited of that, but sometimes it's like, I'm not giving you no more
benefit of the doubts, because it's like, you just, it's like sometimes you, I feel like you're playing
with me just to be playing, or I feel like okay, you did it, you were mad or woman enough to tell
me, you know it is what it is, and I'm able to forgive you, sometimes, you know, like I said,
y'all, it takes time, which I got to think about that time, and you got to think how big the situation
was, so with that being said, I will, if you have somebody in mind, or you know, going through it
right now, with battling on forgiveness, take that time to really think about it before you
address it, you know, because that's another thing sometimes we don't think before we do stuff,
like we don't think before we speak, you really got to sometimes think on the situation before you
do it, even at times we got to act out the situation on what we're going to say, what we're
going to do, so if anybody out there is going through this, or you know, having this in their life,
I wish y'all nothing but the best, I wish y'all nothing but good vibes out of it, I hope it works
highly in your favor, because like I said, it's hard, it's very hard as time to be able to forgive,
but sometimes we always got to think on how that person put an impact on us, you got to think of
sometimes the years, but sometimes y'all, the years don't matter, you know, so it's like it's
a very tricky game, it's a very, very tricky game that impacts with the mind and the heart,
so with that being said y'all, I hope that this episode really, really, really helped y'all,
if not y'all, somebody out there, because I'm telling y'all, forgiveness is one of the things
that is like, it is what it is, or we got it, or I got it, you know, it comes with them pros and
them cons, and I just hope that this episode helps y'all, because every day is a challenge, but every
day is something new, every day we come across things that we may or may not like, but like I
say, whoever you believe in, it's not going to put anything in your life that they know you cannot
handle, okay, so with that being said y'all, I wish y'all nothing but peace and blessings,
please be safe out here, also please bundle up, this is getting real cold outside a little bit,
just a tidbit, make sure y'all get them uggs, some Timberlings, Nike boots, whatever,
barren paws, claws, all that, the bubble coats, trench coats, hoodies, thermos, turtlenecks,
hats, beanie, spores, all that y'all, make sure y'all get it down, pet because baby is getting
a little brewery outside, and yeah, this time where people get sick as well, so yeah, please be
careful out here y'all, I hope this episode really does help someone or some of y'all, and as always,
you guys will hear from me next Wednesday, or whenever you guys feel the need to tune in with me,
okay, be safe and enjoy the rest of your day and weekend as well, and you guys will hear from me
next time, bye!