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Hey y'all, whether it's morning, evening, or afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys

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had decided to vibe with me. Yes, the one and only E. And for those of you who are new, welcome

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to Viving with E. And I hope you guys enjoy so far. And for the ones that are not new to this

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and true to this, hey y'all, what's going on? And hello everyone all together. Happy Wednesday.

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And I hope y'all Wednesday is going good or whatever day y'all guys listen to me. Hope your

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day is going good. So as always, if you're new here, whether you guys are on the go or on the

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move, I just want you guys to sit back, relax, and enjoy listening to my voice. Because as always,

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every vibe of the day is something special and it's always something very interesting.

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So without further ado, let's get into it. Today's vibe of the day is forgiveness.

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And the reason why today's vibe of the day is forgiveness is because I'm in that journey of

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forgiving a lot of people for a lot of things and forgiving a lot of things.

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You know, when you're in that, y'all know, I talk about it all the time. And if you're new here,

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I talk about always the mental. Always talk about how you got to make sure that you got to make sure

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you're mentally straight before you can continue to do anything and everything in your power

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to make sure that you're 100% willing to move on, especially when it comes to forgiving something

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or someone, it takes a while. It's a challenge that we have to, you know, prepare and make sure

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that we are ready to take on a challenge. Because especially when it comes to forgiving people and

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things, it takes time. It's not going to happen overnight. And at times it's like, just like you

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don't want to just say, fuck it. But at times it's like, depending on the situation of the person,

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like, hey, God, do what you got to do. And I'm in that stage in my life where now I can forgive you,

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but I'm not going to forget what happened. And I feel like we all been there. Like we all been in

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those stages in our life where we forgive a person, but sometimes we cannot forgive that. And it's

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okay. It's all right. We're human. Same thing with in the fight, something going on our life.

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I'm not going to forget that thing. But you also got to learn the balance of forgiveness

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and being able to forget it. So let's get into it. I'm gonna start off with a quote.

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I'm one of my favorite artists ever. And when he said this in a song, it was just like, wow.

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Because it happened. Yeah. So let's get into it. Yeah. Fool me one time, shame on you. Fool me twice.

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Can't put the blame on you. Fool me three times. F the peace sign, load the chop and let it rain on you.

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Once said J Cole. Now, the reason why I take this quote is because

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you know, sometimes we fall each other, you know, so it's like, okay, as they happen. Okay.

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You fool me once. Okay, that's shame on you. Because like, you look stupid.

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You do it again. That's shame on me because I already know how you are. But I let it happen.

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And it's just like, wow. And the three, you know, second time for me three times. He said, F the peace sign.

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You know, he chucked he chucked up the deuces and say, All right, I got to go. You know, and

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then that quote in the song, it just had me like, wow. It just came. It just had me like, wow.

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Because it's, it's, it's true. We all been through there. We all had those problems with it's like,

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okay, for me one time, shame on you. You know, it is what it is. But for me again, it's like, I'm a fool.

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Like, oh, it's like, why did I let you do that? Like, we just be standing there sometimes like,

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this is really happening. Like, it's crazy. I need to stop saying like, like, like,

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because I'm talking about where it's going to be. And I just don't want to mess up with y'all.

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This is Ron uncut. I'm gonna give you a Ron uncut, you know, ain't no,

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ain't no sugarcoating nothing. But yes, he said that in no role models. And when he said it in

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the song, I was just like, wow, because it's true. We all had the moments in our life where we'd be

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like, okay, he they pull me once. All right, that's shame on them. Because you got the wrong one.

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You do it again on a slick tip. It's all right. I'm a fool now, because I let you do it. And you

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know I'm not about that. But I just let you do it. And it just fucked me up. And I need to let you

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know, you do it again. It's effort, like, deuces, like you're wrong, especially if it depends on

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how close you are with the person. That's really fucked up. Because at times, it's hard to forgive

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a person, especially if you're so close to them, depending on what the situation is.

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Like, I understand how they go. Like, sometimes it's like, you don't want to be the bad guy,

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but sometimes you got to be the bigger person. And we phrase it. Sometimes, sometimes don't

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be wrong, y'all. Sometimes we're in situations where we've been in situations where we don't want

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to be the bigger person. Because when you be the bigger person, sometimes in certain situations,

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it's feel like, why I got to keep being the one to show you better not tell you.

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You know, why I got to keep telling you why not just show you. And I feel like being the

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bigger person in every situation matters because life is too short. Time is a terrible thing to

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waste. And I can't get my time back fussing and fighting with you and you're not going to get

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your time. Who's giving me time back fussing and fighting with anybody else, period.

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So with that being said, your forgiveness is a hard pill to swallow. It is.

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It is. Forgiving someone is a very hard, especially if you had a bond with that person

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when it comes to like friendships, relationships, family members, anything of relationship type of,

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you know, factor. Forgiveness is a win or lose game. Like imagine, you know, being in a situation

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with somebody, you know, y'all rocking out, wheels fall off. And something happened and you just feel

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like you've been played disrespect, whatever this little maybe. It's going to take time for you to

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get that person. It's going to take you a good amount of time for you to really, you know,

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like patch it up. Because I feel like at times we try to patch up things in our life and we try to

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get things to be set and strong. But at times things is not going to happen like that. And

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it's for a situation for me, forgiveness is very big. Because I'm a real easygoing person, you know,

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I believe in hearing people out and I believe in being adults and sitting down face to face rather

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than going on FaceTime, text messages or on the phone having a conversation because you need to

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really analyze and really sink in and understand what's going on so you can be able to forgive

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the person. Now let me tell you, it's not easy. It takes time for you to really want to even sit

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down and have a conversation with people because I'm not going to lie to y'all. Sometimes forgiveness

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is a good thing. Like I said, it comes with pros and cons. But if you really know and you see potential

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in that person and they tell you that they were wrong, like when a person is able to admit

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they're wrong, I feel like you're a real motherfucking person. Because that's where you get a sense of

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okay, I can forgive you, but it's going to take time. You can't forgive a person right in there.

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No, it takes time to even just accept things. It takes time for you to even be able, like I said,

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to sit down with a person, let alone be able to express what it is that you want to express.

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So I'm going to tell y'all forgiveness is one of the things that comes with pros and cons. And like

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I say, for those of you who are new here, when it comes to every vibe of the day, I always weigh

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out the pros and cons. And because with everything we do in life, it comes with pros and cons. And

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at times we just sit back and be like, oh my gosh, what I did was so wrong, but it felt right.

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And sometimes you got to be selfish with yourself. You have to be selfish, especially when it comes

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to that mental. And I'm going to say it again, I'm so big on the mental because the brain

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is always on the go. It's always moving. It's always clicking. It's always doing a lot of

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things that we just don't know about. And you just cannot put so much on your brain. Because when

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you do, it's going to make you go insane. Like you got to make sure you're mentally stable and make

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sure that you're in a place where you're saying like you're finding peace and things like that.

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So when it comes to forgiveness, y'all, like I say all the time when you're in those chapters of your

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life, where you're willing to do for the better for yourself and willing to do for yourself,

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X, Y, and Z, sometimes you got to make amends with people that you know is going to take time for

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you to forgive, but you're willing to forget it. You're willing to, you know, tell them, you know,

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I forgive you, but I'm not going to forget it. It's going to take time for me for forgiveness.

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Because I'm going to tell y'all, I mean one thing about me, like I said, I'm an easy go person,

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you know, cool comic collect, but when it comes to my feelings, when it comes to my feelings,

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I'm real big on my feelings because I don't believe it. I don't believe I'm a respect,

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especially if you was grown, like grown up around a lot of people that was, you know, big on respect,

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manners, everything like that, like real Southern hospitality, things like that. You don't got time

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for that. You don't. And you, and it sucks to say, y'all, like sometimes you expected from the people

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you wish you never expected from and like your family members, relationships, friendships,

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you know, but I believe in them saying, in the saying that people come for a season and it's

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some people that's here for a reason. So you got to really be able to know who's here for, like,

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for that, for that reason. And you got to know who's here for them season because if you see so

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many red flags or have so many arguments and you just forgive and forgive, you know, let's keep that

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line from J. Cole in our head, you know, for me once I'm okay to shame on you because I got you,

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I caught you and I told you, okay, I'm gonna forgive you this time. But that's not happening again.

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But if it happened again, and I let it happen again, I'm a fool because I know, I know what I

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can take, I know what I can take, and I know what I can't take. And nobody's gonna take bullshit from

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anyone over and over and over again. I don't care who you are, family, friends, call workers under

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that. With kind of respect, like I say all the time, you got to be big on it. You got to be really

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big on your respect and who you are because you matter regardless of anything in your life. Sometimes

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you got to be selfish. You got to be really, really, really selfish when it comes to you.

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I don't care if you got a lot on your plate. Sometimes you got to take five, 10, 15, 20, an

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hour, two hours, three, four hours to really regroup on yourself. And you got to really

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have them mirror conversations and stuff like, listen up, we ain't gonna take this today. I'm

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not having that today. We're gonna do this today. We're gonna do that today, especially when it

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comes to being able to sit down with someone with another person, basically sit down like adults

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and tell them what's going, what it is and what it's not. If they can't accept it, you got to let

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them go. You got to be like, okay, I'm gonna forgive you, but I'm not gonna forget what you did.

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And if you are not able to come on one accord, throw them deuces of assistance bro and let them go

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because you cannot keep trying to forgive and forgive and they're not forgiving you or they

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act like it is what it is. Like I say, you got to be selfish when it comes to your stuff. I'm real

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big on self. This is what my pocket is based on self improvement, self empowerment, anything

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all over the self. It's first when it comes to my black community, we got to be selfish for

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us all. We got to know what we can take and what we can't take. And when it comes to forgiveness,

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it plays a real tricky game on us because it's like we have them relationships with people that we

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just don't want to let go. But if it's just signs and flags and XYZ that we see and I keep forgetting

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or going past it, but it takes only one time that one good goddamn time you see it. It's like, oh,

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I can't forget this shit. I can't let this shit pass. Forgiveness is one of the trickiest things

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ever. It is, but it's like, like I say, you got to be selfish. You got to think what's right for you.

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And every day is a walking testimony for you. It's like, what can you take today? And what I'm

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not going to take today? Like for me, I wake up in the morning, get myself together and everything.

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I have to listen to music to get myself motivated, even if I'm having a good or bad day, I still got

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to listen to some music to get me motivated. Regardless of what's going on, because sometimes

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I'd be going through situations like my mom playing trick for me, your heart will play a

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real big trick on you too, especially when it's a person. It's like, should I forgive this person

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for what they did? Should I just forget it? Forget the forgiveness? Or should I just say, I forgive you,

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but I ain't gonna forget. You know, it's like, it's like, what can I take? What can I do, you know?

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Because it's like, especially if you and that person has a deep relationship, but like I said,

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you got to pay attention to them signs because you fooled me one time. That's the same on you.

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I caught you, ha ha, and I got you down. That's on you. But the second time, it shouldn't be a

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second time. It shouldn't. I feel like it takes one good time for you to do something to me. That's

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it. I'm sorry. I don't care because it's somebody's respect. And when it comes to forgiveness, it's

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very hard. It's tricky. Like I said, it's very hard to forgive a person. But sometimes it's like,

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you got to do what you got to do, baby. You really got to do what matters for you. Forgiveness

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can take as long as it can, but don't take as much time because time will run out.

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Am I right, Lati? Time will run out to the point where you be like, damn, I should have told them

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this. I should have told them that. You know, God forbid, things happen. You know, we have

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them arguments with our loved ones, or people we truly, you know, didn't know, a one day one,

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something like that. And you know, we go time and time, months, you know, days, weeks, months,

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down there years without talking to them because we weren't able to come together and sit down and

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forgive each other. And then God forbid something happens to them. And it's like, over your head,

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it is like, damn, I wish I would have told them I forget them. And it's like, I do forgive them,

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but I just never told them. So that's what I'm saying. When it comes to forgiveness, y'all,

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at times you got to be selfish, but you got to also let people know that certain things just

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ain't gonna fly. And depending on switch, like I said, it's like, all right, I forgive you.

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It ain't nothing. But if it's something so serious, so rare, like, you know, in relationships,

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it's like a pill. It's a hard pill to swallow, especially when there's years plus involved

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with friendships, relationships, it's hard to forgive a person. It's hard to really sit there

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and really take that pill and, you know, try to sit there, chin up, chest out, you know,

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with your chin out and chest out, and really just try to keep that poker face on when really

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underneath that mask is like, I'm so fucking pissed. I want to cuss you out so bad. But I'll be like,

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you know what, first before I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna show that I want to see what you want to say

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first. Because I'm gonna tell y'all, you I feel like one conversation, a deep,

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wrong folk conversation with a person or people, whatever the situation is, will fix everything.

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However, it takes time, forgiveness, it takes time. But don't let it be so much time that

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it's like, what's the point, you know, what's the purpose. And I, I had to tell myself that too,

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because like, you know, at times, I don't like ending anything on bad terms. I don't. I don't.

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Because it's like, you don't want to end anything off with a personal bad term, even if the situation

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was not big, it could be so it could be small. You know, when you get older, you know, certain

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stuff is like, all right, you got to walk away. Some people go, that's me, I'll go because I'm like,

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something don't feel right. But I got to stop that because you don't want to leave the person on and

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you don't just want to disappear on a person and then it has a person like, Oh my God, what did I do

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to you? Because it's gonna be like, you know, that that plays a big part of forgiveness too. Like,

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damn, you just left me high and dry. You just ghost me or have me like, sliding along the fence

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with you. Like, I don't know if I should even intertwine with it, keep it going. Because like,

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I don't even know what I want to forgive me. So you're like, I say this to say when it comes to

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forgiveness, it's a lot. It's a lot. It's a lot that comes with it. I'm telling y'all like,

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I'm not gonna lie to y'all. I've been in situations with my friends, and it took us a minute to regroup,

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to recalculate everything that's going on. Because you know, time is a terrible thing to

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waste. Especially when it comes to a situation that you know, could just be, you know,

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patched up, good talk, good whatever way y'all get things, you know, handle things and stuff like

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that, get it done. But if it's something that's really, really bad, you, it's gonna take time,

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you know, it's gonna take time for you to regroup, to even see the person, to even want to sit down,

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talk to it, talk to them. I understand, trust me, I've been in those situations. But it's just like,

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you have to really be on top of it. While I still fresh, a little bit still fresh, so you

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could be able to get the feel of, do you want to forgive or not? Even though at times, if you

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don't forgive, you just got to make sure you leave on a no where, it's like, it's no bad vibes.

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Like y'all know I'm big on the vibes, I'm big on the vibes. That's why when anything of the source

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is don't feel right, and it don't look right, or I just don't know what to say. I'd rather sit down,

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face to face, and talk about it with whomever it is concerning, it is too, because I want to see

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your reaction. I want you to see my reaction. I'm real big on body language. And people, you know,

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talk, we talk with our hands sometimes, don't get me wrong, because sometimes I talk with my hands,

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but I'm mad when I'm happy, you know. I would like to see all that, because baby texting is not it.

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It's not. I feel like you can't smile with me or try to play with me within the punctuations,

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the emotions, everything, but oh, time's up, I don't even want to do it anymore. Like I don't

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even know what is, I don't even know what, I don't even think I want to forgive you, because like,

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why are you talking to me? I don't like that. Phone, I don't like that either, because the tone in my

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ear, and it's like, mm-mm, I don't like that. Face time, it's like, it's like, in the middle, that's

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why I prefer to have a grown conversation. It's evil, we meet up in a public place, or your house,

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my house, I don't care, as long as we see each other in person, and we're able to get it all out,

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because I'm telling y'all, one good conversation, one long conversation, you gotta cry about it,

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whatever you gotta do in order to feel the need to forgive that person who do it, because I'm

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telling you, forgiveness is one of the things that us as human beings, is like, it plays tricks on us.

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It's like chess, not checkers, it's like, do I want to do it, do I want to make that move,

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do I don't want to make that move, do I really want to give them a bit of a doubt, do he need,

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or do she need to benefit it out, you would really matter, but you gotta think, because before it all,

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you know, before arguments happen, you gotta think of all the good times. Sometimes we like,

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fuck them good times, this is, what's going on now, I don't like that, if it keeps happening over and

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over again, yeah, it's time to chuck them deacons up and go, but it just happened like, every so rare,

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you know, rarely, okay, we'll be able to sit down, have a grown face to face conversation,

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and let it out to the point where I be able to forgive you, okay, but I'm gonna, I want you

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to think about this for a moment, let's think about it, because I know we are going through this

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right now, is it someone out there that you miss so bad, but you just don't know how to communicate

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with them, because it's something that they did, or it's a situation that you did, whatever, you know,

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both parties play a part, that you just afraid to forgive them, or you forgave a person, you know,

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how to talk with them, but it's just like, you didn't patch it up all the way, because that's

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how I feel like, I forgive and forgave, but 75% of it, you know, is forgave, forgive and forgive,

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but I need that 25% of it to be sealed up, so I don't have to think about it, don't need it to

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come back up, if that makes sense, I want you to think about it for real, and I know it's somebody

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out there, if it's not, mostly it's somebody out there that feels the need to reach out to this

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person and be like, look, I know we ain't on the best terms right now, I know you're the ones

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talking with me, but I feel as though that it's time for us to have an adult conversation, because

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forgiveness is, you know, forgiveness is key, and we're adults, and we need to

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learn how to forgive and forget, even if we don't, you know, continue to, if we don't go back to how

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things was, if it takes time, whatever the case may be, I'm telling y'all, one conversation can

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change everything, it will take time, things is not going to happen overnight, but if you do forgive

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a person within the forgiveness, it's going to take time, you're not going to forgive them right

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to the next, unless if it's something petty, all right, cool, forget it, forget it, you know,

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we had them little petty arguments, she's like, I'm not going to forget you, I think about it,

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all right, that don't count, we're talking about serious things that we feel is done, like,

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impact what our feelings are, real, real feelings, you know, like if you did me dirty, or did me

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crime, you know, things like that, you know, those type of things, or like, basically, overall,

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if you felt like you can disrespect it, it's going to take time, to be able to even want to sit down

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with a person, and be like, okay, point out to them what happened, you know, both parties are able

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to point out how they feel, because we're grown, you know, but you always got to keep that question

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in your mind, do I want to forgive you, or do I don't, but if I do forgive you, and we don't, you

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know, you know, go back to how it was, it's okay, as long as I forgave you in that chapter in my life,

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it's sealed, patched up, it's not going to come back up, it is what it is, or we can fix it the

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right way as adults, and if something was like this to ever come up again, be a hiccup, we know

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how to handle it, and I know what to do before it comes again, because you don't want your mind

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to play tricks on you, and like I said, let's keep that no role models lying in our head,

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fool me one time, shame on you, fool me twice, can't put a blame on you, that's my fault,

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that's your fault, if you let it happen again, like I said, it's just so many things in our life

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that we can tolerate, and most people be like, I'm not tolerating shit, come correct, or don't come at

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all, and sometimes like I said, you got to think like that, because if you've been in those situations

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in your life where you're not taking bullshit, you got to do what you got to do, and sometimes you

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know me, I get people benefited of that, but sometimes it's like, I'm not giving you no more

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benefit of the doubts, because it's like, you just, it's like sometimes you, I feel like you're playing

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with me just to be playing, or I feel like okay, you did it, you were mad or woman enough to tell

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me, you know it is what it is, and I'm able to forgive you, sometimes, you know, like I said,

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y'all, it takes time, which I got to think about that time, and you got to think how big the situation

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was, so with that being said, I will, if you have somebody in mind, or you know, going through it

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right now, with battling on forgiveness, take that time to really think about it before you

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address it, you know, because that's another thing sometimes we don't think before we do stuff,

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like we don't think before we speak, you really got to sometimes think on the situation before you

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do it, even at times we got to act out the situation on what we're going to say, what we're

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going to do, so if anybody out there is going through this, or you know, having this in their life,

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I wish y'all nothing but the best, I wish y'all nothing but good vibes out of it, I hope it works

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highly in your favor, because like I said, it's hard, it's very hard as time to be able to forgive,

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but sometimes we always got to think on how that person put an impact on us, you got to think of

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sometimes the years, but sometimes y'all, the years don't matter, you know, so it's like it's

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a very tricky game, it's a very, very tricky game that impacts with the mind and the heart,

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so with that being said y'all, I hope that this episode really, really, really helped y'all,

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if not y'all, somebody out there, because I'm telling y'all, forgiveness is one of the things

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that is like, it is what it is, or we got it, or I got it, you know, it comes with them pros and

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them cons, and I just hope that this episode helps y'all, because every day is a challenge, but every

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day is something new, every day we come across things that we may or may not like, but like I

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say, whoever you believe in, it's not going to put anything in your life that they know you cannot

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handle, okay, so with that being said y'all, I wish y'all nothing but peace and blessings,

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please be safe out here, also please bundle up, this is getting real cold outside a little bit,

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just a tidbit, make sure y'all get them uggs, some Timberlings, Nike boots, whatever,

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barren paws, claws, all that, the bubble coats, trench coats, hoodies, thermos, turtlenecks,

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hats, beanie, spores, all that y'all, make sure y'all get it down, pet because baby is getting

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a little brewery outside, and yeah, this time where people get sick as well, so yeah, please be

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careful out here y'all, I hope this episode really does help someone or some of y'all, and as always,

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you guys will hear from me next Wednesday, or whenever you guys feel the need to tune in with me,

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okay, be safe and enjoy the rest of your day and weekend as well, and you guys will hear from me

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next time, bye!