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Hey y'all, whether it's morning, evening, or afternoon, I'm just glad that you guys

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had decided to vibe with me, the one and only, and I'm thrilled to let y'all know what today's

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vibe of the day is. If you're new here, welcome. And if you're old, hey y'all. So whether you

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want to go or want to move, I just want you guys to sit back, relax and enjoy the show.

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Because as always, and if you're new here once again, every vibe of the day is something special.

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So yeah, like I said, sit back, relax and enjoy the show, but if you want to go on the move, I just

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want you guys to get real comfortable staying soon and you know, vibe out with me. So let's get started.

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Today's vibe of the day is all about you. With that being said, the reason why I wanted to do

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all about you is because lately, I need to focus on me. You need to really focus on you,

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your self-care, your self-love, everything you, you really need to pay attention to. Sometimes you

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gotta be selfish within your life. Sometimes you really just gotta do for you, no matter what it is,

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you know, you gotta do for you. Even though at times people may think, oh you being selfish,

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or some people be like, oh you need some time for you, X, Y, and Z. Yes. So shout out to y'all.

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Because this is, I feel like this one is a very, very important topic to discuss because a lot of

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us out here can relate that we do not do a lot of self-care. And with that being said, we don't take

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a lot of initiative on, we don't take a lot of initiative on doing for us. I can see you now,

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like within the last episode, you know, talking about well-being and stuff, that impacts with your

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life as well. Y'all, I don't know why the mic is cutting in and out. I got a new mic, y'all. It's

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cutting in and out on me. Like, maybe I'm hitting the button, but sorry. But yes, y'all, like when it

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comes to us, you, you, you're one and only self, you really have to take initiative and pride in

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being able to be and live for you, regardless of whatever's going on in your life. I don't care

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if it's good or bad. You need to focus on you and you need to make sure that you are good at all

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times. Even if you are in fucked up situations where right now might not be the time for you and

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things like that. But you really, really, really need to take the time and initiative to really

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focus on you, rather if nobody else is like spoiling you mentally and physically. Because I feel like

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when it comes to us, we are the only ones that knows what's right and what's wrong for us. We're

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the ones that knows what's good for us, rather than you know sometimes specialists tell us before we

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do. Like for example, I'm going to school to be a social worker. And at times, as a social worker,

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you got to reflect on you by getting help. Like sometimes you have to get help from other social

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workers, therapists, counselors, X, Y and Z, because they are professionals just professionals,

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just like you are. And we all go through stuff such as like with doctors and nurses and lawyers

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and teachers and professors and stuff like that. Fire, fires, police officers, all mechanics, X, Y,

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Z, they all go through shit in a life. You know, and at times like you have to go out there and

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find the people that you are related to within the workforce or like in life in general,

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to help you. You know, one thing about it and two things for sure, don't be afraid to get help,

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because I'm telling you all now like don't be like me at a certain point in time, I was afraid to

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get help. When I am, I'm like, I'm in my 20s now, it took me a good while to accept the fact that to

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get help into X for help, no matter how big or small the situation is. Like when I was like

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18 and younger, I didn't like, I did not like Xing for help because it honestly just took a toll on

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me. And I felt like certain stuff that I asked for help with it. Sometimes I felt like nobody's

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gonna help me with because like nobody will understand. But you'll be surprised at the people

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that are really there for you and that really understands you, especially when it comes to

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your well being. You know, when it comes to you, you know, like when you were little, they had

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them all about you projects. When you was little, like you have like, this is me, this is who's in

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my life, X, Y, and Z. Let's reflect on those projects right now for a minute. If you could

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remember, because I can remember feeling like the pictures always like took the cake from me.

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My, my projects had to be a lot of pictures. Like I didn't like a lot of writing. Probably because

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when you're little, you know, your handwriting is not so up to par. So you have to use pictures

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and tell the story like that. Like, you know, the saying a picture can tell a thousand words,

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you know, a picture worth a thousand words. And it tells us a thousand words, you know, that people

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might not understand. Because sometimes you got to go deeper into it, especially when it comes to

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us. We have to dig deep into who we are and what are we, you know, because that sounds like the

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question. Sometimes I don't like ask answering is who are you? Is it just me or sometimes you got

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to think like, who am I really like, like in the stepfather, who am I here? Because like you, you

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really be like, damn, who the hell am I? It's like, you know who you are. But it's like, when it comes

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to putting it in motherfucking words, good words, it's like, damn, who am I? Sometimes I'd be like,

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damn, I write it. Somebody else tell me who I am versus who I am. When I was young guys think

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like that. I'd rather people tell me who I am. But now I'm old. I'm like, hell no, I don't want

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to buy telling me who I am because sometimes people will try to do some envious shit to you,

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let alone put some shit on your name that you don't even know. You know, I like people say like,

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olden rumors you're hearing, or add some more shit on it as well, just to believe it. And I feel

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like that's another issue that we have when it comes to you, like just being you, you're going to be

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the most coolest chill layback chicken or dude in the in the club or the party, wherever you at.

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And there'll be one person that hate on you, they're going to say, oh, he she this, they bullshit,

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he and she this, they did this, he she did that. I don't like that he say she say shit, because

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that shouldn't cause you in a whole bunch of shit too. Like I say, in order to know me, you have to

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really get to know me. You can't just don't judge me, don't judge somebody, you know, I'm about to

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give it to you. And if you're new, I'm about to give it to you too. Don't judge a book by its cover.

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If you did not take time to sit down, open that book, read it, get the main ideas, contact clues,

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and things like that. If you don't like that damn book, shut it and leave it as it is. And I feel

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that way about a person like if you really want to get to know the real you like if you want to get

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to real you feel want to get to know that real person, let alone you want somebody to get to

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know the real you, you have to give them a chance to really analyze you get the main idea about you

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contact clues and things they never like things that you never seen within yourself that they

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have seen within you, you know, you got to give people the benefit of the doubt. You can't just

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let people do you dirty and one thing about me, I'm not going to let them off. I'm going to be

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me dirty again. I don't give a damn family or friends and the co workers, colleagues, no,

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you're not going to be me dirty because when it comes to me, me, you, when it comes to E,

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is a lot of shit that I value now that a lot of that I didn't value when I was younger as in

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like certain responsibilities and certain things that you need to take initiative of because when

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it comes to you and you rely on me and get older certain shit don't please you no more certain

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shit used to please you when you was a little ass boy a little ass girl but now when you a grown

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ass woman or a grown ass man certain shit just don't please you no more. You know, like you can't

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please me with certain bullshit you used to feed me when I was younger. No, I'm grown now. This is

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the new me and I'm a treat this new me like it's supposed to be treated because God forbid all of

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us been through some shit and nobody wants to go back into that chapter of their life when they

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was dealing with shit and you would just hear from people like you was this you was that you you you

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you and people get the point and find the shit I ain't got time for that because the new me

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when I look in the mirror I be like you you girl you miss thing you are really growing you're really

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blossoming you're really turning into this jewel that you've been praying for for a minute. Let me

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tell y'all something you gotta have that mirror conversation with yourself and be like listen up

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sis brown whatever you gotta have that mirror conversation and give yourself words of encouragement

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even when shit is not going right in your life you have to give yourself that motivation because

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motivation is key like how they say communication is key with you know when you're with people and

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things like that or in a relationship friendship whatever communication is key regardless to

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work life everything communication is key in our everyday life because in order for you to get

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things done it was gonna get in here things and x y z whatever communication is key you have to

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communicate some type of shape or form even if you're doing it verbally or you gotta do it digitally

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communication is key letting somebody know that you know I'm here and I know what the hell's going on

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and yeah but when it comes to you y'all you really got a thing like you really got to even out what

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you want to allow and what you're not gonna allow because I'm telling you right now for the new me

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when I be looking at her in the mirror like baby look you you had 10 times better than what you

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was last year okay you were 10 times better than you was last year you was in fucked up positions

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where you felt like it was the end of the world you thought that at one point in time you couldn't

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be this person because of what's going on and let me tell you something every day is a challenge

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every day is the motherfucking challenge for you it's one of the challenges in the world that you

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think wow god or whoever you believe in like I say and if you're new here I'm gonna say this too

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whoever you believe in an x y and z they challenge you every day to see what can you manage and what

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you can't manage and let me tell you something y'all when I was sick I was surprised at the

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shit that I was managing let alone handling because baby I was mentally and physically fucked up

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I really I physically didn't want to do shit mentally I was like fuck it I'm drained but you

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gotta test your stuff and shit like I said at times we need to focus on that well-being

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sometimes it's like whoa damn I'm testing myself because I didn't know what I was capable of

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but when I sing I was like damn you motherfucking crazy you need to sit your ass down but you

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did it you did that shit so little things you need to just tell yourself like it's a lot y'all

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it's a lot when it comes to you it's a lot too wanting to do better for yourself let alone wanting

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to see the good of yourself because like I said them rumors will have a fucked up label for you

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like I ain't writing a lot of y'all I heard some crazy stuff people said about me and I just be like

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you need to get the chance to really sit down and read me but this thing about me I love to keep

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a motherfucker wondering I love to keep people guessing about me because I'm not the type of person

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to be openly free you gotta leave this is the thing that people also fail to realize especially

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when you get grown when you hit that 18 I feel like when you hit 18 that's when you're grown but

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grown grown when you turn 21 you know when you legal now that finds the wine stuff you gotta have a

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motherfucking guessing you gotta leave a motherfucking guessing you gotta leave a mystery for yourself

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you don't want to give everybody the full motherfucking platform blueprint of you because once they get

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it like oh damn I know what the fuck I'm gonna do with her him or her I know them now I know

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what they keep up I know what they not capable of you know I love to keep a motherfucker guessing

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even from people that you know if I seen you four or five years ago and seen you four or three

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years later they still be like whoa I didn't know that about you because I like to keep you guessing

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I don't even tell nobody I just be like I know I bet you didn't especially with time when you get

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older when there's a new chapter in your life is either you grow or you're fucking sink and I

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just seen some people grow to the beautiful the beautifulest flowers ever some is in the middle

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like you need hella more sunlight to get where you at and then some just like still in the pitch of

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dirt plays don't know and that's a problem when it comes to you if you feel like you want to do

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better sometimes you got to take motherfuckers out your life that's not impacting you and replace them

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with people that are willing to help you now that's the tricky the tricky part too at times when it

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comes to you wanting to change you do for the better you need to really analyze everything too

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like me like I say I keep a mystery it always analyze people in the world because you never know

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who real who fake you know you gotta you gotta see what you putting yourself into these places and

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situations especially when it comes to relationships and friendships and work life relationships because

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when you are in the position where you know for a fact you know who you are and you know what you

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stand for you know what the fuck you're going to do and what you're not going to do you got to keep

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that in mind sometimes like sometimes we have to put it to the side like put that side of us on the

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back burner but it when it comes to your respect baby when it comes to my respect your respect as

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well you need to be 10 toes down I don't give a damn if it involves your career your academics life

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whatever if you feel like you're there and being disrespected or something that's not going right

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you don't like it let it be known don't be a damn afraid shit because another thing me I was so

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afraid to be outspoken like all the people around me because I was like I don't know what's

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going on the outcome going to be the same it's not going to be the same it's not going to be the

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same it's not really going to be the same because I'm not really lying to you everybody's not the

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same but you're not the same as me and I'm not the same as you but you believe the blue you

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believe the way I damn bleed shit man or female we all bleed the same whatever but everything is

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different especially when it comes to who we are and some of the things we believe and I stand on

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this to say like when it comes to you don't be afraid on what you believe in and what you stand on

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however you just can't be biased to everything I feel like when we change put a better you know

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this the new you you this you that you yeah well sometimes we bias ourselves into things where

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it put us in a box that has people from the outside looking in like what the hell is wrong

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with you and I feel like at times when you bias a lot of things with the outside looking in

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they'll automatically analyze you like oh you you're you're um whoo I'm trying to think of

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that word it just it just came I'm out and just went away like um baby like um hypocritical

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and all that type stuff like you're really fucked up they'd be like you're fucked up like y'all

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I'm not really lied to y'all sometimes being biased is good and it's especially when it comes to

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your situation it comes to you sometimes the certain things that has happened in your life

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might not be the same happening in my life but we might have the same opinions that we might not

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have the same opinions and at times it gets to the point where oh you're being biased and you

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you need to change that and I'm gonna tell y'all something when it comes to you it didn't also

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bias man it's a lot because what you stand on people might call it bias because the way you

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address it and me I always look at it as sometimes you have to be biased and stand tall and firm

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through everything you've been through we're talking about because most people take it as a joke

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people sometimes people like to take you as a damn joke and I ain't got time to be played with as a

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joke as I'm getting older and growner and wiser I'm focused on what me e has to do as a person

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to make sure that I know when to hold and fold them because especially when it comes to what

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somebody's trying to play with your image like they're like oh you this you that blah blah blah

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blah blah no I'm not gonna sit here and let you try to downplay me you're not gonna do that

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because this me ain't got time me right here I ran through enough and me now knows what

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not to take and what to take from me when it comes to bullshit y'all that's another thing

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when you're in a chat in your life you know you're doing better for you you you you who

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when you doing better for you sometimes people always want to try to sugar you people always

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want to try to fuck with you I'm y'all know if you knew here I'm gonna give you see Ron uncut

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that's my whole morning I'm not sugarcoating shit because at times it's best to know the real deal

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because a lot of people be like oh my gosh what how you know that let me tell you why no

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sometimes you gotta teach yourself you have to do things that's gonna only impact you

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like I'm not very likely my parents god bless their souls they taught me a lot of things

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but certain stuff that I wanted to teach myself I sat there and was like look I want to learn this

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I'm gonna learn this for myself and that's the thing sometimes we also

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fail to realize that we need even though we're learning us we need to learn new things that

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can also help impact us such as like physical self-care overall the border let me just say that

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that impact of your well-being physical means to all that when it comes to your self-care at times

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you gotta sit down and talk to somebody even if you're like I mentioned earlier if you're in the

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careers of willing to help people period like me I'm a social work major and I never thought about

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like you know sometimes you really have to sit back and focus on you when it comes to your self-care

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because it's like you have to prepare yourself for sitting in a room among others that you're

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willing to help you know willing to sign up as a career for years and years down the line you

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know to even out open your own practice like you really have to think and you really have to be

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mentally and physically prepared for this because if you're not ready if you got demons like your

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own and shit you need to let out get them out before you even get the degree I ain't realizing

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because there's some people I know that are in these fields and I feel like they just ended for

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the money and because they're they're drained they like man this ain't for you this ain't for you

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what's for me might not be the same as what's for you you know you got to keep in mind too like

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my you and your you is different we are totally different people we're humans yeah

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sweet humans but certain stuff that you know I like you might not like and say if we are in the

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same career field you might not want to do this because this might not be for you because you know

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deep down silent this ain't for me this ain't for me this ain't for me and that's okay because you

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know what you want and you know what you don't want and that's the whole motive of what I'm trying to

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say when it comes to you you need to stand tall firm you need to stand tall and firm or what you

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want and what you need to know for you to be better you need to take a lot of things with a

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great assault because you'll be surprised at what you listen to what you see whatever at times it

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can grasp your attention like damn it just like it screams you you know how sometimes he'd be like

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oh this outfit screams you the clothes stuff screams you I believe that too because like

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certain stuff screams me and I'd be like me you you you you you you you you I would have damn

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taken five of but yes like certain stuff it screams you and when another person can see that in a good

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way because you know like I said there's always people out here it's always people out here that

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want to be negative and we ain't got time for that okay so when it comes to you I'm gonna say this

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please stand ten toes on what you what you believe in what you know and what is you who are you

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you gotta have that question in your mind and have that mirror conversation with yourself

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be like is this me is this who I really want to be do I like me right now like are you benefiting

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anything from me y'all know I love using examples like world real-life world examples for example my

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favorite show ever it's secure Issa Rae when she had the mirror conversation with herself

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and herself was talking back to her I wish at times that can happen for us because sometimes

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we really need to hear ourselves clearly it's not like you know we hear ourselves but I want to

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hear myself and see myself clearly be like what is going on you know because the only way that we

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can help ourselves is by knowing what we want and what we don't want y'all when I was watching

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insecure and she was having a mirror conversation with herself I was like wow I'm telling you that

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mirror conversation is going to help you even if you don't do it in the morning or before you go to

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bed have the mirror conversations anywhere if you have to even fit in the car you know the rear

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of your mirror your car and mirrors in your purse the mirrors at the barbershop the mirrors at the

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bar I don't care if you gotta look a glint we know you know we come on now we know for a fact we

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love looking at ourselves so shoot I love looking at myself every time I got my eyebrows and my

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hair done I got to look at myself shoot you know because baby I'd be like you look good and I always

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tell myself in the mirror to like you're gonna have a good day you're gonna get this shit together

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you're gonna shake this shit because I ain't realized to you at times our inner selves we have them

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episodes where it sometimes launches back in the past and that affects our new you and I ain't

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realized y'all over the weekend you know after all the stuff that was going through with my university and things like that I almost had that moment of like going back in the past of lashing out on things don't get me wrong I respect everybody that

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checked up on me everything but sometimes every day I just felt like I just got trapped with him are you okay

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it's like don't get me wrong I love when people check up on me you know but I'm not the type to look for sympathy

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but it just shows that you care for me and I care for you as well but it's just like sometimes enough

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it's like everything you know every time I turn around on tv every time I turn around

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every time I turn around on the tv there you go every time I look on social media there you go every time I walk outside there you go like you know so it's like

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sometimes I just felt like it was no way of me walking away from it but you know I say you know what I can't go back into the past I can't

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have that old me affect my new the new me because that's gonna have me in a mirror like

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you are fucking that you need to get it together you need to you know x y z and trust me you when you

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know shit about the pop off in your life but it ain't good hurry up and find the nearest exit for you to

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woo sigh and get your shit together trust me y'all probably laughing like what the hell but I'm telling y'all

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if you can't have a mirror conversation sometimes you gotta like step outside and talk to yourself to

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get yourself to give yourself down you gotta give yourself a pep talk you you you have to make sure

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that you are good at all times mentally and physically because you only have one life so you

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better live it like it's like it's golden like I said do it like it's your b day every day even

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when you're having shitty days you need to make sure that you are happy because bad times don't

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last forever them hard ass long ass the present times don't last forever take it from me okay

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it's gonna last probably like a good little my maximum I say be like three months I don't even

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want that to happen but six nine twelve up to a year we ain't having that if you know you need to get

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help go get it if you know you need to take this person out your life you go do it if you need to

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replace it go do it if you need to get a drink in there go do it but don't be hooked on it because

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no don't be hooked on them there go out and weed as well sometimes you gotta smoke a little joint to

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boo sigh but nevertheless y'all all I'm saying is when it comes to you you have to make sure that

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you are good at all times because I'm telling y'all it's been moments where you wake up and roll

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out of bed like this ain't it you're not gonna have a good day and you just gotta realize like

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like I said them all them them hard ass times don't last forever and don't wear that on your sleeve

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because it's going to affect you and then it's gonna have people and outside looking at like oh you

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are bad you just you know you don't want people to label you as something you not like I don't

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like people say bougie because bougie could be anything because my new definition of bougie is

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whatever the meagol say bad and bougie whatever they say I said I don't fit that I don't know what

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I'm about but like you know you gotta really don't fake who you are I should just leave like that

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don't fake who you are being different is amazing being fit into the it crowd that ain't you know

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that ain't you and I know that ain't me because baby I'm alone me I'm gonna tell you right now

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I think I have more homeboys than homegirls and that's okay that's okay but you know I'm like

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outside looking in there and they're like oh she she messed with them uh no these are really like

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guys like they really consider me like one of them you know so see little things like that people

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will be like oh you this you that you this you that and I'm like and where's your proof sometimes

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you really gotta you gotta you gotta dig me like where's the proof where the proof it where the proof

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where the proof it where the proof it where's the proof that you know like don't say nothing about me

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if you don't know the fact like facts facts like if you say if you I be like this if you swear you

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know me so much tell me three to five things about me right off the rip sometimes you gotta

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sometimes you gotta really not I'm not gonna say my fuck people because sometimes when you do that

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people like oh you trying to mind fuck me no I'm trying to figure out what you think you know about

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me because if you know me so well then you should know what I like and what I don't like that goes

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and that's another thing too when it comes to you if you are surrounding yourself with people

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that you feel as though are your people and things like that you need to really really

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really need to scope out them also to make sure that they respect in who you are they

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respect in you and your damn boundaries and this vice versa because that's why we don't

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respect other's boundaries trust me at times we might not see that sometimes we slip in that is

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the big no no and me I'm just like a friend that I'm not gonna overstep my toes if I know

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something right or next wise yeah I'm not gonna overstep my boundaries but another thing is too

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when you're around people and they know you and if they're doing something to you that you know

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that they know and you know you ain't up for talk them do something leave because especially if it

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happens multiple times if the shit happens multiple times and it's affecting you and they know it's

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affecting you and sometimes people like to do this people like to play you in front of people I don't

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like that don't use me as a excuse me as a guinea pig as a show and tell type of no that's another

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thing too you are not going to play with my intelligence you're not going to do that because

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you know why this me me right here me as I'm sitting right here on this bar stools I

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haven't had it you're not going to play with me and as times you least affected from the people

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that you talk with for real and you be like whoa you know me good as dad and you acting like this

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you know me like a book x y z why you do that and that's another thing too when it comes to you

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your new journey your new beginnings everything that involves with you you need to make sure that

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you stand tall and firm ten toes down on everything you say because people will try you

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you people will even try you just for you being you and see me I don't fake the funk with anything

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I don't want people to think of me as stuck up bougie uptight stuff no because I'm chills

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I like to have a good time and I'm now I'm stepping out of my shell of being able to express who I

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am because growing up people be like oh you real quiet because I'm one point of time yes in my life

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I was quiet as a mouse you wouldn't hear a lot from me as I get older people like oh my gosh you

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say a lot you do a lot where this come from this came from me being able to over the years learn

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who me is and understand oh damn you were genius I was a genius and certain stuff that I didn't know

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I could do and sometimes when you learn who you are and you learn new things about yourself

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that is one of the most amazing things ever and you just be like wow because a lot of people

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would try to play with you and then that's what I don't like don't play with me don't play with me

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don't play with me don't play with me don't play with me you're not gonna like me I don't care

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I don't care where we at what we doing but I'm gonna tell you see me I love to keep you cool

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calm and collect I don't like to be ratchet that's not me but if you have to be ratchet do it but

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you know that ain't you sometimes you know you've got to step out your boundaries which is not what

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you like to do but when you feel like you're being tested in a way you're that you know you're not

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supposed to be tested go ahead but let's just flip more back on the positive side because like I say

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and if you're new here every topic I discuss every vibe I discuss I always you know point out the

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good and the bad so when it comes to you at times y'all I'm not very lucky y'all it's so many good

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it's so many bad but you have to focus on what you know is right even though sometimes I know it's

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wrong so when it comes to you just just just do good for you do any and everything for your power

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that impacts with you being who you are you being that beautiful star that you are my valver baby

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yeah I'm ready to start saying that more because like I'm he's saying to all my posters and I just

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don't stop me like I was like dang I don't say it on the park it's like so to my vibra babies don't

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be afraid to start over y'all know I love saying that if you're new here when it comes to anything

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involving because I'm real big on a mental and physical appearance I'm all involved with the

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self-empowerment this what this is about self-empowerment and you're learning at the same time so with

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that being said take time within your busy day so just look in the mirror and be like damn

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you really look pretty today you really look good today you look handsome today

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even if you look tired like you look tired but you still gotta move it yourself I'm telling

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y'all let me give y'all an example I be tired as hell when I work both my jobs back to back

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oh back to back and still going to school and making sure y'all hear from me every week too yeah

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y'all sometimes I wake up be like damn you look busted but you know what you you you are doing a

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good job you're doing a good job you stand you're staying on top of stuff you're not but crazy

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you know you gotta give yourself words of encouragement that's the problem that we also had

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not encouraging ourselves when you're looking at yourself say encouraging things right like I said

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even if you're going through a hard time you need to give yourself that validation of making sure

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that you know who you are you need to give yourself your props before anybody does you give yourself

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them props because you know what you're doing you know you're popping you know you're shining you know

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you you know what you're doing you rather you notice it first before the world does because

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sometimes you be like wow I'm doing this and then sometimes you think yes I hope the world

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noticing it but long as you notice what you're doing that's the most beautiful thing ever

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that can happen in this world I'm telling y'all like it's my time where I notice things I'm like

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nobody's gonna notice this and people are really noticing this like my podcast for example I love

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using the podcast example because like it's an example like I was like okay the podcast I'm doing

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this somebody going the numbers you know women lie men lie what them numbers don't lie I'm like whoa

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these this this amount of people was noticing and they're hearing just within you know y'all you

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gotta give you we have to give ourselves the type of space and the type of time to honor ourselves

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because if we're not honoring ourselves we are not giving ourselves the validation that you know

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that we know our worth we know our self-care you know just in general we know our aspirations

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so as I say this to say as I end this off I want you guys to thank take a few times out of take

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a few minutes out of your busy day or whatever just to sit back and say you XYZ you XYZ you are

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you're going you can you will you know just make sure every sentence you say within the beginning

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you're adding you and there because you are important you is kind you is smart you is beautiful

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you is handsome you is awesome you is hard-working you is dedicated you're amazing you're blessing

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and if nobody gonna tell you I'm gonna tell you right now you're awesome you're amazing you're

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handsome you're beautiful you're inspiring you're ambitious you're amazing you're a hard-working

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person you got this shit you are the shit things like that are going to help you and that's my job

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to help us all even myself have self-improvement let alone self-empowerment so I hope you guys

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enjoyed this episode because I enjoyed talking about it like it got my adrenaline racing so I hope

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you guys have a beautiful day or weekend as well or whenever you guys are listening to this I hope

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you have an amazing day please please please please please be safe out here in this world that we

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live in because you know it's getting a little crazy and soon as right get dark at 5 o'clock so

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please build your peas and queues and as always peace and blessings to my beautiful Viber babies

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and you guys will hear from me next week bye