Hey y'all whether it's morning evening or afternoon. I'm just glad that you guys had to start it to vibe with me
The one and only
Yes, I'm your host and for the ones who are new welcome to my podcast
Today, I'm gonna do something a little different. I usually vibe out with y'all but today
We are going to reflect and I'm also going to talk about how
It's been within having the podcast for three months
So without further ado, I want you guys to sit back
Relax and enjoy hearing my voice and hopefully you guys are also willing to reflect today as well
Let's get started this episode might not be as long because it's reflection like it's reflecting on
life right now for me and you know, I always give you all the
The real deal
Everything I do is say is raw and cut. It's like it's natural once you once I had a mic in my face
That's what all my feelings come out and today I took that risk
On doing that because honestly, I wanted to change that a little bit and it also
The topics that I want to do I said I'm a wait till later
To do them also and push y'all
I really all y'all know. I don't lie to y'all like this has been a busy week. It's been busy. So
This is kind of like a little late. I feel like a little late because I always pre-recorded and I'll be able to hear it back and stuff like that
But you know at times
us as people that have busy life and
Have businesses and things like that sometimes we get caught up in our personal life that when it comes to our
Professional life is sometimes like oh is draining. So I had that thought in my mind like should I say something at least or don't say nothing at all
You know, sometimes when you listen to a podcast like that, sometimes they might not have nothing up because
Personal they got to reflect on a personal life and this shit is not easy
Like I'm not very lie to you
Especially a lot of people out here that go to school
Work and take care of the kids and things like that. It's not easy
But I said I don't want to do that to y'all because it's been bring my skin
And it's too soon to give a break because I've said I once you get a once you do a break is like, okay
It's gonna come back. You know, I ain't gonna do that
So I was like I'm gonna do something and I'm glad I did think of reflection like reflecting on the podcast and also
My life around me too. And then y'all know always give me y'all the sneak in the peaks because y'all not realize y'all this
is
Y'all life
been life and
Like I'm not very loud y'all like I am a junior
a social work major at that and within my classes, you know
Is I feel like everything is oh, I don't feel like it is every assignment I have is like
It's time consuming let alone is group working ball
So I'm gonna tell y'all something is as of today
It makes six weeks since I've been in the fall semester next week make seven weeks and that's homecoming week
So like that's like the middle
You would say the middle of the semester then the week after that's week eight the week nine counts as midterms
Y'all, I'm not realized y'all
I've been keeping up my grades, you know keeping up a beat average is the goal
So everything above an 80 or an 80 at least
But I'm gonna tell you it's not easy and I'm reflecting on how
life been since
You know the first week day you know all that school
of the semester versus tell now
I'm gonna say this
Like I say all the time everything I say and preach it is nothing but the truth. This is my truth. This is my
This is my testimony walk a truth testimony
When you do anything I tell y'all the time when y'all do anything I don't care y'all big
small it is
Once you have that blueprint already mapped out and you see the vision come true
You got to be able to prepare for what the fuck is going to come with it
Sometimes you had them days where like oh my god, this is going so smooth. It's going so good
So the times where it'd be so rough that you're running off three or four
hours of sleep back right now me y'all. I'm not even allowed to y'all
I probably got probably three or two hours of sleep last night due to
working both of my jobs
And then on top of that making sure I stay on top of my studies, but also try
To have me time and of course take care of my business that I have at home
Let alone making sure I give y'all the material that you guys been
You know you guys have been enjoying and you know things like that
Just reflecting on how life is right now for me. I'm gonna tell you this
Life brings you you know life brings you the good and the bad but it's like
How do you maintain it? How do you separate it to you know like when you go to work?
You gotta separate that personal life and the business life from each other such as like if you work with co-working that's your friend
You gotta separate friendships versus
Co-workers because it's business being involved
You know you gotta be able to separate the two because at times especially when it deal with business
You gotta be able how to you gotta know how to renew
Renew even all that stuff with you can't just stay stagnant into that one thing because it's gonna dress you out and I ain't very
Lots of y'all when it comes to school same thing like I'm in classes with people I know
Some of them are friends and you know sometimes you got to get one of your friends because
What y'all got going on right now or some what's up? It's crunch time like y'all tell y'all know
I have two groups of assignments with my social work classes and I done my part however, you know at times you always
Feel like you don't want to take the lead on things but I'm tell y'all right now as we talking about reflection
I know y'all come related this at times you have to take the lead on shit. You don't want to take lead on
I don't care like I say all the time. I don't care how big or small it is at times. You gotta
Sacrifice you gotta take that risk. You gotta put you gotta show people
You need to be played with and as I reflect on that it's like I'm not the type to be played with
I don't have the time the patience for people to try to play with me because
This is the type of time, you know, you're stepping stone where you reflected on things and I'm gonna tell y'all something
And I'm sitting here because I honestly y'all like I left I was on campus with my friend
Naya
like
Child tonight Naya be a night of your friend since our last semester
and I told her straight up I said
I don't have an episode prepared and I've been procrastinating on what to talk about because
it's just that
At times I want to change it, but I don't want to go into deep because once, you know
You and the rest of my people, you know, I'm cool with come on the show. I want y'all to express it more
I want to get deep into them vibes where it needs to be in depth more and he's like one
person one more person, you know
In place she was like
Uh, you can talk about situations and I was like, how about reflect on how things are now? She was like go for it
why not go for it because like
I'm telling y'all reflection is good and bad impacting on things in your life, especially when it comes to
If you have a workload on you
And taking care of people taking care of animals, whatever taking care of something or somebody. I'm telling you it is a load
It's not easy
But the thing is like I said to y'all like I'm being honest
Honesty is the key to everything. Don't just lie about it because I'm telling y'all like I said to I'm a social work major
It's times where we brush off our feelings or others feelings
But you need to read between them lines and really
Get a sense of what the hell is going on
We really need to get a sense of what's going on and so we don't blow up
Because you know like we even high school they like they be like oh you got that senioritis
Genius I never knew what it was. It went with the college
Like I said, I have it because it's like it's real. It's real this shit is real or reflecting on everything I've been through
From I started school the semester what August 21st up itself was today August 27th
I mean September 27th from August 21st to September 27th
September 27th
Six weeks. I'ma tell you this
With school like the first three weeks
On top of it. I always start homework and do things ahead of time
So I have time to read material that I need for classes let alone do those episodes for y'all
Then let alone have energy to work
Them two days for both jobs two or three days for both jobs
As well as making sure I'm still involved with my close family and friends
And also me mentally that I tell y'all that mental plays a lot in your life
So when you read let's let's say go. Let's take a moment right now. We are reflect
Sorry y'all we're gonna reflect
I want y'all to take a moment and think
Do you really do y'all really do this like do
I really
Really just think for a second like
What I got going on right now I need to take a break. I don't care if it's five 10 15 minutes seconds hours whatever
I gotta make I gotta reflect on me. I gotta reflect on making sure that I'm good. I gotta reflect on my mental
My emotions spiritual and physical well-being all those I must
We must
Pay attention to because I'm telling y'all that's how stress happens
depression
anxiety and
x y and z happens and I'm telling y'all at times you have to be selfish
When it comes to reflecting on you y'all have to be selfish
I don't care if you know sometimes you don't you you being at my center like right now
I can't I can't you don't want to be that type of person like right now
It ain't it but it's like if you are there for everybody and the people that you're there for
They should be able to accept the fact that you are reflecting on you
That you're taking the time to reflect on things
Navigate see what's going on see what I can do remove it is whatever, you know, it's hey
Like I say it takes a village to face a child. It takes a village. I feel like
Too has support for you. I don't care how big or small your village is
If those then people that you
Talk to on a basis daily basically know you say your circle
I say your village because you know when it comes to family family doesn't have to be just blood
It could be people you consider your family like your friends kin folks all that like
If those type of people you take care of them you look out for them everything
You got to reflect sometimes you got to reflect on the people around you to see if they
Are there for you? I'm not allowed to you like when I'm thinking about it now
What I'm talking?
I had to reflect on me. I had to reflect on people around me
I had to reflect on things that was not for me and what is for me
Now I'm gonna tell y'all won't y'all get that peace of mind reflect on everything that hasn't gone on but y'all
It helps bring some type of ease to you
I don't care what you do reflect on everything at least like
Try things talk to yourself. Whatever you gotta do write it down
Say it out loud
you know
Whatever you have to do just to reflect on how things are going right now or what you want to reflect on
Or what you feel like is not a good thing for you and it's going to affect how you reflect on things do it
Because I'm telling y'all y'all like I'm telling y'all it's not easy. It's not easy at all to be
To be a person that is over the age of 18
It's not it's not at all shout out to all of us. I honestly shout out to all
of y'all
Out there because I'm telling y'all my park is I say all the time it's ron and cut
and I'm
Doing for us my people my black people. I am
I want to be the advocate for us
I'm young and stuff, but I'm telling you
I want to be one of them blueprints for us. I want to be the spokesperson to let it be known
I want to be one of them people up there to help us
cope find copa methods everything because I'm telling y'all life is not easy
It's it's not you can't take everything with a grandest thought sometimes you got to just say I don't want that like I'm not going to
Not reflect on that because if I feel type of way and it's affecting me stuff like that
I'm reflect and once you reflect on certain things is like
I don't give a damn it's good or bad
Shit long as you reflect on it and say what it is or what it's not because it's another thing where you do reflections
You know like how you do reflections on people?
And you weigh out the good and the bad after like an assignment
I'm gonna use the prime example like I'm a social media once again
And we do group assignments some professors they'll be like oh we're gonna do a reflection
You gotta give your honest opinion
I don't give a damn if it's good or bad about how you felt within this project within yourself along your group members
let me tell y'all
You don't want to be a snitch. I feel like when you're reflecting on shit
You're not being a snitch you letting this shit be out
You know the truth will set you free but first it's going to piss you off
You know you reflected on shit that you felt that could have been better
was good
Simi okay like reflection helps everything reflection will help you as a person and
Visual all that good stuff person's visible. You know the follow same category, but
Reflection can help you like you know
How people can't take you know certain criticism
I feel like that's a reflection too of like oh you can't accept the fact that x y and z
It's like you gotta you gotta stand up and sometimes we don't want to hear that shit, but I'm telling y'all in the end
That shit will help you and I live by that logic. It's not what you say is how you say it
Like you could give someone a compliment, but it'd be so aggressive like that reflection can reflect on me like what the
Okay, I get what you're saying, but
Your tone of voice the tone of voice explains everything like me. I know on the park
He'd be like oh my gosh. He's so she dead ass like my tone the gestures everything. Yes everything like reflection
you can reflect
Damn thing by person place a thing just by looking at it
And even if you don't look in it, you gotta you know, I'm not you gotta dig deep like the same don't judge a book by its cover
You you got a flag. That's a reflection right there
Like you can't judge what it look like on outside if you didn't have not got a chance to sit down open that book
You know get the main idea context blues and summarize it if you get it if you got it cool continue reading it
If you got any don't like okay close the damn book, you know
Reflection is key to everything in life and little do we know we don't know it
Like at times we have to reflect on ourselves. That's the number one thing we need to reflect on what is best for us
Was not best for us who's good for us who's not good for us you got to reflect on a lot of shit and at times it's like
I don't want to do but so much but sometimes you have to to make sure you're good to make sure you know everything is going
How it's supposed to go instead of just brushing it off because I'm tired and I know a lot of people out here like that
We're so nice
Certain shit. We just don't let affect us
Sometimes you have to let that out if you feel some type of way and it's hurting you reflect on it
Put into the side. Tell them what the fuck is really going on because if they don't like it
They can kiss your ass
If they don't like it
They can kiss
Okay, like I tell y'all like I I I I I see y'all not like
It's hard. It's really hard to do
things and
It's hard to be accepted
It is hard it's hard at times to reflect on things because at times
When you reflect on shit people be like you just so hard on yourself. You so this you so that and I'm just like
Not
Sometimes I do be like I do be hard on myself
because I mean look at the reflection
I just be like
What the fuck and there's another thing too
reflection
and reflecting
It holds a key
Reflection when you look in the mirror you looking at yourself facially your facial expressions everything you look at what people see
And some things that you may see some people may not see but within their reflection of you might not be the same as which they think
Let us think in y'all because I had to let them think a little bit too
I ain't gonna realize y'all
The shit ain't easy this shit ain't easy
Living the world that we do is not easy and being able to reflect on things that alone
Don't reflect on our self with then it comes to our reflection. It's not easy
It's not it's been times where I look in the mirror and people be like oh my gosh
You look so pretty like this. You look like that. I look at the mirror
I'm like what are you looking at because I feel like I look like a bomb. Let me say a prime example today
is fall
and
I looked it was 59 degrees this morning
Oh, no, I say, you know what I know what the date is gonna be it's gonna be a bum day
and then when I seen like, you know
the rest of the
Forecast I was like, oh, yeah, this is gonna be a bummy day
real
Bummy
This is gonna be a bummy day because I'm telling y'all right now. I'm like, I'm not gonna look like this
I'm not gonna look like that
So I already know how my reflection is gonna look I reflect in look at the mirror. I'm like, okay
He's giving bummy people. Oh my gosh
You look nice. I'm like, baby. I have on a pair of my school sweatpants
a white t-shirt and a pair of crocs
and a sweater
I mean if it looked good the odd and hey to me is like I look
You know like a bum, but you know and I got a button on my head that
I'm gonna tell y'all something. I'm gonna have to cut off the top real quick
Being a girl and having braids. I don't care if they're not list box braids butterfly. I don't care locks all that
not list is not heavy, but
My the lift you get please be careful. Maybe I got butt lift
And it's hard to get my head in certain styles
Let alone when I get on my head
It hurts because the left it holds weight, but they're not listening like your roots. It don't my roots don't hurt
But the length of putting it on and all that y'all it'd be so bad. I'd be sitting on my braids
So yeah next time anybody thinking about getting braids or if I pay for their girlfriend mama
Sister cousin braids tell them do not give my left get it right near your back or like to your butt crack
Come tell you once you get it past your butt crack
That's over for you
But you know, I'm reflected on how certain things just be like
Oh, man, like see that was reflection right there. And I need no if you don't even know it. Well, I knew it
But technically I need no a little bit because it's just like damn
But yes y'all
You got to reflect on a lot of things like reflection has a protocol
A lot of reflections are good and a lot of them are bad
It's just how we take it and then how we orchestrate it as well as like reflecting on how we are as individual
I tell myself all the time
I need to think extra positive about myself because if the world around me, which is you know, my village think more of me
I need to start thinking that because words are powerful. The motherfucking tongue is a powerful thing
I don't care what nobody say your tongue is the most powerful thing in the world
Because the words you say out your mouth
I don't care what the hell you say. I don't care for good bad
Nasty whatever be careful what you say
Because the tongue is the powerful thing the most powerful motherfucking thing
Like it's what times where you know, like when they say never say never or be careful what you wish for
Hell, yeah, that's a big reflection right there because you really really have to be cautious about what are you really talking about?
and
Like what I do my pockets like I say everything's wrong uncut
But as it being by being three months already y'all because I said I was going to add that
You know my reflection on how I've been for three months. I ain't ready lie to you
the stuff that I say
It shocked me at times because I'm like what the fuck like really like
Whoa, because I feel like at nighttime
That's when I like at nighttime when you vibing out at nighttime with whoever you vibing out with or by yourself
That's when you're real real and the thoughts coming or if you're having a good topic during the day or whatever
Who is whoever, you know a course at work whatever your family whoever
Your thoughts and reflections on things just really flowing. You be like wow. I never knew this was I never knew
And you look back you be like wow
That put a toll on me and may put a toll on me in a good or a bad way, but it's just like
The like they say the brain is a terrible thing in the ways
If you know you got something to say say it's no I feel like it's never no wrong go the right or wrong answer
Never because you never know
Even it might sound wrong, but when you analyze, you know fix it put it together you be like wow
That's right. I agree. You know, I ain't mad at you know, so like that, you know, you got
You gotta think outside the box. Y'all. I really gotta
Huh, you gotta think outside the box. I really gotta just like wow damn like oh my gosh
You gotta really take that risk on reflecting on how you want things to go
another thing about reflection
Now I'm going to step into reflecting on a podcast
So
September the 15th, which was I look on my count y'all because I'm telling y'all
I'm tired
Excuse me. Was it Friday? Were the two Fridays ago?
Oh, no last Friday my bad last day like uh last Friday
Hi, let me tell y'all
Hey
I went that's what I wanted to do at first. I was going to give y'all
the episode
That episode that came out that week
was
Peace and right after the peace episode. I was like, oh
I could reflect on three months when I was but then I was like no because my the
Bob that I want to talk about with y'all
I'm a surprise on that y'all know every vibe I give y'all a surprise
So I ain't going to tell y'all never like, oh man, like it's not a surprise. You know, I love give me all surprise
because I love the surprises y'all be giving me within y'all reflections and input. So like I said shout out to y'all
Excuse me. I love that so much about y'all like
You know within everything you do is good or bad reflections
But hey, it's like keep going you doing this for you and it's as I say my goal is if I can't help a lot of people
Long as I'm helping somebody longer someone is you know in tune in feeling it because that's what it is like that's what the whole
concept of vibing with e
Even if we're not personally like even if we're not personally physically
Even if I don't personally know you I just hope my words just give some type of impact to you
Let alone if we're not physically sitting next to each other or in a room, whatever
Long as I'm helping you because
That's what my motive is all about
Ron and cut if I don't you know touch a lot of people long as I touch someone and that's all that matters for me the most
So now I'm reflecting on three months of vibing with e and I'm gonna tell y'all first off like I say
I appreciate every single
One of y'all that has been supporting me since day one even if y'all just started now wherever
Whatever the case may be I
Appreciate everybody that support my brand period. I appreciate a lot because that shows a lot of
Interest that shows a lot of gratitude that shows a lot of everything I respected. I'm greatly
I I'm grateful
I say
I am grateful
About it like I'm so grateful like I greatly appreciate y'all like
Because I'm not ready to tell you I'm not ready. I'm like I said, I'm not gonna lie to y'all
It's hard. It's hard to
Be able to take that risk on willing to
sit
for probably hours
and hours
Writing topics getting information burn out the pros and the cons
Being able to connect the contact would do it starts easy for this is not
But when you create something
You gotta take advantage of it. Don't let that slip
You know, don't be staying all the time, you know
You know, you gotta just be
You gotta take the pros and the cons with everything y'all do
And I'm learning every day like even as a social work major within my classes
I'm learning every day to try to reflect on me like being able to
Slowly let my guard down reflecting on you know
How the past will not interrupt and interfere with the present let alone interrupt or interfere with the future
So y'all got me reflecting on things from the past that I'm
Automatically if I see the red flags of the signs I'm exiting it out because I don't have time
I don't have the patience. I don't have that energy. I don't have that, you know, I don't have that no more
So I'm not gonna reflect on shit. That's not worth my time. My energy my peace
You know
But so far I'm gonna tell y'all like
The podcast has really changed me. It helped me a lot. Like I sit back read my own stuff. I be like wow
This is really what I'm doing. Like this is what I really want to do. This is what helping me. This is what
Making me feel like
I'm important. I'm important
I'm I'm important. Um, you know, it makes this is what I like to do and I'm running it
I'm my own little boss
Even though I work for you know, two other companies and it's helping me too
Because like I want to this is a business. I want to
Broaden my horizon with this business. I want to to the point where I want to learn
how to
I want to learn how to like
Create my own type of marketing and stuff like that
Not even just for my business but for myself like getting myself out there marketing with things that I know
Things that I'm good at, you know
So y'all take that risk and reflect on things that you you know at times were carcinated on
And do it. I'm gonna tell y'all something taking risks when I talked about it last week
I'll just reflect on it and I listen to it. I'm like, I'm telling y'all
I'm telling y'all take that risk and stuff and I was very back out on something that really really really really
I feel like really really really will help me in the future because it's people that is willing to
Sacrifice these things like I am and I took that off and I did it
so
As I reflect on the podcast y'all I'm gonna tell y'all this
The numbers has been crazy. Like, you know, sometimes we have our good and bads, but so far they've been crazy
And I've been like, oh my god, this is amazing
Because I'm gonna tell y'all my favorite episodes that I did honestly
They got a lot of they got a lot of ratings
well
numbers
has to be
of course
The first ones that I did like moving on
happiness
support
worth
Men's mental health that one was
top notch my favorite because it's like
It's something that's not being talked about on a daily. It's something that we're all
Learning as we go like I'm telling y'all when I did my research and stuff and I was telling y'all about it
I learned as I go
And I was like, oh my gosh
Once again shout out to all my black men out there men period because y'all are important
Y'all health is important mentally spiritually physically emotionally. You are
Important as well as my women black women or
Y'all are important like I want y'all to know this y'all know like off the hell when it was like you was kind
You was smart. You was important
We need to reflect on that in the morning at night reflect on you give yourself them flowers
I don't care if you have to go out and buy you flowers reflect on the good shit in your life
Do not reflect on the bad and the haters out there because I'm telling you
You are a star in your own little way. You are jeweled and you just don't know it
And as I'm reflecting on these episodes that I did I'm gonna tell y'all every time I did these episodes
So far within three months. I've seen the growth. I've seen the passion and I've seen that
I can do this
It's gonna go further with then reflecting on these three months so far. I'm gonna say I'm I'm
I am at a good space in my life. I'm at that point in my life where I like
What's going on for my podcast my business the ratings the numbers the topics I'm coming up with people are engaging with like people
Be seeing oh my god when you talked about
The support I felt that
because
At times I have support at times. I don't have support, but I got to remember I have to be my biggest cheerleader
Or when it came to work people's like, I don't know my work at times and people be telling me my work
And I was like, where do you see it at and tell like at times? I just realized what it was
Men's mental health. I didn't know men had these ratings and stuff like that
I