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Hey y'all whether it's morning evening or afternoon I'm just glad that you had decided to vibe with E.

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Yes, I'm your host and I'm thrilled to share the vibe of the day with you guys today. So without

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further ado whether you want to go or at home I just want you guys to sit back, relax and enjoy

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the show because today's vibe is something special but that's every day like that's always something

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new every time y'all hear me. All right so let's get into it. Today's vibe of the day is birthdays.

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Oop yes today's vibe of the day is birthdays because I just wanted to reflect on my birthday that just

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passed, previous birthdays I had and then how I celebrate others and maybe it'll get a rub off on

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y'all for real. Okay so my birthday is July 15th which was Saturday that just passed and let me

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just tell y'all my birthday was this birthday this year was one for the books and the reason why I

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say this one was one for the books because like I'm older like I'm legal legal okay so

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but that means that this birthday just shined so much like shined a light on me because

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within my previous birthdays I didn't do so much like I really wasn't the type to do so much like

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all that flashy parties and dinners and trips and the past I did do parties they was always home

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I never did no ballroom type parties you know the halls the block parties none of that I did a

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dinner party last year and I should say that was a disaster but yeah let me just give y'all a little

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rundown on my birthday week so for my birthday Saturday I plan to go to DC and I took the train

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but I took the mark not the mark train the Amtrak train y'all and let me just tell y'all I woke up

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let me just say I had really really started that night of my birthday you know like the peak of it

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coming in everybody mouths asleep except me my mom me mom was uh we was watching I forgot that show

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but it's by Tammy Romy the show was it's so interesting to me so I was in her room we just

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talking or whatever I was those and all my mom got the screaming heavy right that I'm like oh my gosh

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so you know I was up like okay I'm up so that like the like the entrance of my birthday was cool

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because my mom always is my mom and dad always tell me birthday first then family members things

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like best friends stuff things like that so that morning I got ready you know I was getting ready

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to go to DC however my train just kept delaying delaying delaying on me to the point where that

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they changed it to like around the time where I was supposed to go to brunch and I was so upset

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because I'm like oh my god they gonna mess up they gonna say I can't do this you know my reservation

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stuff like that because I'm big on reservations like once I make a reservation that's it I'm not

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doing all that if I change it I'll call them but they wasn't answering the phone I was like you know

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let me just cancel it and just find something else and big shout out to my best friend because

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I was losing my mind because I'm like oh my gosh we planned this trip and events because the original

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plan was to go to Miami but I was like hmm do I really want to go to Miami I let me try something

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different you know DC is not too far from me and I'll be on tiktok in DC be having a lot of

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interest and stuff on there I want to try I want to do something like we ball come on let's do it

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so y'all in the midst of us trying to figure out what's the next restaurant we'll be going to do

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about this train we found the restaurant I went to bus boys and poets in DC y'all that restaurant

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is so freaking amazing like it's so good it has we have one up here to in Baltimore I tried but the

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one in DC top notch from the drinks my food everything the atmosphere the people it was amazing

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so we get to the airport we get to the train station y'all it changed again like 20 minutes

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of delay the lady at the front dash she was so nice to us it was so good and one of the passengers

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or whatever that was going on the train too she was like girl next time do the mark train you ain't

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got worry about all that delaying all that stuff and I was like okay somebody to mark train so we

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get on the train whatever y'all it never went a little fast man it didn't feel like 45 minutes

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no one passed so we got off the train we go to the museum for black girls that museum is it's a

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photo museum and a lot of people will be like oh that's how the museum it's a photo museum if you

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know me I love the museums like I don't love it especially a like exhibits of anything black

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I don't care I'm in it and photo museum student was amazing like I got some good pictures

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me my best friend got pictures they had drinks and all that stuff it was about

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then we went to bus boys the poets that was so good overall my experience of my birthday was just

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lovely and I'm so glad that I did go to DC and didn't change it and I went with my best friend as

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well so yeah so this year this birthday was really good and I hope next year and years after that

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then birthdays be good as well so now let's reflect on why I chose birthdays overall

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the reason why I chose the vibe of the day for birthdays is because within the past when I had

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you know like when it's my time like my time to celebrate me I never got this same experiences

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I got for when I was little you know like when you little those birthdays be the best birthdays

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ever because you were going to checkie cheese six flags um port discovery of in that um

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brain force cafe type stuff I think once I turned 16 I was over it like I was over it like my

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birthdays were not as special to me because it's like I felt like it was just a regular day because

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you know your birthday you're going to celebrate it with people that you care a lot for and you're

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close with now my mean like my household let them downhill like my mom and dad they'll figure out a

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way to make something shake I don't care they don't care what it is like when I was younger like growing

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up I had parties like a turkey cheese the restaurants and at home I love my home parties because

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a lot of people came over and you know when we were younger we were like we were tight like when

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we were younger we were tight with others you know we older it's not the same no more because a lot

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of animosity and things like that happen so you know how that go but I yeah I was talking to one

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of my coworkers well my manager actually about it we was like really reflecting on birthdays we

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know like we say you know like when we get older our birthdays not the same no more because

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when you look on social media it displays this image of us that we gotta do big shit when we

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know goddamn well we ain't got no money like that and trying to put on a front for these people

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you know just a display like this is how you should celebrate your 20th 18th 21st 25th 30th

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birthday when at times that's not the case because I'm gonna tell you something like with the reason

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why I don't do parties no more and dinner parties with a lot of people is because when is your time

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to celebrate you you know you'll see who's there for you you see who's somewhat there you see who's

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not there for you at all and like or the dinner party I had last year it was a disaster because

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you know when you had them dinner party some of them be like oh these people don't come you got a

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payday part or no call no show type shit and I was like I can't do it and then like like I say

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I'm the type of friend that I'm gonna support you I'm gonna give you your flowers I'm gonna be there

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like every step I'm be like boom boom boom just all that because that's me but I had to talk to

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my mom too before my birthday I was like you see who's there for you and you see who's don't you

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see who remembered things and care and stuff like that who don't and I'm not that type of people that

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be on Instagram like oh and if you ain't telling you happy birthday is fuck you I don't like that

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like I don't understand why people do that like at first I was like okay I think I understand but

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now I'm like I don't understand because like y'all y'all saying if you didn't tell me happy

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birthday is f y'all but when it's their birthday you don't tell them happy birthday either so what's

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the difference like I'm like what's what's the damn difference child like like and that's what I say

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too the media plays a big part in that too because it's like I never heard no shit like that like

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until I got older and I will see people be like thank y'all for all the birthday wishes and to those

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who didn't tell me happy birthday but see my polls fuck y'all I be like baby my views on Instagram

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when I post my stories it'd be like four or five hundred six hundred people wouldn't be used and

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half of them I don't know you know half of them you don't know I'm not the type to be pressed about

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people not acknowledging me when it's my time to be acknowledged because it's like it is what it is

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but I do get mad at the people that I talk to if I talk to you every day or every other day and I

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don't hear nothing from you I want to feel like when I'm like damn what the fuck like like did you

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forget you know so yeah that's why I was like I really wanted to talk about birthdays because you know

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when you get older I'm gonna say like once you turn 16 that's when the narrative of you got to go

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bigger go home start at because you know when you a girl sweet 16 we'll boy I don't think they do sweet

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16s I don't think they do that they do something else for the 16 birthday price for clubs I'm who

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knows I don't know but I just know like at that peak when I turn 16 it was just like it's like

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all I was grateful for was to be alive and that's how I was my one birthday that just passed

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it I was I'm just grateful to be alive but I also had to say I always I also had to think back to

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like I gotta do for me like I gotta show out sometimes sometimes it's best to show out because

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the birthdays you want those birthdays to be special some birthdays it has to be special

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like you know I know people that go out every year for the birthday to you know the pool the

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pile la la la la me it depends like certain times I really want to go put us off for my birthday

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because like I really don't do much and like when it is like when my legs like before my

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birthday came around I would keep the countdown I would look at I'm like damn time is going so fast

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or I'd be like here I'm like I just be like damn slow down real quick but I wasn't I would say I

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wasn't I wasn't rushing it that's the thing too like my birthday I did rush it because like

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it's gonna come regardless my only thing was for me to be able to see it to wake up to see it to be

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able to live in that moment for my birthday you know and a lot of people like I don't I don't um

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I don't judge nobody that does the things they do for their birthday because that's you

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but I know for a fact for me if I ain't got it like that I'm not doing it like my trip from Miami

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that was gonna do for birthday I was stuck in guessing because I was like at the time I had it

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but I really didn't have it have it and I'm not afraid to let it be known like at times like if I

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don't have it I'm not going outside I'm not doing this I'm not doing that and I'm not dipping in my

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savings no I'm not doing that like you know because once you dip in it is a habit like once you're

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dipping them savings and birthday savings stuff like that for a birthday and stuff like that

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it's one turns to a habit that you don't can't get out of you don't want to get out of or you can't

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get out of for I learned my lesson before and I'm not doing it anymore and I'm okay with that

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you know but yeah when it comes to birthdays y'all I just feel like certain birthdays you need to

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make sure that you make it fun like you do what you want to do like you do you go beyond if you

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have to I feel like certain ages I go beyond for like my turn 18 at house party due to the fact that

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COVID came so I was like okay let's do a little house party and of course motherfuckers ain't have

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masks going I ain't even have no mask on but and I also like I love house party like I love house

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parties especially house party three I always wanted to have a house party type birthday party

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and I did that but my party turned like at a certain time my party turned into the old

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baguette party because my father took over but I was like okay I don't even care but yeah it's like

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I always try to like do the traditional house parties because that's what I like to do sometimes

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I don't like going out to eat for my birthday because sometimes I'm like dressing up like when

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it's hot when it's hot as hell I'm not putting no dress on and makeup and stuff like for my

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birthday I had on these nice little flattery pants they were wide leg but not so scratchy up the

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top and had this nice little white button-up crop shirt on I had no makeup on only thing I did have

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on that really was I know was hot and I was rubbing through it with my wig my lace wig and I'm not a

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big fan of lace licks but you know I was like let me try something different my birthday you know

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let me put it on I did put that on it went nice and then it fell off and I had like two three days

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afterwards I was like okay cool because I saw my best friend I was like don't glue this down

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because it's hot and in DC it was hot as hell like it was so hot I was like everywhere we went

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like when we left the train station and we got to the Uber's when we was it was hot period like it

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was hot everywhere we went in DC then I came back home like god damn it's like it's not so humid up

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here but it was even until down there but yeah when is it like because sometimes I don't like to

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dress up when I know it might melt like makeup and stuff I didn't even know makeup on the only thing

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I had on was lipstick I had lip gloss on that first but I ate in this smurged up in our last

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time I didn't put some lipstick on because it stays and stuff like that but yes nevertheless

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y'all I just feel like when it comes to birthdays we don't acknowledge ourselves the way we're

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supposed to most of us as that like somebody like me something like I love to have a good time

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it's nothing wrong with having a good time especially when you know you work so hard and you

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put so much pressure on yourself baby let your head down you know have a good time especially

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when it's your time to shine you need to give yourself that ability to just be free you know

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celebrate yourself because you know I always remember the saying like you're here today and

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gone tomorrow I experienced that twice in my life and with my uncle and my grandfather and

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I always this I always think of you know biggie smalls when he say birthdays but the worst days

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now we slip champ pain when we Thursday I would like damn because like sometimes our birthdays do

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be the worst like especially when it comes to like when you tell people this yep that was coming

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together when you tell people what you want to do for your birthday and you want them to be a part

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of it and like you know in the beginning like yeah bro yes if I'm with I'm down you know whatever

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and when you give them the reminder like you know don't forget you know like if it's money involved

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you like hey don't forget you know give me your money or don't forget you know have your

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shit ready you know so when it's time for us to be good we go to you for room then when it's time

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the day of the event or whatever mom is gonna be like oh I ain't got no money I'm fucked I'm like

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that shit right there pisses me off now y'all I know y'all probably like he's got a little

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mad she ain't a little mad the reason why it pisses me off because it's like I wouldn't say it's

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an honor to celebrate somebody's birthday with them but that's a big ass life you should feel

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grateful that I wanted to spend my birthday with you because sometimes people only want to spend

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their birthday with people like it sounds me I rather spend it with my household and my best friends

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that's it like because over the years I've learned like when you try to involve your friends

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you know associates and stuff you know you know trying to have a good time with them because when

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y'all are together outside y'all have a ball but then when it's time for you to bring other people

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around it's always some who is she what she bow who he is is he cute who he bow mother freaker

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you're here for me you're not worried about them and that's the thing you do like at times people

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do be like that because I remember like when I was younger sometimes when I used to go to

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birthday parties with people people do used to act funny like when they around their other friends

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they act funny but when it's just y'all behind closed doors it's a total different story so sometimes

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I get it and sometimes I be like now you're doing too much because I'm the type of friend like

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at times it is like I have to roll myself up to be around people I don't know and now it's like

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we older is like and this is Baltimore you'd be surprised who the hell you see at these parties

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and stuff like oh I follow you on Instagram oh I know your cousin some people be like oh dad

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I know your baby mom baby daddy I'd like you can't tell nobody that but like hey it's Baltimore you

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know Baltimore was big but working around and people know people is like oh my god because I've

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been in those situations where like I went to a birthday party and I was like oh my god I know

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so yeah but yeah I just feel like if somebody's having a birthday party or birthday trip or something

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and they invite you you should feel honored to really be a part of that celebration because

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some people don't want to be bothered with that bullshit that's how I am like for this birthday

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I just passed for me like this year it's my birthday I didn't want to do too much I knew for a

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fact that I wanted to celebrate my best friend period both of them at that but one he's you know

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he doing stuff for schools so I had to respect that and he working I respect that you know

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so hey it wasn't nothing my best friend like every year since we've been friends we do things for

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each other on our birthdays or like around our birthdays but it's always on birthdays and we

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always make sure we get each other what we want or surprising because sometimes me like when it

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comes to gifts for myself I'd be like surprised me but they'd be like no I don't want to do that

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because if you don't like it I'm grateful for God because I'm grateful for God is what you give me

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you know and I'm like you know me like you know you know you know what I like so you know make a

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shake for real but me on other hand sometimes I do do surprises a little bit extra surprises

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but I also want to know exactly what you want because it's like you know like Christmas besides

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Christmas sometimes like say like if you didn't get the gift you wanted for your birthday you

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had to wait till Christmas or like when you do a good deal and stuff like that no I said I'm

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gonna change the narrative like you know if you don't wait till Christmas let me know now

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I don't care how much it is like because if we cool like that we real close like that money is no

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option like that goes for my siblings my parents and my close friends and some family members that

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I'm close with but you know money is not an option to me because it's like I can make it right back

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you know you turn a certain age only once I'm like how you know you only turn 20 this time 21

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22 23 only a year you don't repeat it 345 years you feel me so live in a moment do what you I do

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do it like a show be day baby okay so I say this to say as well like for birthdays I know a lot of

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people that be like I don't want to deal with motherfuckers I want to do me I'm gonna do me

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it's my birthday I want to you know I want to have me time so I'm gonna break me in the best way

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and I applaud that too because sometimes you do just want to be by yourself sometimes you

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don't want to deal with all the nonsense or have to worry about this one not having any money or

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that one saying they're gonna give haven't no sometimes you'd be surprised you know at your

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people that they come together and is able to pay their parts but from what I'll be looking at for

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my generation it don't go as well like some of the plans don't go as well I feel like the plans

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will go as well if y'all just cool if y'all cool you know you're talking to each other every day in

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the circle you know they find that situation things like that you cool when you add the people in

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from the outside that job really that's really not in your circle when you click yeah that makes a

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lot of conflict like I always hear that narrative like when girls go to DC not DC meet Miami for

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a trip they come back now friends I'd be like what the fuck what that mean and then I realized like

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you know people don't be having the right money people don't be having no money or people just

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have secret animosity against you because you around other people or they around people they

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really don't know you know and me like I almost went on a trip like almost went on a trip to Miami

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but I didn't go because I was straight up I'm like look I right now I'm trying paid his bill

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off for school and my birthday you know before yours for real so I'm like I don't know how this

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gonna go but you know me I'm honest about it like if I don't got it I don't got it if I if I want to

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go I'm gonna let you know but sometimes I just be like now I'm like wrong I'm like baby I like

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to be by myself sometimes you or I be like you know after before your trip you know me and you

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can go out I can you know take you whatever restaurant you want to go I pay for your dinner

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whatever lunch brunch I don't kill you know sometimes like you don't really want to be around

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all that drama but you want to respect the person and the person should respect you because it's

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your birthday you know me so yeah you're bad but because when it comes to the birthdays y'all

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like a lot of people just don't understand that it's my birthday like I should be treated with

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the up-dude respect and it should be vice versa you should treat people with the up-dude respect

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but like I say also too a lot of people are stuck in his narrative too like oh it's my birthday

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bow down to me bitch like no you can't do that and you can't do that because sometimes people like

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don't want to do that you know like okay like I said earlier like people be like if you ain't

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telling me birthday is fuck you in my mind I'm like did you tell them happy birthday because if I

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will understand if you told them happy birthday any take a birthday you feel a time away but if you

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ain't telling happy birthday girl boy but no but it's mainly the girls that do that boy they don't

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give a damn they do whatever for their birthday like I know like most dudes up here they go to

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script clubs the club had a section the bottles on that bake long trip since the they don't do what

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we do like they don't do that now I applaud y'all for I applaud y'all I really applaud these because

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they don't care they always be getting on us like y'all do too much y'all be doing too much I expect

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too much like fuck it like they don't show you that problem where it's like you know you know

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that's the words of encouragement because like I have got friends and they be on they piece of

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cues I ain't even realizing because I'll be telling them I'm like I don't understand like why females

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do that because they be the ones to that be dealing with females that's somewhat like that and they

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be saying I'll be putting her in chat letting her know I'm like you're putting check they like no I

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just give her words of encouragement like you know it's not worth it because I'll never forget one

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of my friends he was like you know who your real friends are when it's times where you need them

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the most which is true because like like your birthdays or like when you down bad and things

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like that you'll see who your real friends are you'll see who the ones is there for you that care

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for you they're really really really really love you and really love you downhill because

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like I say like a lot of people you really can't give a lot of flowers to and a lot of people you

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can't give them to like when it comes to birthdays I remember some I was like you ain't even post me

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for my birthday like why you I'm like what I didn't know people get mad about posters I don't get mad

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about a post I'm grateful if you tell me happy birthday you take a happy birthday that's it

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I never knew some people get offended if you don't post them on a birthday and give them the more

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word paragraphs or like that me I'm just like this I'm give you the same energy you gave me

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if you text me for my birthday I'm gonna text you for my your birthday if you text me and you

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post me for my birthday I'm gonna do the same thing you know I'm giving and receiving what you

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you know I'm getting what you give me and you're gonna receive what you receiving from me like it

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is what it is I'm not you know you can't do the most don't do the most if they ain't do the most

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for you that's where it comes from like previous episodes when I said like when you give that when

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you give that person all they fly with but when it's your turn they don't give you shit like

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they're not trying to give you what what you what you really supposed to get like I don't like that

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I don't like it it irks me it really does because it's like it's people out here like me that will

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really give you the shirt off the back and don't expect nothing from it versus people that'll do

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that and they expect some shit out of it like what no you did a good deed that's all I look at like

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whoever you pray to or whatever they look at and like you did a good deed like what who cares about

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getting it back like who cares I don't care about that it is what it is I did what I did I did the

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kinds of my heart I didn't do it just to do what I did it because that's how I felt in that moment

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and that's like person I am you see and when it comes like I said to the birthdays I do things

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because the kinds of my heart and if you gave me something like like if you give me something

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I'm a price match it I'm a price match to the same thing you gave me and I'm gonna give you

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something truly from me from my heart because that's how I am that's who I am sometimes you

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can't give people you can't introduce people to things that they cannot be introduced to especially

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when it comes to gifts for their birthday like you know some girls I know like they got dudes that

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they introduced them to the finest thing the finer things like you know taking the nice first and

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ones you know introduce them to designer things like designer the cologne clothes you know things

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like that however some of the impacts I've seen on there like the dudes are really like giving back

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now I'm like oh she introduced me to this for my birthday or graduation level so now I gotta

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introduce her to something that I learned from her different like say if I introduce introduce

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a dude a product and he introduced me to like Bob Bird I know other but I never had it and he just

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give it to me give me something like that that's genuine because like dang oh my god you introduced

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me to something that I didn't know that really like put an impact on me like dang you really got me

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this because I got you that and I guess the price is somewhat mixed I'm not sure y'all I do my research

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a little bit but yeah like that's what I'm saying too with gifts to like I use the problem that

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would be my best friend we invest friends for we've been friends for so long and best friends for

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a good while and we were younger like versus the gifts that we have now versus the gift we gave

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each other the gifts we gave each other back then we made it leveled up because I'm gonna tell y'all

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like I'll never forget the first gift that we gave each other it was like it was under a hundred

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dollars all budget was 50 and my best friend went above above me because she was working like that

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and I wasn't really working like that but I saved I know how to save so I was like I'm gonna make

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something shake for her and every year I'm like oh my god just gives me better than mine I would

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like I look at I can't I can't but then when I started working constantly and started working two

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jobs of stuff it was vice versa she was like you don't know you can't do that now I gotta do that

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but now it was like we don't care because it's like you know it's genuine sometimes I'd be like

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alright we want to price match but sometimes I'd be like forget it you know it is what it is

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because we know each other for so long and we started from introducing each other from something

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small to introducing us to big things and like I just never forget like when it came to our

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birthdays like per birthdays after Christmas in New Year's so I'd be like damn it's gonna be hard

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because for Christmas we try to go real like you know we try to go do good but birthday we try to do

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beyond but I'd be like for me it's hard because I'd be trying to go beyond for both I'm trying to

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go beyond for both of her but it's like you know now I know you know I just be like okay you know

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get a wishy get a one big gift and then get a bigger gift you know between one day's worth

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but yeah when it comes to your birthday y'all I feel like you should be celebrating it do it like a

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joe b day do what you want to do with who you want to be with like I know a lot of y'all been in

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this situation where it's the light some birthdays you just be surprised that you just need a break

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from everyone and you need to just introduce yourself to something you need to do something for

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you for change because at times it's like I said within the social media the image that they

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display for us is like oh we gotta go to Miami or we gotta go to Vegas I gotta go to here to have a

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good time when you don't like you can go to place like DC for a day Philly New York like you can do

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day trips and have the time it like with your partner by yourself with your best friend with your

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family now buy yourself I'm a little shaky about that because I'm not taking a day trip by myself

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and probably till I get like 30 years old right now I'm not doing that uh uh but yeah like sometimes

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I was like you gotta do for you yeah you might introduce yourself to like trips by yourself

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shop is trips whatever just doing something for yourself or you and your partner like hey babe

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you know I want us to do this that or they even do a surprise where you're like I never had a

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surprise party or a surprise gift yet I would die for that like I would really be dying if

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somebody gave me a surprise party or surprise gift just because but you know you know because I

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always be the ones those be the moment you really be like oh my god this is so crazy like what made

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you want to do this for me but yeah sometimes you really really gotta think like it's your birthday

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your birthday only comes once a year once a year so me I try to prepare myself sometimes I change

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my plans in the midst of it like I always keep a backup plan just in case but I'm telling y'all

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from experience this is like don't let the media define you don't let the media define what a good

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time look like because I'm gonna tell you something them house parties I had in this house what I didn't

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post them them videos because it's like once you post them people be like oh I want kind of one

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some people you can't invite in your house even I'm big on that some people don't even need to know

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where you live in some people need to know your address where you from like wish you don't none

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of that so like when I had them house parties y'all I had the time my life because I was

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surrounded by the people that I care like I really care for me and I care for them you know so yeah

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like even if it's you don't have to go as big you don't even have to go as hard for your birthday if

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you you know you don't want to you all I'm saying is do for you but do it the way you really want

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to do it don't tell nobody your plans Eva if you don't want them involved like if you say you want

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to have a birthday party theme like how they do the sneaker gala and you want to do it but mix it

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up with a little something like you know give it prom type theme don't tell somebody because I'm

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telling y'all they're going to take your ideas I've seen that happen before and they try to do it

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like you but they mess up like you like you can't take my idea like you I'm Picasso in this motherfucker

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and you trying to be Michelangelo baby you can't do that you can't you can't take what Picasso is

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displaying and try to do it over but do it as Michelangelo's type no you can't do that and that's

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what a lot of people do too like that's another thing too we have with the media too like people be

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like oh my god my birthday I went to Miami and she going to Miami she got a private she got a jet

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and all that or private boat and all that let it go like this it's not a competition sometimes

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like I said like I said you can't tell everybody what you want to do because they're gonna say oh

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I'm gonna do that you can mean ideas and then be turned around like let me show you how to do this

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let me show you how to do it right I feel like overall for your birthday make it how you want

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to make it but make sure if you do want to celebrate it with motherfuckers make sure it's the

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motherfuckers that you truly truly truly is down with like they truly like it's your a one day

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ones and you don't gotta feel no secret animosity or nothing with it because I've been there before

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had birthday parties and dinners and stuff and people came with had secret animosity or didn't

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show up and I ain't here for them ever since and I wish them nothing but the best because it's not

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no beef I'm that's one thing about me I'm not beefing you know at times it do pisses you off

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though especially like if you had them trips and then dinner parties and stuff and you tell people

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give the dates and all that and I don't like to get smart I only get smart when it's time to get

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smart like you get smart at me okay now I got you motherfuckers like let's go ahead but it's like I

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should not have to be doing all this because you know your birthday is special that's a special

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moment especially for your parents because like if your parents are here to still see parents or

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guardians you know is here to see it too you know those are special moments even if they're not here

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off-bed you know they're not here they're still watching they still grateful you know because

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the baby they they don't want them ages so hey like when my birthday is coming around my parents be

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you know just excited as I am whenever they come around because I'm able to celebrate it and I'm

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able to give them the flowers that they deserve I'm able to give them what they want you know I'm

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able to pull strings and do things like that for them because like I said you only turn a certain

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age once so do it right and you know sometimes go big old home sometimes you might not want to go

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big old home but whatever the case may be enjoy your birthday the way you want to enjoy it do what

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you want to do for you when it's time for you to celebrate you and if the motherfuckers that say

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they fuck what you don't do for you let them go sometimes you got to love people from a distance

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and not learn that too and you know when it comes to your birthdays like I say my birthday I don't

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expect for a lot of people to call me anywhere text me or post me anywhere because you know sometimes

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it's like I don't deal with a lot of people at times you know some of them like I deal with them

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heavy and that I associate stuff like that you know sometimes you I know what to I feel like I

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know to it what to expect but for my birthday I didn't expect a lot of people to call try to give

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gifts and things like that you know but I appreciate I appreciate a lot and the ones that did give

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gifts and stuff y'all I'm gonna give you a gift back you know because that's just me

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but yeah I say this to say to leave y'all on this note for your birthday do it like a yo bday

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baby do what makes you happy do the things that you've been dying to do do any like I said like

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in the previous episode wake up sometimes you wake up and you just want to try new things on your

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birthday that's the time to you you want to go here do what you want to do this do you want to try

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this you want to do this you want to try something different do you want to make a tradition for

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your birthday do it but what I'm all I'm saying is all together is just make sure when is your

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birthday you're able to say I enjoyed it because as times you know we had them birthdays we're like

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we really enjoy it but it's okay because you can do like the weekend of or whatever the day before

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whatever you know but your actual birthday I feel like you should actually have a good ass time because

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you actually deserve it you actually should do what you want to do because it's you you know

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now but yes nevertheless I just hope that this episode put some ideas and people's

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head about you know the company you keep um previous birthdays future birthdays you know

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just keep an eye opening you know on things and you know for your birthday it's special those

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the special days like each year is that's a special that's special because you're turning

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you're turning into a new person even though you're aging you know you're aging well you know

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you're going to age well but it's like you're evolving you're leveling up to a new chapter

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in your life that you as a little kid made was waiting for or you really haven't paid a pension

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for like I feel like everybody when you get older you pay digital 16 18 21 25 30 birthday then you

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know 30th birthdays which is okay too you know but like I said just live for those moments do what

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you gotta do in those moments but do it for you don't do it for nobody else if you want to go crazy

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go stupid do it but be responsible to you there's nothing be responsible be careful because you know

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sometimes you go to places you know like we can go out of town they'll know you're you're not from

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here and they'll try to use some crazy shit to you so if your birthday is coming up happy birthday

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to the cancers you know leo's virgos all yours happy birthday to y'all whenever y'all listen to

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this happy birthday though y'all but big shout to them can't live but I'm not going you know

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shout nobody out you know be a birthday if you're leo Virgo leave her all at you know every birthday

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and events but yes as I believe with I'm leaving y'all out with this to say do it do it do it just

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do it like Nike okay nevertheless I wish y'all nothing but peace and blessings um please stay

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safe out here in this heat please stay hydrated things like that be safe as well have a good

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time because there was some of time and the rain is not having raining as much I'm glad but I feel

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like it's gonna come back again but yes like live it up just live your life to the fullest every day

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and be prepared for the next episode because soon season one is coming to an end soon like y'all

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we're getting prepared for season two and I cannot wait because y'all will hear from others as well

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like I know y'all love hearing my voice but I want to hear from y'all and I want y'all to hear from

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others just like me and you for real but yes I wish y'all nothing but the best be safe be blessed

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until next time bye y'all