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EATS A DAY. Y'all already know the drill whether y'all are on the go or at home. I just want you
guys to sit back, relax, and enjoy today's vibe by the day because as always every vibe by the day
is something special and very important. So without further ado sit back, relax, and enjoy hearing my voice.
So today's vibe by the day is image. Yes today's vibe by the day is image because I feel as though
image plays a big role within today's society especially within the black community. Image
plays a very very very very significant role within everything that we do each and every day.
So I'm gonna start off by saying that just by you looking a certain type of way and holding yourself
up to a certain type of paddle school people will look at you and always have something to say about
you. Always have something to pick about and I honestly don't understand it like I just don't
understand why people fail to realize that okay you know they have an image to uphold but they're
still human at the end of the day or sometimes the image that is being displayed is really not them
and when I say the really not them part is because social media and I know y'all probably like social
media where it's trying to echo down for y'all because it sounds funny in my ears but social
media image yes and the reason why I say image in social media is a problem is because yes we're
all on social media for something and when I be on social media at times like what is it called the
shade room the teen shade room I see a lot of stuff on those pages about these people and the images
that that they be upholding for themselves at times just being sometimes nothing but a bold face a
lot or these images they think that the new generation should look up to which is not like
relationship goals this one hit me so much when it came to today's vibe image because I had a
conversation with a old coworker of mine and they was like oh you know you should talk about like how
people come on social media and they think what everybody else is doing is the right thing and
which is not which is not and the reason why I use the shade room in the teen shade room as a prime
example is because the teen shade room it was a story about these you this youtube couple they
did a prank or whatever I don't know what it was but it it really escalated to something really really
bad and I feel as though that you had an image to uphold and the image that you upholding it's a
bold a bold face lie because from what the story I was hearing that her boyfriend had cheated no
her friend had added her boyfriend into her to the close friends and she found out and she broke
up with him and they was going back and forth on instagram about it and a couple days later he
popped up with flowers all like some all that we did was for content see the image that you get from
these youtubers sometimes it's not a good image because you're really doing things that people are
really having problems with and fell out with friendships in relationships with because of
something called honesty and trust when I feel like you are a person that has an image to uphold
you should be displaying nothing but the truth you should be displaying nothing but the real deal
positivity things like that don't do things that will trigger you to have your fans or your fan
base or whatever look at you like a joke because the image that you're upholding it's not good like
it's been so bad like they've been on this page and now in and out and in and out and in out and
the youtube the people that are on youtube the bloggers they keep up with this um stories and
stuff too they're like this is insane and this is what people looking up to you like
y'all know I always use a song quote like carti they see pictures they say goals i'm who they're
trying to be now certain stuff that i see on instagram it's like okay ooh that's genuine and
I want that that's what I want in life too some of it is bullshit and the reason why I say some of
these images that people carry is bullshit because some of it's not real it's like reality tv it's a
storyline that they want you to believe that it's not true like love and hip hop some of the story
lines on there are both based by it is not true and the image that they're upholding is to keep
them irrelevant let me tell you something even if you have a good or bad image you need to know from
this point out it don't matter how big you are or not just be honest because people are watching you
you have people that consider you role models they is people out here that consider you somebody
that they want to meet to look up to you one day you know and I feel like the image that you uphold
it is really negative who wants to be around that yes I get it we're human you're human at the end
of the day but you hold a higher title because you famous your famous is some type of world like the
youtube world social the instagram facebook twitter world or land you know you will uphold a image
that people are looking up to and some of these images that people are looking up to is a ball face
a ball a ball face lied to me because half of these images that people are looking up to is just
crazy to me because these images are affecting some some kids like some kids are really like
into this like whatever you're doing crazy they're into it they like it they see it they like oh my
gosh she does this I want to do this oh she calls herself it's on it is he does this I want to do
this like you know what they say be careful what you do because people are always watching and you
never know who's watching like when famous people I really feel bad for them because paparazzi is
always around and they always take a picture like they could be doing anything and paparazzi can make
up a ball face ass lie about what you're doing just to get a headlight just to get it in the
shave room twitter and all that just to get a storyline and then for to get more money in the
pocket and I feel like paparazzi their image is bullshit too because like you really going out here
snapping pictures of other people they got a little fame a little card whatever you snap these pictures
making up these bullshit ass storylines and y'all just think it's okay I don't think that's okay like
if I do become famous within this podcast I'm still going to be the same person
it I'm not changing because it's like you have an image to uphold and my image is to be real
yes at times I have my moments that I just don't want to hear the shit or don't want to be bothered
with it but it's like I'm not going to change and a lot of people you know like when I watch TV I watch
old older shows back then for my when I was younger and stuff half of them kids it's the same
people half of them it's not the same because the image that they had it changed them to a whole
never person and it wasn't good so I say this to say when it comes to image you know like when
they say oh that's goals that's what you're supposed to be doing like certain some of the
shit that people are promoting out here it's not it's it's not real I feel like it's not real
it's not genuine like all these crazy scenarios stories and images and titles and things that
y'all are upholding it's not real it's not it's not because half of these people are paid to
to feel this way by these people half these people are paid to act and ask because of the company
and whoever whatever it is okay and social media plays a big part with these images because a lot
of kids see these people and they be like oh they do it I'm gonna do it like I now forget when I was
in when I went to community college when I was a freshman and my professor my communication
professor was like I want y'all to do a project or something in the community that you feel as though
it's affecting children and I did music because you know like I say I'm I'm a city girl like I'm from
Baltimore City and these children up here love young boy love young boy and young boy is cool
he alright with me but I really don't I don't really listen to it like that I listen to it but
I'm not a big fan you know I listen to you know from that party that's okay cool but on a daily
basis or whatever if I want to get in that mode not so much not as much so it's like in the middle
but nevertheless I just I did my project on how music affects kids because you know artists are
poets in their own little way even if they do it on beat off beat whatever how they write they
live so they write it down if they freestyle in it or whatever off the dome whatever some of this
stuff that they're saying they're not doing like I never forget I was watching this interview I think
Nikki Wanaaj and Joe Buttons she was on his uh broadcast or whatever and she was like feature
on there talking about some he drinks dirty soda and all that but he's a beginner like he don't he
just starting to do it so some of the people that you looking up to and all that stuff that
they're saying in their lyrics it's cat some of the stuff that they're displaying like in the industry
or whatever it's cat they're doing that because that's what's going on in the world and that's the
image that they wanted to uphold and people don't understand the music that you listen to or to can
also put an impact on you like I said like the children up here love young boy because I'll never
forget I um I was I think when my little sister was still at our elementary science middle school
she was in her school that went up her school and be our champ wrong for her trip these little kids
were elementary kids she was in middle school that was that was her last year but elementary
and middle like they connected for her and I seen these little kids rapping young boy I'm like huh
wait a minute wait a minute and it's like you really can't fault the kids you gotta fault the parents
and the siblings because that's what they listen to sometimes it's like yeah it's cute and funny at
that moment but sometimes like I'm afraid to have my child listen to this because it's like this is
what they they're gonna think it's right and what I'm saying to them is gonna be wrong you know and
like within the project I had to I said I said that too I was like sometimes these images that we uphold
from people slash ourselves we feel as though what they display is better than what we're trying to
display and I feel as though I listen to all the music like my mom and I had a conversation I too
long ago about music like always tell my mom you listen to that Odie Wiguddi music like music from
70s 80s 90s I do too because I learned it from my parents but when I play certain music around my
sister she was like what is that turn that off my little sister's little dirt and I understand it
but I be like you need to listen to something else because you know sometimes it's like yeah you
want your child to you know have their own way and images from people and stuff but when it comes to
music I want you to have a variety I think children should have a variety of different
type of music genres that they hear from and not just one you know rap should not just be the only
one like jazz country hip-hop r&b pop you know I have those many different varieties in my phone
and I grew up listening to that so when they're going back to image the images that you see with
the on social media and in person is very different it's very different and not even we're not even
going to talk about the famous people no more we're going to move aside from that we talk about
people like me regular people like us sometimes the images that y'all uphold on instagram twitter
facebook versus in person be full of bull to something y'all talk that talk on flash all this
money and do all this and that but in person y'all the main ones except for stuff I don't understand
that but you know what I do understand social media is a place where you could be anybody you want
you could display the real you you could do you but it's also a place for you to express what you
want to express if you want to get on there say you got this you got that and in reality you don't
cool but I feel like if somebody knows exactly who you are I don't think you need to be on their
line you don't because the image that you're trying to uphold baby it's gone like high school image
like we was in high school yeah it was some dudes out there some girls out there that were
that they had a big image but at the high school baby that image is gone like that's gone like
that high school cloud gone where oh it's held now we're getting older as hell now we're getting older
it's held like what that all that that cloud and all that you got girl boy gone let it go like
why are you still holding on to that like people know of you for what you be it yet an image you
uphold and half of those images that y'all uphold was with some crazy images and I wouldn't even
want nobody to even remember me for a crazy moment I know we all have our moments yes but some of them
images was too impressed people and don't think about me I'm not a people pleaser I'm not doing
that I'm going to give you the real nitty gritty even at times if I have to get a little bit like
if I gotta get a little bit of crust up which is to let you know what's going on
some people you know they say they're green yeah so many people are green for these images
baby the image that I uphold is to be me nothing but me and that's it the real me at times yes I
come outside look like I don't love myself sometimes I come outside look like oh you look like you got
some money but nevertheless I'm not ready to go out here and act like I don't know who I am I'm not
gonna go out here act like I'm not somebody I'm not to uphold that image for somebody no that's
another thing too the image and the certain things that we do to get people's attention it's just
all over the place like it's females out here that do things to get a dude's attention and then
when they get the attention from the dude he's not on what they are on like for example I don't
not people that get bbl's stuff but I just feel as though that me I'm big on safety reason I'm not
getting no bbl to impress nobody if it's no real reason on why I need to get it some people out here
get it because what they want some people get it because if they want attention me I don't like
attention I don't because some of the time all attention is not good attention and it's not
good intentions so like even though I am a good I am a woman yes I am a young woman and I do like
men sometimes the image that you give to them completely on like I be at work and sometimes
I wear shorts but those short be like a little baggy like I like them to be a little loose sometimes
because you know who want to walk around with tight clothes I don't understand that like
I don't understand that like the image I uphold is I'm a working woman but I also got class
I'm not I'm not gonna be fast I'm not doing that because the image I uphold for myself is that I'm
a lady and I'm not easy and I'm not green for what you're trying to sell me okay I'm not with
it you could just look like even on a bad day as they say well I say not even my best days you
still can get somebody's attention but I really don't be living for that because that's not my
image I just be me you come to me respectfully I'm a company respectfully now you come to me
disrespectful you a man oh you what you don't match your match now because the image you're
trying to uphold with me is not going to fly like it vice versa with with men too sometimes
us females come to y'all with good intentions and some is not because the way that your image is
is how you display yourself too sometimes would be like the green light of okay this is what he is
this is what he want to be or this is what he is like you know okay avoid because he
wear his pants his head way off his behind he coming up here with a stack in his pocket
he wears clothes like this like that and I didn't realize he even if the guys that come
there see the times we always be like oh this carlton looking motherfucker oh my gosh like the
images that we hold for each other and the image that we have for ourselves sometimes like good
and bad if you know full-fat what you do and how you dress is up does for you girl boy
being women baby I don't care you do that because that's the image that you have for yourself if
you don't do it on a regular basis then something wrong like if you know certain stuff is not for
you don't do it like for me when it's time to get you know it's time to you know show show up and show
out oh my do that but on a regular day I'm gonna make nothing turn to something okay like it's just
like when it comes to the image a lot of people just feel and realize that your image is what you
make it and I feel like social media has took a detour on us being confident and comfortable with
in who we are because of the images that we see online from the famous people and everything like
that like people like girls at that like they do things because that's the image that's what's it
that's what dudes want like I never forget that I was watching like the notorious document and you
know notorious and little chemist together but he did some stuff to her that really ticked me off
and that lead it to up her image of now because he won you know versus what he wanted and versus
what she had she felt as though what she had was not enough and I felt as though if a man or woman
cannot accept you for how you are in the image of a look at you a whole let him or her go walk away
from that because you shouldn't have to change yourself for nobody I'm not doing it I'm not
changing what I do on a daily basis or who I am for somebody to care love me and to pay attention
to notice me no that goes for family friends relationship everything if you can't accept me
for who I am then why should I even still continue to talk to you because let me tell you something
that's another thing I use that as an example because after all that fiasco happened a lot of
girls started to change and all the stories that I've seen within the industry a lot of girls
would change they look because that's what's it that's what men talk about I like a woman with
big breasts big boobs dog hair what what and people are really out here changing images so
they can get noticed no no no no no I say this to say do not change for anybody that's not going
to change for you and I ain't talking about parents I'm talking about mentally and physically why
mentally if you're not going to change for the better for me but for us or whatever the situation
is a family friend relationship or relationship in general with a man or a woman if they're not
entitled to change the image that they have for you for the better let them go it's not worthy it's
not worth it's not worth you really having to spend a thousand dollars thousand dollars on your
look it's the for a man or woman just to finally realize you it's not worth it it's not worth it
at all it's not worth all that time and energy for you to change the image of who you are just
to impress about it's not it's not and I feel like image is a gift and a curse because if you
have image some people's images out here are very good they display good energy the image is good
they display a good purpose half of these people images are not good because it has a hold on people
today is having them thinking and wondering what am I doing wrong why I'm not getting this type of
energy and let me tell you good in all energy is not good energy certain energy that you get from
people is not good like some of the attention that you think is good is not is not and like you know
you could just wear simple stuff people are gonna do women whoever they're gonna be like oh my god
she thinks she better than me or do you be like oh my god she got all that out of nothing uh it's
like it's a gift and a curse for being who you are because at times it's like you can't really go
outside in peace without somebody saying you're you scared you know sometimes it's like your image
you uphold for yourself is like it's good and bad the image that I uphold is a display nothing but
natural even though at times I do wear wig I don't care this is the real me this is the real deal
sometimes my wig is not gonna look so up to par sometimes my hair is not gonna look up to par
but I'm not gonna change how I am and what I do just to get the next man or woman's opinion
not doing that if you like to wear certain stuff do that for you don't try to keep up with what's
hot because sometimes what's hot it's not for you and not for your pockets okay like a lot of girls
out here got these valenciaga bags and um all these designer some of them can't even keep up with it
like if you know that if you're trying to create an image for you think about this make a blueprint
y'all know I love that word haven't used that word in a minute make a blueprint on why in the world
you think you should change your image sometimes yes we have to level up on images and change for
the better because sometimes the old routine is not the same but then when you get older sometimes
you do got to change for the better within your image however before you make those changes lay it
out on the table on why you should do this and make sure with on that blueprint is going to make
sense once it comes to life like when I got older certain stuff I took away certain stuff are brought
in like the vision board situation on a vision board I did add I want to dress a little bit more
professional and classy because the pictures I seen of women how they made little outfits like these
like just a button-up shirt and the jeans make it look cute I want to do that I want to do certain
stuff like that I don't want to go out here showing my bare behind sometimes I still get insecure
about my legs and stuff because I got dents and wrinkles in my thyroid okay but nevertheless the
image that I uphold for myself is to love yourself but also make sure that you're not sending out the
wrong message you know you want to make sure that the image you uphold on and off social media is good
and not giving off the wrong message and this is why this podcast is my platform where I feel
comfortable what I want to say because yes this is media but off the media if we have no if I
was have a conversation one of you guys in person it's the same my image is the same it's not going
to change it's not because this is how I feel this is what I stand for and this is what I believe in
and I want to stick to this and tell us my time to go okay so with that being said when it comes to
image live in the truth live in your truth do not believe everything that's on social media
because at times like I said half of those those story scenarios and stuff those images are paid
images they're getting paid to lie sometimes they're getting paid to promote this to fill us
the regular people minds up with this is what we should be living we should be living like this I
should be riding around like this I should be with him I should be with them I should be outside every
no don't start any bad habits or don't create any images that will lead to bad habits and that will
lead you to a situation where you don't know who you are anymore and it'll also lead to the people
around you not knowing who you are trust me I see this happen so certain people change because they
felt so that's it that's a new trend no it's not be you if you know you don't do certain stuff like
that don't do it that's not your image that's not how you feel that's not what you believe it don't
do it like don't don't sit there and think oh I could do this but then you sit back like I can't do
this it's not for me this is not the image of trying to uphold because that could cause peer
pressure image can also create peer pressure and low self-esteem and people are not understanding
the image that you uphold that's for you that's cool that you promote and everything but that's
not everybody and I speak mainly for the women on this one because like I said the surgeries and
things like that sometimes some of the stories that y'all have are reasonable some of them are just
not some of them just like okay if I get this it's gonna make me hot it's not because like yeah you
get some surgeries and stuff but you still gotta keep it up you gotta keep up this image and you
know like tattoos and stuff like you get it once you get it make sure this is the image or whatever
is you want because once it's there is there forever and you can't get it away like it's a tattoo
you can't erase really like yeah you go to the people get the little stuff but you really still
can't get erased because the marks and stuff still gonna be there some of the stuff still gonna be
there so I say this to say when it comes to image live for you live in the image that you know as
you live in your true self your true colors you everything true don't follow behind these social
media or people promotion blogs and stuff like that that's not you if you know certain stuff is not
for you don't try it don't try it if you if you know you a type person like I'm not gonna do that
that's not for me or you judge people doing it doing that why would you even think that you want to
try it like if you know you don't like what people drink why are you trying to drink you know you
don't drink like that like don't try to do things just to fit in you know if nobody's gonna accept
you your real true image because you being you you being real need to let them go and let them
have their image if they uphold it because both of your images are not the same and both of y'all
not the same so I say this to say when it comes to an image live in your truth live for you love
yourself don't do things that you know you're not ready for don't take a risk that you know it's not
for you because at the end of the day this is your life you make it how it is the image that you
uphold display and things like that to others is how others are going to remember you and as I say
as well social media is like the good and bad game because like you could be somebody on there
that nobody know but behind closed doors people that know you that's behind behind the scenes of it
gotta be you gotta be careful when you do that don't be sneaky but yes I say this to say
I want everyone to live the truth live in it colors because your image is who you are I don't
care if you're not famous or not I'm not famous and if you were to become famous don't forget who
you are don't let fame and money change you because at the end of the day people are quick to pinpoint
that on you like you know before you was famous you were a regular person now you're famous you
had your own nobody you know so you don't want that make sure you the image is true it's firm it's
kind clean cut all that positive not negative that you see on social media some of this stuff like I
say again it's paid advertise me to get us sucked up in that image that you know it's not free and
for the kids I just hope for the children sorry for the children that you know or may listen to this
because my podcast is free and I'm cut it's for everybody here live for you don't be afraid to be
you then don't be bullying the kids either that you feel as though I'm not like you because they're
different and it's good to be different because if we was all the same this life will be boring
okay so think about that like we was all the same life will be boring it'd be nothing exciting about
life like all these talents that people have the images that they uphold what they talent stuff
if we have to sing a talent it's boring because nobody's different nobody's created and that's
what I like about us being different everybody's creative everybody's different everybody got
something in their own little way it might be the same category but it's different someone was born
like that some of it learned overnight or days and took practice you know so I say this to say
when it comes to your image please stand firm tall and firm on everything that you do don't be
afraid to be who you are don't let nobody take your joy don't let nobody put yourself a thing down
and don't let nobody peer pressure you and within trying to change who you are for an image okay
because you're different for a reason and that's what makes you who you are
whether it's rain or shine whenever you guys are listening to this I hope you guys enjoy your day
morning afternoon or evening whenever you're hearing this I just hope that this puts a big
impact on your life because it did to me like this topic is one of the topics that I wanted to talk
about but I just didn't know how to categorize that and I'm glad I did as an image but as always
I wish you guys thought that with peace and blessings please be safe out here because
the summertime please stay hydrated please stay up to par with everything as well and you guys will
hear from me next time bye