Okay guys, welcome to the Say Lest podcast.
I'm your host Caroline Jones and this is going to be the official first official episode.
So round of applause.
We didn't really know if this was going to happen but you know, here we are.
We're going to be talking about anything from pop culture all the way to like the deeper
issues of life and you know, just certain ideologies.
Like some people are going to be, some people on their podcast, they talk about influencers
and like what they believe about that.
We're going to talk about those things as well.
Now I'm so sorry if you can probably hear Canadian geese outside and my brain might
be a little bit scattered because I just got back from like really a therapy session
so we're just going to try to give this all taking care.
But basically with this first episode I just kind of wanted to encourage everybody that
honestly you are right where you need to be in life.
And your life does not turn out the way you thought it would and I'm also like saying
this for me as well.
So it makes things super short and also the first ever podcast going to be like real
and honest with you.
But let's just say there was this opportunity that I wanted to be involved in and I knew
that I could give it my all.
But I was not actually given that opportunity.
I know that's very vague but honestly, I might feel a little bit more in a different podcast
episode.
And sometimes you think everybody else is further ahead of you or that maybe you're
going through some hard things and no one even sees what you're going through.
No one hears you.
I can honestly say I've been there and I continue to go through that 9 out of 10 times
probably a day for being generous to you but I have gone through that of thinking while
no one's listening, no one hears me, no one even knows what's going on, no one cares.
Sometimes all it takes is like opening up to those different individuals and they'll
be like hey I'm sorry that's happened or you know what let's meet up, let's talk, let's
go through some different things and work this through.
But when you have such an imagination of different ideas, tasks just running through your head
you don't always have that option to go and talk to people and you don't know who you
can trust, who is going to not rat you out for lack of a better word and I'm still trying
to get used to that, still trying to get used to the fact that people actually do want to
be with you, do want to surround yourselves with people who actually care, people who
are there for you but it is definitely a difficult task.
I'm not even going to lie.
Now I'm not saying that you need to just tell everybody every dog secret that you've ever
been through but I have a pretty bubbly personality and when you think you're close to me I still
have my walls up pretty high so I'm not going to let anyone in and honestly that's sometimes
a dangerous way to live because you don't really see who is there who has your hand.
This is a way that I describe it to people.
What I have described it in the past is imagine we are all lost at sea and because I am so
busy carrying you to shore I myself am drowning but I will be there for you no matter what
because I also don't want to carry my heart on my sleeve.
Another thing is I think a lot more people are struggling worse than I am so I can be
drowning I can be lost in the sea and when I have mentioned that to people people have
been like no we are there for you we care and we will actually give you the life preserver
so that you can be safe to shore.
So here's another analogy like whatever stage of life you are in right now it's going to
get easier and some days it just doesn't seem that way but I promise it is going to get
easier.
Life is not always going to be easy life is going to be tough but I was watching like
a TV show the other day actually it's been like a couple months ago now but basically
these whole characters you wait and you're like okay is Netflix going to renew them
for another season they do.
Imagine your life being a series a movie television series what have you your season
has been renewed by Netflix whoever the director is but in that moment we can't see it and
we're like okay do I make it to the next episode at least hopefully they don't try to kill
me off but what happens so you are going to make it to the next episode you are going
to thrive after that next episode but the thing is how do we thrive when we've been
through it time and time again when if you're watching out of banks we don't feel like we
ever get that gold it always feels like it's going to take in from us things keep happening
we have a dad like Luke or the thing is sometimes you have to keep going you have to understand
life is an adventure and you just have to kind of trail through it it doesn't mean that everything
in life is going to be simplistic and you can go through the motions no what it does mean
is that at least you have life you can be able to succeed in that life no matter what
it takes seek out your friendships talk to them tell them when you are having a rough
day and you know what is some of them place you on red or even go shoot doing those times
when you were having the worst possible day ever and I'm trying to make this podcast
PG so that then if like little kids want to listen to it too with the people in the car
they can and they don't mom doesn't have to worry about but some things may not be PG
like this first episode probably won't be anyway and as we go on like this podcast we're probably
gonna just like learn together what works what doesn't work anyway so reaching out to
those people being able to even like make plans I have literally forced myself to make plans
with people now I am not introvert I love talking to people I'm an extrovert at heart
like just let me spend time with people and I will be fine the thing is I don't know exactly
about everybody else and so sometimes I'm like oh they have their own thing going on
and it's just an assumption on my part that they have their own thing that I don't reach
out to them like hey why don't we ever hang out anymore I thought you were busy so be
able to connect with your friendships and talk with them let them know what's really
going on in your life because while it may not be the easiest thing it does help you
become more connected to those individuals so I already said like make plans with them
be able to socialize even like win and let's say some of those people do have different
things going on what I think that I'm going to have to end up doing is not rely solely
on that person because no one can be like the sole component of your happiness no one
at all but and so I'm not saying like rely on them but like actually find the ability
to be with myself and not hate myself well I'm like with just myself let's say my friends
have something going on with these different individuals do that's not necessarily the
fault and you can like make plans and have them jacked back to that but there might be
some empty spaces and I know we hate having an empty place on our calendar because that
gives us more time to just be alone and then our thoughts and then our anxieties and worries
but when you allow yourself to be in those places even call young who was lovely lovely
psychologist okay my heart anyway he is just saying that he came up with extrovert versus
introvert and he was saying that even those people who are extroverts or each individual
needs that time a little bit by themselves to recharge and to be able to process their
emotions because if you're never there I always use the thing oh I'm an extrovert I have to
be with people 24 7 and you know what I did and people's like hey how are you doing how
are you really doing and I'm like I'm fine I'm totally great because I never got time
to set in my emotions and feel them and then when I did I would end up like feeling in
this deep remorse state and like this like this pit kind of in the bottom of my stomach
so when it gets to those moments of you know I don't know how I can do this being able
to like reach out to that person even if it's just one friend one individual who you know
will truly understand what it is you've gone through what it is you've even gone through
be able to assist you out of that because some of us we can like at least hear what the person
is saying and I'm listening is top tier of empathy but sometimes when you just listen
to but you're not respected there's no like action on their part or sometimes it feels
worse is if like to it lasts only for two minutes and they ask you how you're doing
you know like I'm really not okay and then it's kind of like brushed off but just find
someone who truly listens who truly hears you you can you can go to a therapist you can
even go to like a friend or family member as long as they truly and I get it some people
don't have like the best relationship with people just go to whoever is going to be that
safe space for you talk to them let them know where you're at what you're feeling and honestly
you may need to seek professional help but always always always you take the time for
yourself nothing else if you're not hearing anything else on this podcast take the time
for yourself do something that you love that you want to accomplish so that you can feel
joy about where you've been where you've come from and where you are going well that's the
end of this day less podcast and I hope that you have a great one talk to you soon