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Okay guys, welcome to the Say Lest podcast.

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I'm your host Caroline Jones and this is going to be the official first official episode.

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So round of applause.

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We didn't really know if this was going to happen but you know, here we are.

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We're going to be talking about anything from pop culture all the way to like the deeper

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issues of life and you know, just certain ideologies.

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Like some people are going to be, some people on their podcast, they talk about influencers

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and like what they believe about that.

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We're going to talk about those things as well.

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Now I'm so sorry if you can probably hear Canadian geese outside and my brain might

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be a little bit scattered because I just got back from like really a therapy session

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so we're just going to try to give this all taking care.

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But basically with this first episode I just kind of wanted to encourage everybody that

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honestly you are right where you need to be in life.

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And your life does not turn out the way you thought it would and I'm also like saying

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this for me as well.

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So it makes things super short and also the first ever podcast going to be like real

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and honest with you.

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But let's just say there was this opportunity that I wanted to be involved in and I knew

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that I could give it my all.

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But I was not actually given that opportunity.

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I know that's very vague but honestly, I might feel a little bit more in a different podcast

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episode.

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And sometimes you think everybody else is further ahead of you or that maybe you're

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going through some hard things and no one even sees what you're going through.

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No one hears you.

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I can honestly say I've been there and I continue to go through that 9 out of 10 times

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probably a day for being generous to you but I have gone through that of thinking while

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no one's listening, no one hears me, no one even knows what's going on, no one cares.

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Sometimes all it takes is like opening up to those different individuals and they'll

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be like hey I'm sorry that's happened or you know what let's meet up, let's talk, let's

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go through some different things and work this through.

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But when you have such an imagination of different ideas, tasks just running through your head

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you don't always have that option to go and talk to people and you don't know who you

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can trust, who is going to not rat you out for lack of a better word and I'm still trying

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to get used to that, still trying to get used to the fact that people actually do want to

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be with you, do want to surround yourselves with people who actually care, people who

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are there for you but it is definitely a difficult task.

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I'm not even going to lie.

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Now I'm not saying that you need to just tell everybody every dog secret that you've ever

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been through but I have a pretty bubbly personality and when you think you're close to me I still

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have my walls up pretty high so I'm not going to let anyone in and honestly that's sometimes

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a dangerous way to live because you don't really see who is there who has your hand.

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This is a way that I describe it to people.

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What I have described it in the past is imagine we are all lost at sea and because I am so

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busy carrying you to shore I myself am drowning but I will be there for you no matter what

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because I also don't want to carry my heart on my sleeve.

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Another thing is I think a lot more people are struggling worse than I am so I can be

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drowning I can be lost in the sea and when I have mentioned that to people people have

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been like no we are there for you we care and we will actually give you the life preserver

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so that you can be safe to shore.

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So here's another analogy like whatever stage of life you are in right now it's going to

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get easier and some days it just doesn't seem that way but I promise it is going to get

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easier.

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Life is not always going to be easy life is going to be tough but I was watching like

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a TV show the other day actually it's been like a couple months ago now but basically

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these whole characters you wait and you're like okay is Netflix going to renew them

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for another season they do.

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Imagine your life being a series a movie television series what have you your season

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has been renewed by Netflix whoever the director is but in that moment we can't see it and

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we're like okay do I make it to the next episode at least hopefully they don't try to kill

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me off but what happens so you are going to make it to the next episode you are going

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to thrive after that next episode but the thing is how do we thrive when we've been

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through it time and time again when if you're watching out of banks we don't feel like we

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ever get that gold it always feels like it's going to take in from us things keep happening

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we have a dad like Luke or the thing is sometimes you have to keep going you have to understand

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life is an adventure and you just have to kind of trail through it it doesn't mean that everything

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in life is going to be simplistic and you can go through the motions no what it does mean

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is that at least you have life you can be able to succeed in that life no matter what

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it takes seek out your friendships talk to them tell them when you are having a rough

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day and you know what is some of them place you on red or even go shoot doing those times

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when you were having the worst possible day ever and I'm trying to make this podcast

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PG so that then if like little kids want to listen to it too with the people in the car

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they can and they don't mom doesn't have to worry about but some things may not be PG

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like this first episode probably won't be anyway and as we go on like this podcast we're probably

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gonna just like learn together what works what doesn't work anyway so reaching out to

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those people being able to even like make plans I have literally forced myself to make plans

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with people now I am not introvert I love talking to people I'm an extrovert at heart

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like just let me spend time with people and I will be fine the thing is I don't know exactly

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about everybody else and so sometimes I'm like oh they have their own thing going on

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and it's just an assumption on my part that they have their own thing that I don't reach

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out to them like hey why don't we ever hang out anymore I thought you were busy so be

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able to connect with your friendships and talk with them let them know what's really

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going on in your life because while it may not be the easiest thing it does help you

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become more connected to those individuals so I already said like make plans with them

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be able to socialize even like win and let's say some of those people do have different

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things going on what I think that I'm going to have to end up doing is not rely solely

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on that person because no one can be like the sole component of your happiness no one

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at all but and so I'm not saying like rely on them but like actually find the ability

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to be with myself and not hate myself well I'm like with just myself let's say my friends

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have something going on with these different individuals do that's not necessarily the

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fault and you can like make plans and have them jacked back to that but there might be

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some empty spaces and I know we hate having an empty place on our calendar because that

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gives us more time to just be alone and then our thoughts and then our anxieties and worries

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but when you allow yourself to be in those places even call young who was lovely lovely

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psychologist okay my heart anyway he is just saying that he came up with extrovert versus

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introvert and he was saying that even those people who are extroverts or each individual

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needs that time a little bit by themselves to recharge and to be able to process their

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emotions because if you're never there I always use the thing oh I'm an extrovert I have to

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be with people 24 7 and you know what I did and people's like hey how are you doing how

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are you really doing and I'm like I'm fine I'm totally great because I never got time

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to set in my emotions and feel them and then when I did I would end up like feeling in

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this deep remorse state and like this like this pit kind of in the bottom of my stomach

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so when it gets to those moments of you know I don't know how I can do this being able

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to like reach out to that person even if it's just one friend one individual who you know

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will truly understand what it is you've gone through what it is you've even gone through

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be able to assist you out of that because some of us we can like at least hear what the person

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is saying and I'm listening is top tier of empathy but sometimes when you just listen

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to but you're not respected there's no like action on their part or sometimes it feels

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worse is if like to it lasts only for two minutes and they ask you how you're doing

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you know like I'm really not okay and then it's kind of like brushed off but just find

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someone who truly listens who truly hears you you can you can go to a therapist you can

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even go to like a friend or family member as long as they truly and I get it some people

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don't have like the best relationship with people just go to whoever is going to be that

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safe space for you talk to them let them know where you're at what you're feeling and honestly

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you may need to seek professional help but always always always you take the time for

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yourself nothing else if you're not hearing anything else on this podcast take the time

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for yourself do something that you love that you want to accomplish so that you can feel

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joy about where you've been where you've come from and where you are going well that's the

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end of this day less podcast and I hope that you have a great one talk to you soon