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Okay, so this is part two because I kind of stopped the episode before I...

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Before I was actually finished, so this is part two of like the Red or Green flag.

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So this probably might be longer or it may not be, but anyway.

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So we're starting back up from like, splitting the check.

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If someone like insists on splitting the check constantly,

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I don't, like I say, I don't necessarily consider that a Red or Green flag,

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Dena and Amber flag in the middle.

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Because like I say, it's 20-24 people.

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People have different values, different belief systems of how things should be done.

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And sometimes I know people's like, well, if they're not paying on the first date, then they're not worth it.

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I thought they wanted to be an independent person.

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Well, yes, there's a lot of different things that are just going on.

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Okay?

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So I consider that an Amber flag.

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Also, here's another thing that you might not have thought about.

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So let's say you go out to dinner, this person pays for the meal.

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And then you don't get dessert there, but then you go out somewhere else to get dessert or something.

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But it was technically the other person's idea to go get dessert.

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In my mind, because let's say it was my idea to get dessert,

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I think that I should be the one to pay for the dessert because the guy or whatever kind of dynamic,

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the guy paid for the meal.

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That's just how I kind of think about it.

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Also, like I say, sometimes people aren't used to having nice things done for them,

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especially if it's the traditional male and female.

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Sometimes it's like, I think you probably heard guys don't get complimented a lot.

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They don't receive flowers.

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You know, it's statistically proven with these things.

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The first flower was that a man will receive is at his funeral.

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Statistically proven with that.

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You can argue with me.

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You can argue with the statistics though.

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So, I mean, I guess you could.

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So with that being said, I think that it's sometimes nice to do nice things with other individuals as well.

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It's nice to sometimes have the princess treatment,

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but it's also nice to go the other way too.

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That's just me personally.

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It's like, I think that if I give you a gift,

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or like I do, one of my main love languages is quality time.

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But see, I also enjoy crafts and making things and making things special for other people.

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And that's, I don't know what love language that is, Gary Chapman, but that's literally what I enjoy doing.

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So it's like, I enjoy making people's day, making them feel special.

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With that being said, splitting the bill is not like one of those things that's like a red flag deal breaker for me.

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It might be for some people, but it's not necessary for me.

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Okay, swears a lot.

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Depends on what we mean by a lot.

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If they just kind of like use the F-bomb or like different terms like certain times in their life.

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Or they're like, well, I guess I'm, like, I guess I'm mass or no.

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Like if they're just kind of like saying certain phrases, okay?

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That's, I don't necessarily consider that a red flag.

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That's also going to probably be an amber fully.

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If they like every single sentence is like a curse word.

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Okay, I know I do.

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You have other words that you can say, like you really do.

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I mean, I don't know some people that it's like they curse a lot.

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Maybe well, they don't necessarily.

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Yeah, they just kind of a decent amount, but every single word is the same word.

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So it's like, it's just a repeat, you know, it's not necessarily like they're just throwing out other terms.

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So that way.

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Okay, this, this next one, I'm going to say it depends on the stage and the relationship.

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So it's pet names instead of a real name.

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Like if they constantly call you babe or like name that only they can give you.

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That's what a pet name is.

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Within the like first three days or like first three days.

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I'm not saying that's love bombing, but at the same time it's like maybe you feel a little bit too hard too fast.

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That would be like a red flag in my book.

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But it's like if you've been together, what's like a decent amount.

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Like, even if you've known each other like a couple of weeks, because honestly, sometimes it's not about the quantity of time that you've known somebody.

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It's about the quality of time that you spent with this person.

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If you've known this person for a while, and then they start using pet names like even like I say like a couple of weeks.

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They might be able to start calling you that.

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Like even like a month and people say that's too soon to some people.

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I feel like if you feel safe with that person, like it doesn't really matter.

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Obviously, if you don't feel safe, you just know, peace out, Girl Scout.

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Done that numerous times for protection.

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Okay, asking to have your phone password.

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I don't even know.

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For me, it's like, you don't even have to ask.

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I'll give it to you.

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Because, and people say, well, why would you be that trusting?

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I'm not that trusting right off the bat.

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I just right off the jump.

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I'm not trusting with you.

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But honestly, like if you are the one that I'm with, like it's like, I don't have anything to hide.

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Like, I'm not, if you're the one that I'm with, you're the one that I'm with solely.

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I am loyal to you.

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I personally am not interested in open relationships.

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Hey, that's up to you.

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Personally, it's like, it's, you know, and sometimes people think that it's a thing of trust.

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Sometimes it has been like, oh, this person has been burned before.

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If you bring that into the relationship and you kind of like talk about, hey, these are the ways that I had been hurt in the past.

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And you kind of like open communication, I believe, you know, communication 100%.

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If you want to have like an open relationship goes back to open communication.

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So it's like, you need to make that and like say these are my expectations going into it.

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See, I don't, and I know if you're listening to this podcast, most of these things, sometimes it is an aim of life because sometimes it depends on the situation.

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But yeah, I will definitely share my thing, my password with you.

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I will really, like I say, I'm the most loyal person you will ever meet.

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And if you have like any questions about things, like you have to be a very high value individual with me because it's like, if you're one of those people that's like, you don't trust me, like I do everything.

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And it's like, this one person, they were like, I guess I'm the worst person ever. And she's like, well, you're definitely in the top 10 right now.

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But just like, I literally have nothing to hide.

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Plus, if you have a question, just ask me.

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I will like be honest with you. There's public things in my phone that look more complicated than they actually are.

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Like it's like, you know, sometimes people like if people have somebody on Snap, I forgot to put that.

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If people have someone on Snap, is that a red flag? It's not like, it could be a red flag if they're constantly like messaging that person or whatever.

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If it's just like here and there, like, I work with dudes, I find my work, you know, like, but the thing is, like, nothing that I'm doing is going, it's shitin'.

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Like, prohibit or like, hurt our relationship. We never do anything intentionally. That's me.

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So, like, if you see somebody on Snap and you're just like, hey, what's with this person?

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I will tell you, like some of those people I do not talk to, like on the daily, we used to be friends. We are not.

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Well, we're still friends. We just out at them. Like, I don't personally snap them every day.

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So, you know what? Also, like, if you go to my contact list, there are some people probably still in there from group projects that I had when I was in college and other things.

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Like, it's like, but I promise it's nothing to really be concerned about. I mean, I sometimes have to go to my phone and I'm like, who is this person?

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Um, okay. So, yeah, I will, like I say, ask them to have use of phone passwords, not a big deal.

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Show me, okay, posting relationships on socials. If you post, posting relationships, posting the relationship on social.

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Like, red flag or green flag. I think that's definitely a green flag because then it's like, it shows how proud you are of this individual, of this person.

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And yes, say it to their face. Like, it's like, you know, you do this, this, this, and you make a green flag. Whatever, whatever, whatever.

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It may sound like a really bad rom-rom, but just, you know, I mean, I think that that's healthy.

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Um, especially if you like posting other things that you are proud of in general, like, oh, I graduated.

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I didn't think this day would come, blah, blah, blah, and you don't post your relationship on social media? That's more of a red flag to me.

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Um, okay. Showing up to work unannounced, definitely a red flag.

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Like, I mean, maybe I would need context clues with this, but why are you showing up to my work?

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Like, also, like, I guess for my work, you have to have like a badge to kind of like get into my work.

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So that just adds a whole another level of like security, because it's just like, so you definitely have to ask somebody.

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Unless it's like, oh yeah, bring me flowers or something, but I'm, like I say, probably would need more context clues with that.

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But I'm going with red flag for right now. Like I say, unless it's like you're doing something nice to the, for the other person or just like, hey, like, if you guys planned on having lunch or something, I guess that's not bad either.

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I'm giving a personal gift rather than expensive green flag for sure. If knowing that you put like a lot of thought into this, and it's not like necessarily like an amount of money that you spend on it.

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And this goes for like rings too. Like it's like, if you are going to like, pop a question, I know some people are like, oh, well, if this person doesn't spend X amount of dollars, and I'm like, dude, I know that I'm interested in those types of things,

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because I feel like that's what everybody, every girl, like young girl always like dreams about is like having a nice ring, but I'm like at the end of the day, and I'm really like, math is not my strong suit.

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So I'm like, am I just like really bad with like knowing how much like a ring in today's society cost? Or are these people just having like high expectations of like how much a ring should be?

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Because I'm like, I don't know how much you can spend on it. And for me personally, like you could, I'm team like ring pop, like it's like you could do that.

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Because in my mind, I'm saying yes to the person, not the ring necessarily. And maybe that's like very cheesy and cringy. Really. I don't care, I just like it's, I don't know, just, yeah.

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But going back, even if like you planned a personal day, like, oh, like we're gonna start off on a hiking trail and then we're gonna do this and then we're gonna do this, rather than like an expensive gift.

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That's like you spent like 10K on. I'm like, I don't, I don't really care about those, that type of stuff. I like nice things. I do. And yes, do I like sometimes living a bougie lifestyle and kind of like, again, yes.

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But do I feel like that's the most important thing in my life? No. Okay, if you spent like $5 and people said, even if you spent less than that, okay, we'll just, but it's something like you had actually like thought about.

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And you took time and effort into it. Doesn't matter. Like, really doesn't matter to me. Like, that is like heartfelt. And that's something that took you, yeah, it did take you like maybe some money.

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It took you some time, took you some effort, tricky planning. So in all of that, it's green flag. Consistently seeing a therapist. Again, green flag for me.

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Because if you are constantly working on yourself, doing the work and trying to make things better and working on yourself, then I know that you're going to put forth effort into like the relationship.

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That's, that's the way that I feel about that.

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Now, honestly, some people I think might need life coaching more than they need therapists specifically.

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So it's like, maybe they just like kind of need redirection because like, depending on the person, sometimes therapy and therapy does not work for everybody.

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I believe that everybody can benefit from it. But sometimes it depends on the therapist. Sometimes it depends on like the individual.

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It depends on like a whole myriad of different factors. But sometimes people might just like need redirection and understanding of how to incorporate great things in their life or like a relationship coach.

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Okay, so bad mouthing an ex.

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This is definitely a red flag.

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And I would say this person probably deserves multiple red flags, especially if they say things like, oh, my ex was crazy.

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And actually, nine times out of 10, there were other things going on behind the scenes.

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And sometimes it's like the ex wasn't the only one that was crazy. Because sometimes you can see red flags and the other person too.

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So sometimes it's not just, oh, my ex was crazy. And that's why I don't trust women.

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If you kind of explain different things that happen in this relationship of like talking about, I think that there is like healthy communication and talking about past relationships and how they have helped grow and change you.

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But if you are still hung up on the ex, that is a totally different story.

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Like it's like, oh, this is what I have learned from past relationships or past relationships, whatever.

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And these are the things I'm not going to stand for. These are my standards now.

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Versus, okay, don't trust anybody. I love how we did this. My ex did great with this and this and this and this.

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Or my ex used to do this. And it's like, if they start saying things like that, I would probably run.

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Just take both little legs and just peace out how they're like because if they are still talking to, like, whether they are badmouthing their ex or if something goes south with your relationship, they might hold that against you.

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And I'm not saying like, oh, things are going to go bad.

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But what I am saying, like, be careful in those situations where they are constantly like putting down another individual, putting down their ex.

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Because usually anybody that talks bad about someone is, even if you guys have like a disagreement, they're going to be like, what, you're crazy too.

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Like it's like, if everybody's always crazy, maybe, maybe you need to take a look in the mirror. Just maybe.

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And see, evaluate, do some introspection, see if it's you.

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Okay, so has a child from a previous relationship and they are still on good terms with their ex.

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I'm going to say that's like an amber flag too, because if they're trying to get back together with an ex relationship, ex-wife, ex-girlfriend, whatever, it's not a good thing.

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I think there has to be a part in this relationship, especially when you have a child together.

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You have got to decide because you have got to make your work for your child.

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Okay. You've got to find a way that it's like, okay, I can helpfully co-parent with my ex.

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If you're hanging out one-on-one, like outside of, hey, let's do a drop off, let's do this, let's do that.

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That is where I think like a little bit you're crossing into becoming a red flag.

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Because now that it's stopping, hanging out one-on-one with this individual, but it could turn into something more.

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So it's like, it's kind of borderline red flag, if that makes sense.

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But it's like if you are trying to do everything possible, you're like, we share a kid together, we need to make this work.

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I'm not saying you need to get back together with them because you have a kid together, because sometimes that's not going to be healthy.

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But we keep you all on good terms, it should be because of your kid. Not anything else.

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Okay. They are trying to figure out what they are trying to do with their lives still.

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If they're still trying to figure out what they want to do, their dreams, their aspirations.

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I would say that that's a green flag because none of us are necessarily at that point in our lives all the time.

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It's like this is where I want to go. And sometimes like out of like high school, it's like, okay, you finished school.

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Now you need to go to college and figure out what you want to do for the next years of your life, till you're like 50 plus and not the age of retirement.

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You need to decide that. And we put so much pressure on that, that it's like, we wonder why so many people are undecided or they change their major so many different times.

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Because it's very difficult to sometimes decide, okay, this is where I want to go, this is what I want to be.

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Unless you're one of those people that's just like, you know, right off the jump, you know, these are the different areas that I want to be in.

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Like, love computers, really good with them. Want to go into cybersecurity, help.

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And like, unless you know that, it's very difficult. So it's like, and then there's some things that it's like, you don't necessarily like your dreams.

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You're like, oh, I had to give up on my dreams. Sometimes your dreams just adapt to something else.

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Maybe for like a time frame or, you know, and sometimes you're like, okay, I'm really into fitness.

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I want to start a workout company. Like some people are like really good with that.

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And they're like, I want to start like much where you can have like the brand will make like exercise bands will make workout sets, all these different things, right?

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Where it's like that passion of, okay, and I'm just using these different things as examples, that passion of still being into fitness.

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But like then maybe creating protein shakes and different things. That's still at the root of who you are, like my fitness.

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And then you're just changing and adapting to other things. You know, there were sometimes life happens like that.

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And just for the best. So I don't consider that a flag at all. Bacon to superheroes.

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Like, I honestly feel a little bit of a nerd. It's not like a bad thing.

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I don't necessarily like most of the people, even in college, like sometimes you just like be hanging out and like the general public and people would be like, Hey, you want to watch like a Marvel movie?

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Like most of the times those people were pretty stand up people actually, like, I don't know.

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Like, I don't know what it is about like being into superheroes and how that like kind of correlates.

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But most of the time that I found like people who like Marvel or they like DC movies, they are like the most wholesome people you will ever meet.

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Like I say, do you not know how that happens? And even I'm not into like superheroes.

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So I am probably a red flag in this. But like, it's like, you would ask them questions and they would go back and they're like, Okay, so you would need to understand like how Superman got a strength and then this happened and this happened and then he dated this person and blah, blah, blah, blah.

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So it's like, okay, they would like sit down and explain like period about what was going on. And it was like, you know, D-set.

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So anybody who going off of that, like anybody who can technically explain something without and I know this is like a, on this is like one of those hot takes like the mansplaining

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And people's like, I don't like that term. One time I literally asked someone else like, so you said this person means, what did they say exactly? Because I'm like, I know what the term means. And then they're like, oh, they just, and then they just repeat it to me.

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They was like, they just mansplained it. I was like, oh, okay. You can't give me anything based on that.

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Like, even like, okay, so I am I people like me personally, not into sports. But hey, if I watch it with someone or

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then I'm totally fine with it. Like it's like, I enjoy more of the dressing up part. But it's like, if I'm watching sports with somebody, and you can kind of explain it to me, because I've been with people that's like, okay, so this is what's like happening.

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But they don't like, they don't explain it to you. Because I consider like mansplaining or I know it's like a very like sometimes hurtful term.

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So anybody who can explain it without necessarily talking to you or like patronizing you for what you're thinking, how this is supposed to kind of go down like it.

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So let's say you're talking about sports, like I say, and they can explain it to you in a way that isn't kind of descending.

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And they're actually gracious and patiently you so if you ask like another question, you're like, okay, so what is what does first down mean. And I'm just like I say, I know what first down means, but I'm using these as examples.

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And then they go through, take their time and explain it to you step by step. Some people, like, you know, you're like, okay, go back to X, Y and Z.

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Like, and they're fine with that. They don't get irritated. That is a green flag moment. Like, they are a whole, like, yes, just like, for me, honestly, just mirror me on the spot.

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Because that is top notch. Like, you are green way at this point. Like, it's like, yeah, definitely no green flag. You're just like a whole green forest green way. You got all the green flags in my book.

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Okay. Okay, so chaos, what other people think of them. This is going to be, I'm going to say it's a red flag. Just from the standpoint of if they are personally, like, if they are not afraid to be themselves, unapologetically themselves.

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That's a green flag. Not like confident. I mean, confident, but not arrogant. Don't feel like a need to put down other people. But it's also like, confident in who they are confident in their abilities.

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Green flag. Now, the reasons why I kind of go from switch back and forth. That's what you probably noticed in the podcast is I kind of say, okay, if they do this, and that's a green flag, if they don't, because a lot of things in life are situational.

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Just saying. So if they feel they are constantly walking around on eggshells, they are overly apologizing to people and they're like, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Did I hurt you? Did I do this to them?

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If they are constantly that individual, where it's like, I don't want to say anything that could hurt you. Are you secure in yourself? That's what I would ask. Are you securing yourself that you're like, okay, nothing's going to shake me.

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Nothing is going to actually detain me from who I am, from what I believe, my core values, what have you. I would consider that a red flag.

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If they are constantly saying, sorry, unnecessarily, you know, won't even, for like, my ladies, like, if you feel like you don't wear makeup, that someone's going to absolutely hate you, or like, it's like, you're not wearing the right thing, you're not doing this right.

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Like, then that is a red flag.

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You know, anybody who feels like they can't necessarily be themselves without being judged.

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It's a red flag, but more of like a red flag on the question of like, worth and value, like it's like, you need to find your value. You need to be a high value individual that like, doesn't necessarily like, it's like, okay, they just in text me back.

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Maybe I should reach out. But hey, if they don't reach back out, it's not the end of the world. I am still me. I'm still who I am. Nothing's going to derail me from that.

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As long as you can be that individual, go for it.

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Um, okay, can't cook. I would consider this like an amber flag.

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I'm not necessarily. Um, yeah, if also like, I know sometimes, but you're just learning this is your first time with living life, you will kind of learn how to grow, how to develop, how to like even change with different areas in your life.

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So sometimes I can cook, but I find myself like cooking the same things.

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And so, like it's like pasta, I really can't really cook. So maybe that makes me a red flag.

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I know I can, like, I can cook pasta. I just don't typically like cooking pasta because I had this one like traumatic experience where I got like second and third degree burns.

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So it's not so much pasta, it's just like boiling the water and trying to drain it that in my mind, I'm just like, I can't do this. Even though I literally can, it's just like, it takes me a while to come out of that mindset.

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So, like it's like something, sometimes I like need practice on certain things, but if you're going into something and they can't like necessarily cook, if they can cook, that's like a green flag.

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But yeah, they can't cook. Maybe teach that individual. It's not necessarily a bad thing. Like it's like, oh, you want to learn how to cook?

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We can literally have a tutorial. I'm not going to be mad at that. Like it's like, I don't consider that red or green.

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Now, if they, let's, okay, let's say they've been living on their own for a while and they can't cook. I'm not saying that that's a red flag, but for one, how have you lived this long if you can't? Anyway.

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Yeah. So, I think that's just like something that you kind of can teach them. You know, it's not necessarily. Okay, tries to be on time, but it's not often on time.

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Um, I would say that that is, that is neither the like yellow amber, I mean amber, red or green. It's kind of like more of a page because, okay, sometimes what I do, especially if I'm going somewhere, and let's say there's like an event,

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but I know who I'm going with. I don't want to be like right on time because then you're like still too early and none of the other people have showed up, but you don't want to be too late either.

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Sometimes you kind of go in the middle. I probably can't be the only one who does that. Like, like that's kind of like reading the room, knowing your audience, but um, I don't think that's, that's not what that means, but um, yeah.

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I don't, I don't necessarily. Now if you have an appointment and you had to be somewhere at a certain time, I guess that's something totally different.

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Um, I put this one down, has a good sense of humor, is a green fly, and even like if you can banter with someone, go and offer that, that is more of a green fly than anything. Like it's like, um, you're not going to like get offended.

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Like, you know the boundaries, but if you cross those boundaries, open communication, open dialogue, people, like it's like for communication, it goes both ways.

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Um, even if it's like a dark sense of humor, as long as like those people, like as long as you guys can go along with that, it's not, like I say, sometimes that's knowing your audience, knowing, reading the room, you know.

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Um, there's sometimes with certain friends, like it's like I know that they're going through a hard time, but I know that they also like fly around dark humor with them.

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It's like, I might use some dark humor because that's going to pull them out of this kind of like pit that they're in. Other friends, like it's like, you might have to try to make them laugh or something.

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You know, like, I mean, either way, it's going to, but like, it's a good thing to be a green fly.

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How does different taste in music? I think that that is like a beige flag. Um, it's neither good nor bad, nor anything.

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It can kind of give you a new perspective, like let's say like they're really into like country music, you're not.

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That can kind of give you a understanding that maybe you might like understand their style of music and you might like it right now.

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Yeah. So, they like pineapple and pizza. Green flag moment. I know not everybody's going to agree with me. People are going to have some heart take from that.

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I like pineapple and pizza. I love Hawaiian pizza. Um, so for me, it's like kind of, you know, even if you like buffalo pizza, I don't know if anybody likes, if you've ever had like buffalo wings on pizza.

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I personally enjoy that. Not like the, you take like the chicken and put like buffalo sauce. It's not like you have like the bone and wings on pizza. That would be weird.

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But, um, I mean, you could also do just wings and pizza, but yeah, pineapple and pizza, green flag moment. They smoke it with a vape. I necessarily consider this a red flag.

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I honestly, like it's like, do not, I mean, you can do that. Just don't be loving on me. I will literally not be able to breathe and it's not a good thing.

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Like it's like, like I won't be able to breathe around you. And people are like, oh no, that's not an, oh, I will literally pass out. And this is a little bit extra, but it's like, first of all, kind of like, they honestly get a headache.

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Like, depending on like the scent, flavor, whatever you want to call it, I can't necessarily do that. Also, like, oh, yeah, like smoking.

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Um, I don't like any kind of smoke, especially if you're like smoking a J or like smoking a joint. Like, oh my gosh, I can't really do that. I can't be around you.

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I'm sorry. No hate to people who do that. Really no hate. I just know it messes with me and it messes with my head and my mind and just a whole lot of other things.

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Also, I think part of me is that I was like, benefited from like seeing people like it was like vicarious punishment.

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Um, so if you're familiar with psychology, there's vicarious reinforcement, which means that you have learned through other people of what to do. And then vicarious punishment is you are living through other people of what not to do.

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And I've had some experience with vicarious punishment with not smoke, specifically vaping. Whenever someone else is vaping, it sometimes gets into my lungs too.

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But whenever someone's like smoking, um, I guess it kind of like takes me back, but it was like, I've had some like family members who have gone through some terrible, terrible things.

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And that's like not saying that that happens to everybody because of like smoking. I've had like two family members. The one I don't know if it was necessarily from smoking or like from other health issues or maybe, I don't know. Anyway.

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But because of that, I never really wanted to smoke. Also, I did have a friend who vaped and, yeah, so, well, so I'm like, I just, I can't do that.

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I will. Yeah. People who understand the five language is I consider this flag if you understand them and understand like the meaning specifically behind them, because someone knows, okay, these are all the five languages words of affirmation, quality time,

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gift giving, and then also acts of service. And what is the one I'm missing?

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Quality time, quality time words of affirmation, gift giving, acts of service.

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There's one I'm missing, but anyway, if they understand all of the love languages, they know that they're going to be able to, oh, physical touch, that's the one I missed.

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I did not miss that one on purpose. I promise you. I know that that's like a very controversial love language.

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But people do have that love language for the right reason. I promise you that they do.

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It's like, it's just some people don't necessarily.

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If someone is very like protective of the other individual, I think that there is like, and people say, well, jealousy, that's a red flag.

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Jealousy, I don't know if this is like the right term for it, but like maybe like a healthy jealousy, like understanding, okay, I don't want anybody, like, I don't want this person to be with anybody else.

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And I don't want anybody to hurt that individual. So in that way, like, it's like, if you're being like protective, and you know, sometimes people are like, well, I know how, I've heard this most of the time, like, it's like, I know how other guys think.

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Like that may be a true statement. So like, honestly, like, believe the individual. And honestly, like, get the person the benefit of it out first.

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Like, it's like, if there were other signs maybe that you need to watch out for, be aware of that. But yeah, I feel like trying to keep you safe in certain situations.

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That's a green flag. Like, if you go out and about, not saying you go clubbing, I know people have other people's opinions about that, but like, let's say you just go like out and about.

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Completely like, wholesome night. And some person tries to hit on the other individual.

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I think it's important to like, keep a safe distance. And like, if they need assistance, if they need help, be there for them.

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Also, like, it's like, sometimes people say, I don't want you talking to another person. Don't want you, like, that's a little bit controlling.

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And people say, well, honey, like, it goes back to kind of like, trust. It's like, like I say, I know me. I know I am going. I am like loyal to the person.

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I'm not going to try to do anything to hurt you, to harm you. I am one of those people, though, and I try to be very careful with this.

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But I'm one of those people that my intentions, because I do have like a pretty bubbly personality, sometimes it is like misinterpreted for other things.

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I think as long as your partner, your individual knows that, like, they're not trying to change you.

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Maybe that's what they, like actually, in some ways, that's sometimes what they fall in love with is your personality, how you interact, and how you're like kind of a friend to everyone.

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Sometimes that's what they fall in love with, so just kind of go with that.

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If they're not trying to change you, they love who you are. But at the same time, like, it's like, okay, you're trying to be like protective of that individual if things go south.

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You're the other half of the bag. That's when I consider a green flag. Like, you know.

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I'm one of those people, you got my back, I got yours. If you don't really have anything.

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Well, I'd maybe be lying on my back because I was trying to protect you. Maybe. Maybe I will have enough of the evil, but at least I was trying to protect you.

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Like, that's who I am. It's like, even like for my friends, I'm like, I am a lover, not a fighter, but it's like if I have to fight, if that's the only option, I have to headbutt somebody and I have to do things.

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I will do that. Like I said, not my first instinct, not my first way to go.

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But, yeah. So those were the two episodes, or the two parts from this kind of topic. If you want, like, any more discussion topics, you can always let me know. But I hope that you have a great rest of your day.

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And until next time, I will see you on the next podcast.