1
00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:04,420
Hello, welcome back to another episode of the Say Less podcast.

2
00:00:04,420 --> 00:00:09,940
I'm your host, Caroline Jones, and I know it's been a while.

3
00:00:09,940 --> 00:00:19,520
Sometimes I go through different seasons of being super busy and then also just hanging

4
00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:23,520
out with people, trying to get to know people.

5
00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:27,680
Life just is life sometimes.

6
00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:36,240
But with all that being said, we're going to jump into today's segment.

7
00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:42,480
It's probably going to be a long one, so strap your seatbelt in and get ready.

8
00:00:42,480 --> 00:00:57,240
But basically, red flag or green flag edition, and this is in relationships, kind of been

9
00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:04,240
going through different seasons of life.

10
00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:17,240
In the series or the episode season that I'm in, it's just...

11
00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:23,240
Sometimes you catch feelings and then you're just like, if I catch feelings, I either need

12
00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:25,240
a coffee or a lobotomy.

13
00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:27,240
I don't know which one.

14
00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:29,240
Sometimes just have days like that.

15
00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:37,240
I'm probably the only one that ever feels that way because it's like something has got

16
00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:46,240
to be mentally wrong with me because honestly, this is not me.

17
00:01:46,240 --> 00:01:50,240
Like, that's just definitely not me.

18
00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:57,240
It's just never has been, probably never will be.

19
00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:00,240
But we're just going to go...

20
00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:07,240
So honestly, I think that being said, I don't know if right off the jump you're going to

21
00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,240
feel comfortable with someone.

22
00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:15,240
You need to gradually get to know that person and then...

23
00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:28,240
But the reason why I decided to do this episode is because my mind has been just messed up

24
00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:29,240
in the head.

25
00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:39,240
And then I've been like talking to other friends and they're going through things.

26
00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:45,240
They're telling me to be careful, don't hurt yourself, blah blah blah.

27
00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:47,240
I'm already been burned.

28
00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:50,240
You can't really burn me more than I've already been burned.

29
00:02:50,240 --> 00:03:01,240
So thanks for your advice, but also sometimes it's worth the effort.

30
00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:02,240
I don't know.

31
00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,240
I have no idea.

32
00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,240
It's things over with things.

33
00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:14,240
Anyway, so the red oak, the green flag edition, that was a long intro.

34
00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:16,240
Sharing location.

35
00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:25,240
So honestly, for that one, I don't really consider that a green flag or a red flag necessarily.

36
00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:27,240
It's more like an amber flag.

37
00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:35,240
The reason why I say that is it's more like a proceed with caution.

38
00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:41,240
Now it depends on the reasoning behind the sharing the location.

39
00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:48,240
It's almost like I need to make sure that you're where you're supposed to be quote unquote.

40
00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:53,240
That is a red flag right off the bat.

41
00:03:53,240 --> 00:04:03,240
Like if they want to know where you are like obsessively like 24 seven, that's a little bit of a red flag too.

42
00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:15,240
If it's more like a safety concern of, Hey, just let me know when you get to this place or I just need to know that you got home safely.

43
00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:19,240
That's something totally totally different.

44
00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:26,240
In that case, I would give you a green flag.

45
00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:34,240
Now, also people like, Well, why would you want to know my location? That's a little bit obsessive and controlling.

46
00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:37,240
There are people that are borderline controlling.

47
00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:49,240
I will give you that, but it really depends on like the intentionality behind why they want the location shared.

48
00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:54,240
So, like I say, if it's like more so like a safety concern, it's okay.

49
00:04:54,240 --> 00:05:00,240
I would say get to the bottom of the reason behind why you don't want to share your location.

50
00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:04,240
Is it a fear? Is it a madness? Sadness?

51
00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:13,240
If it's, you know, sometimes we mask our emotions so that the emotion that you truly feeling does not feel so bad.

52
00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:20,240
You know, sometimes what I've done is I'm actually disappointed or I'm mad with someone.

53
00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:27,240
But I play it off as a joke and humor and I deflect so it doesn't actually hurt as much.

54
00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:42,240
So, be real with your emotions. Be in touch with your emotions and say, you know what, I don't honestly feel like sharing my location with you because I feel unsafe.

55
00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:59,240
Okay, you don't have to share your location with every single person and if this person has me, like if they ask for like a first date, I would say that's a little bit weird.

56
00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:04,240
Like the first three times that they know you, that's a little bit strange.

57
00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:14,240
But otherwise, like you've known each other for a while, maybe you've been knowing that for a while.

58
00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:20,240
That is okay, like honestly in my book.

59
00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:28,240
If someone like texts good morning, I don't know, like it's like, it's something like positive.

60
00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:37,240
But it also has to be, I honestly like people that can like carry on like a conversation.

61
00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:43,240
You don't necessarily have to text good morning and good night.

62
00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:48,240
If you do those things, that is a bonus. That is a green flag.

63
00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:52,240
Texting good morning, I think is a good green flag.

64
00:06:52,240 --> 00:07:03,240
Also, if you like ask questions, you know, oh, what are you looking forward to most today?

65
00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:11,240
Like then they actually have to respond versus like text good morning, you're just like good morning, good morning, blah blah blah blah blah.

66
00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:14,240
So that's a green flag.

67
00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:23,240
Showing emotions is a green flag.

68
00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:28,240
If they can show them helpfully, okay?

69
00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:36,240
If they tell you, hey, I'm upset because of X, Y, and Z, or I'm upset because this happened at my job.

70
00:07:36,240 --> 00:07:49,240
And I don't think I'm going to be, this kind of goes back to being like in touch with your emotions, but not letting your emotions overrule you.

71
00:07:49,240 --> 00:07:57,240
If your emotions overrule, then you could go into granting them to becoming a green flag, I mean a red flag.

72
00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:15,240
Because sometimes if I'm afraid my, like something in me is going to be broken because, and I'm going to end up at the urgent care, that is a red flag.

73
00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:25,240
Like, I don't care who you are, that's just, that's not showing emotions helpfully, well, beneficially.

74
00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:30,240
Same as slamming doors.

75
00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:40,240
Still, like, does that evoke like understanding and expression?

76
00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,240
100%.

77
00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:50,240
But is it actually dealing with those emotions in a healthy way, in a healthy coping mechanism?

78
00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:53,240
No.

79
00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:59,240
Okay, so here's another thing that I found is like they call people out no matter who it is.

80
00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:08,240
If someone's able to call them out, now I would say that this is a green flag.

81
00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:17,240
I don't think that you should be afraid of hurting people's opinions, or hurting people.

82
00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:28,240
Now, people say, so you don't care about people, that's totally, totally different.

83
00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:41,240
But it's like if you literally talk to them, talk it out, tell them what's going on.

84
00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:49,240
If they're willing to listen, great, if they're not willing to listen, also great, at least you got it off your chest.

85
00:09:49,240 --> 00:10:00,240
I'm one of those people, don't, like, people are so used to like, save face, because they don't want to hurt people.

86
00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:05,240
Sometimes they're like, I don't want to hurt you, I love you too much.

87
00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:16,240
If you love someone, you would literally tell them what's going on, because I hate bushes, I hate being around the bush.

88
00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:25,240
Just, like, don't try to knock off some of the leaves and try to, you know, and scoot around the issue.

89
00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:30,240
If you got something to say, say it to that person.

90
00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:37,240
They may yell at you, they may call you out, they may call you a bunch of names.

91
00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:52,240
But I think honestly that that is a healthy way of going about it.

92
00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:56,240
Okay, so also friends are important to them.

93
00:10:56,240 --> 00:11:07,240
If they have, like, you know that one quote, it's like, show me your friends and I'll show you your future.

94
00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:11,240
So friends are important.

95
00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:20,240
I would say, like, I know people sometimes say only trust or date people that have, like, two friends.

96
00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:27,240
I would say, like, find someone who can get along with a lot of different people.

97
00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:40,240
And even people that have, like, different opinions than them, if they can kind of connect with them and have discussions one way or another,

98
00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:46,240
they are going to be one loyal.

99
00:11:46,240 --> 00:12:03,240
Like, and also if they have lots of friends, like, you know, okay, they are popular, they are popular for a reason.

100
00:12:03,240 --> 00:12:14,240
And, like, if it's popular for the wrong reasons, obviously, you'll probably see those red flags up front.

101
00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:27,240
But what I think is never trust someone who always hypes someone else up,

102
00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:33,240
or someone who's constantly bashing on another person.

103
00:12:33,240 --> 00:12:41,240
Those are the, like, if they literally say, oh, well, they have these things wrong about them.

104
00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:46,240
You know, this and this and this and this, also, like, they're good friends.

105
00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:53,240
If everybody is hyping up someone, be curious as to why.

106
00:12:53,240 --> 00:13:03,240
Like, if, you know, they have a huge friend group, that's probably a good sign, 9 times 9 to 10.

107
00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:14,240
But also if they have, like, a few close friends, then you also know that it's like they care about the people that matter most.

108
00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:18,240
They're not, like, necessarily worried about, like, the numbers.

109
00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:30,240
But, like, here's the thing, like, if people can get along with everybody, 9 times out of 10, it's a great flag.

110
00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:41,240
So, I'm going to just, like, soak back a little bit to, like, what I've said about someone who's constantly hyping up someone else.

111
00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:49,240
And I know sometimes people will say, oh, well, who's the common denominator here?

112
00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:53,240
Sometimes that is true, but not all the time.

113
00:13:53,240 --> 00:14:07,240
There were a couple people that would always hype up this one individual and just, you know, saying he was the best person ever.

114
00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:17,240
And they would even, sometimes they would even show me their social media account, like, that was going to prove that they were the stand-up person.

115
00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:33,240
I knew this person, like, from class, and maybe they just had, like, a different persona that they portrayed while they were in class.

116
00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:42,240
But there were nothing like this person described, like, they were saying, oh, they were, like, so kind, and they would go out of their way to help you, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

117
00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:48,240
In class, this person was the exact opposite.

118
00:14:48,240 --> 00:15:01,240
And I kind of was really confused at first of how, like, two different versions of the same person could exist simultaneously.

119
00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:16,240
Like I said, maybe this person was just, like, two different people. And, like, one was in class, one was who he was to his friends.

120
00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:19,240
Don't know.

121
00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:27,240
But this guy was, like, a jerk. He was awesome, like, all sorts of different things, like.

122
00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:34,240
And I honestly don't know what he did on the side, but I'm, like, you know, um...

123
00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:40,240
And then there was also this person that was, like, hyped up.

124
00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:48,240
And they were, like, she was organized, she did this, this, this, this, this. Never really seen those aspects of this person.

125
00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:53,240
They're, like, oh, they're also good with art. That may have been true.

126
00:15:53,240 --> 00:16:01,240
But the other parts of them, the other characteristics, they weren't cultural, they weren't, like, organized.

127
00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:07,240
Like, and so I'm, like, is there something wrong with me that I'm not seeing it?

128
00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:17,240
So that's why I'm, like, also people, like, constantly talk horrible about this other person.

129
00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:23,240
And what I've done is I've tried to get rid of that person.

130
00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:30,240
Either way, like, if people are overly hyping up the person, you find out, that's not their true colors.

131
00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:46,240
If someone's constantly talking bad about the person, maybe it's because they are either jealous of that person or whatever.

132
00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:56,240
Because there is a difference between just, like, talking bad about somebody and actually just, like, spitting, like, the facts about who they are as an individual.

133
00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:58,240
There is a difference.

134
00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:00,240
Um...

135
00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:06,240
Okay, so also very competitive.

136
00:17:06,240 --> 00:17:11,240
If I... I don't really consider that as, like...

137
00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:19,240
That's kind of more of, like, a beige flag. I don't even consider that, like, red flag, green flag, or amber.

138
00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:25,240
It's more of, like, a beige flag with...

139
00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,240
It could... like...

140
00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:33,240
I mean, I think that it's very, like...

141
00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:38,240
I don't... uh...

142
00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:41,240
I don't want to say, like, attractive, but it's, like, not...

143
00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:47,240
As long as you're not, like, arrogant about it. Like, it's, like, I don't think that there's anything, like, necessarily wrong with that.

144
00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:49,240
Um...

145
00:17:49,240 --> 00:17:55,240
When someone says that I'm not romantic, so I'm just kind of...

146
00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:57,240
Um...

147
00:17:57,240 --> 00:18:04,240
I would actually consider that more so of a red flag.

148
00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:05,240
Okay?

149
00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:18,240
I'm not saying... because with all that being said, if someone said not romantic, like, people make time for the things that they want to make time for,

150
00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:23,240
and if they care about something, they'll kind of, like, remember the small details.

151
00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:25,240
So it is not...

152
00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:29,240
You're gonna sh... um...

153
00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:32,240
Show, like, romantic... romanticism?

154
00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:34,240
That sounds weird.

155
00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:38,240
Show, like, your romantic side in different areas.

156
00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:42,240
Like, I believe that. Like, it's like, if you...

157
00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:50,240
You know that someone likes a certain kind of flowers or likes a certain kind of coffee, or does this or does that,

158
00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:54,240
you might help them encourage them towards their goals.

159
00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:58,240
So, in that way, you're still, like, romantic.

160
00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:09,240
Um, it's sometimes, like, an excuse to not necessarily go out of your way to, like, be better and be a person of, like, high moral standing.

161
00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:16,240
And it goes both ways for, like, both sides of the relationship.

162
00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:20,240
Like, I'm a very reciprocal person.

163
00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:24,240
So it's like, you know what?

164
00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:31,240
It's the best for me. I... not, like, not that old saying, like, I scratch your back, you scratch mine.

165
00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:33,240
That's an ulterior motive.

166
00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:40,240
What I'm saying is, like, we both do things for each other.

167
00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:44,240
Like, one way or another.

168
00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:50,240
Um, because I've heard even people say, oh, he's not much of a romantic.

169
00:19:50,240 --> 00:20:05,240
That individual has done, like, he might not be romantic in the way that you think that this person should be,

170
00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:12,240
but they're still, like, doing things that help you and to improve, like, the relationship.

171
00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:17,240
So in that way, yes, they all be romantic.

172
00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:20,240
Maybe just not in the way that you expect it.

173
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:27,240
So sometimes it's, like, your...

174
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:35,240
And that way, you might need to not lower your standards, but adjust your standards a little bit,

175
00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:41,240
because maybe you can't actually see all the things that this individual is trying to do

176
00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:46,240
and trying to love you in the best way possible.

177
00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:51,240
Because I know that sometimes people have just been, like, burned so badly

178
00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:54,240
that they, like, literally used...

179
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:59,240
If you have been burned and they don't do any of these things.

180
00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:03,240
That is a different story for a different time.

181
00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:11,240
But if they are actually making moves to try and be the best version of themselves,

182
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:15,240
then give them the benefit of the doubt.

183
00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,240
Did you do...

184
00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:21,240
Okay, next one, being clean and tidy.

185
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,240
Green flag?

186
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:27,240
I will definitely say I am a clean person.

187
00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:32,240
There's a difference between clean and tidy, though.

188
00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:41,240
Clean is just, like, you know, having things kind of picked up

189
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:48,240
and even, like, swept tidy is, like, getting every nook and cranny like your mom.

190
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:53,240
See, I keep things in my house, in my apartment, clean.

191
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,240
I'm just not mom clean, okay?

192
00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:58,240
I will definitely say that.

193
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:04,240
Like, I don't do the dustboards, like, dustboards, baseboards, every single time.

194
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,240
Like, just don't...

195
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:18,240
Like, I don't mom clean and, yes, when family comes to visit, that's a different story.

196
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:24,240
But, so I would say, like, being clean, definitely green flag,

197
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:30,240
but if they're not necessarily tidy, don't necessarily hold out against them.

198
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:37,240
If they are slob, that's where it's, like, red flag, like, they have, like,

199
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:45,240
a mile high of, like, dishes in the sink, and there's, like, mold growing everywhere.

200
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,240
That's red flag.

201
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,240
Um, okay.

202
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:59,240
Interested in all world news and wants to just, like, kind of debate the topics?

203
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:02,240
I honestly...

204
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,240
I don't mind that.

205
00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:06,240
I would say that's a green flag.

206
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:14,240
If, like, if it can be, like, a situation where you're discussing the topics

207
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:19,240
and not, like, just coming at each other for different opposing views.

208
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,240
That over there, red flag.

209
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:27,240
Green flag is when you sit down, you discuss the topics, lay everything out on the table.

210
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,240
This is what I think, this is what you think.

211
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:34,240
Okay, we can probably bring something in the middle.

212
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:41,240
Like, some things with that you don't necessarily need to be on the same page with,

213
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:45,240
or the same paragraph.

214
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:48,240
Hey, you can even be reading a different book with that.

215
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:49,240
I don't care.

216
00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:55,240
But it's like you don't necessarily need to be on the same wavelength with that.

217
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,240
Um, okay.

218
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:07,240
So if they have, like, very healthy habits, like going to the gym, eating healthy, working out, green flag.

219
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,240
Uh, would definitely encourage that.

220
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:14,240
Even if they're, like, encouraging you to, like, be healthy.

221
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:24,240
Some people consider that as a red flag because they're like, well, why would they want to...

222
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:27,240
They don't love you for who you are.

223
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:29,240
No.

224
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,240
Okay.

225
00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:34,240
Sometimes you can kind of tell, like, based on their phrases.

226
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:39,240
And some people, honestly, they don't mean it certain ways.

227
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:44,240
Like, sometimes I've known people that's just like, oh, that definitely made me sound like a tool.

228
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:46,240
Do you mind me rephrase that?

229
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,240
Because that's not what I meant.

230
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:53,240
You know, if people are self-aware, emotionally aware, emotionally intelligent, green flag,

231
00:24:53,240 --> 00:25:03,240
so if they have, like, healthy habits and encourage you to, like, work out and not be like, oh, you know, you're like,

232
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:07,240
lose, like, 50 pounds, like, that's a red flag.

233
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,240
It's just like, okay.

234
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:19,240
So, like, there's a right way and then there's a very dark way to kind of discuss things.

235
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:24,240
Um, splitting the check.

236
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:29,240
If someone insists on splitting the check, I don't...

237
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:34,240
I don't necessarily consider that as a green flag or a red flag.

238
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:47,240
That's more of like an amber, someone like in the middle, um, to me, because sometimes people don't necessarily feel comfortable

239
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:49,240
like paying for the whole thing.

240
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:54,240
Or sometimes it's just like, it's...

241
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:59,240
They don't know exactly how the other person feels about certain things.

242
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:06,240
So, sometimes I know people say, well, if it's on the first date.

243
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:11,240
If it's on the first date, like, it's like...

244
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:17,240
Maybe they're still trying to understand where the other person's coming from.

245
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:20,240
And it's like, dude, it's like 2024.

246
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:28,240
There are a lot of different ways that people try to consider things.

247
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:44,240
So, no, it just...